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In dating is there a protocol for sex?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is shagging on the 1st date a no no? I have this theory of wait until the 4th date. But does it make no odds really?

I once got told by a guy I'd shagged on the 3rd date that I'd dropped my knickers too quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it matters in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is shagging on the 1st date a no no? I have this theory of wait until the 4th date. But does it make no odds really?

I once got told by a guy I'd shagged on the 3rd date that I'd dropped my knickers too quickly. "

The younger people I work with the consensus seems to be 1st date is fine, if you plan on having sex at a later date why wait if it's what you both want.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK


"Is shagging on the 1st date a no no? I have this theory of wait until the 4th date. But does it make no odds really?

I once got told by a guy I'd shagged on the 3rd date that I'd dropped my knickers too quickly. "

Whatever is comfortable

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I don't know, though I met a guy off a vanilla site and forget it wasn't Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is very old fashion thinking.... after the age of 30 , I'm sure men and women are looking for inexperienced virgins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know, though I met a guy off a vanilla site and forget it wasn't Fab "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

RS232?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I married the lady who fucked me on the first date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my long term girlfriend's I fucked on first date.

If it feels right it feels right regardless whether its first date or the 7th.

Makes no difference to my opinion of her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is shagging on the 1st date a no no? I have this theory of wait until the 4th date. But does it make no odds really?

I once got told by a guy I'd shagged on the 3rd date that I'd dropped my knickers too quickly. "

just an excuse to fuck you off without having to explain himself i reckon.

fair amount of guys will lose interest if you haven't had sex by the 3rd date, just go with the flow really. if you want to have sex then do it.

if you want a relationship don't expect to have formed a proper one until you've been together years.

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city


"I married the lady who fucked me on the first date."

So did I

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I don't know, though I met a guy off a vanilla site and forget it wasn't Fab

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In my defence I always have a social first time. It was his idea, I just forgot to say gosh not yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once got told by a guy I'd shagged on the 3rd date that I'd dropped my knickers too quickly. "

What a dick!

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By * SCARED x STIFF xCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

I'll go against the grain a little here...

I met a girl when I was younger (21) she put out on the first date, in fact I only met her 3 hours earlier, I had a great night but then ignored all her calls for a month until she finally gave up.

I just couldn't see myself marrying someone like that, at the time I imagined it was the kind of thing she did every weekend (I don't know that to be true though)

3rd date should be fine though, and now I'm older I wouldn't be so judgemental, I'm not proud of how I treated her but it's just the way my brain worked back then, things worked out for me because 2 months later I met my wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know, though I met a guy off a vanilla site and forget it wasn't Fab

In my defence I always have a social first time. It was his idea, I just forgot to say gosh not yet "

Lucky man... All my socials stay socials

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Do what feels right at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years ago I would wait as long as I could. And still was told I put out too soon. Then I was married for years. My new boyfriend met after talking for a few weeks and within a few hours we had sex. He doesn't think any less of me for it we just clicked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going to try vanilla dating this year

I was wondering exactly the same thing!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Do what feels right at the time.

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You're right of course, there are no actual rules. And if a guy wants sex then doesn't like you because you did, he's not the kind of guy you're really want anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No if dating i make them wait for it.

Good things come to those who wait. After all, if they wanted instant sex they'd get it elsewhere. If they want love, romance, adventure, and high octane mood swings, then they have to wait to get in my knickers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's the one thing I hate about vanilla dating. Investing time in 'dating' until it's considered appropriate to fuck, and then finding out that he's a lousy lover.

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By *hekaiserMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I dated a girl in the vanilla world...kissed her on date 2 and had her top off on date 3......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think theres any problem in it at sll. That guys sounds like a dick xx

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

First date you should at least give a bj

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Technically me and Mr had sex on our 2nd date . However - our first date was in the morning and our second date was later the same day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't overthink things and just go with the flow on what feels right. I don't think there should be rules on this sort of thing as everyone is different.

Also what's the difference as to whether you wait or you don't? There are no guarantees either way that your relationship will work out the way you want it to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last vanilla relationships for me

Knew her from gym, text a bit, went round to hers one night simpl For sex, we were together two years

Second one, met at a wedding at 2pm, at 10pm we were naked in a field.

Last one, first date was a kiss, second date she spent two days in my bed.

It makes precisely no difference in my mind. Just be yourself and do what feels right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was once told by a man friend when i was bemoaning being single that men like the chase, and not necessarily just the gameshow.

If they really take a hankering to a woman then she shouldn't make it easy, they like to know that she doean't drop her draws for "just anyone".

Of course that idea could be old fashioned these days, but would any man on here truly give their honest opinion when they are on here looking for no strings attached fun? I think not.

If a man likes you, and is genuinely interested you as a person, then he will wait. Be it 5 minutes, 5 hours, 5 days or 5 months.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't overthink things and just go with the flow on what feels right. I don't think there should be rules on this sort of thing as everyone is different.

Also what's the difference as to whether you wait or you don't? There are no guarantees either way that your relationship will work out the way you want it to."

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"I was once told by a man friend when i was bemoaning being single that men like the chase, and not necessarily just the gameshow.

If they really take a hankering to a woman then she shouldn't make it easy, they like to know that she doean't drop her draws for "just anyone".

Of course that idea could be old fashioned these days, but would any man on here truly give their honest opinion when they are on here looking for no strings attached fun? I think not.

If a man likes you, and is genuinely interested you as a person, then he will wait. Be it 5 minutes, 5 hours, 5 days or 5 months. "

I would agree. There is no right/wrong time, apart from when both people are ready.

If it's "real" dating, then that time comes when it comes. For the right person I think I would be willing to wait some time now.

If there's a connection, you want to see what happens.

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Whatever you feel is right! Who cares what others think. It's your life!

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

A protocol for sex in dating? ...

...mutual consent?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not interested in playing games or "holding out" on sex to make a guy think I'm not "easy" - what century is this again?

I wouldn't waste my time dating a man without having made sure he's a good fuck on the first date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much all my relationships started as a shag. If I haven't been kissed by the second date I loose interest. The exception was when I dated a guy who turned out to be a virgin. I waited till the 5th date then before I jumped on him haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5 date rule dude.

Not that I ever follow my own advice. I try. I really do. But every time I trip, I fall on a dick.

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