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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you must do whats right for you or theres no point in being here..stick to your guns

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there fun for everyone on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"you must do whats right for you or theres no point in being here..stick to your guns "

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should choose to be selectively choosy rather than picky! Go for it though, selective is best x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I should choose to be selectively choosy rather than picky! Go for it though, selective is best x"

It's a constant struggle though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated. "

Is there such a site that exists for people with high expectations?

And is this site for people with low expectations in your experience of it?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

No matter what pedestal we put ourselves on, or what adjective we use to elevate our "pickyness", bottom line is we're on a site trawling for sex with strangers.

How "picky" are we really?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No matter what pedestal we put ourselves on, or what adjective we use to elevate our "pickyness", bottom line is we're on a site trawling for sex with strangers.

How "picky" are we really?!!"

Speak for yourself

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Your fussy levels are relative to your expectations.

There's absolutely nothing wrong in being extremely particular, there are many others on here with the exact same ideals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated. "

Be patient. You might be surprised and find your not the only one with that _iew. .

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"No matter what pedestal we put ourselves on, or what adjective we use to elevate our "pickyness", bottom line is we're on a site trawling for sex with strangers.

How "picky" are we really?!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your fussy levels are relative to your expectations.

There's absolutely nothing wrong in being extremely particular, there are many others on here with the exact same ideals. "

I'm only still here for something very specific. Done everything else I want to. What amuses me is the abuse I get when I turn straight single men down. My profile is very specific. Why the fuck would I want a straight single male that I am not remotely attracted to? Simple - I wouldn't.

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated. "

Join the club . I am exactly the same . I know what I want and I won't lower my expectations. I often think if this site is for me.You are not the only one trust me . Just be who you are and true to yourself and take what you need and what you want . Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your fussy levels are relative to your expectations.

There's absolutely nothing wrong in being extremely particular, there are many others on here with the exact same ideals.

I'm only still here for something very specific. Done everything else I want to. What amuses me is the abuse I get when I turn straight single men down. My profile is very specific. Why the fuck would I want a straight single male that I am not remotely attracted to? Simple - I wouldn't."

Palm of hand to my face. *damn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fussy. They must have a vagina, pulse preferred but not compulsory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know but after ready your profile the only thing I want to do is showing my dick !

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Yes you are ... Go join fussyswingers.com

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Your fussy levels are relative to your expectations.

There's absolutely nothing wrong in being extremely particular, there are many others on here with the exact same ideals.

I'm only still here for something very specific. Done everything else I want to. What amuses me is the abuse I get when I turn straight single men down. My profile is very specific. Why the fuck would I want a straight single male that I am not remotely attracted to? Simple - I wouldn't."

i like you strawberry some in here are going to read your words and no get it but i just want to add my support to your stance because i fully get it .

don't change for anything don't settle for anything but that which works for you because that way you will find great sex but also lasting memories xxx

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

'You've been here for two weeks. Just be patient. The peopl here are human beings. This is NOT a fuck and go site'. No one is going to drop everyt......

oooooops... sos.....thought you were a single bloke for a moment.... cough..

Awwwww love. You are right to be choosey. Don't you go having sex with anyone less than a 10! you go girl! xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" 'You've been here for two weeks. Just be patient. The peopl here are human beings. This is NOT a fuck and go site'. No one is going to drop everyt......

oooooops... sos.....thought you were a single bloke for a moment.... cough..

Awwwww love. You are right to be choosey. Don't you go having sex with anyone less than a 10! you go girl! xxxx"

Lol I love you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Loving some of the comments folks.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is there such a site that exists for people with high expectations?

And is this site for people with low expectations in your experience of it?"

I wouldnt say low expectations I would say differing expectations. We are all different on what we will and won't accept.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such a site that exists for people with high expectations?

And is this site for people with low expectations in your experience of it?

I wouldnt say low expectations I would say differing expectations. We are all different on what we will and won't accept. "

Come on spit it out

Some people will fuck anything

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't know but after ready your profile the only thing I want to do is showing my dick ! "

Each to their own.

And If that's what you want to do then fill your boots.

I on the other hand would much rather chat to your shoes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is there such a site that exists for people with high expectations?

