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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Umm all the other men on here..hard hat at the ready OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Umm all the other men on here..hard hat at the ready OP"

What he said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one reason may be that most women check out a profile before opening a message..if the profile doesn't appeal or the sender clearly hasnt read their profile,then there's litle point opening the message im afraid

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By *igga_manMan
over a year ago

near Reading


"Umm all the other men on here..hard hat at the ready OP

What he said"

Same as.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not meeting atm so I'm not opening my mail either I just mass delete every morning. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you should do the honourable thing and stop sending mail to give the other guys more of a chance.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"one reason may be that most women check out a profile before opening a message..if the profile doesn't appeal or the sender clearly hasnt read their profile,then there's litle point opening the message im afraid"

good point

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you should do the honourable thing and stop sending mail to give the other guys more of a chance."

lol I was hoping you would do the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why even look at your sent box? Being able to look doesn't change whether you get a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One look at some men's chosen profile name of enough to know they aren't for me. Although, I do try to reply to my mail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm honest your user name is off putting. Most women would see the name and maybe not even bother looking at your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem? "

I suspect people who don't want to be punished might delete your message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem? "

There's so many men here because as we all know. There's safety in numbers. And quite frankly, women scare the hell outa me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I'm honest your user name is off putting. Most women would see the name and maybe not even bother looking at your profile. "

I will keep that in mind

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem? "

Don't message men then!!!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Not me, most of my messages are both opened and usually replied to

There can be any number of reasons for messages not being read OP, as someone said above most tend to check the profile before reading a message, and then decide whether to read or not, so if your profile isn't up to much you might want to consider a revamp.

To be honest your username would put me off too...most women don't want to be "punished" especially by someone they've never met/conversed with.

It's not always about the volume of men to women on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem?

I suspect people who don't want to be punished might delete your message "

iam not talking about deleted message because that would mean them being not interested which they are intitled not to be. iam talking about not even getting a chance due to it not being opened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant leave a message unopened, I have to read it but that doesn't guarantee I will respond, I might just delete it and that's worse...or so I've been told

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem? "

Due to what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i could probably read and reply to all my 481 messages, should make more effort i suppose.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not me, most of my messages are both opened and usually replied to

There can be any number of reasons for messages not being read OP, as someone said above most tend to check the profile before reading a message, and then decide whether to read or not, so if your profile isn't up to much you might want to consider a revamp.

To be honest your username would put me off too...most women don't want to be "punished" especially by someone they've never met/conversed with.

It's not always about the volume of men to women on here "

a change of username is now on the cards lol thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem?

I suspect people who don't want to be punished might delete your message

iam not talking about deleted message because that would mean them being not interested which they are intitled not to be. iam talking about not even getting a chance due to it not being opened."

Unopened is the same as deleted. People aren't interested in reading it. It may be the volume they receive or as just about every reply on the thread has said your username could be a big factor in that decision

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I cant leave a message unopened, I have to read it but that doesn't guarantee I will respond, I might just delete it and that's worse...or so I've been told "

I have no problem with having a message read and then deleted you can't be for everyone. ild rather have a message read and giving a chance

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees


"If I'm honest your user name is off putting. Most women would see the name and maybe not even bother looking at your profile. "

Or see the name and not open his mail, just to punish him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm having a problem opening them. Who exactly are u annoyed at?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant leave a message unopened, I have to read it but that doesn't guarantee I will respond, I might just delete it and that's worse...or so I've been told

I have no problem with having a message read and then deleted you can't be for everyone. ild rather have a message read and giving a chance "

as already stated, change your name and you might get one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem?

I suspect people who don't want to be punished might delete your message

iam not talking about deleted message because that would mean them being not interested which they are intitled not to be. iam talking about not even getting a chance due to it not being opened.

Unopened is the same as deleted. People aren't interested in reading it. It may be the volume they receive or as just about every reply on the thread has said your username could be a big factor in that decision "

ok so in that case if it's not been read due to the volume they have been getting and have not managed to see the message or they have checked your profile before opening it how would you know the difference and know Wether to send another message at a later date incase they have not seen it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here, currently have 21 unopened/ unread message going back 6days...

I understand it must be a pain for the girls getting bombarded with messages but isn't it easier to have a clear out each time you log on? If they were opened or even deleted I'd be happy because at least it would confirm I don't stand a chance, I'm currently assuming all 21 messages could have a happy ending and the suspense is killing me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I'm honest your user name is off putting. Most women would see the name and maybe not even bother looking at your profile.

