FabSwingers.com forum: Smug couples

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Following a post this morning and a comment about Smug couples, I got to thinking...

As part of a couple who met here and both maintain our single profiles, I don't feel that couples are Smug at all.

We really struggle to find and organise meets unless through clubbing to make initial contact.

So not Smug so much as a bit fraustrated!!

Finding 4 way attraction is a mine-field...

Anyway, just my thoughts xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think anyone that comments on a couple who met on here and still have single profiles as "smug" is just jealous that they're not in a similar situation to be honest.

Just my opinion though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but at least you have each other if all else fails

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Following a post this morning and a comment about Smug couples, I got to thinking...

As part of a couple who met here and both maintain our single profiles, I don't feel that couples are Smug at all.

We really struggle to find and organise meets unless through clubbing to make initial contact.

So not Smug so much as a bit fraustrated!!

Finding 4 way attraction is a mine-field...

Anyway, just my thoughts xx"

Oh stop being so smug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flakey smug couples ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The majority of couples aren't smug at all, I've met quite a few couples who are great. It's the minority of couples who think their way of swinging is the correct way and the only way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some smug couples.....and there are some smug single women and some smug single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh stop being so smug

Lol

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Following a post this morning and a comment about Smug couples, I got to thinking...

As part of a couple who met here and both maintain our single profiles, I don't feel that couples are Smug at all.

We really struggle to find and organise meets unless through clubbing to make initial contact.

So not Smug so much as a bit fraustrated!!

Finding 4 way attraction is a mine-field...

Anyway, just my thoughts xx"

I hear you!! Times we've been stood in clubs and looked at another couple and one of us likes the look of both of them, and the other of us doesn't (and potentially they us of course!!) is a regular occurrence.

And 'taking one for the team' is an unpleasant experience we did once and will never do again.

No smugness here at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Woudnt touch 3/4 of the smuggies

no one is perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Threads reeks of smugness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Threads reeks of smugness."

Could be just me though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon why couples have single profiles is because the woman would have more meets on thier own.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"There are some smug couples.....and there are some smug single women and some smug single men.

This exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think anyone that comments on a couple who met on here and still have single profiles as "smug" is just jealous that they're not in a similar situation to be honest.

Just my opinion though

You lost me?

I have a couples profile.

I just use my single one for the forum.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I reckon why couples have single profiles is because the woman would have more meets on thier own."

I haven't had a meet alone for months.

I have, however, met in clubs with my partner x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Threads reeks of smugness.

Could be just me though."

It is.

You have gone "nose blind"!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think anyone that comments on a couple who met on here and still have single profiles as "smug" is just jealous that they're not in a similar situation to be honest.

Just my opinion though

You lost me?

I have a couples profile.

I just use my single one for the forum."

I meant that I don't think people who have both couples and singles profile are automatically smug, there's nothing wrong with it. And the people who say that they are automatically smug are usually just jealous

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I reckon why couples have single profiles is because the woman would have more meets on thier own.

I haven't had a meet alone for months.

I have, however, met in clubs with my partner x"

That's certainly not why we have single profiles, and am not sure I follow the logic of suggesting it would be. We have single profiles to allow us both to occasionally meet others on our own and are both equally entitled to do so - quantity of meets doesn't even come into our thinking - although quality and equality does (along with trust, respect and all the other things that go without saying).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Threads reeks of smugness.

Could be just me though.

It is.

You have gone "nose blind"!

I probably need to shower or something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's those married men, smiling smugly at the single men who can't get a shag, because they don't have a woman to dangle as a carrot.

Isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Threads reeks of smugness.

Could be just me though.

It is.

You have gone "nose blind"!

I probably need to shower or something."

Golden?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's those married men, smiling smugly at the single men who can't get a shag, because they don't have a woman to dangle as a carrot.

Isn't it? "

Is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's those married men, smiling smugly at the single men who can't get a shag, because they don't have a woman to dangle as a carrot.

Isn't it? "

Lol, pretty much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's those married men, smiling smugly at the single men who can't get a shag, because they don't have a woman to dangle as a carrot.

