FabSwingers.com forum: Asian Men Stereotypes Or Just Racist?

By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Morning every one I would like to say I am not racist and do not care about colour race or that and what I am going to say is based on what I have seen

I have been to about 6 clubs and never seen any trouble but when I have it has been 90% of the time with young asian men ether touching with out asking or joining in when not been asked after been told to by a lady to leave her alone 2 times and on other times opening doors and walking in to couples only rooms and trying to join

Before I get branded a bigot I have seen this happen with guys of every race and I know there are cunts in every sort of people but I would like to know or maybe get some insight to why it seems to be predominantly asian men (when I say asian men I mean british born younger asian guys not guys who have come over from other countrys) or if any one else has seen such?

Any way I hope I.have not upset any one if so I am sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure as I don't go to clubs but it could be if you've noticed it.

Post it again in the morning when there are more people on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning every one I would like to say I am not racist and do not care about colour race or that and what I am going to say is based on what I have seen

Any way I hope I.have not upset any one if so I am sorry "

Your entitled to your opinion as much as anyone. Me for one wouldn't be attending a club or meet if guys like that were in attendance. Maybes the people who are running the clubs or meets should be more aware and do something about things like this and that is what can spoil the whole experience for others when it needn't.

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"I'm not sure as I don't go to clubs but it could be if you've noticed it.

Post it again in the morning when there are more people on."
yeah maybe mate but I dont wanna tar all asian guys the same as thats.not on as iav met some great asian guys and couples who are brill and if any thing they have said its a few giving every one else a bad name but that goes for any one

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Morning every one I would like to say I am not racist and do not care about colour race or that and what I am going to say is based on what I have seen

Any way I hope I.have not upset any one if so I am sorry

Dont blame you at all and the clubs have been great any time there have been issues they have wasted.no.time fixing them and you can never tell whos going to be in the clubs til you go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not sure as I don't go to clubs but it could be if you've noticed it.

Post it again in the morning when there are more people on. yeah maybe mate but I dont wanna tar all asian guys the same as thats.not on as iav met some great asian guys and couples who are brill and if any thing they have said its a few giving every one else a bad name but that goes for any one"

We have been going to clubs regularly (about once/twice a week) for over 2 years - we have seen this kind of behaviour 3 times in total - so not that often thank goodness......in each instance the men exhibiting the poor behaviour were Asian - and the behaviour was tackled by the Management as soon as they were made aware of it. So don't let this thread put you off going to a club - if you are unfortunate enough to have an unpleasant moment then do report any undesirable behaviour immediately. That way the club can enforce their rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So let me get this straight?

In summary, you're saying that some Asian men behave like cunt in clubs some of the time??!

Can I not substitute Asian in the sentence above with any other race?!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's a cultural thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No your all wrong, but I'm not gonna sit here defending any race being whatever colour, but let your conclusions end with what colour they are. I agree there's a lot of ypung lads out there thinking they could do what they want but that's with any colour mate, I'm half Asian and I don't think it's fair to finger pointing Asians which would cause more problems, it's simple to fix the problem, just kick them out and it's done but not everyone is the same, I been raised with great morals and respect not to ever act like that! It's a childish act and anyone can do it!

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"So let me get this straight?

In summary, you're saying that some Asian men behave like cunt in clubs some of the time??!

Can I not substitute Asian in the sentence above with any other race?!!!"

My point wae based on what I have seen and yes you can any one any race could be put in it but I was saying from what I have seen that is all.and was wanting to see how other felt about it all if maybe ita just a problem in an area or what ever if I was going to do it all on race the other 20% of trouble makers would be english white lads then none for black guys and oriental guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So let me get this straight?

In summary, you're saying that some Asian men behave like cunt in clubs some of the time??!

Can I not substitute Asian in the sentence above with any other race?!!!

Don't worry, I've seen couples talk about it too, a number of times.

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"No your all wrong, but I'm not gonna sit here defending any race being whatever colour, but let your conclusions end with what colour they are. I agree there's a lot of ypung lads out there thinking they could do what they want but that's with any colour mate, I'm half Asian and I don't think it's fair to finger pointing Asians which would cause more problems, it's simple to fix the problem, just kick them out and it's done but not everyone is the same, I been raised with great morals and respect not to ever act like that! It's a childish act and anyone can do it! "

I under stand as I.have seen lads do it who are xy and z just was on what I had seen and how it seemed to be the same sort of guys been the pain they just so.happened to be predominantly asian that is all

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Maybbe I.just dont like young.lads no matter what they are

Iam not racist I hate every one the same lol

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Have experienced this mostly from Asian/Indian men. Did come across one Eastern European man too who behaved similarly like a d*ckhead

I give Asian/Indian men a wide berth; most other women I know, do the same. Either they will get the message and behave like human beings or will stop coming to the clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe it's a cultural thing?"

Why do always say "It's a cultural thing"

It is plain and simple "Bad manners" in al cultures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe it's a cultural thing?

Why do always say "It's a cultural thing"

It is plain and simple "Bad manners" in al cultures

Because certain cultures have archiac views on women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very bad to stereotype all with the same brush

Very "Trumpesque"

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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unless they tell you themselves you won't know why.

the only guys i've always had aftercare off and not been left feeling used by are asian guys on here.

go figure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very bad to stereotype all with the same brush

Very "Trumpesque""

I've been called it all.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Very bad to stereotype all with the same brush

Very "Trumpesque""

No it isn't

It is based on experience; don't try and make it into something it isn't

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

"Very bad to stereotype all with the same brush

Very "Trumpesque""

Shouldn´t you be called NativeAmericanYorks ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The only guy who has ever touched me without asking in a swinging situation was black. The only guy to behave inappropriately at a social was continental European. The only guys to get really pervy and uncomfortably close at a club appeared to be white british.

Outside of swinging the only guys to behave in a sexually inappropriate and predatory way towards me were white British and I include touching, cat calling and generally intimidating sexual behaviour in that.

My first marriage was to an Indian guy and he was many bad things but he was never a sexual predator or disrespectful of women sexually.

My experiences are obviously very different to the ops.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only guy who has ever touched me without asking in a swinging situation was black. The only guy to behave inappropriately at a social was continental European. The only guys to get really pervy and uncomfortably close at a club appeared to be white british.

My first marriage was to an Indian guy and he was many bad things but he was never a sexual predator or disrespectful of women sexually.

My experiences are obviously very different to the ops.

Do you think if you lived in a white minority country, you would have received the same behaviour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The entitlement of youth in general

The 'care not' approach by many these days (and not just youths)

The 'it's a laugh' approach to swingers clubs and their members

The expectation on asian (largely of Pakistani descent) youth to be 'a player' aka peer pressure

The loss of respect for sexual encounters aka the 'it's just a fuck' approach

Chances are, they all go into the melting pot

I don't believe the problem lies with immigration

I would say it lies more with the fact that our forebears and, to a degree ourselves, allowed values and respect to slip and now it's getting to the point where it is a problem that is difficult to control.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

My first marriage was to an Indian guy and he was many bad things but he was never a sexual predator or disrespectful of women sexually.

My experiences are obviously very different to the ops.

Do you think if you lived in a white minority country, you would have received the same behaviour?"

When I was in a white minority country I received nothing but respect from men but I didn't mix in the same way as here.

