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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Question for people that need some kind of 'emotional attachment' with people they have sex with. I'm thinking of FWB type scenarios - or when you meet people for sex more than once and become friends.

I'm trying to explain this to a male friend but I think 'emotional attachment' sounds too serious. How would you describe it?

- A connection

' A friendship with sex

- Feelings for the person (but non romantic)

??

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Clingyness

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Clingyness "

I'm trying to sell it to the guy, not put him off!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Clingyness

I'm trying to sell it to the guy, not put him off! "

Oops

Good luck

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Friendship is a very broad brush!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say a connection. Keep it as vague as possible, especially if you want to sex him up.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

First thing going that springs to my mind is 'needy', you say it in your OP.

I need a physical attraction to someone I sleep with but not necessarily an emotional one. I guess that might develop over time for some people but for me it will never be anything more than a friendship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First thing going that springs to my mind is 'needy', you say it in your OP.

I need a physical attraction to someone I sleep with but not necessarily an emotional one. I guess that might develop over time for some people but for me it will never be anything more than a friendship "

I'm both physically and emotionally adorable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friendship is as good a word as any I'd say. Just because you're having sex with them doesn't make it any different in the sense of the word friends. Maybe try 'emotional and physical friends'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My guess is it is an emotional and physical connection in the form of a friend with benefits is what you are looking for...

Then again that might be bollocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need a mental attraction as well as a physical connection to have sex with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're a friend, you have sex, but they're not obligated to you in any way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A connection I think is the best way to describe it.

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town


"Question for people that need some kind of 'emotional attachment' with people they have sex with. I'm thinking of FWB type scenarios - or when you meet people for sex more than once and become friends.

I'm trying to explain this to a male friend but I think 'emotional attachment' sounds too serious. How would you describe it?

- A connection

' A friendship with sex

- Feelings for the person (but non romantic)

??"

With me I say a connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friend with benefits or my chose of words , fuck buddie x

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

I need a connection of sorts. not romantic, just someone I can relax and unwind with or I'm not going to feel comfortable being intimate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexual connection

Her x

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Definitely a sexual attraction/connection, I need to actually like the person and want to enjoy SOME time in their company, but that is me

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"A connection I think is the best way to describe it. "

But each can do as they please......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Connection. If its one sided it may be worth not mentioning it too much in case it pushes him away OP.

Take your time and enjoy the fun you're both having not everything needs labels xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What started off as an arrangement developed into an arrangement between friends after a few years. Sounds a bit nicer than fwb so an arrangement between friends suits me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think "connection" describes it best for the way I see it too. 'Attachment' sounds too much like a proper relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Definitely a sexual attraction/connection, I need to actually like the person and want to enjoy SOME time in their company, but that is me "

This too for me.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Definitely a sexual attraction/connection, I need to actually like the person and want to enjoy SOME time in their company, but that is me

This too for me. "

And me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Question for people that need some kind of 'emotional attachment' with people they have sex with. I'm thinking of FWB type scenarios - or when you meet people for sex more than once and become friends.

I'm trying to explain this to a male friend but I think 'emotional attachment' sounds too serious. How would you describe it?

- A connection

' A friendship with sex

- Feelings for the person (but non romantic)

??"

are you struggling with the vocabulary to express what you mean or are you trying to dress it up as something else just to make it more appealing? If its the former then just say it as best you can. If they get what you mean and they want the same thing great. .if the latter then that can only lead to both parties getting hurt because the true intent wasn't laid out at the beginning.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I need a connection of sorts. not romantic, just someone I can relax and unwind with or I'm not going to feel comfortable being intimate."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had the pleasure of meeting people that I can both relax and chill out, chat all night and sexually chemistry. All 3 at the same time as well. I'm blessed with people who have come into my life thanks to this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First thing going that springs to my mind is 'needy', you say it in your OP.

I need a physical attraction to someone I sleep with but not necessarily an emotional one. I guess that might develop over time for some people but for me it will never be anything more than a friendship "

I have an emotional attachment to friends i dont now and never have an intention of sleeping with ... they are not mutually exclusive in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him you want him to be your D.O.C

Dick on call...... he is your male slut and you will only call him when you're a horny....

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

Call him hubby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally dont have anyone I can call a regular fb, we'll call on each other from time to time,maybe attend a party/event, or just us hanging out.

