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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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only one i can think of is sex on tap. i need convincing there's more to it than this...probably by the guy who wants one but i'm asking the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You get someone to scrub your back for you in the shower.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Someone to do the housework and rub my feet after a long day ...

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Someone to warm your chilly feet on at night. That's all I got though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But sex on tap is not always guaranteed in a relationship is it? I suppose those in relationships should answer this one, maybe those who don't like to be alone like the companionship, someone to share things with, etc.

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By *northernsoulMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Depends on how fine you are with your own company, I guess. Some people like the space, some people like to share it. Horses for courses.

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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shower is kind of convincing, although no previous relationships gave me this (same for someone else doing the housework), and i have en electric blanket.

singleton status still looking appealing.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Erm...

Someone to eat your amazing cooking so it doesn't go in the bin because you made too much and you don't want to freeze it because it tastes weird after that.

Or someone to shave your flange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex was my best friend before it went down south. A common goal and purpose and having someone to watch out for you - and you them - is nice.

Too many negatives though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

someone to put the bins out when its pissing it down with rain ..

thats about all i can think of

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"singleton status still looking appealing. "

I've never seen a good reason to change my relationship status. Not that men are beating a path to my door for a relationship anyway though.

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"But sex on tap is not always guaranteed in a relationship is it? I suppose those in relationships should answer this one, maybe those who don't like to be alone like the companionship, someone to share things with, etc."

is guaranteed with me.

and single people can answer, i like to get everyone's perspective.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I don't mind doing any of these things for myself and was a single parent for almost ten years. Nut when the right person comes along, negatives are so minor that they can be dismissed. I haven't found this with anyone else though ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A relationship doesn't have to mean living together. We don't, but our relationship is about encouraging and supporting each other, caring,sharing,taking an interest, enjoying vanilla stuff and great sex. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love is the only reason I would want a relationship, someone to love and care for, who loves me back the same XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone to do stuff with other than sex.

I'm tired of doing everything on my own.

And having all the responsibility!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,m single. I would like someone for a relationship, man or woman XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you need to be convinced to be in a relationship......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone to cook for.

Someone to go on days out with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a lot out of my relationship.

I get someone to talk to when I want to talk.

I get someone to cook with (read "for") me when I'm hungry.

I get someone who wants lots of sex, with me.

I get someone who has a different _iew of the world who can help inform my opinions.

I get someone who is intelligent and willing to share the knowledge.

I get companionship when I'm lonely and space when I want it.

I get someone to share travel, showers, fun, quiet times, holidays, and sleep with.

I have someone there when I'm sick who helps make me better.

I can't spell it all out here, but I was happy being alone and happier being with Marc. It all comes down to your personality and what makes you happiest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you need convincing? If you don't see the benefits then entering into one would be foolish.

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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ooh, wouldn't need to get a dog. i really, really want a dog though.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"only one i can think of is sex on tap. i need convincing there's more to it than this...probably by the guy who wants one but i'm asking the forums.

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Oh I love the whole 'no safety net' total trust and commitment that comes with a good relationship as much as good sex - I would like to take the handbrake totally off and give my all in every aspect of life. Love the closeness too - like the feeling I get with my horse when we can just feel each others thoughts without communicating them. Yumm!

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By *armel and FrancisCouple
over a year ago

North wex

Coming home from a meet on a freezing cold morning to get into bed with the hubby, who warms you up again. Carmel

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"only one i can think of is sex on tap. i need convincing there's more to it than this...probably by the guy who wants one but i'm asking the forums.

"

Who says there's sex on tap, previous experience says it's not always the case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you need to be convinced to be in a relationship......"

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Why do you need convincing? If you don't see the benefits then entering into one would be foolish. "

been on my own way too long now. think i'll just not see any advantages to being in one.

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By *ilary and DonaldCouple
over a year ago

chingford

There are advantages to being in a relationship as there are advantages to being single.

After being with Hilary for 25 years I shudder at the thought of ever being single again.

But I thoroughly enjoyed being single when I was.

Sex on tap doesn't really enter the equation as there are times when one or either of us can't be bothered.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Having someone to share your thoughts, hopes and dreams and your secrets with. We all have things we don't confide in others and a good relationship is trusting in them enough to open up.

And cuddles too

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"someone to put the bins out when its pissing it down with rain ..

thats about all i can think of "

Sod the rain bit, just someone to put the bins out n bring them back in again

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It depends on the relationship surely.

I've witnessed some that have no discernible advantages.

If you're in a good relationship I think the main advantage is as Victoria Wood said

When you say 'damn I've left the tomatoes on the back seat of the car's

They say

'Have you're

It's the ordinariness not the remarkable things that make it worth it.

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"only one i can think of is sex on tap. i need convincing there's more to it than this...probably by the guy who wants one but i'm asking the forums.

Oh I love the whole 'no safety net' total trust and commitment that comes with a good relationship as much as good sex - I would like to take the handbrake totally off and give my all in every aspect of life. Love the closeness too - like the feeling I get with my horse when we can just feel each others thoughts without communicating them. Yumm! "

i like the idea of this. just the idea though for now.

all given good answers really, most of the stuff people mentioned i get that from people in my life, feel lucky i do as well.

it's funny coz i thought i would've jumped at the chance of a relationship but i'm just meh about it now i could have one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone to warm your cold feet up on in bed....I'll let you know I others when I think of them.

And being in a relationship is absolutely no guarantee of sex on tap. Don't let anyone tell you differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you need convincing? If you don't see the benefits then entering into one would be foolish.

been on my own way too long now. think i'll just not see any advantages to being in one."

so don't force it. If/When someone comes along that is right then you won't need to see advantages. . It'll just happen.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Double the wages.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Damn that autocorrected my quotes

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Someone to warm your cold feet up on in bed....I'll let you know I others when I think of them.

And being in a relationship is absolutely no guarantee of sex on tap. Don't let anyone tell you differently."

previous experience tells me this. all my relationships were sex on tap, if the guy has as high a sex drive as me then that's the first thing we tend to have in common.

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Damn that autocorrected my quotes "

it's ok, i know what you mean. doesn't have to be exciting or anything i do get that.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Someone to warm your cold feet up on in bed....I'll let you know I others when I think of them.

And being in a relationship is absolutely no guarantee of sex on tap. Don't let anyone tell you differently.

previous experience tells me this. all my relationships were sex on tap, if the guy has as high a sex drive as me then that's the first thing we tend to have in common."

sex is obviously important to you but if it's the first thing you have in common it can obscure other things that might make you incompatible.

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By *gentlovedayWoman
over a year ago

Tranmere

For me it would be great to have someone to go home with sometimes it hits home after you have a great time at a club then get in your taxi all alone when others get to go home with someone I get into a cold bed with no cuddles xx

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Why do you need convincing? If you don't see the benefits then entering into one would be foolish.

been on my own way too long now. think i'll just not see any advantages to being in one.

so don't force it. If/When someone comes along that is right then you won't need to see advantages. . It'll just happen. "

yeah i don't think he's the one for me.

plus it just might be there just is no point in getting with someone coz being single is better?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"only one i can think of is sex on tap. i need convincing there's more to it than this...probably by the guy who wants one but i'm asking the forums.

