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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do I approach the subject with my wife that I want to watch her please another guy...a big black dude would be goid?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

show her this thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

true but I'm trying to get it in conversations slowly as not to freak her out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sit down and have an adult conversation about your fantasies. If she's open to the idea...great.

If she says 'hell no' then drop it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sit down and have an adult conversation about your fantasies. If she's open to the idea...great.

If she says 'hell no' then drop it. "

Yes I think your right I would love her to try it...when d*unk she flirts with the idea x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe change your username given you have a veri?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's the worst time to discuss it. Do it when stone cold sober. Consent becomes very blurry when pissed.

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

"Sit down and have an adult conversation about your fantasies. If she's open to the idea...great.

If she says 'hell no' then drop it.

Yes I think your right I would love her to try it...when d*unk she flirts with the idea x"

Get her d*unk, have a d*unken conversation and when sober have it again but refer to the earlier d*unken chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her about fab lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That's the worst time to discuss it. Do it when stone cold sober. Consent becomes very blurry when pissed."

You're right I might have to bite the bullit and ask her sober hope she likes the idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't you think your user name is a bit erm ..... ironic OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"true but I'm trying to get it in conversations slowly as not to freak her out"

Show her a different thread and let her find this one herself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe change your username given you have a veri?"

Maybe change yours too then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe change your username given you have a veri?

Maybe change yours too then"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to her about it? If she's not keen on it then don't keep going on about it.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Roleplay it first and take it from there but just be patiant with it.took me a couple years to break the mrs into this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Roleplay it first and take it from there but just be patiant with it.took me a couple years to break the mrs into this."

Mate what was it like the first time you watched. Your wife with another guy

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's not a good idea to go on d*unken conversations. Sit down with her, tell her you love her and you want to share a fantasy with her. Ask her what her fantasies are and really listen, have a conversation.

What are your plans if she says no? How would you feel if she agrees to try it and refuses to do it again? How would you feel if she loves it and wants to keep doing it but you realise the fantasy is better than the reality? How will you respond when she asks why you feel she isn't enough for you?

Think all that through before the conversation starts and be prepared to talk it through many, many times.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Roleplay it first and take it from there but just be patiant with it.took me a couple years to break the mrs into this.

Mate what was it like the first time you watched. Your wife with another guy"
i was a little apprehensive as the ushall respose would be to attack lol.but it's awesome it's something I always new I wanted to try and if it was done behind my back I would gutted but it is a totally different felling being there and taking part fuck it even made me a lil bi haha but on the plus side the mrs now feels comfortable enough to watch me with women which is supprising but olso awesome

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

"Maybe change your username given you have a veri?"

How do you know he's not on here with his wife's consent ?

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"How do I approach the subject with my wife that I want to watch her please another guy...a big black dude would be goid?"

So you have a fb and a wife?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X"

I do have a FB and she wants to try another guy but I want my wife to do this as it would be more intimate

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X

I do have a FB and she wants to try another guy but I want my wife to do this as it would be more intimate"

Dose your wife know you have a fb?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X

I do have a FB and she wants to try another guy but I want my wife to do this as it would be more intimate

Dose your wife know you have a fb?"

Ok here goes the abuse....no she doesnt

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X

I do have a FB and she wants to try another guy but I want my wife to do this as it would be more intimate

Dose your wife know you have a fb?

Ok here goes the abuse....no she doesnt"

Dose your fb know you have a wife?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X

I do have a FB and she wants to try another guy but I want my wife to do this as it would be more intimate

Dose your wife know you have a fb?

Ok here goes the abuse....no she doesnt"

That isn't abuse, it's a straightforward question. If you would rather not answer it...don't.

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Dose your wife know you have a fb?"

Of course she does. That's why he's called Honestguy.

Sally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Opens popcorn and turns off tv....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

The guy has asked for advice on how to get his wife involved. Not comment on his personal circumstances.

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"The guy has asked for advice on how to get his wife involved. Not comment on his personal circumstances."