Or see the name and not open his mail, just to punish him. "

Very true lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fab needs to make it so we can't see the message before opening, we might have to look then.

i can see a full line of 'wanna suck my dick bbe xx' without opening that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm having a problem opening them. Who exactly are u annoyed at?"

there is no 1 person iam annoyed at iam talking in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem?

I suspect people who don't want to be punished might delete your message

iam not talking about deleted message because that would mean them being not interested which they are intitled not to be. iam talking about not even getting a chance due to it not being opened.

Unopened is the same as deleted. People aren't interested in reading it. It may be the volume they receive or as just about every reply on the thread has said your username could be a big factor in that decision

ok so in that case if it's not been read due to the volume they have been getting and have not managed to see the message or they have checked your profile before opening it how would you know the difference and know Wether to send another message at a later date incase they have not seen it."

Not read = Not interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I cant leave a message unopened, I have to read it but that doesn't guarantee I will respond, I might just delete it and that's worse...or so I've been told

I have no problem with having a message read and then deleted you can't be for everyone. ild rather have a message read and giving a chance

as already stated, change your name and you might get one "

definately something I will be doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't send many messages and the ones I do I can't say I actually look to see if they've been read. At the end of the day if you message someone and their interested then they will message back,no point getting hacked off at unopened messages,just part and parcel of life on Fab so wouldn't take it personally OP.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Best bet is to delete any unsolicited sent messages that way you don't have to let it bother you one way or the other

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem? "

What's your solution OP? Some sort of filtration system that reduces the overall number of men, but doesn't affect you... hmmmmm

Maybe an IQ test?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Same here, currently have 21 unopened/ unread message going back 6days...

I understand it must be a pain for the girls getting bombarded with messages but isn't it easier to have a clear out each time you log on? If they were opened or even deleted I'd be happy because at least it would confirm I don't stand a chance, I'm currently assuming all 21 messages could have a happy ending and the suspense is killing me "

lol exactly that.i sometimes feel some woman allow for the build up of messages to help there eago. does not take long to keep on top of the messages and open them reply or delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one reason may be that most women check out a profile before opening a message..if the profile doesn't appeal or the sender clearly hasnt read their profile,then there's litle point opening the message im afraid"
And most couples to!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"fab needs to make it so we can't see the message before opening, we might have to look then.

i can see a full line of 'wanna suck my dick bbe xx' without opening that."

lol very true but mine don't consist of that hens why I said 'made a effort'

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Best bet is to delete any unsolicited sent messages that way you don't have to let it bother you one way or the other"

If a person doesn't want to read/reply/delete your message, that's their choice. Delete your sent messages and stop placing so much emphasis on it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem?

I suspect people who don't want to be punished might delete your message

iam not talking about deleted message because that would mean them being not interested which they are intitled not to be. iam talking about not even getting a chance due to it not being opened.

Unopened is the same as deleted. People aren't interested in reading it. It may be the volume they receive or as just about every reply on the thread has said your username could be a big factor in that decision

ok so in that case if it's not been read due to the volume they have been getting and have not managed to see the message or they have checked your profile before opening it how would you know the difference and know Wether to send another message at a later date incase they have not seen it.

Not read = Not interested"

well not really mate not read can mean not seen due to the volume or not interested you can not always put it down to not interested where as a opened message without reply or been deleted you know you stand no chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just to confuse you even further...you cant actually tell if the message has been opened and read anyway..it may have been read, then marked as 'unread'....so really, the only option is to just delete sent messages once you have sent them thus avoiding you checking up on what you think has or has not happened to them...surely,if the message hasn't been read, replied to or whatever,its completely irrelevant whats happened to it anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First impressions can be lasting.

I'm not going to bother getting to know someone if there profile doesn't appeal to me.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem? "

Do you open and read every bit of mail that comes through your letterbox at home.. all of the flyers, adverts and catalogues. The enveloped addressed to "The Home Owner" included?

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i could probably read and reply to all my 481 messages, should make more effort i suppose. "

You lazy biatch xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem?

