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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm after some advice (if you have any) about bullying in the workplace.

My partner has finally got the job she has been chasing for a few years now and she loves it, however there is one problem. Another worker who has been there for the past 20 years has decided to bully her. Now to the point my partner no longer wants to do the job and is quickly becoming depressed about it all. She is told that this particular person has always been like it and has led to several people leaving because of her. My partner is determined to not let this happen to her however it's clear that the management do nothing about the issue.

She has urges to walk out or retaliate which could lead to losing the job. I have advised her to speak to management so they are aware she is not happy and to warn them that she will be talking to this person about the issue.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Work in management or have any advice they could give on a good way to tackle it?

One thing I cannot stand is bullies and seeing her come home every day depressed, drinking, smoking and not wanting to get up in the morning for another day of work makes me furious. Why do people have to be so nasty when we are all trying to make our money and feed our families

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Write it all down, then she should go straight to her manager. Put in an official grievance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What kind of behaviour is your partner counting as bullying?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do they have a good HR dept she can talk to or that lady's manager ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She should inform her manager that she is being bullied and ask what the companies policy is on this.

Keep a diary of times and dates of incidents, what was said, what was done and who was present during it. (Don't bother getting people to say they agree to be a witness) also state the effect it had on you, how it made you feel.

If you feel depressed go and see the doctor and ask to see a community psychiatric nurse or other mental health specialist.

If your direct manager ignores it, go to HR or his direct manager.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you seem eminently capable of assisting your partner compose a dignified letter expressing her concerns to the management team member responsible for human resource issues in the company were she works...

I would steer clear of confronting the person you believe a bully as this will not assist in addressing any problem you perceive to be of their making ..

Best of luck

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By *ornyfun121Man
over a year ago

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Giv the GMB or acas a call thay will help you every step of the way

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By *ornyfun121Man
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Write everything down date time and who was present and what was said. Once you have collated enough. Write a letter of grievience to HR then show then everything and how you feel. I would say seek union advice. Went through something similier over 10 years ago. Where i was physically thrown out of my work place. Glad i recorded everything on a covert pen camera with audio took it to a barrister who is a goid friend and he Won me the case £55k compo and the company went bust after i recieved my compo. And tosser who threw me out. Came last year for an interview. Gave him an awkward interview got his highs up of getting the job he resigned from his old job. But nahhhh Karmas a bich turned him down for the position.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every company must by law have a code of conduct. If this is breached then your friend has a case. If she has highlighted that she feels people behaviour towards her is deemed as bullying it has to stop.

If it continue, the law is clear on this, she gas a case and will win. The law is black and white. Seek a corporate / solicitor also look at respect at work policies.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

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Great advice here. As your partner is experiencing the effects so badly, then the time for action is now. My plan would be to speak with line management, as she wishes to be a success in her job and this could prevent her: they will want the same, if they're decent at their job. Assuming that they'll tell her what their plan is, with an agreen time-frame, then I'd definitely ensure that all further incidents are recorded in full and that the manager completes their agreed actions on time. The outcome would ideally be great: the real world doesn't always achieve that, so a follow-up meeting should create agreement upon whether the issue is closed or how it would progress. Always have agreed next steps, with a timed conclusion.

As others say, unions and ACAS should be called upon for support too. If your partner is potentially needing therapeutic help, then your GP or some therapy support could be needed.

Work to improve your partner's rest and wellbeing as much as you can - I know that you want the latter but a focus on good rest will be vital, as stress is an enormous drain to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has she tried to talk to the other person to find out what the problem is? As already been said it depends on what is concidered as bullying! I have been called a bully before when all I asked was for a job to be done the way I required it to be done and not in the way a person thaught it should be done.

And I am always curtiouse always say please and thanks.

Hard to know without being there to be honest.

But HRvis probably your best bet first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all so much for your advice. I will be sure to pass it all on and help her get through it.

To those that have asked, the bullying consists of petty childish behaviour you wouldn't expect off someone in their mid 50's. It's things like "don't close the door people might walk into it" "Don't zip this bag up (containing files of patients medication) it means I have to unzip it" "Don't put the label on that way cause now I have to turn the bottle to read it" "I've put my wet umbrella in your locker so you won't be able to use it today" "I'm taking your lunch break today so yours is at 15:20 (she starts work at 8:00)" I know how silly it sounds. It is hard to put across the way it is said and when it is constant, every day It is wearing her thin and she can't work without worrying she is doing something "wrong".

This person is fine with the other members of staff and they have agreed she is definitely picking on her, so she does have witnesses although whether they will speak up if asked to I doubt they will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you all so much for your advice. I will be sure to pass it all on and help her get through it.

To those that have asked, the bullying consists of petty childish behaviour you wouldn't expect off someone in their mid 50's. It's things like "don't close the door people might walk into it" "Don't zip this bag up (containing files of patients medication) it means I have to unzip it" "Don't put the label on that way cause now I have to turn the bottle to read it" "I've put my wet umbrella in your locker so you won't be able to use it today" "I'm taking your lunch break today so yours is at 15:20 (she starts work at 8:00)" I know how silly it sounds. It is hard to put across the way it is said and when it is constant, every day It is wearing her thin and she can't work without worrying she is doing something "wrong".

This person is fine with the other members of staff and they have agreed she is definitely picking on her, so she does have witnesses although whether they will speak up if asked to I doubt they will"

I wouldn't personally class those things as bullying, I think bullying is much more than that. But if your partner is uncomfortable she should talk to her line manager.

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