Isn't it? "

I think in our case Marc is the carrot. People seem more interested in meeting him than me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A friend and I recently had a couple profile

Most people we chatted to were lovely

Couple profile ended

I got back in touch with the couples we had befriended

Oh lord the difference in attitude was incredible

Smuggy smug from smugland

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"It's those married men, smiling smugly at the single men who can't get a shag, because they don't have a woman to dangle as a carrot.

Isn't it?

I think in our case Marc is the carrot. People seem more interested in meeting him than me.

It's because he's got one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's those married men, smiling smugly at the single men who can't get a shag, because they don't have a woman to dangle as a carrot.

Isn't it?

I think in our case Marc is the carrot. People seem more interested in meeting him than me.

Only to see if he really does exist

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"It's those married men, smiling smugly at the single men who can't get a shag, because they don't have a woman to dangle as a carrot.

Isn't it?

I think in our case Marc is the carrot. People seem more interested in meeting him than me.

Only to see if he really does exist

I'd quite like to have sex with him but I think I'll be given Courtney's dildo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smug isn't the word that tends to come to my mind, and obviously I'm talking about a minority of couples - but there is a certain kind of couples arrogance displayed on here at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can imagine that swinging is harder for couples then it is for single men as both of you have to agree. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Following a post this morning and a comment about Smug couples, I got to thinking...

As part of a couple who met here and both maintain our single profiles, I don't feel that couples are Smug at all.

We really struggle to find and organise meets unless through clubbing to make initial contact.

So not Smug so much as a bit fraustrated!!

Finding 4 way attraction is a mine-field...

Anyway, just my thoughts xx"

Same boat as you, we struggle to find another couple where we all get along on here, There will always be 1 out of the 4 that won't be keen on the meet even if it's just a social.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

"Following a post this morning and a comment about Smug couples, I got to thinking...

As part of a couple who met here and both maintain our single profiles, I don't feel that couples are Smug at all.

We really struggle to find and organise meets unless through clubbing to make initial contact.

So not Smug so much as a bit fraustrated!!

Finding 4 way attraction is a mine-field...

Anyway, just my thoughts xx"

Welcome to the world of couples on fab.

At times it is really hard work on here for couples. We have now taken the final decision to maintain club meets only. They are a lot easier in our _iew to meet other couples.

You see each other face to face. Have the opportunity to chat, get to know each other, and if things go further then great.

I wouldn't say couples are smug at all, some are, but then that's what makes all individuals. Personally we are a very happy, chatty, fun couple, which people will find out when they meet us. Some couples, we find, take this site as the gospel , and won't entertain meeting. Quite shallow people really if you think about it.

Anyway, happy swinging as a couple, and long may it continue for you both xxxxx Suzi

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Following a post this morning and a comment about Smug couples, I got to thinking...

As part of a couple who met here and both maintain our single profiles, I don't feel that couples are Smug at all.

We really struggle to find and organise meets unless through clubbing to make initial contact.

So not Smug so much as a bit fraustrated!!

Finding 4 way attraction is a mine-field...

Anyway, just my thoughts xx

Welcome to the world of couples on fab.

At times it is really hard work on here for couples. We have now taken the final decision to maintain club meets only. They are a lot easier in our _iew to meet other couples.

You see each other face to face. Have the opportunity to chat, get to know each other, and if things go further then great.

Anyway, happy swinging as a couple, and long may it continue for you both xxxxx Suzi

Thanks Suzi, that's really sweet xx

Us too btw- we just go to a club now- given up trying to arrange meets in advance x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We really struggle to find and organise meets

So not Smug so much as a bit fraustrated!!

Finding 4 way attraction is a mine-field...

Anyway, just my thoughts xx"

Very much agree with these comments, we do go along to socials, but I (him) is a little worried about the club thing currently. Our time together is precious so want to get it right

Him

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I tried this swinging lark as part of a couple once... there was fuck all to be smug about... you then have two people to please and he was way easier pleased than me!

