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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Are they succeeding is the question?

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Are they succeeding is the question?"

no those that are trying to destroy male masculinity are just making a rod for there own back down the line,

yin and yang people two halves of the same coin that complete one another when you bring them together .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In what way are they trying to emasculate men?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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What have those nasty women done now OP?

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

How are they doing this emasculation?

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"What have those nasty women done now OP? "

who use the word nasty not me .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks "

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks "

Nowt wrong with a bit of emasculation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i will never stop until i feminise every single one of you.

my new theme tune: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qYwgG2oyUbA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy "

Hehe funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i will never stop until i feminise every single one of you.

my new theme tune: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qYwgG2oyUbA"

Bring it on

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?"

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse ."

If that's the case then what is the thread about?

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy "

the truth is you wouldn't need to ask me darling because if I needed and wanted a tea I,d make one and of coarse if you was with me I'd ask you if you wanted one to that's just manners .

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

What does emasculated mean

I first read it as emasturbate xxxxx Suzi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Works both ways, some men try to stop females feeling like a woman. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i will never stop until i feminise every single one of you.

my new theme tune: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qYwgG2oyUbA

Bring it on"

so many men, so little time. i'll have to do you in bulk lots if that's ok?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does emasculated mean

I first read it as emasturbate xxxxx Suzi "

Make them not feel like a man, make them weak.

XXX

According to Google anyway XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?"

You took the words right out of my mouth

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Isn't asking a bit emasculating? You are what you are.

MrB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy

the truth is you wouldn't need to ask me darling because if I needed and wanted a tea I,d make one and of coarse if you was with me I'd ask you if you wanted one to that's just manners . "

You haven't got time for a cup of tea, you've still got the dishes to do

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?"

nothing in particular just a reminder that masculinity is not a evil thing its natural and has come about because of evolution and survival of the species as its motive for existing ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?

nothing in particular just a reminder that masculinity is not a evil thing its natural and has come about because of evolution and survival of the species as its motive for existing ,"

i feel it's not natural, but if you think it is then just 'man up'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?

nothing in particular just a reminder that masculinity is not a evil thing its natural and has come about because of evolution and survival of the species as its motive for existing ,"

Great. So what triggered this thread? I'm still at a loss as to see the context.

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By *atcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Suffolk - East Anglia


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy "

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy

the truth is you wouldn't need to ask me darling because if I needed and wanted a tea I,d make one and of coarse if you was with me I'd ask you if you wanted one to that's just manners .

You haven't got time for a cup of tea, you've still got the dishes to do "

again you don't get it if I finished before you and the dishes needed doing id go make a start on them don't get roles made up by society mixed up with male masculinity please .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?

nothing in particular just a reminder that masculinity is not a evil thing its natural and has come about because of evolution and survival of the species as its motive for existing ,"

You seem fairly obsessed by your masculinity imo

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?

nothing in particular just a reminder that masculinity is not a evil thing its natural and has come about because of evolution and survival of the species as its motive for existing ,"

Sounds a bit bizarre to me...

Who is saying it's an evil thing?

Sounds like you have some sort of hang up somewhere.

Do you feel emasculated, then?

Must do, if you have raised it

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By *atcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Suffolk - East Anglia


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Nowt wrong with a bit of emasculation."

Only not in public

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?

nothing in particular just a reminder that masculinity is not a evil thing its natural and has come about because of evolution and survival of the species as its motive for existing ,

Great. So what triggered this thread? I'm still at a loss as to see the context."

Maybe it's those pesky feminists again. Wanting to be treated like equals, how fucking unreasonable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?

nothing in particular just a reminder that masculinity is not a evil thing its natural and has come about because of evolution and survival of the species as its motive for existing ,

You seem fairly obsessed by your masculinity imo"

Men who need to tell people repeatedly how "masculine" they are, usually have some sort of underlying issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is online stuff becomes like more Facebook.. more than what the sites intended ..meaning a lot act, talk/, double standards and hypocrites or become something they not on here in realitity ,they would say not boo to a goose in the real word ..that's cyberspace for a big pecentage .don't take there attititudes personal and keep it fun..the chance we ever meet on here are slim anyway for single men ...be yourself and be lucky

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?

nothing in particular just a reminder that masculinity is not a evil thing its natural and has come about because of evolution and survival of the species as its motive for existing ,"

Masculinity is as 'natural' in women and feminine males as it is in macho men.

All a matter of degree.

You need to explain how you believe women are emasculating men for this thread to have any meaning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?

nothing in particular just a reminder that masculinity is not a evil thing its natural and has come about because of evolution and survival of the species as its motive for existing ,

You seem fairly obsessed by your masculinity imo

Men who need to tell people repeatedly how "masculine" they are, usually have some sort of underlying issues. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?

nothing in particular just a reminder that masculinity is not a evil thing its natural and has come about because of evolution and survival of the species as its motive for existing ,

Masculinity is as 'natural' in women and feminine males as it is in macho men.

All a matter of degree.

You need to explain how you believe women are emasculating men for this thread to have any meaning."

You're losing sight of the thread's true meaning, granny. The OP is masculine. Women are on a mission to remove that masculinity in other men (not the OP, of course - he's too masculine to feel such pressure). And he wants to remind all those masculine men not to let women take away their masculinity.

The masculine men I know are in need of constant support from other masculine men in order to retain their masculinity. Fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy "

Sorry but this made me giggle

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?

nothing in particular just a reminder that masculinity is not a evil thing its natural and has come about because of evolution and survival of the species as its motive for existing ,

Sounds a bit bizarre to me...

Who is saying it's an evil thing?

Sounds like you have some sort of hang up somewhere.

Do you feel emasculated, then?

Must do, if you have raised it"

take a look in here fella at some of the responses brought about by mentioning male masculinity most have nothing to do with male physic or masculinity most are about roles society has pigeon holed sexes into that are then used to try and make out that those roles in society are to be blamed solely on male masculinity .

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By *razyhWoman
over a year ago

thorrington

Seriously lol !

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


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You're losing sight of the thread's true meaning, granny. The OP is masculine. Women are on a mission to remove that masculinity in other men (not the OP, of course - he's too masculine to feel such pressure). And he wants to remind all those masculine men not to let women take away their masculinity.

The masculine men I know are in need of constant support from other masculine men in order to retain their masculinity. Fact. "

Can we start an anti-emasculation group, where we can nave a good gossip, maybe have a little cry if we need to, and a lovely group hug, to help support masculinity?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?

nothing in particular just a reminder that masculinity is not a evil thing its natural and has come about because of evolution and survival of the species as its motive for existing ,"

How do you define your masculinity and what sort of things do women on here do to emasculate men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse ."

Maybe you were raised wrong.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?

nothing in particular just a reminder that masculinity is not a evil thing its natural and has come about because of evolution and survival of the species as its motive for existing ,

Masculinity is as 'natural' in women and feminine males as it is in macho men.

All a matter of degree.

You need to explain how you believe women are emasculating men for this thread to have any meaning.

You're losing sight of the thread's true meaning, granny. The OP is masculine. Women are on a mission to remove that masculinity in other men (not the OP, of course - he's too masculine to feel such pressure). And he wants to remind all those masculine men not to let women take away their masculinity.

The masculine men I know are in need of constant support from other masculine men in order to retain their masculinity. Fact. "

Oh the TRUE meaning! Thanks Court...... I was working on what the O.P said in the O.P. Stupid I am this afternoon....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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You're losing sight of the thread's true meaning, granny. The OP is masculine. Women are on a mission to remove that masculinity in other men (not the OP, of course - he's too masculine to feel such pressure). And he wants to remind all those masculine men not to let women take away their masculinity.

The masculine men I know are in need of constant support from other masculine men in order to retain their masculinity. Fact. "

Actual lols.

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By *lli_sissyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cambridge

Umm... i quite like being emasculated by women... so don't ban it please

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?

nothing in particular just a reminder that masculinity is not a evil thing its natural and has come about because of evolution and survival of the species as its motive for existing ,

Sounds a bit bizarre to me...

Who is saying it's an evil thing?

Sounds like you have some sort of hang up somewhere.

Do you feel emasculated, then?

Must do, if you have raised it

take a look in here fella at some of the responses brought about by mentioning male masculinity most have nothing to do with male physic or masculinity most are about roles society has pigeon holed sexes into that are then used to try and make out that those roles in society are to be blamed solely on male masculinity ."

I haven't seen any responses on the thread that are about " roles" or society or pigeonholing.

Most seem to be pointing out that men who " need to feel" masculine, or who feel that their " masculinity " is being eroded, have a bit of a personal problem .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy

the truth is you wouldn't need to ask me darling because if I needed and wanted a tea I,d make one and of coarse if you was with me I'd ask you if you wanted one to that's just manners . "

Men who refer to women as "darling", yet are moaning about feeling emasculated

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?

nothing in particular just a reminder that masculinity is not a evil thing its natural and has come about because of evolution and survival of the species as its motive for existing ,

How do you define your masculinity and what sort of things do women on here do to emasculate men? "

seriously your post though tongue in cheek plus a few other in here less tongue in cheek show the fear and miss understanding that exist when ever you mention male masculinity .

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy

the truth is you wouldn't need to ask me darling because if I needed and wanted a tea I,d make one and of coarse if you was with me I'd ask you if you wanted one to that's just manners .

