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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Positive thought type threads are cool and there's plenty who do a wonderful job with them, but sometimes you just need a little wallow in your own woes, if only to realise how lucky you are. With that in mind, wallow away...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's an interesting article on Heleo called:

"Embrace Authenticity: How to Break Free from the Tyranny of Positivity"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's an interesting article on Heleo called:

"Embrace Authenticity: How to Break Free from the Tyranny of Positivity"

"

PMSL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's an interesting article on Heleo called:

"Embrace Authenticity: How to Break Free from the Tyranny of Positivity"

PMSL "

I can recommend some incontinence underwear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is important to give voice and legitimacy to all feelings. It's as unnatural to be happy all the time as it is to be miserable x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I agree. Relentless positivity can be patronising and dismissive of people's very real problems. Sometimes we all need to have it acknowledged that at that moment in time life is rubbish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's an interesting article on Heleo called:

"Embrace Authenticity: How to Break Free from the Tyranny of Positivity"

PMSL

I can recommend some incontinence underwear "

Thanks, is there an interesting article about them

in Prima magazine ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore"

Sometimes you're the pigeon.

Sometimes you're the statue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's an interesting article on Heleo called:

"Embrace Authenticity: How to Break Free from the Tyranny of Positivity"

PMSL

I can recommend some incontinence underwear

Thanks, is there an interesting article about them

in Prima magazine ? "

I don't know, I've never read Prima

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore"

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

Hang on.....I read Facebook, there's loads of people with perfect lives on there.....cheer up and get on facebook, everything will soon appear better....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's an interesting article on Heleo called:

"Embrace Authenticity: How to Break Free from the Tyranny of Positivity"

PMSL

I can recommend some incontinence underwear

Thanks, is there an interesting article about them

in Prima magazine ?

I don't know, I've never read Prima "

You should, its full of very interesting articles about very interesting subjects, it is very interesting , I highly recommend you read their very interesting articles

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"There's an interesting article on Heleo called:

"Embrace Authenticity: How to Break Free from the Tyranny of Positivity"

PMSL "

That tena moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's an interesting article on Heleo called:

"Embrace Authenticity: How to Break Free from the Tyranny of Positivity"

PMSL

I can recommend some incontinence underwear

Thanks, is there an interesting article about them

in Prima magazine ?

I don't know, I've never read Prima

You should, its full of very interesting articles about very interesting subjects, it is very interesting , I highly recommend you read their very interesting articles "

That tells me all I need to know! Anyway, let's not take a thread off topic just because you want to interact with me.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore"

Perfect

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need this today.

Feeling rather deflated after a terrible week at work and a sporting injury that's threatening the very thing that's defined my whole life up to now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“I didn’t bounce, I coughed,” said Tigger crossly.

“Bouncy or coffy, it’s all the same at the bottom of the river.

(Eeyore), A.A. Milne, The House at Pooh Corner

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon


" sporting injury that's threatening the very thing that's defined my whole life up to now.

"

That's not good.....hope all gets resolved positively.

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe

Yep been a shitty week for me prob not gonna see gf for months now shes got personal issues to deal with im feeling low myself ;(

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Positive thought type threads are cool and there's plenty who do a wonderful job with them, but sometimes you just need a little wallow in your own woes, if only to realise how lucky you are. With that in mind, wallow away..."

Yes most of us go through challenging times in our lives at some stages and to varying degrees.

Its one of the things in life that shapes us as an individual.

Sometimes its difficult to see the lighg at the end of the tunnel?

But believe me there is light and things will work out the way they are meant to.

Its hard to realise that when you are in the midst of it though.

All I can say is try and keep positive as everything will wogk out in the end.

May not seem like it but it will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore"

that needs to be printed on a mug!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in that deflated spot at the moment. Questioning myself and the path I've chosen, long periods of inactivity to reflect, sleepless nights.

Kicks up my fat arse would be useful about now

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Newton Stewart


"Positive thought type threads are cool and there's plenty who do a wonderful job with them, but sometimes you just need a little wallow in your own woes, if only to realise how lucky you are. With that in mind, wallow away..."

Yep, some days you wake up you and can't even be bothered to chew through the restraining straps...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I didn't anticipate this sort of response; I thought I was just been a bit of a miserable bugger .

That said, thank you, there's been some fabulous and sad responses so far.

I so very nearly typed something positive, but fuck that, wallow, embrace and reassess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Positive thought type threads are cool and there's plenty who do a wonderful job with them, but sometimes you just need a little wallow in your own woes, if only to realise how lucky you are. With that in mind, wallow away...

Yes most of us go through challenging times in our lives at some stages and to varying degrees.

Its one of the things in life that shapes us as an individual.

Sometimes its difficult to see the lighg at the end of the tunnel?

But believe me there is light and things will work out the way they are meant to.

Its hard to realise that when you are in the midst of it though.

All I can say is try and keep positive as everything will wogk out in the end.

May not seem like it but it will.

