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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What is body shaming ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually having a pop at someone cause they don't fit in with the beauty magazine look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually having a pop at someone cause they don't fit in with the beauty magazine look."

Or having a pop at someone if they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually having a pop at someone cause they don't fit in with the beauty magazine look."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

shaming someone for the body they have, any body at all.

yes you can lose wieght, or put it on, or gain muscle, but the person might already be trying to change their shape or not want to and are happy with what they look like.

if you criticise their body then you are shaming them for what they are physically right now.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Highlighting body shape that some people are dealing with an insecurity with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually having a pop at someone cause they don't fit in with the beauty magazine look."

loads of people slag off models for being too thin as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

or bigging up one body type in order to put another type down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is body shaming ?"

When you look in the mirror and shout I silts at yourself. I dunno?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are insecure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Making humiliating and critical comments about a person's body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is body shaming ?"

The worst aspect of media stereotyping.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im learning a lot from you guys because i hear that statement being thrown around a lot nowadays

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Making certain body types feel bad about their shape or size.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is body shaming ?"

I'd say making anyone feel bad for the body they have. Miss T

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Women in the public eye are often subject to body shaming, men are too but less so. Spend some time in the forum and see people putting one body type down in an attempt to flatter another.

I have an overweight friend who thinks it's ok to call me a skinny cow and put posts on Facebook saying only bigger women can give proper cuddles. Poor Scarlett Moffat was criticised in the media for being too big, now she's being criticised for being to slim...can't win.

However almost daily someone on fab says they rate personality over looks.

Confused?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So can we say the best way to deal with it is to be comfortable in your own skin and not care what other people think. I think a lot of people are dealing with insecurities but you have to develop the power to ignore what people think because the world is a very nasty place. The best way is not caring which is damn near a super power

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So can we say the best way to deal with it is to be comfortable in your own skin and not care what other people think. I think a lot of people are dealing with insecurities but you have to develop the power to ignore what people think because the world is a very nasty place. The best way is not caring which is damn near a super power "

easy enough when one or two people that you don't give a shit about say that you are physically wrong.

but when society tells you that you are physically wrong, and loads of people back that up...maybe even you've been abused by someone you care about, then it's harder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"or bigging up one body type in order to put another type down "

I don't think that one is body shaming. IMO, body shaming is more direct. Having a preference and stating it isn't really an insult to neglected body types.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not even as simple as that. In the Victorian era women wore clothing to make it look like their bottoms were bigger than they actually were. The hour glass shape of women was held in high esteem. Now "fashion" dictates that our women have the bodies of 14 year old boys.

At the end of the day its your body and it's no one else's business how it looks except your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So can we say the best way to deal with it is to be comfortable in your own skin and not care what other people think. I think a lot of people are dealing with insecurities but you have to develop the power to ignore what people think because the world is a very nasty place. The best way is not caring which is damn near a super power

easy enough when one or two people that you don't give a shit about say that you are physically wrong.

but when society tells you that you are physically wrong, and loads of people back that up...maybe even you've been abused by someone you care about, then it's harder."

Hear, hear.

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By *he_Raggedy_DoctorMan
over a year ago

Some where in West Sussex

Get used to it I get it all the time its ok for someone to be fat but apparently its not ok for a guy to be skinny ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is body shaming ?"

It's the current arsebook goto phrase for something that people have done since speach evolved. Criticism of a person's body, often a group in general, at its worst it's often their own body, worst because there is no defence when you are not happy with your own skin and bones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the sort of thing that's on the rise since Brexit and the US election result

For example people making fun of Trump's hair or David Cameron's looks.

Mainly done by lefty hypocrites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get used to it I get it all the time its ok for someone to be fat but apparently its not ok for a guy to be skinny ? "
I was told I'm too thin to have sex either the other day. Never heard it before that day. Was rather amused

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"or bigging up one body type in order to put another type down

I don't think that one is body shaming. IMO, body shaming is more direct. Having a preference and stating it isn't really an insult to neglected body types."

It is when phrases such as 'meat is for men, bones are for dogs' are trotted out on a fairly regular basis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually having a pop at someone cause they don't fit in with the beauty magazine look.

loads of people slag off models for being too thin as well."

