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By *hanelevi OP   Man
over a year ago

Kidderminster

This is my first post so be nice ??

Does anyone else here have people wink at them, so they've got your attention and you drop them a message, just to be ignored?

I'm not a wink hater at all but why bother? Riles me this. ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only ever had 1 wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We sometimes wink at people because we like their profile or photos, or various reasons, sometimes I'll send a wink if I've read something they've put on forums I've enjoyed, yet I know we are a million miles off their radar.

It's sometimes used as a proverbial 'hi' when you may not want to enter into messages, we all know the "why don't they message back campaigners "

So sometimes a wink can just be as simple as 'I dropped by, and thought I'd do something to say your profile, attitude etc is nice........

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By *ilary and DonaldCouple
over a year ago

chingford

They may not have liked your message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh. I only just noticed my winks.

1 woman

1 man

The guy I do t expect to reply to me as I'm not going to message him. Lol.

I'll let you know how the wink back to the lady goes. I'm doing some actual research for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not worth sweating the small stuff......

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By *hanelevi OP   Man
over a year ago

Kidderminster


"Only ever had 1 wink "

One wink is better then no wink haha

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By *hanelevi OP   Man
over a year ago

Kidderminster


"Oh. I only just noticed my winks.

1 woman

1 man

The guy I do t expect to reply to me as I'm not going to message him. Lol.

I'll let you know how the wink back to the lady goes. I'm doing some actual research for you. "

Please do haha always good to know how it goes for other people ??

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By *hanelevi OP   Man
over a year ago

Kidderminster


"We sometimes wink at people because we like their profile or photos, or various reasons, sometimes I'll send a wink if I've read something they've put on forums I've enjoyed, yet I know we are a million miles off their radar.

It's sometimes used as a proverbial 'hi' when you may not want to enter into messages, we all know the "why don't they message back campaigners "

So sometimes a wink can just be as simple as 'I dropped by, and thought I'd do something to say your profile, attitude etc is nice........"

Yeah that makes sense. Suppsoe it isn't necessarily a means to start or want or conversation.

Suppsoe it's because if I was to wink at someone, it's because I want their attention in some way or another but can't start a conversation as easily as others

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By *hanelevi OP   Man
over a year ago

Kidderminster


"It's not worth sweating the small stuff......

"

You're right! Just a tad annoying is all

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Maybe they did by accident? I have before on mobile site and didnt realise till I got a thanks message.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't look at winks sent to me, I think they're pointless.

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By *hanelevi OP   Man
over a year ago

Kidderminster

Yeah maybe. I've never sent one by accident so didn't seen it like that.

They can be pointless but shows you've shown interest in my eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe they did by accident? I have before on mobile site and didnt realise till I got a thanks message.

Miss"

Yes I noticed an increase of unintentional winks when the site became mobile friendly...

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I never look at winks or friend requests. It's always a bloke and always a disappointment

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

You can't send them by accident on the mobile site, it gives you a warning "are you sure" message page first. Possibly its those that for whatever reason use the PC version on their mobile devices.??

S

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By *hanelevi OP   Man
over a year ago

Kidderminster


"I never look at winks or friend requests. It's always a bloke and always a disappointment "

Yeah the majority of mine seem to be off men, or couples but they usually come across arrogant. ( ones I've encountered anyway)

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By *hanelevi OP   Man
over a year ago

Kidderminster


"You can't send them by accident on the mobile site, it gives you a warning "are you sure" message page first. Possibly its those that for whatever reason use the PC version on their mobile devices.??

S"

Could well be. Fairly new here so not sure on the difference between the two. Or what people's intentions are with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh. I only just noticed my winks.

1 woman

1 man

The guy I do t expect to reply to me as I'm not going to message him. Lol.

I'll let you know how the wink back to the lady goes. I'm doing some actual research for you.

Please do haha always good to know how it goes for other people ??"

1st hour has passed. No reply. Marked as unread.

I'll check back tomorrow with an update. . This is so exciting.

It's not exciting.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"You can't send them by accident on the mobile site, it gives you a warning "are you sure" message page first. Possibly its those that for whatever reason use the PC version on their mobile devices.??

S

Could well be. Fairly new here so not sure on the difference between the two. Or what people's intentions are with them"

Whatever it is don't sweat it, some send winks of appreciation of a well written profile? Sometimes if you check them out they don't fit your profile so may just be their way of saying "Hi I know i'm 100 miles away and you want local, but..." Or a myriad of other reasons

S

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Only ever had 1 wink "

It's more now.

Just cause lol

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By *hanelevi OP   Man
over a year ago

Kidderminster


"You can't send them by accident on the mobile site, it gives you a warning "are you sure" message page first. Possibly its those that for whatever reason use the PC version on their mobile devices.??

S

Could well be. Fairly new here so not sure on the difference between the two. Or what people's intentions are with them

Whatever it is don't sweat it, some send winks of appreciation of a well written profile? Sometimes if you check them out they don't fit your profile so may just be their way of saying "Hi I know i'm 100 miles away and you want local, but..." Or a myriad of other reasons

S"

You're right. I've looked into it far too much, as per usually.

I'll just be open minded with then in future I think

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I never ever look at my winks - they run into thousand odd before they reset to zero. I pay no attention- if people want me message me.

