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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've just had a couple ask me to go and meet the husband, but not the wife. In a bar for him to decide if I can sleep with his wife....

Now on what level do these people think that's acceptable, and that I'll just go along and then have sex with a woman I've never met, just because the guy thinks it's a good idea?!

Jokers.

Anyone else had any dodgy requests like that? I was also once asked to impregnate some guys wife, and then have a part in the child's life. Mental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is definitely just a dude with no partner!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That is definitely just a dude with no partner! "

No it isn't - they have verifications from other guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That is definitely just a dude with no partner!

No it isn't - they have verifications from other guys."

Verifications don't necessarily mean people are genuine. However, even if they are, there are so many situations that couples prefer to organise a meet that this wouldn't surprise me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once had a guy, following one of my status saying that I love Nutella, asking me if after he dipped in his dick in a Nutella jar, will I suck it dry while he rap over a 50cents' instrumental !!

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

.....how is that different from having sex with a couple OP? surely you're fucking someone else's wife then aren't you?

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Because they know a lot of single guys will jump through hoops.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That is definitely just a dude with no partner!

No it isn't - they have verifications from other guys.

Verifications don't necessarily mean people are genuine. However, even if they are, there are so many situations that couples prefer to organise a meet that this wouldn't surprise me! "

7 verifications from 7 different men - I'd say that makes it a genuine, if completely mental request!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


".....how is that different from having sex with a couple OP? surely you're fucking someone else's wife then aren't you?"

Yes, but I would never have sex with someone I'd never met - it just smacks of a couple treating men (or me) as subhuman.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World


"That is definitely just a dude with no partner!

No it isn't - they have verifications from other guys.

Verifications don't necessarily mean people are genuine. However, even if they are, there are so many situations that couples prefer to organise a meet that this wouldn't surprise me!

7 verifications from 7 different men - I'd say that makes it a genuine, if completely mental request!"

How long since the last veri? Couples can split up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That is definitely just a dude with no partner!

No it isn't - they have verifications from other guys.

Verifications don't necessarily mean people are genuine. However, even if they are, there are so many situations that couples prefer to organise a meet that this wouldn't surprise me!

7 verifications from 7 different men - I'd say that makes it a genuine, if completely mental request!

How long since the last veri? Couples can split up."

Last verification was today - this line of thinking about them being fake is wide of the mark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".....how is that different from having sex with a couple OP? surely you're fucking someone else's wife then aren't you?

Yes, but I would never have sex with someone I'd never met - it just smacks of a couple treating men (or me) as subhuman."

Some men will jump through many hoops to get sex....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


".....how is that different from having sex with a couple OP? surely you're fucking someone else's wife then aren't you?

Yes, but I would never have sex with someone I'd never met - it just smacks of a couple treating men (or me) as subhuman.

Some men will jump through many hoops to get sex.... "

My question isn't about what the men will do - the question is more about the way the couple is thinking. What makes them think this is OK?

Couples can be utterly awful online these days.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Did you get asked just for coffee or to play with the man first before meeting the female?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen profiles where meeting the bloke first is a requirement

Coupled with giving him a BJ to 'check your skills'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".....how is that different from having sex with a couple OP? surely you're fucking someone else's wife then aren't you?

Yes, but I would never have sex with someone I'd never met - it just smacks of a couple treating men (or me) as subhuman.

Some men will jump through many hoops to get sex....

My question isn't about what the men will do - the question is more about the way the couple is thinking. What makes them think this is OK?

Couples can be utterly awful online these days."

It makes them think it's okay because others have done as they have asked......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did you get asked just for coffee or to play with the man first before meeting the female?"

Meet the man for him to decide if I was allowed to have sex with his wife. Point being, I get no say in it whatsoever as said wife was not going to be present. Ridiculous.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


".....how is that different from having sex with a couple OP? surely you're fucking someone else's wife then aren't you?

Yes, but I would never have sex with someone I'd never met - it just smacks of a couple treating men (or me) as subhuman."

But half the men on fab would (conservative estimate).

