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By *ohnpaul12 OP   Man
over a year ago

Exeter

The concept of Fab is great and I’ve experienced some fun since I joined last year. But the levels of equality are massively disproportionate and take away the spirit of the site.

For instance, a very high percentage or profiles I read are of women complaining about men telling them they’re not just looking for a quick shag and how they expect a message that says more than “fancy a fuck” etc.

I fully appreciate that a large proportion of men on this site are nothing but annoying pests. I totally get that and am in complete agreement about it.

But I for one am not like that. I took the time to create an interesting and (fairly) amusing profile and every single message I send to people is personalised (not just copied and pasted) polite and friendly.

Do I get (m)any replies? No, not really. In fact, hardly ever.

So women… make your minds up. You can’t have it both ways.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"The concept of Fab is great and I’ve experienced some fun since I joined last year. But the levels of equality are massively disproportionate and take away the spirit of the site.

For instance, a very high percentage or profiles I read are of women complaining about men telling them they’re not just looking for a quick shag and how they expect a message that says more than “fancy a fuck” etc.

I fully appreciate that a large proportion of men on this site are nothing but annoying pests. I totally get that and am in complete agreement about it.

But I for one am not like that. I took the time to create an interesting and (fairly) amusing profile and every single message I send to people is personalised (not just copied and pasted) polite and friendly.

Do I get (m)any replies? No, not really. In fact, hardly ever.

So women… make your minds up. You can’t have it both ways."

You have a good profile - maybe take a few more pics to tempt the ladies?? Good Luck.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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a lot of guys aren't pests though.

i don't give men any hint of what i expect on my profile, they can guess and not complain when i reject them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The concept of Fab is great and I’ve experienced some fun since I joined last year. But the levels of equality are massively disproportionate and take away the spirit of the site.

For instance, a very high percentage or profiles I read are of women complaining about men telling them they’re not just looking for a quick shag and how they expect a message that says more than “fancy a fuck” etc.

I fully appreciate that a large proportion of men on this site are nothing but annoying pests. I totally get that and am in complete agreement about it.

But I for one am not like that. I took the time to create an interesting and (fairly) amusing profile and every single message I send to people is personalised (not just copied and pasted) polite and friendly.

Do I get (m)any replies? No, not really. In fact, hardly ever.

So women… make your minds up. You can’t have it both ways."

I agree with the above OP, I too take my time with messages I send, personalising each one. Im okay if they get deleted with no reply, it would be a pain to reply "no thanks" to every message. What annoys me is a block straight away, I mean what is the point???

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I think if people are not interested, they are not - regardless of how well crafted a profile may be.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"The concept of Fab is great and I’ve experienced some fun since I joined last year. But the levels of equality are massively disproportionate and take away the spirit of the site.

For instance, a very high percentage or profiles I read are of women complaining about men telling them they’re not just looking for a quick shag and how they expect a message that says more than “fancy a fuck” etc.

I fully appreciate that a large proportion of men on this site are nothing but annoying pests. I totally get that and am in complete agreement about it.

But I for one am not like that. I took the time to create an interesting and (fairly) amusing profile and every single message I send to people is personalised (not just copied and pasted) polite and friendly.

Do I get (m)any replies? No, not really. In fact, hardly ever.

So women… make your minds up. You can’t have it both ways.

I agree with the above OP, I too take my time with messages I send, personalising each one. Im okay if they get deleted with no reply, it would be a pain to reply "no thanks" to every message. What annoys me is a block straight away, I mean what is the point???"

so you don't message them again. they probably weren't offended by the message even, just they weren't interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The concept of Fab is great and I’ve experienced some fun since I joined last year. But the levels of equality are massively disproportionate and take away the spirit of the site.

For instance, a very high percentage or profiles I read are of women complaining about men telling them they’re not just looking for a quick shag and how they expect a message that says more than “fancy a fuck” etc.

I fully appreciate that a large proportion of men on this site are nothing but annoying pests. I totally get that and am in complete agreement about it.

But I for one am not like that. I took the time to create an interesting and (fairly) amusing profile and every single message I send to people is personalised (not just copied and pasted) polite and friendly.

Do I get (m)any replies? No, not really. In fact, hardly ever.

So women… make your minds up. You can’t have it both ways.

I agree with the above OP, I too take my time with messages I send, personalising each one. Im okay if they get deleted with no reply, it would be a pain to reply "no thanks" to every message. What annoys me is a block straight away, I mean what is the point???

so you don't message them again. they probably weren't offended by the message even, just they weren't interested. "

I get that they are not interested, thats fine. If thats the case just ignore the message, delete, I get the hint and wont bother them again. Its just the one thing that really gets to me on here is a straight block, grinds my gears!!!