Oh I love the whole 'no safety net' total trust and commitment that comes with a good relationship as much as good sex - I would like to take the handbrake totally off and give my all in every aspect of life. Love the closeness too - like the feeling I get with my horse when we can just feel each others thoughts without communicating them. Yumm!

i like the idea of this. just the idea though for now.

all given good answers really, most of the stuff people mentioned i get that from people in my life, feel lucky i do as well.

it's funny coz i thought i would've jumped at the chance of a relationship but i'm just meh about it now i could have one. "

Some people have it stronger than others, this 'bonding' thing, same as some animals do. In horses it's the herd instinct, the desire for unity - you can nurture that and develop it and create something quite magical. I find it very fulfilling to know and be known fully - to share everything, hide nothing.

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Someone to warm your cold feet up on in bed....I'll let you know I others when I think of them.

And being in a relationship is absolutely no guarantee of sex on tap. Don't let anyone tell you differently.

previous experience tells me this. all my relationships were sex on tap, if the guy has as high a sex drive as me then that's the first thing we tend to have in common.

sex is obviously important to you but if it's the first thing you have in common it can obscure other things that might make you incompatible."

yeah i worry my sex addiction will make it so i stay with someone not for me just because the sex is good and frequent.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Damn that autocorrected my quotes

it's ok, i know what you mean. doesn't have to be exciting or anything i do get that. "

There needs to be some excitement though. I read a quote on Facebook today

"Marriage is 90% shouting 'what' at each other from different rooms in the house"

We laughed because that is us

However just to spice things up and add some excitement we shampooed the carpet and ran the dehumidifier all day

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Ive stopped shouting and just text instead now. Only works when he has his phone on him though ...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"only one i can think of is sex on tap. i need convincing there's more to it than this...probably by the guy who wants one but i'm asking the forums.

"

Sex on tap?!! ...okay, if you say so!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Someone to warm your cold feet up on in bed....I'll let you know I others when I think of them.

And being in a relationship is absolutely no guarantee of sex on tap. Don't let anyone tell you differently.

previous experience tells me this. all my relationships were sex on tap, if the guy has as high a sex drive as me then that's the first thing we tend to have in common.

sex is obviously important to you but if it's the first thing you have in common it can obscure other things that might make you incompatible.

yeah i worry my sex addiction will make it so i stay with someone not for me just because the sex is good and frequent."

Is that bad? If you get along ok and you're both reasonably happy? If sex is really important you are sort of staying for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's handy with a drill, and keeps me in ice cream?!!?

Perfect....

M x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"only one i can think of is sex on tap. i need convincing there's more to it than this...probably by the guy who wants one but i'm asking the forums.

Oh I love the whole 'no safety net' total trust and commitment that comes with a good relationship as much as good sex - I would like to take the handbrake totally off and give my all in every aspect of life. Love the closeness too - like the feeling I get with my horse when we can just feel each others thoughts without communicating them. Yumm!

i like the idea of this. just the idea though for now.

all given good answers really, most of the stuff people mentioned i get that from people in my life, feel lucky i do as well.

it's funny coz i thought i would've jumped at the chance of a relationship but i'm just meh about it now i could have one.

Some people have it stronger than others, this 'bonding' thing, same as some animals do. In horses it's the herd instinct, the desire for unity - you can nurture that and develop it and create something quite magical. I find it very fulfilling to know and be known fully - to share everything, hide nothing. "

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Someone to warm your cold feet up on in bed....I'll let you know I others when I think of them.

And being in a relationship is absolutely no guarantee of sex on tap. Don't let anyone tell you differently.

previous experience tells me this. all my relationships were sex on tap, if the guy has as high a sex drive as me then that's the first thing we tend to have in common.

sex is obviously important to you but if it's the first thing you have in common it can obscure other things that might make you incompatible.

yeah i worry my sex addiction will make it so i stay with someone not for me just because the sex is good and frequent.

Is that bad? If you get along ok and you're both reasonably happy? If sex is really important you are sort of staying for you."

yeah, i've stayed in abusive relationships because of it, but i feel like i'm getting somewhere in understanding myself and one ex (who i'm still friends with) set a better standard of guys for me to go off since him.

dunno, think i feel like all guys are just users and liars and this is in the back of my head always now. need to practice being 'friends' with more men who are not liars/users before moving up a stage with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"only one i can think of is sex on tap. i need convincing there's more to it than this...probably by the guy who wants one but i'm asking the forums.

Sex on tap?!! ...okay, if you say so!"

Yeah, I was wondering that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like someone other than my kids to think of me as the bees knees.

Life and all it throws at you can be an exhausting and downtrodden road to to travel on your own sometimes.

A cuddle after a spectacularly shit day, someone to run a bath, someone who makes you laugh, understands you, is there for you emotionally as well as physically, who makes the shopping trip to Tesco a bit more fun. They kill spiders, aren't afraid of a broken panel on the fence. They're romantic.

Yeah i could do with that sometimes.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

For me it's lots of different things that make our relationship so special.

I have someone who knows me better than I know myself. Someone to share everything with. We have silly little things that we do or say that no one else understands but make us both laugh. I fall asleep with my head on hubby's shoulder, holding his hand every night. Every morning, before he leaves for work, he brings me a cuppa in bed. We sit watching to in the evening, again holding hands. He gives the best cuddles!

But most of all, the bond we share is something very special. A bond that despite my previous 5 year marriage, I had never experienced before. I'm very lucky

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"only one i can think of is sex on tap. i need convincing there's more to it than this...probably by the guy who wants one but i'm asking the forums.

Sex on tap?!! ...okay, if you say so!

Yeah, I was wondering that too "

this is my basis for any relationship. someone who has a high sex drive. might sound weird or even sad but it's how every relationship i've had has started.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get a lot out of my relationship.

I get someone to talk to when I want to talk.

I get someone to cook with (read "for") me when I'm hungry.

I get someone who wants lots of sex, with me.

I get someone who has a different _iew of the world who can help inform my opinions.

I get someone who is intelligent and willing to share the knowledge.

I get companionship when I'm lonely and space when I want it.

I get someone to share travel, showers, fun, quiet times, holidays, and sleep with.

I have someone there when I'm sick who helps make me better.

I can't spell it all out here, but I was happy being alone and happier being with Marc. It all comes down to your personality and what makes you happiest."
This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone to go Christmas shopping with and drink spiced rum in a bar by the Thames with.

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By *ilvercharmCouple
over a year ago

Our gate

All those lovely snuggles I know, I'm far to mushy but I do like snuggles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sharing the load that modern life brings I think relationships should be compulsory but you need to treat each other well and equally. Just taking a walk in beautiful scenery and being able to look over your shoulder at a beautiful, loving face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fanny licking and bj's

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"Someone to do stuff with other than sex.

I'm tired of doing everything on my own.

And having all the responsibility!

"

I agree with this but I wouldn't know as I have been single for nearly 6 years !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"fanny licking and bj's"

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"Sharing the load that modern life brings I think relationships should be compulsory but you need to treat each other well and equally. Just taking a walk in beautiful scenery and being able to look over your shoulder at a beautiful, loving face."

