FabSwingers.com forum: Anxiety

By *eefyBanger OP Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Anxiety is a cunt of a thing

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By *XmfcoupleXxCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

That it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it is,we have had a few threads on this,hope things are ok for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sucks

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

yep an acquaintance is just entering her sixth month on sick leave with it

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I is.

Do you know what triggers it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry for sounding thick what is it and the symptoms? ... Anita

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By *eefyBanger OP Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

"I is.

Do you know what triggers it?

I haven't got a clue to be honest. I was bad from November to around mid January but this past few days I feel myself slipping away again. I've been waiting over a month for my referral from the doctor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being paralysed with it is a cunt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv got tinnitus from it...

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I is.

Do you know what triggers it?

If you had a period of feeling a bit better have a think about what was happening then to make you feel a little more secure.

Mental health referrals can take ages; some parts of the country are poorly served for mental health services. Have a look at IAPT for your area and see if there are any self-referral routes for any of their services. There might be some group sessions and workshops that might help while you are waiting.

I found keeping a diary of how I was feeling, alongside what was happening that day, helped me to find my triggers.

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By *eefyBanger OP Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

"I is.

Do you know what triggers it?

If you had a period of feeling a bit better have a think about what was happening then to make you feel a little more secure.

I found keeping a diary of how I was feeling, alongside what was happening that day, helped me to find my triggers.

Thanks

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I is.

Do you know what triggers it?

If you had a period of feeling a bit better have a think about what was happening then to make you feel a little more secure.

I found keeping a diary of how I was feeling, alongside what was happening that day, helped me to find my triggers.

Thanks

The other thing that helped me was attending a particular lecture. I didn't go for it to help me as it was someone plugging their research and book. The central theme boiled down to 'it's OK to change your mind'.

It's the easiest and hardest thing to do and it's not about making a choice to be better (I get annoyed when people tell me I can fix my mental health by just choosing not to be bonkers). It's about accepting that we can change our minds about situations and the change may lead us to new choices that we feel happier with.

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By *eepster1Man
over a year ago

birmingham

Same here l don't feel right but it wears off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awwww it's a massive cunt. Big hugs you definitely aren't alone xxxx

Ruby

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

It is very cunty. I know.

Have a hug x

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Struggler here

Sending cwtches out to fellow sufferers on here

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"Struggler here

Sending cwtches out to fellow sufferers on here

...back at you...xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a most cunty thing, anxiety. One of the (numerous) issues that led to me being hospitalised last year. Thankfully between medication and meditation I'm not always on edge, the pit in my stomach isn't always there, seldom feel the impending doom and I'm not jumping at everything. Still get caught out, but between Breathing techniques and my 5 factor model CBT (not cock and ball torture, the other one...) I'm surviving it. I hope it passes, or at least eases off for you pal.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

It is hard to deal with......

I find that being organised if it is work anxiety helps

Write a list of things that you are worried about then put in to 2 buckets - one that you can impact and onenthat you can't. With the ones you can't see if you can get a friend colleague to help with

The Ines you can free your time tick the boxes shall we say and it will make you feel positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anxiety is indeed a cunt.

I live with the looming threat of an episode everyday and can empathize with those early on in their diagnosis.

I have been through the system, and while extended therapy (dbt etc) has unpacked my cluttered mind, the anxiety remains as debilitating as ever.

Virtual hugs to all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anxiety is a cunt of a thing

mindfulness meditation helps as does exercise and a healthy diet

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Anxiety is a cunt of a thing

mindfulness meditation helps as does exercise and a healthy diet "

all this as well as doing a mundane task like a large hard puzzle or colouring in a adult colouring book. both by the fact they are mundane can soothe the mind as your giving it only one task a mundane task to focus on .

ps how are you harlot glad to see your back and using the forums xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anxiety is a cunt of a thing

mindfulness meditation helps as does exercise and a healthy diet

ps how are you harlot glad to see your back and using the forums xxx "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffered with anxiety when I left the army. It was dreadful. My body ached , earache , constant swallowing , depression , you name a symptom and I had it. Luckily my gp was brilliant. She put me on a short coarse of Sertraline and referred me for cbt. The medication helped but cbt sorted me out. It got me thinking in a more rational way. It worked. Anxiety free ever since.

