FabSwingers.com forum: phone call before a meet..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

following on from another thread, I noticed a few didn't bother with a phone call prior to a meet...and that often includes me..

I have noticed in the past that more men ask for this but other women don't seem to bother..

the reason why I don't think its necessary is how do you know if a complete stranger is the person you are going to meet anyway, just by talking on the phone

anyway, thoughts please fellow forumites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"following on from another thread, I noticed a few didn't bother with a phone call prior to a meet...and that often includes me..

I have noticed in the past that more men ask for this but other women don't seem to bother..

the reason why I don't think its necessary is how do you know if a complete stranger is the person you are going to meet anyway, just by talking on the phone

anyway, thoughts please fellow forumites

I don't think it's necessary. I dislike the phone anyway as you can't see the other person and have no idea if you have their full attention. Plus you feel as though you have to be constantly in conversation. Silences are less awkward in person lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always assumed it was to prove u r the gender u say u r

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By *ysnomiaMan
over a year ago

Preston

"the reason why I don't think its necessary is how do you know if a complete stranger is the person you are going to meet anyway, just by talking on the phone

Also, why would you give out your phone number (supposing you aren't yet a professional swinger with a series of 'burn phones') to someone you may only meet once? and may not even like after that meet.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Don't think a phone call is absolutely necessary especially if you've messaged enough to have got a "feel" for and built up a rapport with the person you're meeting.

Can understand why some might prefer it though, especially if arranging a meet off the back of just a couple of messages.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

For me, a phone call is the best way to prove the person you're talking to is actually a woman. It's also a good ice breaker before the face to face meet

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I always assumed it was to prove u r the gender u say u r"

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Don't think a phone call is absolutely necessary especially if you've messaged enough to have got a "feel" for and built up a rapport with the person you're meeting.

Can understand why some might prefer it though, especially if arranging a meet off the back of just a couple of messages."

I do like them from an egotistical point of view as my voice is one of my better features but it's not necessary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a phone chat prior to meeting. It gives me a better 'feel' for a guy ( and them me). I won't meet if numbers aren't swapped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind not chatting on the phone, as it's highly unlikely a woman is going to pretend to be a man, on here. You can maybe tell if someone is a 60 yr old pretending to be 30 though.

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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago

St Peter Port

If I was going to meet someone very locally then a phone call wouldn't necessarily be important.

If travelling further afield ( I live in the Channel Isles ) a call can help gauge whether a meeting is going to be worthwhile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think a phone call is absolutely necessary especially if you've messaged enough to have got a "feel" for and built up a rapport with the person you're meeting.

Can understand why some might prefer it though, especially if arranging a meet off the back of just a couple of messages.

I do like them from an egotistical point of view as my voice is one of my better features but it's not necessary."

Call me

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

I don't do phone calls here and kik is enough for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like phone calls either mainly because I don't like to give my phone number out. I've given it to one or two that I trust and found that once they have your phone number they can pretty much find you on any form of social media including Facebook. Which was a pretty scary realisation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like phone calls either mainly because I don't like to give my phone number out. I've given it to one or two that I trust and found that once they have your phone number they can pretty much find you on any form of social media including Facebook. Which was a pretty scary realisation."

So that's your real name, and you live there? Blimey

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

the best thing to do in that case, is to remove your phone number off facebook, as that way they can't link you to anyone..

they tell you you need it on there for privacy, whilst the opposite is true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So that's your real name, and you live there? Blimey

damn you've got me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't often do phone calls before a meet, as I usually don't like giving my phone number out.

Plus I like the surprise element at a meet.

I sometimes speak to married couples on the phone as I don't think they carry as much risk as a single male.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always assumed it was to prove u r the gender u say u r"

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the best thing to do in that case, is to remove your phone number off facebook, as that way they can't link you to anyone..

they tell you you need it on there for privacy, whilst the opposite is true"

I have three times but then its always back on there somehow

I think its the messenger app but my mum rings me on that when she has no credit (she thinks she's very technically advanced) so I cant get rid of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So that's your real name, and you live there? Blimey

We'll have to think twice about that road trip now....

damn you've got me

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I prefer a phone chat prior to meeting. It gives me a better 'feel' for a guy ( and them me). I won't meet if numbers aren't swapped"

I always offer my number first, so they can choose to call me number withheld, that way if I sound like a nutter and they choose not to meet, I cannot become a pest. But, inevitably, there is no phone call due to the 'woman' being a bloke pretending

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the best thing to do in that case, is to remove your phone number off facebook, as that way they can't link you to anyone..

they tell you you need it on there for privacy, whilst the opposite is true

I have three times but then its always back on there somehow

I think its the messenger app but my mum rings me on that when she has no credit (she thinks she's very technically advanced) so I cant get rid of it

Use Skype out some other app for voice calls that doesn't need a number for contacting ppl from here. Simples

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't communicate off Fab. We swap numbers if we're going to meet someone so that any last minute changes can be communicated but that's the only reason. If someone immediately insists on moving the conversation away from here we refuse.