Now I am hooked !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's more good reasons than bad if you know how to treat eachother

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I have a very good relationship with my daughter. I don't need a man to feel complete.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"For me it's lots of different things that make our relationship so special.

I have someone who knows me better than I know myself. Someone to share everything with. We have silly little things that we do or say that no one else understands but make us both laugh. I fall asleep with my head on hubby's shoulder, holding his hand every night. Every morning, before he leaves for work, he brings me a cuppa in bed. We sit watching to in the evening, again holding hands. He gives the best cuddles!

But most of all, the bond we share is something very special. A bond that despite my previous 5 year marriage, I had never experienced before. I'm very lucky"

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By *obwithkiltMan
over a year ago

Belton

"I get a lot out of my relationship.

I get someone to talk to when I want to talk.

I get someone to cook with (read "for") me when I'm hungry.

I get someone who wants lots of sex, with me.

I get someone who has a different _iew of the world who can help inform my opinions.

I get someone who is intelligent and willing to share the knowledge.

I get companionship when I'm lonely and space when I want it.

I get someone to share travel, showers, fun, quiet times, holidays, and sleep with.

I have someone there when I'm sick who helps make me better."

all of this and the feeling of waking up/falling asleep with someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cuddles

H x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sharing the load that modern life brings I think relationships should be compulsory but you need to treat each other well and equally. Just taking a walk in beautiful scenery and being able to look over your shoulder at a beautiful, loving face.

Now I am hooked ! "
I've always been hooked

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"only one i can think of is sex on tap. i need convincing there's more to it than this...probably by the guy who wants one but i'm asking the forums.

Sex on tap?!! ...okay, if you say so!

Yeah, I was wondering that too

this is my basis for any relationship. someone who has a high sex drive. might sound weird or even sad but it's how every relationship i've had has started."

I don't think it sounds sad or weird. Look at the number of people on here solely due to mismatched sex drives within their relationship. Better to know yourself and what your priorities are before you embark on a relationship. The problem is as you've identified that sex won't a relationship together in the long term. I think you've answered your own question when you say that you need to be friends with more men before you embark on anything sexual, quite how you achieve that I'm not sure.

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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being brought a brew in bed sounds good. do miss things like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't think of a single advantage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

from my experience there are none

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

the snuggles

sharing the cooking dutys

sharing the cleaning

enjoy the sex when we wanted

the little arguments and the make ups after them

being together and apart when needed the sharing of things but she always had the last one but I didnt mind

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"only one i can think of is sex on tap. i need convincing there's more to it than this...probably by the guy who wants one but i'm asking the forums.

Sex on tap?!! ...okay, if you say so!

Yeah, I was wondering that too

this is my basis for any relationship. someone who has a high sex drive. might sound weird or even sad but it's how every relationship i've had has started.

I don't think it sounds sad or weird. Look at the number of people on here solely due to mismatched sex drives within their relationship. Better to know yourself and what your priorities are before you embark on a relationship. The problem is as you've identified that sex won't a relationship together in the long term. I think you've answered your own question when you say that you need to be friends with more men before you embark on anything sexual, quite how you achieve that I'm not sure."

i just take sex out of the equation, that's how. i know how to make friends, just got trust issues to sort but every time i prove myself right with choices those issues become lesser.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

I don't think there is an advantage just a different dynamic. Pretty sure relationship isn't all about sex, someone to share the journey of life with ideally someone with similar values.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"only one i can think of is sex on tap. i need convincing there's more to it than this...probably by the guy who wants one but i'm asking the forums.

Sex on tap?!! ...okay, if you say so!

Yeah, I was wondering that too

this is my basis for any relationship. someone who has a high sex drive. might sound weird or even sad but it's how every relationship i've had has started.

I don't think it sounds sad or weird. Look at the number of people on here solely due to mismatched sex drives within their relationship. Better to know yourself and what your priorities are before you embark on a relationship. The problem is as you've identified that sex won't a relationship together in the long term. I think you've answered your own question when you say that you need to be friends with more men before you embark on anything sexual, quite how you achieve that I'm not sure.

i just take sex out of the equation, that's how. i know how to make friends, just got trust issues to sort but every time i prove myself right with choices those issues become lesser."

Good. Do I need to buy a hat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a very good relationship with my daughter. I don't need a man to feel complete."

I feel complete without anyone else. A relationship is about doing things with someone else, rather than alone, for me. I've only had one proper relationship, which was very unbalanced.b

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me, it is loving and living with my best friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"only one i can think of is sex on tap. i need convincing there's more to it than this...probably by the guy who wants one but i'm asking the forums.

Oh I love the whole 'no safety net' total trust and commitment that comes with a good relationship as much as good sex - I would like to take the handbrake totally off and give my all in every aspect of life. Love the closeness too - like the feeling I get with my horse when we can just feel each others thoughts without communicating them. Yumm!

i like the idea of this. just the idea though for now.

all given good answers really, most of the stuff people mentioned i get that from people in my life, feel lucky i do as well.

it's funny coz i thought i would've jumped at the chance of a relationship but i'm just meh about it now i could have one.

Some people have it stronger than others, this 'bonding' thing, same as some animals do. In horses it's the herd instinct, the desire for unity - you can nurture that and develop it and create something quite magical. I find it very fulfilling to know and be known fully - to share everything, hide nothing.

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Id never be so trusting as to let anyone know absoloutely everything about me, once you do that you are extremely vulnerable. I prefer to be independent and only let people know what I want them to know.

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"only one i can think of is sex on tap. i need convincing there's more to it than this...probably by the guy who wants one but i'm asking the forums.

Sex on tap?!! ...okay, if you say so!

Yeah, I was wondering that too

this is my basis for any relationship. someone who has a high sex drive. might sound weird or even sad but it's how every relationship i've had has started.

I don't think it sounds sad or weird. Look at the number of people on here solely due to mismatched sex drives within their relationship. Better to know yourself and what your priorities are before you embark on a relationship. The problem is as you've identified that sex won't a relationship together in the long term. I think you've answered your own question when you say that you need to be friends with more men before you embark on anything sexual, quite how you achieve that I'm not sure.

i just take sex out of the equation, that's how. i know how to make friends, just got trust issues to sort but every time i prove myself right with choices those issues become lesser.

Good. Do I need to buy a hat? "

lol, no you do not!!!

not even sure about relationships yet, haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the snuggles

sharing the cooking dutys

sharing the cleaning

enjoy the sex when we wanted

the little arguments and the make ups after them

being together and apart when needed the sharing of things but she always had the last one but I didnt mind "

Sharing the cleaning and the cooking ? Do things like that really happen in real life...I thought that was only on TV.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To me, it is loving and living with my best friend. "

Thats lovely and thats not ment in a sarcastic way

I suppose it depends what kind of a relationship you have, ive only ever had one relationship in my life and it was that bad ive been single for 9 years with no intention of being in another, so for me its hard to see anything positive about a relationship because ive never experienced anything good to miss, i always think its best to stay single

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"only one i can think of is sex on tap. i need convincing there's more to it than this...probably by the guy who wants one but i'm asking the forums.