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By *rit_Ind_cplCouple
over a year ago

Barking

We are holding an asian party soon and hoping the couples (not single men) who attend are respectful. We find Indians more reserved than anything, very British.

We've had positive experiences from our swinging experiences from all races. I think it's upbringing.

If we ever visit clubs it would have to be couples only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first marriage was to an Indian guy and he was many bad things but he was never a sexual predator or disrespectful of women sexually.

My experiences are obviously very different to the ops.

Do you think if you lived in a white minority country, you would have received the same behaviour?

When I was in a white minority country I received nothing but respect from men but I didn't mix in the same way as here.

What do you mean? I thought cat calls were to strangers etc.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"We are holding an asian party soon and hoping the couples (not single men) who attend are respectful. We find Indians more reserved than anything, very British.

We've had positive experiences from our swinging experiences from all races. I think it's upbringing.

If we ever visit clubs it would have to be couples only.

I was thinking of holding a White party

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

My first marriage was to an Indian guy and he was many bad things but he was never a sexual predator or disrespectful of women sexually.

My experiences are obviously very different to the ops.

Do you think if you lived in a white minority country, you would have received the same behaviour?

When I was in a white minority country I received nothing but respect from men but I didn't mix in the same way as here.

What do you mean? I thought cat calls were to strangers etc."

I mean groups of men shouting things of a sexual nature to a woman walking the street on her own, maybe it's the incorrect term.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are holding an asian party soon and hoping the couples (not single men) who attend are respectful. We find Indians more reserved than anything, very British.

We've had positive experiences from our swinging experiences from all races. I think it's upbringing.

If we ever visit clubs it would have to be couples only.

I was thinking of holding a White party"

Book me in. You can teach me Platterduestch. Haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The worst culprits for poor behaviour in clubs in our experience is middle aged white women.

Age/race etc has nothing to do with it.

poor etiquette can come from anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first marriage was to an Indian guy and he was many bad things but he was never a sexual predator or disrespectful of women sexually.

My experiences are obviously very different to the ops.

Do you think if you lived in a white minority country, you would have received the same behaviour?

When I was in a white minority country I received nothing but respect from men but I didn't mix in the same way as here.

What do you mean? I thought cat calls were to strangers etc.

I mean groups of men shouting things of a sexual nature to a woman walking the street on her own, maybe it's the incorrect term."

Oh, I see what you mean by mix in. Perhaps the native girls get treated worse. I did read about a protest about gang rape in India.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"We are holding an asian party soon and hoping the couples (not single men) who attend are respectful. We find Indians more reserved than anything, very British.

We've had positive experiences from our swinging experiences from all races. I think it's upbringing.

If we ever visit clubs it would have to be couples only.

I was thinking of holding a White party

Book me in. You can teach me Platterduestch. Haha.

Lets start with lesson 1; it is called Plattdeutsch.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

None of the clubs I've been to had a high Asian attendance the night I went so I haven't seen this behaviour. In fact, apart from a couple of scarily persistent white guys, I haven't had any problem with men at a club at all. Having said that, I didn't let the behaviour from those guys put me off attending clubs or meeting other white guys so not sure whether my comment supports the OP or not.

Without being able to interview the perpetrators of the poor behaviour I am not sure what the point of this post was, although anything that begins with 'I am not racist...' usually gives me an idea of what's going to follow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you say 'asian' and 'British asian' you need to pause for a second because you are lumping 3 or more big and different cultural groups into one just because they all come from the same part of the world.

People of Pakistani origin have a different culture to people of Indian origin as do sikhs.

And I would kinda guess which group the young guys who act in an ignorant way are mainly from.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

My first marriage was to an Indian guy and he was many bad things but he was never a sexual predator or disrespectful of women sexually.

My experiences are obviously very different to the ops.

Do you think if you lived in a white minority country, you would have received the same behaviour?

When I was in a white minority country I received nothing but respect from men but I didn't mix in the same way as here.

What do you mean? I thought cat calls were to strangers etc.

I mean groups of men shouting things of a sexual nature to a woman walking the street on her own, maybe it's the incorrect term.

Oh, I see what you mean by mix in. Perhaps the native girls get treated worse. I did read about a protest about gang rape in India."

There's a massive problem in India with rape and sexual assault and the failure of the authorities to deal with the perpetrators properly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are holding an asian party soon and hoping the couples (not single men) who attend are respectful. We find Indians more reserved than anything, very British.

We've had positive experiences from our swinging experiences from all races. I think it's upbringing.

If we ever visit clubs it would have to be couples only.

I was thinking of holding a White party

Book me in. You can teach me Platterduestch. Haha.

Lets start with lesson 1; it is called Plattdeutsch.

It sounds very 'un-German' to me. More like Dutch and even Scots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"None of the clubs I've been to had a high Asian attendance the night I went so I haven't seen this behaviour. In fact, apart from a couple of scarily persistent white guys, I haven't had any problem with men at a club at all. Having said that, I didn't let the behaviour from those guys put me off attending clubs or meeting other white guys so not sure whether my comment supports the OP or not.

I don't usually say "I'm not racist" because it doesn't bother me. Sometimes I'll say my grandad wasn't white though. Hard to hate people when they are your loved ones.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"We are holding an asian party soon and hoping the couples (not single men) who attend are respectful. We find Indians more reserved than anything, very British.

We've had positive experiences from our swinging experiences from all races. I think it's upbringing.

If we ever visit clubs it would have to be couples only.

I was thinking of holding a White party

Book me in. You can teach me Platterduestch. Haha.

Lets start with lesson 1; it is called Plattdeutsch.

It sounds very 'un-German' to me. More like Dutch and even Scots.

Correct. It is a combination of Dutch and high German; YOU English call it Lower German; nuffin low bout me; init

I'll teach you, "oh my God, oh my God"; that should be enough for during the party

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Yep...as sure as night follows day.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"The worst culprits for poor behaviour in clubs in our experience is middle aged white women.

Age/race etc has nothing to do with it.

poor etiquette can come from anyone "

"Middle aged" is erm, age

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"The worst culprits for poor behaviour in clubs in our experience is middle aged white women.

Age/race etc has nothing to do with it.

poor etiquette can come from anyone

"Middle aged" is erm, age

Oh, and "White" is a race; other than that, absolutely spot on; age/race has nothing to do with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The worst culprits for poor behaviour in clubs in our experience is middle aged white women.

Age/race etc has nothing to do with it.

poor etiquette can come from anyone

"Middle aged" is erm, age

I was referring the OP saying it's usually younger Asian guys. Hence putting middle aged in there

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"The worst culprits for poor behaviour in clubs in our experience is middle aged white women.

Age/race etc has nothing to do with it.

poor etiquette can come from anyone

"Middle aged" is erm, age

I was referring the OP saying it's usually younger Asian guys. Hence putting middle aged in there "

So the OP witnessed bad behaviour by young Asian males

Whereas you witnessed bad behaviour by middle-aged White women

Your experience was different from that of the OP. I take it that was the point you were trying to make

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The worst culprits for poor behaviour in clubs in our experience is middle aged white women.

Age/race etc has nothing to do with it.

poor etiquette can come from anyone

"Middle aged" is erm, age

I was referring the OP saying it's usually younger Asian guys. Hence putting middle aged in there

So the OP witnessed bad behaviour by young Asian males

Whereas you witnessed bad behaviour by middle-aged White women

Your experience was different from that of the OP. I take it that was the point you were trying to make"

Exactly it's not exclusive to any age or race.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"The worst culprits for poor behaviour in clubs in our experience is middle aged white women.

