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Are you a real swinger if you dont meet couples??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been on here a while and never met a couple, fact is I only want to meet women..

Ive been to parties, played with a lady, mmf is something that just doesnt interest me I suppose..

Thoughts??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet couples, only single guys, I don't class myself as a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't meet couples, only single guys, I don't class myself as a swinger."

See i say that then ppl say why you on a swingers site??

haha I then feel snookered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't meet couples, only single guys, I don't class myself as a swinger.

See i say that then ppl say why you on a swingers site??

haha I then feel snookered"

Hmmmm yeah I see what you mean! I suppose people are on here for loads of reasons, nothing really to do with anyone else how you use it, unless you're hurting other people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cliche swinging from the 1960s? Probably not.

Today is far more fluid though.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I don't meet couples, only single guys, I don't class myself as a swinger."

this for me as well. i'm only interested in MM couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't meet couples, only single guys, I don't class myself as a swinger.

See i say that then ppl say why you on a swingers site??

haha I then feel snookered"

Tell them you are here for sex, the same as everyone else. You don't have to have a swinging certificate to use the site.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

There are various definitions for swinger, one of which is "a person who indulges in promiscuous sex" so if you meet on here you are a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see the term swinging as more of a lifestyle thing, its all about being social and getting to know whoever it is you meet...

as opposed to those who say this is a sex site who like to meet random strangers in laybys and supermarket carparks

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I see the term swinging as more of a lifestyle thing, its all about being social and getting to know whoever it is you meet...

as opposed to those who say this is a sex site who like to meet random strangers in laybys and supermarket carparks"

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are various definitions for swinger, one of which is "a person who indulges in promiscuous sex" so if you meet on here you are a swinger "

Haha i agree with both sides of this its a hard 1 isnt it

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I see the term swinging as more of a lifestyle thing, its all about being social and getting to know whoever it is you meet...

as opposed to those who say this is a sex site who like to meet random strangers in laybys and supermarket carparks"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my 2 and half years of "swinging" as a single, and then ff profile with a very good friend I met on here, we've met single guys alone, together, group fun, gang bangs, parties, clubs, but never been interested in couples, suppose we were greedy.

This site gives you the tools to explore different sernario's that you wouldn't find in vanilla life. Enjoy what you enjoy, if you are getting what you want, why worry about others opinions?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I see the term swinging as more of a lifestyle thing, its all about being social and getting to know whoever it is you meet...

as opposed to those who say this is a sex site who like to meet random strangers in laybys and supermarket carparks"

No offence but them meets are just

a bit seedy and desperado in my book. I like to treat a meet like a date kinda if it goes well you know your in for a good time

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't think it matters. Its only a label.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not a real swinger unless you have Pampas grass in your front garden.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think it matters. Its only a label. "

Yeah it is I suppose

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're not a real swinger unless you have Pampas grass in your front garden."

Ha grass doesnt grow on a busy rd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, us singles just shag around lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it matters. Its only a label. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, us singles just shag around lol."

Lol im quite picky as it goes

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It doesn't matter, neither does what you do sexually with consenting adults. And talk of promiscuity is rather passé. My identity is not something I do, it's just who I am.

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley


"You're not a real swinger unless you have Pampas grass in your front garden."

Damn - looks like a trip to b&q this weekend (note other stores are available as well)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It doesn't matter, neither does what you do sexually with consenting adults. And talk of promiscuity is rather passé. My identity is not something I do, it's just who I am. "

Its only a quenstion chill out

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Been on here a while and never met a couple, fact is I only want to meet women..

Ive been to parties, played with a lady, mmf is something that just doesnt interest me I suppose..

Thoughts??

"

tried a mind meld but I still can't get to your thoughts

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley


"Been on here a while and never met a couple, fact is I only want to meet women..

Ive been to parties, played with a lady, mmf is something that just doesnt interest me I suppose..

Thoughts??

tried a mind meld but I still can't get to your thoughts"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging has evolved, but I tend to regard it as an umbrella term for sexual activity that involves 3 or more people in the equation, usually in the same room but not necessarily. When I was single and looking for NSA sex with single men, I did not regard myself as a swinger. If I were single looking for one-to-one NSA hookups I have no idea whether I would use a swingers or a dating site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging has evolved, but I tend to regard it as an umbrella term for sexual activity that involves 3 or more people in the equation, usually in the same room but not necessarily. When I was single and looking for NSA sex with single men, I did not regard myself as a swinger. If I were single looking for one-to-one NSA hookups I have no idea whether I would use a swingers or a dating site. "

Not all single people want hook up sex and some couples do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always thought swingers were couples who have sex with others together or alone. id say singles who meet only other singles just want sex with out hassle, the swingers sit is just easier than the dating sites you dont have to explain on fab that no u don't want a relationship u just want to get down & dirty ( well my opinion anyway)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging has evolved, but I tend to regard it as an umbrella term for sexual activity that involves 3 or more people in the equation, usually in the same room but not necessarily. When I was single and looking for NSA sex with single men, I did not regard myself as a swinger. If I were single looking for one-to-one NSA hookups I have no idea whether I would use a swingers or a dating site.