Oh I love the whole 'no safety net' total trust and commitment that comes with a good relationship as much as good sex - I would like to take the handbrake totally off and give my all in every aspect of life. Love the closeness too - like the feeling I get with my horse when we can just feel each others thoughts without communicating them. Yumm!

i like the idea of this. just the idea though for now.

all given good answers really, most of the stuff people mentioned i get that from people in my life, feel lucky i do as well.

it's funny coz i thought i would've jumped at the chance of a relationship but i'm just meh about it now i could have one.

Some people have it stronger than others, this 'bonding' thing, same as some animals do. In horses it's the herd instinct, the desire for unity - you can nurture that and develop it and create something quite magical. I find it very fulfilling to know and be known fully - to share everything, hide nothing.

Id never be so trusting as to let anyone know absoloutely everything about me, once you do that you are extremely vulnerable. I prefer to be independent and only let people know what I want them to know. "

i love being vulnerable tbh, but yeah there are some cunts out there willing to take advantage of that and spoil you so you're not as open and you as you wanna be.

fucking hate them people.

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By *andVBCouple
over a year ago

Wrexham

I echo the sentiment about there not really being any advantages.

We are together not because it is advantageous to be so but because we want to share our lives with one another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A relationship doesn't have to mean living together. We don't, but our relationship is about encouraging and supporting each other, caring,sharing,taking an interest, enjoying vanilla stuff and great sex. X"

Exactly this , Lee is my best friend as well as my lover.

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I get a lot out of my relationship.

I get someone to talk to when I want to talk.

I get someone to cook with (read "for") me when I'm hungry.

I get someone who wants lots of sex, with me.

I get someone who has a different _iew of the world who can help inform my opinions.

I get someone who is intelligent and willing to share the knowledge.

I get companionship when I'm lonely and space when I want it.

I get someone to share travel, showers, fun, quiet times, holidays, and sleep with.

I have someone there when I'm sick who helps make me better.

I can't spell it all out here, but I was happy being alone and happier being with Marc. It all comes down to your personality and what makes you happiest."

I want this

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I echo the sentiment about there not really being any advantages.

We are together not because it is advantageous to be so but because we want to share our lives with one another."

i never looked for advantages with other relationships, that's true. i like this idea but not sure i've got relationships right after only being in one good one.

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford


"the snuggles

sharing the cooking dutys

sharing the cleaning

enjoy the sex when we wanted

the little arguments and the make ups after them

being together and apart when needed the sharing of things but she always had the last one but I didnt mind

Sharing the cleaning and the cooking ? Do things like that really happen in real life...I thought that was only on TV."

oh yes they do as i like to do it

I enjoy cooking and have been known to cook something whilst your watching something I kinda dont watch

to me sharing the cleaning dutys is only the right thing to do and I couldnt sit there and watch someone else do it as I tend to muck in

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"To me, it is loving and living with my best friend.

Thats lovely and thats not ment in a sarcastic way

I suppose it depends what kind of a relationship you have, ive only ever had one relationship in my life and it was that bad ive been single for 9 years with no intention of being in another, so for me its hard to see anything positive about a relationship because ive never experienced anything good to miss, i always think its best to stay single "

I think we're fed a diet of ' and they lived happily ever after' from early on and it gives us unrealistic expectations. I reckon it's a matter of luck if you end up with someone you're properly compatible with over a long period of time and too many of us rely on 'romantic' love which just isn't enough to sustain two people through some of the rubbish that life dishes out.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I echo the sentiment about there not really being any advantages.

We are together not because it is advantageous to be so but because we want to share our lives with one another."

Advantages can accrue without them being the reason for the relationship though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I echo the sentiment about there not really being any advantages.

We are together not because it is advantageous to be so but because we want to share our lives with one another.

i never looked for advantages with other relationships, that's true. i like this idea but not sure i've got relationships right after only being in one good one."
One up on me. I've always wanted one but never had one but maybe it's made me explore more of life and the world than I would of if I was in a relationship or maybe not the only way to find out is to be in one, but their has to be a balance an equality to start it off on the right foot. I always see people and know them, in relationships and it's my opinion that they are happier and their lives are richer and less frivolous because when everythings stripped away they have each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A relationship doesn't have to mean living together. We don't, but our relationship is about encouraging and supporting each other, caring,sharing,taking an interest, enjoying vanilla stuff and great sex. X

Exactly this , Lee is my best friend as well as my lover."

Same here and it is by far and beyond, the best relationship I have ever had. X

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I echo the sentiment about there not really being any advantages.

We are together not because it is advantageous to be so but because we want to share our lives with one another.

i never looked for advantages with other relationships, that's true. i like this idea but not sure i've got relationships right after only being in one good one.One up on me. I've always wanted one but never had one but maybe it's made me explore more of life and the world than I would of if I was in a relationship or maybe not the only way to find out is to be in one, but their has to be a balance an equality to start it off on the right foot. I always see people and know them, in relationships and it's my opinion that they are happier and their lives are richer and less frivolous because when everythings stripped away they have each other"

yeah. i'm looking at this in a way where i see how someone else might hold me back. they could also open up a lot of other things for me.

idk, confused still. probably isn't the right time or right mindset from me or something is just not right anyway.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago


"A relationship doesn't have to mean living together. We don't, but our relationship is about encouraging and supporting each other, caring,sharing,taking an interest, enjoying vanilla stuff and great sex. X

Exactly this , Lee is my best friend as well as my lover.

Same here and it is by far and beyond, the best relationship I have ever had. X"

Ditto

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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thanks all.

conclusion: i'm not ready, i'm not looking at this the right way, he's not the one for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanks all.

conclusion: i'm not ready, i'm not looking at this the right way, he's not the one for me."

He must not be! Sex on tap is good at the beginning, but there's soooo much more to a relationship than that and if you don't want to spend every minute with him regardless of what you're doing then it's certainly not love!

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanks all.

conclusion: i'm not ready, i'm not looking at this the right way, he's not the one for me.

He must not be! Sex on tap is good at the beginning, but there's soooo much more to a relationship than that and if you don't want to spend every minute with him regardless of what you're doing then it's certainly not love!

Ruby"

Uh, I don't think 24/7 togetherness is a necessity for love, in fact, it sounds unhealthy to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who sees your Flaw's and understands them and loves you all the more because they recognise that they are what makes you, you.

Someone who always has your back and you feel their support and presence even when they are not with you.

Someone who makes you want to be the best possible version of you that you can be, to be a better person because you know you already are for having them in your life and you are so grateful for that.

Someone that makes none of it is an effort because it comes naturally and feels so right.

Someone that appreciates your independence as it is part of your togetherness.

Someone that loves you all the more on the toughest day's and when you look back at that tough day you smile because of their support.

Someone who you gladly give your all to in return.

Madame B

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"thanks all.

conclusion: i'm not ready, i'm not looking at this the right way, he's not the one for me.

He must not be! Sex on tap is good at the beginning, but there's soooo much more to a relationship than that and if you don't want to spend every minute with him regardless of what you're doing then it's certainly not love!

Ruby"

i never want to spend all my time with anyone i love. do miss them when there not about sometimes.

but no there's some flags for me. some my end and some his.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"thanks all.

conclusion: i'm not ready, i'm not looking at this the right way, he's not the one for me.