Men who refer to women as "darling", yet are moaning about feeling emasculated "

They might call you " babe"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could the OP define masculinity for the class?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could the OP define masculinity for the class? "

You know, since there's so much "fear" and "misunderstanding" on the thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could the OP define masculinity for the class? "

Do you have your notebook ready?

I chose the blue one today because it matches my dress.

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy

the truth is you wouldn't need to ask me darling because if I needed and wanted a tea I,d make one and of coarse if you was with me I'd ask you if you wanted one to that's just manners .

Men who refer to women as "darling", yet are moaning about feeling emasculated "

bloody hell that took longer than I bet on .I was critiquing her in the same way she was critiquing me if its good for the goose its good for the gander don't you think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awwwww but op just cos I love my big fat dildo doesn't mean I won't need a real man again one day. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could the OP define masculinity for the class? "

Best hide behind a cushion as he does...it may make you fearful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i will finally leave a sensible answer, from a cis viewpoint as that is my stance.

but do you not think that 'masculinity' has made it so women try to emasculate men? especially when it comes to sex.

the amount of us who complain about being treated like meat or that we don't matter should give you an idea why.

most of us here know what we want, we even make profiles so that we can let you know what we want, and it should be so easy for men on here to be able to look up what they want and find that. i just deleted mine last night out of disappointment btw, going to think of a way i can get across what i want without looking like a piece of meat (if that's even possible).

from a personal viewpoint, being submissive is submitting to the wants of someone else. to compromise there must be submission from both sides. as a dominant' i find more that guys are submissive because they're lazy, clueless, or selfish and think submitting means getting what they want and i as a dominant will do that.

i mean seriously, how the fuck does submission even mean being selfish? how does that type of thinking even exist?

and a lot more guys expect oral than are willing to give it, too.

they think we are a takeaway to order to please them, and most discount our profile.

the decent guys always stand out, i will say that. but in a place where i feel the level of manipulation is high, the predators are high, the selfish is high (coming from interacting with males mainly) i can see why that is totally discouraged.

being a male is not being a top or dominant or being pandered to, i don't feel like this is you OP either, but i'm saying this is what most men feel it is. and i have no idea why or if we encourage that...my profile was only sexual so that won't help.

i'm becoming more clueless on how to get what i want the longer i'm on here and it's because this place, and any environment where sex is the main reason for a site existing, just doesn't offer us many choices that we find appealing if we want more then NSA or even respect.

that's why i like the forums. the giys here are more respectful, yeah maybe sycophantic at times, but at least they're respectful and not treating us like we are nothing.

not everyone who inboxes me is like this either, but it's a good majority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?

nothing in particular just a reminder that masculinity is not a evil thing its natural and has come about because of evolution and survival of the species as its motive for existing ,

Great. So what triggered this thread? I'm still at a loss as to see the context.

Maybe it's those pesky feminists again. Wanting to be treated like equals, how fucking unreasonable. "

I've never seen femininists campaign for the physical tests for women to be made equal to mens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could the OP define masculinity for the class?

Do you have your notebook ready?

I chose the blue one today because it matches my dress. "

Notebooks are for pussies. I'm so masculine I'm going to be etching into a patio slab with a nail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy

the truth is you wouldn't need to ask me darling because if I needed and wanted a tea I,d make one and of coarse if you was with me I'd ask you if you wanted one to that's just manners .

Men who refer to women as "darling", yet are moaning about feeling emasculated

They might call you " babe"

"

Even worse!

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over a year ago


"Could the OP define masculinity for the class?

Do you have your notebook ready?

I chose the blue one today because it matches my dress.

Notebooks are for pussies. I'm so masculine I'm going to be etching into a patio slab with a nail. "

You're lucky.

Back in my day we etched notes into diamond with nothing more than our faces.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?

nothing in particular just a reminder that masculinity is not a evil thing its natural and has come about because of evolution and survival of the species as its motive for existing ,

How do you define your masculinity and what sort of things do women on here do to emasculate men?

seriously your post though tongue in cheek plus a few other in here less tongue in cheek show the fear and miss understanding that exist when ever you mention male masculinity ."

No fear here sweetie

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Could the OP define masculinity for the class? "

nope as we all define ourselves differently mostly due to nurture mixed with nature .

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over a year ago


"Could the OP define masculinity for the class?

nope as we all define ourselves differently mostly due to nurture mixed with nature ."

So how are comments on this thread and others emasculating if masculinity can't be defined? How are people's posts showing fear of something that's not defined?

Is what you actually mean then that your personal definition of masculinity is feeling threatened?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy

the truth is you wouldn't need to ask me darling because if I needed and wanted a tea I,d make one and of coarse if you was with me I'd ask you if you wanted one to that's just manners .

Men who refer to women as "darling", yet are moaning about feeling emasculated

bloody hell that took longer than I bet on .I was critiquing her in the same way she was critiquing me if its good for the goose its good for the gander don't you think "

Ahh but you see, it's not the first time I've read a post from you calling someone "darling", therefore I'm puzzled why you've started this thread. What's good for the goose, like you say!

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over a year ago

I really want to know what happened to start this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could the OP define masculinity for the class?

nope as we all define ourselves differently mostly due to nurture mixed with nature ."

Cop out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought that was like when you are underfed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

could you explain a litle more clearly what exactly it is you're whingeing about? i don't get your point at all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow this got serious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy

the truth is you wouldn't need to ask me darling because if I needed and wanted a tea I,d make one and of coarse if you was with me I'd ask you if you wanted one to that's just manners . "

But men (unless they're a mechanic or a builder) can go ages without wanting a cuppa!! I like a cup of tea on the regular, not when my throat is parched and i'm spitting feathers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really want to know what happened to start this thread.

"

I'm thinking a message went horribly wrong...

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I really want to know what happened to start this thread.

"

Laddered his tights whilst already feeling hormonal

Sorry Op only joking

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy

the truth is you wouldn't need to ask me darling because if I needed and wanted a tea I,d make one and of coarse if you was with me I'd ask you if you wanted one to that's just manners .

You haven't got time for a cup of tea, you've still got the dishes to do

again you don't get it if I finished before you and the dishes needed doing id go make a start on them don't get roles made up by society mixed up with male masculinity please ."

As much as I'm flummoxed by your OP, I agree with your comment entirely. Assigning gender to tasks is vile.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"I really want to know what happened to start this thread.

"

Rejection, one assumes.

Though index to ring finger ratio gives another clue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks "

Whose trying to castrate you OP? lol

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over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy

the truth is you wouldn't need to ask me darling because if I needed and wanted a tea I,d make one and of coarse if you was with me I'd ask you if you wanted one to that's just manners .

You haven't got time for a cup of tea, you've still got the dishes to do

again you don't get it if I finished before you and the dishes needed doing id go make a start on them don't get roles made up by society mixed up with male masculinity please .

As much as I'm flummoxed by your OP, I agree with your comment entirely. Assigning gender to tasks is vile. "

My ex did the dishes all the time like the good boy he was

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over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks "

Wouldn't dream of it. Go make the beds sweety. Oh and cook the dinner. Oh and while you there make me a nice cup of tea. Oh i do love it. Now stop moaning and take my underwear off xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think his girls feeding him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy

the truth is you wouldn't need to ask me darling because if I needed and wanted a tea I,d make one and of coarse if you was with me I'd ask you if you wanted one to that's just manners .

You haven't got time for a cup of tea, you've still got the dishes to do

again you don't get it if I finished before you and the dishes needed doing id go make a start on them don't get roles made up by society mixed up with male masculinity please .

As much as I'm flummoxed by your OP, I agree with your comment entirely. Assigning gender to tasks is vile.

My ex did the dishes all the time like the good boy he was "

Having a houseboy when I lived on my own was excellent. He used to pop round twice a week and clean up.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"I don't think his girls feeding him "

Probably won't let him wear her underwear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow this got serious "

Shhhhh their busy arguing xxx

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"i will finally leave a sensible answer, from a cis viewpoint as that is my stance.

but do you not think that 'masculinity' has made it so women try to emasculate men? especially when it comes to sex.

the amount of us who complain about being treated like meat or that we don't matter should give you an idea why.

most of us here know what we want, we even make profiles so that we can let you know what we want, and it should be so easy for men on here to be able to look up what they want and find that. i just deleted mine last night out of disappointment btw, going to think of a way i can get across what i want without looking like a piece of meat (if that's even possible).

from a personal viewpoint, being submissive is submitting to the wants of someone else. to compromise there must be submission from both sides. as a dominant' i find more that guys are submissive because they're lazy, clueless, or selfish and think submitting means getting what they want and i as a dominant will do that.

i mean seriously, how the fuck does submission even mean being selfish? how does that type of thinking even exist?

and a lot more guys expect oral than are willing to give it, too.

they think we are a takeaway to order to please them, and most discount our profile.

the decent guys always stand out, i will say that. but in a place where i feel the level of manipulation is high, the predators are high, the selfish is high (coming from interacting with males mainly) i can see why that is totally discouraged.

being a male is not being a top or dominant or being pandered to, i don't feel like this is you OP either, but i'm saying this is what most men feel it is. and i have no idea why or if we encourage that...my profile was only sexual so that won't help.

i'm becoming more clueless on how to get what i want the longer i'm on here and it's because this place, and any environment where sex is the main reason for a site existing, just doesn't offer us many choices that we find appealing if we want more then NSA or even respect.

that's why i like the forums. the giys here are more respectful, yeah maybe sycophantic at times, but at least they're respectful and not treating us like we are nothing.

not everyone who inboxes me is like this either, but it's a good majority."

ying and yang I totally get what you are saying you post are often well thought out . I don't emasculate anyone nor would I say I dominate anyone .

