FabSwingers.com forum: Girlfriend

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Me and girlfriend work at same place and we were on our xmas night out and she landed up kissing another guy outside while I sat inside . I did not find out about this until the next day . I did find them outside round the corner from smoking area but they were just smoking but found out 2 minutes prior to that they were kissing ! It was another work mate who told me and mrs says she can't remember anything as she was that d*unk . I've tried to forgive her but it keeps pissing me off that while I sat inside she was outside kissing another man . Don't know what to do ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this for real?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a talk with her mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a case for Jeremy Kyle to resolve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Invite him into a threesome?

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By *onnyJohnMan
over a year ago

Doncaster

Think you m8ght be in for..... shall we say some rather blunt replies on this one....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're on a swingers site does she know you're here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but aren't u doing the same thing with being on here as a single guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"but aren't u doing the same thing with being on here as a single guy?"

OI! Stop being so bloody sensible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take up smokin then youll allways be with her

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Tried talking as she says she can't remember . I'm not sure I believe her . I'm a wrong by saying why would you go round the corner for a chat with a guy that is away from everyone and secluded ? My thoughts that if the were going round corner they knew what they were doing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tried talking as she says she can't remember . I'm not sure I believe her . I'm a wrong by saying why would you go round the corner for a chat with a guy that is away from everyone and secluded ? My thoughts that if the were going round corner they knew what they were doing "

But you're on a swingers site!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"but aren't u doing the same thing with being on here as a single guy?"
we both had profiles on here but always arranged our meets with each other knowing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But you're on a swingers site!"

She knows and our meets are always planned together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pot and kettle spring to mind! Other than that, if you can't get over it, forgive her or no longer trust her.....then finish it and move on. Life is too short to waste it with someone you can't trust. Good luck OP.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Hello pot!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Pot and kettle spring to mind! Other than that, if you can't get over it, forgive her or no longer trust her.....then finish it and move on. Life is too short to waste it with someone you can't trust. Good luck OP.

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no pot and kettle as I have never did anything behind her back . Yes we are swingers but I've always been honest and truthful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello pot!

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello pot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you have two option then.

Either forget about it

End up the relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

". Life is too short to waste it with someone you can't trust."

Unless she as big tits and sucks like a dyson.

Lifes to short to be alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get used to it if ur a swinging couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no pot and kettle as I have never did anything behind her back . Yes we are swingers but I've always been honest and truthful "

Ok. Life is simple if you let be. Question...what do you want?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

appreciation

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

no pot and kettle as I have never did anything behind her back . Yes we are swingers but I've always been honest and truthful

Ok. Life is simple if you let be. Question...what do you want?"
i am more annoyed as when I found them chatting I asked why they had to go away round a corner to chat ( at this point I knew nothing ) I was being accused of being jealous and then the truth come out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will eventually forgiver her but.....you will never forget

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no pot and kettle as I have never did anything behind her back . Yes we are swingers but I've always been honest and truthful

Ok. Life is simple if you let be. Question...what do you want? i am more annoyed as when I found them chatting I asked why they had to go away round a corner to chat ( at this point I knew nothing ) I was being accused of being jealous and then the truth come out "

Yes it is shit. Thing is, do you still want to continue seeing her? Now before you answer, don't think of anything else. Just, do you want to be with this girl?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you're getting hard time here if she is fully aware of your profile and meets here then she is out of order. Did she seem that d*unk?

I guess only you can decide if it's a deal breaker.

On the other hand if you are lying and she knows nothing of your fab life then your getting taste of your own medicine and I have no sympathy for you.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

For me that would be a deal breaker swinging couples don't do that behind each other backs, like you said they went off round the corner when there was no need and then made out it was you being jealous fuck that shit the trust would be gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting OP.

You're rather concerned about the possibility of your girlfriend having kissed another guy, and yet you are on a swingers site, posing as a single male, without making any mention on your profile of a partner.

So it's perfectly OK for you to cheat on her, but you have a real problem with her having a d*unken kiss with another guy?