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"The concept of Fab is great and I’ve experienced some fun since I joined last year. But the levels of equality are massively disproportionate and take away the spirit of the site.

For instance, a very high percentage or profiles I read are of women complaining about men telling them they’re not just looking for a quick shag and how they expect a message that says more than “fancy a fuck” etc.

I fully appreciate that a large proportion of men on this site are nothing but annoying pests. I totally get that and am in complete agreement about it.

But I for one am not like that. I took the time to create an interesting and (fairly) amusing profile and every single message I send to people is personalised (not just copied and pasted) polite and friendly.

Do I get (m)any replies? No, not really. In fact, hardly ever.

So women… make your minds up. You can’t have it both ways."

I'm sure you didn't mean is op but your post sounds like you think your entitled to a response because you put some effort in .

it doesn't work like that you put the effort in because you want a positive out come beneficial to you .

in other words the message was wrote for your personal gain. so with that in mind no one owes you a response as the effort was for your benefit as much as for there benefit .

everyone is free to respond r not on here no one owes anyone anything because everyone ultimately is doing what they are doing for personal gain .

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think op that you can't have it both ways either. Got to take the rough with the smooth, enjoying what you have made happen and understanding the situation of those you're contacting, as well as site guidance rules.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

You've had meets and veri's as a result, so where's the problem? Surely it's working??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We aren't grading essays here. We're looking for people to get naked with, kiss, suck their cocks, lick their toes maybe. I'm not doing that with anyone I'm not attracted to, regardless of the content of their message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - just because women are on Fabs, it doesn't mean because you've crafted a decent contact message, they'll reply, acknowledge anything, or that the pants are a dead cert to come off.

It doesn't work that way. I'm sure you know that. You could go out out, hit on someone, with some fun witty lines, great banter, yet still get kicked into touch.

That's life mate. You can hack it,

I'm sure. Maybe, just take your time and find the ones worth your time and interest.

You'll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The concept of Fab is great and I’ve experienced some fun since I joined last year. But the levels of equality are massively disproportionate and take away the spirit of the site.

For instance, a very high percentage or profiles I read are of women complaining about men telling them they’re not just looking for a quick shag and how they expect a message that says more than “fancy a fuck” etc.

I fully appreciate that a large proportion of men on this site are nothing but annoying pests. I totally get that and am in complete agreement about it.

But I for one am not like that. I took the time to create an interesting and (fairly) amusing profile and every single message I send to people is personalised (not just copied and pasted) polite and friendly.

Do I get (m)any replies? No, not really. In fact, hardly ever.

So women… make your minds up. You can’t have it both ways."

I'm in complete agreement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure a large proportion of the men here are pests. They have to message to initiate contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this just seems like a very wordy way of saying 'i know men on here are annoying, but look at me, i'm one of the good blokes!..those baddies are spoiling it for me'

nobody but you has any bearing on your time on here, man up and take responsibility for your own time on here rather than slagging your peer group off in an attempt to raise yourself above them eh

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By *inakiss64Woman
over a year ago

Near St Albans

Most men on here expect to jump into bed as soon as they exchange one message, like a spoilt child, but with the exception of a few that don't.

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By *ohnpaul12 OP   Man
over a year ago

Exeter

Thanks for the responses. Those are all fair enough comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone's different, everyone is looking for different things on here. You can't tar all women with the same brush: they don't all want it both ways. (Not a pun or euphemism by the way!)

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By *larayCouple
over a year ago

bolton

I think you'll find that women here can have it both ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most men on here expect to jump into bed as soon as they exchange one message, like a spoilt child, but with the exception of a few that don't."

How true. I often find if I can't meet as and when they say they aren't interested. When a woman says she can't meet at short notice , 9/10 this is due to childcare. Men don't ever seem to factor that when they ask. I'd love to just be able to meet as and when but unfortunately that is never the case for me.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

My problem is I hardly ever ask people other than when I go to clubs and even then I still can be shy sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all here with the same agenda in mind...some just go about it differently. That said, a nicely worded mail stands out more than a wanna fuck message and regardless of interest levels we do try to respond to all of these we receive...some do get lost in the mix. Also some people handle a response worse than ignoring their mail sadly that does hinder a lot of people.

