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By *ugbylad12392 OP   Man
over a year ago

leicester

Ive messaged it feels about 1000 women and couples and i dont seem to be abe to meet anyone. I message them all kinds of things and i dont think im writing anything to rude or assuming or offensive and its all meant well but..... nothing PLEASE HELP

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley


"Ive messaged it feels about 1000 women and couples and i dont seem to be abe to meet anyone. I message them all kinds of things and i dont think im writing anything to rude or assuming or offensive and its all meant well but..... nothing PLEASE HELP"

Hmmmm lets get the violins......

Seriously though - your profile is your shop window. You are in a very long street of similar shops - does yours stand out??

Maybe try a club or a social event?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

OP, I'll be brief, as that seems to be your thing.

Research.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

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By *lackXealMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Try to talk to guys too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive messaged it feels about 1000 women and couples and i dont seem to be abe to meet anyone. I message them all kinds of things and i dont think im writing anything to rude or assuming or offensive and its all meant well but..... nothing PLEASE HELP

Hmmmm lets get the violins......

Seriously though - your profile is your shop window. You are in a very long street of similar shops - does yours stand out??

Maybe try a club or a social event?"
there you go if you want to know how to do them just type violin in brackets.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Ive messaged it feels about 1000 women and couples and i dont seem to be abe to meet anyone. I message them all kinds of things and i dont think im writing anything to rude or assuming or offensive and its all meant well but..... nothing PLEASE HELP

Hmmmm lets get the violins......

Seriously though - your profile is your shop window. You are in a very long street of similar shops - does yours stand out??

Maybe try a club or a social event? there you go if you want to know how to do them just type violin in brackets."

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By *ucky Lucky meMan
over a year ago

Gateshead

Obviously your not what people are after just yet. I've met only one so far because we both got on. Patience like anything in life. It's not a place to just come on and expect to get a hookup. Everyone on here is a person/couple or whatever with feelings, likes and desires. Yeah I understand people won't reply as they are inundated with requests. I am sick of blokes asking for stuff and will block them much like women or couples will do for single males. Sometimes I will chat to someone different as I want to Learn more. Hell I like nothing better than finding out about people but I always respect their reply. Chin up fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive messaged it feels about 1000 women and couples and i dont seem to be abe to meet anyone. I message them all kinds of things and i dont think im writing anything to rude or assuming or offensive and its all meant well but..... nothing PLEASE HELP

Hmmmm lets get the violins......

Seriously though - your profile is your shop window. You are in a very long street of similar shops - does yours stand out??

Maybe try a club or a social event? there you go if you want to know how to do them just type violin in brackets.

"
it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Patience is the key lol"

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By *ugbylad12392 OP   Man
over a year ago

leicester

Its not that im just asking to fuck im trying to have a conversation about what i liked on their profile and go from there

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By *ugbylad12392 OP   Man
over a year ago

leicester

Thanks for replying and advice but what did you mean your not what people are looking for yet

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By *ucky Lucky meMan
over a year ago

Gateshead


"Thanks for replying and advice but what did you mean your not what people are looking for yet "

Everyone has their type and you just haventurine found someone who likes your type. Maybe you need to change your type??? You might have preconceptions about what you want but in my experience if you are a 6"5 rugby player you shouldn't have any problems getting a conversation going!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive messaged it feels about 1000 women and couples and i dont seem to be abe to meet anyone. I message them all kinds of things and i dont think im writing anything to rude or assuming or offensive and its all meant well but..... nothing PLEASE HELP"

Be patient.

I don't know what the answer is. But your not the first to post this question, you won't be the last. Does that help?

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Its not that im just asking to fuck im trying to have a conversation about what i liked on their profile and go from there "

But us ladies get a lot of messages saying 'nice pictures luv'....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spruce up your profile a bit.

Get some better pictures with some better lighting. You're a rugby player so maybe get one or two of you after a game muddied up and looking rugged.

Tidy up the text too. Dont say you're new etc as it doesnt help because people think they'll have to teach you or you'll change your mind.

Just put out who you are and what you enjoy.

Put a few little ice breakers in your profile text to that people can latch onto to start a conversation.

My usual advice is this view your own profile (click your user name on the front page to see it how others do) and sew how easy you find it to write yourself a first message.

Trick is to make that as easy as possible for people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not that im just asking to fuck im trying to have a conversation about what i liked on their profile and go from there

But us ladies get a lot of messages saying 'nice pictures luv'.... "

Nice picture .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh shit your 6'5"

Right in that case first priority ditch that profile pic with the way its framed i thought you where a short arse!

Tall sells on here, so use it.

Wider angle shots get some context to your size relative to other things.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Its not that im just asking to fuck im trying to have a conversation about what i liked on their profile and go from there

But us ladies get a lot of messages saying 'nice pictures luv'....

Nice picture . "

I'm guessing you like never want to meet again!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not that im just asking to fuck im trying to have a conversation about what i liked on their profile and go from there

But us ladies get a lot of messages saying 'nice pictures luv'....

Nice picture .

I'm guessing you like never want to meet again!? "

If you didn't want to meet me, you'd have politely ignored my post/message

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

OP, in my humble opinion, you should try to understand what women ( at least in general) are attracted for and then adapt your profile and messages to it. Read their profiles, their posts in the forum... and learn of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just have to keep trying and be positive. Trying to appeal to a large group of people is difficult because everyone is different, which is the fantastic thing. Try engaging people in a friendly way like you would in the non fab world and be genuinely interested in them not just what you want from them

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Tbh, if you've messaged a thousand women/couples in four months that suggests a real scattergun approach, contacting anyone who roughly fits the bill. Assuming, as you allude to yourself, it's not really that many - even if it's 200 in that time, that's 50 a month -that's loads.

Personally, I think I've messaged less than 50 - in six years. Now that may be extreme, but I think the point is - as a single guy there isn't going to be a big queue of people waiting to meet you. It's not different to the real world really - in fact it's harder in some ways. There's hundreds of men for each woman/couple to choose from.

If you message those you think "wow-they look great" you're going to have loads of non-replies. It's just my opinion, but just occasionally (and I mean occasionally!) you'll see a profile where you "click" and you just kinda know you'll strike a chord with that person - you're on the same wavelength, the message almost writes itself and you can imagine sitting down and having a great time chatting etc. It's just as intangible as that moment when you see someone across a room.

I guess that's a long-winded way of saying be very patient ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not that im just asking to fuck im trying to have a conversation about what i liked on their profile and go from there

But us ladies get a lot of messages saying 'nice pictures luv'.... "

Nice pictures Luv.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Its not that im just asking to fuck im trying to have a conversation about what i liked on their profile and go from there

But us ladies get a lot of messages saying 'nice pictures luv'....

Nice pictures Luv. "

Oooh another comedian..... post on here cause you can't bypass my filters I guess?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not that im just asking to fuck im trying to have a conversation about what i liked on their profile and go from there

But us ladies get a lot of messages saying 'nice pictures luv'....

Nice picture .

I'm guessing you like never want to meet again!?

If you didn't want to meet me, you'd have politely ignored my post/message "

Haha. I'll let you have that one Hanky.

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By *ugbylad12392 OP   Man
over a year ago

leicester

Thanks to you all for your comments and advice and il definatly put it to some good use thanks for your time and ifnyou have anymore advice it would be greatly appreciated

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