Think you need to get some perspective young man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get used to it if ur a swinging couple"

Huh??? I think the issue is that it was done being the OP's back. Swinging couples usually play with consent. Why is it something he has to get used to?

OP, you need to figure if you can be with her. I think you need to talk things through in depth with your girlfriend. See if there is a way past this, or if the trust is broken indefinitely and you need to move on. Only you can choose what's right for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just thinking.....plent of more fish in the sea

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

no pot and kettle as I have never did anything behind her back . Yes we are swingers but I've always been honest and truthful "

Including your profile age ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Think you're getting hard time here if she is fully aware of your profile and meets here then she is out of order. Did she seem that d*unk?

I guess only you can decide if it's a deal breaker.

On the other hand if you are lying and she knows nothing of your fab life then your getting taste of your own medicine and I have no yessge was sympathy for you. "
she was d*unk . Is it an excuse or I'm I'm being too harsh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Interesting OP.

So it's perfectly OK for you to cheat on her, but you have a real problem with her having a d*unken kiss with another guy?

Think you need to get some perspective young man."
I think you should read the whole conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello pot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are a couple and play with each others consent then being d*unk is not an excuse. I guess you need to talk to her and establish the boundaries of your relationship. Are you a couple? Because if you're both singles so she can effectively do whatever she likes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you are a couple and play with each others consent then being d*unk is not an excuse. I guess you need to talk to her and establish the boundaries of your relationship. Are you a couple? Because if you're both singles so she can effectively do whatever she likes.

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we are a couple yes and we both had single profiles but we have never met anyone with out the other knowing and we have only met as a couple . I know people are saying ah but you are on a swinging site ! Does that mean it's ok to be lied too

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Interesting OP.

So it's perfectly OK for you to cheat on her, but you have a real problem with her having a d*unken kiss with another guy?

Think you need to get some perspective young man. I think you should read the whole conversation "
your assuming people have to believe u op

.that dosent excuse your girlfriend though.for me ( the guy ) she would be dumped straight away.not only is she knowingly cheating but she is doing it litterily behind your back and with people you both know and hang out with.it's a no brainer mate.if it's true your open about being on here then you can do so much better than that as you are supposed to have loyalty and respect that goes both ways from the person you care about.for us that's what a relationship is all about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was Christmas, people do stupid things at Christmas time.

Forget it and move on.

It was only a kiss.

Oh, I'd probably mention that you have a girlfriend on your profile too, just so people are aware

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"It was Christmas, people do stupid things at Christmas time.

Forget it and move on.

It was only a kiss.

Oh, I'd probably mention that you have a girlfriend on your profile too, just so people are aware

Sensible answer

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are a couple yes and we both had single profiles but we have never met anyone with out the other knowing and we have only met as a couple . I know people are saying ah but you are on a swinging site ! Does that mean it's ok to be lied too "

Read my post again; I said that being d*unk is not an excuse. I'm not saying its ok to be lied to.

You say you both HAD a single profile each, you've still got yours with no mention of her in it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does anyone need more pegs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're being honest and she truly does know you're on here, then....

I personally don't think being d*unk is an excuse for cheating (even if that cheating takes the form of just a kiss). To do it at a Christmas party where you then have to find out about it from your workmates? No, I wouldn't just forgive and forget. I don't think you're wrong to be upset.

Having said that, what you choose to do about being upset is completely up to you. Would you end the relationship because of a d*unken kiss? Should you sit down and have a serious talk? Is this going to constantly be on your mind? I would imagine that continuing swinging if this is an issue may not be the best idea. One of the worst things that can happen in a swinging relationship is for each person to act as they want to, sexually, because they see the boundaries of right and wrong to be blurred. Communication is key.

If, however, she doesn't know you're here....then I have little sympathy and would even suggest that maybe she acted the way she did because she suspects you of acting similarly.

Talk to her in any case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're being honest and she truly does know you're on here, then....