And is this site for people with low expectations in your experience of it?

I wouldnt say low expectations I would say differing expectations. We are all different on what we will and won't accept.

Come on spit it out

Some people will fuck anything "

Some will some won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" 'You've been here for two weeks. Just be patient. The peopl here are human beings. This is NOT a fuck and go site'. No one is going to drop everyt......

oooooops... sos.....thought you were a single bloke for a moment.... cough..

Awwwww love. You are right to be choosey. Don't you go having sex with anyone less than a 10! you go girl! xxxx"

Lol. Haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such a site that exists for people with high expectations?

And is this site for people with low expectations in your experience of it?

I wouldnt say low expectations I would say differing expectations. We are all different on what we will and won't accept.

Come on spit it out

Some people will fuck anything

Some will some won't. "

Ha Ha well played

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fussy is just another word for standards

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" 'You've been here for two weeks. Just be patient. The peopl here are human beings. This is NOT a fuck and go site'. No one is going to drop everyt......

oooooops... sos.....thought you were a single bloke for a moment.... cough..

Awwwww love. You are right to be choosey. Don't you go having sex with anyone less than a 10! you go girl! xxxx"

I'll be waiting a long long time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fussy is just another word for standards "

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


" 'You've been here for two weeks. Just be patient. The peopl here are human beings. This is NOT a fuck and go site'. No one is going to drop everyt......

oooooops... sos.....thought you were a single bloke for a moment.... cough..

Awwwww love. You are right to be choosey. Don't you go having sex with anyone less than a 10! you go girl! xxxx

I'll be waiting a long long time "

Awwwwww all the men here are a 10 on the inside ( pssssssssst I can lie for England if I have to )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your fussy levels are relative to your expectations.

There's absolutely nothing wrong in being extremely particular, there are many others on here with the exact same ideals.

I'm only still here for something very specific. Done everything else I want to. What amuses me is the abuse I get when I turn straight single men down. My profile is very specific. Why the fuck would I want a straight single male that I am not remotely attracted to? Simple - I wouldn't.

i like you strawberry some in here are going to read your words and no get it but i just want to add my support to your stance because i fully get it .

don't change for anything don't settle for anything but that which works for you because that way you will find great sex but also lasting memories xxx "

Thanks John. So true.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Most people are selective, you're not any different.

Have fun finding the right people.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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What you perceive to be high standards, others might not and vice versa.

It might take time if those who match your standards don't think you match theirs?

As for being the wrong site or not, only you really know the answer to that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most people are selective, you're not any different.

Have fun finding the right people."

Yes I know that.

and it's a struggle finding the right person or persons prior to any fun starting.

I'll persevere.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Fuck who you like

Don't fuck those you don't

Others will do the same.

If you don't like any, yeah probably wrong site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What you perceive to be high standards, others might not and vice versa.

It might take time if those who match your standards don't think you match theirs?

As for being the wrong site or not, only you really know the answer to that."

Wise words

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fuck who you like

Don't fuck those you don't

Others will do the same.

If you don't like any, yeah probably wrong site."

Haha even wiser words

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Most people are selective, you're not any different.

Have fun finding the right people.

Yes I know that.

and it's a struggle finding the right person or persons prior to any fun starting.

I'll persevere. "

Get your message filters set up right. Use the forum too for tips and finding people. It will take some time getting used to spotting fakes and dreamers. But there are thousands if genuine great people on here too.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated. "

If you've got breasts not Moobs you can be as fussy as you like

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

No it is your prerogative and right. Don't lower your standards for anybody.

Yes it can be frustrating and difficult to get meets with the right people but when you do oh wow.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most people are selective, you're not any different.

Have fun finding the right people.

Yes I know that.

and it's a struggle finding the right person or persons prior to any fun starting.

I'll persevere.

Get your message filters set up right. Use the forum too for tips and finding people. It will take some time getting used to spotting fakes and dreamers. But there are thousands if genuine great people on here too. "

I have active filters but still frustrating when I get someone who can't accommodate and is 5'5" with 20 pics of his dick on show (all at the same angle I hasten to add).