I take what I need from my friends and in return I give them what they need a symbiotic existence that is the key to true happiness in my opinion .

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over a year ago

Another case of feminism destroying society

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over a year ago


"Another case of feminism destroying society "

Bloody feminists. They need to get back in the kitchen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow this got serious

Shhhhh their busy arguing xxx"

Sorry pretty I shall just carry on twirling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?

nothing in particular just a reminder that masculinity is not a evil thing its natural and has come about because of evolution and survival of the species as its motive for existing ,

Great. So what triggered this thread? I'm still at a loss as to see the context.

Maybe it's those pesky feminists again. Wanting to be treated like equals, how fucking unreasonable.

I've never seen femininists campaign for the physical tests for women to be made equal to mens.

"

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"Another case of feminism destroying society "

I know!

We let them vote, drive cars, go to work!

What's the world coming to?

Next thing you know, there will be one running the country...

Oh, wait........

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over a year ago


"Another case of feminism destroying society

Bloody feminists. They need to get back in the kitchen."
yeah 'Women know your limits' like Courtney said alpha males don't give a fuck when anyone think really. It is a beta male trait to feel emasculated

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"could you explain a litle more clearly what exactly it is you're whingeing about? i don't get your point at all..."

I wasn't whinging about anything the post was a red flag which I knew would allow people free rain to put there own spin on masculinity especially my masculinity .

I was bored i could have run a fancy a hug post to entertain myself but this post and more importantly the responses to it have been great reading and hopefully entertaining for all who have posted in it and read it .

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over a year ago


"could you explain a litle more clearly what exactly it is you're whingeing about? i don't get your point at all...

I wasn't whinging about anything the post was a red flag which I knew would allow people free rain to put there own spin on masculinity especially my masculinity .

I was bored i could have run a fancy a hug post to entertain myself but this post and more importantly the responses to it have been great reading and hopefully entertaining for all who have posted in it and read it . "

"Surprise! It was all a joke!"

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"Another case of feminism destroying society

Bloody feminists. They need to get back in the kitchen."

Nah... men are better at cooking

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Could the OP define masculinity for the class?

Do you have your notebook ready?

I chose the blue one today because it matches my dress.

Notebooks are for pussies. I'm so masculine I'm going to be etching into a patio slab with a nail.

You're lucky.

Back in my day we etched notes into diamond with nothing more than our faces."

For what it's worth my real name is Granite Crumpet and you don't get a name like that by using paper for note taking.

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over a year ago


"Could the OP define masculinity for the class?

Do you have your notebook ready?

I chose the blue one today because it matches my dress.

Notebooks are for pussies. I'm so masculine I'm going to be etching into a patio slab with a nail.

You're lucky.

Back in my day we etched notes into diamond with nothing more than our faces.

For what it's worth my real name is Granite Crumpet and you don't get a name like that by using paper for note taking."

I wondered who was leaving me braille messages asking for help in my morning crumpets.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"could you explain a litle more clearly what exactly it is you're whingeing about? i don't get your point at all...

I wasn't whinging about anything the post was a red flag which I knew would allow people free rain to put there own spin on masculinity especially my masculinity .

I was bored i could have run a fancy a hug post to entertain myself but this post and more importantly the responses to it have been great reading and hopefully entertaining for all who have posted in it and read it .

"Surprise! It was all a joke!""

Ah, the old 'social experiment' response. Makes me feel all nostalgic.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Another case of feminism destroying society

Bloody feminists. They need to get back in the kitchen.

Nah... men are better at cooking

"

Apparently its because they have colder hands. Or something.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"could you explain a litle more clearly what exactly it is you're whingeing about? i don't get your point at all...

I wasn't whinging about anything the post was a red flag which I knew would allow people free rain to put there own spin on masculinity especially my masculinity .

I was bored i could have run a fancy a hug post to entertain myself but this post and more importantly the responses to it have been great reading and hopefully entertaining for all who have posted in it and read it . "

Not a bad back pedal

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over a year ago


"could you explain a litle more clearly what exactly it is you're whingeing about? i don't get your point at all...

I wasn't whinging about anything the post was a red flag which I knew would allow people free rain to put there own spin on masculinity especially my masculinity .

I was bored i could have run a fancy a hug post to entertain myself but this post and more importantly the responses to it have been great reading and hopefully entertaining for all who have posted in it and read it .

"Surprise! It was all a joke!"

Ah, the old 'social experiment' response. Makes me feel all nostalgic. "

It's my favourite of the fab thread bingo card options.

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over a year ago

Ohhhhh dizzy from all the twirling . Falls on bottom.

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"could you explain a litle more clearly what exactly it is you're whingeing about? i don't get your point at all...

I wasn't whinging about anything the post was a red flag which I knew would allow people free rain to put there own spin on masculinity especially my masculinity .

I was bored i could have run a fancy a hug post to entertain myself but this post and more importantly the responses to it have been great reading and hopefully entertaining for all who have posted in it and read it .

"Surprise! It was all a joke!""

no it was not a joke it was I invitation to take what you wanted from my opening post and run with it . which people did so as far as I'm concerned the post was a success . as it allowed people to expense themselves and there thoughts on my original post .

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Could the OP define masculinity for the class?

Do you have your notebook ready?

I chose the blue one today because it matches my dress.

Notebooks are for pussies. I'm so masculine I'm going to be etching into a patio slab with a nail.

You're lucky.

Back in my day we etched notes into diamond with nothing more than our faces.

For what it's worth my real name is Granite Crumpet and you don't get a name like that by using paper for note taking.

I wondered who was leaving me braille messages asking for help in my morning crumpets."

Butler's day off n I can't use a toaster. I'm too busy organising organisations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i will finally leave a sensible answer, from a cis viewpoint as that is my stance.

but do you not think that 'masculinity' has made it so women try to emasculate men? especially when it comes to sex.

the amount of us who complain about being treated like meat or that we don't matter should give you an idea why.

most of us here know what we want, we even make profiles so that we can let you know what we want, and it should be so easy for men on here to be able to look up what they want and find that. i just deleted mine last night out of disappointment btw, going to think of a way i can get across what i want without looking like a piece of meat (if that's even possible).

from a personal viewpoint, being submissive is submitting to the wants of someone else. to compromise there must be submission from both sides. as a dominant' i find more that guys are submissive because they're lazy, clueless, or selfish and think submitting means getting what they want and i as a dominant will do that.

i mean seriously, how the fuck does submission even mean being selfish? how does that type of thinking even exist?

and a lot more guys expect oral than are willing to give it, too.

they think we are a takeaway to order to please them, and most discount our profile.

the decent guys always stand out, i will say that. but in a place where i feel the level of manipulation is high, the predators are high, the selfish is high (coming from interacting with males mainly) i can see why that is totally discouraged.

being a male is not being a top or dominant or being pandered to, i don't feel like this is you OP either, but i'm saying this is what most men feel it is. and i have no idea why or if we encourage that...my profile was only sexual so that won't help.

i'm becoming more clueless on how to get what i want the longer i'm on here and it's because this place, and any environment where sex is the main reason for a site existing, just doesn't offer us many choices that we find appealing if we want more then NSA or even respect.

that's why i like the forums. the giys here are more respectful, yeah maybe sycophantic at times, but at least they're respectful and not treating us like we are nothing.

not everyone who inboxes me is like this either, but it's a good majority.

ying and yang I totally get what you are saying you post are often well thought out . I don't emasculate anyone nor would I say I dominate anyone .

I take what I need from my friends and in return I give them what they need a symbiotic existence that is the key to true happiness in my opinion .

"

my name on here used to be miss symbiont because i wanted to promote the idea that dominants/sub should be symbiotic.

yeah everything this applies really. i've been in very male environments (computer programming) and seen the worst of the worst in men there too. plenty of 'jokes' about sammiches, typical crap where men are allowed to feel 'powerful' and get away with that.

it works both ways. my ex worked for a woman who had a man candy calender up in the office and i remember asking my ex did it not bother him she had that up.

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over a year ago


"could you explain a litle more clearly what exactly it is you're whingeing about? i don't get your point at all...

I wasn't whinging about anything the post was a red flag which I knew would allow people free rain to put there own spin on masculinity especially my masculinity .

I was bored i could have run a fancy a hug post to entertain myself but this post and more importantly the responses to it have been great reading and hopefully entertaining for all who have posted in it and read it .

