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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London

In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"

Sorry to hear you had a bad day.

It can only get better??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"

Most can't take rejection. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"

The selection process is the key, but not infallible.

Sorry for your bad day xx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"

It's the instant gratification culture. Can't cope with rejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"

Youll prob have to actually tell us what happened before we can judge these men you refer to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"

It's not anything you're doing, I'm pretty sure of that. Sorry you've had a bad time, I hope you stick around and meet a decent guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"
why not block men and search yourself.

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"

It's a vicious circle of utter nonsense.

Firstly it is a very small number of men and with all these things we need to remember to not tar an entire sex with one brush or to make the mistake that it is being male or female which makes a person act in a particular way.

Secondly I guess the website nature of this depersonalises things to such an extent that some men and women struggle to remember that there is a human being at the other end of the keyboard. That is common and clearly visible in almost every place where there is online interaction broadcast and not edited. It is very unfortunate. The only cure is to make people see or experience first hand, the consequences of their lack of thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorting the wheat from the chaff is quite easy on here, but even then you can be disappointed!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"

I do wonder whether the swipe left/right era just leads to this sort of behaviour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

many men sexualise us in ways we do not do to ourselves. just the simple act of sexualising yourself is enough for most men to think you will pander to their sexual fantasies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"

Let's see if i can say what i think without making an arse of it...

I don't think it's fair to blame men completely. From my observations of some of the vacuous constant flirty bollocks and need for validation of desirability displayed by some i think maybe sometimes men and women are just interacting in a way that they think will be desired by those they are trying to attract.

Clunky explanation, but i know what i mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Instead of just being themselves i mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?"

make a female profile and you'll soon figure it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I'm not doing anything to encourage fuck and go sex. If I'm asked for it, or blow jobs, balls drained etc I politely decline.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

make a female profile and you'll soon figure it out. "

What? So do you know what happened?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Secondly I guess the website nature of this depersonalises things to such an extent that some men and women struggle to remember that there is a human being at the other end of the keyboard. That is common and clearly visible in almost every place where there is online interaction broadcast and not edited. It is very unfortunate. The only cure is to make people see or experience first hand, the consequences of their lack of thought."

I'm sorry you experienced what you have today OP. Hopefully tomorrow is a far better day. If it's not going as well as hoped, I'd block everyone until you're ready to talk to people again (I hope that doesn't sound too patronising).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?

Let's see if i can say what i think without making an arse of it...

I don't think it's fair to blame men completely. From my observations of some of the vacuous constant flirty bollocks and need for validation of desirability displayed by some i think maybe sometimes men and women are just interacting in a way that they think will be desired by those they are trying to attract.

Clunky explanation, but i know what i mean "

I agree with this

Not to mention that plenty of men are treated like commodities by some women and couples on here. It's all a bit off sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"

I blame pornography, infecting the male mind and making us think this is ok behaviour

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"

I have no idea, but I have had my own vitriol put my way today!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"

It may not mean much but the way some guys act is genuinely embarrassing to others of us.

Some of the things I hear from female friends just amaze me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

make a female profile and you'll soon figure it out.

What? So do you know what happened?"

got a good idea it is that she's had a shit meet where the guy was selfish and didn't care that she wanted to enjoy the sex as well.

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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?"

There's no real story per se. The women here will tell you that being treated like we are ready, available and should shag anyone that asks is commonplace. Heck, you see it all over the forums but today my inbox has been filled with utter outrage that I won't give out my address/go to a hotel room to meet at total stranger/be a birthday present for their husband (in my home), to name but a few.

I meet fantastic men, most of which I meet again or are friends with but today has been filled with more self entitled mysogynastic bollocks than I've ever experienced and as you can see, one of them was a woman.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"

Without knowing the details I'm not going to comment or even white knight other than to say sorry that you've had to put up with something that's driven you to post. There must be something in the water today though as you're not the first I've heard of to have been subjected to bad behaviour towards you by fellow members of my gender.

I know block and move on is an oft quoted cliche round these parts but not sure there's a great deal more to suggest, other than to assure you we're not all like that.

Again sorry you've been subjected to whatever it is by someone that obviously has no idea what this site is really about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?

Let's see if i can say what i think without making an arse of it...

I don't think it's fair to blame men completely. From my observations of some of the vacuous constant flirty bollocks and need for validation of desirability displayed by some i think maybe sometimes men and women are just interacting in a way that they think will be desired by those they are trying to attract.

Clunky explanation, but i know what i mean

I agree with this

Not to mention that plenty of men are treated like commodities by some women and couples on here. It's all a bit off sometimes. "

And I agree with this

Becomes a vicious circle of sorts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

make a female profile and you'll soon figure it out.

What? So do you know what happened?

got a good idea it is that she's had a shit meet where the guy was selfish and didn't care that she wanted to enjoy the sex as well."

Maybe we should actually wait for an explanation of what happened before we start tutting furrowing our collective brows at the male species...heaven forbid, there may ever be another side to the story you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?

Let's see if i can say what i think without making an arse of it...

I don't think it's fair to blame men completely. From my observations of some of the vacuous constant flirty bollocks and need for validation of desirability displayed by some i think maybe sometimes men and women are just interacting in a way that they think will be desired by those they are trying to attract.

Clunky explanation, but i know what i mean

I agree with this

Not to mention that plenty of men are treated like commodities by some women and couples on here. It's all a bit off sometimes. "

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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

make a female profile and you'll soon figure it out.

What? So do you know what happened?

got a good idea it is that she's had a shit meet where the guy was selfish and didn't care that she wanted to enjoy the sex as well."

I've never had a meet like that, I'm too bloody choosy!

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I'm not accepting any blame,... I'm innocent ..I've been doing my tax return...

And like that .I've no idea what this is about either.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I'm not accepting any blame,... I'm innocent ..I've been doing my tax return...

And like that .I've no idea what this is about either. "

I get to feel smug now; I did mine in May.

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

well the whole fabswingers site as was has changed from it conseption .it now has a much different membership .so the old swingers ideals of being nice to each other have gone.there is no paid membership so guys can come and go as they please and make any comments as it does not matter.try filtering to gold and silver members [the filter system works well if you not want gay guys or what ever you dont have to get messages from them ]we do not have filters and talk to all .but they are there to avoid this kind of thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

There's no real story per se. The women here will tell you that being treated like we are ready, available and should shag anyone that asks is commonplace. Heck, you see it all over the forums but today my inbox has been filled with utter outrage that I won't give out my address/go to a hotel room to meet at total stranger/be a birthday present for their husband (in my home), to name but a few.

I meet fantastic men, most of which I meet again or are friends with but today has been filled with more self entitled mysogynastic bollocks than I've ever experienced and as you can see, one of them was a woman.

"

So basically its just nasty messages youve had to put up with

Hands up anyone in here who have already commented that had already jumped to the conclusion that she had been subject to a nasty meet by some terrible man

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

make a female profile and you'll soon figure it out.

What? So do you know what happened?

got a good idea it is that she's had a shit meet where the guy was selfish and didn't care that she wanted to enjoy the sex as well."

Whoops..strike one ..

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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

There's no real story per se. The women here will tell you that being treated like we are ready, available and should shag anyone that asks is commonplace. Heck, you see it all over the forums but today my inbox has been filled with utter outrage that I won't give out my address/go to a hotel room to meet at total stranger/be a birthday present for their husband (in my home), to name but a few.

I meet fantastic men, most of which I meet again or are friends with but today has been filled with more self entitled mysogynastic bollocks than I've ever experienced and as you can see, one of them was a woman.

So basically its just nasty messages youve had to put up with

Hands up anyone in here who have already commented that had already jumped to the conclusion that she had been subject to a nasty meet by some terrible man"

Women get nasty messages all the time, today has been particularly awful with way more and nastier than usual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

There's no real story per se. The women here will tell you that being treated like we are ready, available and should shag anyone that asks is commonplace. Heck, you see it all over the forums but today my inbox has been filled with utter outrage that I won't give out my address/go to a hotel room to meet at total stranger/be a birthday present for their husband (in my home), to name but a few.

I meet fantastic men, most of which I meet again or are friends with but today has been filled with more self entitled mysogynastic bollocks than I've ever experienced and as you can see, one of them was a woman.

So basically its just nasty messages youve had to put up with

Hands up anyone in here who have already commented that had already jumped to the conclusion that she had been subject to a nasty meet by some terrible man

Women get nasty messages all the time, today has been particularly awful with way more and nastier than usual."

My point is highlighting the women rushing to conclusions and the white knight men running to your rescue without having a bollocks of an idea what they were talking about

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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

There's no real story per se. The women here will tell you that being treated like we are ready, available and should shag anyone that asks is commonplace. Heck, you see it all over the forums but today my inbox has been filled with utter outrage that I won't give out my address/go to a hotel room to meet at total stranger/be a birthday present for their husband (in my home), to name but a few.