There is a way out , you just have to find the right door.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I suffered with anxiety when I left the army. It was dreadful. My body ached , earache , constant swallowing , depression , you name a symptom and I had it. Luckily my gp was brilliant. She put me on a short coarse of Sertraline and referred me for cbt. The medication helped but cbt sorted me out. It got me thinking in a more rational way. It worked. Anxiety free ever since.

There is a way out , you just have to find the right door."

I adore your closing line, it falls inline with my own 'Process over progress' mantra. Glad you are anxiety free, more than that it's great you are open and sharing your journey to wellness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bastard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look into yoga

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try some relaxing techniques. You need to tackle the root cause

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Look into yoga

Yoga can help, it's helped me a bit with my depression, but it's not an instant fix unfortunately.

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough

I have anxiety.

Truth is my anxiety puts up with me and I try my best to give it hell so it buggers off!!

For anyone who isn't sure (this is how it was explained to me, for MY anxiety)

We ALL have anxieties, a natural anticipation or nervousness about situation and we all have a natural 'fight or flight' reaction to situations. Some who has anxiety anticipates and analyses EVERY situation and possible outcomes before they've even happened.

For example:

A simple trip to the shop to buy milk - 'have I got petrol' 'what shop am I going to' 'if I haven't got enough petrol I'll have to make sure I get some' 'should I just get milk from the garage' 'what if the garage hasn't got milk' 'do we need anything else' 'what if they don't have the bread/cheese/hametc etc''... see what I mean?

It's hard to explain

It's even harder to deal with it when stressed or trying to organise things. I run a business and sometimes my customers just don't understand that them being 10 minutes late puts my whole day out.

Sorry... I've waffled... that's anxiety too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mr dns can feel your pain . as some posters have said already..

I do find meditation,breathing exercises cbt and the worry time/bucket all been valuable tools in helping me cope with out medication now .use different methods depending what seems to be working better on that day.still have odd days here there but it can be lifted now before it gets out of control once you start to see it happening.you will find something that works.just need exsplore and be open minded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine was health anxiety. I turned 40 and had just left the army. My marriage had ended a few months earlier so I guess things just got out of hand. Every ache , cough or slight pain was in my mind a terminal decease. The longer my anxiety went in the worse it got. Every second of everyday my mind was my health. Strange as it may seem but when I googled illnesses I thought I had ( which was anything and everything ) a day or two later I had the symptoms. I didn't want to go to my gp as I didn't want to hear the worst. One day though I had terrible earache....it hurt like hell. So I went to my local surgery and saw my gp. She realised something was wrong. Not with my physical health but she knew just by chatting that my mind was all over the place. She was great. She understood. Anybody who has anxiety go get help its out there. It's free. Don't think you can get out the hole your in by yourself. You'll only dig yourself in deeper.

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By *ddit...Man
over a year ago

Land of the giants... ;-)

Only on fabs... self help group with pics of naked people on the profile pic... it's refreshing... good luck with the anxiety... someone close to me has it... coping strategies are the way forward... you've had good advice on it..

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By *gentlovedayWoman
over a year ago

Tranmere

I've been waiting 6 months for an assessment call only to be told if the councilor thinks I may have more than anxiety then she will refer me to a psychiatrist which could take upto a year for that referral which altogether means 2 years of my life crippled by anxiety so I'm unable to work I have had it since I was 14 in various degrees but this is the most severe I have ever had it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look into yoga

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By *gentlovedayWoman
over a year ago

Tranmere

"Only on fabs... self help group with pics of naked people on the profile pic... it's refreshing... good luck with the anxiety... someone close to me has it... coping strategies are the way forward... you've had good advice on it..