"Surprise! It was all a joke!"

no it was not a joke it was I invitation to take what you wanted from my opening post and run with it . which people did so as far as I'm concerned the post was a success . as it allowed people to expense themselves and there thoughts on my original post . "
It wasn't successful at all, don't let the rejection get you down be strong be an Alpha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow this got serious

Shhhhh their busy arguing xxx

Sorry pretty I shall just carry on twirling "

Gg xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ohhhhh dizzy from all the twirling . Falls on bottom. "

* goes n puts twirling in the 101 thread * xxx

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"i will finally leave a sensible answer, from a cis viewpoint as that is my stance.

but do you not think that 'masculinity' has made it so women try to emasculate men? especially when it comes to sex.

the amount of us who complain about being treated like meat or that we don't matter should give you an idea why.

most of us here know what we want, we even make profiles so that we can let you know what we want, and it should be so easy for men on here to be able to look up what they want and find that. i just deleted mine last night out of disappointment btw, going to think of a way i can get across what i want without looking like a piece of meat (if that's even possible).

from a personal viewpoint, being submissive is submitting to the wants of someone else. to compromise there must be submission from both sides. as a dominant' i find more that guys are submissive because they're lazy, clueless, or selfish and think submitting means getting what they want and i as a dominant will do that.

i mean seriously, how the fuck does submission even mean being selfish? how does that type of thinking even exist?

and a lot more guys expect oral than are willing to give it, too.

they think we are a takeaway to order to please them, and most discount our profile.

the decent guys always stand out, i will say that. but in a place where i feel the level of manipulation is high, the predators are high, the selfish is high (coming from interacting with males mainly) i can see why that is totally discouraged.

being a male is not being a top or dominant or being pandered to, i don't feel like this is you OP either, but i'm saying this is what most men feel it is. and i have no idea why or if we encourage that...my profile was only sexual so that won't help.

i'm becoming more clueless on how to get what i want the longer i'm on here and it's because this place, and any environment where sex is the main reason for a site existing, just doesn't offer us many choices that we find appealing if we want more then NSA or even respect.

that's why i like the forums. the giys here are more respectful, yeah maybe sycophantic at times, but at least they're respectful and not treating us like we are nothing.

not everyone who inboxes me is like this either, but it's a good majority.

ying and yang I totally get what you are saying you post are often well thought out . I don't emasculate anyone nor would I say I dominate anyone .

I take what I need from my friends and in return I give them what they need a symbiotic existence that is the key to true happiness in my opinion .

my name on here used to be miss symbiont because i wanted to promote the idea that dominants/sub should be symbiotic.

yeah everything this applies really. i've been in very male environments (computer programming) and seen the worst of the worst in men there too. plenty of 'jokes' about sammiches, typical crap where men are allowed to feel 'powerful' and get away with that.

it works both ways. my ex worked for a woman who had a man candy calender up in the office and i remember asking my ex did it not bother him she had that up.

"

its the same with male strip groups entertaining groups of women .its just a bit of fantasy fun nothing personal nor degrading unless you have insecurities you wish to fixate on. which of coarse your the only one fixating on because we all are our own worse enemy when it comes to our insecurities .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ohhhhh dizzy from all the twirling . Falls on bottom.

* goes n puts twirling in the 101 thread * xxx"

Nooooooooooo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its the same with male strip groups entertaining groups of women .its just a bit of fantasy fun nothing personal nor degrading unless you have insecurities you wish to fixate on. which of coarse your the only one fixating on because we all are our own worse enemy when it comes to our insecurities ."

he is bi so it didn't bother him. eye candy for him as well.

dunno about fantasy. most of the time i'm against objectification. i think it's down to being objectified when it's not been appropriate to do that.

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over a year ago

nor insecurities either, although being objectified in places i should be safe from that might have made me insecure in some way.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"nothing personal nor degrading unless you have insecurities you wish to fixate on. which of coarse your the only one fixating on because we all are our own worse enemy when it comes to our insecurities ."

Are you saying you feel emasculated because of your own insecurities? In the words of the psychiatrist, what's brought this on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Umm... i quite like being emasculated by women... so don't ban it please "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another case of feminism destroying society

Bloody feminists. They need to get back in the kitchen."

What? I've just bloody come out of it

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My head hurts

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By *44bertCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

Real men use punctuation and capital letters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I emasculating a man when I strap him to a bed with his work ties, pour oil on my hands and take his cock in them, taking total control?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another case of feminism destroying society

Bloody feminists. They need to get back in the kitchen.

What? I've just bloody come out of it "

Pull your knickers up and make us a cup of tea sweetcheeks

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"its the same with male strip groups entertaining groups of women .its just a bit of fantasy fun nothing personal nor degrading unless you have insecurities you wish to fixate on. which of coarse your the only one fixating on because we all are our own worse enemy when it comes to our insecurities .

he is bi so it didn't bother him. eye candy for him as well.

dunno about fantasy. most of the time i'm against objectification. i think it's down to being objectified when it's not been appropriate to do that."

objectification is a subconscious bi product of human sexuality in my opinion its not nice as it reminds us of the animal not the spiritual .

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By *iscreet UnicornWoman
over a year ago

Windsor-ish

Well i am soooo confused!!!

(Wifey)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its the same with male strip groups entertaining groups of women .its just a bit of fantasy fun nothing personal nor degrading unless you have insecurities you wish to fixate on. which of coarse your the only one fixating on because we all are our own worse enemy when it comes to our insecurities .

he is bi so it didn't bother him. eye candy for him as well.

dunno about fantasy. most of the time i'm against objectification. i think it's down to being objectified when it's not been appropriate to do that.

objectification is a subconscious bi product of human sexuality in my opinion its not nice as it reminds us of the animal not the spiritual . "

i get that. you can't desire someone unless you've objectified them. i do it myself enough times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My head hurts "

Its okay come sit in the corner with me

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"its the same with male strip groups entertaining groups of women .its just a bit of fantasy fun nothing personal nor degrading unless you have insecurities you wish to fixate on. which of coarse your the only one fixating on because we all are our own worse enemy when it comes to our insecurities .

he is bi so it didn't bother him. eye candy for him as well.

dunno about fantasy. most of the time i'm against objectification. i think it's down to being objectified when it's not been appropriate to do that.

objectification is a subconscious bi product of human sexuality in my opinion its not nice as it reminds us of the animal not the spiritual .

i get that. you can't desire someone unless you've objectified them. i do it myself enough times. "

exactly its base to do that or so we have been conditioned to believe so we struggle to reconcile our nature with how we have been conditioned to be by society from a small age .

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over a year ago


"i get that. you can't desire someone unless you've objectified them. i do it myself enough times. "

I don't think that's true actually.

Objectification is the treatment of a person as an object. Not being interested in them, their skills, their personality, their qualities other than the way they look.

I would be mortified if I treated people like that.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"its the same with male strip groups entertaining groups of women .its just a bit of fantasy fun nothing personal nor degrading unless you have insecurities you wish to fixate on. which of coarse your the only one fixating on because we all are our own worse enemy when it comes to our insecurities .

he is bi so it didn't bother him. eye candy for him as well.

dunno about fantasy. most of the time i'm against objectification. i think it's down to being objectified when it's not been appropriate to do that.

objectification is a subconscious bi product of human sexuality in my opinion its not nice as it reminds us of the animal not the spiritual . "

It isn't though.

I suggest you read some proper philosophy.

Not internet tripe.

Try Nussbaum for reasons why objectification isn't necessarily a bad thing,

Or Bauer for why the often accepted definitions and concepts of what people think is objectification may be wrong.

Or Kant for the traditional view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its the same with male strip groups entertaining groups of women .its just a bit of fantasy fun nothing personal nor degrading unless you have insecurities you wish to fixate on. which of coarse your the only one fixating on because we all are our own worse enemy when it comes to our insecurities .

he is bi so it didn't bother him. eye candy for him as well.

dunno about fantasy. most of the time i'm against objectification. i think it's down to being objectified when it's not been appropriate to do that.

objectification is a subconscious bi product of human sexuality in my opinion its not nice as it reminds us of the animal not the spiritual .

It isn't though.

I suggest you read some proper philosophy.

Not internet tripe.

Try Nussbaum for reasons why objectification isn't necessarily a bad thing,

Or Bauer for why the often accepted definitions and concepts of what people think is objectification may be wrong.

Or Kant for the traditional view."

I've read Nussbaum and Kant. Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i get that. you can't desire someone unless you've objectified them. i do it myself enough times.

I don't think that's true actually.

Objectification is the treatment of a person as an object. Not being interested in them, their skills, their personality, their qualities other than the way they look.

I would be mortified if I treated people like that."

most of the appeal of 3sums, for me, is that i can be pleasured by 2 guys who are just there to please me. that's not to say i'm not reciprocal, i am in a roundabout way, just the things i enjoy doing to them they would enjoy too.

and their looks wouldn't come into it. i've objectified them as some'thing' to please me.

it is selfish, but i enjoy being selfish in that way. this environment encourages to be this way too, i feel.

it's part of why i struggle with NSA and sometimes wonder if i should be here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can we deal with masculinity in homo sapiens before we get into gender equality issues amongst geese please?

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"its the same with male strip groups entertaining groups of women .its just a bit of fantasy fun nothing personal nor degrading unless you have insecurities you wish to fixate on. which of coarse your the only one fixating on because we all are our own worse enemy when it comes to our insecurities .

he is bi so it didn't bother him. eye candy for him as well.

dunno about fantasy. most of the time i'm against objectification. i think it's down to being objectified when it's not been appropriate to do that.

objectification is a subconscious bi product of human sexuality in my opinion its not nice as it reminds us of the animal not the spiritual .

It isn't though.

I suggest you read some proper philosophy.

Not internet tripe.

Try Nussbaum for reasons why objectification isn't necessarily a bad thing,

Or Bauer for why the often accepted definitions and concepts of what people think is objectification may be wrong.

Or Kant for the traditional view.