I meet fantastic men, most of which I meet again or are friends with but today has been filled with more self entitled mysogynastic bollocks than I've ever experienced and as you can see, one of them was a woman.

So basically its just nasty messages youve had to put up with

Hands up anyone in here who have already commented that had already jumped to the conclusion that she had been subject to a nasty meet by some terrible man

Women get nasty messages all the time, today has been particularly awful with way more and nastier than usual.

My point is highlighting the women rushing to conclusions and the white knight men running to your rescue without having a bollocks of an idea what they were talking about"

Nope, I've checked back and there are no white knight posts. Why are you angry about this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

make a female profile and you'll soon figure it out.

What? So do you know what happened?

got a good idea it is that she's had a shit meet where the guy was selfish and didn't care that she wanted to enjoy the sex as well.

Maybe we should actually wait for an explanation of what happened before we start tutting furrowing our collective brows at the male species...heaven forbid, there may ever be another side to the story you know."

yeah i was wrong, the OP looked like they'd actually experienced something rather than was just talking about their shitty inbox that we all get on here (unless we block everyone).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

There's no real story per se. The women here will tell you that being treated like we are ready, available and should shag anyone that asks is commonplace. Heck, you see it all over the forums but today my inbox has been filled with utter outrage that I won't give out my address/go to a hotel room to meet at total stranger/be a birthday present for their husband (in my home), to name but a few.

I meet fantastic men, most of which I meet again or are friends with but today has been filled with more self entitled mysogynastic bollocks than I've ever experienced and as you can see, one of them was a woman.

So basically its just nasty messages youve had to put up with

Hands up anyone in here who have already commented that had already jumped to the conclusion that she had been subject to a nasty meet by some terrible man

Women get nasty messages all the time, today has been particularly awful with way more and nastier than usual.

My point is highlighting the women rushing to conclusions and the white knight men running to your rescue without having a bollocks of an idea what they were talking about

Nope, I've checked back and there are no white knight posts. Why are you angry about this?"

I have no anger at all, im just putting a stop to the runaway train of non-information that was pervading in this post

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

There's no real story per se. The women here will tell you that being treated like we are ready, available and should shag anyone that asks is commonplace. Heck, you see it all over the forums but today my inbox has been filled with utter outrage that I won't give out my address/go to a hotel room to meet at total stranger/be a birthday present for their husband (in my home), to name but a few.

I meet fantastic men, most of which I meet again or are friends with but today has been filled with more self entitled mysogynastic bollocks than I've ever experienced and as you can see, one of them was a woman.

So basically its just nasty messages youve had to put up with

Hands up anyone in here who have already commented that had already jumped to the conclusion that she had been subject to a nasty meet by some terrible man

Women get nasty messages all the time, today has been particularly awful with way more and nastier than usual.

My point is highlighting the women rushing to conclusions and the white knight men running to your rescue without having a bollocks of an idea what they were talking about"

I think you'll find I made it clear I was neither jumping to conclusions, nor white knighting with my post, and don't think I've seen any others necessarily doing so either.

For what it's worth I also didn't assume that it was a bad meet either, and presumed it was related to abusive messages.

Not sure what point you're trying to prove, but whatever it is it's a wrong one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

There's no real story per se. The women here will tell you that being treated like we are ready, available and should shag anyone that asks is commonplace. Heck, you see it all over the forums but today my inbox has been filled with utter outrage that I won't give out my address/go to a hotel room to meet at total stranger/be a birthday present for their husband (in my home), to name but a few.

I meet fantastic men, most of which I meet again or are friends with but today has been filled with more self entitled mysogynastic bollocks than I've ever experienced and as you can see, one of them was a woman.

"

I've seen messages women get so I have a good idea of the type you are talking about, although if I hadn't seen them with my own eyes I wouldn't have believed how bad they can be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

There's no real story per se. The women here will tell you that being treated like we are ready, available and should shag anyone that asks is commonplace. Heck, you see it all over the forums but today my inbox has been filled with utter outrage that I won't give out my address/go to a hotel room to meet at total stranger/be a birthday present for their husband (in my home), to name but a few.

I meet fantastic men, most of which I meet again or are friends with but today has been filled with more self entitled mysogynastic bollocks than I've ever experienced and as you can see, one of them was a woman.

So basically its just nasty messages youve had to put up with

Hands up anyone in here who have already commented that had already jumped to the conclusion that she had been subject to a nasty meet by some terrible man

Women get nasty messages all the time, today has been particularly awful with way more and nastier than usual.

My point is highlighting the women rushing to conclusions and the white knight men running to your rescue without having a bollocks of an idea what they were talking about

I think you'll find I made it clear I was neither jumping to conclusions, nor white knighting with my post, and don't think I've seen any others necessarily doing so either.

For what it's worth I also didn't assume that it was a bad meet either, and presumed it was related to abusive messages.

Not sure what point you're trying to prove, but whatever it is it's a wrong one."

Did i name you in any of my posts?

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"

as someone is looking for a connection I often think the same lines or very similar when dealing with woman and couples on here .

but what can you do except try to have a laugh and hope you come into contact with people who remember there dealing with another human being and not a object for there entertainment ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So basically you're on a sex site but upset... people messaged you looking for sex immediately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a strange thing today with some random guy writing me a verification, never even met the guy and had to hide my meet summary so it doesn't look like I've recently met someone ahead of the person I'm actually speaking to and going to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So basically you're on a sex site but upset... people messaged you looking for sex immediately "

It all depends on how you regard the site. It's named a Swinging Site, not a Sex site.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

There's no real story per se. The women here will tell you that being treated like we are ready, available and should shag anyone that asks is commonplace. Heck, you see it all over the forums but today my inbox has been filled with utter outrage that I won't give out my address/go to a hotel room to meet at total stranger/be a birthday present for their husband (in my home), to name but a few.

I meet fantastic men, most of which I meet again or are friends with but today has been filled with more self entitled mysogynastic bollocks than I've ever experienced and as you can see, one of them was a woman.

So basically its just nasty messages youve had to put up with

Hands up anyone in here who have already commented that had already jumped to the conclusion that she had been subject to a nasty meet by some terrible man

Women get nasty messages all the time, today has been particularly awful with way more and nastier than usual.

My point is highlighting the women rushing to conclusions and the white knight men running to your rescue without having a bollocks of an idea what they were talking about

I think you'll find I made it clear I was neither jumping to conclusions, nor white knighting with my post, and don't think I've seen any others necessarily doing so either.

For what it's worth I also didn't assume that it was a bad meet either, and presumed it was related to abusive messages.

Not sure what point you're trying to prove, but whatever it is it's a wrong one.

Did i name you in any of my posts?"

You didn't actually name anyone, so your comments could have been directed anywhere for all I know. Either way my point still stands that I'm not sure what you're trying to prove here.

The fact that any member of this site (let alone a respected and longstanding one) has been moved to post about abuse she's received is surely a bad thing no matter what form that abuse took?

And if you want to accuse me of donning a suit of armour and jumping on my trusty steed for pointing that out then I'll pass you the coconuts so you can make the clippety clop noises as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a strange thing today with some random guy writing me a verification, never even met the guy and had to hide my meet summary so it doesn't look like I've recently met someone ahead of the person I'm actually speaking to and going to meet. "

Why didnt you just decline the verification?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a strange thing today with some random guy writing me a verification, never even met the guy and had to hide my meet summary so it doesn't look like I've recently met someone ahead of the person I'm actually speaking to and going to meet. "

Report him and ask admin to remove it? Block him and at least the veri is gone although the summary will still show x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

There's no real story per se. The women here will tell you that being treated like we are ready, available and should shag anyone that asks is commonplace. Heck, you see it all over the forums but today my inbox has been filled with utter outrage that I won't give out my address/go to a hotel room to meet at total stranger/be a birthday present for their husband (in my home), to name but a few.

I meet fantastic men, most of which I meet again or are friends with but today has been filled with more self entitled mysogynastic bollocks than I've ever experienced and as you can see, one of them was a woman.

So basically its just nasty messages youve had to put up with

Hands up anyone in here who have already commented that had already jumped to the conclusion that she had been subject to a nasty meet by some terrible man

Women get nasty messages all the time, today has been particularly awful with way more and nastier than usual.

My point is highlighting the women rushing to conclusions and the white knight men running to your rescue without having a bollocks of an idea what they were talking about

I think you'll find I made it clear I was neither jumping to conclusions, nor white knighting with my post, and don't think I've seen any others necessarily doing so either.

For what it's worth I also didn't assume that it was a bad meet either, and presumed it was related to abusive messages.

Not sure what point you're trying to prove, but whatever it is it's a wrong one.