Can't admin add new filters pleasssse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not knowing what you're looking for won't help with you finding it. Maybe you're not too picky you just need to work out what you want from here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know but after ready your profile the only thing I want to do is showing my dick !

Each to their own.

And If that's what you want to do then fill your boots.

I on the other hand would much rather chat to your shoes "

Sorry my shoes are fussy as fuck and won't chat to lips

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't know but after ready your profile the only thing I want to do is showing my dick !

Each to their own.

And If that's what you want to do then fill your boots.

I on the other hand would much rather chat to your shoes

Sorry my shoes are fussy as fuck and won't chat to lips "

Eye eye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know but after ready your profile the only thing I want to do is showing my dick !

Each to their own.

And If that's what you want to do then fill your boots.

I on the other hand would much rather chat to your shoes

Sorry my shoes are fussy as fuck and won't chat to lips

Eye eye "

Haha you got me there !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good analogy for this site is how TV has developed. 30 years ago when we only had 4 channels we could always find something to watch and we were happy. Now with Sky we have 100s, but we just can't find anything we want to watch. Similarly kids today with stacks of toys are more bored than we ever were. Here you have more men to choose from than you can shake a stick at.

The more choice we have the more dissatisfied we are with what's on offer. More choice means those imperfections are less tolerable. If you find a man you like you may find you're asking yourself if there's someone better you missed in the search. No one should suggest you lower your standards, only you can judge however if you standards are set artificially or unrealistically high.

It wouldn't suprise me of some women here are like the donkey that starved to death because it couldn't decide which of three carrots to eat first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm choosy and state so on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What you perceive to be high standards, others might not and vice versa.

It might take time if those who match your standards don't think you match theirs?

As for being the wrong site or not, only you really know the answer to that.

Wise words "

Perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't agree with the whole "this is a sex site so therefore we're not fussy".

Everyone has an ideal meet, having high expectations just means it may take you a little longer to find them. It may be the right or wrong site for you, but at least you're trying it!

I hope you find what you're searching for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't see nothing wrong with being picky. I would say good for ya expectations though cld be tricky but long as their realistic & achievable its shld go silky smooth when planning a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated. "

It's your body. Treat it nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, what are your criteria? Are they all realistic? If you drop the tickbox approach you just might be surprised!

In life, I have found that sometimes what you think you want isn't what you really need...

Regard a meet as a test drive. I thought I wanted a nippy sports car, but found I am most suited to a comfy estate...

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

Don't drop your standards! I've argued with myself a lot over that and then you get ppl say try it....I do I'm disappointed so therefore up my standards again.

Be True to you

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By *orseydaveMan
over a year ago

Norwich NR5

"Fussy" means getting what suits YOU... You wouldn't buy a dress that you thought didn't suit you, so why fuck someone who doesn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're already verified, so I'd say you'll do ok

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated. "

There's no such thing as too fussy, nobody should have sex with a person they don't want to.

What makes you think this is the wrong site for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated. "

Reading your profile comes across,that you don't know what your expectations are!

Starting by defining what you looking for , people would know if they are a possible candidate.

You pick who you want within your criteria! Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard to say if this is the wrong site for the op .

She doesn't really say what's up , other than that she doesn't like cock pics .

What exactly is the criteria that fab members don't reach ?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

We all have our own specifications, however if you don't lay them out in your profile then you can't really complain about who contacts you etc, if you don't know what you are here for then how will anybody else?

Also public pics help, as I would say to any man...this is not blind date!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Not at all op,im really picky so we don't play that often.There has to be an attraction for us both to another couple,before we would leet them.

Miss

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated. "

No.. you can never be too fussy. Nobody should ever have to alter their boundaries to suit others.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you are being fussy and I had a hoot at your profile as you speak the same language as me! I am sooo sick of people not reading my profile first and messaging me when they are married. or the sending a dick pic which is so irritating. Especially the "I will hold it next to a ruler" ffs I don't need proof of the size of your dick I don't care how big it is anyway too big is not always good! Plus like you I leave myself logged in as I live alone, it doesn't mean I am online. If I am watching tv or upstairs having a bath I get pissed off at sulky indignant "oh I see you're online" type messages!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you, each and everyone of you for your comments.

