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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A bit of a rant I'm afraid guys.

I've chanced upon some free time since Friday. It's been a while so thought I'd dip my toe back in to meeting. I did the usual, browsed a few profiles, found someone that took my fancy and sent a polite personal message, chatted a while, thought I was getting to know them and agreed to meet, when it came to the time they went quiet on me or blocked me...

so I moved on...

4 times the same thing has happened now since Friday!! What am I doing wrong??

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

No idea, mate.

Every argument is a triple-edged sword.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No idea, mate.

Every argument is a triple-edged sword.

"

It's a pretty sharp and painful sword at that! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you're expecting instant gratification from strangers. not everyone wants to give you that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A bit of a rant I'm afraid guys.

I've chanced upon some free time since Friday. It's been a while so thought I'd dip my toe back in to meeting. I did the usual, browsed a few profiles, found someone that took my fancy and sent a polite personal message, chatted a while, thought I was getting to know them and agreed to meet, when it came to the time they went quiet on me or blocked me...

so I moved on...

4 times the same thing has happened now since Friday!! What am I doing wrong?? "

Probably nothing. Happens to us all. It's the other people that are the problem. Try to stick to long standing well verified members. But even then it still happens

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By *eedsandyMan
over a year ago

Leeds

It's because they are fakes. The same has happened to me. When they realise that you realise that they are fake, or you tell them, then they block you.

I just report them for being fake.

It's generally a couple's profile with no verifications, where the guy does all the talking, and where they have no photos that is a fake.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"you're expecting instant gratification from strangers. not everyone wants to give you that."

Am I? I'm glad you know what I want. I thought I was pretty chilled and just looking to meet a friendly face instead of endless messaging

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A bit of a rant I'm afraid guys.

I've chanced upon some free time since Friday. It's been a while so thought I'd dip my toe back in to meeting. I did the usual, browsed a few profiles, found someone that took my fancy and sent a polite personal message, chatted a while, thought I was getting to know them and agreed to meet, when it came to the time they went quiet on me or blocked me...

so I moved on...

4 times the same thing has happened now since Friday!! What am I doing wrong??

Probably nothing. Happens to us all. It's the other people that are the problem. Try to stick to long standing well verified members. But even then it still happens"

Thanks for the advice Jill. I'm usually quite wary of who I chat to. I don't know who to trust these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you're expecting instant gratification from strangers. not everyone wants to give you that.

Am I? I'm glad you know what I want. I thought I was pretty chilled and just looking to meet a friendly face instead of endless messaging "

what do you think instant gratification is?

clue: it's not getting to know someone yet expectign them to meet you for what you want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"you're expecting instant gratification from strangers. not everyone wants to give you that.

Am I? I'm glad you know what I want. I thought I was pretty chilled and just looking to meet a friendly face instead of endless messaging

what do you think instant gratification is?

clue: it's not getting to know someone yet expectign them to meet you for what you want."

Maybe you've not read the OP but thanks anyways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just pour yourself a drink, get the handcream out and have a wank.

Less painful and far more effective in the short run.

In the long run then the messaging malarkey works.

But you've got to be patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you're expecting instant gratification from strangers. not everyone wants to give you that.

Am I? I'm glad you know what I want. I thought I was pretty chilled and just looking to meet a friendly face instead of endless messaging

what do you think instant gratification is?

clue: it's not getting to know someone yet expectign them to meet you for what you want.

Maybe you've not read the OP but thanks anyways."

takes more than a few messages to get to know someone.

though i'm getting a feeling of why you were blocked from this few messages in here you've sent to me.

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town


"A bit of a rant I'm afraid guys.

I've chanced upon some free time since Friday. It's been a while so thought I'd dip my toe back in to meeting. I did the usual, browsed a few profiles, found someone that took my fancy and sent a polite personal message, chatted a while, thought I was getting to know them and agreed to meet, when it came to the time they went quiet on me or blocked me...

so I moved on...

4 times the same thing has happened now since Friday!! What am I doing wrong?? "

I'm laughing (sorry)

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

They were men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 in 4 days!! And I thought 3 in 3 weeks was bad!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A bit of a rant I'm afraid guys.