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By *ysnomiaMan
over a year ago

Preston

Would anyone use cams on here to chat first? Seems an easy way round giving out a regular bonafide phone number to an potential nutter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I barely talk to my own family on the phone, so there's no sodding way I'm going to pick up the phone to some fab random. If it makes people think I'm fake, that's their problem not mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to some times do Skype or FaceTime before a meet if we can't do a social before hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I occasionally talk on the phone, sometimes it's easier to sort something out than constant messaging.

Ah I forgot, I've spoken a few times as their accents were hot too.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

It's not something I make a habit of or insist upon doing - or appreciate and acquiesce when others insist on it. If they don't believe I am who I say I am then there are plenty of other hoops for me to jump through (if I were so inclined) rather than give them a method of communicating with me or an 'in' into my non fab life. Less than a handful of people from here have my actual number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

very rarely i give my number out prior to a meet, I don't know them and don't want to have to change my number if I was to end up getting constant messages or calls.

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By *tmmCouple
over a year ago

harlow

Hate phone calls business calls I ace but social calls I clam up something chronic and come across far more shy than I am.

Will swap numbers to text if definitely meeting or arranging one. Normally cos we get lost!

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"I barely talk to my own family on the phone, so there's no sodding way I'm going to pick up the phone to some fab random. If it makes people think I'm fake, that's their problem not mine."

It's not often people out "miserable bastard" me.... Kudos....

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I synced my accounts a few weeks back by mistake, cor didn't I panic and do this

and flap. Sorted quickly though- phew!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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A few people have my number, some got blocked because they annoyed the shit out of me and some I speak to regularly.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Mr doesn't mind calls but I dont give my number out as people have this tendency to call it. They dont understand some of us have a life ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only one person has my number and I trust them to use it appropriately.

Haven't given it out for a long time after getting a call from the 'ex' of someone I was talking to.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Only one person has my number and I trust them to use it appropriately.

Haven't given it out for a long time after getting a call from the 'ex' of someone I was talking to."

... I wait for the day.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I usually ask for a no a couple of days before I'm due to meet them. I'm happy to give mine out at that point to. If they refuse I would consider cancelling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only one person has my number and I trust them to use it appropriately.

Haven't given it out for a long time after getting a call from the 'ex' of someone I was talking to.

... I wait for the day. "

Hmm am I that brave?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we like a fem to fem chat if meeting at a home- as much to break the ice as anything but its not a deal breaker if we dont

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Only one person has my number and I trust them to use it appropriately.

Haven't given it out for a long time after getting a call from the 'ex' of someone I was talking to.

... I wait for the day.

Hmm am I that brave?"

Probably not.

You should also pity anyone who calls me asking why my number has been found on phones. Not even the PPI guys call anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

".Not even the PPI guys call anymore

That's an achievement!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a very soft girly voice with an accent so I would prefer not to phone call someone before a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I barely talk to my own family on the phone, so there's no sodding way I'm going to pick up the phone to some fab random. If it makes people think I'm fake, that's their problem not mine.

It's not often people out "miserable bastard" me.... Kudos....

I just really hate talking to people on the phone. I tolerate it at work so I don't get sacked, I'm not going to do it voluntarily too...

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I always talk on the phone before a meet - for me it's a meeting of minds in a way that written communication can't deliver.

When it comes to day of the meet, pre-meet confirmation dialogue, I still prefer a chat.

You can ask questions and gain s lot more from real-time answers than you can from a delayed message. How committed do they sound, are they open or evasive, do they understand you easily etc?

I'll have a pre-meet chat and conclude not to actually have the meet. That's a massive time saver, allowing you to go and find others instead. No wasted coffee trips or lost excitement when you chat in the flesh and discover what a phone call could have revealed.

And a phone chat allows for discussion and negotiation in ways that messages don't.

We find our own way and what works for us - we're all different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally like a call for two reasons. 1. To see if we click socially and 2. There's probably more fake female profiles than men so a call puts me at ease.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do prefer phone call before meeting i would say 90% of the time. Also prefer cam now due to timewasters.

I like to know if we can chat easily on the phone and if we do and we get on then the next step is a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do prefer phone call before meeting i would say 90% of the time. Also prefer cam now due to timewasters.

I like to know if we can chat easily on the phone and if we do and we get on then the next step is a meet.

Totally with you there. Cam if possible!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"following on from another thread, I noticed a few didn't bother with a phone call prior to a meet...and that often includes me..

I have noticed in the past that more men ask for this but other women don't seem to bother..

the reason why I don't think its necessary is how do you know if a complete stranger is the person you are going to meet anyway, just by talking on the phone

anyway, thoughts please fellow forumites

Main reason is just to check you're not really a bloke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you dont link your phone number they cant.

They can find you easier with your name and town or email in that case

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