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


".....how is that different from having sex with a couple OP? surely you're fucking someone else's wife then aren't you?

Yes, but I would never have sex with someone I'd never met - it just smacks of a couple treating men (or me) as subhuman.

Some men will jump through many hoops to get sex....

My question isn't about what the men will do - the question is more about the way the couple is thinking. What makes them think this is OK?

Couples can be utterly awful online these days."

People adapt to their environment if they see guys will jump trough hoops then they will make em

If they are getting away with it they will continue to behave on such a manner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just had a couple ask me to go and meet the husband, but not the wife. In a bar for him to decide if I can sleep with his wife....

Now on what level do these people think that's acceptable, and that I'll just go along and then have sex with a woman I've never met, just because the guy thinks it's a good idea?!

Jokers.

Anyone else had any dodgy requests like that? I was also once asked to impregnate some guys wife, and then have a part in the child's life. Mental."

I get them all the time. You right to avoid them op , lots of couple profiles on here are single males who are actually bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".....how is that different from having sex with a couple OP? surely you're fucking someone else's wife then aren't you?

Yes, but I would never have sex with someone I'd never met - it just smacks of a couple treating men (or me) as subhuman.

Some men will jump through many hoops to get sex.... "

I will even supply my own hoops.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it not acceptable? Sounds like other men have been fine with it. Could be a role play fantasy type thing.

It's not something I'd do but I don't see an issue with it. You're just not compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/609806

snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just had a couple ask me to go and meet the husband, but not the wife. In a bar for him to decide if I can sleep with his wife....

Now on what level do these people think that's acceptable, and that I'll just go along and then have sex with a woman I've never met, just because the guy thinks it's a good idea?!

Jokers.

Anyone else had any dodgy requests like that? I was also once asked to impregnate some guys wife, and then have a part in the child's life. Mental."

We used to do that. My husband would meet the guy on his own first, form a rapport, then I would be introduced on a second meet. It worked well, as it enabled the 2 men to bond without me being in the way, as a result allowed really good threeway dynamics when we all eventually met. However we stopped asking for this as we realised that single men were by and large suspicious of husbands requesting to meet first without the wife. It's a shame that fucked up individuals have caused this mistrust, because if all are genuine I think it works well.

Mrs

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

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"Did you get asked just for coffee or to play with the man first before meeting the female?

Meet the man for him to decide if I was allowed to have sex with his wife. Point being, I get no say in it whatsoever as said wife was not going to be present. Ridiculous."

Sounds like he is being protective of his wife which is a good thing. If you don't like that then plenty more people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would I let a guy suckle on my nipples untill I lactated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not unreasonable it's how they choose to play..if that doesn't suit how you choose to play simply thanks but no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just had a couple ask me to go and meet the husband, but not the wife. In a bar for him to decide if I can sleep with his wife....

Now on what level do these people think that's acceptable, and that I'll just go along and then have sex with a woman I've never met, just because the guy thinks it's a good idea?!

Jokers.

Anyone else had any dodgy requests like that? I was also once asked to impregnate some guys wife, and then have a part in the child's life. Mental.

We used to do that. My husband would meet the guy on his own first, form a rapport, then I would be introduced on a second meet. It worked well, as it enabled the 2 men to bond without me being in the way, as a result allowed really good threeway dynamics when we all eventually met. However we stopped asking for this as we realised that single men were by and large suspicious of husbands requesting to meet first without the wife. It's a shame that fucked up individuals have caused this mistrust, because if all are genuine I think it works well.

Mrs"

Oh yeah the other reason that used to suit us, was because it was very easy for Mr to meet a guy for a quick pint after work in London to check that the man was kosher and normal. It saved us arranging precious babysitting and me having an hour and quarter train journey to London to meet a guy that we are not going to hit it off with. We hardly ever meet anyone new these days, because it takes too much arranging. So for us it would be so much easier if men would allow my husband to meet them first. But we do understand that men get suspicious of those requests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once had a guy, following one of my status saying that I love Nutella, asking me if after he dipped in his dick in a Nutella jar, will I suck it dry while he rap over a 50cents' instrumental !! "

I up that offer if you put peanut butter on yours and you rap Kanye west

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just had a couple ask me to go and meet the husband, but not the wife. In a bar for him to decide if I can sleep with his wife....

