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"does another guy out there also prefer strong confident indipendent minded women who are determined know what they want in life and how to get there when interms of finding someone for a relationship? I was in a conversation with lads while a go and the opinions expreased were surprising." Was the general consensus that men dont like assertive, strong women? I can honestly say that men who are intimidated by me are no use to me anyhow. I've always found that strong, confident men are not threatened by women like us, insecure men? Well that's a different story lol. | |||
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"100% Especially as I am weak and indecisive. Need someone that can sort me out! "Pmsl | |||
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"does another guy out there also prefer strong confident indipendent minded women who are determined know what they want in life and how to get there when interms of finding someone for a relationship? I was in a conversation with lads while a go and the opinions expreased were surprising. Was the general consensus that men dont like assertive, strong women? I can honestly say that men who are intimidated by me are no use to me anyhow. I've always found that strong, confident men are not threatened by women like us, insecure men? Well that's a different story lol. "  | |||
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"does another guy out there also prefer strong confident indipendent minded women who are determined know what they want in life and how to get there when interms of finding someone for a relationship? I was in a conversation with lads while a go and the opinions expreased were surprising. Was the general consensus that men dont like assertive, strong women? I can honestly say that men who are intimidated by me are no use to me anyhow. I've always found that strong, confident men are not threatened by women like us, insecure men? Well that's a different story lol. " This and where do you find men that embrace such women?.....none where i am at mo.x  | |||
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"does another guy out there also prefer strong confident indipendent minded women who are determined know what they want in life and how to get there when interms of finding someone for a relationship? I was in a conversation with lads while a go and the opinions expreased were surprising. Was the general consensus that men dont like assertive, strong women? I can honestly say that men who are intimidated by me are no use to me anyhow. I've always found that strong, confident men are not threatened by women like us, insecure men? Well that's a different story lol. This and where do you find men that embrace such women?.....none where i am at mo.x "I've found men in general prefer older women because they're more confident so I'm surprised you can't find any!! | |||
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"mostly women have replied, lol. where are the men who want confident women? or are we only fuckable... "I did reply in a joking mode earlier, but in a more serious vein (or as serious as I can be)... Confidence and strength are the most attractive and sexy aspects of a woman's character. I would never (or at least not for long) be attracted to a simpering wall flower that needs a knight to ride up and save her. I don't want a woman that needs me to tell her what to do. I want a woman that wants me to be a part of her life on her terms. Obviously all the above is very "only one answer fits". That's not entirely true, because all women have that softer side that brings out the protective side in me, and it's nice to see that. But that's not what will catch my eye first. | |||
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"mostly women have replied, lol. where are the men who want confident women? or are we only fuckable...
I did reply in a joking mode earlier, but in a more serious vein (or as serious as I can be)...
Confidence and strength are the most attractive and sexy aspects of a woman's character.
I would never (or at least not for long) be attracted to a simpering wall flower that needs a knight to ride up and save her.
I don't want a woman that needs me to tell her what to do. I want a woman that wants me to be a part of her life on her terms.
Obviously all the above is very "only one answer fits". That's not entirely true, because all women have that softer side that brings out the protective side in me, and it's nice to see that. But that's not what will catch my eye first."i actually thought fabandbearded had replied, your pic is similar and it sounded like something he would say.