My mental health has been a 1000% better since discovering fab personally I think it should be prescribed lol I've spoken to lots of people in all different circumstances who feel this way too doesn't matter if we are naked lol

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"I have anxiety.

Truth is my anxiety puts up with me and I try my best to give it hell so it buggers off!!

For anyone who isn't sure (this is how it was explained to me, for MY anxiety)

For example:

It's hard to explain

It's even harder to deal with it when stressed or trying to organise things. I run a business and sometimes my customers just don't understand that them being 10 minutes late puts my whole day out.

Sorry... I've waffled... that's anxiety too

that's one of the best explanation of anxiety I've ever read .

i don't suffer myself to any degree past liking to be organised and have everything run smoothly, be that with my business cant stand it when a plan does go according to plan or in my personal life where i love to plan to so everything goes once more according to plan

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I've been waiting 6 months for an assessment call only to be told if the councilor thinks I may have more than anxiety then she will refer me to a psychiatrist which could take upto a year for that referral which altogether means 2 years of my life crippled by anxiety so I'm unable to work I have had it since I was 14 in various degrees but this is the most severe I have ever had it xx"

Look at online CBT, like Mind Gym, to help you for now. As above, look up your local IAPT team and see if there are any softer options as you wait for referral.

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By *gentlovedayWoman
over a year ago

Tranmere

Look at online CBT, like Mind Gym, to help you for now. As above, look up your local IAPT team and see if there are any softer options as you wait for referral.

Thanks I do mind gym and have all sorts of coping mechanisms I employ in order to function enough to be a mum and keep the house functioning x

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By *gentlovedayWoman
over a year ago

Tranmere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Anxiety is a normal human response to something that may keep us safe.

When it tips over into irrationalism, that's a bitch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have anxiety due to thyroid disease.

Before I got diagnosed I tried so many things to deal with the anxiety and depression, counselling and anti depressants being a couple of them.

Realising it's a chemical imbalance because something in my body stopped working is a blessing and a curse.

But I always say to people that they should get their thyroid tested

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"Struggler here

Sending cwtches out to fellow sufferers on here

...back at you...xx"

Accepted gratefully, with open arms and heart

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By *o3kneeMan
over a year ago

Worthing

"I have anxiety due to thyroid disease.

Before I got diagnosed I tried so many things to deal with the anxiety and depression, counselling and anti depressants being a couple of them.

Realising it's a chemical imbalance because something in my body stopped working is a blessing and a curse.

But I always say to people that they should get their thyroid tested "

Interesting you say that, I had graves when I was 17 and had my thyroid out when I was 19.

Never really associated the two but could be a link, it's strange as I have had phobic anxiety in the past yet I can meet someone say off here and have no problem, although anxiety does kick in till I've actually met them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Look into yoga

Yoga can help, it's helped me a bit with my depression, but it's not an instant fix unfortunately."
I've suffered for many many years been on mirtazapine 45mg for ages and also risperidone 1mg wish my joints were subtle enough to do yoga

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For example:

This

exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sure is.. hope you don't suffer with it for too long and are getting treatment. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sure is.. hope you don't suffer with it for too long and are getting treatment. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amazing supportive advice you lovely lot!!

Just wanted to add- Depending on your area local Mind organisations (or other mental health charities) usually be accept self referral & offer a range of services. A number offer courses to help you understand what causes anxiety, your triggers & coping techniques for when you come across a trigger.

You can beat it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bbw chat gets loads of posts and this not many..baffled?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending hugs to all you suffering this debilitating illness. I suffer mildly with it but I have 2 young sons who suffer a great deal with anxiety and depression. Also they are disabled so the usual cbt therapy isn't any good for them.

Talking though and having some coping strategies does help. I know that mental health services are thinly stretched but hope you all can access something to help you through the worse.