I've chanced upon some free time since Friday. It's been a while so thought I'd dip my toe back in to meeting. I did the usual, browsed a few profiles, found someone that took my fancy and sent a polite personal message, chatted a while, thought I was getting to know them and agreed to meet, when it came to the time they went quiet on me or blocked me...

so I moved on...

4 times the same thing has happened now since Friday!! What am I doing wrong??

I'm laughing (sorry)"

Ha ha. I guess I'll have to see the funny side too. Can't sit around feeling for myself for too long! X

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town


"A bit of a rant I'm afraid guys.

I've chanced upon some free time since Friday. It's been a while so thought I'd dip my toe back in to meeting. I did the usual, browsed a few profiles, found someone that took my fancy and sent a polite personal message, chatted a while, thought I was getting to know them and agreed to meet, when it came to the time they went quiet on me or blocked me...

so I moved on...

4 times the same thing has happened now since Friday!! What am I doing wrong??

I'm laughing (sorry)

Ha ha. I guess I'll have to see the funny side too. Can't sit around feeling for myself for too long! X"

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They were men. "

Not sure, did the usual checks:-

Verified and checked the veris of who veri'd them.

Pics weren't photoshopped.

They didn't ask for a face pic straight away.

We chatted 'normally'.

They'd been on the site a while.

Damn maybe the fakes are stepping up their game? X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A bit of a rant I'm afraid guys.

I've chanced upon some free time since Friday. It's been a while so thought I'd dip my toe back in to meeting. I did the usual, browsed a few profiles, found someone that took my fancy and sent a polite personal message, chatted a while, thought I was getting to know them and agreed to meet, when it came to the time they went quiet on me or blocked me...

so I moved on...

4 times the same thing has happened now since Friday!! What am I doing wrong??

I'm laughing (sorry)

Ha ha. I guess I'll have to see the funny side too. Can't sit around feeling for myself for too long! X

Exactly

"

Talk about silver linings. Making a beautiful woman laugh at the end of it kind of made it worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you're expecting instant gratification from strangers. not everyone wants to give you that.

Am I? I'm glad you know what I want. I thought I was pretty chilled and just looking to meet a friendly face instead of endless messaging

what do you think instant gratification is?

clue: it's not getting to know someone yet expectign them to meet you for what you want.

Maybe you've not read the OP but thanks anyways.

takes more than a few messages to get to know someone.

though i'm getting a feeling of why you were blocked from this few messages in here you've sent to me."

I can see where you're coming from, but in the OP it does say that there was (alleged) an agreement to meet. This would indicate, in part and for a short period of time, that there was a meeting of minds.

Projecting your own modus operandi and meet criteria onto a unknown individual may not provide a sound basis for criticism. However, the way that the OP conducted himself (from his opening message) would not have garnered a meet with yourself - which absolutely fair comment.

(Or all the OPs meets were in fact hairy truck drivers from Ellesmere Port called Dave).

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just pour yourself a drink, get the handcream out and have a wank.

Less painful and far more effective in the short run.

In the long run then the messaging malarkey works.

But you've got to be patient."

Ha ha ha. I think I'll have to take your advice... I wonder why they call it 'hand' cream. We all know what it's really for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"4 in 4 days!! And I thought 3 in 3 weeks was bad!

"

Yeah. It gets worse! Hope this post has somewhat eased your suffering lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"you're expecting instant gratification from strangers. not everyone wants to give you that.

Am I? I'm glad you know what I want. I thought I was pretty chilled and just looking to meet a friendly face instead of endless messaging

what do you think instant gratification is?

clue: it's not getting to know someone yet expectign them to meet you for what you want.

Maybe you've not read the OP but thanks anyways.

takes more than a few messages to get to know someone.

though i'm getting a feeling of why you were blocked from this few messages in here you've sent to me.

I can see where you're coming from, but in the OP it does say that there was (alleged) an agreement to meet. This would indicate, in part and for a short period of time, that there was a meeting of minds.