He must not be! Sex on tap is good at the beginning, but there's soooo much more to a relationship than that and if you don't want to spend every minute with him regardless of what you're doing then it's certainly not love!

Ruby

i never want to spend all my time with anyone i love. do miss them when there not about sometimes.

but no there's some flags for me. some my end and some his."

I wouldn't take relationship advice from this site to be honest. Some relationships develop over time, not with a lightning bolt. If there are warning signs however its good to be wary.

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"thanks all.

conclusion: i'm not ready, i'm not looking at this the right way, he's not the one for me.

He must not be! Sex on tap is good at the beginning, but there's soooo much more to a relationship than that and if you don't want to spend every minute with him regardless of what you're doing then it's certainly not love!

Ruby

i never want to spend all my time with anyone i love. do miss them when there not about sometimes.

but no there's some flags for me. some my end and some his.

I wouldn't take relationship advice from this site to be honest. Some relationships develop over time, not with a lightning bolt. If there are warning signs however its good to be wary."

some advice has been good. plus he brought up the idea and put it in my head and i was considering it. still might yet but probably won't.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Support,someone to snuggle ,who you can have fun with and a Laugh too.

Miss

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"only one i can think of is sex on tap. i need convincing there's more to it than this...probably by the guy who wants one but i'm asking the forums.

"

op we are a social animal we all need to feel loved and feel love for another . with out that feeling in my opinion we are not loving only existing .

relationships are not about sex there about love which is food for the soul

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"only one i can think of is sex on tap. i need convincing there's more to it than this...probably by the guy who wants one but i'm asking the forums.

op we are a social animal we all need to feel loved and feel love for another . with out that feeling in my opinion we are not loving only existing .

relationships are not about sex there about love which is food for the soul "
My man right here companionship is soul food

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

None

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanks all.

conclusion: i'm not ready, i'm not looking at this the right way, he's not the one for me.

He must not be! Sex on tap is good at the beginning, but there's soooo much more to a relationship than that and if you don't want to spend every minute with him regardless of what you're doing then it's certainly not love!

Ruby

i never want to spend all my time with anyone i love. do miss them when there not about sometimes.

but no there's some flags for me. some my end and some his.

I wouldn't take relationship advice from this site to be honest. Some relationships develop over time, not with a lightning bolt. If there are warning signs however its good to be wary.

some advice has been good. plus he brought up the idea and put it in my head and i was considering it. still might yet but probably won't."

Being a cynical person, and someone who doesn't want a relationship myself, I would say don't do it; you can get sex anywhere and you'll probably be happier on your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was going to say cleaning cooking someone to blame and moan at.

Then I realised that's bloody me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing...

Cuddles and back scratching.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

For me it would mean no longer facing the world alone. Knowing someone is there to hold my hand and to share good and bad with.

Sex is actually way down the list xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the snuggles

sharing the cooking dutys

sharing the cleaning

enjoy the sex when we wanted

the little arguments and the make ups after them

being together and apart when needed the sharing of things but she always had the last one but I didnt mind

Sharing the cleaning and the cooking ? Do things like that really happen in real life...I thought that was only on TV.

oh yes they do as i like to do it

I enjoy cooking and have been known to cook something whilst your watching something I kinda dont watch

to me sharing the cleaning dutys is only the right thing to do and I couldnt sit there and watch someone else do it as I tend to muck in "

Marry me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think being in a relationship means you don't like your own company ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it would mean no longer facing the world alone. Knowing someone is there to hold my hand and to share good and bad with.

Sex is actually way down the list xx"

No guarantee you'd get that though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanks all.

conclusion: i'm not ready, i'm not looking at this the right way, he's not the one for me.

He must not be! Sex on tap is good at the beginning, but there's soooo much more to a relationship than that and if you don't want to spend every minute with him regardless of what you're doing then it's certainly not love!

Ruby

i never want to spend all my time with anyone i love. do miss them when there not about sometimes.

but no there's some flags for me. some my end and some his."

Aw well we are all different of course. I'm an extravert so I love being with people generally and when I love someone they're my every waking thought.

Suppose no one can really give you advice on your own individual circumstance, we are in the land of the unique!

Hope you're ok, I remember your posts on your previous profile and do worry about you from time to time xxxx

Ruby x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is making me sad!

I'm so fucking tired of doing everything alone!

Maybe fab is wrong for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is making me sad!

I'm so fucking tired of doing everything alone!

Maybe fab is wrong for me "

You should be proud you're an independent lady

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"thanks all.

conclusion: i'm not ready, i'm not looking at this the right way, he's not the one for me.

He must not be! Sex on tap is good at the beginning, but there's soooo much more to a relationship than that and if you don't want to spend every minute with him regardless of what you're doing then it's certainly not love!

Ruby

i never want to spend all my time with anyone i love. do miss them when there not about sometimes.

but no there's some flags for me. some my end and some his.

Aw well we are all different of course. I'm an extravert so I love being with people generally and when I love someone they're my every waking thought.

Suppose no one can really give you advice on your own individual circumstance, we are in the land of the unique!

Hope you're ok, I remember your posts on your previous profile and do worry about you from time to time xxxx

Ruby x"

probably not ok but the right kind of guy for me doesn't reciprocate my feelings (which is probably best for him lol).

i'm alright really, just trying new stuff out and getting confused all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are good if they can fix boilers that's about it lol

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

They put the wheelie bins out in the rain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can change a tyre on a car lol

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own


"For me it would mean no longer facing the world alone. Knowing someone is there to hold my hand and to share good and bad with.

Sex is actually way down the list xx

No guarantee you'd get that though."

No but I don't have it at all at the moment. Yes I'm independent and have been for years. The downside of that is that I'm probably pretty hard to love now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Less money worries (assuming you can find a woman with a decent job), sex/intamacy when you want.

And biggest a confidant you can trust to talk to more fully than a normal friend

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over a year ago


"For me it would mean no longer facing the world alone. Knowing someone is there to hold my hand and to share good and bad with.

Sex is actually way down the list xx

No guarantee you'd get that though.

No but I don't have it at all at the moment. Yes I'm independent and have been for years. The downside of that is that I'm probably pretty hard to love now. "
It's matter of perception you look pretty loveable to me.

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By *armel and FrancisCouple
over a year ago

North wex

Respect love and company to be there when u need to and to give u space freedom and ur independence when u dont.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"only one i can think of is sex on tap. i need convincing there's more to it than this...probably by the guy who wants one but i'm asking the forums.

"

Sumone to talk to

Sumone to be with

Sumone to go out with

Sumone to be Thar for you

Sumone to love and to love you

Sumone to shear with

Sumone to cear for and hoo cears for you

Sunone that maks the world seem not so bad.............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Less money worries (assuming you can find a woman with a decent job), sex/intamacy when you want.

And biggest a confidant you can trust to talk to more fully than a normal friend"

Sexy when you want? I do love your humour

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over a year ago


"Less money worries (assuming you can find a woman with a decent job), sex/intamacy when you want.

And biggest a confidant you can trust to talk to more fully than a normal friend

Sexy when you want? I do love your humour "

Guess I've only had healthy relationships.