I'm happy being a smug single and pleasing myself thanking you very much!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's those married men, smiling smugly at the single men who can't get a shag, because they don't have a woman to dangle as a carrot.

Isn't it? "

Really ??!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Following a post this morning and a comment about Smug couples, I got to thinking...

As part of a couple who met here and both maintain our single profiles, I don't feel that couples are Smug at all.

We really struggle to find and organise meets unless through clubbing to make initial contact.

So not Smug so much as a bit fraustrated!!

Finding 4 way attraction is a mine-field...

Anyway, just my thoughts xx"

Arrogant maybe

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think singles who meet and then have the couple profile and need to grandstand it over the forums is all a bit silly more than smug.

It is over the top when they start to have a conversation with each other in threads and they are in the same bed. It's all a bit, look at us.

But singles can be smug, I pride myself on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's those married men, smiling smugly at the single men who can't get a shag, because they don't have a woman to dangle as a carrot.

Isn't it?

I think in our case Marc is the carrot. People seem more interested in meeting him than me.

He's elusive. People want what they can't have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think singles who meet and then have the couple profile and need to grandstand it over the forums is all a bit silly more than smug.

It is over the top when they start to have a conversation with each other in threads and they are in the same bed. It's all a bit, look at us.

But singles can be smug, I pride myself on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think singles who meet and then have the couple profile and need to grandstand it over the forums is all a bit silly more than smug.

It is over the top when they start to have a conversation with each other in threads and they are in the same bed. It's all a bit, look at us.

But singles can be smug, I pride myself on it

It's when they have a three way conversation between their respective singles & couple profile that makes me laugh.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I think singles who meet and then have the couple profile and need to grandstand it over the forums is all a bit silly more than smug.

It is over the top when they start to have a conversation with each other in threads and they are in the same bed. It's all a bit, look at us.

But singles can be smug, I pride myself on it

It's when they have a three way conversation between their respective singles & couple profile that makes me laugh."

indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reckon why couples have single profiles is because the woman would have more meets on thier own.

I haven't had a meet alone for months.

I have, however, met in clubs with my partner x

I think what Shag is eluding to (maybe), is that when it's say the woman playing on the couples profile she will tend to do better on her own single woman's profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I reckon why couples have single profiles is because the woman would have more meets on thier own.

I haven't had a meet alone for months.

I have, however, met in clubs with my partner x

I think what Shag is eluding to (maybe), is that when it's say the woman playing on the couples profile she will tend to do better on her own single woman's profile. "

Maybe- I definitely get plenty of speculative mail to my single profile.

However this post is more about the perception towards couples that they are Smug or elitist.

Certainly there will be some of every type on here, but my experience has been more fraustrating than anything x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I just accept people for who they are and appreciate others doing the same with me, whatever my relationship status. I don't pick up smug as a pervasive feeling here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reckon why couples have single profiles is because the woman would have more meets on thier own.

I haven't had a meet alone for months.

I have, however, met in clubs with my partner x

I think what Shag is eluding to (maybe), is that when it's say the woman playing on the couples profile she will tend to do better on her own single woman's profile.

Maybe- I definitely get plenty of speculative mail to my single profile.

However this post is more about the perception towards couples that they are Smug or elitist.

Certainly there will be some of every type on here, but my experience has been more fraustrating than anything x "

I wouldn't say smug, some maybe come across elitist when the ole argument pops up about couples being the only 'true' swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples are not so much as "smug"..but they can be difficult.

I love meeting couples (only play with the female..I'm straight).

But I find they analyse/over-analyse every single word you say.

OR...it's blindingly obvious the whole thing is a fantasy in his head and she knows nothing about it.

Or she wants to meet but he doesn't..or whatever.

Couples can be difficult.

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England

"It's those married men, smiling smugly at the single men who can't get a shag, because they don't have a woman to dangle as a carrot.

Isn't it?

I think in our case Marc is the carrot. People seem more interested in meeting him than me.

Lucky Marc!

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