Did i name you in any of my posts?

You didn't actually name anyone, so your comments could have been directed anywhere for all I know. Either way my point still stands that I'm not sure what you're trying to prove here.

The fact that any member of this site (let alone a respected and longstanding one) has been moved to post about abuse she's received is surely a bad thing no matter what form that abuse took?

And if you want to accuse me of donning a suit of armour and jumping on my trusty steed for pointing that out then I'll pass you the coconuts so you can make the clippety clop noises as well "

Youre not sure what im trying to prove? Ive already said above what im highlighting...thats the purpose of my posts. How are you not seeing this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

make a female profile and you'll soon figure it out.

What? So do you know what happened?

got a good idea it is that she's had a shit meet where the guy was selfish and didn't care that she wanted to enjoy the sex as well.

Maybe we should actually wait for an explanation of what happened before we start tutting furrowing our collective brows at the male species...heaven forbid, there may ever be another side to the story you know."

Why should we? There hardly ever is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"

Not men. Man.

Not them. Him.

If it's plural then you're not learning from past mistakes and your filtering/selection process needs to change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a strange thing today with some random guy writing me a verification, never even met the guy and had to hide my meet summary so it doesn't look like I've recently met someone ahead of the person I'm actually speaking to and going to meet.

Why didnt you just decline the verification?"

You can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a strange thing today with some random guy writing me a verification, never even met the guy and had to hide my meet summary so it doesn't look like I've recently met someone ahead of the person I'm actually speaking to and going to meet.

Why didnt you just decline the verification?"

You can't decline it, I only noticed when I looked at my profile and the summary said I'd met 3 people the newest one was a couple of hours ago. I haven't met anyone, I looked at the veri and it was some guy that's been messaging all day and last night. I blocked him, reported it to admin but the summary still shows 3 men. I've met 2 on this profile one veri is displayed and one guy has since left the site.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For every muppet there's a lovely one waiting in the wings, condom at the ready, ready to go! go! go!

Tomorrow is another day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

make a female profile and you'll soon figure it out.

What? So do you know what happened?

got a good idea it is that she's had a shit meet where the guy was selfish and didn't care that she wanted to enjoy the sex as well.

Maybe we should actually wait for an explanation of what happened before we start tutting furrowing our collective brows at the male species...heaven forbid, there may ever be another side to the story you know.

Why should we? There hardly ever is "

Well clearly there was in this situation...in fact there wasnt even an incident at all to have sides to it!

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

There's no real story per se. The women here will tell you that being treated like we are ready, available and should shag anyone that asks is commonplace. Heck, you see it all over the forums but today my inbox has been filled with utter outrage that I won't give out my address/go to a hotel room to meet at total stranger/be a birthday present for their husband (in my home), to name but a few.

I meet fantastic men, most of which I meet again or are friends with but today has been filled with more self entitled mysogynastic bollocks than I've ever experienced and as you can see, one of them was a woman.

So basically its just nasty messages youve had to put up with

Hands up anyone in here who have already commented that had already jumped to the conclusion that she had been subject to a nasty meet by some terrible man

Women get nasty messages all the time, today has been particularly awful with way more and nastier than usual.

My point is highlighting the women rushing to conclusions and the white knight men running to your rescue without having a bollocks of an idea what they were talking about"
i knew what she was on about, why cos a lot of us (most/all??)have had it..no jumping to conclusions, its why i have all my filters on..

im sorry topsy you've had a shit time.

this year there has been a shift in the forums, i dont know if this is anyway part responsible for the increase..i dont know the answer, but i know ive been near the delete my profile button several times in recent months and i dont come on the forums for days on end sometimes.

i hope like me you stick around..hugs xx

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

There's no real story per se. The women here will tell you that being treated like we are ready, available and should shag anyone that asks is commonplace. Heck, you see it all over the forums but today my inbox has been filled with utter outrage that I won't give out my address/go to a hotel room to meet at total stranger/be a birthday present for their husband (in my home), to name but a few.

I meet fantastic men, most of which I meet again or are friends with but today has been filled with more self entitled mysogynastic bollocks than I've ever experienced and as you can see, one of them was a woman.

So basically its just nasty messages youve had to put up with

Hands up anyone in here who have already commented that had already jumped to the conclusion that she had been subject to a nasty meet by some terrible man

Women get nasty messages all the time, today has been particularly awful with way more and nastier than usual.

My point is highlighting the women rushing to conclusions and the white knight men running to your rescue without having a bollocks of an idea what they were talking about

I think you'll find I made it clear I was neither jumping to conclusions, nor white knighting with my post, and don't think I've seen any others necessarily doing so either.

For what it's worth I also didn't assume that it was a bad meet either, and presumed it was related to abusive messages.

Not sure what point you're trying to prove, but whatever it is it's a wrong one.

Did i name you in any of my posts?

You didn't actually name anyone, so your comments could have been directed anywhere for all I know. Either way my point still stands that I'm not sure what you're trying to prove here.

The fact that any member of this site (let alone a respected and longstanding one) has been moved to post about abuse she's received is surely a bad thing no matter what form that abuse took?

And if you want to accuse me of donning a suit of armour and jumping on my trusty steed for pointing that out then I'll pass you the coconuts so you can make the clippety clop noises as well

Youre not sure what im trying to prove? Ive already said above what im highlighting...thats the purpose of my posts. How are you not seeing this?"

The only point you appear to be trying to prove is that no-one knows what has happened - but that's totally irrelevant...the OP made it pretty clear she had had a bad day due to the poor behaviour of men on this site - that's all the relevant info needed (especially if you're someone like me who has seen Topsy post round the forums on a regular basis and know it would take a lot for the her to have posted something like this)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a strange thing today with some random guy writing me a verification, never even met the guy and had to hide my meet summary so it doesn't look like I've recently met someone ahead of the person I'm actually speaking to and going to meet.

Why didnt you just decline the verification?"

You can't decline them. I've had one meet veri and 2 cam ones forced upon me, just so they could try and get me chat. Even though they were report and blocked they still show up on my summary. Extremely frustrating.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

I think it's just an overall mismatch of genders. I've always thought from looking and reading threads from both sides that maybe 10% of the women on here are of a type that would not get picked up in a bar while 80% of the guys are the same.

*percentage figures not real just to show large disparity.

So you have a large section of socially enept males thinking there are a large number of socially enept females on here with the same problem - no sex and as many of them openly call this a sex site why polish it, just say "wanna fuck" & get on with it..

Just occasionally they may get lucky and stumble over one of the 10% that will, but it's unlikely and in the meantime they piss off the other 90% with their crap messages.

Just my thoughts, you don't have to agree or disagree & I don't need telling that "Any woman can get a fuck when out" etc. They maybe can, just not necessarily with someone they'd want to.

I'm off to bed, night...

x

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?

It's the instant gratification culture. Can't cope with rejection. "

Maybe participation medals could help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

There's no real story per se. The women here will tell you that being treated like we are ready, available and should shag anyone that asks is commonplace. Heck, you see it all over the forums but today my inbox has been filled with utter outrage that I won't give out my address/go to a hotel room to meet at total stranger/be a birthday present for their husband (in my home), to name but a few.

I meet fantastic men, most of which I meet again or are friends with but today has been filled with more self entitled mysogynastic bollocks than I've ever experienced and as you can see, one of them was a woman.

So basically its just nasty messages youve had to put up with

Hands up anyone in here who have already commented that had already jumped to the conclusion that she had been subject to a nasty meet by some terrible man

Women get nasty messages all the time, today has been particularly awful with way more and nastier than usual.

My point is highlighting the women rushing to conclusions and the white knight men running to your rescue without having a bollocks of an idea what they were talking about

I think you'll find I made it clear I was neither jumping to conclusions, nor white knighting with my post, and don't think I've seen any others necessarily doing so either.

For what it's worth I also didn't assume that it was a bad meet either, and presumed it was related to abusive messages.

Not sure what point you're trying to prove, but whatever it is it's a wrong one.

Did i name you in any of my posts?

You didn't actually name anyone, so your comments could have been directed anywhere for all I know. Either way my point still stands that I'm not sure what you're trying to prove here.

The fact that any member of this site (let alone a respected and longstanding one) has been moved to post about abuse she's received is surely a bad thing no matter what form that abuse took?

And if you want to accuse me of donning a suit of armour and jumping on my trusty steed for pointing that out then I'll pass you the coconuts so you can make the clippety clop noises as well

Youre not sure what im trying to prove? Ive already said above what im highlighting...thats the purpose of my posts. How are you not seeing this?