I thought I had set out what I was looking for (or what I wasn't looking for as the case may be) on my profile.

It seems not.

I didn't want to go down the route of bullet points but I may have to.

V X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And I've made suggestions to admin about updating search and filter categories and I got a reply!

Fingers crossed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had people message me who have got a million stipulations.

I see their face and it's _____

...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've had people message me who have got a million stipulations.

I see their face and it's _____

... "

Haha love it

But then again that's your standards kicking in.

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By *rs and Mr BondCouple
over a year ago

Sussex

I'm EXTREMELY fussy which is why we have very few meets. He's less fussy which is quite annoying sometimes. I will always stick to my standards as I wouldn't wish to do anything just for the sake of it.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expectations kind of depend on availability, you may or may not find what you are looking for.

Only thing we know for sure is if you don't open the box you will not know what's inside.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated. "

And your expectarw OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you, each and everyone of you for your comments.

I thought I had set out what I was looking for (or what I wasn't looking for as the case may be) on my profile.

It seems not.

I didn't want to go down the route of bullet points but I may have to.

V X

"

But the first line says you don't know what you're looking for. How can you be picky yet not know what you want? Doesn't make sense.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you, each and everyone of you for your comments.

I thought I had set out what I was looking for (or what I wasn't looking for as the case may be) on my profile.

It seems not.

I didn't want to go down the route of bullet points but I may have to.

V X

But the first line says you don't know what you're looking for. How can you be picky yet not know what you want? Doesn't make sense. "

And if you read on it also tells you what I'm not looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you, each and everyone of you for your comments.

I thought I had set out what I was looking for (or what I wasn't looking for as the case may be) on my profile.

It seems not.

I didn't want to go down the route of bullet points but I may have to.

V X

But the first line says you don't know what you're looking for. How can you be picky yet not know what you want? Doesn't make sense.

And if you read on it also tells you what I'm not looking for. "

That doesn't make what you are looking for any clearer though. I have very specific wants on here and I don't feel the need to specify on my profile yet i still manage to find the rare guy that ticks my boxes. That's why I'm wondering if you don't know what you want how do you know when you find it? I don't think it's a case of you being too picky.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you, each and everyone of you for your comments.

I thought I had set out what I was looking for (or what I wasn't looking for as the case may be) on my profile.

It seems not.

I didn't want to go down the route of bullet points but I may have to.

V X

But the first line says you don't know what you're looking for. How can you be picky yet not know what you want? Doesn't make sense.

And if you read on it also tells you what I'm not looking for.

That doesn't make what you are looking for any clearer though. I have very specific wants on here and I don't feel the need to specify on my profile yet i still manage to find the rare guy that ticks my boxes. That's why I'm wondering if you don't know what you want how do you know when you find it? I don't think it's a case of you being too picky. "

I disagree. I know exactly what I don't want which will hopefully lead me to what I do want.

And I'm glad you've found the rare guy that ticks all your boxes.

I'm happy to wait until I can say the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you, each and everyone of you for your comments.

I thought I had set out what I was looking for (or what I wasn't looking for as the case may be) on my profile.

It seems not.

I didn't want to go down the route of bullet points but I may have to.

V X

But the first line says you don't know what you're looking for. How can you be picky yet not know what you want? Doesn't make sense.

And if you read on it also tells you what I'm not looking for.

That doesn't make what you are looking for any clearer though. I have very specific wants on here and I don't feel the need to specify on my profile yet i still manage to find the rare guy that ticks my boxes. That's why I'm wondering if you don't know what you want how do you know when you find it? I don't think it's a case of you being too picky.

I disagree. I know exactly what I don't want which will hopefully lead me to what I do want.

And I'm glad you've found the rare guy that ticks all your boxes.

I'm happy to wait until I can say the same. "

that's cool. Your OP was asking for advice but if you're happy the way things are then you don't need it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you, each and everyone of you for your comments.

I thought I had set out what I was looking for (or what I wasn't looking for as the case may be) on my profile.

It seems not.

I didn't want to go down the route of bullet points but I may have to.

V X

But the first line says you don't know what you're looking for. How can you be picky yet not know what you want? Doesn't make sense.