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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someone to stroke your hair as you fall asleep, even if they just messed it up already.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr does my head in at times, and I'd quite happily strangle him.

But

He is also my best friends, puts up with my shit and issues, loves me unconditionaly, never judges me and knows me better than I know myself.

So although there are negatives, the positives outweigh those.

We've been together 19 years (half my life) and are both still very much in love and I can't imagine a life where he's not in it x

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"Less money worries (assuming you can find a woman with a decent job), sex/intamacy when you want.

And biggest a confidant you can trust to talk to more fully than a normal friend

Sexy when you want? I do love your humour

Guess I've only had healthy relationships."

A heathy relationship still doesn't guarantee sex whenever you want it. People have different sex drives, both partners aren't always in the sexy mood at the same time. Or maybe you just insist on your women letting you have sex when you want it regardless of whether they are in the mood for it or not.

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"Less money worries (assuming you can find a woman with a decent job), sex/intamacy when you want.

And biggest a confidant you can trust to talk to more fully than a normal friend

Sexy when you want? I do love your humour

Guess I've only had healthy relationships.

A heathy relationship still doesn't guarantee sex whenever you want it. People have different sex drives, both partners aren't always in the sexy mood at the same time. Or maybe you just insist on your women letting you have sex when you want it regardless of whether they are in the mood for it or not."

A healthy relationship involves finding somone youre compatible with in my mind.

And i did say intamacy too, youre the one focusing purely on sex.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Interesting question, I shall answer with waht I'd think was good rather than what I've had previously.

Snuggles on tap, shared chores, laughing and feeling like someone really cares.

Find that and I'd even consider it

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"Mr does my head in at times, and I'd quite happily strangle him.

But

He is also my best friends, puts up with my shit and issues, loves me unconditionaly, never judges me and knows me better than I know myself.

So although there are negatives, the positives outweigh those.

We've been together 19 years (half my life) and are both still very much in love and I can't imagine a life where he's not in it x"

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over a year ago

Has anyone said "love" yet?

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over a year ago


"Less money worries (assuming you can find a woman with a decent job), sex/intamacy when you want.

And biggest a confidant you can trust to talk to more fully than a normal friend

Sexy when you want? I do love your humour

Guess I've only had healthy relationships.

A heathy relationship still doesn't guarantee sex whenever you want it. People have different sex drives, both partners aren't always in the sexy mood at the same time. Or maybe you just insist on your women letting you have sex when you want it regardless of whether they are in the mood for it or not.

A healthy relationship involves finding somone youre compatible with in my mind.

And i did say intamacy too, youre the one focusing purely on sex.

"

People change over time, things happen in life, circumstances change. All of these things can affect sex and intimacy, but perhaps you've never been in a relationship long enough to realise this, after all you're just a young man.

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"Mr does my head in at times, and I'd quite happily strangle him.

But

He is also my best friends, puts up with my shit and issues, loves me unconditionaly, never judges me and knows me better than I know myself.

So although there are negatives, the positives outweigh those.

We've been together 19 years (half my life) and are both still very much in love and I can't imagine a life where he's not in it x"

Beautifully put

Madame B

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Mr does my head in at times, and I'd quite happily strangle him.

But

He is also my best friends, puts up with my shit and issues, loves me unconditionaly, never judges me and knows me better than I know myself.

So although there are negatives, the positives outweigh those.

We've been together 19 years (half my life) and are both still very much in love and I can't imagine a life where he's not in it x

Beautifully put

Madame B"

yeah i liked that as well. that's my ex. pretty sure unconditional love is hard to find, except off family and the very rare friend.

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over a year ago


"Mr does my head in at times, and I'd quite happily strangle him.

But

He is also my best friends, puts up with my shit and issues, loves me unconditionaly, never judges me and knows me better than I know myself.

So although there are negatives, the positives outweigh those.

We've been together 19 years (half my life) and are both still very much in love and I can't imagine a life where he's not in it x

Beautifully put

Madame B

yeah i liked that as well. that's my ex. pretty sure unconditional love is hard to find, except off family and the very rare friend."

Difficult to find but worth holding out for and you seldom see it coming.

Madame B

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over a year ago


"Mr does my head in at times, and I'd quite happily strangle him.

But

He is also my best friends, puts up with my shit and issues, loves me unconditionaly, never judges me and knows me better than I know myself.

So although there are negatives, the positives outweigh those.

We've been together 19 years (half my life) and are both still very much in love and I can't imagine a life where he's not in it x

Beautifully put

Madame B

yeah i liked that as well. that's my ex. pretty sure unconditional love is hard to find, except off family and the very rare friend."

I believe the only true unconditional love is between parent and child.

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over a year ago

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"Mr does my head in at times, and I'd quite happily strangle him.

But

He is also my best friends, puts up with my shit and issues, loves me unconditionaly, never judges me and knows me better than I know myself.

So although there are negatives, the positives outweigh those.

We've been together 19 years (half my life) and are both still very much in love and I can't imagine a life where he's not in it x

Beautifully put

Madame B

yeah i liked that as well. that's my ex. pretty sure unconditional love is hard to find, except off family and the very rare friend.

I believe the only true unconditional love is between parent and child."

i have one ex who has given me this. and both my sisters and brother. and one friend.

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By *oachman 9CoolMan
over a year ago

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"I don't think being in a relationship means you don't like your own company ?"
I think that part is where you like your own space to.

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"Mr does my head in at times, and I'd quite happily strangle him.

But

He is also my best friends, puts up with my shit and issues, loves me unconditionaly, never judges me and knows me better than I know myself.

So although there are negatives, the positives outweigh those.

We've been together 19 years (half my life) and are both still very much in love and I can't imagine a life where he's not in it x

Beautifully put

Madame B

yeah i liked that as well. that's my ex. pretty sure unconditional love is hard to find, except off family and the very rare friend.

I believe the only true unconditional love is between parent and child.

i have one ex who has given me this. and both my sisters and brother. and one friend."

So if you had cheated on your ex, would they of forgiven you?

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over a year ago

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"Mr does my head in at times, and I'd quite happily strangle him.

But

He is also my best friends, puts up with my shit and issues, loves me unconditionaly, never judges me and knows me better than I know myself.

So although there are negatives, the positives outweigh those.

We've been together 19 years (half my life) and are both still very much in love and I can't imagine a life where he's not in it x

Beautifully put

Madame B

yeah i liked that as well. that's my ex. pretty sure unconditional love is hard to find, except off family and the very rare friend.

I believe the only true unconditional love is between parent and child.

i have one ex who has given me this. and both my sisters and brother. and one friend.

So if you had cheated on your ex, would they of forgiven you?"

yes, he did.

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"Mr does my head in at times, and I'd quite happily strangle him.

But

He is also my best friends, puts up with my shit and issues, loves me unconditionaly, never judges me and knows me better than I know myself.

So although there are negatives, the positives outweigh those.

We've been together 19 years (half my life) and are both still very much in love and I can't imagine a life where he's not in it x

Beautifully put

Madame B

yeah i liked that as well. that's my ex. pretty sure unconditional love is hard to find, except off family and the very rare friend.