couple more guys replied anyway, you included. | |||
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"I would like to think I'm a strong, independent confident woman "it would be nice to think on this say an age that as a society we produce strong indipendant women. | |||
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"From my experience men don't really know how to handle us especially in my area, I think they prefer the nice little meek woman, then they feel in their comfort zone, a woman who knows her mind and knows what she wants? Fuck that! They will try anything to bring her down! " Truth. Most want the experience, not the reality. I've met many chaps (and women), professing they love to be dominated but when things get serious, they buckle and say they can't handle it. Hence why I returned pro. No time for that shit in my private life | |||
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"mostly women have replied, lol. where are the men who want confident women? or are we only fuckable... "I know. lol | |||
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"The men who actually enjoy a relationship on equal terms with a woman are few and far between. Many struggle if a woman is their intellectual and social equal and see it as a challenge to their masculinity. " That's very true, and I've been wondering if bdsm is an extend to and surely not a reality, but if the men who call themselves Master, see women as being inferior and need to sort of educated them. | |||
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"The men who actually enjoy a relationship on equal terms with a woman are few and far between. Many struggle if a woman is their intellectual and social equal and see it as a challenge to their masculinity. " I completely agree with you. Men profess to seek and want strong, confident, independent woman but when faced with the reality they tend to baulk and feel intimidated instead! Shame really! | |||
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"The men who actually enjoy a relationship on equal terms with a woman are few and far between. Many struggle if a woman is their intellectual and social equal and see it as a challenge to their masculinity. That's very true, and I've been wondering if bdsm is an extend to and surely not a reality, but if the men who call themselves Master, see women as being inferior and need to sort of educated them. " In some cases I'm sure that's true. However for some being able to give over control to someone you love, trust and are an equal with is a great way to relax and very exciting. As an aside I never have and never would call any man master. | |||
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"The men who actually enjoy a relationship on equal terms with a woman are few and far between. Many struggle if a woman is their intellectual and social equal and see it as a challenge to their masculinity. That's very true, and I've been wondering if bdsm is an extend to and surely not a reality, but if the men who call themselves Master, see women as being inferior and need to sort of educated them. " Also during the course of my life I've come across any men who feel its their duty to educate women, tell them where they're going wrong and advise them on life. I met a guy on a residential work course once who thought he was being helpful when he told me that if I wore more make up a lot more men would be interested in me. | |||
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"The men who actually enjoy a relationship on equal terms with a woman are few and far between. Many struggle if a woman is their intellectual and social equal and see it as a challenge to their masculinity. I completely agree with you. Men profess to seek and want strong, confident, independent woman but when faced with the reality they tend to baulk and feel intimidated instead! Shame really!" It isn't entirely the fault of the men. Plenty of women play the "my hero" card and society still expects men to be the strong, silent type ready to take care of women. | |||
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"The men who actually enjoy a relationship on equal terms with a woman are few and far between. Many struggle if a woman is their intellectual and social equal and see it as a challenge to their masculinity. That's very true, and I've been wondering if bdsm is an extend to and surely not a reality, but if the men who call themselves Master, see women as being inferior and need to sort of educated them. In some cases I'm sure that's true. However for some being able to give over control to someone you love, trust and are an equal with is a great way to relax and very exciting. As an aside I never have and never would call any man master. "Oh yes giving yourself to someone you trust and built a relationship with is totally different than giving yourself to any strangers who want to become your master
I am always be interested in the sub/master dynamic from a point of power, its symbolism and the significance of it.
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"mostly women have replied, lol. where are the men who want confident women? or are we only fuckable...
I did reply in a joking mode earlier, but in a more serious vein (or as serious as I can be)...
Confidence and strength are the most attractive and sexy aspects of a woman's character.
I would never (or at least not for long) be attracted to a simpering wall flower that needs a knight to ride up and save her.
I don't want a woman that needs me to tell her what to do. I want a woman that wants me to be a part of her life on her terms.
Obviously all the above is very "only one answer fits". That's not entirely true, because all women have that softer side that brings out the protective side in me, and it's nice to see that. But that's not what will catch my eye first."I'm pretty sure I don't have a softer side that you'd like to protect. I'm still a woman though. | |||
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"The men who actually enjoy a relationship on equal terms with a woman are few and far between. Many struggle if a woman is their intellectual and social equal and see it as a challenge to their masculinity. That's very true, and I've been wondering if bdsm is an extend to and surely not a reality, but if the men who call themselves Master, see women as being inferior and need to sort of educated them. Also during the course of my life I've come across any men who feel its their duty to educate women, tell them where they're going wrong and advise them on life. I met a guy on a residential work course once who thought he was being helpful when he told me that if I wore more make up a lot more men would be interested in me. "See, that's because of that shit^ Alien won't visit us ! | |||
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"The men who actually enjoy a relationship on equal terms with a woman are few and far between. Many struggle if a woman is their intellectual and social equal and see it as a challenge to their masculinity. That's very true, and I've been wondering if bdsm is an extend to and surely not a reality, but if the men who call themselves Master, see women as being inferior and need to sort of educated them. In some cases I'm sure that's true. However for some being able to give over control to someone you love, trust and are an equal with is a great way to relax and very exciting. As an aside I never have and never would call any man master.