"

That drives me mad. You can't predict the future. You have no idea if things will work out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's an interesting article on Heleo called:

"Embrace Authenticity: How to Break Free from the Tyranny of Positivity"

"

I don't suppose you have a link you send me, please?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is important to give voice and legitimacy to all feelings. It's as unnatural to be happy all the time as it is to be miserable x"

Thank bloody buggery for that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore"

Now you're on my level. When I'm in Tigger mode I must be a bloody nightmare to be around. However, when in Eeyore mode, I often annoy myself. Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Positive thought type threads are cool and there's plenty who do a wonderful job with them, but sometimes you just need a little wallow in your own woes, if only to realise how lucky you are. With that in mind, wallow away...

Yes most of us go through challenging times in our lives at some stages and to varying degrees.

Its one of the things in life that shapes us as an individual.

Sometimes its difficult to see the lighg at the end of the tunnel?

But believe me there is light and things will work out the way they are meant to.

Its hard to realise that when you are in the midst of it though.

All I can say is try and keep positive as everything will wogk out in the end.

May not seem like it but it will.

That drives me mad. You can't predict the future. You have no idea if things will work out. "

Without sounding too morose, the light at the end of my tunnel is death

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's an interesting article on Heleo called:

"Embrace Authenticity: How to Break Free from the Tyranny of Positivity"

I don't suppose you have a link you send me, please?"

Will PM

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree. Relentless positivity can be patronising and dismissive of people's very real problems. Sometimes we all need to have it acknowledged that at that moment in time life is rubbish."

Yes, this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore

Now you're on my level. When I'm in Tigger mode I must be a bloody nightmare to be around. However, when in Eeyore mode, I often annoy myself. Thank you."

When I'm in Pooh mode I want to stuff myself silly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Positive thought type threads are cool and there's plenty who do a wonderful job with them, but sometimes you just need a little wallow in your own woes, if only to realise how lucky you are. With that in mind, wallow away...

Yes most of us go through challenging times in our lives at some stages and to varying degrees.

Its one of the things in life that shapes us as an individual.

Sometimes its difficult to see the lighg at the end of the tunnel?

But believe me there is light and things will work out the way they are meant to.

Its hard to realise that when you are in the midst of it though.

All I can say is try and keep positive as everything will wogk out in the end.

May not seem like it but it will.

That drives me mad. You can't predict the future. You have no idea if things will work out. "

Things do work themselves out though in the end.

At the time you think how on earth you can carry on ? But you'll be suprised at how you manage to adapt and cope to the changes that life sometimes brings you?

Good and bad.

Thats what I meant.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Without sounding too morose, the light at the end of my tunnel is death "

With no chink visible before that? Bugger...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Outwardly positive yet internally pessimistic sometimes and then vice versa seems to my modus operandi. But then I am an awkward sod

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Now you're on my level. When I'm in Tigger mode I must be a bloody nightmare to be around. However, when in Eeyore mode, I often annoy myself. Thank you.

When I'm in Pooh mode I want to stuff myself silly. "

Yes, this is my 'normal' middle ground too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have Faith

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Outwardly positive yet internally pessimistic sometimes and then vice versa seems to my modus operandi. But then I am an awkward sod "

Oh I get that. Sometimes that's the necessary Band Aid.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Things do work themselves out though in the end.

At the time you think how on earth you can carry on ? But you'll be suprised at how you manage to adapt and cope to the changes that life sometimes brings you?

Good and bad.

Thats what I meant."

Wallow dammit

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore

Sometimes you're the pigeon.

Sometimes you're the statue."

More Mr Alleycat level stuff here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Things do work themselves out though in the end.

At the time you think how on earth you can carry on ? But you'll be suprised at how you manage to adapt and cope to the changes that life sometimes brings you?

Good and bad.

Thats what I meant.

Wallow dammit "

Lol

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

I was feeling quiet chipper, need to get out of this post

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hang on.....I read Facebook, there's loads of people with perfect lives on there.....cheer up and get on facebook, everything will soon appear better.... "

You mean more selfies really could be the answer?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was feeling quiet chipper, need to get out of this post "

Sorry, shoo, go be cheerful

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I need this today.

Feeling rather deflated after a terrible week at work and a sporting injury that's threatening the very thing that's defined my whole life up to now.

"

Well that is shit! However, these things do need to be embraced. As silly as it can seem, relatively, the reaction to that sort of injury can be akin to the traditional grieving process. If it is a worse case scenario acknowledge this and work through it accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"“I didn’t bounce, I coughed,” said Tigger crossly.

“Bouncy or coffy, it’s all the same at the bottom of the river.

(Eeyore), A.A. Milne, The House at Pooh Corner"

Fabulous, but stop trying to cheer me up for goodness sake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its my birthday & the time of the month, also payday & im still as skint as yesterday.& to top it off iv no car because iv stupidly let my brother it as his is in for repair ooooo woo is me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore

Now you're on my level. When I'm in Tigger mode I must be a bloody nightmare to be around. However, when in Eeyore mode, I often annoy myself. Thank you."

I'm exactly the same. In fact I've been known to drive people away in both modes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hang on.....I read Facebook, there's loads of people with perfect lives on there.....cheer up and get on facebook, everything will soon appear better....

You mean more selfies really could be the answer?"