Now on what level do these people think that's acceptable, and that I'll just go along and then have sex with a woman I've never met, just because the guy thinks it's a good idea?!

Jokers.

Anyone else had any dodgy requests like that? I was also once asked to impregnate some guys wife, and then have a part in the child's life. Mental.

We used to do that. My husband would meet the guy on his own first, form a rapport, then I would be introduced on a second meet. It worked well, as it enabled the 2 men to bond without me being in the way, as a result allowed really good threeway dynamics when we all eventually met. However we stopped asking for this as we realised that single men were by and large suspicious of husbands requesting to meet first without the wife. It's a shame that fucked up individuals have caused this mistrust, because if all are genuine I think it works well.

Mrs

Oh yeah the other reason that used to suit us, was because it was very easy for Mr to meet a guy for a quick pint after work in London to check that the man was kosher and normal. It saved us arranging precious babysitting and me having an hour and quarter train journey to London to meet a guy that we are not going to hit it off with. We hardly ever meet anyone new these days, because it takes too much arranging. So for us it would be so much easier if men would allow my husband to meet them first. But we do understand that men get suspicious of those requests.

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Sounds fair enough. But you understand how dodgy it could sound too

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Did you get asked just for coffee or to play with the man first before meeting the female?

Meet the man for him to decide if I was allowed to have sex with his wife. Point being, I get no say in it whatsoever as said wife was not going to be present. Ridiculous."

In which case it may be their kink. If he had asked for sex with you while on the meet then I would be thinking it is a male alone.

Personally I wouldn't do it if I was a single man so I am not surprised that you wouldn't. As you say they are well verified it sounds like others must be doing, having said that, if you flag it with Admin just incase they can make sure there is a couple on the account

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you get asked just for coffee or to play with the man first before meeting the female?

Meet the man for him to decide if I was allowed to have sex with his wife. Point being, I get no say in it whatsoever as said wife was not going to be present. Ridiculous.

Sounds like he is being protective of his wife which is a good thing. If you don't like that then plenty more people on here."

I think it sounds more controlling than protective. Surely she can come along & has a voice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just had a couple ask me to go and meet the husband, but not the wife. In a bar for him to decide if I can sleep with his wife....

Now on what level do these people think that's acceptable, and that I'll just go along and then have sex with a woman I've never met, just because the guy thinks it's a good idea?!

Jokers.

Anyone else had any dodgy requests like that? I was also once asked to impregnate some guys wife, and then have a part in the child's life. Mental.

We used to do that. My husband would meet the guy on his own first, form a rapport, then I would be introduced on a second meet. It worked well, as it enabled the 2 men to bond without me being in the way, as a result allowed really good threeway dynamics when we all eventually met. However we stopped asking for this as we realised that single men were by and large suspicious of husbands requesting to meet first without the wife. It's a shame that fucked up individuals have caused this mistrust, because if all are genuine I think it works well.

Mrs

Oh yeah the other reason that used to suit us, was because it was very easy for Mr to meet a guy for a quick pint after work in London to check that the man was kosher and normal. It saved us arranging precious babysitting and me having an hour and quarter train journey to London to meet a guy that we are not going to hit it off with. We hardly ever meet anyone new these days, because it takes too much arranging. So for us it would be so much easier if men would allow my husband to meet them first. But we do understand that men get suspicious of those requests.

Sounds fair enough. But you understand how dodgy it could sound too "

That's why we stopped doing it

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

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"Did you get asked just for coffee or to play with the man first before meeting the female?

Meet the man for him to decide if I was allowed to have sex with his wife. Point being, I get no say in it whatsoever as said wife was not going to be present. Ridiculous.

Sounds like he is being protective of his wife which is a good thing. If you don't like that then plenty more people on here.

