FabSwingers.com forum: Feeling Used and unhappy

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'am naturally a very shy person by nature, and I thought I would never get a meet. Lo and behold I managed so I thought to get a naughty meet. Everything was sorted and I had a day off so took it to meet. The arranged time was 1.00 after she had finished work, Had a text saying it would be 2.00 , fair enough I thought

2.00 arrived , another text "I will be 5 mins , hope your hard" 10 mins later another text , sorry but I was never gonna show. My confidence is now shot to pieces and have given up hope of ever getting any fun. I'am letting my gold membership run down and coming off. I won't reveal their name because I'm too respectful , or daft. Feel compeletely let down

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Sorry to hear that..

Some people play such strange games and mess people about..no one deserves that..,

report ,block,dust yrselve down and try again..

Some decent people on here j

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By *itsmcgee4Couple
over a year ago

Central

Four weeks in and you've got a verification already. You're not doing bad. I assume you didn't talk to this woman (if it was even a woman) for long before arranging to meet. Learn from it, get over it, and move on to the next

Oh and report the profile for being a no show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry to hear that..

Some people play such strange games and mess people about..no one deserves that..,

report ,block,dust yrselve down and try again..

Some decent people on here j"

. Best advice. Take a deep breath, and remember, some hard learnt lessons are the best.

Breath out , and have some fun again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You got an explanation. Most just ignore or block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you sure it was definitely a she?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its a rite of passage here...dont let it get you down..i would suggest speaking to them rather than text maybe? Easy to find out who is likely to turn up and who isnt...good luck in future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

please dont let it get you down,it happens,but there are very genuine people on here that do meet..you cant tarnish everyone with the same brush..Pick yourself up and start again.You havent really given the site a chance yet..Good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are plenty of others around.

You got far enough down the track of arranging something so must have been doing something right.

Chalk it up to experience and set your sights on the next opportunity.

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By *icenick1966Man
over a year ago

clowne

Happened to me loads of times. It won't be the last.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"I'am naturally a very shy person by nature, and I thought I would never get a meet. Lo and behold I managed so I thought to get a naughty meet. Everything was sorted and I had a day off so took it to meet. The arranged time was 1.00 after she had finished work, Had a text saying it would be 2.00 , fair enough I thought

someone putting out that much negativity and doing something so negative towards a fellow human being op will never prosper in the end trust me the universe has a habit of evening thing out in the end ,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It is a couple that I know very well. And saw a profile piccy of them before they quickly took it off. They don't know that I know it was them. They have taken the profile off fab now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a couple that I know very well. And saw a profile piccy of them before they quickly took it off. They don't know that I know it was them. They have taken the profile off fab now"

Because they knew they would get reported quite legitimately for timewasting. Report it anyway.

Im afraid it does happen a lot on here. Just pick yourself up, dust yourself down and carry on with your journey on fab. Don't let it get you down. Join in with the forums, have a chat and a laugh, and don't take it or any knockbacks seriously.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

No shows are just a sideline of being on here sadly but to tease then text to say I was never going to meet you is just downright mean!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I love chatting in forums and online, but sadly rarely get many people chatting to me. I'm not confident and don't have the "gift of the gab" or may sound boring because of my shyness , thought I was getting somewhere, sadly not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that op , it's a shitty thing when people do that. It happens both ways though . In fact my meet for yesterday just vanished on Monday night without a word. I went out for a drink with someone else yesterday lunch and then went out for dinner and drinks with another gent last night . So pick yourself up , dust yourself down and go and find someone else that won't disappoint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a crazy place pal,im currently not meeting and have had more interest now than before,even turned down women!! Soon as i am meeting again theyre gone.........

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

It's a shag, not a replacement kidney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a shag, not a replacement kidney"

Your having a bad day arnt you

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"It's a shag, not a replacement kidney

Your having a bad day arnt you"

No, a great day with perfect perspective thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a shag, not a replacement kidney

Your having a bad day arnt you

No, a great day with perfect perspective thanks.

Well thats good because mine is shit and about to get worse

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"It's a shag, not a replacement kidney

Your having a bad day arnt you

No, a great day with perfect perspective thanks.

Well thats good because mine is shit and about to get worse"

All the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a shag, not a replacement kidney

Your having a bad day arnt you

No, a great day with perfect perspective thanks.

Well thats good because mine is shit and about to get worse

All the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly...almost like an inniation fab game at this stage..most here have had their time wasted in some shape or form.

Learn from it...not all are who they say they are, be it fakes or liars or saddos getting a twisted kick...lots of real people here for the same reason so hold out for the fab positives.

Madame B

P.S.