And if you read on it also tells you what I'm not looking for.

That doesn't make what you are looking for any clearer though. I have very specific wants on here and I don't feel the need to specify on my profile yet i still manage to find the rare guy that ticks my boxes. That's why I'm wondering if you don't know what you want how do you know when you find it? I don't think it's a case of you being too picky.

I disagree. I know exactly what I don't want which will hopefully lead me to what I do want.

And I'm glad you've found the rare guy that ticks all your boxes.

I'm happy to wait until I can say the same.

that's cool. Your OP was asking for advice but if you're happy the way things are then you don't need it. "

Taking it all onboard. Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP.. I don't know what I'm looking for till I find it either. You could try looking at local profiles and mailing the ones you like, rather than waiting for men to mail you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated. "

Are these high expectations realistic, let's be honest if your are expecting the unattainable then you ware basically wasting your time on here .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP.. I don't know what I'm looking for till I find it either. You could try looking at local profiles and mailing the ones you like, rather than waiting for men to mail you. "

Yeah I do tend to go looking but the search criteria doesn't let me filter by height etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated.

Are these high expectations realistic, let's be honest if your are expecting the unattainable then you ware basically wasting your time on here . "

I don't think looking for someone who isn't married or who is over 6" and who doesn't have visible cock pics unrealistic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated.

Are these high expectations realistic, let's be honest if your are expecting the unattainable then you ware basically wasting your time on here .

I don't think looking for someone who isn't married or who is over 6" and who doesn't have visible cock pics unrealistic. "

You haven't been on fab long have you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated.

Are these high expectations realistic, let's be honest if your are expecting the unattainable then you ware basically wasting your time on here .

I don't think looking for someone who isn't married or who is over 6" and who doesn't have visible cock pics unrealistic. "

Then why are you struggling?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated.

Are these high expectations realistic, let's be honest if your are expecting the unattainable then you ware basically wasting your time on here .

I don't think looking for someone who isn't married or who is over 6" and who doesn't have visible cock pics unrealistic.

You haven't been on fab long have you? "

Eeeeek!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated.

Are these high expectations realistic, let's be honest if your are expecting the unattainable then you ware basically wasting your time on here .

I don't think looking for someone who isn't married or who is over 6" and who doesn't have visible cock pics unrealistic. "

Also your profile is very negative and angry

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated.

Are these high expectations realistic, let's be honest if your are expecting the unattainable then you ware basically wasting your time on here .

I don't think looking for someone who isn't married or who is over 6" and who doesn't have visible cock pics unrealistic.

Also your profile is very negative and angry "

Maybe I need to look at that. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated.

Are these high expectations realistic, let's be honest if your are expecting the unattainable then you ware basically wasting your time on here .

I don't think looking for someone who isn't married or who is over 6" and who doesn't have visible cock pics unrealistic.

Also your profile is very negative and angry

Maybe I need to look at that. Thanks "

I would, it doesn't stop the unwanted from messaging you but it probably stops the very people you are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can never ever be too fussy on fab...Trust me

There are many desperados on fab who would shag Henry....Oops..I meant Hettie Hoover!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You can never ever be too fussy on fab...Trust me

There are many desperados on fab who would shag Henry....Oops..I meant Hettie Hoover!"

Lol @ hettie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated. "

Continue to be fussy..That's why majority of my Verifications are social meets only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated.

Continue to be fussy..That's why majority of my Verifications are social meets only"

Is that a good or a bad thing to admit to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated.

Are these high expectations realistic, let's be honest if your are expecting the unattainable then you ware basically wasting your time on here .

I don't think looking for someone who isn't married or who is over 6" and who doesn't have visible cock pics unrealistic.

Also your profile is very negative and angry

Maybe I need to look at that. Thanks "

I think your profile is perfectly fine. If its a good reflection of you then keep it as it is.

People will tell you to change it not necessarily because there is anything wrong with it?

But just because they dont particularly agree with it?

But they are them and they arnt you !

I like your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are these high expectations realistic, let's be honest if your are expecting the unattainable then you ware basically wasting your time on here .