Only if you duck face pout, or stick your tongue out. A combination of both may cause you to spontaneously combust. So be careful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yep been a shitty week for me prob not gonna see gf for months now shes got personal issues to deal with im feeling low myself ;( "

Embrace, dissemnite, reassess. Of course, at many point in that process you should feel free to shout and swear under control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its my birthday & the time of the month, also payday & im still as skint as yesterday.& to top it off iv no car because iv stupidly let my brother it as his is in for repair ooooo woo is me "

You need to start learning how to say NO

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm exactly the same. In fact I've been known to drive people away in both modes "

That was actually at the tip of my fingers. Glad (not really) I'm not the only one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm in that deflated spot at the moment. Questioning myself and the path I've chosen, long periods of inactivity to reflect, sleepless nights.

Kicks up my fat arse would be useful about now "

Well get yourself bent over then (you know what I mean )

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That drives me mad. You can't predict the future. You have no idea if things will work out. "

Yep, sometimes shit just sticks...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is important to give voice and legitimacy to all feelings. It's as unnatural to be happy all the time as it is to be miserable x"

Exactly this, plus dropping the pretence of a wonderful life gives others the chance to admit their struggles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Only if you duck face pout, or stick your tongue out. A combination of both may cause you to spontaneously combust. So be careful."

I may have to ask one of my teenage kids to decipher that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"its my birthday & the time of the month, also payday & im still as skint as yesterday.& to top it off iv no car because iv stupidly let my brother it as his is in for repair ooooo woo is me "

Well doesn't that simply suck... wallow away!

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon


"Hang on.....I read Facebook, there's loads of people with perfect lives on there.....cheer up and get on facebook, everything will soon appear better....

You mean more selfies really could be the answer?"

Not looking like I do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hang on.....I read Facebook, there's loads of people with perfect lives on there.....cheer up and get on facebook, everything will soon appear better....

You mean more selfies really could be the answer?

Not looking like I do "

There you go, you're embracing the wallow. That's the spirit

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is important to give voice and legitimacy to all feelings. It's as unnatural to be happy all the time as it is to be miserable x

Exactly this, plus dropping the pretence of a wonderful life gives others the chance to admit their struggles."

Yes, and that can literally be a lifesaver sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore

that needs to be printed on a mug! "

I might do that. Any orders?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore

that needs to be printed on a mug!

I might do that. Any orders? "

Yes. Can it have fuck off and die printed on the other side? Depending how pragmatic i'm feeling.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore

that needs to be printed on a mug!

I might do that. Any orders?

Yes. Can it have fuck off and die printed on the other side? Depending how pragmatic i'm feeling."

Or, for discretion, on the underside. I'll take two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore

that needs to be printed on a mug!

I might do that. Any orders?

Yes. Can it have fuck off and die printed on the other side? Depending how pragmatic i'm feeling."

Yes it can. Although I haven't checked T&Cs so if I'm banned from Vistaprint you won't be getting a mug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need this today.

Feeling rather deflated after a terrible week at work and a sporting injury that's threatening the very thing that's defined my whole life up to now.

Well that is shit! However, these things do need to be embraced. As silly as it can seem, relatively, the reaction to that sort of injury can be akin to the traditional grieving process. If it is a worse case scenario acknowledge this and work through it accordingly."

You're spot on with that, I am in denial.

Finding it very hard to move on, training, playing and recovery have been life for as long as I can remember now.

Everything else fitted in around it and now there's a huge hole .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore

that needs to be printed on a mug!

I might do that. Any orders?

Yes. Can it have fuck off and die printed on the other side? Depending how pragmatic i'm feeling.

Yes it can. Although I haven't checked T&Cs so if I'm banned from Vistaprint you won't be getting a mug "

Can't you paint it on with tippex? I've had two massive dissapointments on here today and i'm alternating between a burning rage with the desire to rub deep heat on their bollocks and sadness.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Meh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're spot on with that, I am in denial.

Finding it very hard to move on, training, playing and recovery have been life for as long as I can remember now.

Everything else fitted in around it and now there's a huge hole .

"

And so an important part of the process that you'll hopefully find yourself working through in the future will involve finding ways to reallocate your time and energy. For now though it's okay to feel a bit shit.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"There's an interesting article on Heleo called:

"Embrace Authenticity: How to Break Free from the Tyranny of Positivity"

"

I like this thought:

"One is stepping out of our emotions. It’s important to recognize that our emotions contain data. I’ve never met a mother who’s feeling guilty about her parenting who, at some level, isn’t wanting to be present and connected with her children. Our difficult emotions [point] to the things that we value.

Instead of struggling with whether we should or shouldn’t feel something, it’s important for us to say, “What is the function of this emotion? What is the value? What is this emotion trying to tell me?”

And this:

"One of the most beautiful embodiments of emotional agility comes from Viktor Frankl, who survived the Nazi death camps. The idea that’s attributed to him is this: “between stimulus and response there is a space, and in that space is our power to choose, and it’s in that choice that comes our growth and freedom.” So often, we get hooked by our emotions and thoughts. We treat them as fact, so there’s no space between the stimulus and response."

Emotions should be owned and expressed - but in an adult way, not as if a controlled child.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Meh"

That's the spirit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" sporting injury that's threatening the very thing that's defined my whole life up to now.

That's not good.....hope all gets resolved positively. "

Cheers bud

Sympathy wasn't what I was looking for but is welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's an interesting article on Heleo called:

"Embrace Authenticity: How to Break Free from the Tyranny of Positivity"

I like this thought:

"One is stepping out of our emotions. It’s important to recognize that our emotions contain data. I’ve never met a mother who’s feeling guilty about her parenting who, at some level, isn’t wanting to be present and connected with her children. Our difficult emotions [point] to the things that we value.