The only point you appear to be trying to prove is that no-one knows what has happened - but that's totally irrelevant...the OP made it pretty clear she had had a bad day due to the poor behaviour of men on this site - that's all the relevant info needed (especially if you're someone like me who has seen Topsy post round the forums on a regular basis and know it would take a lot for the her to have posted something like this)"

First of all, there was also a message from a woman in there which also added to her misery if youll read back through her own comments on this thread.

Second of all, it is important to establish details because quite often this 'poor behaviour' you refer to may just be something regular and everyday thats overblown by an oversensitive soul desperate for attention. It happens in here all the time which is why i always wait for full details before rushing either to someones defence or someones attack

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I had a strange thing today with some random guy writing me a verification, never even met the guy and had to hide my meet summary so it doesn't look like I've recently met someone ahead of the person I'm actually speaking to and going to meet.

Why didnt you just decline the verification?

You can't decline them. I've had one meet veri and 2 cam ones forced upon me, just so they could try and get me chat. Even though they were report and blocked they still show up on my summary. Extremely frustrating. "

bloody hell you learn something new every day on here about how the site works and the lengths desperate guys will go to .

pumpkin I'm amazed at your resilience and all other women's resilience on here because I can honestly say faced with such behaviour id walk away thinking sod it to many weirdos for my tastes .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on and off this site for over 4 years. Had more than my fair share of crappy one liners, abusive text if I'm not ready now or won't travel alone or several hundred miles. Slagging me off because I wasn't interested.

Nothing new.

Block them. get over it.

Your not the first or the last woman to get these text.

Why are you letting it get to you or Is this just a "feel sorry for me to get loads of attention" thread?

Congratulations. It's working.

Lol.

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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?

Not men. Man.

Not them. Him.

If it's plural then you're not learning from past mistakes and your filtering/selection process needs to change.

"

No, there were lots of them that were vile today, far more than usual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry you had a bad day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a strange thing today with some random guy writing me a verification, never even met the guy and had to hide my meet summary so it doesn't look like I've recently met someone ahead of the person I'm actually speaking to and going to meet.

Why didnt you just decline the verification?

You can't decline them. I've had one meet veri and 2 cam ones forced upon me, just so they could try and get me chat. Even though they were report and blocked they still show up on my summary. Extremely frustrating.

bloody hell you learn something new every day on here about how the site works and the lengths desperate guys will go to .

pumpkin I'm amazed at your resilience and all other women's resilience on here because I can honestly say faced with such behaviour id walk away thinking sod it to many weirdos for my tastes ."

Youd soon get over it when you realise you can cherry pick your shags as and how you like

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?

Not men. Man.

Not them. Him.

If it's plural then you're not learning from past mistakes and your filtering/selection process needs to change.

No, there were lots of them that were vile today, far more than usual."

maybe it a case of lots of unhappy men in the world because lets be honest here nasty behaviour and unhappiness go hand in hand .

in my experience the more unhappy someone is the more likely they are to be nasty to there fellow human being .

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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"I've been on and off this site for over 4 years. Had more than my fair share of crappy one liners, abusive text if I'm not ready now or won't travel alone or several hundred miles. Slagging me off because I wasn't interested.

Nothing new.

Block them. get over it.

Your not the first or the last woman to get these text.

Why are you letting it get to you or Is this just a "feel sorry for me to get loads of attention" thread?

Congratulations. It's working.

Lol. "

I expect nothing when I post and as I've already explained, today was the worst it's ever been.

I don't need attention from random strangers here, I was sharing an experience like lots of us do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a strange thing today with some random guy writing me a verification, never even met the guy and had to hide my meet summary so it doesn't look like I've recently met someone ahead of the person I'm actually speaking to and going to meet.

Why didnt you just decline the verification?

You can't decline them. I've had one meet veri and 2 cam ones forced upon me, just so they could try and get me chat. Even though they were report and blocked they still show up on my summary. Extremely frustrating.

bloody hell you learn something new every day on here about how the site works and the lengths desperate guys will go to .

pumpkin I'm amazed at your resilience and all other women's resilience on here because I can honestly say faced with such behaviour id walk away thinking sod it to many weirdos for my tastes ."

I know lovely. It would be so much simpler if you could decline them, but I suppose the site workers have so much to juggle as it is. I'm sure I'm not the only one this has happened to. But I can't remember it being that common when I was on here last. I'm only 3 months on this new profile, and have had 3 fake ones already. I dread to think what my summary will look like before the year is out .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If this is just a problem with inbound messages, I don't understand why people don't just put their message filters on. Stop anyone messaging you unless you message them first.

You do the searching and initial messaging. If you can do it better than them, well do so!

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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"If this is just a problem with inbound messages, I don't understand why people don't just put their message filters on. Stop anyone messaging you unless you message them first.

You do the searching and initial messaging. If you can do it better than them, well do so!"

I have chosen the filters I want to use but thanks for the advice.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I had a strange thing today with some random guy writing me a verification, never even met the guy and had to hide my meet summary so it doesn't look like I've recently met someone ahead of the person I'm actually speaking to and going to meet.

Why didnt you just decline the verification?

You can't decline them. I've had one meet veri and 2 cam ones forced upon me, just so they could try and get me chat. Even though they were report and blocked they still show up on my summary. Extremely frustrating.

bloody hell you learn something new every day on here about how the site works and the lengths desperate guys will go to .

pumpkin I'm amazed at your resilience and all other women's resilience on here because I can honestly say faced with such behaviour id walk away thinking sod it to many weirdos for my tastes .

Youd soon get over it when you realise you can cherry pick your shags as and how you like"

fella I've read your posts in here and I can see your deeply unhappy hence you looking for confrontation trust me confrontation will not lead to happiness just more unhappiness bitterness . trust me what ever it is making you act in this way let it go for your own happiness .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So basically you're on a sex site but upset... people messaged you looking for sex immediately

It all depends on how you regard the site. It's named a Swinging Site, not a Sex site."

I understand but she has been here for a long time....and bad behavior should roll off her back like water on a duck..

It's kinda like gay/bi men messaging straight guys offering to suck them off.... if every straight guy that got pissed off posted when this happened.

The forum would be shut down and people would tell them to man up and block single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on and off this site for over 4 years. Had more than my fair share of crappy one liners, abusive text if I'm not ready now or won't travel alone or several hundred miles. Slagging me off because I wasn't interested.

Nothing new.

Block them. get over it.

Your not the first or the last woman to get these text.

Why are you letting it get to you or Is this just a "feel sorry for me to get loads of attention" thread?

Congratulations. It's working.

Lol.

I expect nothing when I post and as I've already explained, today was the worst it's ever been.

I don't need attention from random strangers here, I was sharing an experience like lots of us do."

So why didn't you say what happened in your first message? If you wanted to share it, you would of said straight away what happened and not made people guess and ask for details.

That's not sharing an experience. That's asking for attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If this is just a problem with inbound messages, I don't understand why people don't just put their message filters on. Stop anyone messaging you unless you message them first.

You do the searching and initial messaging. If you can do it better than them, well do so!

I have chosen the filters I want to use but thanks for the advice."

But they aren't working. Look at your post. It's very *very* easy to fix the situation and take control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If this is just a problem with inbound messages, I don't understand why people don't just put their message filters on. Stop anyone messaging you unless you message them first.

You do the searching and initial messaging. If you can do it better than them, well do so!

I have chosen the filters I want to use but thanks for the advice.

But they aren't working. Look at your post. It's very *very* easy to fix the situation and take control."

"Today was the absolute worst".

Okay, keep everything the way it is

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I had a strange thing today with some random guy writing me a verification, never even met the guy and had to hide my meet summary so it doesn't look like I've recently met someone ahead of the person I'm actually speaking to and going to meet.

Why didnt you just decline the verification?

You can't decline them. I've had one meet veri and 2 cam ones forced upon me, just so they could try and get me chat. Even though they were report and blocked they still show up on my summary. Extremely frustrating.

bloody hell you learn something new every day on here about how the site works and the lengths desperate guys will go to .

pumpkin I'm amazed at your resilience and all other women's resilience on here because I can honestly say faced with such behaviour id walk away thinking sod it to many weirdos for my tastes .

I know lovely. It would be so much simpler if you could decline them, but I suppose the site workers have so much to juggle as it is. I'm sure I'm not the only one this has happened to. But I can't remember it being that common when I was on here last. I'm only 3 months on this new profile, and have had 3 fake ones already. I dread to think what my summary will look like before the year is out . "

what ever it looks like it wouldn't put me off .I no who I like and I need no veries to tell me who that is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well reading some updates I just think most fake profiles have the upper hand as they lie and airbrush profiles to be appealing so they get the most responses then the bad press when they don't turn up....whereas the normal guys that are honest get overlooked for meets.....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"

I think lots of men join expecting just that. After all nice women don't enjoy sex with multiple partners do they? Only worth less women of no consequence. This is further reinforced by the faintly judgmental quality of the profiles using phrases such as "quality over quantity" and "not here to sleep with the whole site".