I've read Nussbaum and Kant. Thanks."

They aren't necessarily correct ( nothing is in philosophy,) but examine alternative interpretation.

Make you question your concepts.

As I am sure you have found

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"i get that. you can't desire someone unless you've objectified them. i do it myself enough times.

I don't think that's true actually.

Objectification is the treatment of a person as an object. Not being interested in them, their skills, their personality, their qualities other than the way they look.

I would be mortified if I treated people like that.

most of the appeal of 3sums, for me, is that i can be pleasured by 2 guys who are just there to please me. that's not to say i'm not reciprocal, i am in a roundabout way, just the things i enjoy doing to them they would enjoy too.

and their looks wouldn't come into it. i've objectified them as some'thing' to please me.

it is selfish, but i enjoy being selfish in that way. this environment encourages to be this way too, i feel.

it's part of why i struggle with NSA and sometimes wonder if i should be here."

makes sense we wish to be better than we are at heart so we well in my case try to live by a code that suits our sensibilities and needs . which hopefully gives those in my case i interact with what they need to .

that way I can live with my nature instead of hating myself for my actions or lack of them in some cases .

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The emasculated man doth protest too much, methinks

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over a year ago


"i get that. you can't desire someone unless you've objectified them. i do it myself enough times.

I don't think that's true actually.

Objectification is the treatment of a person as an object. Not being interested in them, their skills, their personality, their qualities other than the way they look.

I would be mortified if I treated people like that.

most of the appeal of 3sums, for me, is that i can be pleasured by 2 guys who are just there to please me. that's not to say i'm not reciprocal, i am in a roundabout way, just the things i enjoy doing to them they would enjoy too.

and their looks wouldn't come into it. i've objectified them as some'thing' to please me.

it is selfish, but i enjoy being selfish in that way. this environment encourages to be this way too, i feel.

it's part of why i struggle with NSA and sometimes wonder if i should be here.

makes sense we wish to be better than we are at heart so we well in my case try to live by a code that suits our sensibilities and needs . which hopefully gives those in my case i interact with what they need to .

that way I can live with my nature instead of hating myself for my actions or lack of them in some cases . "

that's just it though, if you love someone in a place like this then that's treated like it's a bad thing.

like you're not allowed to have feelings.

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By *ames6ft5Man
over a year ago

North London / Herts

Wanders in, grunts and strolls off...

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By *ames6ft5Man
over a year ago

North London / Herts

... to finish loading the dishwasher.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its the same with male strip groups entertaining groups of women .its just a bit of fantasy fun nothing personal nor degrading unless you have insecurities you wish to fixate on. which of coarse your the only one fixating on because we all are our own worse enemy when it comes to our insecurities .

he is bi so it didn't bother him. eye candy for him as well.

dunno about fantasy. most of the time i'm against objectification. i think it's down to being objectified when it's not been appropriate to do that.

objectification is a subconscious bi product of human sexuality in my opinion its not nice as it reminds us of the animal not the spiritual . "

I'm not spiritual and I like raw, animalistic sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks "

Nobody has ever tried to cut off my cock and balls.

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"i get that. you can't desire someone unless you've objectified them. i do it myself enough times.

I don't think that's true actually.

Objectification is the treatment of a person as an object. Not being interested in them, their skills, their personality, their qualities other than the way they look.

I would be mortified if I treated people like that.

most of the appeal of 3sums, for me, is that i can be pleasured by 2 guys who are just there to please me. that's not to say i'm not reciprocal, i am in a roundabout way, just the things i enjoy doing to them they would enjoy too.

and their looks wouldn't come into it. i've objectified them as some'thing' to please me.

it is selfish, but i enjoy being selfish in that way. this environment encourages to be this way too, i feel.

it's part of why i struggle with NSA and sometimes wonder if i should be here.

makes sense we wish to be better than we are at heart so we well in my case try to live by a code that suits our sensibilities and needs . which hopefully gives those in my case i interact with what they need to .

that way I can live with my nature instead of hating myself for my actions or lack of them in some cases .

that's just it though, if you love someone in a place like this then that's treated like it's a bad thing.

like you're not allowed to have feelings."

I going to tell you a small secret now I love my play partner she knows it even though I've never voiced it the three years since we first when out for a drink together,

I will always love her no matter what happens in the future I have no problem with being hurt a quick use of the green arrow next to my name and a bit of research will back up that statement ,

I had my heart ripped apart by a lover I met on a fet side and I'm ok with it. you see when the animal and the spiritual come together during sex I believe one gets closer to true spiritual happiness .

yes one can say its only endorphins being released into the brain but the high from a animal and spiritual connection during sex is far more powerful than the hit one gets from just the animal .

my code is designed to allow me to enjoy such emotions as love but not to allow said emotion ruin the connection to the person I love .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i get that. you can't desire someone unless you've objectified them. i do it myself enough times.

I don't think that's true actually.

Objectification is the treatment of a person as an object. Not being interested in them, their skills, their personality, their qualities other than the way they look.

I would be mortified if I treated people like that.

most of the appeal of 3sums, for me, is that i can be pleasured by 2 guys who are just there to please me. that's not to say i'm not reciprocal, i am in a roundabout way, just the things i enjoy doing to them they would enjoy too.

and their looks wouldn't come into it. i've objectified them as some'thing' to please me.

it is selfish, but i enjoy being selfish in that way. this environment encourages to be this way too, i feel.

it's part of why i struggle with NSA and sometimes wonder if i should be here.

makes sense we wish to be better than we are at heart so we well in my case try to live by a code that suits our sensibilities and needs . which hopefully gives those in my case i interact with what they need to .

that way I can live with my nature instead of hating myself for my actions or lack of them in some cases .

that's just it though, if you love someone in a place like this then that's treated like it's a bad thing.

like you're not allowed to have feelings.

I going to tell you a small secret now I love my play partner she knows it even though I've never voiced it the three years since we first when out for a drink together,

I will always love her no matter what happens in the future I have no problem with being hurt a quick use of the green arrow next to my name and a bit of research will back up that statement ,

I had my heart ripped apart by a lover I met on a fet side and I'm ok with it. you see when the animal and the spiritual come together during sex I believe one gets closer to true spiritual happiness .

yes one can say its only endorphins being released into the brain but the high from a animal and spiritual connection during sex is far more powerful than the hit one gets from just the animal .

my code is designed to allow me to enjoy such emotions as love but not to allow said emotion ruin the connection to the person I love . "

i won't have repeat meets with emotionally dead men, i find them awful. sometimes i wonder if that's true NSA but other times i hope that it's what you've just said above.

i like stories like yours. i know it's not tied together love, where that love starts putting restrictions on a person. it seems like true unconditional love. that side of swinging appeals to me.

and i agree you can't emotionally grow without pain. although too much pain can stunt you as well.

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"i get that. you can't desire someone unless you've objectified them. i do it myself enough times.

I don't think that's true actually.

Objectification is the treatment of a person as an object. Not being interested in them, their skills, their personality, their qualities other than the way they look.

I would be mortified if I treated people like that.

most of the appeal of 3sums, for me, is that i can be pleasured by 2 guys who are just there to please me. that's not to say i'm not reciprocal, i am in a roundabout way, just the things i enjoy doing to them they would enjoy too.

and their looks wouldn't come into it. i've objectified them as some'thing' to please me.

it is selfish, but i enjoy being selfish in that way. this environment encourages to be this way too, i feel.

it's part of why i struggle with NSA and sometimes wonder if i should be here.

makes sense we wish to be better than we are at heart so we well in my case try to live by a code that suits our sensibilities and needs . which hopefully gives those in my case i interact with what they need to .

that way I can live with my nature instead of hating myself for my actions or lack of them in some cases .

that's just it though, if you love someone in a place like this then that's treated like it's a bad thing.

like you're not allowed to have feelings.

I going to tell you a small secret now I love my play partner she knows it even though I've never voiced it the three years since we first when out for a drink together,

I will always love her no matter what happens in the future I have no problem with being hurt a quick use of the green arrow next to my name and a bit of research will back up that statement ,

I had my heart ripped apart by a lover I met on a fet side and I'm ok with it. you see when the animal and the spiritual come together during sex I believe one gets closer to true spiritual happiness .

yes one can say its only endorphins being released into the brain but the high from a animal and spiritual connection during sex is far more powerful than the hit one gets from just the animal .

my code is designed to allow me to enjoy such emotions as love but not to allow said emotion ruin the connection to the person I love .

i won't have repeat meets with emotionally dead men, i find them awful. sometimes i wonder if that's true NSA but other times i hope that it's what you've just said above.

i like stories like yours. i know it's not tied together love, where that love starts putting restrictions on a person. it seems like true unconditional love. that side of swinging appeals to me.

and i agree you can't emotionally grow without pain. although too much pain can stunt you as well. "

I get that it makes perfect sense I would not have a meet let alone a repeat meets with a emotionally unavailable or closed off woman .

sadly people close themselves off because of fear fear of being hurt which leads them to being unhappy individuals a lot of the time in my opinion .

I'm not closed off I'm emotionally available to not only to my play partners but also to my friends both male and female this I'm sure is a bi product of my upbringing and my masculinity .

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over a year ago


"i get that. you can't desire someone unless you've objectified them. i do it myself enough times.

I don't think that's true actually.

Objectification is the treatment of a person as an object. Not being interested in them, their skills, their personality, their qualities other than the way they look.

