FabSwingers.com forum: How would you Feel

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

... knowing that someone you want to meet is going on other dates

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I wouldn't be bothered at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you asked them out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As in Fab world or normal? In Fab I'd be disappointed if they weren't!!

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

"... knowing that someone you want to meet is going on other dates"

Wrongly frustrated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't go there if you are already jealous before even meeting, it's stalkerish and will end in tears if you do meet. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd go out and get some dates for myself.obviously they aren't into me if dating other folk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... knowing that someone you want to meet is going on other dates"

are they going out for food?

'cause if there's food, I'm not happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dating or meeting?

Not bothered either way x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In normal dating world

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

If you mean on here lovely then I'm afraid it happens to all of us - and it's one of the harsh realities of fab!

If it's in the real world - talk to her!! Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's life I guess.....jealousy would indicate feelings....

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"... knowing that someone you want to meet is going on other dates

are they going out for food?

'cause if there's food, I'm not happy"

It's ok, it's "Two for Tuesday" at Domino's tonight...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I describe the picture.. asked a girl if she is free Saturday. She said no I'm going on a date Saturday and Sunday... LOL

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

We swing, we are on a swingers site. So not bothered in the slightest.

Xxxxx Suzi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I describe the picture.. asked a girl if she is free Saturday. She said no I'm going on a date Saturday and Sunday... LOL"

and you are on Fab

what am I missing here?

did I miss something?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's not to do with swinging. It's an actually real life date lol

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Wouldn't bother us as we don't see point of jealousy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I describe the picture.. asked a girl if she is free Saturday. She said no I'm going on a date Saturday and Sunday... LOL"

Pays to be a winner if you want her get out and get her. Prove yourself to be the better man. Be more presentable more attentive more of everything ofcourse be yourself tho x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I ain't jealous I just a bit off putting. Boot on the other foot sorry can't meet going on a date with a woman Saturday and Sunday. No girl would like that

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

Oh. I will leave this alone then and go back to chat and cam

xxxxx Suzi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there a specific reason you would expect her not to be dating?

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"... knowing that someone you want to meet is going on other dates"

Err, it's a swinging site? & just because you want to meet them doesn't mean its reciprocal. Even if it was & you arranged to meet in a weeks time & they met someone before then so what...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No I don't really care but it's the fact she came out with it its a bit off putting. Knowing she is having two dates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You win some you lose some.

That's life, at least that's what the people say.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

IT'S NOT TO DO WITH SWINGING LOL

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Looks like that boat has sailed me old China..

Go and see if you can find another boat to board or wait for that one to come back to port after she has done her cruise...

Dunno why I picked the nautical analogy, and I'm definitely not suggesting that she is off "cruising" this weekend and I even managed to avoid any reference to her offloading seamen....

Well, I think I got away with that...

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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depends who they're prioritising?

i don't think you should commit to one person straight away, ever. and not straight away.

but if someone was seeing me and prioritising other people i'd know how they actually feel about me and would lose interest. waste of time.

some people are just players anyway, also not relationship material, imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd think he's in demand and do my best to snap him up.

Then rub it in everyone's noses, when I do.

But, in reality, I would wait patiently in line for my turn.

What I would really do is, nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ummm...

It wouldn't bother me? I'll probably be doing the same lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's the fact she was honest and open like I should be like yeah cool have a good time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You shoukd have said "well put my name down for Monday - you've tried the rest now try the best" and walk off.

She'd either slap you or say ok.

Snooze you lose!

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"I describe the picture.. asked a girl if she is free Saturday. She said no I'm going on a date Saturday and Sunday... LOL"

Oh well, she's busy, date Sat & Sunday though, Hmmm...How do you know she likes you & would want a date?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I don't really care but it's the fact she came out with it its a bit off putting. Knowing she is having two dates"

As she hasn't offered an alternative date, I'm reading between the lines that she ain't interested......

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

If just dating in an open relationship or on fab - fine

If entered into an agreed monongamous relationship - not fine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Because she said she wants to but I would never be that open for me it's off putting. Say your busy

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

Tell her it doesn't matter because you've got nsa dates from fabswingers both nights so you're not free anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In normal dating world "

I'm normal dating world I'd probably be a bit miffed, on here I'd class it as a good escape as we're not looking to "date"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How shall I act now....

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"No I don't really care but it's the fact she came out with it its a bit off putting. Knowing she is having two dates"

She is being honest and also keeping her options open, and why not?