I don't think looking for someone who isn't married or who is over 6" and who doesn't have visible cock pics unrealistic.

Also your profile is very negative and angry

Maybe I need to look at that. Thanks

I think your profile is perfectly fine. If its a good reflection of you then keep it as it is.

People will tell you to change it not necessarily because there is anything wrong with it?

But just because they dont particularly agree with it?

But they are them and they arnt you !

I like your profile.

"

Thank you. I'm a pretty up front kinda gal and tend to say it how I see it.

Good or bad and I guess some like it some don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are these high expectations realistic, let's be honest if your are expecting the unattainable then you ware basically wasting your time on here .

I don't think looking for someone who isn't married or who is over 6" and who doesn't have visible cock pics unrealistic.

Also your profile is very negative and angry

Maybe I need to look at that. Thanks

I think your profile is perfectly fine. If its a good reflection of you then keep it as it is.

People will tell you to change it not necessarily because there is anything wrong with it?

But just because they dont particularly agree with it?

But they are them and they arnt you !

I like your profile.

Thank you. I'm a pretty up front kinda gal and tend to say it how I see it.

Good or bad and I guess some like it some don't. "

Yes if its a true reflection of you then dont change it.

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I being too fussy?

I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me?

Any advise greatly appreciated.

Continue to be fussy..That's why majority of my Verifications are social meets only

Is that a good or a bad thing to admit to? "

It means I am fussy and I didn't like the guys enough to take it further!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you, each and everyone of you for your comments.

I thought I had set out what I was looking for (or what I wasn't looking for as the case may be) on my profile.

It seems not.

I didn't want to go down the route of bullet points but I may have to.

V X

"

You start your profile with"Well I don't know what I am looking for..." ,is what I was referring.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I have high expectations and I'm not prepared to lower then but is this the right site for me? "

you're not too fussy but this site probably is wrong for you.

i won't even fuck anyone now i get what the men on here are like. i honestly don't think they should be allowed inside my snatch.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

There is someone for everyone, we aren't all looking for the same.

Be fussy, choosy, selective, only then will you find what you are looking for.

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY


"Thank you, each and everyone of you for your comments.

I thought I had set out what I was looking for (or what I wasn't looking for as the case may be) on my profile.

It seems not.

I didn't want to go down the route of bullet points but I may have to.

V X

"

Have you considered the point that any man so perfect as to meet your expectations may not consider you up to his standards

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you, each and everyone of you for your comments.

I thought I had set out what I was looking for (or what I wasn't looking for as the case may be) on my profile.

It seems not.

I didn't want to go down the route of bullet points but I may have to.

V X

You start your profile with"Well I don't know what I am looking for..." ,is what I was referring."

And I think your taking that one line way out of context. My profile also goes on to clearly state what I'm NOT looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have the right to be as fussy as you bloody well like, just like everyone else does on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you, each and everyone of you for your comments.

I thought I had set out what I was looking for (or what I wasn't looking for as the case may be) on my profile.

It seems not.

I didn't want to go down the route of bullet points but I may have to.

V X

Have you considered the point that any man so perfect as to meet your expectations may not consider you up to his standards "

Sorry but this made me lol

I don't doubt for one minute that I will get someone anywhere near perfection, and I don't expect it or ask for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you, each and everyone of you for your comments.

I thought I had set out what I was looking for (or what I wasn't looking for as the case may be) on my profile.

It seems not.

I didn't want to go down the route of bullet points but I may have to.

V X

You start your profile with"Well I don't know what I am looking for..." ,is what I was referring.

And I think your taking that one line way out of context. My profile also goes on to clearly state what I'm NOT looking for. "

I'm not looking for a cheese sandwich. Does that mean I want anything but a cheese sandwich? That doesn't sound very fussy to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you, each and everyone of you for your comments.

I thought I had set out what I was looking for (or what I wasn't looking for as the case may be) on my profile.

It seems not.

I didn't want to go down the route of bullet points but I may have to.

V X

You start your profile with"Well I don't know what I am looking for..." ,is what I was referring.

And I think your taking that one line way out of context. My profile also goes on to clearly state what I'm NOT looking for.