I would be mortified if I treated people like that.

most of the appeal of 3sums, for me, is that i can be pleasured by 2 guys who are just there to please me. that's not to say i'm not reciprocal, i am in a roundabout way, just the things i enjoy doing to them they would enjoy too.

and their looks wouldn't come into it. i've objectified them as some'thing' to please me.

it is selfish, but i enjoy being selfish in that way. this environment encourages to be this way too, i feel.

it's part of why i struggle with NSA and sometimes wonder if i should be here.

makes sense we wish to be better than we are at heart so we well in my case try to live by a code that suits our sensibilities and needs . which hopefully gives those in my case i interact with what they need to .

that way I can live with my nature instead of hating myself for my actions or lack of them in some cases .

that's just it though, if you love someone in a place like this then that's treated like it's a bad thing.

like you're not allowed to have feelings.

I going to tell you a small secret now I love my play partner she knows it even though I've never voiced it the three years since we first when out for a drink together,

I will always love her no matter what happens in the future I have no problem with being hurt a quick use of the green arrow next to my name and a bit of research will back up that statement ,

I had my heart ripped apart by a lover I met on a fet side and I'm ok with it. you see when the animal and the spiritual come together during sex I believe one gets closer to true spiritual happiness .

yes one can say its only endorphins being released into the brain but the high from a animal and spiritual connection during sex is far more powerful than the hit one gets from just the animal .

my code is designed to allow me to enjoy such emotions as love but not to allow said emotion ruin the connection to the person I love .

i won't have repeat meets with emotionally dead men, i find them awful. sometimes i wonder if that's true NSA but other times i hope that it's what you've just said above.

i like stories like yours. i know it's not tied together love, where that love starts putting restrictions on a person. it seems like true unconditional love. that side of swinging appeals to me.

and i agree you can't emotionally grow without pain. although too much pain can stunt you as well.

I get that it makes perfect sense I would not have a meet let alone a repeat meets with a emotionally unavailable or closed off woman .

sadly people close themselves off because of fear fear of being hurt which leads them to being unhappy individuals a lot of the time in my opinion .

I'm not closed off I'm emotionally available to not only to my play partners but also to my friends both male and female this I'm sure is a bi product of my upbringing and my masculinity . "

i closed off a fair bit to protect myself after my last relationship. i'm not sure what level of intimacy i can go for now with guys, seems like the advice is always to back off.

need to get my arse in gear and start focusing on arranging more socials again and not really care about putting myself into situations that i can't handle right now.

you've given me way too much to think about on a lazy sunday afternoon, but i enjoyed that.

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"i get that. you can't desire someone unless you've objectified them. i do it myself enough times.

I don't think that's true actually.

Objectification is the treatment of a person as an object. Not being interested in them, their skills, their personality, their qualities other than the way they look.

I would be mortified if I treated people like that.

most of the appeal of 3sums, for me, is that i can be pleasured by 2 guys who are just there to please me. that's not to say i'm not reciprocal, i am in a roundabout way, just the things i enjoy doing to them they would enjoy too.

and their looks wouldn't come into it. i've objectified them as some'thing' to please me.

it is selfish, but i enjoy being selfish in that way. this environment encourages to be this way too, i feel.

it's part of why i struggle with NSA and sometimes wonder if i should be here.

makes sense we wish to be better than we are at heart so we well in my case try to live by a code that suits our sensibilities and needs . which hopefully gives those in my case i interact with what they need to .

that way I can live with my nature instead of hating myself for my actions or lack of them in some cases .

that's just it though, if you love someone in a place like this then that's treated like it's a bad thing.

like you're not allowed to have feelings.

I going to tell you a small secret now I love my play partner she knows it even though I've never voiced it the three years since we first when out for a drink together,

I will always love her no matter what happens in the future I have no problem with being hurt a quick use of the green arrow next to my name and a bit of research will back up that statement ,

I had my heart ripped apart by a lover I met on a fet side and I'm ok with it. you see when the animal and the spiritual come together during sex I believe one gets closer to true spiritual happiness .

yes one can say its only endorphins being released into the brain but the high from a animal and spiritual connection during sex is far more powerful than the hit one gets from just the animal .

my code is designed to allow me to enjoy such emotions as love but not to allow said emotion ruin the connection to the person I love .

i won't have repeat meets with emotionally dead men, i find them awful. sometimes i wonder if that's true NSA but other times i hope that it's what you've just said above.

i like stories like yours. i know it's not tied together love, where that love starts putting restrictions on a person. it seems like true unconditional love. that side of swinging appeals to me.

and i agree you can't emotionally grow without pain. although too much pain can stunt you as well.

I get that it makes perfect sense I would not have a meet let alone a repeat meets with a emotionally unavailable or closed off woman .

sadly people close themselves off because of fear fear of being hurt which leads them to being unhappy individuals a lot of the time in my opinion .

I'm not closed off I'm emotionally available to not only to my play partners but also to my friends both male and female this I'm sure is a bi product of my upbringing and my masculinity .

i closed off a fair bit to protect myself after my last relationship. i'm not sure what level of intimacy i can go for now with guys, seems like the advice is always to back off.

need to get my arse in gear and start focusing on arranging more socials again and not really care about putting myself into situations that i can't handle right now.

you've given me way too much to think about on a lazy sunday afternoon, but i enjoyed that."

the pleasure was all mine and thank you for adding to my lazy afternoon . I'm now off to play some tanks which will lead to me being called every name under the sun on xbox live by those who hate a winner

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over a year ago


"i get that. you can't desire someone unless you've objectified them. i do it myself enough times.

I don't think that's true actually.

Objectification is the treatment of a person as an object. Not being interested in them, their skills, their personality, their qualities other than the way they look.

I would be mortified if I treated people like that.

most of the appeal of 3sums, for me, is that i can be pleasured by 2 guys who are just there to please me. that's not to say i'm not reciprocal, i am in a roundabout way, just the things i enjoy doing to them they would enjoy too.

and their looks wouldn't come into it. i've objectified them as some'thing' to please me.

it is selfish, but i enjoy being selfish in that way. this environment encourages to be this way too, i feel.

it's part of why i struggle with NSA and sometimes wonder if i should be here.

makes sense we wish to be better than we are at heart so we well in my case try to live by a code that suits our sensibilities and needs . which hopefully gives those in my case i interact with what they need to .

that way I can live with my nature instead of hating myself for my actions or lack of them in some cases .

that's just it though, if you love someone in a place like this then that's treated like it's a bad thing.

like you're not allowed to have feelings.

I going to tell you a small secret now I love my play partner she knows it even though I've never voiced it the three years since we first when out for a drink together,

I will always love her no matter what happens in the future I have no problem with being hurt a quick use of the green arrow next to my name and a bit of research will back up that statement ,

I had my heart ripped apart by a lover I met on a fet side and I'm ok with it. you see when the animal and the spiritual come together during sex I believe one gets closer to true spiritual happiness .

yes one can say its only endorphins being released into the brain but the high from a animal and spiritual connection during sex is far more powerful than the hit one gets from just the animal .

my code is designed to allow me to enjoy such emotions as love but not to allow said emotion ruin the connection to the person I love .

i won't have repeat meets with emotionally dead men, i find them awful. sometimes i wonder if that's true NSA but other times i hope that it's what you've just said above.

i like stories like yours. i know it's not tied together love, where that love starts putting restrictions on a person. it seems like true unconditional love. that side of swinging appeals to me.

and i agree you can't emotionally grow without pain. although too much pain can stunt you as well.

I get that it makes perfect sense I would not have a meet let alone a repeat meets with a emotionally unavailable or closed off woman .

sadly people close themselves off because of fear fear of being hurt which leads them to being unhappy individuals a lot of the time in my opinion .

I'm not closed off I'm emotionally available to not only to my play partners but also to my friends both male and female this I'm sure is a bi product of my upbringing and my masculinity . "

Is there a reason why you are so hung up on your alleged "masculinity?"

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over a year ago


"i get that. you can't desire someone unless you've objectified them. i do it myself enough times.

I don't think that's true actually.

Objectification is the treatment of a person as an object. Not being interested in them, their skills, their personality, their qualities other than the way they look.

I would be mortified if I treated people like that.

most of the appeal of 3sums, for me, is that i can be pleasured by 2 guys who are just there to please me. that's not to say i'm not reciprocal, i am in a roundabout way, just the things i enjoy doing to them they would enjoy too.

and their looks wouldn't come into it. i've objectified them as some'thing' to please me.

it is selfish, but i enjoy being selfish in that way. this environment encourages to be this way too, i feel.

it's part of why i struggle with NSA and sometimes wonder if i should be here.

makes sense we wish to be better than we are at heart so we well in my case try to live by a code that suits our sensibilities and needs . which hopefully gives those in my case i interact with what they need to .

that way I can live with my nature instead of hating myself for my actions or lack of them in some cases .

that's just it though, if you love someone in a place like this then that's treated like it's a bad thing.

like you're not allowed to have feelings.