Age/race etc has nothing to do with it.

poor etiquette can come from anyone

"Middle aged" is erm, age

I was referring the OP saying it's usually younger Asian guys. Hence putting middle aged in there

So the OP witnessed bad behaviour by young Asian males

Whereas you witnessed bad behaviour by middle-aged White women

Your experience was different from that of the OP. I take it that was the point you were trying to make

Exactly it's not exclusive to any age or race.

No, but it is dependent on ones experiences

If I witnessed bad behaviour mostly by middle-aged White women, as you have, I would avoid them

As it happens, I have mostly witnessed bad behaviour by Asian men, so avoid them

It may depend on demographics; London has a huge immigrant population so there are more Indians here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never encountered a stereo typical person of any race, ethnicity, gender, sexuality or religion .......

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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everyone has racial bias, i watched a video on facebook about it so it's true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a pretty big continent are we talking Koreans, Chinese, Vietnamese, Malayan, Arabs, Turks, Israelites, Indians, Nepalese.... It's like the widest variety of culture, religion and genetic diversity around???.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never encountered a stereo typical person of any race, ethnicity, gender, sexuality or religion .......

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Yeah I thought all you steel workers were like proper man's men?

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By *ilary and DonaldCouple
over a year ago

chingford

"It's a pretty big continent are we talking Koreans, Chinese, Vietnamese, Malayan, Arabs, Turks, Israelites, Indians, Nepalese.... It's like the widest variety of culture, religion and genetic diversity around???.

When growing up in the 70's the term Asian usually meant of Asian or Pakistani descent.

However now it can mean any of the above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never encountered a stereo typical person of any race, ethnicity, gender, sexuality or religion .......

Yeah I thought all you steel workers were like proper man's men?

Doorsy-boi,,,,, Steel-workers!... why you babbling on about Steel workers?.....

Have you been snorting Irn-Bru (again)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never encountered a stereo typical person of any race, ethnicity, gender, sexuality or religion .......

Yeah I thought all you steel workers were like proper man's men?

Doorsy-boi,,,,, Steel-workers!... why you babbling on about Steel workers?.....

Have you been snorting Irn-Bru (again)

"
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Oh no have I dropped another fuax pas ...I can't tell Middlesbroughs from Sunderlanders... You all sounds the same to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was thinking of holding a White party"

Don't just think about it do it. There are lots of them around and some are a great success.

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England

"Maybbe I.just dont like young.lads no matter what they are

Iam not racist I hate every one the same lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never encountered a stereo typical person of any race, ethnicity, gender, sexuality or religion .......

Yeah I thought all you steel workers were like proper man's men?

Doorsy-boi,,,,, Steel-workers!... why you babbling on about Steel workers?.....

Have you been snorting Irn-Bru (again)

Oh no have I dropped another fuax pas ...I can't tell Middlesbroughs from Sunderlanders... You all sounds the same to me

That's fight'in talk in these parts...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never encountered a stereo typical person of any race, ethnicity, gender, sexuality or religion .......

Yeah I thought all you steel workers were like proper man's men?

Doorsy-boi,,,,, Steel-workers!... why you babbling on about Steel workers?.....

Have you been snorting Irn-Bru (again)

Oh no have I dropped another fuax pas ...I can't tell Middlesbroughs from Sunderlanders... You all sounds the same to me

That's fight'in talk in these parts...

"
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Last time I took a man on in a dress he battered me with his high heels.... When somebody says you have to watch it down canal Street I thought they meant bending down for change, nobody told me there was ex marines working the doors in disguise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was thinking of holding a White party

Don't just think about it do it. There are lots of them around and some are a great success. "

Are they advertised as white parties and exclude others by stating they can come, but probably won't get a welcoming crowd?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are holding an asian party soon and hoping the couples (not single men) who attend are respectful. We find Indians more reserved than anything, very British.

We've had positive experiences from our swinging experiences from all races. I think it's upbringing.

If we ever visit clubs it would have to be couples only.

I was thinking of holding a White party

Book me in. You can teach me Platterduestch. Haha.

Lets start with lesson 1; it is called Plattdeutsch.

It sounds very 'un-German' to me. More like Dutch and even Scots.

Correct. It is a combination of Dutch and high German; YOU English call it Lower German; nuffin low bout me; init

I'll teach you, "oh my God, oh my God"; that should be enough for during the party

Hey now. I'm a Scot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The worst culprits for poor behaviour in clubs in our experience is middle aged white women.

Age/race etc has nothing to do with it.

poor etiquette can come from anyone

"Middle aged" is erm, age

I was referring the OP saying it's usually younger Asian guys. Hence putting middle aged in there "

Could that be because of the clubs you attend and different nights?

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I find Asian men to usually be quite polite.

The ones that gripe me are clicky young whites 'i love me, who do you love' (generally women) that are up their own arses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think being an arsehole is race/culture agnostic.

OP you probably don't like Asian people so when you see one acting a twat that reinforces your prejudice.

I've seen plenty of white guys that are pushy in clubs in my time. Maybe I just don't like white guys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think being an arsehole is race/culture agnostic.

OP you probably don't like Asian people so when you see one acting a twat that reinforces your prejudice.

I've seen plenty of white guys that are pushy in clubs in my time. Maybe I just don't like white guys?"
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White hate is very prevalent amongst some.... It's a cultural problem not a melanin one

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over a year ago

iv only ever been to a club once something i need to sort out as i loved it, i went as a single female. Asian men were very respectful when it wasn't my thing they were happy to chat but cant say the same for some very young white gangster wannabe's on hear if u don't reply after there 100th message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning every one I would like to say I am not racist and do not care about colour race or that and what I am going to say is based on what I have seen

Any way I hope I.have not upset any one if so I am sorry "

Maybe you are suffering from confirmation bias?

I.E. You think you have identified a problem, therefore you see that problem to the detriment of others?

E.G. My grandfather believed that women were bad drivers and always used to point them out. If I pointed out a bad male driver, he would go 'oh well, they're the exception and I didn't notice them'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not racist but I don't find Asians attractive however I find Arabs and black men attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was thinking of holding a White party

Don't just think about it do it. There are lots of them around and some are a great success.

Are they advertised as white parties and exclude others by stating they can come, but probably won't get a welcoming crowd? "

I've no idea, I've never wanted to attend one.

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By *otty69Couple
over a year ago

bedford

I think some People will just start a thread to get attention...I mean how many times in the forum is it discussed about Asian Men, just do a quick forum search and its there... Oh and by the way my partner is a british born Asian and your right men or women regardless of race/culture/religion you get good ones or bad ones... Stop starting threads just to get a bit of attention... YAWN

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

I was thinking of holding a White party

Don't just think about it do it. There are lots of them around and some are a great success. "

Are they a bit like the Asian parties?

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

Only ever had one guy be disrespectful in a club and he was white.

Had more than a few ladies act disrespectful in clubs however (Asian and white).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first marriage was to an Indian guy and he was many bad things but he was never a sexual predator or disrespectful of women sexually.

My experiences are obviously very different to the ops.