I believe the only true unconditional love is between parent and child.

i have one ex who has given me this. and both my sisters and brother. and one friend.

So if you had cheated on your ex, would they of forgiven you?

yes, he did."
Wow, you were lucky then.

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over a year ago

sex on tap, cuddles, dressing up -jo

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"

So if you had cheated on your ex, would they of forgiven you?"

Some people, when in the right relationships, have the capacity for forgiveness. ..and manage to work through any issues. .. and come out the other side stronger than ever. That is a relationship worth having.

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

Spooning

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over a year ago

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"Mr does my head in at times, and I'd quite happily strangle him.

But

He is also my best friends, puts up with my shit and issues, loves me unconditionaly, never judges me and knows me better than I know myself.

So although there are negatives, the positives outweigh those.

We've been together 19 years (half my life) and are both still very much in love and I can't imagine a life where he's not in it x

Beautifully put

Madame B

yeah i liked that as well. that's my ex. pretty sure unconditional love is hard to find, except off family and the very rare friend.

I believe the only true unconditional love is between parent and child.

i have one ex who has given me this. and both my sisters and brother. and one friend.

So if you had cheated on your ex, would they of forgiven you?

yes, he did.

Wow, you were lucky then. "

very. i know just how rare guys/love like that is.

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"

So if you had cheated on your ex, would they of forgiven you?

Some people, when in the right relationships, have the capacity for forgiveness. ..and manage to work through any issues. .. and come out the other side stronger than ever. That is a relationship worth having."

I agree, it is, but I think it's in the minority.

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over a year ago


"

So if you had cheated on your ex, would they of forgiven you?

Some people, when in the right relationships, have the capacity for forgiveness. ..and manage to work through any issues. .. and come out the other side stronger than ever. That is a relationship worth having.

I agree, it is, but I think it's in the minority. "

Only because people end up settling for relationships with the wrong people.

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over a year ago


"Mr does my head in at times, and I'd quite happily strangle him.

But

He is also my best friends, puts up with my shit and issues, loves me unconditionaly, never judges me and knows me better than I know myself.

So although there are negatives, the positives outweigh those.

We've been together 19 years (half my life) and are both still very much in love and I can't imagine a life where he's not in it x

Beautifully put

Madame B

yeah i liked that as well. that's my ex. pretty sure unconditional love is hard to find, except off family and the very rare friend.

I believe the only true unconditional love is between parent and child."

And my dogs, they love me no matter how shit I look

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over a year ago

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"

So if you had cheated on your ex, would they of forgiven you?

Some people, when in the right relationships, have the capacity for forgiveness. ..and manage to work through any issues. .. and come out the other side stronger than ever. That is a relationship worth having.

I agree, it is, but I think it's in the minority.

Only because people end up settling for relationships with the wrong people. "

i think so now.

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"

So if you had cheated on your ex, would they of forgiven you?

Some people, when in the right relationships, have the capacity for forgiveness. ..and manage to work through any issues. .. and come out the other side stronger than ever. That is a relationship worth having.

I agree, it is, but I think it's in the minority.

Only because people end up settling for relationships with the wrong people. "

This.

People settle then blame thier partners for not being who they want them to be.

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"

So if you had cheated on your ex, would they of forgiven you?

Some people, when in the right relationships, have the capacity for forgiveness. ..and manage to work through any issues. .. and come out the other side stronger than ever. That is a relationship worth having.

I agree, it is, but I think it's in the minority.

Only because people end up settling for relationships with the wrong people.

i think so now. "

Surely by the amount of failed relationships that's just human nature, how many people can honestly say they have never ever had a failed relationship? There's a hell of a lot of people settling for the wrong people out there

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"

So if you had cheated on your ex, would they of forgiven you?

Some people, when in the right relationships, have the capacity for forgiveness. ..and manage to work through any issues. .. and come out the other side stronger than ever. That is a relationship worth having."

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey


"But sex on tap is not always guaranteed in a relationship is it? I suppose those in relationships should answer this one, maybe those who don't like to be alone like the companionship, someone to share things with, etc."

My recent experience meant I had less sex in a long term relationship than a casual lover!

Ok, for me the benefits include... Sunday afternoon DVD, going to social events (especially weddings!), someone to lift heavy furniture or unscrew a jar and someone to scratch my back or pick up milk as we've run out. Oh, and nice to have a other half if going on a long car journey or have a dinner party. Blimey, long old list!!! Xxx

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"

So if you had cheated on your ex, would they of forgiven you?

Some people, when in the right relationships, have the capacity for forgiveness. ..and manage to work through any issues. .. and come out the other side stronger than ever. That is a relationship worth having.

I agree, it is, but I think it's in the minority.

Only because people end up settling for relationships with the wrong people.

i think so now.

Surely by the amount of failed relationships that's just human nature, how many people can honestly say they have never ever had a failed relationship? There's a hell of a lot of people settling for the wrong people out there "

People panic snd think they wont find somone or dont realise it till later.

I think as you get older though you mature and learn to end it so you can both go and find somone better suited to you.

When your young though yeah silly mistakes abound.

But saying that my parents met at 17 and are still happily together at 70 and my older brother met his gf at 17 and just proposed at 30.

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over a year ago

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"

So if you had cheated on your ex, would they of forgiven you?

Some people, when in the right relationships, have the capacity for forgiveness. ..and manage to work through any issues. .. and come out the other side stronger than ever. That is a relationship worth having.

I agree, it is, but I think it's in the minority.

Only because people end up settling for relationships with the wrong people.

i think so now.

Surely by the amount of failed relationships that's just human nature, how many people can honestly say they have never ever had a failed relationship? There's a hell of a lot of people settling for the wrong people out there "

i was happy to settle as well, didn't really think there was such a thing as a perfect relationship.

sometimes i think most relationships are only temporary anyway. they teach you something and you move onto to someone else who will teach you more. not sure yet, coming to all kinds of contradictory conclusions about stuff.

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"thanks all.

conclusion: i'm not ready, i'm not looking at this the right way, he's not the one for me.

He must not be! Sex on tap is good at the beginning, but there's soooo much more to a relationship than that and if you don't want to spend every minute with him regardless of what you're doing then it's certainly not love!

Ruby

i never want to spend all my time with anyone i love. do miss them when there not about sometimes.

but no there's some flags for me. some my end and some his.

Aw well we are all different of course. I'm an extravert so I love being with people generally and when I love someone they're my every waking thought.

Suppose no one can really give you advice on your own individual circumstance, we are in the land of the unique!

Hope you're ok, I remember your posts on your previous profile and do worry about you from time to time xxxx

Ruby x

probably not ok but the right kind of guy for me doesn't reciprocate my feelings (which is probably best for him lol).

i'm alright really, just trying new stuff out and getting confused all the time. "

Aw well if you ever want a chat offline. Or a brew in Preston (I work near there) then give me a shout. I want to give you a cuddle!

Ruby x

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"Mr does my head in at times, and I'd quite happily strangle him.

But

He is also my best friends, puts up with my shit and issues, loves me unconditionaly, never judges me and knows me better than I know myself.

So although there are negatives, the positives outweigh those.