What's your solution OP? Some sort of filtration system that reduces the overall number of men, but doesn't affect you... hmmmmm

Maybe an IQ test?"

good point actualy maybe limited to a number of new conversations yu can start in 1 day no need to start geting cheeky mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"fab needs to make it so we can't see the message before opening, we might have to look then.

i can see a full line of 'wanna suck my dick bbe xx' without opening that.

lol very true but mine don't consist of that hens why I said 'made a effort'"

yeah was just saying, not aimed at you at all.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"one reason may be that most women check out a profile before opening a message..if the profile doesn't appeal or the sender clearly hasnt read their profile,then there's litle point opening the message im afraid"

Exactly what ^^ she said If we reply to messages we allow you to skip filters in future. I do hate not replying to some nice messages but they dont read the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read my messages but I don't reply to most as it really p*sses me off that people (mostly men) clearly having read my profile..I'm not on here looking for men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i could probably read and reply to all my 481 messages, should make more effort i suppose.

You lazy biatch xxx"

haha.

it's more than that now, i can keep up though, it's fine!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem?

I suspect people who don't want to be punished might delete your message

iam not talking about deleted message because that would mean them being not interested which they are intitled not to be. iam talking about not even getting a chance due to it not being opened.

Unopened is the same as deleted. People aren't interested in reading it. It may be the volume they receive or as just about every reply on the thread has said your username could be a big factor in that decision

ok so in that case if it's not been read due to the volume they have been getting and have not managed to see the message or they have checked your profile before opening it how would you know the difference and know Wether to send another message at a later date incase they have not seen it.

Not read = Not interested

well not really mate not read can mean not seen due to the volume or not interested you can not always put it down to not interested where as a opened message without reply or been deleted you know you stand no chance."

It is not pantomime season anymore but if you failed to make an impression with your message, then yes it does mean not interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Best bet is to delete any unsolicited sent messages that way you don't have to let it bother you one way or the other

If a person doesn't want to read/reply/delete your message, that's their choice. Delete your sent messages and stop placing so much emphasis on it."

erm you are not getting what I am saying. If you read what I've said I've stated a woman has a right to not be interested so if the message was read and not replied to or deleted at least you would no where you stand. where as if it's not been opened a man is not to know Wether you have seen it or not and you may get a further message from this guy you have no interest in amd that's another message clogging up your inbox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem?

I suspect people who don't want to be punished might delete your message

iam not talking about deleted message because that would mean them being not interested which they are intitled not to be. iam talking about not even getting a chance due to it not being opened.

Unopened is the same as deleted. People aren't interested in reading it. It may be the volume they receive or as just about every reply on the thread has said your username could be a big factor in that decision

ok so in that case if it's not been read due to the volume they have been getting and have not managed to see the message or they have checked your profile before opening it how would you know the difference and know Wether to send another message at a later date incase they have not seen it."

That is a good point and one I like as I use this as a tool to know who is really intrested in me for when I start meeting again n who is just messaging everyone. I like the repet offenders. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem? "

Would you prefer them opened,and deleted without Rey.will that make you feel better.outcome is the same really,you are no further on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem?

Would you prefer them opened,and deleted without Rey.will that make you feel better.outcome is the same really,you are no further on."

Reply*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People do realise that you can delete messages without even opening them right?? Leaving unread message because they haven't read your profile or you don't want to ever reply makes no sense???

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"just to confuse you even further...you cant actually tell if the message has been opened and read anyway..it may have been read, then marked as 'unread'....so really, the only option is to just delete sent messages once you have sent them thus avoiding you checking up on what you think has or has not happened to them...surely,if the message hasn't been read, replied to or whatever,its completely irrelevant whats happened to it anyway?"

who would mark a message as unread lol? well know because you may feel you match the other person's profile and if it has not been opened you don't know Wether it's just been missed and to maybe give it one more shot and message again with the hope it gets seen

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"First impressions can be lasting.

I'm not going to bother getting to know someone if there profile doesn't appeal to me."

well that's your problem and your choice that is not what iam saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People do realise that you can delete messages without even opening them right?? Leaving unread message because they haven't read your profile or you don't want to ever reply makes no sense??? "

yep, but it takes one more click to delete it. i cba, just like they cba.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Best bet is to delete any unsolicited sent messages that way you don't have to let it bother you one way or the other

If a person doesn't want to read/reply/delete your message, that's their choice. Delete your sent messages and stop placing so much emphasis on it.