Basically Op doesn't like Asian people lol, but don't try putting all Asian in the same category as you say, just proved what ^^ she said, it can be any race to act this way. It's just bad behaviour not knowing how to be patient and acting like pervs because they think it's alright to do so, I really do think Op is a racist man! It's the Modern world pal everyone has gone being racist, you think about saying it to someone in person, you would be judged as a racist man and if you lived in a area where all different races and religions were I don't think it would go down for you well! Get over it! I don't mind any race or religion.... I like to interact with white people from all over, we all humans and bleed the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmmm...its becoming a running theme now that those who often dont know how to respect boundaries in "public" swingers gatherings are actually women. I, somehow, am not surprised to hear this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to try go to a club but if things like this were to affect different races in a club then I don't know if I'll be comfortable people looking at me like they want to kick my head in all because I'm a different colour ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We travel all over the uk to clubs and have seen many people acting like dicks. It all depends on the club we've been to clubs where there's been lots of Asian men and yes a few have tried touching or joining in without asking but then we've been to clubs where it's been mainly white men and a few have acted the same. same with we attended black guys nights and again you get the same. Guess what we also attended couples only nights and yes some couples try to touch or join in with our asking. So no I don't think it's a race thing I think it depends on who the majority are in the club at anyone time.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"We are holding an asian party soon and hoping the couples (not single men) who attend are respectful. We find Indians more reserved than anything, very British.

We've had positive experiences from our swinging experiences from all races. I think it's upbringing.

If we ever visit clubs it would have to be couples only.

I was thinking of holding a White party

Book me in. You can teach me Platterduestch. Haha.

Lets start with lesson 1; it is called Plattdeutsch.

It sounds very 'un-German' to me. More like Dutch and even Scots.

Correct. It is a combination of Dutch and high German; YOU English call it Lower German; nuffin low bout me; init

I'll teach you, "oh my God, oh my God"; that should be enough for during the party

Hey now. I'm a Scot!"

You all look the same to me

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Well as I should of guessed I am now a racist and should join the bnp lol

But as it has been said a few times this has all been based on what I have seen and dealt with my self or as a couple

I asked to find out others thoughts and feelings on it

How could I do so with out asking

I admit saying "iam not racist" is said before the most racist things are said and may of not been the best thing to of started my post with but whats has been said has been said

Now the issue of age has been brought up.and yes some younger males seem to of been at the heart of the issues and I have talked this over with fab friends and real life friend (who will shock you to know was asian I know iam racist and I have a asian friend) and he had said about the differences with the age gap.of younger lads and older.guys on respect and how they behave any way I thought I better have a say before I go to my neo nazi party with hitla and talk about building a wall round bradford lol

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

I'm still confused as to how you've never seen any trouble in clubs, but when you have its been Asian men ?

You either have seen trouble or you haven't .

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"I'm still confused as to how you've never seen any trouble in clubs, but when you have its been Asian men ?

You either have seen trouble or you haven't ."

I have seen trouble with white guys but 80% have been young asian guys I mean it maybe just bad luck or just some younger guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning every one I would like to say I am not racist and do not care about colour race or that and what I am going to say is based on what I have seen

Any way I hope I.have not upset any one if so I am sorry "
I think your talking from a hole which isn't your mouth, atleast I hope so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attention seeker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am an Asian guy and I've never caused any trouble, ever. I can say that Asian guys have a pathetic big ego and think themselves to be superior somehow. You haven't offended as you have a view and experienced it.

It's sad how they weren't taught how to have respect for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am an Asian guy and I've never caused any trouble, ever. I can say that Asian guys have a pathetic big ego and think themselves to be superior somehow. You haven't offended as you have a view and experienced it.

It's sad how they weren't taught how to have respect for others."
How do you know he isn't lying, sounds very much like he is to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't usually say "I'm not racist" because it doesn't bother me. Sometimes I'll say my grandad wasn't white though. Hard to hate people when they are your loved ones."

Not impossible, as plenty of gay people have found over the years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm still confused as to how you've never seen any trouble in clubs, but when you have its been Asian men ?

You either have seen trouble or you haven't .

I have seen trouble with white guys but 80% have been young asian guys I mean it maybe just bad luck or just some younger guys"

I don't think you are racist. Nobodies opinion matters except your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never even seen any asian men at clubs or parties, never mind disrespectful ones but then I from Dorset one of the most racist county in the country unfortunately but it's still my beautiful home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

White, black, blue, purple, brown... Whatever.

I personally think we should all fuck each other until we are all the same colour. Problem would be easily solved.

Let's invite all nonmembers to join the site

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I have never even seen any asian men at clubs or parties, never mind disrespectful ones but then I from Dorset one of the most racist county in the country unfortunately but it's still my beautiful home."

You've never seen any Asian men at clubs or parties? Where do you live? Under a rock on the far side of the moon?

In London clubs now it has started to become a real problem. They are usually walking around in twos or threes. The more they are ignored, the more obnoxious they become

Just because you haven't seen something doesn't mean it does not happen

OP, what you have witnessed is what a lot of other people have witnessed too

Some people on this thread have only ever witnessed middle-aged White women behaving badly. That doesn't make them racist anymore than it does you

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

It's sad how they weren't taught how to have respect for others.How do you know he isn't lying, sounds very much like he is to me."

Morning and you entitled to your opinions and you may not like wjat I have posted but I am not a lyer I cab promise you that

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

It's sad how they weren't taught how to have respect for others."

Morning and thank you for your input iam sure not all Asian guys are like that but as I said iam going off wjat I have seen I know you say I have not offened but if.I have at all.I am sorry

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Attention seeker.

thanks man

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"White, black, blue, purple, brown... Whatever.

I personally think we should all fuck each other until we are all the same colour. Problem would be easily solved.

Let's invite all nonmembers to join the site

Iam deffo.up.for fucking a purple girl bet they are kinky as hell.lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the way people will jump on the op calling him racist for putting his opinion across.

End of the day this is his experiences and he is allowed to tell and ask people their opinions.

I've been to a few clubs in London and I've witnessed bad behaviour from lots of different people. However like the op the worst offenders have been Asian men of all ages. Some have been very good when you say no but others have no respect at all, sadly they are the ones who cause the tarnishing with the same brush.

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"I'm still confused as to how you've never seen any trouble in clubs, but when you have its been Asian men ?

You either have seen trouble or you haven't .

I have seen trouble with white guys but 80% have been young asian guys I mean it maybe just bad luck or just some younger guys

I don't think you are racist. Nobodies opinion matters except your own."

Well thank you but I do have some odd views but.I would.never like to upset any one based on race

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Asian/Indian/Pakistani culture and the attitudes to female sexuality are the problem. Whate women are to be used for sex, whilst the Asian women are not. Not racist true in my experience.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

White

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"I love the way people will jump on the op calling him racist for putting his opinion across.

End of the day this is his experiences and he is allowed to tell and ask people their opinions.

Thsnk you for backing me up and it is just what I have seen and such but also seen and met some very nice Asian guys and couples

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By *utterflyandArtificeCouple
over a year ago

Trowbridge

"We are holding an asian party soon and hoping the couples (not single men) who attend are respectful. We find Indians more reserved than anything, very British.

We've had positive experiences from our swinging experiences from all races. I think it's upbringing.

If we ever visit clubs it would have to be couples only.

I was thinking of holding a White party

Book me in. You can teach me Platterduestch. Haha.

Lets start with lesson 1; it is called Plattdeutsch.

It sounds very 'un-German' to me. More like Dutch and even Scots.