I'm not looking for a cheese sandwich. Does that mean I want anything but a cheese sandwich? That doesn't sound very fussy to me.

"

I don't know.

Does it?

And your fussy may be different to my fussy. That's life eh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you, each and everyone of you for your comments.

I thought I had set out what I was looking for (or what I wasn't looking for as the case may be) on my profile.

It seems not.

I didn't want to go down the route of bullet points but I may have to.

V X

You start your profile with"Well I don't know what I am looking for..." ,is what I was referring.

And I think your taking that one line way out of context. My profile also goes on to clearly state what I'm NOT looking for.

I'm not looking for a cheese sandwich. Does that mean I want anything but a cheese sandwich? That doesn't sound very fussy to me.

I don't know.

Does it?

And your fussy may be different to my fussy. That's life eh. "

But I'm not questioning whether I'm too fussy. I don't think there is such a thing. You want what you want (or you don't want what you don't want) and no one can call it too fussy. It's just a term used by some to make themselves seem superior to all the other lowlife looking for sex on the internet. In my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank you, each and everyone of you for your comments.

I thought I had set out what I was looking for (or what I wasn't looking for as the case may be) on my profile.

It seems not.

I didn't want to go down the route of bullet points but I may have to.

V X

You start your profile with"Well I don't know what I am looking for..." ,is what I was referring.

And I think your taking that one line way out of context. My profile also goes on to clearly state what I'm NOT looking for.

I'm not looking for a cheese sandwich. Does that mean I want anything but a cheese sandwich? That doesn't sound very fussy to me.

I don't know.

Does it?

And your fussy may be different to my fussy. That's life eh.

But I'm not questioning whether I'm too fussy. I don't think there is such a thing. You want what you want (or you don't want what you don't want) and no one can call it too fussy. It's just a term used by some to make themselves seem superior to all the other lowlife looking for sex on the internet. In my opinion. "

Really!

So anyone with standards or who are choosy or fussy (whatever you want to call it) are making themselves seem superior?

And is everyone looking for sex on the internet lowlife??

Sorry but this is one opinion I won't take on board. Thanks for your comment anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you think people on here are not to your standards you are on the wrong site.

Whether there is a right site is another matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you, each and everyone of you for your comments.

I thought I had set out what I was looking for (or what I wasn't looking for as the case may be) on my profile.

It seems not.

I didn't want to go down the route of bullet points but I may have to.

V X

You start your profile with"Well I don't know what I am looking for..." ,is what I was referring.

And I think your taking that one line way out of context. My profile also goes on to clearly state what I'm NOT looking for.

I'm not looking for a cheese sandwich. Does that mean I want anything but a cheese sandwich? That doesn't sound very fussy to me.

I don't know.

Does it?

And your fussy may be different to my fussy. That's life eh.

But I'm not questioning whether I'm too fussy. I don't think there is such a thing. You want what you want (or you don't want what you don't want) and no one can call it too fussy. It's just a term used by some to make themselves seem superior to all the other lowlife looking for sex on the internet. In my opinion.

Really!

So anyone with standards or who are choosy or fussy (whatever you want to call it) are making themselves seem superior?

And is everyone looking for sex on the internet lowlife??

Sorry but this is one opinion I won't take on board. Thanks for your comment anyway. "

no you missed my point. Never mind.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I think what the problem here is, your opening post does sound like you think you are looking for what others aren't....

We are all here looking for our own thing, we all have our own standards and expectations, but don't think to start a forum thread thinking we are apart from what everyone else is looking for, I for one would rather just go without and I do, but I am always looking on the horizon for the what if!

Maybe you do need to think about what you are looking for and not about what you are not looking for, but saying that you have had a meet already so it seems you have managed to find it on here quite easily after all, after only 2 weeks, sometimes miracles can happen

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think what the problem here is, your opening post does sound like you think you are looking for what others aren't....

We are all here looking for our own thing, we all have our own standards and expectations, but don't think to start a forum thread thinking we are apart from what everyone else is looking for, I for one would rather just go without and I do, but I am always looking on the horizon for the what if!