erm you are not getting what I am saying. If you read what I've said I've stated a woman has a right to not be interested so if the message was read and not replied to or deleted at least you would no where you stand. where as if it's not been opened a man is not to know Wether you have seen it or not and you may get a further message from this guy you have no interest in amd that's another message clogging up your inbox "

No, you don't get what I've written. Stop caring if it has been opened or not. And faux concerning about another's inbox. They can choose to not read it and just leave it there. Why should they have to delete it or read it? Concentrate on your profile and you'll find you have a better time on fab instead of worrying about women receiving two unwanted messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

still don't really get the angst...why do you care? if you send a message...and its ignored/unopened,deleted whatever..then there's nothing you can do about it so i don't understand why you are worrying about it..it's a complete waste of your time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i could probably read and reply to all my 481 messages, should make more effort i suppose.

You lazy biatch xxx

haha.

it's more than that now, i can keep up though, it's fine!!!! "

Quick everyone message 3sum queen she's gettin on top. xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem?

Do you open and read every bit of mail that comes through your letterbox at home.. all of the flyers, adverts and catalogues. The enveloped addressed to "The Home Owner" included?

Cal"

that makes no sense flyers don't need opening I open every letter yes as there maybe something in there I need to know etc it takes 1 sec to open something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

as already stated, change your name and you might get one "

That's it. That's the secret?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i could probably read and reply to all my 481 messages, should make more effort i suppose.

You lazy biatch xxx

haha.

it's more than that now, i can keep up though, it's fine!!!!

Quick everyone message 3sum queen she's gettin on top. xxx"

nobody from the forums likes me so that won't work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"one reason may be that most women check out a profile before opening a message..if the profile doesn't appeal or the sender clearly hasnt read their profile,then there's litle point opening the message im afraid

Exactly what ^^ she said If we reply to messages we allow you to skip filters in future. I do hate not replying to some nice messages but they dont read the profile

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read what I've said I have no problem with my message being read and not replyed to as everyone has a right to not be interested it's the fact when the message don't even get opened and not knowing where you stand.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Some messages don't required being opened in order to read them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guilty of not even bothering to open some messages especially the one where people have messaged me before then send me messages what feels like every other day. To be honest I probably wouldn't open your message due to your user name alone. For me personally it's rather off putting from the off. I'm also guilty of sometimes ( not all) of jumping straight to profile and if it really doesn't spark any interest I also won't bother reading the message. Odds are utterly unfair I know but us woman can get bombarded with shed loads of messages daily .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem?

I suspect people who don't want to be punished might delete your message

iam not talking about deleted message because that would mean them being not interested which they are intitled not to be. iam talking about not even getting a chance due to it not being opened.

Unopened is the same as deleted. People aren't interested in reading it. It may be the volume they receive or as just about every reply on the thread has said your username could be a big factor in that decision

ok so in that case if it's not been read due to the volume they have been getting and have not managed to see the message or they have checked your profile before opening it how would you know the difference and know Wether to send another message at a later date incase they have not seen it.

Not read = Not interested

well not really mate not read can mean not seen due to the volume or not interested you can not always put it down to not interested where as a opened message without reply or been deleted you know you stand no chance.

It is not pantomime season anymore but if you failed to make an impression with your message, then yes it does mean not interested. "

have you just read what you have just said.. how can a unopened message make an impression it has never been seen so no impression has been made from the message. now if you have something useful to say I will take it on board but your cheekyness and trying to agrivate me ain't wanted

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem?

Would you prefer them opened,and deleted without Rey.will that make you feel better.outcome is the same really,you are no further on."

yes I would rather that because a deleted message tells you they are not interested amd don't bother messaging again where as a unopened message could mean 1 of 2 things so not sure weather to message again incase it's been missed.

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By *arvin35Man
over a year ago

penrith

I guess a lot of women have there profiles set so you can't tell if they've looked at you? otherwise messages I send aren't read and my profiles not checked either or what I type is a load of pish!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"one reason may be that most women check out a profile before opening a message..if the profile doesn't appeal or the sender clearly hasnt read their profile,then there's litle point opening the message im afraid

Exactly what ^^ she said If we reply to messages we allow you to skip filters in future. I do hate not replying to some nice messages but they dont read the profile

read what I've said I have no problem with my message being read and not replyed to as everyone has a right to not be interested it's the fact when the message don't even get opened and not knowing where you stand."

but as has been explained to you several times, the person may well have looked at your profile...or just your username, and decided theyre not interested...so, yes, if your message goes unread, you do know where you stand...accept it for what it is...you are wasting your time even thinking about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i could probably read and reply to all my 481 messages, should make more effort i suppose.