Where dose it say he wants his wife involved in swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X

I do have a FB and she wants to try another guy but I want my wife to do this as it would be more intimate"

I'm being serious ha ha, introduce them and let your fb tell your wife how awesome the swinging scene is.

Lay the whole truth out there on the table and see what happens.

Maybe your wife and fb will Marvin Gaye and get it on.

Eve. X

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"How do I approach the subject with my wife that I want to watch her please another guy...a big black dude would be goid?"

Dose your wife or fb know your on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X

I do have a FB and she wants to try another guy but I want my wife to do this as it would be more intimate

I'm being serious ha ha, introduce them and let your fb tell your wife how awesome the

swinging scene is.

Lay the whole truth out there on the table and see what happens.

Maybe your wife and fb will Marvin Gaye and get it on.

Eve. X"

Or I'll have to sit there in my motorbike helmet ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X

I do have a FB and she wants to try another guy but I want my wife to do this as it would be more intimate

I'm being serious ha ha, introduce them and let your fb tell your wife how awesome the swinging scene is.

Lay the whole truth out there on the table and see what happens.

Maybe your wife and fb will Marvin Gaye and get it on.

Eve. X"

Or file for divorce.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sit down and have an adult conversation about your fantasies. If she's open to the idea...great.

If she says 'hell no' then drop it.

Yes I think your right I would love her to try it...when d*unk she flirts with the idea x

Get her d*unk, have a d*unken conversation and when sober have it again but refer to the earlier d*unken chat

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X

I do have a FB and she wants to try another guy but I want my wife to do this as it would be more intimate

I'm being serious ha ha, introduce them and let your fb tell your wife how awesome the swinging scene is.

Lay the whole truth out there on the table and see what happens.

Maybe your wife and fb will Marvin Gaye and get it on.

Eve. X

Or file for divorce.

Hmmm, I guess that is a risk.

Eve. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd take her out and go clubbing, dare her to flirt after a few drinks, if she's up for it then maybe you can address your fantasy and take it further.

Also you can gauge your reaction of her flirting with other guys, you might hate it in which case it'll remain just a fantasy

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The guy has asked for advice on how to get his wife involved. Not comment on his personal circumstances.

Where dose it say he wants his wife involved in swinging? "

It doesn't. He wants to watch her with another guy ie get her involved with his fantasies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do I approach the subject with my wife that I want to watch her please another guy...a big black dude would be goid?

So you have a fb and a wife?"
and?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X

I do have a FB and she wants to try another guy but I want my wife to do this as it would be more intimate

Dose your wife know you have a fb?

Ok here goes the abuse....no she doesnt"
you don't have to answer to anyone on here! Xxx

When I was still with my ex and I wasn't able to statify him I suggested swinging to him so he could get sex when I could give it to him. But he was dead against it and it was one of the straws that broke the camel's back. See my cunt and brain is horny as hell but sadly my body says no.

I suggest talk to your wife but be prepared it could be a no and then be prepared for the disisions you may have to make about the path you want your life to go Down. You should do what's right for YOU. Ignore the naysayers on here they are not living your life you are. Best of luck PTU xxx

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"How do I approach the subject with my wife that I want to watch her please another guy...a big black dude would be goid?

So you have a fb and a wife? and? "

I'm not asking you I'm asking the op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do I approach the subject with my wife that I want to watch her please another guy...a big black dude would be goid?

So you have a fb and a wife? and?

I'm not asking you I'm asking the op "
yes and it's no of your business just like it's none of mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guy has asked for advice on how to get his wife involved. Not comment on his personal circumstances."

Ah but it's a red rag flying high to the baying bulls.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X

I do have a FB and she wants to try another guy but I want my wife to do this as it would be more intimate

Dose your wife know you have a fb?

Ok here goes the abuse....no she doesnt you don't have to answer to anyone on here! Xxx

Thank you so much for being honest, all I can say is my sex drive far outweighs my wife's and being on here just helps me. That's why I want my wife to play so I'm not being secretive but I need sex x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The guy has asked for advice on how to get his wife involved. Not comment on his personal circumstances.

Where dose it say he wants his wife involved in swinging?