I don't think we can tar all men with the same brush though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a strange thing today with some random guy writing me a verification, never even met the guy and had to hide my meet summary so it doesn't look like I've recently met someone ahead of the person I'm actually speaking to and going to meet.

Why didnt you just decline the verification?

You can't decline them. I've had one meet veri and 2 cam ones forced upon me, just so they could try and get me chat. Even though they were report and blocked they still show up on my summary. Extremely frustrating.

bloody hell you learn something new every day on here about how the site works and the lengths desperate guys will go to .

pumpkin I'm amazed at your resilience and all other women's resilience on here because I can honestly say faced with such behaviour id walk away thinking sod it to many weirdos for my tastes .

I know lovely. It would be so much simpler if you could decline them, but I suppose the site workers have so much to juggle as it is. I'm sure I'm not the only one this has happened to. But I can't remember it being that common when I was on here last. I'm only 3 months on this new profile, and have had 3 fake ones already. I dread to think what my summary will look like before the year is out .

what ever it looks like it wouldn't put me off .I no who I like and I need no veries to tell me who that is "
.

Well aren't you sweet

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I had a strange thing today with some random guy writing me a verification, never even met the guy and had to hide my meet summary so it doesn't look like I've recently met someone ahead of the person I'm actually speaking to and going to meet.

Why didnt you just decline the verification?

You can't decline them. I've had one meet veri and 2 cam ones forced upon me, just so they could try and get me chat. Even though they were report and blocked they still show up on my summary. Extremely frustrating.

bloody hell you learn something new every day on here about how the site works and the lengths desperate guys will go to .

pumpkin I'm amazed at your resilience and all other women's resilience on here because I can honestly say faced with such behaviour id walk away thinking sod it to many weirdos for my tastes .

I know lovely. It would be so much simpler if you could decline them, but I suppose the site workers have so much to juggle as it is. I'm sure I'm not the only one this has happened to. But I can't remember it being that common when I was on here last. I'm only 3 months on this new profile, and have had 3 fake ones already. I dread to think what my summary will look like before the year is out .

what ever it looks like it wouldn't put me off .I no who I like and I need no veries to tell me who that is .

Well aren't you sweet "

sweet me no darling I'm the guy your mother warned you about. I have those bright blue eyes that twinkle and eye brows that meet in the middle there's more than a bit of the wolf in me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a strange thing today with some random guy writing me a verification, never even met the guy and had to hide my meet summary so it doesn't look like I've recently met someone ahead of the person I'm actually speaking to and going to meet.

Why didnt you just decline the verification?

You can't decline them. I've had one meet veri and 2 cam ones forced upon me, just so they could try and get me chat. Even though they were report and blocked they still show up on my summary. Extremely frustrating.

bloody hell you learn something new every day on here about how the site works and the lengths desperate guys will go to .

pumpkin I'm amazed at your resilience and all other women's resilience on here because I can honestly say faced with such behaviour id walk away thinking sod it to many weirdos for my tastes .

I know lovely. It would be so much simpler if you could decline them, but I suppose the site workers have so much to juggle as it is. I'm sure I'm not the only one this has happened to. But I can't remember it being that common when I was on here last. I'm only 3 months on this new profile, and have had 3 fake ones already. I dread to think what my summary will look like before the year is out .

what ever it looks like it wouldn't put me off .I no who I like and I need no veries to tell me who that is .

Well aren't you sweet

sweet me no darling I'm the guy your mother warned you about. I have those bright blue eyes that twinkle and eye brows that meet in the middle there's more than a bit of the wolf in me "

Hahaha you sure know how to woo a girl!

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

There's no real story per se. The women here will tell you that being treated like we are ready, available and should shag anyone that asks is commonplace. Heck, you see it all over the forums but today my inbox has been filled with utter outrage that I won't give out my address/go to a hotel room to meet at total stranger/be a birthday present for their husband (in my home), to name but a few.

I meet fantastic men, most of which I meet again or are friends with but today has been filled with more self entitled mysogynastic bollocks than I've ever experienced and as you can see, one of them was a woman.

So basically its just nasty messages youve had to put up with

Hands up anyone in here who have already commented that had already jumped to the conclusion that she had been subject to a nasty meet by some terrible man

Women get nasty messages all the time, today has been particularly awful with way more and nastier than usual.

My point is highlighting the women rushing to conclusions and the white knight men running to your rescue without having a bollocks of an idea what they were talking about

I think you'll find I made it clear I was neither jumping to conclusions, nor white knighting with my post, and don't think I've seen any others necessarily doing so either.

For what it's worth I also didn't assume that it was a bad meet either, and presumed it was related to abusive messages.

Not sure what point you're trying to prove, but whatever it is it's a wrong one.

Did i name you in any of my posts?

You didn't actually name anyone, so your comments could have been directed anywhere for all I know. Either way my point still stands that I'm not sure what you're trying to prove here.

The fact that any member of this site (let alone a respected and longstanding one) has been moved to post about abuse she's received is surely a bad thing no matter what form that abuse took?

And if you want to accuse me of donning a suit of armour and jumping on my trusty steed for pointing that out then I'll pass you the coconuts so you can make the clippety clop noises as well

Youre not sure what im trying to prove? Ive already said above what im highlighting...thats the purpose of my posts. How are you not seeing this?

The only point you appear to be trying to prove is that no-one knows what has happened - but that's totally irrelevant...the OP made it pretty clear she had had a bad day due to the poor behaviour of men on this site - that's all the relevant info needed (especially if you're someone like me who has seen Topsy post round the forums on a regular basis and know it would take a lot for the her to have posted something like this)

First of all, there was also a message from a woman in there which also added to her misery if youll read back through her own comments on this thread.

Second of all, it is important to establish details because quite often this 'poor behaviour' you refer to may just be something regular and everyday thats overblown by an oversensitive soul desperate for attention. It happens in here all the time which is why i always wait for full details before rushing either to someones defence or someones attack"
wtf? if its regular and usual it must be because the other asked for it, through attention seeking.. is see you dont need any side of any story, you have drawn your own fantasy conclusions....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

There's no real story per se. The women here will tell you that being treated like we are ready, available and should shag anyone that asks is commonplace. Heck, you see it all over the forums but today my inbox has been filled with utter outrage that I won't give out my address/go to a hotel room to meet at total stranger/be a birthday present for their husband (in my home), to name but a few.

I meet fantastic men, most of which I meet again or are friends with but today has been filled with more self entitled mysogynastic bollocks than I've ever experienced and as you can see, one of them was a woman.

So basically its just nasty messages youve had to put up with

Hands up anyone in here who have already commented that had already jumped to the conclusion that she had been subject to a nasty meet by some terrible man

Women get nasty messages all the time, today has been particularly awful with way more and nastier than usual.

My point is highlighting the women rushing to conclusions and the white knight men running to your rescue without having a bollocks of an idea what they were talking about

I think you'll find I made it clear I was neither jumping to conclusions, nor white knighting with my post, and don't think I've seen any others necessarily doing so either.

For what it's worth I also didn't assume that it was a bad meet either, and presumed it was related to abusive messages.

Not sure what point you're trying to prove, but whatever it is it's a wrong one.

Did i name you in any of my posts?

You didn't actually name anyone, so your comments could have been directed anywhere for all I know. Either way my point still stands that I'm not sure what you're trying to prove here.

The fact that any member of this site (let alone a respected and longstanding one) has been moved to post about abuse she's received is surely a bad thing no matter what form that abuse took?

And if you want to accuse me of donning a suit of armour and jumping on my trusty steed for pointing that out then I'll pass you the coconuts so you can make the clippety clop noises as well

Youre not sure what im trying to prove? Ive already said above what im highlighting...thats the purpose of my posts. How are you not seeing this?

The only point you appear to be trying to prove is that no-one knows what has happened - but that's totally irrelevant...the OP made it pretty clear she had had a bad day due to the poor behaviour of men on this site - that's all the relevant info needed (especially if you're someone like me who has seen Topsy post round the forums on a regular basis and know it would take a lot for the her to have posted something like this)

First of all, there was also a message from a woman in there which also added to her misery if youll read back through her own comments on this thread.

Second of all, it is important to establish details because quite often this 'poor behaviour' you refer to may just be something regular and everyday thats overblown by an oversensitive soul desperate for attention. It happens in here all the time which is why i always wait for full details before rushing either to someones defence or someones attackwtf? if its regular and usual it must be because the other asked for it, through attention seeking.. is see you dont need any side of any story, you have drawn your own fantasy conclusions...."

What conclusions have i drawn exactly?

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"I've been on and off this site for over 4 years. Had more than my fair share of crappy one liners, abusive text if I'm not ready now or won't travel alone or several hundred miles. Slagging me off because I wasn't interested.