I think it sounds more controlling than protective. Surely she can come along & has a voice?"

Yes...if they know exactly what they are walking into but strangers off of the internet could be anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see why that particular couple and others do it, but not for me. I prefer all parties present at the initial social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you get asked just for coffee or to play with the man first before meeting the female?

Meet the man for him to decide if I was allowed to have sex with his wife. Point being, I get no say in it whatsoever as said wife was not going to be present. Ridiculous.

Sounds like he is being protective of his wife which is a good thing. If you don't like that then plenty more people on here.

I think it sounds more controlling than protective. Surely she can come along & has a voice?

Yes...if they know exactly what they are walking into but strangers off of the internet could be anyone."

Well yeah I get that, I meet as a single woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you get asked just for coffee or to play with the man first before meeting the female?

Meet the man for him to decide if I was allowed to have sex with his wife. Point being, I get no say in it whatsoever as said wife was not going to be present. Ridiculous.

Sounds like he is being protective of his wife which is a good thing. If you don't like that then plenty more people on here.

I think it sounds more controlling than protective. Surely she can come along & has a voice?"

It could be the ladies choice to have her husband vet men first do she doesn't have to waste her time, especially if it's difficult for her to get out like it is with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest the OP sounds quite mild to some of the tales the women tell about strange requests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really hate those types that hold a gun to your head to make you play the way they want to play.

If only there was a way not to get involved with them.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you get asked just for coffee or to play with the man first before meeting the female?

Meet the man for him to decide if I was allowed to have sex with his wife. Point being, I get no say in it whatsoever as said wife was not going to be present. Ridiculous.

Sounds like he is being protective of his wife which is a good thing. If you don't like that then plenty more people on here.

I think it sounds more controlling than protective. Surely she can come along & has a voice?

It could be the ladies choice to have her husband vet men first do she doesn't have to waste her time, especially if it's difficult for her to get out like it is with me. "

It all comes down to how you want to meet. I personally don't understand that dynamic because if I am going to have sex with someone then I want to 'vet' them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really hate those types that hold a gun to your head to make you play the way they want to play.

If only there was a way not to get involved with them..... "

It's opened up a discussion & quite an interesting one. I'm seeing a different viewpoint because I don't meet as a couple.

If people listened to others instead of dismissing them then maybe a lot of the angst we see on Fabs would disappear.....

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over a year ago


"Did you get asked just for coffee or to play with the man first before meeting the female?

Meet the man for him to decide if I was allowed to have sex with his wife. Point being, I get no say in it whatsoever as said wife was not going to be present. Ridiculous.

Sounds like he is being protective of his wife which is a good thing. If you don't like that then plenty more people on here.

I think it sounds more controlling than protective. Surely she can come along & has a voice?

It could be the ladies choice to have her husband vet men first do she doesn't have to waste her time, especially if it's difficult for her to get out like it is with me.

It all comes down to how you want to meet. I personally don't understand that dynamic because if I am going to have sex with someone then I want to 'vet' them."

Ironically because it is so difficult for us both to get out at the same time due to our kids, we've decided to try me doing the vetting now for local meets. Needless to say there have been no complaints about that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was asked once if I'd be willing to be knocked out with chloroform and have the couple "play" with me whilst sleeping(unconscious).

Scarily this isn't an uncommon fetish.... "

Speaking from experience?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


".....how is that different from having sex with a couple OP? surely you're fucking someone else's wife then aren't you?

Yes, but I would never have sex with someone I'd never met - it just smacks of a couple treating men (or me) as subhuman.

Some men will jump through many hoops to get sex....

My question isn't about what the men will do - the question is more about the way the couple is thinking. What makes them think this is OK?

Couples can be utterly awful online these days."

maybe they have had issues in the past and would like the guy to meet first. Seen this request a few times. And why isn't it okay... ? It's not right for you but doesn't make it not okay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An interesting discussion?

It was a blatant attack on someone's preference to play, calling them Joker's purely because of such preferences?

I feel there would be less angst if people didn't knock and judge others preferences on play, particular when it hurts none and nobody is forced or coerced to do so to their rules.

