FabSwingers.com forum: Winking, does it work?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does it actually work?

Do girls or couples look at winks and think wow he's made no effort at all so we definitely want him in our bed...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't personally no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ignore them & friend requests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

works - i look at profiles that wink and i go on massive winkathons when i cant be mithered with messaging etc -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few women use it to gauge a guys Iinterest from all accounts on the forums.... but the same few seem to respond to them.

I take the same approach as many though and feel if they're genuinely interested they can put a few sentences together to get my attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look at them. Then we look at the profile and decide if we are going to wink back or send a message. So people do look at them. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worked for us, I, Poppy, winked Billy 3 years ago when we had single profiles on here, and here we are a very happy couple, having fallen in love.

Poppy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does it actually work?

Do girls or couples look at winks and think wow he's made no effort at all so we definitely want him in our bed..."
For women probably, for men probably not. People view it as lazy, best to try message when people are online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slightly off topic...but can be linked....

when i fab a pic it's because i genuinely think it's a nice pic. Some fab them to get their attention like winks.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I rarely look at them to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hit and miss really, just be sure to combine with a smile for maximum effect.

If I'm feeling especially attracted to the target I sometimes follow it with a little flick of my tongue aswell

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've had meets after people winked me, so it can work. Don't bother doing it if users state that they dislike or ignore them of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm one of those who find it hard to compose a decent first message (in the old days we called it shy lol) so I tend to wink and see if I get a response but no, in my experience it doesn't work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am genuinly, absoloutly bobbins at composing a first message or even starting a conversation in person with someone i have never spoke to before and i always have been. So on the rare occasion i do wink its to show interest. Its never noticed though

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I hardly ever look at winks of I am honest. but then I am very selfish and look at messages, put them on the hotlist and contact when I am looking for a new meet...

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

What works for one doesn't work for another personally I don't send winks but I do look at them as being a bloke on here I'm not particularly bombarded with them!

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I always reply to winks, but I'm a single male, so not too busy.

I normally only wink, if the profile is so basic that there is nothing to write about.

If they don't put effort in, to say what sort of person or meet they want, then I'll probably just wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It generally works when women do it, because guys are usually grateful for any attention they can get on here.

However, whenever I've replied to a wink, that message never gets replied to, so it does seem to be a waste of time overall. If you're interested in someone just send a message!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Every now and again, I bulk delete. So, I know the bulk delete function works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't look at my winks ..don't delete them I just leave them there to fester

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"Every now and again, I bulk delete. So, I know the bulk delete function works"

Same here

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By *on and TammyCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Its worked when we've winked at others and it works when people wink at us.

I delete the winks we're not interested in and keep the ones from people we'd be interested in meeting at some point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just mass delete them better to get someone's attention with a message winking is just being lazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I had a single profile I didn't look - too many and enough messages to keep me busy.

On our couples profile we do look and we do use them unless someone says don't bother - it's a diffiersnt dynamic to a single profile.

Re first messages; I admired those who admitted they were nervous and hoping their message gets noticed, without any sex talk. Also those who said something thoughtful, intellectual and interesting, or very funny. Text speak and lazy, crude messages got deleted. I'd say most who walk up to a nice lady in a bar wouldn't say 'I'd like to smash your back doors in' or 'I'd like to eat your pussy', and 'U ok?' is very unoriginal, so why do it on here? Sex for me/us isn't just about looks it about personality and social too so if you can't hold a conversation there's no rumble in the jungle!

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm a total winker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does it actually work?

Do girls or couples look at winks and think wow he's made no effort at all so we definitely want him in our bed..."

We ignore them. It says on our profile not to bother winking, just send a message.

And still the winks roll in....

M plus E

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I rarely look at mine. I've sent one or two though and then had a message in return.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does it actually work?

Do girls or couples look at winks and think wow he's made no effort at all so we definitely want him in our bed..."

Ive reacted to a wink.

I've sent one or 2 but I do t think anything came if it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women winking men works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women winking men works"

Aye defo,can't remember getting any response from winking,but one of the best meets I've had so far started with her winking at me.

A few messages,a phone call,n a week or so later n I was up to my nuts in her guts!

So it works for the ladies but not so much for us guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've winked back once or twice. It worked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We regard winks as a way of 'testing the water'. We use the wink system. If we don't get a wink back we assume we are not at not what they are looking for at that moment in time. We do look at winks, but most of our winks come from profiles that don't really tell us anything. That's the disadvantage of winks - you are asking people to make a judgement purely on their profile as there is no message or attached photos to back up the wink. So I would say there is no point in winking unless you have a very informative profile,

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had many a good meet that started with a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just messaged someone that winked me.normally just delete them but he looks cute

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"We regard winks as a way of 'testing the water'. We use the wink system. If we don't get a wink back we assume we are not at not what they are looking for at that moment in time. We do look at winks, but most of our winks come from profiles that don't really tell us anything. That's the disadvantage of winks - you are asking people to make a judgement purely on their profile as there is no message or attached photos to back up the wink. So I would say there is no point in winking unless you have a very informative profile,

Mrs"

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

Seems people don't like getting winks on here. It's better than getting no attention surely and getting a message ignored that you've written to someone?

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By *nterracial2Couple
over a year ago

Ribble Valley

We think it does, it's a good quick way to judge whether someone likes the look of your profile. For us if we wink at you, that means we're interested, if you wink at us and we don't wink back it's like a politer way of saying no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely respond to them, I get so many. Prefer someone to take the time to message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't look at my winks. I forget they're there to be honest

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