Nothing new.

Block them. get over it.

Your not the first or the last woman to get these text.

Why are you letting it get to you or Is this just a "feel sorry for me to get loads of attention" thread?

Congratulations. It's working.

Lol.

I expect nothing when I post and as I've already explained, today was the worst it's ever been.

I don't need attention from random strangers here, I was sharing an experience like lots of us do.

So why didn't you say what happened in your first message? If you wanted to share it, you would of said straight away what happened and not made people guess and ask for details.

That's not sharing an experience. That's asking for attention. "
what like you cont have your postcode as a caption, but you have your pussy on show..something like that..not for attention?

(just an example:i have no objection to pussies being on show, or threads being started without full details)just dont point the finger at other people..

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I had a strange thing today with some random guy writing me a verification, never even met the guy and had to hide my meet summary so it doesn't look like I've recently met someone ahead of the person I'm actually speaking to and going to meet.

Why didnt you just decline the verification?

You can't decline them. I've had one meet veri and 2 cam ones forced upon me, just so they could try and get me chat. Even though they were report and blocked they still show up on my summary. Extremely frustrating.

bloody hell you learn something new every day on here about how the site works and the lengths desperate guys will go to .

pumpkin I'm amazed at your resilience and all other women's resilience on here because I can honestly say faced with such behaviour id walk away thinking sod it to many weirdos for my tastes .

I know lovely. It would be so much simpler if you could decline them, but I suppose the site workers have so much to juggle as it is. I'm sure I'm not the only one this has happened to. But I can't remember it being that common when I was on here last. I'm only 3 months on this new profile, and have had 3 fake ones already. I dread to think what my summary will look like before the year is out .

what ever it looks like it wouldn't put me off .I no who I like and I need no veries to tell me who that is .

Well aren't you sweet

sweet me no darling I'm the guy your mother warned you about. I have those bright blue eyes that twinkle and eye brows that meet in the middle there's more than a bit of the wolf in me

Hahaha you sure know how to woo a girl! "

woo...? I normal just bring home a leg of lamb every full moon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"

add woman

my advice topsy xxx lie back and let me lick you...it'll sooth the blues away

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just words on a screen.

I don't get many bad messages; I think I've had 3 in the 4 years I've been on here, and one of them was because of my own sarcasm.

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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?

add woman

my advice topsy xxx lie back and let me lick you...it'll sooth the blues away

x"

Now now Paddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On another thread a man has been referred to as a stunt cock, by a woman.

It's not just women who are treated as a commodity.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

There's no real story per se. The women here will tell you that being treated like we are ready, available and should shag anyone that asks is commonplace. Heck, you see it all over the forums but today my inbox has been filled with utter outrage that I won't give out my address/go to a hotel room to meet at total stranger/be a birthday present for their husband (in my home), to name but a few.

I meet fantastic men, most of which I meet again or are friends with but today has been filled with more self entitled mysogynastic bollocks than I've ever experienced and as you can see, one of them was a woman.

So basically its just nasty messages youve had to put up with

Hands up anyone in here who have already commented that had already jumped to the conclusion that she had been subject to a nasty meet by some terrible man

Women get nasty messages all the time, today has been particularly awful with way more and nastier than usual.

My point is highlighting the women rushing to conclusions and the white knight men running to your rescue without having a bollocks of an idea what they were talking about

I think you'll find I made it clear I was neither jumping to conclusions, nor white knighting with my post, and don't think I've seen any others necessarily doing so either.

For what it's worth I also didn't assume that it was a bad meet either, and presumed it was related to abusive messages.

Not sure what point you're trying to prove, but whatever it is it's a wrong one.

Did i name you in any of my posts?

You didn't actually name anyone, so your comments could have been directed anywhere for all I know. Either way my point still stands that I'm not sure what you're trying to prove here.

The fact that any member of this site (let alone a respected and longstanding one) has been moved to post about abuse she's received is surely a bad thing no matter what form that abuse took?

And if you want to accuse me of donning a suit of armour and jumping on my trusty steed for pointing that out then I'll pass you the coconuts so you can make the clippety clop noises as well

Youre not sure what im trying to prove? Ive already said above what im highlighting...thats the purpose of my posts. How are you not seeing this?

The only point you appear to be trying to prove is that no-one knows what has happened - but that's totally irrelevant...the OP made it pretty clear she had had a bad day due to the poor behaviour of men on this site - that's all the relevant info needed (especially if you're someone like me who has seen Topsy post round the forums on a regular basis and know it would take a lot for the her to have posted something like this)

First of all, there was also a message from a woman in there which also added to her misery if youll read back through her own comments on this thread.

Second of all, it is important to establish details because quite often this 'poor behaviour' you refer to may just be something regular and everyday thats overblown by an oversensitive soul desperate for attention. It happens in here all the time which is why i always wait for full details before rushing either to someones defence or someones attackwtf? if its regular and usual it must be because the other asked for it, through attention seeking.. is see you dont need any side of any story, you have drawn your own fantasy conclusions....

What conclusions have i drawn exactly?"

quote "may just be something regular and everyday thats overblown by an oversensitive soul desperate for attention."

you drew the conclusion that having a shit time on here, maybe because its regular and everyday for one...thats ok is it? and then that if it happens regularly no one has to say anything because its so normal and acceptable that those who do are 'oversensitive' and possibly desperate for attention..is that not what you drew conclusions about, ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?

add woman

my advice topsy xxx lie back and let me lick you...it'll sooth the blues away

x

Now now Paddy "

I meant hypothetically..I'm a bit far for NOW! NOW! PADDY!

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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?

add woman

my advice topsy xxx lie back and let me lick you...it'll sooth the blues away

x

Now now Paddy

I meant hypothetically..I'm a bit far for NOW! NOW! PADDY! "

You have never failed to amuse me, thanks

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By *oachman 9CoolMan
over a year ago

derby


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

There's no real story per se. The women here will tell you that being treated like we are ready, available and should shag anyone that asks is commonplace. Heck, you see it all over the forums but today my inbox has been filled with utter outrage that I won't give out my address/go to a hotel room to meet at total stranger/be a birthday present for their husband (in my home), to name but a few.

I meet fantastic men, most of which I meet again or are friends with but today has been filled with more self entitled mysogynastic bollocks than I've ever experienced and as you can see, one of them was a woman.

So basically its just nasty messages youve had to put up with

Hands up anyone in here who have already commented that had already jumped to the conclusion that she had been subject to a nasty meet by some terrible man

Women get nasty messages all the time, today has been particularly awful with way more and nastier than usual.

My point is highlighting the women rushing to conclusions and the white knight men running to your rescue without having a bollocks of an idea what they were talking about

I think you'll find I made it clear I was neither jumping to conclusions, nor white knighting with my post, and don't think I've seen any others necessarily doing so either.

For what it's worth I also didn't assume that it was a bad meet either, and presumed it was related to abusive messages.

Not sure what point you're trying to prove, but whatever it is it's a wrong one.

Did i name you in any of my posts?

You didn't actually name anyone, so your comments could have been directed anywhere for all I know. Either way my point still stands that I'm not sure what you're trying to prove here.

The fact that any member of this site (let alone a respected and longstanding one) has been moved to post about abuse she's received is surely a bad thing no matter what form that abuse took?

And if you want to accuse me of donning a suit of armour and jumping on my trusty steed for pointing that out then I'll pass you the coconuts so you can make the clippety clop noises as well "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?

Not men. Man.

Not them. Him.

If it's plural then you're not learning from past mistakes and your filtering/selection process needs to change.

No, there were lots of them that were vile today, far more than usual.

maybe it a case of lots of unhappy men in the world because lets be honest here nasty behaviour and unhappiness go hand in hand .

in my experience the more unhappy someone is the more likely they are to be nasty to there fellow human being ."

I like your posts and I think you are right.

I think there are a lot of unhappy and lonely guys on here, probably unhappy because they are lonely.

I think that manifests itself in the abusive, aggressive and entitled messages and also some post on the forums looking for confrontation where there is absolutely no need for any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?

add woman

my advice topsy xxx lie back and let me lick you...it'll sooth the blues away

x

Now now Paddy

I meant hypothetically..I'm a bit far for NOW! NOW! PADDY!

You have never failed to amuse me, thanks "

You selling those wet knickers then?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's not us, it's them? It's strange op, s's I'd been experiencing something very similar.

Is it the time of year, weather, day of the week, winter sex shortage helping to drove it? Perhaps some of those, new year spurring men to get what they want. And general attitudes that have been cultured.

I take so much and then start ignoring them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am i missing something here? People seem to be commenting like they know exactly what happened here. Have i missed the story or something?