Seems the only thing that got hurt was the OP's sense of entitlement because he didn't agree to their preferences, and then rants about it and names calls on a forum?

A better approach may have been to ask couples why they might prefer to play this way, without the judgment or name calling?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it not acceptable? Sounds like other men have been fine with it. Could be a role play fantasy type thing.

It's not something I'd do but I don't see an issue with it. You're just not compatible. "

It happens. They (he) is checking that you are ok....and not a complete knobhead (plenty of those on here). If it is local then not too much of an ask for just a social. Do they have no pics of the lady? Would he be able to show you some? Ask to speak to her when you meet him....there are plenty checks you can do. Just make sure you are in control of the situation.

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over a year ago


"An interesting discussion?

It was a blatant attack on someone's preference to play, calling them Joker's purely because of such preferences?

I feel there would be less angst if people didn't knock and judge others preferences on play, particular when it hurts none and nobody is forced or coerced to do so to their rules.

Seems the only thing that got hurt was the OP's sense of entitlement because he didn't agree to their preferences, and then rants about it and names calls on a forum?

A better approach may have been to ask couples why they might prefer to play this way, without the judgment or name calling?

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I said it's *opened* up an interesting discussion for me anyway & maybe others can get something from it by seeing how others choose to meet.

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over a year ago


"An interesting discussion?

It was a blatant attack on someone's preference to play, calling them Joker's purely because of such preferences?

I feel there would be less angst if people didn't knock and judge others preferences on play, particular when it hurts none and nobody is forced or coerced to do so to their rules.

Seems the only thing that got hurt was the OP's sense of entitlement because he didn't agree to their preferences, and then rants about it and names calls on a forum?

A better approach may have been to ask couples why they might prefer to play this way, without the judgment or name calling?

I said it's *opened* up an interesting discussion for me anyway & maybe others can get something from it by seeing how others choose to meet.

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Agreed, but the approach was entirely wrong and indicative of the OP's attitude. (Possibly justifying the reason for just the men to meet first, of that's the attitude they've regularly experienced.)

My point was that none was forcing him to meet them.

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over a year ago


"An interesting discussion?

It was a blatant attack on someone's preference to play, calling them Joker's purely because of such preferences?

I feel there would be less angst if people didn't knock and judge others preferences on play, particular when it hurts none and nobody is forced or coerced to do so to their rules.

Seems the only thing that got hurt was the OP's sense of entitlement because he didn't agree to their preferences, and then rants about it and names calls on a forum?

A better approach may have been to ask couples why they might prefer to play this way, without the judgment or name calling?

I said it's *opened* up an interesting discussion for me anyway & maybe others can get something from it by seeing how others choose to meet.

Agreed, but the approach was entirely wrong and indicative of the OP's attitude. (Possibly justifying the reason for just the men to meet first, of that's the attitude they've regularly experienced.)

My point was that none was forcing him to meet them. "

I know what your point was but that would eradicate half the Lounge threads if people didn't post what they were thinking.

I've never come across any men with a sense of entitlement and I didn't view the OP that way.

Maybe that's the issue......

Couples preferences doesn't tie in with singles, negativity ensues.

*insert the words some & maybe*

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over a year ago


"An interesting discussion?

It was a blatant attack on someone's preference to play, calling them Joker's purely because of such preferences?

I feel there would be less angst if people didn't knock and judge others preferences on play, particular when it hurts none and nobody is forced or coerced to do so to their rules.

Seems the only thing that got hurt was the OP's sense of entitlement because he didn't agree to their preferences, and then rants about it and names calls on a forum?

A better approach may have been to ask couples why they might prefer to play this way, without the judgment or name calling?

I said it's *opened* up an interesting discussion for me anyway & maybe others can get something from it by seeing how others choose to meet.

Agreed, but the approach was entirely wrong and indicative of the OP's attitude. (Possibly justifying the reason for just the men to meet first, of that's the attitude they've regularly experienced.)