Not as many as those who are at the other end of the spectrum though I'm sure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's the sort of thing that's on the rise since Brexit and the US election result

For example people making fun of Trump's hair or David Cameron's looks.

Mainly done by lefty hypocrites "
really lmao

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By *he_Raggedy_DoctorMan
over a year ago

Some where in West Sussex


"or bigging up one body type in order to put another type down

I don't think that one is body shaming. IMO, body shaming is more direct. Having a preference and stating it isn't really an insult to neglected body types.

It is when phrases such as 'meat is for men, bones are for dogs' are trotted out on a fairly regular basis."

Which is not very nice after all I would never dare turn round and say " lay off the pies love "

How ever what others don't know is I'm fit healthy and I'm the ideal weight for my height. Now how many can say the same thing ? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"or bigging up one body type in order to put another type down

I don't think that one is body shaming. IMO, body shaming is more direct. Having a preference and stating it isn't really an insult to neglected body types.

It is when phrases such as 'meat is for men, bones are for dogs' are trotted out on a fairly regular basis."

But in that case it IS an insult to a body type that's the problem. It's the fact an insult has been used as the way of expressing the preference, rather than the preference itself. Having a preference and stating it would be "I have a preference for big women", in your example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"or bigging up one body type in order to put another type down

I don't think that one is body shaming. IMO, body shaming is more direct. Having a preference and stating it isn't really an insult to neglected body types.

It is when phrases such as 'meat is for men, bones are for dogs' are trotted out on a fairly regular basis.

Which is not very nice after all I would never dare turn round and say " lay off the pies love "

How ever what others don't know is I'm fit healthy and I'm the ideal weight for my height. Now how many can say the same thing ? Lol "

You won't be if you carry on with those Rolos

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By *entleman of GirthMan
over a year ago

Forest Row

Body shaming seems to be the last "acceptable" form of bullying.

I hate bullies!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Highlighting body shape that some people are dealing with an insecurity with."

All the gym freaks are the most insecure popping pills and injecting up their ass to look good and not caring about their health it's bloody so in your face on here Heart attacks waiting to happen in later life sad really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually having a pop at someone cause they don't fit in with the beauty magazine look.

loads of people slag off models for being too thin as well.

Not as many as those who are at the other end of the spectrum though I'm sure."

Unfortunately the do doll. As people have mentioned, these me memes and phrases about real men preferring a real woman, not bones are hurtful.

I have seen the phrased 'skinny cow' and 'twiggy women' etc being thrown around on fab in defense of larger women.

Hardly Fair. You will see alot of nit in arguments about size but it seems to be more acceptable than 'fat' shaming.

Eve. X

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By *he_Raggedy_DoctorMan
over a year ago

Some where in West Sussex


"or bigging up one body type in order to put another type down

I don't think that one is body shaming. IMO, body shaming is more direct. Having a preference and stating it isn't really an insult to neglected body types.

It is when phrases such as 'meat is for men, bones are for dogs' are trotted out on a fairly regular basis.

Which is not very nice after all I would never dare turn round and say " lay off the pies love "

How ever what others don't know is I'm fit healthy and I'm the ideal weight for my height. Now how many can say the same thing ? Lol

You won't be if you carry on with those Rolos "

Haha that's why there's one left that one would have pushed me over the edge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Highlighting body shape that some people are dealing with an insecurity with.

All the gym freaks are the most insecure popping pills and injecting up their ass to look good and not caring about their health it's bloody so in your face on here Heart attacks waiting to happen in later life sad really

I object to this comment. How rude!

Not everyone uses steroids and most fitness people are very aware of their overall health. They work hard to acjeive their goals, thwu sacrifice alot to reach their goala and yes they will have their insecurities too. Which you have just targeted for your own self purpose.

Another example of body shaming and how it seems to be acceptable to body shame certain body types.

That's what makes me sad.

Eve.

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I think he might have been sarcastic Eve . You two look lovely btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually having a pop at someone cause they don't fit in with the beauty magazine look.

loads of people slag off models for being too thin as well.