There's no real story per se. The women here will tell you that being treated like we are ready, available and should shag anyone that asks is commonplace. Heck, you see it all over the forums but today my inbox has been filled with utter outrage that I won't give out my address/go to a hotel room to meet at total stranger/be a birthday present for their husband (in my home), to name but a few.

I meet fantastic men, most of which I meet again or are friends with but today has been filled with more self entitled mysogynastic bollocks than I've ever experienced and as you can see, one of them was a woman.

So basically its just nasty messages youve had to put up with

Hands up anyone in here who have already commented that had already jumped to the conclusion that she had been subject to a nasty meet by some terrible man

Women get nasty messages all the time, today has been particularly awful with way more and nastier than usual.

My point is highlighting the women rushing to conclusions and the white knight men running to your rescue without having a bollocks of an idea what they were talking about

I think you'll find I made it clear I was neither jumping to conclusions, nor white knighting with my post, and don't think I've seen any others necessarily doing so either.

For what it's worth I also didn't assume that it was a bad meet either, and presumed it was related to abusive messages.

Not sure what point you're trying to prove, but whatever it is it's a wrong one.

Did i name you in any of my posts?

You didn't actually name anyone, so your comments could have been directed anywhere for all I know. Either way my point still stands that I'm not sure what you're trying to prove here.

The fact that any member of this site (let alone a respected and longstanding one) has been moved to post about abuse she's received is surely a bad thing no matter what form that abuse took?

And if you want to accuse me of donning a suit of armour and jumping on my trusty steed for pointing that out then I'll pass you the coconuts so you can make the clippety clop noises as well

Youre not sure what im trying to prove? Ive already said above what im highlighting...thats the purpose of my posts. How are you not seeing this?

The only point you appear to be trying to prove is that no-one knows what has happened - but that's totally irrelevant...the OP made it pretty clear she had had a bad day due to the poor behaviour of men on this site - that's all the relevant info needed (especially if you're someone like me who has seen Topsy post round the forums on a regular basis and know it would take a lot for the her to have posted something like this)

First of all, there was also a message from a woman in there which also added to her misery if youll read back through her own comments on this thread.

Second of all, it is important to establish details because quite often this 'poor behaviour' you refer to may just be something regular and everyday thats overblown by an oversensitive soul desperate for attention. It happens in here all the time which is why i always wait for full details before rushing either to someones defence or someones attackwtf? if its regular and usual it must be because the other asked for it, through attention seeking.. is see you dont need any side of any story, you have drawn your own fantasy conclusions....

What conclusions have i drawn exactly?

quote "may just be something regular and everyday thats overblown by an oversensitive soul desperate for attention."

you drew the conclusion that having a shit time on here, maybe because its regular and everyday for one...thats ok is it? and then that if it happens regularly no one has to say anything because its so normal and acceptable that those who do are 'oversensitive' and possibly desperate for attention..is that not what you drew conclusions about, ?

"

If anyone is drawing conclusions here its you, about what ive said.

Cleary, ive outlined how i do NOT jump to conclusions based on vague forum posts as quite often the truth lies elsewhere and the minimum i do is wait for as much info as possible before casting an opinion

If thats your idea of drawing conclusions then your grasp of the english language is seriously in doubt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not us, it's them? It's strange op, s's I'd been experiencing something very similar.

Is it the time of year, weather, day of the week, winter sex shortage helping to drove it? Perhaps some of those, new year spurring men to get what they want. And general attitudes that have been cultured.

I take so much and then start ignoring them all.

"

Why don't I get them? Am I not appealing enough??

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"It's not us, it's them? It's strange op, s's I'd been experiencing something very similar.

Is it the time of year, weather, day of the week, winter sex shortage helping to drove it? Perhaps some of those, new year spurring men to get what they want. And general attitudes that have been cultured.

I take so much and then start ignoring them all.

Why don't I get them? Am I not appealing enough?? "

My profile is hidden and I've had two today. You're not trying hard enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not us, it's them? It's strange op, s's I'd been experiencing something very similar.

Is it the time of year, weather, day of the week, winter sex shortage helping to drove it? Perhaps some of those, new year spurring men to get what they want. And general attitudes that have been cultured.

I take so much and then start ignoring them all.

Why don't I get them? Am I not appealing enough?? "

i get them every day, all year round. i'm just appealng to knob heads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not us, it's them? It's strange op, s's I'd been experiencing something very similar.

Is it the time of year, weather, day of the week, winter sex shortage helping to drove it? Perhaps some of those, new year spurring men to get what they want. And general attitudes that have been cultured.

I take so much and then start ignoring them all.

Why don't I get them? Am I not appealing enough??

My profile is hidden and I've had two today. You're not trying hard enough. "

I'm starting to think there's something wrong with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not us, it's them? It's strange op, s's I'd been experiencing something very similar.

Is it the time of year, weather, day of the week, winter sex shortage helping to drove it? Perhaps some of those, new year spurring men to get what they want. And general attitudes that have been cultured.

I take so much and then start ignoring them all.

Why don't I get them? Am I not appealing enough??

i get them every day, all year round. i'm just appealng to knob heads."

I'm unappealing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not us, it's them? It's strange op, s's I'd been experiencing something very similar.

Is it the time of year, weather, day of the week, winter sex shortage helping to drove it? Perhaps some of those, new year spurring men to get what they want. And general attitudes that have been cultured.

I take so much and then start ignoring them all.

Why don't I get them? Am I not appealing enough?? "

No you're a very cool person, judging from your post. You don't take this place seriously and use it for what you want to get out of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not us, it's them? It's strange op, s's I'd been experiencing something very similar.

Is it the time of year, weather, day of the week, winter sex shortage helping to drove it? Perhaps some of those, new year spurring men to get what they want. And general attitudes that have been cultured.

I take so much and then start ignoring them all.

Why don't I get them? Am I not appealing enough??

i get them every day, all year round. i'm just appealng to knob heads.

I'm unappealing "

if you're unappealing to knobheads though that's a good thing.

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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?

add woman

my advice topsy xxx lie back and let me lick you...it'll sooth the blues away

x

Now now Paddy

I meant hypothetically..I'm a bit far for NOW! NOW! PADDY!

You have never failed to amuse me, thanks

You selling those wet knickers then? "

Send me those M&S biggie knickers you love, you know, the ones on old lady pink and I'll grease them up for you.

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

A lot of the men (and a few women) who join the site seem to see it as a sex site and cannot appreciate the swinging side i.e. friendships and the social side...

They also seem to struggle with a woman expressing her sexuality...the concept that someone can have needs, desires, preferences and will not compromise is alien to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?

add woman

my advice topsy xxx lie back and let me lick you...it'll sooth the blues away

x

Now now Paddy

I meant hypothetically..I'm a bit far for NOW! NOW! PADDY!

You have never failed to amuse me, thanks

You selling those wet knickers then?

Send me those M&S biggie knickers you love, you know, the ones on old lady pink and I'll grease them up for you."

I'll get them from a charity shop..thats all your worth

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By *opsy Rogers OP   Woman
over a year ago

London


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?

add woman

my advice topsy xxx lie back and let me lick you...it'll sooth the blues away

x

Now now Paddy

I meant hypothetically..I'm a bit far for NOW! NOW! PADDY!

You have never failed to amuse me, thanks

You selling those wet knickers then?

Send me those M&S biggie knickers you love, you know, the ones on old lady pink and I'll grease them up for you.

I'll get them from a charity shop..thats all your worth "

It's more than I've had today so it must be true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another fantastic display of missunderstanding courtesy of a drip feeding thread...

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By *aisyDDWoman
over a year ago

North West

Think it's just a general problem that respect and manners have l9ng since upped and left. Yes it's a sex site but I'm not sure why even looking at it from a safety side anyone would think you'd stop what you are doing and just rush round to have sex with someone you've never met.

I had a break off here for a few months after getting so much grief I actually ended up meeting someone to have it out face to face.

Think it might be the weather today as I've had a few dodgy messages including one guy that simply can't figure out why I don't want to meet him.

Don't loose faith OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?

Let's see if i can say what i think without making an arse of it...

I don't think it's fair to blame men completely. From my observations of some of the vacuous constant flirty bollocks and need for validation of desirability displayed by some i think maybe sometimes men and women are just interacting in a way that they think will be desired by those they are trying to attract.

Clunky explanation, but i know what i mean

I agree with this

Not to mention that plenty of men are treated like commodities by some women and couples on here. It's all a bit off sometimes. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On another thread a man has been referred to as a stunt cock, by a woman.

It's not just women who are treated as a commodity. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So basically you're on a sex site but upset... people messaged you looking for sex immediately

It all depends on how you regard the site. It's named a Swinging Site, not a Sex site.

I understand but she has been here for a long time....and bad behavior should roll off her back like water on a duck..