I find it a bit weird people committing to any relationship where they effectively meet on set days,every week(via swinging)..

I also dont bother checking up on who my non-regular meets are meeting up with, something I have noticed of many people in FB/FWB scenarios mostly cannot handle.

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By *ohnandLucyCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

How about good chemistry? Explains the good sex as well that you get on well...

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"I personally dont have anyone I can call a regular fb, we'll call on each other from time to time,maybe attend a party/event, or just us hanging out.

I find it a bit weird people committing to any relationship where they effectively meet on set days,every week(via swinging)..

I also dont bother checking up on who my non-regular meets are meeting up with, something I have noticed of many people in FB/FWB scenarios mostly cannot handle.

"

You have me hunni

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Question for people that need some kind of 'emotional attachment' with people they have sex with. I'm thinking of FWB type scenarios - or when you meet people for sex more than once and become friends.

I'm trying to explain this to a male friend but I think 'emotional attachment' sounds too serious. How would you describe it?

- A connection

' A friendship with sex

- Feelings for the person (but non romantic)

??

are you struggling with the vocabulary to express what you mean or are you trying to dress it up as something else just to make it more appealing? If its the former then just say it as best you can. If they get what you mean and they want the same thing great. .if the latter then that can only lead to both parties getting hurt because the true intent wasn't laid out at the beginning. "

Great distinction there Ms.

If I understand the OP correctly she wishes for some emotional openness without attachment or commitment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally dont have anyone I can call a regular fb, we'll call on each other from time to time,maybe attend a party/event, or just us hanging out.

I find it a bit weird people committing to any relationship where they effectively meet on set days,every week(via swinging)..

I also dont bother checking up on who my non-regular meets are meeting up with, something I have noticed of many people in FB/FWB scenarios mostly cannot handle.

You have me hunni "

just another hole in the wall

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Someone you get along with and have sex or connection (my preference),or use the terms society knows such as fwb.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just say abit of chemistry with physical and mental attraction

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By *ilentgirlWoman
over a year ago

That place in

Funny kinda had a chat like this last night to me,

Friend with benefits is some one you make time to be with,meet up for a drink,a chat, spend time with them

Fuck buddies is just sex, pillow talk,you arrive have sex and go

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Have as much of a connection as you wish but I advise keeping your heart out of it.

If there needs to be a negotiation is it actually all that worth holding on to and hoping for more?

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"Question for people that need some kind of 'emotional attachment' with people they have sex with. I'm thinking of FWB type scenarios - or when you meet people for sex more than once and become friends.

I'm trying to explain this to a male friend but I think 'emotional attachment' sounds too serious. How would you describe it?

- A connection

' A friendship with sex

- Feelings for the person (but non romantic)

??"

You already did

Friends with benefits

First word friend

Fuck buddy

First word fuck

FWB implies common intetests away from the bedroom that you can enjoy together occasionally and the option of sex

FB the point is to have sex at each meeting even if you include some other social event

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a connection which includes physical/mental/sexual chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Question for people that need some kind of 'emotional attachment' with people they have sex with. I'm thinking of FWB type scenarios - or when you meet people for sex more than once and become friends.

I'm trying to explain this to a male friend but I think 'emotional attachment' sounds too serious. How would you describe it?

- A connection

' A friendship with sex

- Feelings for the person (but non romantic)

??

You already did

Friends with benefits

First word friend

Fuck buddy

First word fuck

FWB implies common intetests away from the bedroom that you can enjoy together occasionally and the option of sex

FB the point is to have sex at each meeting even if you include some other social event

"

This is exactly how i see it but i think many guys think the words are interchangeable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attachment, no.

Connection, yes.

Friendship, sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was just trying to find out how people would describe the 'emotional attachment' feeling. Simple as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want a connection with somebody I'm going to share myself with. I'm going to be intimate with you. I need to like you.

If you don't want to get to know each other, let me know before hand, I'll pass you a rubber cock.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Question for people that need some kind of 'emotional attachment' with people they have sex with. I'm thinking of FWB type scenarios - or when you meet people for sex more than once and become friends.

I'm trying to explain this to a male friend but I think 'emotional attachment' sounds too serious. How would you describe it?