Instead of struggling with whether we should or shouldn’t feel something, it’s important for us to say, “What is the function of this emotion? What is the value? What is this emotion trying to tell me?”

And this:

"One of the most beautiful embodiments of emotional agility comes from Viktor Frankl, who survived the Nazi death camps. The idea that’s attributed to him is this: “between stimulus and response there is a space, and in that space is our power to choose, and it’s in that choice that comes our growth and freedom.” So often, we get hooked by our emotions and thoughts. We treat them as fact, so there’s no space between the stimulus and response."

Emotions should be owned and expressed - but in an adult way, not as if a controlled child.

"

It's good isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's an interesting article on Heleo called:

"Embrace Authenticity: How to Break Free from the Tyranny of Positivity"

I like this thought:

"One is stepping out of our emotions. It’s important to recognize that our emotions contain data. I’ve never met a mother who’s feeling guilty about her parenting who, at some level, isn’t wanting to be present and connected with her children. Our difficult emotions [point] to the things that we value.

Instead of struggling with whether we should or shouldn’t feel something, it’s important for us to say, “What is the function of this emotion? What is the value? What is this emotion trying to tell me?”

And this:

"One of the most beautiful embodiments of emotional agility comes from Viktor Frankl, who survived the Nazi death camps. The idea that’s attributed to him is this: “between stimulus and response there is a space, and in that space is our power to choose, and it’s in that choice that comes our growth and freedom.” So often, we get hooked by our emotions and thoughts. We treat them as fact, so there’s no space between the stimulus and response."

Emotions should be owned and expressed - but in an adult way, not as if a controlled child.

"

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore

that needs to be printed on a mug!

I might do that. Any orders?

Yes. Can it have fuck off and die printed on the other side? Depending how pragmatic i'm feeling.

Yes it can. Although I haven't checked T&Cs so if I'm banned from Vistaprint you won't be getting a mug

Can't you paint it on with tippex? I've had two massive dissapointments on here today and i'm alternating between a burning rage with the desire to rub deep heat on their bollocks and sadness."

That's a very practical solution and I like it.

I hear you. I'm in almost the same hole and trying to build a ladder with ice lolly sticks to get out again.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

We all have our ups, we all have our downs, it's how we deal with them that defines us as individuals. Me? I just keep putting one foot in front of the other dealing with each hurdle in turn and invariably things work themselves out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can't you paint it on with tippex? I've had two massive dissapointments on here today and i'm alternating between a burning rage with the desire to rub deep heat on their bollocks and sadness."

Now this is a tricky one... opposite ends of the 'wallow spectrum', but perhaps both equally necessary?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We all have our ups, we all have our downs, it's how we deal with them that defines us as individuals. Me? I just keep putting one foot in front of the other dealing with each hurdle in turn and invariably things work themselves out."

That's a process that works for many. But what happens when things really go wrong? Many struggle with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore"

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon


"Hang on.....I read Facebook, there's loads of people with perfect lives on there.....cheer up and get on facebook, everything will soon appear better....

You mean more selfies really could be the answer?

Not looking like I do

There you go, you're embracing the wallow. That's the spirit "

Nah I'm happy looking like I do, saves a lot of bother and maintaining of standards.

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By *et-shortyMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"There's an interesting article on Heleo called:

"Embrace Authenticity: How to Break Free from the Tyranny of Positivity"

"
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Crikey, it's spreading

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

And so an important part of the process that you'll hopefully find yourself working through in the future will involve finding ways to reallocate your time and energy. For now though it's okay to feel a bit shit. "

Spot on again, thanks.

Is yours the Voice of experience ?

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

Yes all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's an interesting article on Heleo called:

"Embrace Authenticity: How to Break Free from the Tyranny of Positivity"

.

Crikey, it's spreading "

Crikey, do open a separate thread if you and other chappy want to continue trolling me all because I suggested you read something as means to getting an answer for your questions. There's a dear.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"We all have our ups, we all have our downs, it's how we deal with them that defines us as individuals. Me? I just keep putting one foot in front of the other dealing with each hurdle in turn and invariably things work themselves out.

That's a process that works for many. But what happens when things really go wrong? Many struggle with that."

We all do at times and in times like those when things get really extreme that's when help is needed...whether that be professionally or just a guiding hand of another...or even just taking some time out to be alone and wallow and reflect and work things through.

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over a year ago


"

And so an important part of the process that you'll hopefully find yourself working through in the future will involve finding ways to reallocate your time and energy. For now though it's okay to feel a bit shit.

Spot on again, thanks.

Is yours the Voice of experience ?"

In a roundabout way. There's a lot of sports psychology research on this and some great pointers on how to deal with it online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore

that needs to be printed on a mug!

I might do that. Any orders?

Yes. Can it have fuck off and die printed on the other side? Depending how pragmatic i'm feeling.

Yes it can. Although I haven't checked T&Cs so if I'm banned from Vistaprint you won't be getting a mug

Can't you paint it on with tippex? I've had two massive dissapointments on here today and i'm alternating between a burning rage with the desire to rub deep heat on their bollocks and sadness.

