FabSwingers.com forum: Personal rejections.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So after ( for all you men who moan about non responses even a no thanks ) politely telling someone they're not my type I recieve a triad of personal abuse on a next message. Why do men( and possibly woman) do this? Is polite rejection on a site with thousands of people on it really that bad or worth it? Not everyone is going to be someone's type.

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By *-angel-XWoman
over a year ago

hell

I just did as well . Told me he is too good for me anyway. Wonder if the same bloke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Insecure, narcissistic egos which lead them to believe that the actions of other people are all personal.

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

Well it weren't me lady's. .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just did as well . Told me he is too good for me anyway. Wonder if the same bloke "

Same! My included the fact I was a whore and fat! Fat I'm a size 10. Hope they're plenty of anorexics on here to appease his appetite!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well it weren't me lady's. .

No it wasn't, and In Defence only one in 20ish act that way but still makes it hard all around, and then poor inocent people wonder why we just go block without the courtesy of a response.

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By *-angel-XWoman
over a year ago

hell

"I just did as well . Told me he is too good for me anyway. Wonder if the same bloke

Same! My included the fact I was a whore and fat! Fat I'm a size 10. Hope they're plenty of anorexics on here to appease his appetite! "

Omg lmao !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They probably can't get it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes rejection is hard to take by some people. But its the best way. Sorry to hear you got abuse for been truthful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just did as well . Told me he is too good for me anyway. Wonder if the same bloke

Same! My included the fact I was a whore and fat! Fat I'm a size 10. Hope they're plenty of anorexics on here to appease his appetite! "

Alot of guys use this as a way to hurt women once they have been rejected as they think alot of women are insecure about their weight. They think it will get in their heads. But I always looked at it like this.. if I am so fat that I am ugly to you then why did you message me in the first place. Must be a desperate lonely man to need to stoop to messaging me. (I mean I am a big girl but that is another story entirely)

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I think it's a lack of maturity and quite sad really.

I've heard women say that a guys been flirty chatty friendly when he's trying to get laid but when she says a polite no thank you she's all of a sudden fat and ugly and he wouldn't shag her anyway !!

I think it's brilliant that you ladies come on fab and would hate any to leave over personal abuse.

I've had it from couples and single women but I'm sure most are men pretending as I've never sent any message that deserves a nasty reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can't take rejection.

But you need to realise this and not let it get to you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just did as well . Told me he is too good for me anyway. Wonder if the same bloke

Same! My included the fact I was a whore and fat! Fat I'm a size 10. Hope they're plenty of anorexics on here to appease his appetite! "

That's usual response.I get called fat cow all the time if say no sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better still just delete it. You're never gonna meet them and no one owes anyone a explanation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's about finding the game xxx it helps to turn the anger / annoyance into something fun xx

Watch this asp it changed my outlook and overlayed it with everyday life and it makes a massive difference xx

Pay close attention to when he is talking about the car both times xx

You will understand xx

https://www.youtube.com/shared?ci=rArTJ_JkJ_c

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By *kgeminiMan
over a year ago

Southampton

On behalf of the real men on here, we apologise for the behaviour of the dick head wannabes.

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By *-angel-XWoman
over a year ago

hell

"I just did as well . Told me he is too good for me anyway. Wonder if the same bloke

Same! My included the fact I was a whore and fat! Fat I'm a size 10. Hope they're plenty of anorexics on here to appease his appetite!

I did actually reply and say yea Funny how you wanted to meet me until I said I didn't find you attractive lol .

Guys just because you may have fit bods sometimes you are not blessed with the face .... body from bay watch springs to mind plus an ugly personality !

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

I'm increasingly thinking I should just block all the people I say 'thanks, but no thanks' to - precisely to avoid the sort of immature and rude responses you've described. That .... and those who demand to know 'what's wrong', 'why not' or even 'what can I do to change your mind?'. Or, people who then repeat message you a few weeks later

It's always felt a bit 'off' to block people who've sent a polite message but some of those then reveal a different side, and I guess the genuine ones would understand you blocking them if nothing was ever going to happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't block them, because their abuse has zero impact on me, knowing as I do that it stems purely from their own feeling of inadequacy and has nothing to do with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's their problem at the end of the day, not yours! You did what you felt was right for you...who has the right to judge? None of us "like" rejection...it is human nature to want to be liked...but it shows who is the more mature of the two...the one who can say no thank you and stand by it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The empathetic sex are becoming less so, it seems. I don't mind rejection because no one else is the origin of my self worth, but l can definitely see why it can hurt, especially if it's en masse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On behalf of the real men on here, we apologise for the behaviour of the dick head wannabes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I find it easier just to ignore & bulk delete.

If I send a no thanks I very rarely enter into conversation as to my reasoning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So after ( for all you men who moan about non responses even a no thanks ) politely telling someone they're not my type I recieve a triad of personal abuse on a next message. Why do men( and possibly woman) do this? Is polite rejection on a site with thousands of people on it really that bad or worth it? Not everyone is going to be someone's type.

How could you!

Are you even aware that you have crushed his fragile male ego, it will take years for him to get over the fact you said no to him politely

At least the abuse you got reiterated why you didn't want to meet up with the guy.

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By *eviant and BemusedCouple
over a year ago

Burton

If you can't handle a polite 'no thank you' you shouldn't be on here. Anyone who sends abuse after being politely turned down is an entitled arse hole. They're basically a toddler throwing their toys because they want the pretty sparkly thing they've just seen NOW. Tough titty, no one owes you anything

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Report and block is the best option

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