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That thing you don't know you do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, apparently, I have this tone

I have this tone when I am being direct with someone that can be quite aggressive

I don't know I am doing it - I am the least aggressive person I know. I rarely take the huff and am always open to compromise.

The OH has pulled me about it numerous times and so have a couple of colleagues.

Well today I saw it. I saw my Dad to it to a thoroughly lovely sales assistant and, like me, he had absolutely zero perception that his tone had changed.

So, is there anything that you do that you do subconciously and others have pulled you about ?

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By *larayCouple
over a year ago

bolton

Male half here. In England I've discovered when energetically chatting people have perceived it as aggressive. Totally unintentionally

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By *larayCouple
over a year ago

bolton

Forgot to mention, I've Irish accent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

I have a no nonsense serious face.

But somebody pointed out to me that I look at people in their right eye, when I talk seriously.

I asked what they meant.

And since they pointed it out In now very aware of it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh and apparently I have very expressive eyebrows when I am pissed off

One colleague calls them my 'cartoon eyebrows' cos she's convinced that when I'm pissed off they actually hover above my head like they do in cartoons

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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My face is very expressive and I roll my eyes a lot. I didn't realise I was quite so easy to read until a colleague pointed it out after a meeting in which I had 'evidently disagreed' with a couple of the points. I do try and hide it now but occasionally I slip up.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Yep I have a seriously bad resting bitch face which I use often without realising.

I get told off for it all the time

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By * Kiwis and a BananaMan
over a year ago

Part of your 5 a day

At work I always like to make things about myself... i.e group discussion could be talking about rude people and I will say well at least I'm not rude. I'm not selfish nor am I vain which I find very odd about myself

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By * Kiwis and a BananaMan
over a year ago

Part of your 5 a day


"At work I always like to make things about myself... i.e group discussion could be talking about rude people and I will say well at least I'm not rude. I'm not selfish nor am I vain which I find very odd about myself "

I feel like I do it in order to be accepted as I'm the youngest in the office

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can get very uncomfortable.

Kind of a cross between not knowing if I'm joking or if they are going to be one of those "statistics " you see on crime watch......

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I can't sit still when I'm on the phone. I literally have to walk or move, I spoke to my Mother the other day and by the time id finished the call was by the shop at the end of my road

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't know, because I don't know I do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Considering this is called 'things we don't know what we do'...but we all know we do them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no way I snore; I've never heard it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Considering this is called 'things we don't know what we do'...but we all know we do them.

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Only after it has been pointed out to us ... I think that's the crux

It's like I know I talk bollocks when I feel I am meant to give a meaningful response ... and end up waffling on about all kindsa shit

But I was genuinely unaware of the aggressive 'don't fuck with me' tone that I apparently have when being direct with someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no way I snore; I've never heard it "

Hmmmmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no way I snore; I've never heard it

Hmmmmmmmm "

Ha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no way I snore; I've never heard it

Hmmmmmmmm

Ha! "

Evening

M x

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

I twirl my hair around my finger a lot when I am talking apparently. Xxxx

suzi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no way I snore; I've never heard it

Hmmmmmmmm

Ha!

Evening

M x "

Buona sera come stai? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no way I snore; I've never heard it

Hmmmmmmmm

Ha!

Evening

M x

Buona sera come stai? x"

siamo buoni, grazie, voi?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everybody does it

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By *nterracial2Couple
over a year ago

Ribble Valley


"So, apparently, I have this tone

I have this tone when I am being direct with someone that can be quite aggressive

I don't know I am doing it - I am the least aggressive person I know. I rarely take the huff and am always open to compromise.

The OH has pulled me about it numerous times and so have a couple of colleagues.

Well today I saw it. I saw my Dad to it to a thoroughly lovely sales assistant and, like me, he had absolutely zero perception that his tone had changed.

So, is there anything that you do that you do subconciously and others have pulled you about ? "

Male half here had that problem, trick is a big smile, people even miss insults if you say it as you're smiling at them

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I used to put my right hand into my left bra cup and cup my breast when I was concentrating... until someone pointed out that I was doing it in a meeting.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Apparently I have a "tone" too... its especially noticeable when I'm very serious, and if I talk quietly it is, so I'm told, extremely scary.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I used to put my right hand into my left bra cup and cup my breast when I was concentrating... until someone pointed out that I was doing it in a meeting. "

I always put my hand down the back of my leggings

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I used to put my right hand into my left bra cup and cup my breast when I was concentrating... until someone pointed out that I was doing it in a meeting.

I always put my hand down the back of my leggings "

We must be soothing ourselves in some way.

One of my staff team has started to write my put downs on the white board in the office as they are amusing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no way I snore; I've never heard it

Hmmmmmmmm

Ha!

Evening

M x

Buona sera come stai? x

siamo buoni, grazie, voi?"

eccellente! sto molto bene grazie

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I twirl my hair around my finger a lot when I am talking apparently. Xxxx

suzi"

I do that. .. and when I met my hot college buddy for a drink after 30 years I suddenly realised I was fondling the stem of my wine glass like mad!!

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By *r Stagger LeeMan
over a year ago

torquay

I have a tendency to use more upbeat word when at work but some seem to take it as sarcasm.

think I have that tone thing going on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband pointed out to me that, when watching television, I put my hands between my legs.

I was doing it tonight, as I watched a film.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no way I snore; I've never heard it

Hmmmmmmmm

Ha!

Evening

M x

Buona sera come stai? x

siamo buoni, grazie, voi?

eccellente! sto molto bene grazie "

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By *on and TammyCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

The wife says I have a weird aggressive/intense stare (weird because I'm not remotely aggressive) that i do when I'm annoyed or talking passionately about something.

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England


"My face is very expressive and I roll my eyes a lot. I didn't realise I was quite so easy to read until a colleague pointed it out after a meeting in which I had 'evidently disagreed' with a couple of the points. I do try and hide it now but occasionally I slip up."

This is something I also have a problem with (minus eye rolling) so really need to work on getting myself a poker face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything I do that I'm not aware that I'm not conscious of?

Probably... But how would I know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

apparently i sway my shoulders when i walk with purpose at work - me swagger hahah -

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I used to put my right hand into my left bra cup and cup my breast when I was concentrating... until someone pointed out that I was doing it in a meeting.

I always put my hand down the back of my leggings

We must be soothing ourselves in some way.

"

That makes sense, though it might just be it's warmer?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I have friends who are teachers who talk to everyone like they are children.

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