That said I do wink others. Of they respond that's cool, if they don't nothing lost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never ever look at my winks - they run into thousand odd before they reset to zero. I pay no attention- if people want me message me.

That said I do wink others. Of they respond that's cool, if they don't nothing lost "

I take your advice onboard.

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By *hanelevi OP   Man
over a year ago

Kidderminster


"I never ever look at my winks - they run into thousand odd before they reset to zero. I pay no attention- if people want me message me.

That said I do wink others. Of they respond that's cool, if they don't nothing lost "

Yeah I'm not that popular haha. I notice all of mine. Eventually.

If I wink it's because I want their attention but am too pussy to message first ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never ever look at my winks - they run into thousand odd before they reset to zero. I pay no attention- if people want me message me.

That said I do wink others. Of they respond that's cool, if they don't nothing lost

Yeah I'm not that popular haha. I notice all of mine. Eventually.

If I wink it's because I want their attention but am too pussy to message first ha"

I know, those numbers sound insane doesn't it?

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By *hanelevi OP   Man
over a year ago

Kidderminster


"I never ever look at my winks - they run into thousand odd before they reset to zero. I pay no attention- if people want me message me.

That said I do wink others. Of they respond that's cool, if they don't nothing lost

Yeah I'm not that popular haha. I notice all of mine. Eventually.

If I wink it's because I want their attention but am too pussy to message first ha

I know, those numbers sound insane doesn't it?

"

Yeah I'm lucky to have 5 a day. That's just mad digits man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IMHO I think winks are a waste of the websites space. I'd sooner be able to put more pics up. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only ever sent one wink.

I've only ever received one wink.

Both of these statements are intrinsically connected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got a reply.

I don't know how that fits into the world of Fab but there you are, some real work done and not speciation.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"I never ever look at my winks - they run into thousand odd before they reset to zero. I pay no attention- if people want me message me.

That said I do wink others. Of they respond that's cool, if they don't nothing lost

Yeah I'm not that popular haha. I notice all of mine. Eventually.

If I wink it's because I want their attention but am too pussy to message first ha

I know, those numbers sound insane doesn't it?

Yeah I'm lucky to have 5 a day. That's just mad digits man"

Its one thing guys on here need to understand - girls get a LOT of messages. Girls using forums and cams etc get even more.... As a result winks are a blot on the horizon that never really get noticed x

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By *hanelevi OP   Man
over a year ago

Kidderminster


"I got a reply.

I don't know how that fits into the world of Fab but there you are, some real work done and not speciation. "

Doing something wrong then clearly. Lucky chap ??

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Winks will be used differently by each of us - just as we use the site differently really.

It tends to be a tentative aknowledgement of some interest in the person who has been winked: just as messages don't imply absolute commitment to anything more than the message contents, neither do winks. In fact, winks could be better viewed as light-touch expression at an introductory level.

At any point, even upon actually meeting someone, our view of the other may actually change or our interests may alter too, due to reasons that have nothing to do with the person who's being rejected. We may have other life priorities, a different partner or sexua interest may emerge etc.

A message from someone could also reveal to the recipient that the sender doesn't have the predicted match that they originally expected. Fab's norm is that when we're no longer communicating, it simply means that there's no interest at present. In all likelihood, most people won't be matches for most others - so it would be realistic to assume that most tentative explorations for compatibility won't result in the best ever shags - they probably won't result in any meeting or sex at all. If we accept this, then we'd also expect that most of us would make lots of exploratory attempts at connection and then most of them will fail to deliver a shag.

We could take a lack of completion of each of our initial connections to be indicative that something is wrong. I don't subscribe to that viewpoint - the more experience that we get with others, the easier it is for us to use our aquired experience/wisdom, to improve our success.

In other words, I encourage you to welcome rejection - it just means that you're probably better geared up for improving your Fab experience. Consider adjusting your expectations here, so that it enables your success and contentment.

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By *hanelevi OP   Man
over a year ago

Kidderminster


"Winks will be used differently by each of us - just as we use the site differently really.

It tends to be a tentative aknowledgement of some interest in the person who has been winked: just as messages don't imply absolute commitment to anything more than the message contents, neither do winks. In fact, winks could be better viewed as light-touch expression at an introductory level.

At any point, even upon actually meeting someone, our view of the other may actually change or our interests may alter too, due to reasons that have nothing to do with the person who's being rejected. We may have other life priorities, a different partner or sexua interest may emerge etc.

A message from someone could also reveal to the recipient that the sender doesn't have the predicted match that they originally expected. Fab's norm is that when we're no longer communicating, it simply means that there's no interest at present. In all likelihood, most people won't be matches for most others - so it would be realistic to assume that most tentative explorations for compatibility won't result in the best ever shags - they probably won't result in any meeting or sex at all. If we accept this, then we'd also expect that most of us would make lots of exploratory attempts at connection and then most of them will fail to deliver a shag.

We could take a lack of completion of each of our initial connections to be indicative that something is wrong. I don't subscribe to that viewpoint - the more experience that we get with others, the easier it is for us to use our aquired experience/wisdom, to improve our success.

In other words, I encourage you to welcome rejection - it just means that you're probably better geared up for improving your Fab experience. Consider adjusting your expectations here, so that it enables your success and contentment."

Wise words, very wise words. Thanks for that. I'll just embrace it as you said and not look to far or little into it. Easier to just accept it as a wink. Nothing more

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