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FRIEND REQUEST???

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have we spoke ?? No!!

Do u think it's a bit rude just to send a friend request without chatting first !!!

Your thoughts please...

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I do and say they're not welcome if we've not chatted or met in my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My status was pretty much the same yesterday and still woke up to 54 friends requests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personal never send a friends request unless they ask me to be honest x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's a nightmare.. I just end up block deleting everyone and miss the important ones

Just wondered if there is anything site could do to stop this.. just a thought

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Have we spoke ?? No!!

Do u think it's a bit rude just to send a friend request without chatting first !!!

Your thoughts please...

"

Yes of course

I just leave them and they can't keep re-sending

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get that quite often and it really annoys me xx as they are usually outside our age range xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's more polite and appropriate to chat first.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Don't accept any and do the searching of people that interest you, invite them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And the repeat re frienders... after 3 or 4 times I just get bored and block them

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By *eadySteadyCockCouple
over a year ago

Tredegar

A couple once told me that they only accept friend requests once they have met. It's not a bad idea is it?

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman
over a year ago

x

Good one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have we spoke ?? No!!

Do u think it's a bit rude just to send a friend request without chatting first !!!

Your thoughts please...

"

But they want to see your boobies without putting in the effort of actually talking to you, why would you deny them? That's just plain mean of you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meh. They're easily ignored. They can send as many as they like. I invite those I'm interested in so I don't even look at them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When _iewing this site on a tablet or phone, the option to send friend request is right next to add to hotlist.

I have clicked on the wrong one numerous times unfortunately and there. Is no confirmation pop up such as "are you sure you wish to send friend request?"

Please don't assume people are being rude as this is a major design flaw in the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once declined a friend request from a really hot girl...damn my will power works against me sometimes

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We keep them..cant resend

We also wait for people to go offline before accepting and looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really care, they're easily ignored. I don't even look at who has sent them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As above?.. Meant to tap hotlist and hit friend request many times by accident.

I normally chat to someone then ask them if it's OK to add them as friends.

Politeness costs nothing even in a place like this where it's deemed by some to be a meat market?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We keep them..cant resend

We also wait for people to go offline before accepting and looking "
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Sneaky

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

We just delete when we log in and don't think about them again, part of fab I'm afraid. No biggie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We keep them..cant resend

We also wait for people to go offline before accepting and looking "

Same here, maybe fab a pic of two as well before removal.

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By *exy gentMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

I would always chat 1st and then ask if they would mind me sending a request

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think it's clueless, as it's likely to irritate and be a deterrent. I'd prefer someone to add me to their hotlist, if they're doing it because they're future banking for interaction and too lazy to communicate now.

Or they have something about them that's a likely deal breaker, should you have known in advance more about them.

Pics for wank fodder is the simple assumption - so they're again clueless, for inspiring that thought, if really serious about getting to know you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would always chat 1st and then ask if they would mind me sending a request "

What he said. It's basic gentlemanly conduct.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do find it a tad perplexing. As I have said previously; the last time I plonked myself next to a perfect stranger and announced "let's be friends", I think I was four, in the sandpit on holiday in sunny Norfolk. Seeing as none of these new chums have a decent bucket and spade or a sparkly frisbee, I'm not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's rude as such, but rather silly of people. I get so many of them, usually from men, or couples who are online late at night, and obviously just wanting to perv over my friend only pictures.

I only accept requests after I've chatted to people.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington


"And the repeat re frienders... after 3 or 4 times I just get bored and block them "

If they aren't what you are looking for when they send the first cone, block them then, you need to be ruthless with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would always chat 1st and then ask if they would mind me sending a request "

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By *ilary and DonaldCouple
over a year ago

chingford

It's not a thing we ever look at unless we are expecting a request.

Easy to ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely look at friend requests or winks unless someone mentions they've sent one. Things like that don't bother me in the slightest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have put on our profile that we don't accept random friend requests if we haven't spoken but doesn't stop people sending them cause a lot of people don't read profiles x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can't imagine why anyone would want to be our friends, we're horrible!

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"I do find it a tad perplexing. As I have said previously; the last time I plonked myself next to a perfect stranger and announced "let's be friends", I think I was four, in the sandpit on holiday in sunny Norfolk. Seeing as none of these new chums have a decent bucket and spade or a sparkly frisbee, I'm not interested. "

Love this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do find it a tad perplexing. As I have said previously; the last time I plonked myself next to a perfect stranger and announced "let's be friends", I think I was four, in the sandpit on holiday in sunny Norfolk. Seeing as none of these new chums have a decent bucket and spade or a sparkly frisbee, I'm not interested. "

Brilliant!

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Totally out of order

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By *exy gentMan
over a year ago

Midlothian


"I do find it a tad perplexing. As I have said previously; the last time I plonked myself next to a perfect stranger and announced "let's be friends", I think I was four, in the sandpit on holiday in sunny Norfolk. Seeing as none of these new chums have a decent bucket and spade or a sparkly frisbee, I'm not interested. "

Ha ha ha

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I don't find it rude just dumb! They're only picture hunters - I am afraid I just delete them all unseen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even look at my friend invites I tend to add if I'm getting on with the person and have been chatting a while or I've seen them on cam and had a chat etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rude? No, just over-optimistic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have we spoke ?? No!!

Do u think it's a bit rude just to send a friend request without chatting first !!!

Your thoughts please...

"

I have blocked everyone so can't get friend requests unless I have contacted them

Makes for a much easier fab experience xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't send friend requests unless we have had a meaningful chat. So, no friends then!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Have we spoke ?? No!!

Do u think it's a bit rude just to send a friend request without chatting first !!!

Your thoughts please...

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Not really. Friends in here is different to friends in real life. Wouldn't get too wound up about it personally

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"I don't even look at my friend invites I tend to add if I'm getting on with the person and have been chatting a while or I've seen them on cam and had a chat etc "

Don't look? Damn

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I leave them there to stew as if you delete I believe they can send them again.

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