If, however, she doesn't know you're here....then I have little sympathy and would even suggest that maybe she acted the way she did because she suspects you of acting similarly.

Talk to her in any case."

This ^

Nothing need to be add really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you're being honest and she truly does know you're on here, then....

If, however, she doesn't know you're here....then I have little sympathy and would even suggest that maybe she acted the way she did because she suspects you of acting similarly.

Talk to her in any case."
thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What the actual fuck lol

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Me and girlfriend work at same place and we were on our xmas night out and she landed up kissing another guy outside while I sat inside . I did not find out about this until the next day . I did find them outside round the corner from smoking area but they were just smoking but found out 2 minutes prior to that they were kissing ! It was another work mate who told me and mrs says she can't remember anything as she was that d*unk . I've tried to forgive her but it keeps pissing me off that while I sat inside she was outside kissing another man . Don't know what to do ? "

So your pissed off she d*unkenly kissed a guy and you have a single male profile on a swingers site.

Wonder how she'd feel if she knew

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By *ilary and DonaldCouple
over a year ago

chingford

It started with a kiss.

She's probably blowing him every lunchtime now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So some people assume he's lying without knowing the truth.... Then roast him accordingly or just plain take the piss. Nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So your pissed off she d*unkenly kissed a guy and you have a single male profile on a swingers site.

Wonder how she'd feel if she knew"
she does know

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

"So some people assume he's lying without knowing the truth.... Then roast him accordingly or just plain take the piss. Nice

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It happens all the time....to single men anyway

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

To the OP...the advice from Marc.Courtney sums up what I was thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry mate but you're assuming neither of you have ever met anybody without the other knowing. Do you really know that? These are the things that will eat away at you the more you think about it. When the trust is gone it's gone I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So some people assume he's lying without knowing the truth.... Then roast him accordingly or just plain take the piss. Nice

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People frequently read the headline post, make their judgement and respond accordingly.

Personally I try to read the whole thread before responding, there's frequently an answer to some of the negative assumptions buried in the thread, as there is in this case.

I'm going with Courtneys response, I think she nailed it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread has been open for 4 hours, you've had a profile for over a year. And it's not a couples profile

I'm guessing you either have a open relationship, or she knows nothing about you looking for fab fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Take up smokin then youll allways be with her"

Pro active thinking

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Well you have two option then.

Either forget about it

End up the relationship"

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Lots of people get pissed and snog at Christmas parties.

Either let it go, or let her go, because you can't handle the jealousy.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

no pot and kettle as I have never did anything behind her back . Yes we are swingers but I've always been honest and truthful

Nobody owns anyone, why can't she go round the corner to chat ?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Who knows the truth! Can you handle a partner who has kissed someone whilst d*unk but can't remember? If you can't, and discussion gets nowhere, move on to a point of your choice - out or rearrange your swinging where anyone does anything, or get chains for 24/7 proximity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no pot and kettle as I have never did anything behind her back . Yes we are swingers but I've always been honest and truthful

Nobody owns anyone, why can't she go round the corner to chat ?"

I can't see ownership being claimed.

You're right of course, she can go round the corner to chat. But that's not all she allegedly did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a new car?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were tongues involved?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

no pot and kettle as I have never did anything behind her back . Yes we are swingers but I've always been honest and truthful

Nobody owns anyone, why can't she go round the corner to chat ?"
she can but that's not all she did was it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Get a new car?"
that's good advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This thread has been open for 4 hours, you've had a profile for over a year. And it's not a couples profile

We had a couples profile

I'm guessing you either have a open relationship, or she knows nothing about you looking for fab fun

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield

"Hello pot!

Hello Ms kettle. My word what a beautiful kettle of an ethnic minority you are.

Shall we brew?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

We are a couple, but it doesn't give us license to do anything behind each other's backs, neither would we, or feel the need to. OP you are right to be upset about this. Maybe it was a d*unken kiss, for which you can forgive her. You maybe need to redefine the boundaries with each other. Good luck

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I'd start a thread about it, they always go so well

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