I going to tell you a small secret now I love my play partner she knows it even though I've never voiced it the three years since we first when out for a drink together,

I will always love her no matter what happens in the future I have no problem with being hurt a quick use of the green arrow next to my name and a bit of research will back up that statement ,

I had my heart ripped apart by a lover I met on a fet side and I'm ok with it. you see when the animal and the spiritual come together during sex I believe one gets closer to true spiritual happiness .

yes one can say its only endorphins being released into the brain but the high from a animal and spiritual connection during sex is far more powerful than the hit one gets from just the animal .

my code is designed to allow me to enjoy such emotions as love but not to allow said emotion ruin the connection to the person I love .

i won't have repeat meets with emotionally dead men, i find them awful. sometimes i wonder if that's true NSA but other times i hope that it's what you've just said above.

i like stories like yours. i know it's not tied together love, where that love starts putting restrictions on a person. it seems like true unconditional love. that side of swinging appeals to me.

and i agree you can't emotionally grow without pain. although too much pain can stunt you as well.

I get that it makes perfect sense I would not have a meet let alone a repeat meets with a emotionally unavailable or closed off woman .

sadly people close themselves off because of fear fear of being hurt which leads them to being unhappy individuals a lot of the time in my opinion .

I'm not closed off I'm emotionally available to not only to my play partners but also to my friends both male and female this I'm sure is a bi product of my upbringing and my masculinity .

i closed off a fair bit to protect myself after my last relationship. i'm not sure what level of intimacy i can go for now with guys, seems like the advice is always to back off.

need to get my arse in gear and start focusing on arranging more socials again and not really care about putting myself into situations that i can't handle right now.

you've given me way too much to think about on a lazy sunday afternoon, but i enjoyed that.

the pleasure was all mine and thank you for adding to my lazy afternoon . I'm now off to play some tanks which will lead to me being called every name under the sun on xbox live by those who hate a winner "

thanks for giving me a safe space. not enough guys do this.

enjoy your tanks.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks "

I don't. So stop dictating how women should behave, there's a good boy.

Thanks

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"i will never stop until i feminise every single one of you.

my new theme tune: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qYwgG2oyUbA"

wtf???

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"

The masculine men I know are in need of constant support from other masculine men in order to retain their masculinity. Fact. "

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Could the OP define masculinity for the class?

Do you have your notebook ready?

I chose the blue one today because it matches my dress. "

Haha, I like this thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't feel emasculated in any way. How are you emasculating yourself?

I'm not emasculating myself nor do I allow women to try and take away what I need to feel like a man .how I need to feel as a man is all down to how I was raised of coarse .

If that's the case then what is the thread about?

nothing in particular just a reminder that masculinity is not a evil thing its natural and has come about because of evolution and survival of the species as its motive for existing ,

Sounds a bit bizarre to me...

Who is saying it's an evil thing?

Sounds like you have some sort of hang up somewhere.

Do you feel emasculated, then?

Must do, if you have raised it

take a look in here fella at some of the responses brought about by mentioning male masculinity most have nothing to do with male physic or masculinity most are about roles society has pigeon holed sexes into that are then used to try and make out that those roles in society are to be blamed solely on male masculinity ."

Do you need to change a light bulb? Go on get it out, there's a good boy.....mind you don't drop it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy "

Can I use it for stirring the tea?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Ohhhhh dizzy from all the twirling . Falls on bottom. "

Haha, stop being such a GIRL!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need to get your knickers in a twist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started reading this and though

Then it sort of went a bit

After a while it was mostly

Interspersed with some

How do you feel it has gone OP? Have you got the result you wanted?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really want to know what happened to start this thread.

Rejection, one assumes.

Though index to ring finger ratio gives another clue.

"

hoes that work again?

my ring finger is way lkonger than my index?

but all my fingers are tiny, liek 90% of women have longer fingers than me, mine are just little sausages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one thing though.

thread about masculinity nearly every response (my own included) are mocking/negative/dismissive.

do you think the same would happen in a thread about women's femininity or do you think it would be much more supportive and encouraging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

The masculine men I know are in need of constant support from other masculine men in order to retain their masculinity. Fact.

"

that's great that they get that support.

especially as the number one killer for men under 40 is suicide.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"one thing though.

thread about masculinity nearly every response (my own included) are mocking/negative/dismissive.

do you think the same would happen in a thread about women's femininity or do you think it would be much more supportive and encouraging?"

But this hasn't been a thread about masculinity, it's been a thread about the OP refusing to explain his complaint then back peddling when everyone mocked him for that.

I think men should be men personally, I love masculinity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one thing though.

thread about masculinity nearly every response (my own included) are mocking/negative/dismissive.

do you think the same would happen in a thread about women's femininity or do you think it would be much more supportive and encouraging?

But this hasn't been a thread about masculinity, it's been a thread about the OP refusing to explain his complaint then back peddling when everyone mocked him for that.

I think men should be men personally, I love masculinity. "

But every reference of masculinity has been followed by a quip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy

Hehe funny"

Oh' and put the wheelie bin out.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"one thing though.

thread about masculinity nearly every response (my own included) are mocking/negative/dismissive.

do you think the same would happen in a thread about women's femininity or do you think it would be much more supportive and encouraging?"

But the thread was started indirectly about men and directly about women and emasculation of men. And you know the forum, it's got a heavy bias towards cynicism, humour etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one thing though.

thread about masculinity nearly every response (my own included) are mocking/negative/dismissive.

do you think the same would happen in a thread about women's femininity or do you think it would be much more supportive and encouraging?"

I suspect it was a thread more about the OP than anything else, and the OP would get similar humour on most threads that he started.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.


"one thing though.

thread about masculinity nearly every response (my own included) are mocking/negative/dismissive.

do you think the same would happen in a thread about women's femininity or do you think it would be much more supportive and encouraging?

But the thread was started indirectly about men and directly about women and emasculation of men. And you know the forum, it's got a heavy bias towards cynicism, humour etc. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one thing though.

thread about masculinity nearly every response (my own included) are mocking/negative/dismissive.

do you think the same would happen in a thread about women's femininity or do you think it would be much more supportive and encouraging?"

Nope. Do you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one thing though.

thread about masculinity nearly every response (my own included) are mocking/negative/dismissive.

do you think the same would happen in a thread about women's femininity or do you think it would be much more supportive and encouraging?"

there was nothing to be 'supportive' about as the OP refused to explain what he was talking about...then tried to make out it was just a pointless thread to see what reactions it got..

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy

the truth is you wouldn't need to ask me darling because if I needed and wanted a tea I,d make one and of coarse if you was with me I'd ask you if you wanted one to that's just manners .

You haven't got time for a cup of tea, you've still got the dishes to do

again you don't get it if I finished before you and the dishes needed doing id go make a start on them don't get roles made up by society mixed up with male masculinity please ."

i agree however gender work is an inside job, one cannot do the others work, not understand it completely, without understanding it for yourself first.

yes its prevalent both ways. one cant tell 'others', one can only live as an example of the inner work, to place the 'other' into the position where they feel their own gender qualities.. how good you are at doing this, is ones own responsibility x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy

the truth is you wouldn't need to ask me darling because if I needed and wanted a tea I,d make one and of coarse if you was with me I'd ask you if you wanted one to that's just manners .

You haven't got time for a cup of tea, you've still got the dishes to do

again you don't get it if I finished before you and the dishes needed doing id go make a start on them don't get roles made up by society mixed up with male masculinity please .

i agree however gender work is an inside job, one cannot do the others work, not understand it completely, without understanding it for yourself first.

yes its prevalent both ways. one cant tell 'others', one can only live as an example of the inner work, to place the 'other' into the position where they feel their own gender qualities.. how good you are at doing this, is ones own responsibility x"

I can't decipher what any of that means

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy

the truth is you wouldn't need to ask me darling because if I needed and wanted a tea I,d make one and of coarse if you was with me I'd ask you if you wanted one to that's just manners .

You haven't got time for a cup of tea, you've still got the dishes to do

again you don't get it if I finished before you and the dishes needed doing id go make a start on them don't get roles made up by society mixed up with male masculinity please .

i agree however gender work is an inside job, one cannot do the others work, not understand it completely, without understanding it for yourself first.

yes its prevalent both ways. one cant tell 'others', one can only live as an example of the inner work, to place the 'other' into the position where they feel their own gender qualities.. how good you are at doing this, is ones own responsibility x"

Suzy I was raised to look after myself I can sow knit iron and cook. I don't enforce or expect certain behaviour from ether sex I act in a way that suits me works for me and by doing so I find inner pease .

My own masculinity as you well know is about being a rock a safe place for others to feel at ease and safe with in protectorate strong shoulder with out conditions place in the way of me fulfilling that role that makes me tick .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a big word for me I certainly don't think I'll be feminised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy

the truth is you wouldn't need to ask me darling because if I needed and wanted a tea I,d make one and of coarse if you was with me I'd ask you if you wanted one to that's just manners .

You haven't got time for a cup of tea, you've still got the dishes to do

again you don't get it if I finished before you and the dishes needed doing id go make a start on them don't get roles made up by society mixed up with male masculinity please .

i agree however gender work is an inside job, one cannot do the others work, not understand it completely, without understanding it for yourself first.

yes its prevalent both ways. one cant tell 'others', one can only live as an example of the inner work, to place the 'other' into the position where they feel their own gender qualities.. how good you are at doing this, is ones own responsibility x

Suzy I was raised to look after myself I can sow knit iron and cook. I don't enforce or expect certain behaviour from ether sex I act in a way that suits me works for me and by doing so I find inner pease .