Not as many as those who are at the other end of the spectrum though I'm sure."

not sure, luckily i tend not to associate with people like that.

i saw 2 'news' stories last week about women who had lost weight. both showed before and after pics.

one woman was just slim after, loads of nice comments about her before and after pics, many saying they preferred her fat but nothing horrible about her appearance either way.

2nd one the woman had gone from obese to athletic. never seen so many horrible, judgemental comments slagging off her now appearance, saying she was too mucular, looked like a man (she didn't), and all the comments were from fat and obese women. it was really sad to see.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's a bit of a misnomer really. Look: "body shaming" - who is shamed by it? The person to whom the body belongs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Highlighting body shape that some people are dealing with an insecurity with.

All the gym freaks are the most insecure popping pills and injecting up their ass to look good and not caring about their health it's bloody so in your face on here Heart attacks waiting to happen in later life sad really"

I object to this comment. How rude!

Not everyone uses steroids and most fitness people are very aware of their overall health. They work hard to achieve their goals, they sacrifice alot to reach their goals and yes they will have their insecurities too. Which you have just targeted for your own self purpose.

Another example of body shaming and how it seems to be acceptable to body shame certain body types.

That's what makes me sad.

Eve.

Edited due to many typos ha ha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey Tushy!

Well if he was then that's ok ha ha.

It's a sore spot for me as I regularly have people telling me to my face how muscular women are disgusting, I won't be a real woman if I gain the muscle mass I want etc. All whilst wearing a very disapproving and disgusted expression.

They would never say that to a woman who is overweight so it niggles at me.

Eve. X

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

Body shaming as a term is a new concept we all grew up being called names like fatty or ginger or skinny etc etc but it has become a trigger for people so they can feel justified in some circumstances in maintaining an unhealthy lifestyle,while I have no problem personally with anybodys choices some people need to see that some choices will lead to severe problems and being "body shamed" may actually be a godsend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey Tushy!

Well if he was then that's ok ha ha.

It's a sore spot for me as I regularly have people telling me to my face how muscular women are disgusting, I won't be a real woman if I gain the muscle mass I want etc. All whilst wearing a very disapproving and disgusted expression.

They would never say that to a woman who is overweight so it niggles at me.

Eve. X"

Love yourself, love your body, fuck what everyone else thinks. But I do understand what you're trying to say.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Usually having a pop at someone cause they don't fit in with the beauty magazine look.

loads of people slag off models for being too thin as well.

Not as many as those who are at the other end of the spectrum though I'm sure."

You think?

To a large extent I agree with Mrs Nicecouple on this issue! Nowadays, and particularly on fab, the big is beautiful message is put out into the world more than ever before - had anyone heard the term BBW 20 years ago?

Now - I don't have a personal issue with anyone's body shape and certainly don't feel the need to publicly insult them for it (it's between them and their doctor if there are medical implications to their weight) however - on fab in particular slim ladies are often put down (NB// - I don't class myself as slim!) by being called 'sticks' or observations like 'real men like women with meat on their bones etc!

Also any 'slim appreciation' thread is immediately labelled as being 'unnecessary because society/the media brainwashes us into believing that slim is beautiful ' - so we have BBW thread no 70 and no alternative thread for women of other body types!

As I said - I have ZERO problem with men or women of any shape, height, colour, age or size being appreciated on here - but some balance would be nice occasionally! I'm digressing but I hope you get my point - body shaming works both ways and is wrong either way!

Xxxxxx

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over a year ago


"Usually having a pop at someone cause they don't fit in with the beauty magazine look.

loads of people slag off models for being too thin as well.

Not as many as those who are at the other end of the spectrum though I'm sure.

You think?

To a large extent I agree with Mrs Nicecouple on this issue! Nowadays, and particularly on fab, the big is beautiful message is put out into the world more than ever before - had anyone heard the term BBW 20 years ago?

Now - I don't have a personal issue with anyone's body shape and certainly don't feel the need to publicly insult them for it (it's between them and their doctor if there are medical implications to their weight) however - on fab in particular slim ladies are often put down (NB// - I don't class myself as slim!) by being called 'sticks' or observations like 'real men like women with meat on their bones etc!

Also any 'slim appreciation' thread is immediately labelled as being 'unnecessary because society/the media brainwashes us into believing that slim is beautiful ' - so we have BBW thread no 70 and no alternative thread for women of other body types!