That's a very practical solution and I like it.

I hear you. I'm in almost the same hole and trying to build a ladder with ice lolly sticks to get out again."

Good luck my friend

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes all the time."

Embrace, process, reassess. If at any point that starts to falter ask for help

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We all do at times and in times like those when things get really extreme that's when help is needed...whether that be professionally or just a guiding hand of another...or even just taking some time out to be alone and wallow and reflect and work things through."

You put that perfectly, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very few people admit or accept that their life is "fine" all the time.

No one escapes the "FuckShit Life Reflections" at moments - and one solution doesn't fit all.

Most of the permanently positive ones, are masking elements of life, they dare not expose.

Yep, I too cop it now and again. I can hack the toughest crap (and yes I have) yet a series of little stupid elements, will cause me greater crap.

My solution, is to tough it out (however I choose to do that) & usually day later, I'm snapped out of it.

Whatever works for you, do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Can't you paint it on with tippex? I've had two massive dissapointments on here today and i'm alternating between a burning rage with the desire to rub deep heat on their bollocks and sadness.

That's a very practical solution and I like it.

I hear you. I'm in almost the same hole and trying to build a ladder with ice lolly sticks to get out again.

Good luck my friend "

Diolch cariad

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Very few people admit or accept that their life is "fine" all the time.

No one escapes the "FuckShit Life Reflections" at moments - and one solution doesn't fit all.

Most of the permanently positive ones, are masking elements of life, they dare not expose.

Yep, I too cop it now and again. I can hack the toughest crap (and yes I have) yet a series of little stupid elements, will cause me greater crap.

My solution, is to tough it out (however I choose to do that) & usually day later, I'm snapped out of it.

Whatever works for you, do it.

"

Yes! There is no one stop shop for overcoming what is thrown at you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't anticipate this sort of response; I thought I was just been a bit of a miserable bugger .

That said, thank you, there's been some fabulous and sad responses so far.

I so very nearly typed something positive, but fuck that, wallow, embrace and reassess. "

Not at all.

It's actually really good for your mental health to have the odd own day and recognise that it's life, we don't need to be happy and positive all the time!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"Meh

That's the spirit "

The only good spirit is vodka.

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over a year ago


"Meh

That's the spirit

The only good spirit is vodka. "

You don't want to see me with vodka inside me

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"Meh

That's the spirit

The only good spirit is vodka.

You don't want to see me with vodka inside me "

I don't get d*unk, I get awesome.

I'll balance you out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Not at all.

It's actually really good for your mental health to have the odd own day and recognise that it's life, we don't need to be happy and positive all the time! "

Yes! This ties in very well with some of the article Estella referred to. Understand what your emotional response means. Not immediately necessarily, but at some point. Been a 'Tigger' can be exhausting on so many levels.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Meh

That's the spirit

The only good spirit is vodka.

You don't want to see me with vodka inside me

I don't get d*unk, I get awesome.

I'll balance you out. "

You'd have to carry me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hang on.....I read Facebook, there's loads of people with perfect lives on there.....cheer up and get on facebook, everything will soon appear better.... "

Haha!

So true - that's exactly why I'm not on Bragbook- yawn!

And as for those constantly positive bouncy Disney fake people - they need slapping!

They're equally as draining as the whingers!

JUST BE REAL!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Haha!

So true - that's exactly why I'm not on Bragbook- yawn!

And as for those constantly positive bouncy Disney fake people - they need slapping!

They're equally as draining as the whingers!

JUST BE REAL!

"

You're supporting the systematic slapping of Eeyore and Tigger? Outrageous!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"Meh

That's the spirit

The only good spirit is vodka.

You don't want to see me with vodka inside me

I don't get d*unk, I get awesome.

I'll balance you out.

You'd have to carry me "

Fine. I'm like wonder woman lately

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Hang on.....I read Facebook, there's loads of people with perfect lives on there.....cheer up and get on facebook, everything will soon appear better....

Haha!

So true - that's exactly why I'm not on Bragbook- yawn!

And as for those constantly positive bouncy Disney fake people - they need slapping!

They're equally as draining as the whingers!

JUST BE REAL!

"

You need to get fucked, but in a good way

S

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"Hang on.....I read Facebook, there's loads of people with perfect lives on there.....cheer up and get on facebook, everything will soon appear better....

Haha!

So true - that's exactly why I'm not on Bragbook- yawn!

And as for those constantly positive bouncy Disney fake people - they need slapping!

They're equally as draining as the whingers!

JUST BE REAL!

"

Drink?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Haha!

So true - that's exactly why I'm not on Bragbook- yawn!

And as for those constantly positive bouncy Disney fake people - they need slapping!

They're equally as draining as the whingers!

JUST BE REAL!

You're supporting the systematic slapping of Eeyore and Tigger? Outrageous! "

She's turning me on though so let's not be too harsh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Haha!

So true - that's exactly why I'm not on Bragbook- yawn!

And as for those constantly positive bouncy Disney fake people - they need slapping!

They're equally as draining as the whingers!

JUST BE REAL!

You're supporting the systematic slapping of Eeyore and Tigger? Outrageous! "

Actually I am

And I'd especially like to punch Mickey Mouse in the face!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hang on.....I read Facebook, there's loads of people with perfect lives on there.....cheer up and get on facebook, everything will soon appear better....