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By *ne hung loMan
over a year ago

gloucester

Have had social anxiety since I was a kid panic attacks etc, for me personally I think it was my father he didn't want kids sure he bullied me and my brothers physically emotionally, he's driven most of the family away, these things can be genetic or circumstantial even medical issues I've lived with it I get along ok I manage it as with any condition pm me if you need to chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have had social anxiety since I was a kid panic attacks etc, for me personally I think it was my father he didn't want kids sure he bullied me and my brothers physically emotionally, he's driven most of the family away, these things can be genetic or circumstantial even medical issues I've lived with it I get along ok I manage it as with any condition pm me if you need to chat "

I feel for you pal

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Bbw chat gets loads of posts and this not many..baffled?"

Sometimes it just depends when a thread appears. Other threads on mental health have filled up, some very quickly.

I go with the law of two feet - whoever is there are the right people to be there.

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By *cutebum9Couple
over a year ago

wallsend

Male here struggles with this some days that bad I. Any leave the house but have to to earn a living . Gets me so down at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anxiety plus depression here. Very big cunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its any help to anyone,about Four months ago,i suddenly started to panic and become anxious over everything,completely out of character for me.Breaking down in tears,shaking,couldnt drive,couldnt go out the front door.I was a nervous wreck,i become obsessed with showering and bathing and bleaching everything in site,i thought this is how i am going to be like for the rest of my life.With the help of doctors and the right medication,i began to improve but a very slow road.Everyone said it will get better,but i never believed it.But it has got better and am more or less back to my normal self.This can happen to anyone at anytime.

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By *Ollyinone.Man
over a year ago

Warks.

I had a panic attack once about a year ago. It was the scariest experience of life and I used to be put in extremely dangerous situations for work. Much sympathys to all

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I forgot to add the gym helps

At the moment I am going through a hard time but I realised this and went to gym

Also I am trying to see positives

Example mum had a big op and is recovering this means that she feels better, can go to gym more and look after old man

So for every negative there is a positive so if your struggling with negative switch it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Today is a bad day - hbby at work - just me and the dog and a bed soaked with tears

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"Today is a bad day - hbby at work - just me and the dog and a bed soaked with tears "

Sorry to hear that. I've had times like this, including quite recently. It's so hard and anything people say to make you ferl better sounds like pointless cliches.

Look after yourself

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

How can friends help?

The woman I know who suffers very badly just pushes her friends away so I'm thinking maybe our approach is wrong.

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

As is proper stress, the type that affects you physically......

Sending positive vibes..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Today is a bad day - hbby at work - just me and the dog and a bed soaked with tears "

i hate when dogs cry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the constant feel of nausea in my tummy I feel like I can't breathe properly and I'm worried but I don't know what about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the constant feel of nausea in my tummy I feel like I can't breathe properly and I'm worried but I don't know what about

Often know as an 'impending sense of doom' and common with depression /anxiety. I found doing something simple and repetitive helpful - helped my mind focus on the one task that wasn't too onerous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the constant feel of nausea in my tummy I feel like I can't breathe properly and I'm worried but I don't know what about

Often know as an 'impending sense of doom' and common with depression /anxiety. I found doing something simple and repetitive helpful - helped my mind focus on the one task that wasn't too onerous

Thanks I try to keep busy. Just having an off day not much sleep..kids will keep me busy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anxiety is a cunt of a thing

I suffer dreadfully with it. Some days are just a wash out for me.

Have no idea what triggers it,it just appears!

I've recently met someone on here who I like,and its starting to affect things between us.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Propranolol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can friends help?

The woman I know who suffers very badly just pushes her friends away so I'm thinking maybe our approach is wrong."

I push people away because I dont want them to see me in that state - and the I think if they do they will feel sorry for me or start taljing about me behind my back - just pop in for cuppa , let them talk if they want to but dont question them about it - sometimes its good to just have normality even for just 15 min

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anxiety is an utter bitch but there's methods and ways to keep a hold on it. Adult colouring and keeping a journal works like a dream for me.

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