- A connection

' A friendship with sex

- Feelings for the person (but non romantic)

??

are you struggling with the vocabulary to express what you mean or are you trying to dress it up as something else just to make it more appealing? If its the former then just say it as best you can. If they get what you mean and they want the same thing great. .if the latter then that can only lead to both parties getting hurt because the true intent wasn't laid out at the beginning.

Great distinction there Ms.

If I understand the OP correctly she wishes for some emotional openness without attachment or commitment."

Yep.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

My description hasn't changed any in the 39 weeks that have passed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Question for people that need some kind of 'emotional attachment' with people they have sex with. I'm thinking of FWB type scenarios - or when you meet people for sex more than once and become friends.

I'm trying to explain this to a male friend but I think 'emotional attachment' sounds too serious. How would you describe it?

- A connection

' A friendship with sex

- Feelings for the person (but non romantic)

??"

Just been greedy there had there go let others have fun

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By *dventurousAlexMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

I think I understand.

When I’m with someone I want to fully appreciate them. I want them to appreciate me.

I want to be in the moment, not just having a soulless transaction for that moment.

Otherwise you might as well be fucking a doll.

So I want to for the time we’re together feel like they’re someone I care about and want.

So maybe it’s more about the experience then an attachment.

Yet that doesn’t mean I’m emotionally attached beyond that point. Just appreciating them in that moment.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

A good shag that you want to repeat

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"I think I understand.

When I’m with someone I want to fully appreciate them. I want them to appreciate me.

I want to be in the moment, not just having a soulless transaction for that moment.

Otherwise you might as well be fucking a doll.

So I want to for the time we’re together feel like they’re someone I care about and want.

So maybe it’s more about the experience then an attachment.

Yet that doesn’t mean I’m emotionally attached beyond that point. Just appreciating them in that moment. "

I think this covers it well to a point. When you include friendship in the mix it moves onto the next level. You are basically treading the tightrope of catching feels. A tightrope I fell off.

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley

I have always described it as a "Connection". It does not need to be an emotional connection. I just need to like them usually by having a decent two way conversation. Everyone is different though you can see above which is awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want a connection with somebody I'm going to share myself with. I'm going to be intimate with you. I need to like you.

If you don't want to get to know each other, let me know before hand, I'll pass you a rubber cock. "

I still stand by this comment. I prefer to get to know someone. A connection is when I ca can relate to the persons needs, care about their feelings as much as mine, and I'm genuinely interested about them. That's as close as I can get to breaking it down.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I want a connection with somebody I'm going to share myself with. I'm going to be intimate with you. I need to like you.

If you don't want to get to know each other, let me know before hand, I'll pass you a rubber cock.

I still stand by this comment. I prefer to get to know someone. A connection is when I ca can relate to the persons needs, care about their feelings as much as mine, and I'm genuinely interested about them. That's as close as I can get to breaking it down. "

Thanks, that sums up what I'm trying to describe. I've been trying to use just 1 or 2 words to describe the whole thing when actually it needs a sentence.

I realise that sounds mad but it makes sense to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think I understand.

When I’m with someone I want to fully appreciate them. I want them to appreciate me.

I want to be in the moment, not just having a soulless transaction for that moment.

Otherwise you might as well be fucking a doll.

So I want to for the time we’re together feel like they’re someone I care about and want.

So maybe it’s more about the experience then an attachment.

Yet that doesn’t mean I’m emotionally attached beyond that point. Just appreciating them in that moment.

I think this covers it well to a point. When you include friendship in the mix it moves onto the next level. You are basically treading the tightrope of catching feels. A tightrope I fell off. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want a connection with somebody I'm going to share myself with. I'm going to be intimate with you. I need to like you.

If you don't want to get to know each other, let me know before hand, I'll pass you a rubber cock.

I still stand by this comment. I prefer to get to know someone. A connection is when I ca can relate to the persons needs, care about their feelings as much as mine, and I'm genuinely interested about them. That's as close as I can get to breaking it down.

Thanks, that sums up what I'm trying to describe. I've been trying to use just 1 or 2 words to describe the whole thing when actually it needs a sentence.

I realise that sounds mad but it makes sense to me. "

It does (for me as well as others). A FWB sounds like a pal I fuck, nothing more. A fuck buddy - a buddy....I fuck. NSA - someone I fuck or fucked, all of them sound selfish like that. When I have sex, it's not all about me, where's the descriptive or label that says, I want the other person to enjoy sex with me?

A connection is the best I've heard described.

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