FabSwingers.com forum: Advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Looking for your opinion would u say my profile clearly shows its a couples page or not as always get males thinking there speaking to a female straight away?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

They see the avatar and respond to that. Plus, it is a well know Fab FACT that men address their messages to the woman in the couple and alienate the male half.

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By *XmfcoupleXxCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Some men on here apparently can't read profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking for your opinion would u say my profile clearly shows its a couples page or not as always get males thinking there speaking to a female straight away?"

Think that's what you call male optomism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It says couple and you talk about both of you so it is clear to me. Unfortunately some men on here are a bit thick and give the rest of us a bad name. Mrs has a lovely arse btw.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So it does clearly show it's a couples page or do I have to change anything ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It reads as a couple's profile, but...

There's only one picture and it's of the woman (the pictures are often the first and last stop)

And

It's pretty standard in a couple's profile to get people addressing only the woman or man individually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people won't even read the profile and just look at the pictures... might be where the confusion comes from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking for your opinion would u say my profile clearly shows its a couples page or not as always get males thinking there speaking to a female straight away?"

Most of the profile sounds like it's the female writing , so they may think the female replies to messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It says couple and you talk about both of you so it is clear to me. Unfortunately some men on here are a bit thick and give the rest of us a bad name. Mrs has a lovely arse btw."

Cheers

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"So it does clearly show it's a couples page or do I have to change anything ?"

You could have an equal amout of male and female pics and say COUPLES PROFILE in capital letters...you will still get quite a few, not all, guys messaging you directly....it's the nature of the beast.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is there anything I can add or change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It says couple and you talk about both of you so it is clear to me. Unfortunately some men on here are a bit thick and give the rest of us a bad name. Mrs has a lovely arse btw.

Cheers"

Lmfao....suckered

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By *idan31Man
over a year ago

ashby

I'm guessing that Mrs wrote the profile .. plus that you only have two photos.. both of Mrs ... single guys are putting 2 and 2 together and aiming messages at the Mrs.

Ps great cleavage shot btw

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

I would say that as you state you want mmf with hubby watching most guys would aim the conversation at the female as that's who they need to impress as that's who they'll be getting jiggy with.

Also there are a few "I will" etc's this maybe further accentuates the impression the female is the one running the show & again is the one the guys need to impress.

Just how I see it anyway..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No I wrote it Mrs added bits on and pretty much all the pics are of the Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would say that as you state you want mmf with hubby watching most guys would aim the conversation at the female as that's who they need to impress as that's who they'll be getting jiggy with.

Also there are a few "I will" etc's this maybe further accentuates the impression the female is the one running the show & again is the one the guys need to impress.

Just how I see it anyway..

Hmmm I see ur point any advice on how to change that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*gives vacuous compliment*

*Puts down my male contemporaries to me me look better*

Will you suck me now?

*Rinse and repeat*

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I don't know OP. The others have covered it really. Profile seems like you have the reins, only pic of you and most men are straight.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"I would say that as you state you want mmf with hubby watching most guys would aim the conversation at the female as that's who they need to impress as that's who they'll be getting jiggy with.

Also there are a few "I will" etc's this maybe further accentuates the impression the female is the one running the show & again is the one the guys need to impress.

Just how I see it anyway..

Hmmm I see ur point any advice on how to change that "

I'd say where you can change I to we whether its relevant to hubby or not. Maybe knock off the him watching and discuss that in private once guys message, so that it looks like mmf with him partaking on the public profile.

Also the negative stuff about crap messages, easy to rewrite as "We" do not appreciate..but personally "We'd" lose it altogether

Hope this helps a little

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So it does clearly show it's a couples page or do I have to change anything ?

Cheers will try that bloody sick oh cock pics

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would say that as you state you want mmf with hubby watching most guys would aim the conversation at the female as that's who they need to impress as that's who they'll be getting jiggy with.

Also there are a few "I will" etc's this maybe further accentuates the impression the female is the one running the show & again is the one the guys need to impress.

Just how I see it anyway..

Hmmm I see ur point any advice on how to change that

Also the negative stuff about crap messages, easy to rewrite as "We" do not appreciate..but personally "We'd" lose it altogether

Hope this helps a little

Thanks will look into changing a few bits

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Probably 70% of messages will still be aimed at the Mrs though.

Maybe add that you are both on here & both read messages & any aimed at just one will automatically get binned.

Harsh but do you want to meet someone that can't be arsed to read a profile for two minutes??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would say that as you state you want mmf with hubby watching most guys would aim the conversation at the female as that's who they need to impress as that's who they'll be getting jiggy with.

Also there are a few "I will" etc's this maybe further accentuates the impression the female is the one running the show & again is the one the guys need to impress.

Just how I see it anyway..

Hmmm I see ur point any advice on how to change that

Also the negative stuff about crap messages, easy to rewrite as "We" do not appreciate..but personally "We'd" lose it altogether

Hope this helps a little

Thanks will look into changing a few bits "

Have taken ur advice and have changed a couple oh bits but suppose probly won't make a difference

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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago

Dorset

Our first impression is you have laid it out with the Mrs details first, and no male pics, don't expect single males to read all the way through, or sometimes ready it at all...lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Your choice of course but you only have pictures of the lady.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"So it does clearly show it's a couples page or do I have to change anything ?"

If you read it but a lot of men don't. The pics say female profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So it does clearly show it's a couples page or do I have to change anything ?

If you read it but a lot of men don't. The pics say female profile."

I'm not one for putting pics oh my cock up

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By *homCrownMan
over a year ago

West Fife

"They see the avatar and respond to that. Plus, it is a well know Fab FACT that men address their messages to the woman in the couple and alienate the male half.

I don't. ...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"So it does clearly show it's a couples page or do I have to change anything ?