My point was that none was forcing him to meet them. "

The OP was expressing how he felt about a particular situation. He's not wrong to feel that way, as it's just the way he feels. Especially as there are some single men posing as couples, i completely sympathise with him, even though we used to play that way ourselves. It probably hadn't occurred to him that there may be very good reasons why some couples play this way. Sometimes it takes a bit of a prompt to see the other side of an argument.

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over a year ago


"An interesting discussion?

It was a blatant attack on someone's preference to play, calling them Joker's purely because of such preferences?

I feel there would be less angst if people didn't knock and judge others preferences on play, particular when it hurts none and nobody is forced or coerced to do so to their rules.

Seems the only thing that got hurt was the OP's sense of entitlement because he didn't agree to their preferences, and then rants about it and names calls on a forum?

A better approach may have been to ask couples why they might prefer to play this way, without the judgment or name calling?

I said it's *opened* up an interesting discussion for me anyway & maybe others can get something from it by seeing how others choose to meet.

Agreed, but the approach was entirely wrong and indicative of the OP's attitude. (Possibly justifying the reason for just the men to meet first, of that's the attitude they've regularly experienced.)

My point was that none was forcing him to meet them.

The OP was expressing how he felt about a particular situation. He's not wrong to feel that way, as it's just the way he feels. Especially as there are some single men posing as couples, i completely sympathise with him, even though we used to play that way ourselves. It probably hadn't occurred to him that there may be very good reasons why some couples play this way. Sometimes it takes a bit of a prompt to see the other side of an argument. "

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"An interesting discussion?

It was a blatant attack on someone's preference to play, calling them Joker's purely because of such preferences?

I feel there would be less angst if people didn't knock and judge others preferences on play, particular when it hurts none and nobody is forced or coerced to do so to their rules.

Seems the only thing that got hurt was the OP's sense of entitlement because he didn't agree to their preferences, and then rants about it and names calls on a forum?

A better approach may have been to ask couples why they might prefer to play this way, without the judgment or name calling?

I said it's *opened* up an interesting discussion for me anyway & maybe others can get something from it by seeing how others choose to meet.

Agreed, but the approach was entirely wrong and indicative of the OP's attitude. (Possibly justifying the reason for just the men to meet first, of that's the attitude they've regularly experienced.)

My point was that none was forcing him to meet them.

The OP was expressing how he felt about a particular situation. He's not wrong to feel that way, as it's just the way he feels. Especially as there are some single men posing as couples, i completely sympathise with him, even though we used to play that way ourselves. It probably hadn't occurred to him that there may be very good reasons why some couples play this way. Sometimes it takes a bit of a prompt to see the other side of an argument.

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I don't see any arguement that justifies someone calling another names and berating them just because that someone's preferences don't meet their own I'm afraid.

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over a year ago

I have a pen, I have an apple

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

But as for unreasonable requests (lol) I got one that said if you're around I'm free for the next 30 mins

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"An interesting discussion?

It was a blatant attack on someone's preference to play, calling them Joker's purely because of such preferences?

I feel there would be less angst if people didn't knock and judge others preferences on play, particular when it hurts none and nobody is forced or coerced to do so to their rules.

Seems the only thing that got hurt was the OP's sense of entitlement because he didn't agree to their preferences, and then rants about it and names calls on a forum?

A better approach may have been to ask couples why they might prefer to play this way, without the judgment or name calling?

I said it's *opened* up an interesting discussion for me anyway & maybe others can get something from it by seeing how others choose to meet.

Agreed, but the approach was entirely wrong and indicative of the OP's attitude. (Possibly justifying the reason for just the men to meet first, of that's the attitude they've regularly experienced.)

My point was that none was forcing him to meet them.

The OP was expressing how he felt about a particular situation. He's not wrong to feel that way, as it's just the way he feels. Especially as there are some single men posing as couples, i completely sympathise with him, even though we used to play that way ourselves. It probably hadn't occurred to him that there may be very good reasons why some couples play this way. Sometimes it takes a bit of a prompt to see the other side of an argument.

