FabSwingers.com forum: Fellow Faber spotted?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm really curious. What is the etiquette and protocol for when / if you spot a fellow faber? Maybe you're on a train or in a cafe. You just happen to spot the app format on their phone?! Now what? A knowing smile? A "who's near" search? What? Or maybe nothing? Any stories anyone?

Pete of Pete and Ruby

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By *apasmurfkingMan
over a year ago

not so Littlehampton

Silence - discretion.

Then home to wank over the fact you've recognised someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Silence - discretion.

Then home to wank over the fact you've recognised someone

I would agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave them be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or maybe nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do nothing. I don't mind a knowing smile but anything more is just rude and obtrusive IMHO. Xxx

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By *angerdaveMan
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

Just say hope you having a fab day and smill then walk off lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't do anything - it isn't your place to intrude into their privacy...

Don't make the assumption that just because they are on here that they are open to any advance...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Carry on as normal.

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By *ltravioletWoman
over a year ago

In amongst the Unicorns & fairy dust

"Do nothing. I don't mind a knowing smile but anything more is just rude and obtrusive IMHO. Xxx"
This - please don't rush up to them and ask to confirm their username ,,, like a localish person did to me last year ( fortunately I managed to say that I'd never heard of this or any such site )

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Shout their user name at them from across the road and mention the site you known them from, also always good to make reference to there new open leg gash shot that you fabbed the night before.

Then message them later asking for a veri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm really curious. What is the etiquette and protocol for when / if you spot a fellow faber? Maybe you're on a train or in a cafe. You just happen to spot the app format on their phone?! Now what? A knowing smile? A "who's near" search? What? Or maybe nothing? Any stories anyone?

Pete of Pete and Ruby "

I suspect we're going to be a bit different from lots of replies.

If someone spotted us out and about we'd love a PM to let us know.......

As long as it was a bit cheeky with a sense of fun. Something like a "hope you're enjoying that coffee" kind of thing.

Weird and stalky would probably have us running for the hills.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for the majority swinging and dogging is a part time thing they like to keep separate from there every day life so just let them be..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this a few times...normally they message me on here later to say they've seen me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do nothing. I don't mind a knowing smile but anything more is just rude and obtrusive IMHO. Xxx This - please don't rush up to them and ask to confirm their username ,,, like a localish person did to me last year ( fortunately I managed to say that I'd never heard of this or any such site ) "

I've had similar happen to me really pissed me off and it's made going into a local shop differcult for me.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I've seen someone I've ignored without trying to make eye contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shout their user name at them from across the road and mention the site you known them from, also always good to make reference to there new open leg gash shot that you fabbed the night before.

Then message them later asking for a veri

Pmsl xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing. I have no desire to have people making themselves known to me. I like to keep fab life separate from the rest of my life.

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By *ust fun9TV/TS
over a year ago

Swansea

Pete of Pete and Ruby

I suspect we're going to be a bit different from lots of replies.

If someone spotted us out and about we'd love a PM to let us know.......

As long as it was a bit cheeky with a sense of fun. Something like a "hope you're enjoying that coffee" kind of thing.

Weird and stalky would probably have us running for the hills.....

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If it does happen, then as the couple say above..A respectful, cheeky message and a wink!!! If they wish to chat they will approach you.

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By *gentlovedayWoman
over a year ago

Tranmere

I've had a you looked gorgeous today messaGe in my case it would depend on if I was with someone or not I'd Be ok with someone hinting at by saying I hope your having a fabulous day or have you seen that fabulous item over there it's just if I were with my kids or a non fab friend x

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Do nothing. I had some not right come up to me and my daughter in the Trafford centre a month or 2 back saying oh I know you your blade aren't you. Still not found out who he was. Dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pete of Pete and Ruby

I suspect we're going to be a bit different from lots of replies.

If someone spotted us out and about we'd love a PM to let us know.......

As long as it was a bit cheeky with a sense of fun. Something like a "hope you're enjoying that coffee" kind of thing.