Hope for all our sakes they are not organ donors!!!

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By *hor ThumbMan
over a year ago

bristol

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thats shocking behaviour but not typical. Id say theres a good enough persentage of people here to make sexy (genuine) friends. Sorry to hear you had such a bad experience and you should out them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chin up Op.

You're doing well for 4 weeks in.

Hold your head high...move on you never know what's or who's around the corner.

I wish you well here on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats shocking behaviour but not typical. Id say theres a good enough persentage of people here to make sexy (genuine) friends. Sorry to hear you had such a bad experience and you should out them."

Naming and shaming is against fab rules it will only earn the op a 'time out ' on the naughty step

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By *hor ThumbMan
over a year ago

bristol

"Sorry to hear that op , it's a shitty thing when people do that. It happens both ways though . In fact my meet for yesterday just vanished on Monday night without a word. I went out for a drink with someone else yesterday lunch and then went out for dinner and drinks with another gent last night . So pick yourself up , dust yourself down and go and find someone else that won't disappoint

ice queen of tarts by the sounds of it

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"You got an explanation. Most just ignore or block. "

I know those slippers............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty more decent fish in the sea of Fab OP, just keep swimming

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Why would your confidence be shot to pieces? They didnt' say why they didn't show. Maybe they are even more shy than you are. Don't go into victim mode or blame others for your reactions. Get out there and get a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You got an explanation. Most just ignore or block.

I know those slippers............ "

They are fluffy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gran, some people don't have the hutzpah and bollocks that we have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people get a buzz on the thought of a meet but are all talk.

Dont let it get you down. There are plenty of really nice genuine people on here and try and try not to take things to heart, it's meant to just be a bit of fun.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I've had 2 no shows this year so far, 1 said he had just simply forgot despite only arranging it the evening before and the other cancelled after I had a gut feeling it wouldn't happen and I had to chase him for a time. His excuse was he had to entertain some work clientso at very short notice.

I won't be giving either of them a second chance so you see it happens to us all.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Gran, some people don't have the hutzpah and bollocks that we have. "

Sounds like a school dinner. Easy on the hutzpahs pls.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Couple of things - that behaviour isn't typical. Just block and report to site admin.

As others say, the site needs long-term use in order to master it.

Take some steps to work on your confidence, over the long term too.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I love chatting in forums and online, but sadly rarely get many people chatting to me. I'm not confident and don't have the "gift of the gab" or may sound boring because of my shyness , thought I was getting somewhere, sadly not"

i've never noticed you before.

i think best thing, for guys and probably anyone, is not to make a first meet with someone something out of your way. like make it a social and somewhere you might already be.

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

Ah mate I'm a quite one and I know we are usually better in bed and were not full of shit so lift your chin up smile and say dirty time wasters hope there bits drop off, then have another go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP i am sorry to hear your story but in truth it is the norm on Fab. I expect at least 50% to be timewasters and possibly more.

In future, don't make any financial or time commitments. Try and have a backup plan if, sorry when, they don't turn up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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be careful who you make arrangements with as well and take your time over them. i notice you jump right in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a Shit experience OP don't let it deter you in continuing your quest though. There are some mean people about XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh man that really sucks. As others said ignore/block them and just get back on the saddle. Plenty more people out there.

I always meet face to face on a casual date first before a play date. Most people will meet socially first, and if they don't I end it, and if things on the first date seem iffy then you haven't really wasted any quality time.

Saying that, on my second to last meet I got stood up by someone who I'd already had two meets with (and they are well verified). They text me all week saying how much they were looking forward to it. Then on the day radio silence. I'd booked the hotel two weeks prior too, and without insurance as it was the third meet, so I figured I was safe, lol. Then two hours before we were due to meet I got a really long text. In a nutshell they'd gone out on the piss and felt too ill to make it. I just text back saying too bad, hope you feel better soon. In reality, man was I fucked off. I spent that night alone in the hotel (first time ever). Turned out that night the family from hell stayed above me. From about 9pm until I left (!) it sounded like an exorcism was being done, doors slamming/being knocked on loudly, jumping on the floor, screaming. I complained at the front desk, as did several other people. I got a full refund in the morning and a free breakfast. Sweet! A week later I got a text apologising and asking to meet up at theirs for the night but I declined and left it at that. (there's more to it but I think I've said enough already haha). Anyway, I percivered and about two months had another meet.

You'll be fine ;0)

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Bad luck mate... Don't get too down .. dust yourself down and have another go .. the thrill of the chase and the prospect of meeting a great lady is just round the next corner

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

"Are you sure it was definitely a she? "

What difference would it make?

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