But so much easier for we Inselapfen to understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As an asian and having attended clubs i have never had issues meeting great people and friends. But have heard from couples of a few meets with asian guys not gone so well. I put this is down to manners and attitude, bad behaviour.OP your not racist just saying as it is. I voted brexit does that make me racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been to about 6 clubs and never seen any trouble "

Ok no trouble, that's good

but when I have it has been 90% of the time with young asian men.

So you have seen "trouble" then

Before I get branded a bigot I have seen this happen with guys of every race "

So you've seen this on a large scale if you're able to ascertain it's mainly Asian men if you've seen it with every race known to man... but it's still Asians who are the worst.

A little recap

I have been to about 6 clubs and never seen any trouble "

I think you need to maybe decide which of your statements are correct

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"We are holding an asian party soon and hoping the couples (not single men) who attend are respectful. We find Indians more reserved than anything, very British.

We've had positive experiences from our swinging experiences from all races. I think it's upbringing.

If we ever visit clubs it would have to be couples only.

I was thinking of holding a White party

Book me in. You can teach me Platterduestch. Haha.

Lets start with lesson 1; it is called Plattdeutsch.

It sounds very 'un-German' to me. More like Dutch and even Scots.

But so much easier for we Inselapfen to understand."

Damn; I didn't think you guys really knew what that meant; what we really mean (in a non racist, humorous way) is "island apes"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are holding an asian party soon and hoping the couples (not single men) who attend are respectful. We find Indians more reserved than anything, very British.

We've had positive experiences from our swinging experiences from all races. I think it's upbringing.

If we ever visit clubs it would have to be couples only.

I was thinking of holding a White party

Book me in. You can teach me Platterduestch. Haha.

Lets start with lesson 1; it is called Plattdeutsch.

It sounds very 'un-German' to me. More like Dutch and even Scots.

But so much easier for we Inselapfen to understand.

Damn; I didn't think you guys really knew what that meant; what we really mean (in a non racist, humorous way) is "island apes"

It would only be offensive if we were the inferior culture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may depend on demographics; London has a huge immigrant population so there are more Indians here"

I mostly club in Birmingham, which has very high numbers of British Asian people.

I have not experienced the kind of behaviour that the OP has described. I have personally had far more problems with fellow white people, so I suspect that it's really nothing to do with culture (these people are British, after all) and everything to do with male entitlement.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

It may depend on demographics; London has a huge immigrant population so there are more Indians here

I mostly club in Birmingham, which has very high numbers of British Asian people.

That too

However, considering that although the immigrant population is high in London, there are still not greater in number than the White population

I visit different clubs, and visit about once a week. I can safely say that in any given year of 50 visits, I will experience an Indian man coming too close for comfort about 10 times and a White man about once. Never experienced that with a Black man; I guess Black men have better manners or less of a sense of entitlement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may depend on demographics; London has a huge immigrant population so there are more Indians here

I mostly club in Birmingham, which has very high numbers of British Asian people.

That too

However, considering that although the immigrant population is high in London, there are still not greater in number than the White population

Whereas I've had very poor experiences with black men over the years.

However I understand that it's just total randomness and therefore I don't tar them all with the same brush.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After reading this thread I take I need to avoid everyone if I go to a club.

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"As an asian and having attended clubs i have never had issues meeting great people and friends. But have heard from couples of a few meets with asian guys not gone so well. I put this is down to manners and attitude, bad behaviour.OP your not racist just saying as it is. I voted brexit does that make me racist."

Morning and.thank you and.as I have said I have met some very nice Asian guys and couples ans well it.seems to be a bad few making life harder for other Asians who have not and.probably will never make issues and so for taring all Asians the same is wrong and for them I do apologise if any offense I have coursed

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

I have been to about 6 clubs and never seen any trouble

Ok no trouble, that's good

but when I have it has been 90% of the time with young asian men.

So you have seen "trouble" then

Before I get branded a bigot I have seen this happen with guys of every race

So you've seen this on a large scale if you're able to ascertain it's mainly Asian men if you've seen it with every race known to man... but it's still Asians who are the worst.

A little recap

I have been to about 6 clubs and never seen any trouble

I think you need to maybe decide which of your statements are correct

Soo you done yeah?

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"After reading this thread I take I need to avoid everyone if I go to a club.

Lol maybe best lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi sparkle. Thank you for raising this as u know I had a problem over the wekend!! I'd just like to say Black, white, Asian, polish Chinese etc etc if I say NO the first time they touch me, enter rooms several times when been told no twice already and then when my back is turned I don't expect them to enter me!! This happened to me all on one night by two Asian males who where together! They were both told no several times through the night and followed me around like flies on shit even after being told no!! That's rape to enter a women even in a club if she has said no!! I'm not racist by far and have had several types of men and women but this has also stood out to me several times now and really did piss me off on Friday!! Should I call them rapist if u think I'm being racist???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi sparkle. Thank you for raising this as u know I had a problem over the wekend!! I'd just like to say Black, white, Asian, polish Chinese etc etc if I say NO the first time they touch me, enter rooms several times when been told no twice already and then when my back is turned I don't expect them to enter me!! This happened to me all on one night by two Asian males who where together! They were both told no several times through the night and followed me around like flies on shit even after being told no!! That's rape to enter a women even in a club if she has said no!! I'm not racist by far and have had several types of men and women but this has also stood out to me several times now and really did piss me off on Friday!! Should I call them rapist if u think I'm being racist???

Sounds like their skin colour had nothing to do with it, and the two men in question were, in fact, just rapist cunts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although this happened on Friday I have seen it happen before and unfortunately again young Asian males! I'm not saying it's all of them and there are plenty of young lads like that of other race who are like that but it's really put me off. I've said no to plenty of men (I'm fussy) and they have respected that but on two occasions now this has happened to me. I was disgusted when this time he actually entered me after me saying no! The other guys there had no idea I'd said no several times to him and we're quite upset when i told them after! But I had no idea until I turned around and saw him climbing off! They were very rude too and although I didn't get them chucked out because it's not my nature they ended up doing it themselves after telling the manager to fuck off over something else!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Asian/Indian/Pakistani culture and the attitudes to female sexuality are the problem. Whate women are to be used for sex, whilst the Asian women are not. Not racist true in my experience. "
I agree with this but people presume me to be asian, my father who is like this is. My hes only by blood. I am born british and am what I am and it's not asian but if someone sees me doing something they consider wrong they'll just brandish me, oh there's another asian doing this or that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another they case of the few ruining it for the many and people bandwagoning. It's quite irritating.

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

"I have not experienced the kind of behaviour that the OP has described. I have personally had far more problems with fellow white people, so I suspect that it's really nothing to do with culture (these people are British, after all) and everything to do with male entitlement."

Nothing to do with "male entitlement". As others, including us, have pointed out: sometimes females are the worst offenders.

No idea why we feel the need to label that it's Asians fault, or white peoples fault, or men in general. Some people are arseholes regardless of the colour of their skin or what is between their legs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've never seen any Asian men at clubs or parties? Where do you live? Under a rock on the far side of the moon?

In London clubs now it has started to become a real problem. They are usually walking around in twos or threes. The more they are ignored, the more obnoxious they become

Just because you haven't seen something doesn't mean it does not happen

OP, what you have witnessed is what a lot of other people have witnessed too

Some people on this thread have only ever witnessed middle-aged White women behaving badly. That doesn't make them racist anymore than it does you"
No mouthy I live in Dorset like I said and have only visiyed clubs in Dorset where very few asian people live.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like their skin colour had nothing to do with it, and the two men in question were, in fact, just rapist cunts."