Projecting your own modus operandi and meet criteria onto a unknown individual may not provide a sound basis for criticism. However, the way that the OP conducted himself (from his opening message) would not have garnered a meet with yourself - which absolutely fair comment.

(Or all the OPs meets were in fact hairy truck drivers from Ellesmere Port called Dave). "

My brain started to melt about 3 sentences in! Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you're expecting instant gratification from strangers. not everyone wants to give you that.

Am I? I'm glad you know what I want. I thought I was pretty chilled and just looking to meet a friendly face instead of endless messaging

what do you think instant gratification is?

clue: it's not getting to know someone yet expectign them to meet you for what you want.

Maybe you've not read the OP but thanks anyways.

takes more than a few messages to get to know someone.

though i'm getting a feeling of why you were blocked from this few messages in here you've sent to me.

I can see where you're coming from, but in the OP it does say that there was (alleged) an agreement to meet. This would indicate, in part and for a short period of time, that there was a meeting of minds.

Projecting your own modus operandi and meet criteria onto a unknown individual may not provide a sound basis for criticism. However, the way that the OP conducted himself (from his opening message) would not have garnered a meet with yourself - which absolutely fair comment.

(Or all the OPs meets were in fact hairy truck drivers from Ellesmere Port called Dave).

My brain started to melt about 3 sentences in! Lol."

Just focus on the last sentence!

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

3 days isn't long, some people chat for weeks or even months before they meet for a shag.

How long are you expecting it to take from 1st message to getting your pole greased?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women insist on a social soon after talking. They aren't any different to men who ask the same. They just get treated differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"3 days isn't long, some people chat for weeks or even months before they meet for a shag.

How long are you expecting it to take from 1st message to getting your pole greased?"

And some women like to meet sooner rather than later, to save wasting time messaging. Are they desperate for a greasy pole?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't do chit chat but even I wouldn't meet the same day. I like to have a think about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Guys in not complaining about how long it takes to arrange a meet. I'm saying I've made arrangements and each time they've backed out recently. Was just wondering if others are experiencing the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You aren't doing anything wrong.

You've just been unlucky.

Look at it this way, you got to the arrange a meet stage with 3 women in 3 days, that's good going. I am taking much longer but then I'm an old bald flabby fucker with a face like a smacked arse so I take more time

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"you're expecting instant gratification from strangers. not everyone wants to give you that."

However if as the OP has said they agreed to meet and then.went quiet I'm not sure if it is valid to say he was after instant gratification :/ ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You aren't doing anything wrong.

You've just been unlucky.

Look at it this way, you got to the arrange a meet stage with 3 women in 3 days, that's good going. I am taking much longer but then I'm an old bald flabby fucker with a face like a smacked arse so I take more time "

In a non gay compliment you don't look to bad fella be a bit more confident might work...

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Elsewhere on the forums, men wail about the lack of response to messages. OP managed to get four in a row.

Hail him as the messaging guru that he is, in the hope that we may learn from his wisdom.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

How do these men find all these women to meet in such a short space of time

I'm lucky if I can find 1 guy I want to meet every 3 months, I mean I know I am fussy but come on, some people need to start thinking with their big heads now and again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"you're expecting instant gratification from strangers. not everyone wants to give you that.

However if as the OP has said they agreed to meet and then.went quiet I'm not sure if it is valid to say he was after instant gratification :/ ?"

Thank you!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Elsewhere on the forums, men wail about the lack of response to messages. OP managed to get four in a row.

Hail him as the messaging guru that he is, in the hope that we may learn from his wisdom. "

Ha ha. Obviously not quite! Lol.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Guys in not complaining about how long it takes to arrange a meet. I'm saying I've made arrangements and each time they've backed out recently. Was just wondering if others are experiencing the same."

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How do these men find all these women to meet in such a short space of time

I'm lucky if I can find 1 guy I want to meet every 3 months, I mean I know I am fussy but come on, some people need to start thinking with their big heads now and again "

There's plenty of fish in this big fab sea! It's not all looks a stellar personality goes a long way.

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