FabSwingers.com forum: Bondage meets

By *ysteryGent7 OP Man
over a year ago

doncaster

Hey all I'm interested to know if any females are actually trusting enough to meet someone and put there trust fully in a strangers hands and have restrained bondage fun. I'm interested in doing it but I'm curious to know weather or not there would be anyone willing to take a step like it or if anyone has any experience with this kind of meet thankyou in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally no, I wouldn't let someone I didn't really know tie me up. I only do it with those I've got to know well.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Personally no, I wouldn't let someone I didn't really know tie me up. I only do it with those I've got to know well. "

Definitely this

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I honestly can't imagine there's anyone would be THAT trusting to agree to be tied up on a meet where they didn't know the person doing the tieing that well, certainly not in a private play space. Maybe in a club environment in a publically accessible area and even then I'd be surprised.

May also depend on what you planned on doing to them once you had them tied OP.

Either way it would be placing a heck of a lot of trust in the tier!!

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Even in a public space in a club I would find it scary with a total stranger.

Sally

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Hey all I'm interested to know if any females are actually trusting enough to meet someone and put there trust fully in a strangers hands and have restrained bondage fun. I'm interested in doing it but I'm curious to know weather or not there would be anyone willing to take a step like it or if anyone has any experience with this kind of meet thankyou in advance"

No, no and again no. Put yourself in a woman's position, would you be prepared to meet a stranger from the net probably bigger and stronger than you are and agree to them rendering you physically incapable of preventing them from doing anything they wanted to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not. It's a trust thing and takes a dom a long time to get his sub to fully submit. It takes time patience knowledge and charm. And talking from an older person. Age and experience.

I notice you have said you'd like to try. Presuming you've never actually done this and just like the idea?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Also you use the word ' trusting'. How can a woman trust someone she's never met? In a situation like that the onus is not on the woman to trust you its on you to enable her to trust and that takes a very long time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also you use the word ' trusting'. How can a woman trust someone she's never met? In a situation like that the onus is not on the woman to trust you its on you to enable her to trust and that takes a very long time."

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By *ysteryGent7 OP Man
over a year ago

doncaster

That's what I was thinking it could be a very dangerous situation I'm glad that all you girls are street smart although lt saddens me that there are people that are willing to put themselves in that situation and I find it sad of how careless people have become I'm also interested in if anyone has had meets like this and how did they go given that you had to trust a stranger with your safety and theirs

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By *ysteryGent7 OP Man
over a year ago

doncaster

"Absolutely not. It's a trust thing and takes a dom a long time to get his sub to fully submit. It takes time patience knowledge and charm. And talking from an older person. Age and experience.

I notice you have said you'd like to try. Presuming you've never actually done this and just like the idea? "

Yes that is true I have never done this and don't actually plan on doing it neither I put the status out of curiosity to see how many replies I would get and it actually saddens me how many people are willing to endanger themselves just for a NSA fling I should probobly have noted that it was a kinda test not a serious thing I was looking for at the start of this thread and that's why I made this thread to bring light to it. I had a friend that iv known for a long time and I know just how long it takes to build up to a level of a relationship and trust where restraints were in the question so I completely agree I don't know how anyone can feel comfortable giving themselves entirely to a stranger I'm also interested if anyone had had this kind of meet before and how did it go and how did you find a way to trust a complete stranger with your safety

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well flip the script would you let just any domme woman tie you up. Hell no. There are some messed up people out there and no they aren't all men.

Slightly off topic though.

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By *nequeenslutWoman
over a year ago

rugeley

that's an absolute NO not a chance and most decent tops masters doms would not even conceder it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose it depends on what is meant by "bondage fun"! But up and down this country at peer rope events people are tied by strangers.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I have met quite a few women (and couples), on a first meet where bondage has been a pretty big theme. Some were planned some not... I think it's may be of approach or simply how the meet unravelled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had light bondage on a first meet.

My problem with anything more than just hands or just legs is my panic attacks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"that's an absolute NO not a chance and most decent tops masters doms would not even conceder it "

Why not?

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

"Personally no, I wouldn't let someone I didn't really know tie me up. I only do it with those I've got to know well. "

This x

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By *rishbabe1000Woman
over a year ago

bury

I meet a couple I was ok with so went a long and had it in my head sure it's only bondage fuck me I came away stunned lol I was tied up and they whipped me and fucked me so hard I nearly cried and he fished me and that was painful so I know know to get to know people a little more. Bad experience but I've learned from it xx

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By *nequeenslutWoman
over a year ago

rugeley

"that's an absolute NO not a chance and most decent tops masters doms would not even conceder it

Why not? "

too many wanabes freaks and nutters

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"I meet a couple I was ok with so went a long and had it in my head sure it's only bondage fuck me I came away stunned lol I was tied up and they whipped me and fucked me so hard I nearly cried and he fished me and that was painful so I know know to get to know people a little more. Bad experience but I've learned from it xx"

That's not good. You should have stopped all play and left if it was too much or far more than you'd agreed. Sorry you had this experience, they sound like wannabes.

"that's an absolute NO not a chance and most decent tops masters doms would not even conceder it

Why not? "

Some people who are respected on the bdsm scene can and do without knowing someone.

I've done restraint on first meets where it's been agreed, feels right and not too heavy. When it happens I prefer it if they're accompanied by a partner if it's private or make sure it's in an open area of a club so they have an added feeling of safety. And always with safe words and knowing limits in advance.

I've allowed full immobilisation from someone I'd never met before but that was a very specific scene request to someone experienced and well known on the scene. It was awesome!!

It's not just restraint though, I know people who've allowed blood play and knife play without knowing the person in advance. Again this is only where someone is known and respected on the scene and there are safety measures in place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The safety issue cuts both ways, as a person who likes to control the scene I am also at risk of reputational damage or arrest resulting from accusations or claim of abuse.

If I met for the first time always followed the measures set out by SAS above, proper preplay negotiation, playing in public areas, or partner present and usually normally at least 2 of the measures.

For both the dominant/rigger and submissive/model; you are your own safety officer.

Personal responsibility informed consensual Kink. PRICK

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

So wish I'd read what I written before clicking post message. It's make things just that bit more legible

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By *ysteryGent7 OP Man
over a year ago

doncaster

Thankyou for sharing this experience with us and I'm sorry to hear about it that's why I created this thread to see both sides of the story and make people aware of the danger that there is regarding this kind of meet I personally never really completely restrain my subject I use hand and feet restraints that can be opened by the subject if they tried to so there is that safety barrier and a pre play talk and safe words are always discussed and I usually only play with subs who I have known for a long time or are in a relationship with so there is full trust all around

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