If you read it but a lot of men don't. The pics say female profile.

I'm not one for putting pics oh my cock up "

There are other parts to your body?

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By *ollie1Couple
over a year ago

murcia spain

just wishful thinking on their part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking for your opinion would u say my profile clearly shows its a couples page or not as always get males thinking there speaking to a female straight away?"

It clearly shows itsy couples page but you might want to add a pic of Mr. I assume (& could be wrong) that men will go straight to pics xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So it does clearly show it's a couples page or do I have to change anything ?

If you read it but a lot of men don't. The pics say female profile.

I'm not one for putting pics oh my cock up

There are other parts to your body?"

I do see wat ur saying but is there any point as all we do at the moment is mmf or do i do it to show we are a couple?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Looking for your opinion would u say my profile clearly shows its a couples page or not as always get males thinking there speaking to a female straight away?

It clearly shows itsy couples page but you might want to add a pic of Mr. I assume (& could be wrong) that men will go straight to pics xx"

Starting to think I should add pics of me as ur not the first person to say that

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"There are other parts to your body?

I do see wat ur saying but is there any point as all we do at the moment is mmf or do i do it to show we are a couple?"

I'd say to show you're a couple.

Pictures speak and a lot of women discount single men because there are pics of women on their profiles.

I think we like the visual clues that tell us what something is

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"So it does clearly show it's a couples page or do I have to change anything ?

If you read it but a lot of men don't. The pics say female profile.

I'm not one for putting pics oh my cock up

There are other parts to your body?"

I agree with this.

Pictures of your chest, your bum, your torso.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are other parts to your body?

I do see wat ur saying but is there any point as all we do at the moment is mmf or do i do it to show we are a couple?

I'd say to show you're a couple.

Pictures speak and a lot of women discount single men because there are pics of women on their profiles.

I think we like the visual clues that tell us what something is

Ok thanks I will look into taking pics

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"So it does clearly show it's a couples page or do I have to change anything ?

If you read it but a lot of men don't. The pics say female profile.

I'm not one for putting pics oh my cock up

There are other parts to your body?

I do see wat ur saying but is there any point as all we do at the moment is mmf or do i do it to show we are a couple?"

You have on your profile that you will meet male/female couples.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So it does clearly show it's a couples page or do I have to change anything ?

If you read it but a lot of men don't. The pics say female profile.

I'm not one for putting pics oh my cock up

There are other parts to your body?

I agree with this.

Pictures of your chest, your bum, your torso. "

Think my main concern is I'm not muscular and hung like a horse I'm just the average joe if at makes sense

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So it does clearly show it's a couples page or do I have to change anything ?

If you read it but a lot of men don't. The pics say female profile.

I'm not one for putting pics oh my cock up

There are other parts to your body?

I do see wat ur saying but is there any point as all we do at the moment is mmf or do i do it to show we are a couple?

You have on your profile that you will meet male/female couples. "

Yes we are considering it but ats early days couples would only be socials at the moment

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"So it does clearly show it's a couples page or do I have to change anything ?

If you read it but a lot of men don't. The pics say female profile.

I'm not one for putting pics oh my cock up "

Apart from one, neither am I tbh but i'm still there..;-)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So it does clearly show it's a couples page or do I have to change anything ?

If you read it but a lot of men don't. The pics say female profile.

I'm not one for putting pics oh my cock up

Apart from one, neither am I tbh but i'm still there..;-)

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Think my main concern is I'm not muscular and hung like a horse I'm just the average joe if at makes sense"

Most guys are average, I assume your wife thinks you're amazing. Don't worry about stuff like that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Think my main concern is I'm not muscular and hung like a horse I'm just the average joe if at makes sense

Most guys are average, I assume your wife thinks you're amazing. Don't worry about stuff like that

I would hope she thinks I'm the best thing since sliced bread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking for your opinion would u say my profile clearly shows its a couples page or not as always get males thinking there speaking to a female straight away?

It clearly shows itsy couples page but you might want to add a pic of Mr. I assume (& could be wrong) that men will go straight to pics xx

Starting to think I should add pics of me as ur not the first person to say that "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're looking for straight men. A straight man wouldn't want to chat up your husband.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh sorry. I thought it was the female posting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're looking for straight men. A straight man wouldn't want to chat up your husband. "

I'm not saying they chat me up. I no wat my Mrs likes (I would hope to think so) it's finding out there intrests to see if it's wat my Mrs likes and I'm not saying I reply to every msg the Mrs does go on aswell

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By *ilary and DonaldCouple
over a year ago

chingford

"You're looking for straight men. A straight man wouldn't want to chat up your husband. "

But ignoring the husband in the opening message is a sure fire way of being ignored yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're looking for straight men. A straight man wouldn't want to chat up your husband.

Does your wife not answer messages? You could try adding to your profile that you-the husband-answers all messages. It might not help that much, but some might read it.

Also,do you explain to people, after the first me, that it's you answering?

When couples messaged me they never explained who was messaging, unless it was the man asking if I was interested in his wife.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're looking for straight men. A straight man wouldn't want to chat up your husband.

But ignoring the husband in the opening message is a sure fire way of being ignored yourself. "

If the 1st msg doesn't mention both of us we tend to ignore them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're looking for straight men. A straight man wouldn't want to chat up your husband.

Does your wife not answer messages? You could try adding to your profile that you-the husband-answers all messages. It might not help that much, but some might read it.

Also,do you explain to people, after the first me, that it's you answering?

When couples messaged me they never explained who was messaging, unless it was the man asking if I was interested in his wife. "

99% of the time we are online together wen I send or receive msgs I do say it's me we both send msgs I don't stop her sending or replying to any

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Your profile pic shows a (very nice) pair of tits. A lot of people (i.e. HNGs) will not look any further.

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