As I said - I have ZERO problem with men or women of any shape, height, colour, age or size being appreciated on here - but some balance would be nice occasionally! I'm digressing but I hope you get my point - body shaming works both ways and is wrong either way!

Xxxxxx "

My comments are based on personal experiences growing up, it seems people are happy to have a pop at anyone regardless of their body if it's just different to what they are personally, like you, I've no issues with body size etc but I think the media have played a big part in today's society as to was is "normal" and what isn't. Love the skin you're in I say

And pay no attention to the haters.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Usually having a pop at someone cause they don't fit in with the beauty magazine look.

loads of people slag off models for being too thin as well.

Not as many as those who are at the other end of the spectrum though I'm sure.

You think?

To a large extent I agree with Mrs Nicecouple on this issue! Nowadays, and particularly on fab, the big is beautiful message is put out into the world more than ever before - had anyone heard the term BBW 20 years ago?

Now - I don't have a personal issue with anyone's body shape and certainly don't feel the need to publicly insult them for it (it's between them and their doctor if there are medical implications to their weight) however - on fab in particular slim ladies are often put down (NB// - I don't class myself as slim!) by being called 'sticks' or observations like 'real men like women with meat on their bones etc!

Also any 'slim appreciation' thread is immediately labelled as being 'unnecessary because society/the media brainwashes us into believing that slim is beautiful ' - so we have BBW thread no 70 and no alternative thread for women of other body types!

As I said - I have ZERO problem with men or women of any shape, height, colour, age or size being appreciated on here - but some balance would be nice occasionally! I'm digressing but I hope you get my point - body shaming works both ways and is wrong either way!

Xxxxxx

My comments are based on personal experiences growing up, it seems people are happy to have a pop at anyone regardless of their body if it's just different to what they are personally, like you, I've no issues with body size etc but I think the media have played a big part in today's society as to was is "normal" and what isn't. Love the skin you're in I say

And pay no attention to the haters."

Your body looks fine to me!

It's your choice of underpants on 24 Jan that I object to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Usually having a pop at someone cause they don't fit in with the beauty magazine look.

loads of people slag off models for being too thin as well.

Not as many as those who are at the other end of the spectrum though I'm sure.

You think?

To a large extent I agree with Mrs Nicecouple on this issue! Nowadays, and particularly on fab, the big is beautiful message is put out into the world more than ever before - had anyone heard the term BBW 20 years ago?

Now - I don't have a personal issue with anyone's body shape and certainly don't feel the need to publicly insult them for it (it's between them and their doctor if there are medical implications to their weight) however - on fab in particular slim ladies are often put down (NB// - I don't class myself as slim!) by being called 'sticks' or observations like 'real men like women with meat on their bones etc!

Also any 'slim appreciation' thread is immediately labelled as being 'unnecessary because society/the media brainwashes us into believing that slim is beautiful ' - so we have BBW thread no 70 and no alternative thread for women of other body types!

As I said - I have ZERO problem with men or women of any shape, height, colour, age or size being appreciated on here - but some balance would be nice occasionally! I'm digressing but I hope you get my point - body shaming works both ways and is wrong either way!

Xxxxxx

My comments are based on personal experiences growing up, it seems people are happy to have a pop at anyone regardless of their body if it's just different to what they are personally, like you, I've no issues with body size etc but I think the media have played a big part in today's society as to was is "normal" and what isn't. Love the skin you're in I say

And pay no attention to the haters.

Your body looks fine to me!

It's your choice of underpants on 24 Jan that I object to! "

I'll take em off you if you wish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Removed, it does seem to attract the wrong attention anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey Tushy!

Well if he was then that's ok ha ha.

It's a sore spot for me as I regularly have people telling me to my face how muscular women are disgusting, I won't be a real woman if I gain the muscle mass I want etc. All whilst wearing a very disapproving and disgusted expression.

They would never say that to a woman who is overweight so it niggles at me.

Eve. X

Love yourself, love your body, fuck what everyone else thinks. But I do understand what you're trying to say."

I do try keep to this motto but it can sometimes be disheartening.

Eve. X

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