Do you think she might find it off putting if you told her you were a member here? It's not one rule for you and another for her you know!

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

"Because she said she wants to but I would never be that open for me it's off putting. Say your busy"

Maybe she's trying to make you jealous. Don't let her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shoulda got in there quicker, simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She is obviously not the woman for you then, so just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because she said she wants to but I would never be that open for me it's off putting. Say your busy"

Why is it off putting if you are also dating others or even meeting off here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Shoulda got in there quicker, simple.

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only met her yesterday hahaha. I just think it's off putting knowing she is going on two dates. Trust me women wouldn't like to know if a guy was dating trust me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"IT'S NOT TO DO WITH SWINGING LOL"

Someone from another site/in real world u like and you'd like to go on a date with?

If that's the case I'd say she's not that interested in you sorry.

If I was keeping my options open and liked you then I wouldn't tell u I was going on a date I'd say I was busy.

But the other side of it is I don't know the history between you two. She could be trying to make you jealous (if there's history)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Because she said she wants to but I would never be that open for me it's off putting. Say your busy

Why is it off putting if you are also dating others or even meeting off here? "
well she doesn't know that because I ain't stupid enough to bring it up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shoulda got in there quicker, simple.

only met her yesterday hahaha. I just think it's off putting knowing she is going on two dates. Trust me women wouldn't like to know if a guy was dating trust me "

Oh ignore the last part of my last reply then lol. Sorry I dont think she's that into you

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"How shall I act now...."

act how you feel like doing. don't be fake for someone you wanna meet. i think you wanna meet her still? not sure tbh.

you shouldn't expect anyone who uses the internet to meet people to be exclusive either, it's so easy not to be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The dates were lined up before we met randomly yesterday. What I'm saying is wouldn't you be put off if a guy said oh can't do Saturday got a date and on Sunday. Course you would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because she said she wants to but I would never be that open for me it's off putting. Say your busy

Why is it off putting if you are also dating others or even meeting off here? well she doesn't know that because I ain't stupid enough to bring it up lol"

But that doesn't change the fact that you are doing it!!! I don't get why it bothers you?

Or maybe she does know. You haven't exactly hidden your face and she could be on here..

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

So you're on a swingers site: that's ok, but a woman who's not a swinger going on a date, movies, dinner...you find that off putting...you couldn't make this shit up!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How shall I act now....

act how you feel like doing. don't be fake for someone you wanna meet. i think you wanna meet her still? not sure tbh.

you shouldn't expect anyone who uses the internet to meet people to be exclusive either, it's so easy not to be."
course I wanna meet her. But for me it's too open. Say your busy I don't wanna know if she has two dates lined up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shoulda got in there quicker, simple.

only met her yesterday hahaha. I just think it's off putting knowing she is going on two dates. Trust me women wouldn't like to know if a guy was dating trust me "

No I'd think he was a serial dater and it would put me off (been on and off dating sites for 5 years! Lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't bother me, not that I am looking for a date, but what he has planned before we even met is nothing to do with me at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The dates were lined up before we met randomly yesterday. What I'm saying is wouldn't you be put off if a guy said oh can't do Saturday got a date and on Sunday. Course you would "

I wouldn't be that bothered to be honest. I'll be far more interested in knowing if anything happens lol for my own records of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shoulda got in there quicker, simple.

only met her yesterday hahaha. I just think it's off putting knowing she is going on two dates. Trust me women wouldn't like to know if a guy was dating trust me "

judge not lest ye be judged

you're very old fashioned aren't you?

I'm sure you can move on seeing as you only met her yesterday

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyway cheers guys lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the fact she was honest and open like I should be like yeah cool have a good time lol"

You would rather date someone that lies to you??

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"How shall I act now....

act how you feel like doing. don't be fake for someone you wanna meet. i think you wanna meet her still? not sure tbh.

you shouldn't expect anyone who uses the internet to meet people to be exclusive either, it's so easy not to be.

course I wanna meet her. But for me it's too open. Say your busy I don't wanna know if she has two dates lined up "

tell her that then.

she might not appreciate being asked to be more discreet, i know i wouldn't as i enjoy being open, but at least she'll know whether to pursue anything else with you or not.

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

"... knowing that someone you want to meet is going on other dates

are they going out for food?

'cause if there's food, I'm not happy"

this is so me!