Not all single people want hook up sex and some couples do. "

I meant 'hookup' as in one-to-one sex, and plenty of singles aren't looking for only one to one sex. I don't know what 'hookup' means in relation to couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i always thought swingers were couples who have sex with others together or alone. id say singles who meet only other singles just want sex with out hassle, the swingers sit is just easier than the dating sites you dont have to explain on fab that no u don't want a relationship u just want to get down & dirty ( well my opinion anyway) "

That's more or less my definition, but I include activities such as orgies and threesomes as well as couple play, therefore not exclusive to couples. I would imagine it's easier for singles to find NSA sex with other singles on a swingers site than on a dating site, and there's nothing wrong with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i always thought swingers were couples who have sex with others together or alone. id say singles who meet only other singles just want sex with out hassle, the swingers sit is just easier than the dating sites you dont have to explain on fab that no u don't want a relationship u just want to get down & dirty ( well my opinion anyway) "
#site ??

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"i always thought swingers were couples who have sex with others together or alone. id say singles who meet only other singles just want sex with out hassle, the swingers sit is just easier than the dating sites you dont have to explain on fab that no u don't want a relationship u just want to get down & dirty ( well my opinion anyway)

That's more or less my definition, but I include activities such as orgies and threesomes as well as couple play, therefore not exclusive to couples. I would imagine it's easier for singles to find NSA sex with other singles on a swingers site than on a dating site, and there's nothing wrong with that. "

i've found more NSA on dating sites (every single guy actually). dating is a pile of shit really, imo. either that or i'm scary as fuck sexually and frighten them off after that.

fuck sites are good, do get a lot more guys up for relationships from those but i wasn't ready for that then.

not sure about swinging sites really finding things aren't quite what they seem but we'll see as i'm doing stuff differently now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i always thought swingers were couples who have sex with others together or alone. id say singles who meet only other singles just want sex with out hassle, the swingers sit is just easier than the dating sites you dont have to explain on fab that no u don't want a relationship u just want to get down & dirty ( well my opinion anyway)

That's more or less my definition, but I include activities such as orgies and threesomes as well as couple play, therefore not exclusive to couples. I would imagine it's easier for singles to find NSA sex with other singles on a swingers site than on a dating site, and there's nothing wrong with that.

i've found more NSA on dating sites (every single guy actually). dating is a pile of shit really, imo. either that or i'm scary as fuck sexually and frighten them off after that.

fuck sites are good, do get a lot more guys up for relationships from those but i wasn't ready for that then.

not sure about swinging sites really finding things aren't quite what they seem but we'll see as i'm doing stuff differently now."

I used to do mulitiple dating via a dating site many moons ago. Men got pissed off though if it wasn't exclusive. I would have liked a site like this that's more NSA. But I wouldn't have liked the fuck n go expectation.

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By *accaMan
over a year ago

leicester

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"i always thought swingers were couples who have sex with others together or alone. id say singles who meet only other singles just want sex with out hassle, the swingers sit is just easier than the dating sites you dont have to explain on fab that no u don't want a relationship u just want to get down & dirty ( well my opinion anyway)

That's more or less my definition, but I include activities such as orgies and threesomes as well as couple play, therefore not exclusive to couples. I would imagine it's easier for singles to find NSA sex with other singles on a swingers site than on a dating site, and there's nothing wrong with that.

i've found more NSA on dating sites (every single guy actually). dating is a pile of shit really, imo. either that or i'm scary as fuck sexually and frighten them off after that.

fuck sites are good, do get a lot more guys up for relationships from those but i wasn't ready for that then.

not sure about swinging sites really finding things aren't quite what they seem but we'll see as i'm doing stuff differently now.

I used to do mulitiple dating via a dating site many moons ago. Men got pissed off though if it wasn't exclusive. I would have liked a site like this that's more NSA. But I wouldn't have liked the fuck n go expectation. "

i never told the men lol. didn't find them on websites anyway and they were all out of town so it was easy enough to hide them. was only when i had kids i became monogamous.

i've become very 'selfish' on my profile here and it seems to be working for me. like guys can approach me now in a way i want them to, but i do still get loads of selfish gits messaging me.

think the fuck site i'd be ok with too. had a few fuck relationships off it, and they were better than what i've had from fab so far in that the guys were local and able to meet very regularly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have an equestrian whip and socks but I've never rode a horse.