That's just plain madness. When you say no and they still get what they want. It's rape. I don't see it any other way.

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Asian/Indian/Pakistani culture and the attitudes to female sexuality are the problem. Whate women are to be used for sex, whilst the Asian women are not. Not racist true in my experience. I agree with this but people presume me to be asian, my father who is like this is. My hes only by blood. I am born british and am what I am and it's not asian but if someone sees me doing something they consider wrong they'll just brandish me, oh there's another asian doing this or that."

Ok sorry but iam talking out my ass when I bring up how some Asian guys behave and then you just go and agree with saying it's to do with culture and btw I did not want to bring up what Brough on this post but as the lady who was there has spoken up there you go or am I still lying?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I love all the white people schooling us on Asian culture. Enlightening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Asian/Indian/Pakistani culture and the attitudes to female sexuality are the problem. Whate women are to be used for sex, whilst the Asian women are not. Not racist true in my experience. I agree with this but people presume me to be asian, my father who is like this is. My hes only by blood. I am born british and am what I am and it's not asian but if someone sees me doing something they consider wrong they'll just brandish me, oh there's another asian doing this or that.

No ur not Hun it's really un nevered me! Cultures, beliefs, religion!! This is uk and when we say no it means no!!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

You've never seen any Asian men at clubs or parties? Where do you live? Under a rock on the far side of the moon?

In London clubs now it has started to become a real problem. They are usually walking around in twos or threes. The more they are ignored, the more obnoxious they become

Just because you haven't seen something doesn't mean it does not happen

OP, what you have witnessed is what a lot of other people have witnessed too

Some people on this thread have only ever witnessed middle-aged White women behaving badly. That doesn't make them racist anymore than it does youNo mouthy I live in Dorset like I said and have only visiyed clubs in Dorset where very few asian people live."

There was still one Asian male attending the parties and clubs you mentioned; you! Even though you state that there are very few Asian people living in Dorset. Also, I couldn't quite work out what you mean by "Dorset one of the most racist county in the country"

Your comment just doesn't make any sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your comment just doesn't make any sense"

The opening post didn't really either if read propperly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To a certain extent it's true what you said about Asian men they are like that in general but not all of them to be honest.

I go to a club some asian men attend are pushy etc but I avoid them like the rest of the women in the club it's simple.

I'm quite popular in there as a woman

men love me just it's so different for Asian men afraid xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been to about 6 clubs and never seen any trouble

Ok no trouble, that's good

but when I have it has been 90% of the time with young asian men.

So you have seen "trouble" then

Before I get branded a bigot I have seen this happen with guys of every race

So you've seen this on a large scale if you're able to ascertain it's mainly Asian men if you've seen it with every race known to man... but it's still Asians who are the worst.

A little recap

I have been to about 6 clubs and never seen any trouble

I think you need to maybe decide which of your statements are correct

Soo you done yeah?"

So you haven't made your mind up yet then

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If you're a twat you're a twat it's simple... to Say being Asian white or black is the cause is just plain ignorance. When there's a problem with someone.. pouting out their ethnicity is the first thing you see I.e "it's because they are asian" Makes me laugh when people say it's my opinion and I can say what I want... "it doesn't make me racist"... if you're opinions are of a racist nature then yes it does.

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over a year ago

"To a certain extent it's true what you said about Asian men they are like that in general but not all of them to be honest.

I go to a club some asian men attend are pushy etc but I avoid them like the rest of the women in the club it's simple.

I'm quite popular in there as a woman

men love me just it's so different for Asian men

afraid xxxx"

I think you will find sweet heart that I'm also very popular and did avoid them!! Also requested them to stop several times and they didn't x

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over a year ago

"To a certain extent it's true what you said about Asian men they are like that in general but not all of them to be honest.

I go to a club some asian men attend are pushy etc but I avoid them like the rest of the women in the club it's simple.

I'm quite popular in there as a woman

men love me just it's so different for Asian men

afraid xxxx

I think you will find sweet heart that I'm also very popular and did avoid them!! Also requested them to stop several times and they didn't x"

So if those men who were harassing you in the club approached you in an appropriate manner and were nice and polite you would change you're mind and play with Asian guys... ?

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over a year ago

You've never seen any Asian men at clubs or parties? Where do you live? Under a rock on the far side of the moon?

In London clubs now it has started to become a real problem. They are usually walking around in twos or threes. The more they are ignored, the more obnoxious they become

Just because you haven't seen something doesn't mean it does not happen

OP, what you have witnessed is what a lot of other people have witnessed too

Your comment just doesn't make any sense"
How doesn't it make sense Dorset is one of the most racist county's in this country, my country england.

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over a year ago

You've never seen any Asian men at clubs or parties? Where do you live? Under a rock on the far side of the moon?

In London clubs now it has started to become a real problem. They are usually walking around in twos or threes. The more they are ignored, the more obnoxious they become

Just because you haven't seen something doesn't mean it does not happen

OP, what you have witnessed is what a lot of other people have witnessed too

Your comment just doesn't make any sense"
I'm not asian deary I'm english. Says so on my passport. My father with whom have no contact, now he's asian and the few occasions I've seen him he's had a very disgusting attitude towards 'white women', cringy saying that. But he's also muslim and claimed to have slept with over a 1000 women most of whom english I assume so work that hypocrisy out and then slates them for sleeping with him.

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over a year ago

It's sad how they weren't taught how to have respect for others.How do you know he isn't lying, sounds very much like he is to me."

Of u follow the thread he isn't lying it happened to me on forsay night when I was entered by a young Asian lad who hadn't had my permission To enter me and had been told no thanks several times throughout the evening!!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

You've never seen any Asian men at clubs or parties? Where do you live? Under a rock on the far side of the moon?

In London clubs now it has started to become a real problem. They are usually walking around in twos or threes. The more they are ignored, the more obnoxious they become

Just because you haven't seen something doesn't mean it does not happen

OP, what you have witnessed is what a lot of other people have witnessed too

Your comment just doesn't make any sense How doesn't it make sense Dorset is one of the most racist county's in this country, my country england."

"I have never even seen any asian men at clubs or parties, never mind disrespectful ones ..."

You are an Asian man at one of these clubs or parties. Therefore, there are Asian men at these clubs or parties

Also, how is Dorset one of the most racist county in the country? What happens to you in Dorset for you to make that statement?

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over a year ago

It's sad how they weren't taught how to have respect for others.How do you know he isn't lying, sounds very much like he is to me.

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over a year ago

You've never seen any Asian men at clubs or parties? Where do you live? Under a rock on the far side of the moon?

In London clubs now it has started to become a real problem. They are usually walking around in twos or threes. The more they are ignored, the more obnoxious they become

Just because you haven't seen something doesn't mean it does not happen

OP, what you have witnessed is what a lot of other people have witnessed too

Your comment just doesn't make any sense How doesn't it make sense Dorset is one of the most racist county's in this country, my country england.

"I have never even seen any asian men at clubs or parties, never mind disrespectful ones ..."