You lazy biatch xxx

haha.

it's more than that now, i can keep up though, it's fine!!!!

Quick everyone message 3sum queen she's gettin on top. xxx

nobody from the forums likes me so that won't work. "
bugger xxx

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Didums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Umm all the other men on here..hard hat at the ready OP"

Yes OP, we're all in the same boat on this one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess a lot of women have there profiles set so you can't tell if they've looked at you? otherwise messages I send aren't read and my profiles not checked either or what I type is a load of pish!! "

we pretty much do that yes.

look at the amount of guys who expect something for nothing on here. we have to be sneaky to avoid abuse. it's actually sad as fuck that women have to act like this. but at least we have the capacity learn quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some messages don't required being opened in order to read them "

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i could probably read and reply to all my 481 messages, should make more effort i suppose.

You lazy biatch xxx

haha.

it's more than that now, i can keep up though, it's fine!!!!

Quick everyone message 3sum queen she's gettin on top. xxx

nobody from the forums likes me so that won't work.

bugger xxx"

it's fine. my inbox goes up anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem?

Would you prefer them opened,and deleted without Rey.will that make you feel better.outcome is the same really,you are no further on.

yes I would rather that because a deleted message tells you they are not interested amd don't bother messaging again where as a unopened message could mean 1 of 2 things so not sure weather to message again incase it's been missed."

How about an unopened deleted message. xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Best bet is to delete any unsolicited sent messages that way you don't have to let it bother you one way or the other

If a person doesn't want to read/reply/delete your message, that's their choice. Delete your sent messages and stop placing so much emphasis on it.

erm you are not getting what I am saying. If you read what I've said I've stated a woman has a right to not be interested so if the message was read and not replied to or deleted at least you would no where you stand. where as if it's not been opened a man is not to know Wether you have seen it or not and you may get a further message from this guy you have no interest in amd that's another message clogging up your inbox

No, you don't get what I've written. Stop caring if it has been opened or not. And faux concerning about another's inbox. They can choose to not read it and just leave it there. Why should they have to delete it or read it? Concentrate on your profile and you'll find you have a better time on fab instead of worrying about women receiving two unwanted messages."

doe and you have some kind of problem that iam not aware of or something?stop focusing on what I care about why would you just leave a unread message there that make absolutely NO sense.. OPEN IT read it and you may like what it says ffs

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By *ire_thornMan
over a year ago

no comment

I might send a message just to compliment somebody most of the time it doesn't get opened. .. but that's fine I'm sure they may have read the very first part...

No big deal

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over a year ago

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By *aisyDDWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Why even look at your sent box? Being able to look doesn't change whether you get a reply. "

I agree with the above. Why bother upsetting yourself by checking if they've been read or deleted?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best bet is to delete any unsolicited sent messages that way you don't have to let it bother you one way or the other

If a person doesn't want to read/reply/delete your message, that's their choice. Delete your sent messages and stop placing so much emphasis on it.

erm you are not getting what I am saying. If you read what I've said I've stated a woman has a right to not be interested so if the message was read and not replied to or deleted at least you would no where you stand. where as if it's not been opened a man is not to know Wether you have seen it or not and you may get a further message from this guy you have no interest in amd that's another message clogging up your inbox

No, you don't get what I've written. Stop caring if it has been opened or not. And faux concerning about another's inbox. They can choose to not read it and just leave it there. Why should they have to delete it or read it? Concentrate on your profile and you'll find you have a better time on fab instead of worrying about women receiving two unwanted messages.

doe and you have some kind of problem that iam not aware of or something?stop focusing on what I care about why would you just leave a unread message there that make absolutely NO sense.. OPEN IT read it and you may like what it says ffs "

If you're message relate to the same aggressive way your replies do to advice being offered on here I'm not surprised they're deleted unopened!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm guilty of not even bothering to open some messages especially the one where people have messaged me before then send me messages what feels like every other day. To be honest I probably wouldn't open your message due to your user name alone. For me personally it's rather off putting from the off. I'm also guilty of sometimes ( not all) of jumping straight to profile and if it really doesn't spark any interest I also won't bother reading the message. Odds are utterly unfair I know but us woman can get bombarded with shed loads of messages daily . "

that I understand and take the username thing on board. but would you not rather make it clear your not interested by either not replying or delting and save maybe further messages from that same person?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"one reason may be that most women check out a profile before opening a message..if the profile doesn't appeal or the sender clearly hasnt read their profile,then there's litle point opening the message im afraid