It's kinda like gay/bi men messaging straight guys offering to suck them off.... if every straight guy that got pissed off posted when this happened.

The forum would be shut down and people would tell them to man up and block single guys."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think it's just a general problem that respect and manners have l9ng since upped and left. Yes it's a sex site but I'm not sure why even looking at it from a safety side anyone would think you'd stop what you are doing and just rush round to have sex with someone you've never met.

I had a break off here for a few months after getting so much grief I actually ended up meeting someone to have it out face to face.

Think it might be the weather today as I've had a few dodgy messages including one guy that simply can't figure out why I don't want to meet him.

Don't loose faith OP x

"

They are a week early, 16th January is officially Blue Monday the most depressing day of the year. This could just be a warm up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"

Thats what you get really. It amuses me when people think men will suddenly change because they're on a swinging site.

No, most men here dont want to even entertain a relationship with a woman they meet on an NSA site. Hence the term...NSA.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?

Thats what you get really. It amuses me when people think men will suddenly change because they're on a swinging site.

No, most men here dont want to even entertain a relationship with a woman they meet on an NSA site. Hence the term...NSA."

Not wanting a relationship doesn't have to equal acting like a misogynistic cunt lobbing bile ridden wails of rejection at you though. I have no problem with being approached for casual sex on a site which most of the users use to do just that. I do have a problem with people acting like scummy, angry little arseholes which so many of you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On another thread a man has been referred to as a stunt cock, by a woman.

It's not just women who are treated as a commodity. "

Yeah, that's fucking gross too. Those women bear some of the responsibility for encouraging this attitude, and don't get me started on couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way?"

'Some ' men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all my years here, today was the absolute worst. I may as well have been ordered online delivered for use and then discarded.

What are we doing to men for them to behave in such a way? why not block men and search yourself."

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

just checked our overnight mail.[only 22 today ]all ok no bad vibe a lot similar in content but after reading this thread are we in a minority to get nice messages?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Swinging creates the commodities

Reduced or free entry to clubs to attract males/couples to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think it's just a general problem that respect and manners have l9ng since upped and left. Yes it's a sex site but I'm not sure why even looking at it from a safety side anyone would think you'd stop what you are doing and just rush round to have sex with someone you've never met.

I had a break off here for a few months after getting so much grief I actually ended up meeting someone to have it out face to face.

Think it might be the weather today as I've had a few dodgy messages including one guy that simply can't figure out why I don't want to meet him.

Don't loose faith OP x

"

Very interesting post... I'm not sure if I'm reading this right.. but someone hurled abuse at you until you had to meet them face to face

If I'm wrong please explain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh it is not a gender thing, I feel sometimes as a sexual comodity for some women !

I am not only a nice face you can sit on! I have feelings and needs !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do know what OP means just in the past couple of days I've had dreadful messages but luckily for me I'm quick witted and able to make that hard on very soft indeed. I don't think anything or my pics suggests I'm up for being used and abused. So GUYS a little respect for us ladies please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do know what OP means just in the past couple of days I've had dreadful messages but luckily for me I'm quick witted and able to make that hard on very soft indeed. I don't think anything or my pics suggests I'm up for being used and abused. So GUYS a little respect for us ladies please "

I think respect went out the window the minute people started making money off swinging.... once money started to be exchanged we all became customers not swingers....

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By *aisyDDWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Think it's just a general problem that respect and manners have l9ng since upped and left. Yes it's a sex site but I'm not sure why even looking at it from a safety side anyone would think you'd stop what you are doing and just rush round to have sex with someone you've never met.

I had a break off here for a few months after getting so much grief I actually ended up meeting someone to have it out face to face.

Think it might be the weather today as I've had a few dodgy messages including one guy that simply can't figure out why I don't want to meet him.

Don't loose faith OP x

Very interesting post... I'm not sure if I'm reading this right.. but someone hurled abuse at you until you had to meet them face to face

If I'm wrong please explain "

I blocked them but they continued to slag me off via their status. This was reported. I unblocked him to explain exactly why I had done. I made it perfectly clear I wasn't interested. Nothing personal about his looks just not looking for the same thing. I'm the sort of person that deals with problems head on and believe that if you have something to say you shouldn't hide behind a computer so yes went to meet him so he could call me a fake to my face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think it's just a general problem that respect and manners have l9ng since upped and left. Yes it's a sex site but I'm not sure why even looking at it from a safety side anyone would think you'd stop what you are doing and just rush round to have sex with someone you've never met.

I had a break off here for a few months after getting so much grief I actually ended up meeting someone to have it out face to face.

Think it might be the weather today as I've had a few dodgy messages including one guy that simply can't figure out why I don't want to meet him.

Don't loose faith OP x

Very interesting post... I'm not sure if I'm reading this right.. but someone hurled abuse at you until you had to meet them face to face

If I'm wrong please explain

I blocked them but they continued to slag me off via their status. This was reported. I unblocked him to explain exactly why I had done. I made it perfectly clear I wasn't interested. Nothing personal about his looks just not looking for the same thing. I'm the sort of person that deals with problems head on and believe that if you have something to say you shouldn't hide behind a computer so yes went to meet him so he could call me a fake to my face. "

Did this keyboard warrior actually show up?

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"...Very interesting post... I'm not sure if I'm reading this right.. but someone hurled abuse at you until you had to meet them face to face

If I'm wrong please explain

I blocked them but they continued to slag me off via their status. This was reported. I unblocked him to explain exactly why I had done. I made it perfectly clear I wasn't interested. Nothing personal about his looks just not looking for the same thing. I'm the sort of person that deals with problems head on and believe that if you have something to say you shouldn't hide behind a computer so yes went to meet him so he could call me a fake to my face.

Did this keyboard warrior actually show up?"

I was going to ask that. Also just to say, bloody well done. That must have taken a bit of nerve.

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By *aisyDDWoman
over a year ago

North West

Yes he turned up and still thought he was in with a chance.

I drive a van that's full of tools and chuck furniture round for a living so having a nerve isn't a problem ??

Should have asked him to verify me, slipped up there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On another thread a man has been referred to as a stunt cock, by a woman.

It's not just women who are treated as a commodity.

Yeah, that's fucking gross too. Those women bear some of the responsibility for encouraging this attitude, and don't get me started on couples "

As a guy I have to say the only people I ever get messages from that have a shitty attitude are couples. I get messages from single ladies too but can honestly say I've never had one that wasn't polite.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"Yes he turned up and still thought he was in with a chance.

I drive a van that's full of tools and chuck furniture round for a living so having a nerve isn't a problem ??

Should have asked him to verify me, slipped up there. "

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"On another thread a man has been referred to as a stunt cock, by a woman.

It's not just women who are treated as a commodity.

Yeah, that's fucking gross too. Those women bear some of the responsibility for encouraging this attitude, and don't get me started on couples

As a guy I have to say the only people I ever get messages from that have a shitty attitude are couples. I get messages from single ladies too but can honestly say I've never had one that wasn't polite. "

What this shows is that people of all backgrounds can be right gits to each other, we need to be careful not to just concentrate on what we can see in our narrow _iew and approach the issue as a whole as opposed to just berating one section.

Perspective is needed.

Do you think anyone will ever get any?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On another thread a man has been referred to as a stunt cock, by a woman.

It's not just women who are treated as a commodity.

Yeah, that's fucking gross too. Those women bear some of the responsibility for encouraging this attitude, and don't get me started on couples

As a guy I have to say the only people I ever get messages from that have a shitty attitude are couples. I get messages from single ladies too but can honestly say I've never had one that wasn't polite.

What this shows is that people of all backgrounds can be right gits to each other, we need to be careful not to just concentrate on what we can see in our narrow _iew and approach the issue as a whole as opposed to just berating one section.

Perspective is needed.

Do you think anyone will ever get any? "

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By *evilsAdvocate72Woman
over a year ago

East


"So basically you're on a sex site but upset... people messaged you looking for sex immediately "

I think it was a bit more than that....Just because we use a sex site does not give other people the right to treat us with disrespect. We're not items on a shelf that you can order when suits you, but real people with complicated lives and that needs to be taken into account.

And when I say we, I am referring to the whole community, not just the women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So basically you're on a sex site but upset... people messaged you looking for sex immediately

I think it was a bit more than that....Just because we use a sex site does not give other people the right to treat us with disrespect. We're not items on a shelf that you can order when suits you, but real people with complicated lives and that needs to be taken into account.

And when I say we, I am referring to the whole community, not just the women.

"

I get that... but if you have been on this site for a long time. These things are expected..... imagine if everyone started a thread every time they got a rude message.... I'm a guy and get can I suck you off messages daily from gay/bi/straight men. I don't moan just block.

If a guy started this thread people would say , block , report, and move on.

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