At the end of the day...you are only in control of your profile...so it's up to you how you handle yourself... A suggestion perhaps would be to be more selective with who you mail.

Happy fabbing

Madame B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op what would you suggest to do with the ones who say "but please just meet me?"? Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So women… make your minds up. You can’t have it both ways."

Actually I think you will find they can, and that is the reason a lot of them joined fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The concept of Fab is great and I’ve experienced some fun since I joined last year. But the levels of equality are massively disproportionate and take away the spirit of the site.

For instance, a very high percentage or profiles I read are of women complaining about men telling them they’re not just looking for a quick shag and how they expect a message that says more than “fancy a fuck” etc.

I fully appreciate that a large proportion of men on this site are nothing but annoying pests. I totally get that and am in complete agreement about it.

But I for one am not like that. I took the time to create an interesting and (fairly) amusing profile and every single message I send to people is personalised (not just copied and pasted) polite and friendly.

Do I get (m)any replies? No, not really. In fact, hardly ever.

So women… make your minds up. You can’t have it both ways.

I agree with the above OP, I too take my time with messages I send, personalising each one. Im okay if they get deleted with no reply, it would be a pain to reply "no thanks" to every message. What annoys me is a block straight away, I mean what is the point???

so you don't message them again. they probably weren't offended by the message even, just they weren't interested.

I get that they are not interested, thats fine. If thats the case just ignore the message, delete, I get the hint and wont bother them again. Its just the one thing that really gets to me on here is a straight block, grinds my gears!!! "

Can I ask does it grind you that they block you? It would not bother me as it saves me blocking them....that makes thing easier...you won't make the mistake of messaging them again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The concept of Fab is great and I’ve experienced some fun since I joined last year. But the levels of equality are massively disproportionate and take away the spirit of the site.

For instance, a very high percentage or profiles I read are of women complaining about men telling them they’re not just looking for a quick shag and how they expect a message that says more than “fancy a fuck” etc.

I fully appreciate that a large proportion of men on this site are nothing but annoying pests. I totally get that and am in complete agreement about it.

But I for one am not like that. I took the time to create an interesting and (fairly) amusing profile and every single message I send to people is personalised (not just copied and pasted) polite and friendly.

Do I get (m)any replies? No, not really. In fact, hardly ever.

So women… make your minds up. You can’t have it both ways.

I agree with the above OP, I too take my time with messages I send, personalising each one. Im okay if they get deleted with no reply, it would be a pain to reply "no thanks" to every message. What annoys me is a block straight away, I mean what is the point???

so you don't message them again. they probably weren't offended by the message even, just they weren't interested.

I get that they are not interested, thats fine. If thats the case just ignore the message, delete, I get the hint and wont bother them again. Its just the one thing that really gets to me on here is a straight block, grinds my gears!!!

Can I ask does it grind you that they block you? It would not bother me as it saves me blocking them....that makes thing easier...you won't make the mistake of messaging them again "

I did not look at it like that, its kinda of true. A very good way of looking at it. You have eased the grinding of my gears.

Thanks

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Didn't send me a message OP... I would have replied

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Oh no wait....what about the people who block you

Such fun

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By *reakbedsnotheartsMan
over a year ago

bedford


"Didn't send me a message OP... I would have replied "

lovely looking gape

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as we are being polite, respectful and courteous towards other users and control our profile as we see fit, make approaches as we see fit and arrange meets as we see fit, we are not too bothered how others interact, communicate and control their profile.

All we can control is ourselves

We cannot (and would not wish to) put a bearing on how other users act or try and convince them that the way they use the site is askew.

So, if others wish to approach the site with judgement and double standards, let them get on with it.

We will still sleep straight in bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The concept of Fab is great and I’ve experienced some fun since I joined last year. But the levels of equality are massively disproportionate and take away the spirit of the site.

For instance, a very high percentage or profiles I read are of women complaining about men telling them they’re not just looking for a quick shag and how they expect a message that says more than “fancy a fuck” etc.

I fully appreciate that a large proportion of men on this site are nothing but annoying pests. I totally get that and am in complete agreement about it.

But I for one am not like that. I took the time to create an interesting and (fairly) amusing profile and every single message I send to people is personalised (not just copied and pasted) polite and friendly.

Do I get (m)any replies? No, not really. In fact, hardly ever.

So women… make your minds up. You can’t have it both ways."

If you were on this piece of land ...well ... you would most certainly get a reply from me ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one is owed a reply here,no matter how funny,interesting or personalised your messages are.

You just have to wait for those you click with to come along.

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

Very true

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