Haha!

So true - that's exactly why I'm not on Bragbook- yawn!

And as for those constantly positive bouncy Disney fake people - they need slapping!

They're equally as draining as the whingers!

JUST BE REAL!

You need to get fucked, but in a good way

S"

I so do!

Is it that obvious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hang on.....I read Facebook, there's loads of people with perfect lives on there.....cheer up and get on facebook, everything will soon appear better....

Haha!

So true - that's exactly why I'm not on Bragbook- yawn!

And as for those constantly positive bouncy Disney fake people - they need slapping!

They're equally as draining as the whingers!

JUST BE REAL!

Drink? "

Yes please a bottle please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Haha!

So true - that's exactly why I'm not on Bragbook- yawn!

And as for those constantly positive bouncy Disney fake people - they need slapping!

They're equally as draining as the whingers!

JUST BE REAL!

You're supporting the systematic slapping of Eeyore and Tigger? Outrageous!

She's turning me on though so let's not be too harsh"

Lol shut it you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without tasting the bitter, one cannot appreciate the sweet

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By *unguya2zMan
over a year ago

coventry..ish

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over a year ago


"

Haha!

So true - that's exactly why I'm not on Bragbook- yawn!

And as for those constantly positive bouncy Disney fake people - they need slapping!

They're equally as draining as the whingers!

JUST BE REAL!

You're supporting the systematic slapping of Eeyore and Tigger? Outrageous!

She's turning me on though so let's not be too harsh

Lol shut it you "

Make me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Positive thought type threads are cool and there's plenty who do a wonderful job with them, but sometimes you just need a little wallow in your own woes, if only to realise how lucky you are. With that in mind, wallow away..."

No. I actually feel good being positive and being around like minded. There's happiness and humour everywhere.

I only feel bummed out when I'm surrounded by miserable a-holes.

Go and wallow if you want to, but I'll be stood on the bar with Tequila in one hand and a microphone in the other.

Who wants to join me and enjoy life?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You'd have to carry me

Fine. I'm like wonder woman lately "

I'm sure we'll giggle about it if it ever happens

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over a year ago


"Positive thought type threads are cool and there's plenty who do a wonderful job with them, but sometimes you just need a little wallow in your own woes, if only to realise how lucky you are. With that in mind, wallow away...

No. I actually feel good being positive and being around like minded. There's happiness and humour everywhere.

I only feel bummed out when I'm surrounded by miserable a-holes.

Go and wallow if you want to, but I'll be stood on the bar with Tequila in one hand and a microphone in the other.

Who wants to join me and enjoy life? "

No thanks, I prefer not to spend time with people who namecall others like you just did, give me the periodic wallower who is empathetic andin touch with their emotions maturely than someone who's just rather rude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're supporting the systematic slapping of Eeyore and Tigger? Outrageous!

She's turning me on though so let's not be too harsh"

Weirdo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're supporting the systematic slapping of Eeyore and Tigger? Outrageous!

She's turning me on though so let's not be too harsh

Weirdo "

Harsh but fair sir. You have the measure of me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

You're supporting the systematic slapping of Eeyore and Tigger? Outrageous!

Actually I am

And I'd especially like to punch Mickey Mouse in the face!

"

Well Mickey is renowned for been a bit of a cunt so I get that. I could even hold while you slap him, but we're drifting wildly off topic here now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Without tasting the bitter, one cannot appreciate the sweet"

A very good point... thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're supporting the systematic slapping of Eeyore and Tigger? Outrageous!

She's turning me on though so let's not be too harsh

Weirdo

Harsh but fair sir. You have the measure of me"

There are so many places I could drift to now, but instead I will use the medium of the flirty eyes emoji in the stead of a 'man nod' emoji

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

No. I actually feel good being positive and being around like minded. There's happiness and humour everywhere.

I only feel bummed out when I'm surrounded by miserable a-holes.

Go and wallow if you want to, but I'll be stood on the bar with Tequila in one hand and a microphone in the other.

Who wants to join me and enjoy life? "

That's cool. However, some prefer to wallow, are able to process and overcome life's various pitfalls by doing so, so this probably isn't the best thread to celebrate your disposition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does indeed, I try to be positive but sometimes it seems like a bad run of luck is never ending. It can be hard to get back up and keep fighting. Sending hugs OP xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're supporting the systematic slapping of Eeyore and Tigger? Outrageous!

She's turning me on though so let's not be too harsh

Weirdo

Harsh but fair sir. You have the measure of me

There are so many places I could drift to now, but instead I will use the medium of the flirty eyes emoji in the stead of a 'man nod' emoji "

Oh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It does indeed, I try to be positive but sometimes it seems like a bad run of luck is never ending. It can be hard to get back up and keep fighting. Sending hugs OP xx

"

Oh hugs can be a wonderful antidote, thank you, but occasionally you just need to spend some time with yourself (no, not that), embrace the suck, process it and reassess the situation

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh "

Calm down... for this post, and this post only the flirty eyes are a 'man nod' substitute. After all, my use of weirdo wasn't necessarily negative

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Positive thought type threads are cool and there's plenty who do a wonderful job with them, but sometimes you just need a little wallow in your own woes, if only to realise how lucky you are. With that in mind, wallow away..."