We've been together 19 years (half my life) and are both still very much in love and I can't imagine a life where he's not in it x

Beautifully put

Madame B

yeah i liked that as well. that's my ex. pretty sure unconditional love is hard to find, except off family and the very rare friend.

I believe the only true unconditional love is between parent and child.

And my dogs, they love me no matter how shit I look "

Texts from Dog says otherwise.....

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over a year ago

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"thanks all.

conclusion: i'm not ready, i'm not looking at this the right way, he's not the one for me.

He must not be! Sex on tap is good at the beginning, but there's soooo much more to a relationship than that and if you don't want to spend every minute with him regardless of what you're doing then it's certainly not love!

Ruby

i never want to spend all my time with anyone i love. do miss them when there not about sometimes.

but no there's some flags for me. some my end and some his.

Aw well we are all different of course. I'm an extravert so I love being with people generally and when I love someone they're my every waking thought.

Suppose no one can really give you advice on your own individual circumstance, we are in the land of the unique!

Hope you're ok, I remember your posts on your previous profile and do worry about you from time to time xxxx

Ruby x

probably not ok but the right kind of guy for me doesn't reciprocate my feelings (which is probably best for him lol).

i'm alright really, just trying new stuff out and getting confused all the time.

Aw well if you ever want a chat offline. Or a brew in Preston (I work near there) then give me a shout. I want to give you a cuddle!

Ruby x"

thanks, i'm only an 8 min train ride away from preston.

dunno why i'm over thinking stuff like this, it used to be easy.

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"

So if you had cheated on your ex, would they of forgiven you?

Some people, when in the right relationships, have the capacity for forgiveness. ..and manage to work through any issues. .. and come out the other side stronger than ever. That is a relationship worth having.

I agree, it is, but I think it's in the minority.

Only because people end up settling for relationships with the wrong people.

i think so now.

Surely by the amount of failed relationships that's just human nature, how many people can honestly say they have never ever had a failed relationship? There's a hell of a lot of people settling for the wrong people out there "

yes of course. ...but those relationships are doomed to fail anyway. That's why they crumble when put to the test.

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over a year ago


"Mr does my head in at times, and I'd quite happily strangle him.

But

He is also my best friends, puts up with my shit and issues, loves me unconditionaly, never judges me and knows me better than I know myself.

So although there are negatives, the positives outweigh those.

We've been together 19 years (half my life) and are both still very much in love and I can't imagine a life where he's not in it x

Beautifully put

Madame B

yeah i liked that as well. that's my ex. pretty sure unconditional love is hard to find, except off family and the very rare friend.

I believe the only true unconditional love is between parent and child.

i have one ex who has given me this. and both my sisters and brother. and one friend.

So if you had cheated on your ex, would they of forgiven you?"

I have never cheated on him, not him me, and I feel no need to cheat. I have everything I need in our marriage but swinging is something we've chosen to do together just to mix things up a bit.

We have rough patches, but we deal with them together. And we take turns at being the strength the other needs.

Relationships are a joint effort so as long as both parties put in that effort, and don't run as soon as things get tough (obviously depending on what it is) then if its worth it, it will be x

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over a year ago

I thought of another one... the possibility that if he leaves for work first in the morning he might defrost your car for you.

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By *orum Troll OP   Woman
over a year ago

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i need a massage

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over a year ago


"only one i can think of is sex on tap. i need convincing there's more to it than this...probably by the guy who wants one but i'm asking the forums.

"

Ha! Advantages? You can write a list longer than your arm. Thing is though, for every advantage, you could add a disadvantage. So how do you weigh it all up? Well simply, you don't. There is no logic in love and relationships. You meet someone and you take it from there. Throw caution to the wind and enjoy the ride. If you are currently single and have thoughts that you may want to meet someone and are considering leaving singledom. Don't think about it too much. There is no formula to it all, everyone is different. Follow your heart. Good luck OP

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over a year ago


"thanks all.

conclusion: i'm not ready, i'm not looking at this the right way, he's not the one for me.

He must not be! Sex on tap is good at the beginning, but there's soooo much more to a relationship than that and if you don't want to spend every minute with him regardless of what you're doing then it's certainly not love!

Ruby

i never want to spend all my time with anyone i love. do miss them when there not about sometimes.

but no there's some flags for me. some my end and some his.

Aw well we are all different of course. I'm an extravert so I love being with people generally and when I love someone they're my every waking thought.

Suppose no one can really give you advice on your own individual circumstance, we are in the land of the unique!

Hope you're ok, I remember your posts on your previous profile and do worry about you from time to time xxxx

Ruby x

probably not ok but the right kind of guy for me doesn't reciprocate my feelings (which is probably best for him lol).

i'm alright really, just trying new stuff out and getting confused all the time.

Aw well if you ever want a chat offline. Or a brew in Preston (I work near there) then give me a shout. I want to give you a cuddle!

Ruby x

thanks, i'm only an 8 min train ride away from preston.

dunno why i'm over thinking stuff like this, it used to be easy. "

Such is life! Ups, downs and hormones!

Ruby

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over a year ago

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"thanks all.

conclusion: i'm not ready, i'm not looking at this the right way, he's not the one for me.

He must not be! Sex on tap is good at the beginning, but there's soooo much more to a relationship than that and if you don't want to spend every minute with him regardless of what you're doing then it's certainly not love!

Ruby

i never want to spend all my time with anyone i love. do miss them when there not about sometimes.

but no there's some flags for me. some my end and some his.

Aw well we are all different of course. I'm an extravert so I love being with people generally and when I love someone they're my every waking thought.

Suppose no one can really give you advice on your own individual circumstance, we are in the land of the unique!

Hope you're ok, I remember your posts on your previous profile and do worry about you from time to time xxxx

Ruby x

probably not ok but the right kind of guy for me doesn't reciprocate my feelings (which is probably best for him lol).

i'm alright really, just trying new stuff out and getting confused all the time.

Aw well if you ever want a chat offline. Or a brew in Preston (I work near there) then give me a shout. I want to give you a cuddle!

Ruby x

thanks, i'm only an 8 min train ride away from preston.

dunno why i'm over thinking stuff like this, it used to be easy.

Such is life! Ups, downs and hormones!

Ruby "

i'm not giving a shit today, ignored his pestering for a few days now and feel much better.

probably will message him later when i'm bored though.

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"I thought of another one... the possibility that if he leaves for work first in the morning he might defrost your car for you.

"

Where do people dream up such crazy ideas

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Quid pro quo

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over a year ago

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as a singleton i can listen to Die Woodys - Fichtl's Lied - BREAKBEAT RemiX as many times as i like and laugh at it without anyone seeing how crazy i really am.

being single is fun.

me and my dildo are gonna be very happy together forever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex on tap when in a relationship? Maybe in the first few years.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Sex on tap when in a relationship? Maybe in the first few years."

"On tap"

Well, you set time aside, don't you?

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"Sex on tap when in a relationship? Maybe in the first few years."

bar having kids, all the time with me and my ex. and we were fb when we split up. although i don't wanna fuck him any more.

might do the kinky stuff with him, feminise him and make him eat his cum outta me.

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anyway. thanks for all the replies. not got my answer but i'm pretty sure all this thinking is gonna start forcing me to make choice soon enough.

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