Exactly what ^^ she said If we reply to messages we allow you to skip filters in future. I do hate not replying to some nice messages but they dont read the profile

read what I've said I have no problem with my message being read and not replyed to as everyone has a right to not be interested it's the fact when the message don't even get opened and not knowing where you stand.

but as has been explained to you several times, the person may well have looked at your profile...or just your username, and decided theyre not interested...so, yes, if your message goes unread, you do know where you stand...accept it for what it is...you are wasting your time even thinking about it! "

how the he'll do you know where you stand it could mean 2 things are you not understanding if it's not been opened it could mean it's just been missed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm guilty of not even bothering to open some messages especially the one where people have messaged me before then send me messages what feels like every other day. To be honest I probably wouldn't open your message due to your user name alone. For me personally it's rather off putting from the off. I'm also guilty of sometimes ( not all) of jumping straight to profile and if it really doesn't spark any interest I also won't bother reading the message. Odds are utterly unfair I know but us woman can get bombarded with shed loads of messages daily .

that I understand and take the username thing on board. but would you not rather make it clear your not interested by either not replying or delting and save maybe further messages from that same person?"

Dies the fact that you've not had a reply make it ckear?

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By *arvin35Man
over a year ago

penrith


"I guess a lot of women have there profiles set so you can't tell if they've looked at you? otherwise messages I send aren't read and my profiles not checked either or what I type is a load of pish!!

we pretty much do that yes.

look at the amount of guys who expect something for nothing on here. we have to be sneaky to avoid abuse. it's actually sad as fuck that women have to act like this. but at least we have the capacity learn quickly."

Its a shame its like that for those of us who do take the time to read someones profile and write out a thoughtfully worded message, even more so when you really would like to get to know that person but they obviously don't want to, but thats the way it is for us chaps, we have it hard!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm guilty of not even bothering to open some messages especially the one where people have messaged me before then send me messages what feels like every other day. To be honest I probably wouldn't open your message due to your user name alone. For me personally it's rather off putting from the off. I'm also guilty of sometimes ( not all) of jumping straight to profile and if it really doesn't spark any interest I also won't bother reading the message. Odds are utterly unfair I know but us woman can get bombarded with shed loads of messages daily .

that I understand and take the username thing on board. but would you not rather make it clear your not interested by either not replying or delting and save maybe further messages from that same person?

Dies the fact that you've not had a reply make it ckear?"

Was just about to say the exact same thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best bet is to delete any unsolicited sent messages that way you don't have to let it bother you one way or the other

If a person doesn't want to read/reply/delete your message, that's their choice. Delete your sent messages and stop placing so much emphasis on it.

erm you are not getting what I am saying. If you read what I've said I've stated a woman has a right to not be interested so if the message was read and not replied to or deleted at least you would no where you stand. where as if it's not been opened a man is not to know Wether you have seen it or not and you may get a further message from this guy you have no interest in amd that's another message clogging up your inbox

No, you don't get what I've written. Stop caring if it has been opened or not. And faux concerning about another's inbox. They can choose to not read it and just leave it there. Why should they have to delete it or read it? Concentrate on your profile and you'll find you have a better time on fab instead of worrying about women receiving two unwanted messages.

doe and you have some kind of problem that iam not aware of or something?stop focusing on what I care about why would you just leave a unread message there that make absolutely NO sense.. OPEN IT read it and you may like what it says ffs "

I can see why you are struggling now. Telling people how to act screams entitlement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm guilty of not even bothering to open some messages especially the one where people have messaged me before then send me messages what feels like every other day. To be honest I probably wouldn't open your message due to your user name alone. For me personally it's rather off putting from the off. I'm also guilty of sometimes ( not all) of jumping straight to profile and if it really doesn't spark any interest I also won't bother reading the message. Odds are utterly unfair I know but us woman can get bombarded with shed loads of messages daily .

that I understand and take the username thing on board. but would you not rather make it clear your not interested by either not replying or delting and save maybe further messages from that same person?"

not replying is making it clear...it doesnt really stop people messaging again anyway...only blocking does that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Best bet is to delete any unsolicited sent messages that way you don't have to let it bother you one way or the other