Maybe you do need to think about what you are looking for and not about what you are not looking for, but saying that you have had a meet already so it seems you have managed to find it on here quite easily after all, after only 2 weeks, sometimes miracles can happen "

Yes I have had a meet. But as for finding it and miracles, unfortunately that isn't the case and my search continues.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I think what the problem here is, your opening post does sound like you think you are looking for what others aren't....

We are all here looking for our own thing, we all have our own standards and expectations, but don't think to start a forum thread thinking we are apart from what everyone else is looking for, I for one would rather just go without and I do, but I am always looking on the horizon for the what if!

Maybe you do need to think about what you are looking for and not about what you are not looking for, but saying that you have had a meet already so it seems you have managed to find it on here quite easily after all, after only 2 weeks, sometimes miracles can happen

Yes I have had a meet. But as for finding it and miracles, unfortunately that isn't the case and my search continues. "

Well it is a miracle in my eyes as I am also fussy, but it took me nearly 8 weeks of speaking to someone and then agreeing to a drink only, seems everyone's definition of fussy is different after all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think what the problem here is, your opening post does sound like you think you are looking for what others aren't....

We are all here looking for our own thing, we all have our own standards and expectations, but don't think to start a forum thread thinking we are apart from what everyone else is looking for, I for one would rather just go without and I do, but I am always looking on the horizon for the what if!

Maybe you do need to think about what you are looking for and not about what you are not looking for, but saying that you have had a meet already so it seems you have managed to find it on here quite easily after all, after only 2 weeks, sometimes miracles can happen

Yes I have had a meet. But as for finding it and miracles, unfortunately that isn't the case and my search continues.

Well it is a miracle in my eyes as I am also fussy, but it took me nearly 8 weeks of speaking to someone and then agreeing to a drink only, seems everyone's definition of fussy is different after all "

I couldn't agree more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think what the problem here is, your opening post does sound like you think you are looking for what others aren't....

We are all here looking for our own thing, we all have our own standards and expectations, but don't think to start a forum thread thinking we are apart from what everyone else is looking for, I for one would rather just go without and I do, but I am always looking on the horizon for the what if!

Maybe you do need to think about what you are looking for and not about what you are not looking for, but saying that you have had a meet already so it seems you have managed to find it on here quite easily after all, after only 2 weeks, sometimes miracles can happen

Yes I have had a meet. But as for finding it and miracles, unfortunately that isn't the case and my search continues.

Well it is a miracle in my eyes as I am also fussy, but it took me nearly 8 weeks of speaking to someone and then agreeing to a drink only, seems everyone's definition of fussy is different after all

I couldn't agree more. "

so then only you know if you're being "too fussy"

glad we got that sorted

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think what the problem here is, your opening post does sound like you think you are looking for what others aren't....

We are all here looking for our own thing, we all have our own standards and expectations, but don't think to start a forum thread thinking we are apart from what everyone else is looking for, I for one would rather just go without and I do, but I am always looking on the horizon for the what if!

Maybe you do need to think about what you are looking for and not about what you are not looking for, but saying that you have had a meet already so it seems you have managed to find it on here quite easily after all, after only 2 weeks, sometimes miracles can happen

Yes I have had a meet. But as for finding it and miracles, unfortunately that isn't the case and my search continues.

Well it is a miracle in my eyes as I am also fussy, but it took me nearly 8 weeks of speaking to someone and then agreeing to a drink only, seems everyone's definition of fussy is different after all

I couldn't agree more.

so then only you know if you're being "too fussy"

glad we got that sorted "

Phew. hallelujah

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"A good analogy for this site is how TV has developed. 30 years ago when we only had 4 channels we could always find something to watch and we were happy. Now with Sky we have 100s, but we just can't find anything we want to watch. Similarly kids today with stacks of toys are more bored than we ever were. Here you have more men to choose from than you can shake a stick at.

The more choice we have the more dissatisfied we are with what's on offer. More choice means those imperfections are less tolerable. If you find a man you like you may find you're asking yourself if there's someone better you missed in the search. No one should suggest you lower your standards, only you can judge however if you standards are set artificially or unrealistically high.

It wouldn't suprise me of some women here are like the donkey that starved to death because it couldn't decide which of three carrots to eat first."

. Well said

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