I don't see any arguement that justifies someone calling another names and berating them just because that someone's preferences don't meet their own I'm afraid."

I didn't interpret it as an attack, and he was referring to couples like ourselves. I don't really regard being called a 'joker' as insulting. If something thinks mine and my husbands actions in the past made us 'jokers' then they are entitled to their opinion. And I will explain why they have interpreted us wrong, to which they may or may not accept. But i guess that just me, others will find it insulting. Very hard to predict other people's sensitivities in the forums

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"An interesting discussion?

It was a blatant attack on someone's preference to play, calling them Joker's purely because of such preferences?

I feel there would be less angst if people didn't knock and judge others preferences on play, particular when it hurts none and nobody is forced or coerced to do so to their rules.

Seems the only thing that got hurt was the OP's sense of entitlement because he didn't agree to their preferences, and then rants about it and names calls on a forum?

A better approach may have been to ask couples why they might prefer to play this way, without the judgment or name calling?

I said it's *opened* up an interesting discussion for me anyway & maybe others can get something from it by seeing how others choose to meet.

Agreed, but the approach was entirely wrong and indicative of the OP's attitude. (Possibly justifying the reason for just the men to meet first, of that's the attitude they've regularly experienced.)

My point was that none was forcing him to meet them.

The OP was expressing how he felt about a particular situation. He's not wrong to feel that way, as it's just the way he feels. Especially as there are some single men posing as couples, i completely sympathise with him, even though we used to play that way ourselves. It probably hadn't occurred to him that there may be very good reasons why some couples play this way. Sometimes it takes a bit of a prompt to see the other side of an argument.

I don't see any arguement that justifies someone calling another names and berating them just because that someone's preferences don't meet their own I'm afraid."

We don't know how the initial message came across, it may have been more of a demand than a preference.

The written word can be taken many ways & having a sense of entitlement goes across the board including couples....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if it isn't for you just politely make your excuses and leave it at that. seemingly it works for them and evidently some folk are happy to play it that way so it just sounds like your outlook doesn't match theirs is all, just a clash of how things are done

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over a year ago


"I once had a guy, following one of my status saying that I love Nutella, asking me if after he dipped in his dick in a Nutella jar, will I suck it dry while he rap over a 50cents' instrumental !! "

I think I'm gonna ask guys to eat a creme egg or Galaxy egg in front on me first ...lol

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Of the couples that do or used to meet this way have any got knocked back on the meet or been edgey about your partners choice?

Be honest...

We couldn't/wouldn't do it but totally understand the travel/sitter issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't see a problem. We all take (metaphorically) our life in our hands whenever we meet any one new online. Meeting in a pub with a gent for a pint to see if there's a dynamic can and probably would mean a much better play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a house,watch a couple,lol,through the window,wanking into a pair of the Mrs knickers that would be left outside,what could possibly go wrong???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As per most threads is gone off the original OP. He just thought it was unacceptable. In his eyes... couple just jumping in to defend their own. Let'stry not to personalise Iit all.

What he has asked was is have others had unreasonable requests. And I'm sure others 'unreasonable' requests will seem normal to some too.

Now back on topic.

I was asked to walk naked into a gay bar to meet a man.... but I as I'm straight I declinedthe offer.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

OP, it's obviously the way they play and not for you. It wouldn't work for us, as I would like to be present at any social meet, so that I had a say in who I was going to play with, not just my hubby!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's perfectly reasonable as a request if that works for the couple and may be particularly more likely if they're having issues with the guy being comfortable with his partner having sex with someone Yes uncertain about.

It's a free choice option and if the female speaks on the phone first, for example, helps eliminate it being a solitary guy faking it.

We're all different here in what we expect before a sex meet, so it's just a filtering tool, whenever you contact others who want a different scenario.

Different isn't necessarily bad, it just highlights a potential mismatch or need for flexibility.

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over a year ago


"I've just had a couple ask me to go and meet the husband, but not the wife. In a bar for him to decide if I can sleep with his wife....

Now on what level do these people think that's acceptable, and that I'll just go along and then have sex with a woman I've never met, just because the guy thinks it's a good idea?!