I would say op its not life that grinds you down its normally the people you interact with that grind you down more so than life .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

regardless of what we go thru in life it gives us experience, we learn valuable lessons from the hard times, which if taken in the right spirit makes us better and stronger people.

Teachs us to show compassion and empathy towards others when they wade thru their sorrows, oft being able to help them along the way since we once trod the same path they are now treading...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got a broken elbow which is really painful but also I can't play with myself cos it's my playing hand!

Haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would say op its not life that grinds you down its normally the people you interact with that grind you down more so than life ."

That is very true, thank you. I'd respectfully argue that it's not the full reason, but it definitely contributes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"regardless of what we go thru in life it gives us experience, we learn valuable lessons from the hard times, which if taken in the right spirit makes us better and stronger people.

Teachs us to show compassion and empathy towards others when they wade thru their sorrows, oft being able to help them along the way since we once trod the same path they are now treading..."

Yes! It helps us develop and that can only be a good thing, eventually

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've got a broken elbow which is really painful but also I can't play with myself cos it's my playing hand!

Haha"

That's tragic... you shall henceforth be known as 'Queen Wallow'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore"

Love this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got a broken elbow which is really painful but also I can't play with myself cos it's my playing hand!

Haha"

What about:

YOU: I can't use my playing hand, shit.

YOU: Oh look, what's this other hand....

....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Positive thought type threads are cool and there's plenty who do a wonderful job with them, but sometimes you just need a little wallow in your own woes, if only to realise how lucky you are. With that in mind, wallow away..."

recognition of your negative side is important

.yet I do not want to stay too long mithering as it'll pull me in

I am of the give it some attention then move on kind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore

Love this "

Glad I've contributed something positive

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore

Love this

Glad I've contributed something positive "

That's enough positivity... wallow dammit!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've got a broken elbow which is really painful but also I can't play with myself cos it's my playing hand!

Haha

What about:

YOU: I can't use my playing hand, shit.

YOU: Oh look, what's this other hand....

.... "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Positive thought type threads are cool and there's plenty who do a wonderful job with them, but sometimes you just need a little wallow in your own woes, if only to realise how lucky you are. With that in mind, wallow away...

recognition of your negative side is important

.yet I do not want to stay too long mithering as it'll pull me in

I am of the give it some attention then move on kind "

Oh I get that. Everyone has their own approach but they all tend to focus on embrace, process and reassess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

You're supporting the systematic slapping of Eeyore and Tigger? Outrageous!

Actually I am

And I'd especially like to punch Mickey Mouse in the face!

Well Mickey is renowned for been a bit of a cunt so I get that. I could even hold while you slap him, but we're drifting wildly off topic here now "

Noooooo! I think it's absolutely on topic ...

We're talking about wallowing here- and I'd like to wallow in the FACT that Mickey Mouse is indeed a cunt!

He is almost as cunty as those overly happy people that want to send out positive vibes to miserable old women like me

Fuck Mickey and fuck the positivity crew!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore

Love this

Glad I've contributed something positive

That's enough positivity... wallow dammit!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore

Love this

Glad I've contributed something positive

That's enough positivity... wallow dammit!

"

That's a man nod in disguise, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore

Love this

Glad I've contributed something positive

That's enough positivity... wallow dammit!

That's a man nod in disguise, right?"

Of course

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Noooooo! I think it's absolutely on topic ...

We're talking about wallowing here- and I'd like to wallow in the FACT that Mickey Mouse is indeed a cunt!

He is almost as cunty as those overly happy people that want to send out positive vibes to miserable old women like me

Fuck Mickey and fuck the positivity crew!

"

You're absolutely right, and in that case wallow away you should

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes you're Tigger

Sometimes you're Eeyore

Love this

Glad I've contributed something positive

That's enough positivity... wallow dammit!

That's a man nod in disguise, right?

Of course "

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By *enetrate and CelebrateWoman
over a year ago

Horndean

My life should be converted into a film with the amount of ups and downs I've pulled through....now stuck in a completely differently situation ..

Who wants the easy ride when you can experience so much more pleasure over the bumps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My life should be converted into a film with the amount of ups and downs I've pulled through...."

Yeah it's like Forrest Gump.

It gave me very realistic expectations of what my life would be like...

Or it could be a horror film, where everyone I've ever pissed off in my life is stood there like zombies in my kitchen....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yeah it's like Forrest Gump.

It gave me very realistic expectations of what my life would be like...

Or it could be a horror film, where everyone I've ever pissed off in my life is stood there like zombies in my kitchen...."

That's a grizzly thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

until you've been through hell

really and trust me I have

don't question happiness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Christ alive

can someone ELSE comment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Christ alive

can someone ELSE comment?"

"So it does!" said Pooh. "It goes in!"

"So it does!" said Piglet. "And it comes out!"

"Doesn't it?" said Eeyore. "It goes in and out like anything."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Christ alive

can someone ELSE comment?

"So it does!" said Pooh. "It goes in!"

"So it does!" said Piglet. "And it comes out!"

"Doesn't it?" said Eeyore. "It goes in and out like anything."

"

snore

I'm alive said pooh

no

you're not said eeyore

you're talking shit in your sleep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Christ alive

can someone ELSE comment?

"So it does!" said Pooh. "It goes in!"