Weird and stalky would probably have us running for the hills.....

If it does happen, then as the couple say above..A respectful, cheeky message and a wink!!! If they wish to chat they will approach you."

If they were hot we'd probably wave them over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bumped into the female half of a couple I had a threesome with, at Christmas Eve Mass.

Needless to say the etiquette was to panic, as we were both with our mams, totally blank each other and then message to laugh about it afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But as for spotting someone I don't know, it's only happened once but I just ignored her completely, because she wouldn't have had a scooby who I was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shout their user name at them from across the road and mention the site you known them from, also always good to make reference to there new open leg gash shot that you fabbed the night before.

Then message them later asking for a veri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I bumped into the female half of a couple I had a threesome with, at Christmas Eve Mass.

Needless to say the etiquette was to panic, as we were both with our mams, totally blank each other and then message to laugh about it afterwards. "

I had a similar scenario at the Panto

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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago

Swindon

Saw a lady from another site when out dog walking, heart rate jumped for a while, then I just ignored her.

I told her about it a while later and I think that she thought I was stalking her......best to keep these finds to yourself I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't even want a message.

I've had face photos up in the past, but when I had a message from a faceless photo saying that he had seen me in a certain place late the previous night - which was exactly where I was - I've changed my location, turned my 'who's near' feature off and I'm more cautious about displaying face photos too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I bumped into the female half of a couple I had a threesome with, at Christmas Eve Mass.

Needless to say the etiquette was to panic, as we were both with our mams, totally blank each other and then message to laugh about it afterwards.

I had a similar scenario at the Panto

It felt like the most comically inappropriate place for it to happen

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"Something like a "hope you're enjoying that coffee" kind of thing.

Weird and stalky would probably have us running for the hills.....

I know what you mean, but for some, that quote WOULD BE "weird and stalky"...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would use the who's near for perving purposes but then leave it at that, if they took my/our fancy then we olwoild contact them via fab but with no mention that we spotted them etc c

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

Leave them to get on with their life in peace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of times I've seen ladies in the street who I spotted from on here, I would never dream of approaching them, or even messaging them later to say I saw them. Approaching in the street could be very embarrassing for them, and messaging later saying I saw you would come across as a bit stalker like I reckon! No I just act like it's any other stranger. Conversely if any lady spots me, please feel free to come up and say 'hello big boy!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've happily had a few 'spotted' messages, even past people in work etc. A smile and a cheeky message is always fun.

Obviously people do need to be very careful it doesn't overlap into the real world

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By *al01Man
over a year ago

solihull

If i recognise someone and they recognise me its usually just a little smile and a nod

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Something like a "hope you're enjoying that coffee" kind of thing.

Weird and stalky would probably have us running for the hills.....

I know what you mean, but for some, that quote WOULD BE "weird and stalky"...

There would have to be lots of

emojis to make sure.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

It would depend on the circumstances.

If it was possible for the op to talk to us without others being near enough to overhear then we would not mind being approached.

If we were in company then we would not want an approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on the situation, environment, friendship/fabship you have with that person/couple.

I have met the female half of a couple at the airport. Being friends too for a long time, we'd organised dinners and lunches together as I was her bull, but I would rarely bump into either of them on the streets. She was in uniform (stewardess) and we chatted like old mates. I am sure a smile would generally be appropriate in most circumstances though.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Pete of Pete and Ruby "

What would you want someone to do if they saw you out and about?

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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in

You could say , isn't it FAB ( louder than the rest of the sentence ) today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id say nothing - never happened to me but if it did next time this type of thread was mentioned i could say yeah ive seen but said nowt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pete of Pete and Ruby "

Depends, if your not interested in them / compatible then say nothing.

If you are interested and compatible then speak to them without mentioning fab at all, strike up a conversation, pay them a compliment, ask them out for a drink, if it goes well then maybe you'll laugh about it on your wedding day

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