It doesn't. He wants to watch her with another guy ie get her involved with his fantasies"

That's right I want my wife to be pleasured it would be her and me just watching. I feel bad now on here ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do I approach the subject with my wife that I want to watch her please another guy...a big black dude would be goid?"

Just tell her you want to watch her get fucked by a "big black dude", it's something I'd like to see happen with my mrs but her preference is white guys only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X

I do have a FB and she wants to try another guy but I want my wife to do this as it would be more intimate

Dose your wife know you have a fb?

Ok here goes the abuse....no she doesnt you don't have to answer to anyone on here! Xxx

Ok well like I've said it's none of our business what your circumstances are but I do advice you to chat to her. I'm not saying swinging would of saved my marriage as it was already dead but if he was getting sex he would of been less stressed and that would of taken a huge load off me. Xxx

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X

I do have a FB and she wants to try another guy but I want my wife to do this as it would be more intimate

Dose your wife know you have a fb?

Ok here goes the abuse....no she doesnt you don't have to answer to anyone on here! Xxx

You don't need see you want it.

I'm sure your wife would be understanding that you are on here and you have a fuck buddy that she is presumably unaware off.

Just talk to her, if she says no. It's a no. Your not exactly being honest with her at the moment though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guy has asked for advice on how to get his wife involved. Not comment on his personal circumstances.

Ah but it's a red rag flying high to the baying bulls."

I thought commenting on someone's profile unless relevant to the thread was against forum rules but it seems open season him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - would you really like it though ? Or is it a fantasy and if it really happened what would you think? If you came home and found her with someone ? Would it turn you on ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP - would you really like it though ? Or is it a fantasy and if it really happened what would you think? If you came home and found her with someone ? Would it turn you on ?

Agreeing to have an mmf (or at least watching your wife with someone ) and coming home to find your other half screwing someone aren't the same though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do I approach the subject with my wife that I want to watch her please another guy...a big black dude would be goid?"

She's your wife. I'd like to think you know her better than I do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do I approach the subject with my wife that I want to watch her please another guy...a big black dude would be goid?

She's your wife. I'd like to think you know her better than I do

xx"

I know you're right but it's tricky the wording of it, I can't just blurt it out over a roast dinner ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP - would you really like it though ? Or is it a fantasy and if it really happened what would you think? If you came home and found her with someone ? Would it turn you on ?

Agreeing to have an mmf (or at least watching your wife with someone ) and coming home to find your other half screwing someone aren't the same though "

I'd love to watch a guy really please her but together not something she would do on her own!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"How do I approach the subject with my wife that I want to watch her please another guy...a big black dude would be goid?

She's your wife. I'd like to think you know her better than I do

I know you're right but it's tricky the wording of it, I can't just blurt it out over a roast dinner ??"

No that's not a good idea. You need to sit down quietly when you've both got time.

There isn't any other way to do it than talking to her. You can't engineer it or trick her or make her think it was her idea. You need to have the courage of your convictions and open up to her. She's your wife, your life partner.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"How do I approach the subject with my wife that I want to watch her please another guy...a big black dude would be goid?"

Well my husband just came out with it. He said he would like to see me with another man. I was horrified that he would want to share me, but then we got talking about fantasies and thought we would move into the swinging scene. We had a few blips, initially, but the rest is history

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

Go on Jeremy Kyle.... Make a change for someone on there to say "my wife Won't sleep with other men" lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do I approach the subject with my wife that I want to watch her please another guy...a big black dude would be goid?

Same with us! I flipped and cried for a few weeks as I didn't feel good enough for Adam anymore.

However, he was patient and loving. We spoke about it extensively before deciding to try swinging.

Now I'm a nympho ha ha.

Eve x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the last couple of posts from couples has given you the best advice. Have an adult conversation with her and give her time to come round to the idea. If she doesn't then don't press the matter further. May be the best thing that's happened to you, may not. You know your wife more than us and I'm sure you'll respect her decision.

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

Be honest, like your profile name

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"How do I approach the subject with my wife that I want to watch her please another guy...a big black dude would be goid?