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen

"Shoulda got in there quicker, simple.

only met her yesterday hahaha. I just think it's off putting knowing she is going on two dates. Trust me women wouldn't like to know if a guy was dating trust me "

It really doesn't bother me unless we're dating exclusively...especially if we're talking about someone I met a day ago.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Shoulda got in there quicker, simple.

only met her yesterday hahaha. I just think it's off putting knowing she is going on two dates. Trust me women wouldn't like to know if a guy was dating trust me "

Speak for yourself I'm a cuck queen at heart

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Because she said she wants to but I would never be that open for me it's off putting. Say your busy"

Lie you mean ? Why should she tell lies ?

Men and rejection eh ..... ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks like that boat has sailed me old China..

Go and see if you can find another boat to board or wait for that one to come back to port after she has done her cruise...

Dunno why I picked the nautical analogy, and I'm definitely not suggesting that she is off "cruising" this weekend and I even managed to avoid any reference to her offloading seamen....

Well, I think I got away with that... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You shoukd have said "well put my name down for Monday - you've tried the rest now try the best" and walk off.

She'd either slap you or say ok.

Snooze you lose!"

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In normal dating world "

I'd drop them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In normal dating world

I'd drop them."
why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you're on a swingers site: that's ok, but a woman who's not a swinger going on a date, movies, dinner...you find that off putting...you couldn't make this shit up!

Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In normal dating world

I'd drop them. why"

My opinion OP they are playing the field and by the sounds of things your more of a wait for the right person kinda guy?? Maybe just diffrent methods of trying to find the to right person.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In normal dating world

I'd drop them.

why"

I'd take it as a hint that she's not interested. Like you inferred earlier in the thread, she could've said she was busy and been tactful about it.

However I've now read your later comment that you only met her yesterday and she already had the dates planned... So I would ask if she wanted to meet you for a date and if she said yes I'd ask to set a day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In normal dating world

I'd drop them.

why

I'd take it as a hint that she's not interested. Like you inferred earlier in the thread, she could've said she was busy and been tactful about it.

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cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're on here looking for sex but have issues that a single woman is going on a date?

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest and I'd respect the honesty

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I think if you're on a dating site you can expect her to BE dating unless, and until you have 'the conversation'! And don't forget dating can just mean 'meeting for the first time over a quick drink' - my dates very rarely get to a second date! Those plans would have been made before you met - I would say meet again when she's next free and if she doesn't suddenly become a lot more available at weekends then she's not that into you.

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

"The dates were lined up before we met randomly yesterday. What I'm saying is wouldn't you be put off if a guy said oh can't do Saturday got a date and on Sunday. Course you would "

For me it really wouldn't.

If they didn't suggest an alternative time to meet however, I wouldn't be asking again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The dates were lined up before we met randomly yesterday. What I'm saying is wouldn't you be put off if a guy said oh can't do Saturday got a date and on Sunday. Course you would "

It wouldn't bother me, because I don't judge people by the amount of dates they have.

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

"... knowing that someone you want to meet is going on other dates"
accept that she does not fancy you and move on!

Simples

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By *himp_KittenCouple
over a year ago

Preston

Can't say we see the issue, she's single and going on dates. She's already lined these dates up prior to you asking and has been completely honest about going on the dates?

Would you rather she say she's staying at home to pet the hamster only to find out she was fibbing and had actually gone on the dates?

Reading between the lines, and not wanting to crush your hopes and dreams (we probably will anyway), we'd say she's politely saying thanks for the offer but you're not my type.

There's plenty of fish in the sea, and if you're not into fishing try finding a woman to go on a date with... (please not it's all tongue in cheek and we hope you find someone who likes you as much as you like them)

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

If you mean fab meets then maybe you shouldn't be swinging if you can't handle them seeing other people.

If you mean dating in the outside world, then if she has a date with someone else you should have had the balls to ask her out earlier before someone else had the chance.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Shoulda got in there quicker, simple.

only met her yesterday hahaha. I just think it's off putting knowing she is going on two dates. Trust me women wouldn't like to know if a guy was dating trust me "

How do you know its with guys?

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"The dates were lined up before we met randomly yesterday. What I'm saying is wouldn't you be put off if a guy said oh can't do Saturday got a date and on Sunday. Course you would

For me it really wouldn't.

If they didn't suggest an alternative time to meet however, I wouldn't be asking again"

That's the one! Applies on here too..

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