You are an Asian man at one of these clubs or parties. Therefore, there are Asian men at these clubs or parties

Also, how is Dorset one of the most racist county in the country? What happens to you in Dorset for you to make that statement?"
I get called a paki by someone nearly everyday, night out, even walking down the street it's been shouted out car windows. Their was another thread on a similar subject where I talk about these experiences more in depth but I'm on my lunch break. Being told no girl should go with a dirty paki and I shouldnt have a gf becuz she would be used and no man would want her after. Called dirty paki list goes on and on

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over a year ago

"To a certain extent it's true what you said about Asian men they are like that in general but not all of them to be honest.

I go to a club some asian men attend are pushy etc but I avoid them like the rest of the women in the club it's simple.

I'm quite popular in there as a woman

men love me just it's so different for Asian men

afraid xxxx

I think you will find sweet heart that I'm also very popular and did avoid them!! Also requested them to stop several times and they didn't x

So if those men who were harassing you in the club approached you in an appropriate manner and were nice and polite you would change you're mind and play with Asian guys... ?"

I have played with Asian guys I just didn't like these guys and didn't want them in not the fun! That was my choice! There are plenty of other men I have stopped joining in too (I'm fussy) but it didn't give them the right to behave the way they did! I know the gentle who did this post and he is the most nicest down to earth person u could ever meet! I know and his partner play with all kinds of people it's just we seem to have this issue in our area and not just the one night xx

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By *herealdeal90Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"Have experienced this mostly from Asian/Indian men. Did come across one Eastern European man too who behaved similarly like a d*ckhead

I give Asian/Indian men a wide berth; most other women I know, do the same. Either they will get the message and behave like human beings or will stop coming to the clubs"

Wow

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

You've never seen any Asian men at clubs or parties? Where do you live? Under a rock on the far side of the moon?

In London clubs now it has started to become a real problem. They are usually walking around in twos or threes. The more they are ignored, the more obnoxious they become

Just because you haven't seen something doesn't mean it does not happen

OP, what you have witnessed is what a lot of other people have witnessed too

Your comment just doesn't make any sense I'm not asian deary I'm english. Says so on my passport. My father with whom have no contact, now he's asian and the few occasions I've seen him he's had a very disgusting attitude towards 'white women', cringy saying that. But he's also muslim and claimed to have slept with over a 1000 women most of whom english I assume so work that hypocrisy out and then slates them for sleeping with him."

Soo now after I said some younger Asians males don't know how to behave in clubs( based on what I have seen an dealt with) and how iam such a racist and a bigot you then say your own father who is asian treats white ladies disgustingly

Hmm Okk then

Once again I do believe it is a small %. Of young asian men that are the issue not ALL asian men and just going off what I have seen and delt with

Have met some very nice asian men and asian couples

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over a year ago

It's sad how they weren't taught how to have respect for others.How do you know he isn't lying, sounds very much like he is to me.

I was in shock and didn't want to cause a fuss the guys around me were more shocked and upset because they didn't know I'd told him no beofe and let him have a turn

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over a year ago

I have lived in Bournemouth my entire life I should know.

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over a year ago

You've never seen any Asian men at clubs or parties? Where do you live? Under a rock on the far side of the moon?

In London clubs now it has started to become a real problem. They are usually walking around in twos or threes. The more they are ignored, the more obnoxious they become

Just because you haven't seen something doesn't mean it does not happen

OP, what you have witnessed is what a lot of other people have witnessed too

Your comment just doesn't make any sense How doesn't it make sense Dorset is one of the most racist county's in this country, my country england.

"I have never even seen any asian men at clubs or parties, never mind disrespectful ones ..."

You are an Asian man at one of these clubs or parties. Therefore, there are Asian men at these clubs or parties

Also, how is Dorset one of the most racist county in the country? What happens to you in Dorset for you to make that statement?I get called a paki by someone nearly everyday, night out, even walking down the street it's been shouted out car windows. Their was another thread on a similar subject where I talk about these experiences more in depth but I'm on my lunch break. Being told no girl should go with a dirty paki and I shouldnt have a gf becuz she would be used and no man would want her after. Called dirty paki list goes on and on"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's sad how they weren't taught how to have respect for others.How do you know he isn't lying, sounds very much like he is to me.

I was in shock and didn't want to cause a fuss the guys around me were more shocked and upset because they didn't know I'd told him no beofe and let him have a turn "
That's pretty silly to not cause a fuss at the time if someone did something similar to me I would go mental

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Have experienced this mostly from Asian/Indian men. Did come across one Eastern European man too who behaved similarly like a d*ckhead

I give Asian/Indian men a wide berth; most other women I know, do the same. Either they will get the message and behave like human beings or will stop coming to the clubs

Wow"

Wow, what? Wtf is that supposed to imply?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's sad how they weren't taught how to have respect for others.How do you know he isn't lying, sounds very much like he is to me.

I was in shock and didn't want to cause a fuss the guys around me were more shocked and upset because they didn't know I'd told him no beofe and let him have a turn That's pretty silly to not cause a fuss at the time if someone did something similar to me I would go mental"
Ammend that I'd bite the fuckers cock off

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Also it was the same guy who tryed to touch C when she was sat on my lap facing me was talking holding her hips then he came over watched then when we was talking moved his hand to her then I felt his hand and told him no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The two times I have been touched by men who didn't ask were Asian men. One at a club and one at a house party. More women have touched me without my permission than men. Dreamcatcher. Xx

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over a year ago

"Also it was the same guy who tryed to touch C when she was sat on my lap facing me was talking holding her hips then he came over watched then when we was talking moved his hand to her then I felt his hand and told him no "
Anyway back to work if you knew why didn't you do something I've been told no and do you know what I did shock, horror I left the room and went for a sauna

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Also it was the same guy who tryed to touch C when she was sat on my lap facing me was talking holding her hips then he came over watched then when we was talking moved his hand to her then I felt his hand and told him no Anyway back to work if you knew why didn't you do something I've been told no and do you know what I did shock, horror I left the room and went for a sauna"

I did I told him no and he fucked off and the other guy was in and out soon as he knew he was in shit

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By *utterflyandArtificeCouple
over a year ago

Trowbridge

"We are holding an asian party soon and hoping the couples (not single men) who attend are respectful. We find Indians more reserved than anything, very British.

We've had positive experiences from our swinging experiences from all races. I think it's upbringing.

If we ever visit clubs it would have to be couples only.

I was thinking of holding a White party

Book me in. You can teach me Platterduestch. Haha.

Lets start with lesson 1; it is called Plattdeutsch.

It sounds very 'un-German' to me. More like Dutch and even Scots.

But so much easier for we Inselapfen to understand.

Damn; I didn't think you guys really knew what that meant; what we really mean (in a non racist, humorous way) is "island apes"

I quite like the term. It has always helped while being slightly d*unk and being detained for walking on the cracks in the pavement on the fifth Saturday of the month by the Polizei; " entschildigung Herr Offizier, ich bin nur ein Inselapfen" which normally resulted in being told to produce my Ausweiss and enough money to prove I wasn't a vagrant and being sent on my way, with him chuckling. However one time the best that NRW Polizei had to offer was not best pleased as her mother was an Island Monkey and there was no way she would be peeing in a bush on the side of a busy road, even though it was 5am. Still I got a lift home and at DM20 the spot fine was cheaper than taxi fare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pointless post! Youre probably still upset about your experience and you have the right to be. You cant just go on a rant and blame a asians as there are several different cultures and countries you have just bundled in to your post. We have all had bad experiences from people from all walks of life and nationalities and we dont stereo type every one of them on s post unless youre expecting people to buy in to your nonsense. Its a club and people are thinking with their cocks, yes they should be courteous and theres no excuse for unwarrented touching. You need to get over yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be a cultural thing, women are seen as second class citizens etc...