My own masculinity as you well know is about being a rock a safe place for others to feel at ease and safe with in protectorate strong shoulder with out conditions place in the way of me fulfilling that role that makes me tick . "

Give peas a chance.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy

the truth is you wouldn't need to ask me darling because if I needed and wanted a tea I,d make one and of coarse if you was with me I'd ask you if you wanted one to that's just manners .

You haven't got time for a cup of tea, you've still got the dishes to do

again you don't get it if I finished before you and the dishes needed doing id go make a start on them don't get roles made up by society mixed up with male masculinity please .

i agree however gender work is an inside job, one cannot do the others work, not understand it completely, without understanding it for yourself first.

yes its prevalent both ways. one cant tell 'others', one can only live as an example of the inner work, to place the 'other' into the position where they feel their own gender qualities.. how good you are at doing this, is ones own responsibility x

I can't decipher what any of that means "
knowing gender energy is a specialist topic although of course it affects everyone..

this is my perspective on the 'dance of gender'..again although the words may not 'register' i hope that the knowing of what i am saying will resonate xx

an expression.....

when man faces woman.he faces the very unknown mysteries of nature itself, for she isn't a creation, she embodies the core of potential creativity.

when you bind her with minds structure of known, she becomes limited to what she can generate into life.

that us why she is womb man....

through the sensation of the landscape she can ask that new river courses are cut..that new paths through the world can be explored and undertaken, that creation takes place in the best possible circumstances..however she can only hint at the form creation and the known will take, for she is circumstantial, a whispered voice of the whole...how the landscape forms is only known to her through sensation...through the silent knowledge of what perfect harmonious state is, when it is shown to her....she reflects on that state of fixed or fluid form, and discerns through that which is the mystery itself, whether it be filled with her life giving properties..

nature alters continuously and so does woman..

when the constructs are too tight..she turns away. when too loose, she fails to see the value of structure at all...when space is held, but the constant giving and releasing of structure is offered by a man, his building,his pulsing penetration focused into the known can bring about growth and continual effect to the sphere she hosts......as he asks her to share her own power with him, he is asking for a doorway, so he can enter into the mystery briefly and see for himself the form female essence could be shaped into.....he is inspired and he acts...how he acts, is his bringing the unknown into the known, like a lightning bolt touching the earth in a flurry of activity, but as that wanes, he chooses to return to his 'pause', his 'being' state. to listen to the whispers and, be recharged with the tension of the possible..because he sees her as a valuable part of that dance of life, so he may again act with inspiration and be filled with the joyous drive that continues momentum into the wonder of the unknown/known he has been shown....

women offer the pull of potential..men release the charge that makes that potential manifest....

acknowledgement of the essence present within his creation, is the spark for the generator for the womb-man to generate more.

her power and perception rejected, she slowly reduces the effort it takes to share herself fully..she ends up showing him perhaps only a trickle of what they both could become, and the environment they share, becomes barren and unattractive to both, as energy dries up in the willing exchange they first entered into.

so she watches and waits for the action he takes, when he does, she is delighted and shares with him her joy, even if at first it seems a fragile creation, just an act itself, spurs her to continue, as it is within nature, to continue to give life and hope to all created things, and she trusts that soon it will become more sentient, that it will become a living vision in itself, that through shared vision, she will become more known to him, from the effect she has on his manifesting world, she trusts he will become more reflective of her desire to see and feel harmony and the man will see her, in part of what he has done, as the energy entwined, moving through,not static...in the form, that develops and continues to blossom in the known...

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over a year ago


"

The masculine men I know are in need of constant support from other masculine men in order to retain their masculinity. Fact.

that's great that they get that support.

especially as the number one killer for men under 40 is suicide."

Under 50 actually. And the samaritans feel it's largely due to men feeling unable to talk about their problems. I'm not sure how that relates to emasculation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still waiting for my cup of tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks

Make us a cup of tea please luv, there's a good boy

the truth is you wouldn't need to ask me darling because if I needed and wanted a tea I,d make one and of coarse if you was with me I'd ask you if you wanted one to that's just manners .

You haven't got time for a cup of tea, you've still got the dishes to do

again you don't get it if I finished before you and the dishes needed doing id go make a start on them don't get roles made up by society mixed up with male masculinity please .

i agree however gender work is an inside job, one cannot do the others work, not understand it completely, without understanding it for yourself first.

yes its prevalent both ways. one cant tell 'others', one can only live as an example of the inner work, to place the 'other' into the position where they feel their own gender qualities.. how good you are at doing this, is ones own responsibility x

I can't decipher what any of that means knowing gender energy is a specialist topic although of course it affects everyone..

this is my perspective on the 'dance of gender'..again although the words may not 'register' i hope that the knowing of what i am saying will resonate xx

an expression.....

when man faces woman.he faces the very unknown mysteries of nature itself, for she isn't a creation, she embodies the core of potential creativity.

when you bind her with minds structure of known, she becomes limited to what she can generate into life.

that us why she is womb man....

through the sensation of the landscape she can ask that new river courses are cut..that new paths through the world can be explored and undertaken, that creation takes place in the best possible circumstances..however she can only hint at the form creation and the known will take, for she is circumstantial, a whispered voice of the whole...how the landscape forms is only known to her through sensation...through the silent knowledge of what perfect harmonious state is, when it is shown to her....she reflects on that state of fixed or fluid form, and discerns through that which is the mystery itself, whether it be filled with her life giving properties..

nature alters continuously and so does woman..

when the constructs are too tight..she turns away. when too loose, she fails to see the value of structure at all...when space is held, but the constant giving and releasing of structure is offered by a man, his building,his pulsing penetration focused into the known can bring about growth and continual effect to the sphere she hosts......as he asks her to share her own power with him, he is asking for a doorway, so he can enter into the mystery briefly and see for himself the form female essence could be shaped into.....he is inspired and he acts...how he acts, is his bringing the unknown into the known, like a lightning bolt touching the earth in a flurry of activity, but as that wanes, he chooses to return to his 'pause', his 'being' state. to listen to the whispers and, be recharged with the tension of the possible..because he sees her as a valuable part of that dance of life, so he may again act with inspiration and be filled with the joyous drive that continues momentum into the wonder of the unknown/known he has been shown....

women offer the pull of potential..men release the charge that makes that potential manifest....

acknowledgement of the essence present within his creation, is the spark for the generator for the womb-man to generate more.

her power and perception rejected, she slowly reduces the effort it takes to share herself fully..she ends up showing him perhaps only a trickle of what they both could become, and the environment they share, becomes barren and unattractive to both, as energy dries up in the willing exchange they first entered into.

so she watches and waits for the action he takes, when he does, she is delighted and shares with him her joy, even if at first it seems a fragile creation, just an act itself, spurs her to continue, as it is within nature, to continue to give life and hope to all created things, and she trusts that soon it will become more sentient, that it will become a living vision in itself, that through shared vision, she will become more known to him, from the effect she has on his manifesting world, she trusts he will become more reflective of her desire to see and feel harmony and the man will see her, in part of what he has done, as the energy entwined, moving through,not static...in the form, that develops and continues to blossom in the known...

"

Aye...ckear as mud now

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"one thing though.

thread about masculinity nearly every response (my own included) are mocking/negative/dismissive.

do you think the same would happen in a thread about women's femininity or do you think it would be much more supportive and encouraging?

Nope. Do you?"

Yep. A deliberately shit-stirring statement about gender? Piss-taking, sarcasm and gentle mockery was pretty much what I would expect regardless of whether it's about feminity or masculinity. The forum is a discrete mix of individuals regardless of their own genders, quite a few of whom have senses of humour. And a sense of absurdity.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"one thing though.

thread about masculinity nearly every response (my own included) are mocking/negative/dismissive.

do you think the same would happen in a thread about women's femininity or do you think it would be much more supportive and encouraging?

But this hasn't been a thread about masculinity, it's been a thread about the OP refusing to explain his complaint then back peddling when everyone mocked him for that.

I think men should be men personally, I love masculinity.

But every reference of masculinity has been followed by a quip"

Because of the context and avoidance of the question I believe. I am quite serious!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one thing though.

thread about masculinity nearly every response (my own included) are mocking/negative/dismissive.

do you think the same would happen in a thread about women's femininity or do you think it would be much more supportive and encouraging?

Nope. Do you?

Yep. A deliberately shit-stirring statement about gender? Piss-taking, sarcasm and gentle mockery was pretty much what I would expect regardless of whether it's about feminity or masculinity. The forum is a discrete mix of individuals regardless of their own genders, quite a few of whom have senses of humour. And a sense of absurdity."

That's very clever! Well done you xx

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"one thing though.

thread about masculinity nearly every response (my own included) are mocking/negative/dismissive.

do you think the same would happen in a thread about women's femininity or do you think it would be much more supportive and encouraging?

Nope. Do you?

Yep. A deliberately shit-stirring statement about gender? Piss-taking, sarcasm and gentle mockery was pretty much what I would expect regardless of whether it's about feminity or masculinity. The forum is a discrete mix of individuals regardless of their own genders, quite a few of whom have senses of humour. And a sense of absurdity.

That's very clever! Well done you xx "

Cheers sweetcheeks. Aren't you a doll to say so?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Facetious, moi?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi ladies can some of you please stop trying to emasculate us guys.

thanks "

The definition is:

deprive (a man) of his male role or identity.

^ are you kidding me or what?....

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Well, that was an amusing pile of tosh.

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