Same with us! I flipped and cried for a few weeks as I didn't feel good enough for Adam anymore.

However, he was patient and loving. We spoke about it extensively before deciding to try swinging.

Now I'm a nympho ha ha.

Eve x"

Hee hee. This is pretty much how I felt, Eve, but when I started to realise what fun we could have, together, it was pretty easy. Never turned into a nympho though!

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I think the last couple of posts from couples has given you the best advice. Have an adult conversation with her and give her time to come round to the idea. If she doesn't then don't press the matter further. May be the best thing that's happened to you, may not. You know your wife more than us and I'm sure you'll respect her decision."

Yes this, exactly! We're lucky, in that we can talk to each other about anything and you never know Op, she may like the idea! Good luck

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"How do I approach the subject with my wife that I want to watch her please another guy...a big black dude would be goid?

Same with us! I flipped and cried for a few weeks as I didn't feel good enough for Adam anymore.

However, he was patient and loving. We spoke about it extensively before deciding to try swinging.

Now I'm a nympho ha ha.

Eve x"

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X

I do have a FB and she wants to try another guy but I want my wife to do this as it would be more intimate

Dose your wife know you have a fb?

Ok here goes the abuse....no she doesnt you don't have to answer to anyone on here! Xxx

None of your business but your still having your say

None of us care about your situation, we are interested in the OP's thoughts

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X

I do have a FB and she wants to try another guy but I want my wife to do this as it would be more intimate

Dose your wife know you have a fb?

Ok here goes the abuse....no she doesnt you don't have to answer to anyone on here! Xxx

None of your business but your still having your say

None of us care about your situation, we are interested in the OP's thoughts "

To be honest maybe this has given me a wake up call about being selfish...maybe I should leave this site and approach my wife about it and only return if we both do!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X

I do have a FB and she wants to try another guy but I want my wife to do this as it would be more intimate

Dose your wife know you have a fb?

Ok here goes the abuse....no she doesnt you don't have to answer to anyone on here! Xxx

None of your business but your still having your say

None of us care about your situation, we are interested in the OP's thoughts

To be honest maybe this has given me a wake up call about being selfish...maybe I should leave this site and approach my wife about it and only return if we both do!!!"

sounds like a good plan to me

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X

I do have a FB and she wants to try another guy but I want my wife to do this as it would be more intimate

Dose your wife know you have a fb?

Ok here goes the abuse....no she doesnt you don't have to answer to anyone on here! Xxx

None of your business but your still having your say

None of us care about your situation, we are interested in the OP's thoughts

To be honest maybe this has given me a wake up call about being selfish...maybe I should leave this site and approach my wife about it and only return if we both do!!!"

I think it is definitely something worth talking to her about. She may surprise you and like the idea of swinging. As long as you have a sensitive and caring approach towards her, hopefully it will be a fruitful discussion

Good luck with it!

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X

I do have a FB and she wants to try another guy but I want my wife to do this as it would be more intimate

Dose your wife know you have a fb?

Ok here goes the abuse....no she doesnt you don't have to answer to anyone on here! Xxx

None of your business but your still having your say

None of us care about your situation, we are interested in the OP's thoughts

To be honest maybe this has given me a wake up call about being selfish...maybe I should leave this site and approach my wife about it and only return if we both do!!!"

Just be HONEST with her!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Introduce her to your FB and they can have a real nice chat about it all.

Eve. X

I do have a FB and she wants to try another guy but I want my wife to do this as it would be more intimate

Dose your wife know you have a fb?

Ok here goes the abuse....no she doesnt you don't have to answer to anyone on here! Xxx

None of your business but your still having your say

None of us care about your situation, we are interested in the OP's thoughts

To be honest maybe this has given me a wake up call about being selfish...maybe I should leave this site and approach my wife about it and only return if we both do!!!

Just be HONEST with her! "

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By *urious couple22Couple
over a year ago

Derby

I spoke to my Mrs as a fantasy as we was horny together and she didn't actually believe me to start with but it was best thing I did although I was very nurvers she would take it wrong way.

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