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By *he Hobbit And MeCouple
over a year ago

southampton


"I see the term swinging as more of a lifestyle thing, its all about being social and getting to know whoever it is you meet...

as opposed to those who say this is a sex site who like to meet random strangers in laybys and supermarket carparks"

How true and well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging has evolved, but I tend to regard it as an umbrella term for sexual activity that involves 3 or more people in the equation, usually in the same room but not necessarily. When I was single and looking for NSA sex with single men, I did not regard myself as a swinger. If I were single looking for one-to-one NSA hookups I have no idea whether I would use a swingers or a dating site.

Not all single people want hook up sex and some couples do.

I meant 'hookup' as in one-to-one sex, and plenty of singles aren't looking for only one to one sex. I don't know what 'hookup' means in relation to couples. "

It's the same thing. People who hook up for sex don't have intentions of getting to know someone or intend on seeing them again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging has evolved, but I tend to regard it as an umbrella term for sexual activity that involves 3 or more people in the equation, usually in the same room but not necessarily. When I was single and looking for NSA sex with single men, I did not regard myself as a swinger. If I were single looking for one-to-one NSA hookups I have no idea whether I would use a swingers or a dating site.

Not all single people want hook up sex and some couples do.

I meant 'hookup' as in one-to-one sex, and plenty of singles aren't looking for only one to one sex. I don't know what 'hookup' means in relation to couples.

It's the same thing. People who hook up for sex don't have intentions of getting to know someone or intend on seeing them again. "

Ok, 'hookup' was probably the wrong word for what I was trying to say.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Been on here a while and never met a couple, fact is I only want to meet women..

Ive been to parties, played with a lady, mmf is something that just doesnt interest me I suppose..

Thoughts??

"

I would say that you're not really "swingers" by definition, but this site is a great place to find sexually adventurous people. Just enjoy yourself and don't worry about the labels.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it matters. Its only a label. "

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Cliche swinging from the 1960s? Probably not.

Today is far more fluid though."

This. Essentially. I wouldn't get worked up over it OP, there's no fixed definition of swingers, just a myriad of opinions as to what it is. Do your thing and do it well, whatever it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging has evolved, but I tend to regard it as an umbrella term for sexual activity that involves 3 or more people in the equation, usually in the same room but not necessarily. When I was single and looking for NSA sex with single men, I did not regard myself as a swinger. If I were single looking for one-to-one NSA hookups I have no idea whether I would use a swingers or a dating site.

Not all single people want hook up sex and some couples do.

I meant 'hookup' as in one-to-one sex, and plenty of singles aren't looking for only one to one sex. I don't know what 'hookup' means in relation to couples.

It's the same thing. People who hook up for sex don't have intentions of getting to know someone or intend on seeing them again.

Ok, 'hookup' was probably the wrong word for what I was trying to say."

I'm no different whether I'm meeting one person or two. The reason I don't class myself as a swinger is because I don't like socialising with lots of people I don't know and prefer to keep myself as private as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging has evolved, but I tend to regard it as an umbrella term for sexual activity that involves 3 or more people in the equation, usually in the same room but not necessarily. When I was single and looking for NSA sex with single men, I did not regard myself as a swinger. If I were single looking for one-to-one NSA hookups I have no idea whether I would use a swingers or a dating site.

Not all single people want hook up sex and some couples do.

I meant 'hookup' as in one-to-one sex, and plenty of singles aren't looking for only one to one sex. I don't know what 'hookup' means in relation to couples.

It's the same thing. People who hook up for sex don't have intentions of getting to know someone or intend on seeing them again.

Ok, 'hookup' was probably the wrong word for what I was trying to say.

I'm no different whether I'm meeting one person or two. The reason I don't class myself as a swinger is because I don't like socialising with lots of people I don't know and prefer to keep myself as private as possible. "

Yes that true swinging is known for its social element

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was once told by a couple that I ( single male ) am not a swinger. Only married people are swingers and use others for pleasure. I would look it up in the dictionary but it's way to early for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it really matter if you can be officially 'labelled' a swinger or not. I'm in it for the social side and the sex, but I'm a 'cheater' as some people love to label me. So apparently I'm not a swinger. Do I care? No. I'm here because I want to be, and I'm loving it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares about labels? We're all just horny fuckers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Better put this big fella into action the only dwinging its been doing is around in my jeans :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see the term swinging as more of a lifestyle thing, its all about being social and getting to know whoever it is you meet...

as opposed to those who say this is a sex site who like to meet random strangers in laybys and supermarket carparks"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't feel more deserving of being here when I meet a couple than when I meet a single man. They're all outdated labels anyway.

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