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By *ricksydemon OP   Man
over a year ago

llandudno

How do you handle them best when you adore a person who's reasons are invalid, yet she refuses to discuss it. Do you let it drop so you can stay friends or fuck it and argue just to feel better and lose a good mate

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

Why would the other persons reasons be invalid?

Surely they have the right to choose whether they want to continue in a relationship

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

The reasons maybe invalid to you but to her they are valid....I would say give her some time and space to breath

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

The reasons may be perfectly valid to her but you don't understand them. It may not matter how much you argue, if she doesn't want to explain it to you in a way that you will accept or you refuse to accept whatever she says, then you've lost the friendship part.

If remaining friends is going to cause you torment then step away and let things settle before re-establishing the friendship.

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By *ricksydemon OP   Man
over a year ago

llandudno

Thanks all. I decided to drop it in the interests Of staying friends.. it still came up and I'm the bad guy again... So neither was the right thing to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recommend not staying friends. I know it's hard, but most of the time, it's easier to cut ties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I recommend not staying friends. I know it's hard, but most of the time, it's easier to cut ties. "

This. I wish I could cut ties entirely, however, unfortunately some of us or forced to interact with ex's

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By *unmeisterMan
over a year ago

London & West Midlands

Tell us both sides and we will adjudicate

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By *ricksydemon OP   Man
over a year ago

llandudno


"Tell us both sides and we will adjudicate "
it's a hard one and don't really want to put it on here. Sorry

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

Just write to her explain things. She will have time to read and reread what you say. It is, less emotional. Its her choice to read it, but it's, there if she wants it.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"How do you handle them best when you adore a person who's reasons are invalid, yet she refuses to discuss it. Do you let it drop so you can stay friends or fuck it and argue just to feel better and lose a good mate"
same as you do if you get no reason at all...you spend time by yourself, rebuilding your own life x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just write to her explain things. She will have time to read and reread what you say. It is, less emotional. Its her choice to read it, but it's, there if she wants it. "

Yes, write everything you would like to tell her then you should leave her alone. If she agrees with what you say,she'd get back to you, if not, well at least you told her what you wanted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you handle them best when you adore a person who's reasons are invalid, yet she refuses to discuss it. Do you let it drop so you can stay friends or fuck it and argue just to feel better and lose a good mate"

I wouldn't discuss anything with someone who dismisses my reasons as invalid. It seems somewhat controlling

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By *ozwon2016Man
over a year ago

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"How do you handle them best when you adore a person who's reasons are invalid, yet she refuses to discuss it. Do you let it drop so you can stay friends or fuck it and argue just to feel better and lose a good mate"

You need to go with your gut on this one. I split from my daughters mum a good while back for what i thought were pretty crappy reasons, valid reasons but fixable reasons too. Turned out it was a guy friend dripping all the right words in her ear making me look a prat, such is life though... if someone doesnt want to be with you ya cant force it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you handle them best when you adore a person who's reasons are invalid, yet she refuses to discuss it. Do you let it drop so you can stay friends or fuck it and argue just to feel better and lose a good mate"

never compromise on something which you believe in for the sake of a friendship..

follow your head not your heart

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By *ricksydemon OP   Man
over a year ago

llandudno

Thanks guys. I didn't raise things, had a blazing argument then I had my rant anyway cleared the air and touch wood I think things will be great now the air is clear.

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