Jokers.

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Sounds like it's their fantasy for him to just bring someone home. Did they have pictures of her on their profile?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"

Now back on topic.

I was asked to walk naked into a gay bar to meet a man.... but I as I'm straight I declinedthe offer. "

Now does that mean if it was a bar for everyone you would have walked in naked

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town


".....how is that different from having sex with a couple OP? surely you're fucking someone else's wife then aren't you?

Yes, but I would never have sex with someone I'd never met - it just smacks of a couple treating men (or me) as subhuman."

If you never met them then you can't have sex with them

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Can the people who have had mails asking to use chloroform report the profile please

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, sounds like you made a good call to steer clear that one!

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

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OP surely there's nothing wrong with their request, you aren't compelled to have sex once you meet the wife if you don't want to???

If I had spoke with them and happy to meet both, then I'd have no issue meeting the hubby first tbh

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over a year ago


"I once had a guy, following one of my status saying that I love Nutella, asking me if after he dipped in his dick in a Nutella jar, will I suck it dry while he rap over a 50cents' instrumental !! "

Nut allergy ??!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a message from a couples profile from the female half asking me to meet her and her BI FB who wasnt the male on the couples profile

Oh also no pics other than a close up shot of cock in the pussy.

For "discretion" of course.

Why do people think bi men will fuck anyone?

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over a year ago

I've been asked to get caught with a guy so that his wife will divorce him. He has a gf, but didn't have enough balls to divorce his wife. He also didn't want his gf to take the blame.

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I've also been asked to Fuck a woman's husband while she watched but not to enjoy it too much or she would get jealous.

I think it was one of those couples where the wife agrees to swing to please her husband.

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One guy asked to play dead. The guy wanted me to lie there with no life and let him arrange my body then Fuck me. He wanted to Fuck a corpse.

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I think the worst was when some guy asked me to talk about my kids and talk about scenarios where I was being sexual with my children.

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over a year ago


"

Now back on topic.

I was asked to walk naked into a gay bar to meet a man.... but I as I'm straight I declinedthe offer.

Now does that mean if it was a bar for everyone you would have walked in naked "

I'm not into ever one and not everyone is into me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes op I have had a guy asking if I want to join Them tonight after she's been fucked by loads of guys and play with them both as he licks her out and she pisses all over him can u guess my response

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"I've been asked to get caught with a guy so that his wife will divorce him. He has a gf, but didn't have enough balls to divorce his wife. He also didn't want his gf to take the blame.

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I've also been asked to Fuck a woman's husband while she watched but not to enjoy it too much or she would get jealous.

I think it was one of those couples where the wife agrees to swing to please her husband.

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One guy asked to play dead. The guy wanted me to lie there with no life and let him arrange my body then Fuck me. He wanted to Fuck a corpse.

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I think the worst was when some guy asked me to talk about my kids and talk about scenarios where I was being sexual with my children.

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I would to be the PA of your box

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over a year ago

In*box

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over a year ago


"I've just had a couple ask me to go and meet the husband, but not the wife. In a bar for him to decide if I can sleep with his wife....

Now on what level do these people think that's acceptable, and that I'll just go along and then have sex with a woman I've never met, just because the guy thinks it's a good idea?!

Jokers.

"

I know a couple down south where he meets chaps socially first and then introduces them to his wife socially if he thinks the vibe is right. It seems to have worked for them for years.

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"I've been asked to get caught with a guy so that his wife will divorce him. He has a gf, but didn't have enough balls to divorce his wife. He also didn't want his gf to take the blame.

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Just sick some people

I've also been asked to Fuck a woman's husband while she watched but not to enjoy it too much or she would get jealous.

I think it was one of those couples where the wife agrees to swing to please her husband.

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One guy asked to play dead. The guy wanted me to lie there with no life and let him arrange my body then Fuck me. He wanted to Fuck a corpse.

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I think the worst was when some guy asked me to talk about my kids and talk about scenarios where I was being sexual with my children.

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