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over a year ago

You've never seen any Asian men at clubs or parties? Where do you live? Under a rock on the far side of the moon?

In London clubs now it has started to become a real problem. They are usually walking around in twos or threes. The more they are ignored, the more obnoxious they become

Just because you haven't seen something doesn't mean it does not happen

OP, what you have witnessed is what a lot of other people have witnessed too

Your comment just doesn't make any sense How doesn't it make sense Dorset is one of the most racist county's in this country, my country england.

"I have never even seen any asian men at clubs or parties, never mind disrespectful ones ..."

You are an Asian man at one of these clubs or parties. Therefore, there are Asian men at these clubs or parties

His is not about name calling it was a genuine question why will they not except no for an answer why are we having these problems in the clubs? U will never stop the name calling that's life I get called a fat bitch but get on with it x"
I think it's a mislim thing not a race thing becausevlike I've said my father is horrible and hes muslim. As well as you probably met a muslim rapey cunt. Can you see now how it's controversial to say it's asian people's fault.

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By *icky_tvLondonTV/TS
over a year ago

london

"Maybe it's a cultural thing?

Why do always say "It's a cultural thing"

It is plain and simple "Bad manners" in al cultures

Could particular "cultures" have worst "manners" than others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've never seen any Asian men at clubs or parties? Where do you live? Under a rock on the far side of the moon?

In London clubs now it has started to become a real problem. They are usually walking around in twos or threes. The more they are ignored, the more obnoxious they become

Just because you haven't seen something doesn't mean it does not happen

OP, what you have witnessed is what a lot of other people have witnessed too

Your comment just doesn't make any sense How doesn't it make sense Dorset is one of the most racist county's in this country, my country england.

"I have never even seen any asian men at clubs or parties, never mind disrespectful ones ..."

You are an Asian man at one of these clubs or parties. Therefore, there are Asian men at these clubs or parties

His is not about name calling it was a genuine question why will they not except no for an answer why are we having these problems in the clubs? U will never stop the name calling that's life I get called a fat bitch but get on with it x I think it's a mislim thing not a race thing becausevlike I've said my father is horrible and hes muslim. As well as you probably met a muslim rapey cunt. Can you see now how it's controversial to say it's asian people's fault."

Muslim? You had an issue with you're father... why demonise all muslims or majority with that brush... same as you would say it's a cultural thing..

The problem is the individual and their actions.. they may use excuses to justify their actions some how

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe it's a cultural thing?

Why do always say "It's a cultural thing"

It is plain and simple "Bad manners" in al cultures

Could particular "cultures" have worst "manners" than others?"

The OP specified that the people they were talking about were British men.

I guess that means that it's just us Brits that are assholes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have experienced this mostly from Asian/Indian men. Did come across one Eastern European man too who behaved similarly like a d*ckhead

I give Asian/Indian men a wide berth; most other women I know, do the same. Either they will get the message and behave like human beings or will stop coming to the clubs

Wow

Wow, what? Wtf is that supposed to imply?"

That those comments were quite unkind, I suspect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe it's a cultural thing?

Why do always say "It's a cultural thing"

It is plain and simple "Bad manners" in al cultures

Could particular "cultures" have worst "manners" than others?

The OP specified that the people they were talking about were British men.

I guess that means that it's just us Brits that are assholes."

Most second and third generation immgrants still have remnants of their native culture. I know this first hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no preference with race or colour but the only guys that have touched me in clubs without my permission have been Asian.

That's 100% OF them. I have no theory as to why...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From this thread and from others, the empirical evidence does seem to be quite telling. Is the problem nurture or nature?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Have experienced this mostly from Asian/Indian men. Did come across one Eastern European man too who behaved similarly like a d*ckhead

I give Asian/Indian men a wide berth; most other women I know, do the same. Either they will get the message and behave like human beings or will stop coming to the clubs

Wow

Wow, what? Wtf is that supposed to imply?

That those comments were quite unkind, I suspect."

Unkind? I see many asian men behaving in that manner. Touching anyone without their permission is an assault. Nothing unkind about giving them a wide berth. And if someone thinks it is, then so be it

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Only trouble we have ever had or seen has been buff white guys, who thought they could just grab any woman they chose.

Silly part was if they were polite they could have happily joined it.. one was part of a couple and she was absolutely stunning, but he thought he could just grab what he wanted.

Thankfully such cases have been very rare.

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England

"Maybe it's a cultural thing?

Why do always say "It's a cultural thing"

It is plain and simple "Bad manners" in al cultures

Could particular "cultures" have worst "manners" than others?

The OP specified that the people they were talking about were British men.

I guess that means that it's just us Brits that are assholes.

Most second and third generation immgrants still have remnants of their native culture. I know this first hand."

Because you're a second or third generation immigrant with remnants of your native culture?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also it was the same guy who tryed to touch C when she was sat on my lap facing me was talking holding her hips then he came over watched then when we was talking moved his hand to her then I felt his hand and told him no Anyway back to work if you knew why didn't you do something I've been told no and do you know what I did shock, horror I left the room and went for a sauna

I did I told him no and he fucked off and the other guy was in and out soon as he knew he was in shit "
yes he did a quick one when I turned around!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's sad how they weren't taught how to have respect for others.How do you know he isn't lying, sounds very much like he is to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to get over yourself and jog on if you think this post is about stereotyping or anyway racist! He or I ain't sure what title we would give these two men other than Asian! If we knew they were Indian he would of said Indian, if he knew they were Pakistani he would of said Pakistani, Chinese- Chinese, etc etc they were Asian and my friend who did this post was not expecting any of this shit but to simply ask is anyone else experiencing this were they live as it's happened a few times now and is not accepted! I was nice enough to keep saying no to them several times through the night and tried to stay away but was followed around like a dog on heat but when I found out he had actually entered me after me saying no I lost it and he was shortly removed from the premises! This is not acceptable from any race black, white or even fucking purple!! Please also tell me how would you get over it so quickly when you had just been literally raped!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've never seen any Asian men at clubs or parties? Where do you live? Under a rock on the far side of the moon?

In London clubs now it has started to become a real problem. They are usually walking around in twos or threes. The more they are ignored, the more obnoxious they become

Just because you haven't seen something doesn't mean it does not happen

OP, what you have witnessed is what a lot of other people have witnessed too

Your comment just doesn't make any sense How doesn't it make sense Dorset is one of the most racist county's in this country, my country england.

"I have never even seen any asian men at clubs or parties, never mind disrespectful ones ..."

You are an Asian man at one of these clubs or parties. Therefore, there are Asian men at these clubs or parties

His is not about name calling it was a genuine question why will they not except no for an answer why are we having these problems in the clubs? U will never stop the name calling that's life I get called a fat bitch but get on with it x I think it's a mislim thing not a race thing becausevlike I've said my father is horrible and hes muslim. As well as you probably met a muslim rapey cunt. Can you see now how it's controversial to say it's asian people's fault."
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Wtaf nothing to do with Muslim!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'A muslim rapey cunt'

Did somebody REALLY post that statement ?