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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Obviously people have preferences but what about list of demands? Is it off putting? Does it make you think the person is a bit of a tool?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

They're welcome to their demands. I'm welcome to not message them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously people have preferences but what about list of demands? Is it off putting? Does it make you think the person is a bit of a tool? "

I just block them who are so up their own are as I never going to want to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aslong as thier demands are not in a SHOUTY aggressive way it doest bother me. When I was meeting my pro had a list of things I desired in the hope that I'd find someone who could offer those things to me. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm all for people clearly explaining exactly what they offer and expect on their profile.....

It makes it much simpler to gauge potential compatibility and appeal,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather see a list of demands that will help us to decide whether to meet them or not. It's better than nothing on the profile and we indulge in guessing games or yawnsville ping pong messaging.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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If it works for them, great. I always feel it's a vicious pointless circle of frustration.

I don't mind them and they probably don't mind me not being that interested.

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By *eachPreacherMan
over a year ago

Kent/London

Big lists of preferences put me off, especially if they come across as arrogant and dismissive or have a novel-length bio

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What aboit a list like this

Must be 6ft plus

Must be vwe 8+

Must be muscular

Must have hair on the head

Ect ect

Basically all the things im not hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What aboit a list like this

Must be 6ft plus

Must be vwe 8+

Must be muscular

Must have hair on the head

Ect ect

Basically all the things im not hahaha"

That's just hard luck. Don't focus on those who exclude you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What aboit a list like this

Must be 6ft plus

Must be vwe 8+

Must be muscular

Must have hair on the head

Ect ect

Basically all the things im not hahaha

That's just hard luck. Don't focus on those who exclude you. "
yea i was only joking its not actually about an experience its juat a few profiles ive seen have these demands and i think wow you dont want much do you? Then their other half is the exact opposite

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

It'd probably put me off because I'm a 'go with the flow' type of person and prefer not to feel like a performing monkey ticking off one thing after another ... but presumably that approach must work for some people otherwise they wouldn't make such a list?

It's not so much profiles that bother me but when you get similar lists of demands in a message even though you haven't exchanged a single word with them yet! *That* sort of arrogant entitlement really does get my back up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What aboit a list like this

Must be 6ft plus

Must be vwe 8+

Must be muscular

Must have hair on the head

Ect ect

Basically all the things im not hahaha"
Even women who aren't remotely attractive have this. They all seek 'Exceptional males' it's laughable.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"What aboit a list like this

Must be 6ft plus

Must be vwe 8+

Must be muscular

Must have hair on the head

Ect ect

Basically all the things im not hahaha Even women who aren't remotely attractive have this. They all seek 'Exceptional males' it's laughable. "

Nah, some of us munters are happy with the unexceptional.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What aboit a list like this

Must be 6ft plus

Must be vwe 8+

Must be muscular

Must have hair on the head

Ect ect

Basically all the things im not hahaha Even women who aren't remotely attractive have this. They all seek 'Exceptional males' it's laughable.

Nah, some of us munters are happy with the unexceptional. "
It doesn't falsely inflate every woman's ego then.

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By *ilary and DonaldCouple
over a year ago

chingford


"What aboit a list like this

Must be 6ft plus

Must be vwe 8+

Must be muscular

Must have hair on the head

Ect ect

Basically all the things im not hahaha

That's just hard luck. Don't focus on those who exclude you. yea i was only joking its not actually about an experience its juat a few profiles ive seen have these demands and i think wow you dont want much do you? Then their other half is the exact opposite"

What is difficult to understand. The female half of the couple wants someone who is different than her partner to fuck her. That's the point isn't it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They're welcome to their demands. I'm welcome to not message them. "

Too easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously people have preferences but what about list of demands? Is it off putting? Does it make you think the person is a bit of a tool? "

It makes me think they're acting like spoilt brats. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What aboit a list like this

Must be 6ft plus

Must be vwe 8+

Must be muscular

Must have hair on the head

Ect ect

Basically all the things im not hahaha

That's just hard luck. Don't focus on those who exclude you. yea i was only joking its not actually about an experience its juat a few profiles ive seen have these demands and i think wow you dont want much do you? Then their other half is the exact opposite

What is difficult to understand. The female half of the couple wants someone who is different than her partner to fuck her. That's the point isn't it ?"

Ive messaged people who's description of a person I match to the letter, and hey guess what... apparently I'm not their type... lol that's the mad world of fab.

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By *ilary and DonaldCouple
over a year ago

chingford

I can't see any problem with a list of demands.

Some people are on here for fantasy sex not just any old sex they can get.

If I was feeling a particular penchant for a one legged blonde with a Somerset accent I would put it on my profile and see what response I got.

If it works for them I can't understand the criticism .

Some people are choosy some are less so.

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By *ilary and DonaldCouple
over a year ago

chingford


"What aboit a list like this

Must be 6ft plus

Must be vwe 8+

Must be muscular

Must have hair on the head

Ect ect

Basically all the things im not hahaha

That's just hard luck. Don't focus on those who exclude you. yea i was only joking its not actually about an experience its juat a few profiles ive seen have these demands and i think wow you dont want much do you? Then their other half is the exact opposite

What is difficult to understand. The female half of the couple wants someone who is different than her partner to fuck her. That's the point isn't it ?

Ive messaged people who's description of a person I match to the letter, and hey guess what... apparently I'm not their type... lol that's the mad world of fab. "

You obviously don't match to letter otherwise you would have met them.

There was something about you that didn't fit their criteria.

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By *p4funduoCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Demanding profiles can be scary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What aboit a list like this

Must be 6ft plus

Must be vwe 8+

Must be muscular

Must have hair on the head

Ect ect

Basically all the things im not hahaha"

Could be worded better. xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol i haven't been turned down because i dont go askng couples. If they want me they will seek me out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just waiting for axl. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's easier to see if you fit what someone is looking for if they state it on their profile but the way they put what they're looking for can be done in a way that doesn't make them appear demanding and up their arses.

The profiles that basically come across that they will fuck anyone can be just as off putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They're welcome to their demands. I'm welcome to not message them. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They're welcome to their demands. I'm welcome to not message them. "

There you go.How simple was that? If only more folk had the same mindset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally offputting. I wouldn't bother messaging them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally offputting. I wouldn't bother messaging them."
How many guys you had lie about their height?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally offputting. I wouldn't bother messaging them. How many guys you had lie about their height?"

Loads, but it's rare for them to lie by more than a couple of inches so I take that into account when deciding if they're tall enough.

Stated height up to 6'0 - subtract 2 inches

Stated height 6'0-6'3 - subtract 1 inch

Stated height 6'4 - probably true

Stated height 6'5 and upwards - start adding inches because they're probably understating it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally offputting. I wouldn't bother messaging them. How many guys you had lie about their height?

Loads, but it's rare for them to lie by more than a couple of inches so I take that into account when deciding if they're tall enough.

Stated height up to 6'0 - subtract 2 inches

Stated height 6'0-6'3 - subtract 1 inch

Stated height 6'4 - probably true

Stated height 6'5 and upwards - start adding inches because they're probably understating it. "
Interesting there is a science to it.

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