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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

OK .....

I know this is a swingers site and we all love to share here

But am I wrong to be put off by a man that is basically fucking / has fucked everyone in my area

He also plays at clubs at the weekends.

I mean fair play to him- but I'm not sure that I want to be one of the many

Maybe swinging is wrong for me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree... I feel the same. The old numbers game doesn't do it for me ... I've found not everyone is like that and treats each individual meeting as special

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you can be self-aware enough (as you obviously are) to understand that they way you feel isn't necessarily logical in a swinging context, but still feel the way you feel. Feeling something isn't wrong. Deciding not to meet someone because of a gut feeling isn't wrong. I quite like meeting unverified men for this very reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK .....

I know this is a swingers site and we all love to share here

But am I wrong to be put off by a man that is basically fucking / has fucked everyone in my area

He also plays at clubs at the weekends.

I mean fair play to him- but I'm not sure that I want to be one of the many

Maybe swinging is wrong for me?

"

If he was in my area I'd have blocked him thus removing his chance of adding me to his list

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It makes me feel like i'm the last bit of local skirt they've not sampled yet and so i'm fair game.

No thanks.

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By *onnyJohnMan
over a year ago

Doncaster


"OK .....

I know this is a swingers site and we all love to share here

But am I wrong to be put off by a man that is basically fucking / has fucked everyone in my area

He also plays at clubs at the weekends.

I mean fair play to him- but I'm not sure that I want to be one of the many

Maybe swinging is wrong for me?

"

Exclusivity is not a dirty word..

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I think you can be self-aware enough (as you obviously are) to understand that they way you feel isn't necessarily logical in a swinging context, but still feel the way you feel. Feeling something isn't wrong. Deciding not to meet someone because of a gut feeling isn't wrong. I quite like meeting unverified men for this very reason. "

OP, if you don't want to meet someone and have a strong reaction to whatever, it doesn't mean swinging isn't for you. It just means you understand what you do and don't feel comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK .....

I know this is a swingers site and we all love to share here

But am I wrong to be put off by a man that is basically fucking / has fucked everyone in my area

He also plays at clubs at the weekends.

I mean fair play to him- but I'm not sure that I want to be one of the many

Maybe swinging is wrong for me?

"

No it doesn't mean swinging is not for you.

YOU set YOUR boundaries, and are perfectly entitled to not want to meet someone you feel that way about.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK .....

I know this is a swingers site and we all love to share here

But am I wrong to be put off by a man that is basically fucking / has fucked everyone in my area

He also plays at clubs at the weekends.

I mean fair play to him- but I'm not sure that I want to be one of the many

Maybe swinging is wrong for me?

"

No. Your not wrong. Your just being honest with how you feel.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your replies

You are all right.

It's such a pity I was quite excited about meeting him

I can't dismiss the way I feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not wrong to feel like that and I know exactly how you feel OP. Feeling like you're at the end of a long list, even on here - especially on here, due to verifications rubbing your nose in it a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice eyes!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Not wrong at all,when I had my single profile I used to hate feeling that people wanted to meet me because they'd met everyone else so to speak.

Miss

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By *exy hot ass 2017Woman
over a year ago

caerphilly

I agree you need your bounderies as we all do .stick by how you feel its usualy right good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because you're on a swingers site doesn't mean you can't have doubts about how other people meet.

If anything I'd say it's more important to listen to your instinct and stick to what is right for you regardless of anyone else's opinion.

FWIW....I've felt the same way in the past.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

There is no right and wrong.

What is right for you is right.

MrB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no right and wrong.

What is right for you is right.

MrB"

This

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There is no right and wrong.

What is right for you is right.

MrB"

Wise words.

The guy in question is right. The op is right. Neither has to meet the other.

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By *oney_bee33Woman
over a year ago

merseyside

I've questioned if swinging is right for me for this reason... I like to have a connection and feel like some effort has been made. I know that's not for everyone of course, but I'm happy to stick to my own boundaries and see what happens I guess

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"OK .....

I know this is a swingers site and we all love to share here

But am I wrong to be put off by a man that is basically fucking / has fucked everyone in my area

He also plays at clubs at the weekends.

I mean fair play to him- but I'm not sure that I want to be one of the many

Maybe swinging is wrong for me?

"

I don't want to be a easily forgotten shag among the many but equally I don't want to shag to many that those I do and have shag become forgotten so easily

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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago

somewhere down the rabbit hole, Aberdeen


"I've questioned if swinging is right for me for this reason... I like to have a connection and feel like some effort has been made. I know that's not for everyone of course, but I'm happy to stick to my own boundaries and see what happens I guess

"

I feel exactly the same. I don't feel judgemental about guys with many veris but from the point of view of meeting, I find it intimidating. Maybe it's inexperience on my part. We all have to be comfortable with our choices and that's how it should be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I might try a conventional dating site

I'm bored of being just a hole!

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I might try a conventional dating site

I'm bored of being just a hole!

"

can I book a room with a view for the 27th please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK .....

I know this is a swingers site and we all love to share here

But am I wrong to be put off by a man that is basically fucking / has fucked everyone in my area

He also plays at clubs at the weekends.

I mean fair play to him- but I'm not sure that I want to be one of the many

Maybe swinging is wrong for me?

"

I feel exactly the same as u. If a guy has a long list of local verifications I'm not interested. I like a guy that has standards too. I also like to meet guys without a verification for this reason lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you can be self-aware enough (as you obviously are) to understand that they way you feel isn't necessarily logical in a swinging context, but still feel the way you feel. Feeling something isn't wrong. Deciding not to meet someone because of a gut feeling isn't wrong. I quite like meeting unverified men for this very reason.

OP, if you don't want to meet someone and have a strong reaction to whatever, it doesn't mean swinging isn't for you. It just means you understand what you do and don't feel comfortable with."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I might try a conventional dating site

I'm bored of being just a hole!

"

I prefer sites without verifications. Then I can be happy in my ignorance- he may have fucked 5 or 5,000 women but I wouldn't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might be an amazing dude though

Walkers crisps are popular for a reason

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