"So it does!" said Piglet. "And it comes out!"

"Doesn't it?" said Eeyore. "It goes in and out like anything."

snore

I'm alive said pooh

no

you're not said eeyore

you're talking shit in your sleep"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it does some time but you got to live with it these days

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Christ alive

can someone ELSE comment?"

Carry on... I'm learning all the time and I like your insights. Nearly as much as the Pooh insights, but hey, insights are insights.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Christ alive

can someone ELSE comment?

Carry on... I'm learning all the time and I like your insights. Nearly as much as the Pooh insights, but hey, insights are insights."

there will come a time when this insight will be overcome by the biggest insight...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" lots of people talk to animals .. not so many listen that's the problem "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Christ alive

can someone ELSE comment?

Carry on... I'm learning all the time and I like your insights. Nearly as much as the Pooh insights, but hey, insights are insights.

there will come a time when this insight will be overcome by the biggest insight..."

Death?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"" lots of people talk to animals .. not so many listen that's the problem "

"

Brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Christ alive

can someone ELSE comment?

Carry on... I'm learning all the time and I like your insights. Nearly as much as the Pooh insights, but hey, insights are insights.

there will come a time when this insight will be overcome by the biggest insight...

Death?"

ooh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Christ alive

can someone ELSE comment?

Carry on... I'm learning all the time and I like your insights. Nearly as much as the Pooh insights, but hey, insights are insights.

there will come a time when this insight will be overcome by the biggest insight...

Death?

ooh

"

Did I take a wrong turn? I mean, I wouldn't want this to get dark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Christ alive

can someone ELSE comment?

Carry on... I'm learning all the time and I like your insights. Nearly as much as the Pooh insights, but hey, insights are insights.

there will come a time when this insight will be overcome by the biggest insight...

Death?

ooh

Did I take a wrong turn? I mean, I wouldn't want this to get dark "

death I'm sure can bring clarity?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did I take a wrong turn? I mean, I wouldn't want this to get dark

death I'm sure can bring clarity?"

Well I don't suppose there's going to be much in the way of arguing with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did I take a wrong turn? I mean, I wouldn't want this to get dark

death I'm sure can bring clarity?

Well I don't suppose there's going to be much in the way of arguing with it "

you got to listen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got a broken elbow which is really painful but also I can't play with myself cos it's my playing hand!

Haha

What about:

YOU: I can't use my playing hand, shit.

YOU: Oh look, what's this other hand....

.... "

It doesn't feel as good lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did I take a wrong turn? I mean, I wouldn't want this to get dark

death I'm sure can bring clarity?

Well I don't suppose there's going to be much in the way of arguing with it

you got to listen "

Captive audience

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've got a broken elbow which is really painful but also I can't play with myself cos it's my playing hand!

Haha

What about:

YOU: I can't use my playing hand, shit.

YOU: Oh look, what's this other hand....

....

It doesn't feel as good lol"

Practice? Ir recruit replacements?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im gonna wallow - this year has been shit so far - most ofxmas/ january ill - still got a bit of a cough now - then some bother with family - i got a speeding ticket (ok that was my fault) and now as of yesterday i have a burst water something thats making my lawn gush onto to the pavement - think i want to run away

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By *ySweetLadyWoman
over a year ago

London


"Hang on.....I read Facebook, there's loads of people with perfect lives on there.....cheer up and get on facebook, everything will soon appear better.... "

That is why I hardly use FB nowadays. I got a bit tired of most of the people posting about their perfect lives which we all know it is not true as "perfect" does not exist as there is always room for improvement. Still, it was bringing me down (my own fault, I guess).

Life is full of ups and downs. We should enjoy the highs when they come and try to cope with the downs as well as we can.

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over a year ago


"im gonna wallow - this year has been shit so far - most ofxmas/ january ill - still got a bit of a cough now - then some bother with family - i got a speeding ticket (ok that was my fault) and now as of yesterday i have a burst water something thats making my lawn gush onto to the pavement - think i want to run away "

Wallow away. Embrace, process and reassess

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hang on.....I read Facebook, there's loads of people with perfect lives on there.....cheer up and get on facebook, everything will soon appear better....

That is why I hardly use FB nowadays. I got a bit tired of most of the people posting about their perfect lives which we all know it is not true as "perfect" does not exist as there is always room for improvement. Still, it was bringing me down (my own fault, I guess).

Life is full of ups and downs. We should enjoy the highs when they come and try to cope with the downs as well as we can."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

feeling a tad ground down this morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"feeling a tad ground down this morning

"

As Norman stanly fletcher used to say:

"Don't let the bastards grind you down"

Lovely bottom you have there harlot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"feeling a tad ground down this morning

As Norman stanly fletcher used to say:

"Don't let the bastards grind you down"

Lovely bottom you have there harlot

"

why thank you xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This still alive?

Very much a Tigger day today

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This still alive?

Very much a Tigger day today"

Just about I seem to have reached 'Pooh' level, which is nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"feeling a tad ground down this morning

"

Is it a general or overwhelming type of grind?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"feeling a tad ground down this morning

Is it a general or overwhelming type of grind?"

It's tiredness plus I'm so fed up of this world and people.

People are annoying me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh no tske a step back from the xoal face snd thibk what you want big picture wise and you'll often find theres a far simpler route

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