Oh yes giving yourself to someone you trust and built a relationship with is totally different than giving yourself to any strangers who want to become your master
I am always be interested in the sub/master dynamic from a point of power, its symbolism and the significance of it.
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"I would like to think I'm a strong, independent confident woman
it would be nice to think on this say an age that as a society we produce strong indipendant women."Yeah. Who was that fucking Bouddica anyway? | |||
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"Well I've found a lot of rude women call themselves independent etc, actually they're just rude. Independent, strong minded etc is wonderful " Rude is such an arsey word. Always makes me laugh. It's very subjective. What does someone have to do to be called rude ? | |||
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"The men who actually enjoy a relationship on equal terms with a woman are few and far between. Many struggle if a woman is their intellectual and social equal and see it as a challenge to their masculinity. I completely agree with you. Men profess to seek and want strong, confident, independent woman but when faced with the reality they tend to baulk and feel intimidated instead! Shame really! It isn't entirely the fault of the men. Plenty of women play the "my hero" card and society still expects men to be the strong, silent type ready to take care of women." don't forget the modern principle that the metrosexial man is supposed to be the ultimate caring person a true 'Latte Papa'. now their is potentialy a conflict of interest. the conversation with the lads done although not mysognists many wanted to be in relationships where they felt like they were in control or could best help the household, many saying that was their preference for younger women so they felt more mature and as a result. another had the opposit problem him splendid more time with hiskids taking paternal leave made her feel like her of a mother was getting challenged. personally I would not be comfortable in a relationship where I had full control. there is something wrong almost abusive about relationships like that and I would be disappointed immensly with myself if I ever was. | |||
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"The men who actually enjoy a relationship on equal terms with a woman are few and far between. Many struggle if a woman is their intellectual and social equal and see it as a challenge to their masculinity. I completely agree with you. Men profess to seek and want strong, confident, independent woman but when faced with the reality they tend to baulk and feel intimidated instead! Shame really! It isn't entirely the fault of the men. Plenty of women play the "my hero" card and society still expects men to be the strong, silent type ready to take care of women. don't forget the modern principle that the metrosexial man is supposed to be the ultimate caring person a true 'Latte Papa'. now their is potentialy a conflict of interest. the conversation with the lads done although not mysognists many wanted to be in relationships where they felt like they were in control or could best help the household, many saying that was their preference for younger women so they felt more mature and as a result. another had the opposit problem him splendid more time with hiskids taking paternal leave made her feel like her of a mother was getting challenged. personally I would not be comfortable in a relationship where I had full control. there is something wrong almost abusive about relationships like that and I would be disappointed immensly with myself if I ever was." In my opinion the best relationship is one in which each person is happy with their role and supports each other within it. I'm not concerned if other people have a relationship in which the woman is subordinate to the man as long as both are happy that way. I just don't like it when people assume all male/female relationships should follow that pattern. The traditional roles are being renegotiated and its difficult for all genders in wider society but it's possible to negotiate within one to one relationships. I only refer to male/female relationships because those are what the discussion is about, I'm sure similar struggles occur within same sex relationships. | |||
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"Well I've found a lot of rude women call themselves independent etc, actually they're just rude. Independent, strong minded etc is wonderful Rude is such an arsey word. Always makes me laugh. It's very subjective. What does someone have to do to be called rude ?" it's all a matter of perspective and a certain amount of stetiotype. I have been in conversations with women from Essex taking about Essex women there is a perceptuon it would and theses are not my opinion so I hope this doing open me up to broardside but the perception that Essex Women have a high opinion of themselves. "why would I want to talk to you, stand in the corner don't dance to this song its embarising. stare her up and down screw your face not interested. we are aquantences not freinds so wont talk to you". etc | |||
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"Well I've found a lot of rude women call themselves independent etc, actually they're just rude. Independent, strong minded etc is wonderful Rude is such an arsey word. Always makes me laugh. It's very subjective. What does someone have to do to be called rude ? it's all a matter of perspective and a certain amount of stetiotype. I have been in conversations with women from Essex taking about Essex women there is a perceptuon it would and theses are not my opinion so I hope this doing open me up to broardside but the perception that Essex Women have a high opinion of themselves. "why would I want to talk to you, stand in the corner don't dance to this song its embarising. stare her up and down screw your face not interested. we are aquantences not freinds so wont talk to you". etc" its a similar thing all perspective and stereotypes abd stigmas. | |||
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