If a person doesn't want to read/reply/delete your message, that's their choice. Delete your sent messages and stop placing so much emphasis on it.

erm you are not getting what I am saying. If you read what I've said I've stated a woman has a right to not be interested so if the message was read and not replied to or deleted at least you would no where you stand. where as if it's not been opened a man is not to know Wether you have seen it or not and you may get a further message from this guy you have no interest in amd that's another message clogging up your inbox

No, you don't get what I've written. Stop caring if it has been opened or not. And faux concerning about another's inbox. They can choose to not read it and just leave it there. Why should they have to delete it or read it? Concentrate on your profile and you'll find you have a better time on fab instead of worrying about women receiving two unwanted messages.

doe and you have some kind of problem that iam not aware of or something?stop focusing on what I care about why would you just leave a unread message there that make absolutely NO sense.. OPEN IT read it and you may like what it says ffs

If you're message relate to the same aggressive way your replies do to advice being offered on here I'm not surprised they're deleted unopened! "

excuse me of you took the time to read properly you would see that I actualy accepted the whole change of username advise and did say I will take it on board and will be changing it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm guilty of not even bothering to open some messages especially the one where people have messaged me before then send me messages what feels like every other day. To be honest I probably wouldn't open your message due to your user name alone. For me personally it's rather off putting from the off. I'm also guilty of sometimes ( not all) of jumping straight to profile and if it really doesn't spark any interest I also won't bother reading the message. Odds are utterly unfair I know but us woman can get bombarded with shed loads of messages daily .

that I understand and take the username thing on board. but would you not rather make it clear your not interested by either not replying or delting and save maybe further messages from that same person?

Dies the fact that you've not had a reply make it ckear?"

try again that does not make sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Best bet is to delete any unsolicited sent messages that way you don't have to let it bother you one way or the other

If a person doesn't want to read/reply/delete your message, that's their choice. Delete your sent messages and stop placing so much emphasis on it.

erm you are not getting what I am saying. If you read what I've said I've stated a woman has a right to not be interested so if the message was read and not replied to or deleted at least you would no where you stand. where as if it's not been opened a man is not to know Wether you have seen it or not and you may get a further message from this guy you have no interest in amd that's another message clogging up your inbox

No, you don't get what I've written. Stop caring if it has been opened or not. And faux concerning about another's inbox. They can choose to not read it and just leave it there. Why should they have to delete it or read it? Concentrate on your profile and you'll find you have a better time on fab instead of worrying about women receiving two unwanted messages.

doe and you have some kind of problem that iam not aware of or something?stop focusing on what I care about why would you just leave a unread message there that make absolutely NO sense.. OPEN IT read it and you may like what it says ffs

If you're message relate to the same aggressive way your replies do to advice being offered on here I'm not surprised they're deleted unopened!

excuse me of you took the time to read properly you would see that I actualy accepted the whole change of username advise and did say I will take it on board and will be changing it "

Very true you did. And if you looked properly you'd see this comments ( made by me) was in response to your reply to someone else's advise

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I guess a lot of women have there profiles set so you can't tell if they've looked at you? otherwise messages I send aren't read and my profiles not checked either or what I type is a load of pish!!

we pretty much do that yes.

look at the amount of guys who expect something for nothing on here. we have to be sneaky to avoid abuse. it's actually sad as fuck that women have to act like this. but at least we have the capacity learn quickly.

Its a shame its like that for those of us who do take the time to read someones profile and write out a thoughtfully worded message, even more so when you really would like to get to know that person but they obviously don't want to, but thats the way it is for us chaps, we have it hard!"

EXACTLY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the same problem, something in my profile is obviously not helping me, I'm not in to sending fancy a fcuk messages like some prefer, I do try and stand out from the crowd, but even my polite messages are either ignored or deleted straight away!!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"I have the same problem, something in my profile is obviously not helping me, I'm not in to sending fancy a fcuk messages like some prefer, I do try and stand out from the crowd, but even my polite messages are either ignored or deleted straight away!!"

All it takes just one bad day to reduce the sanest man alive to lunacy. That's how far the world is from where I am.

Just one bad day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That was a healthy debate lol and I've took advise on board and will be making a change to my username.

But I will always stick by what I said. If you open a message and choose not to reply or delete that is fine and that way the person then know to not bother.

but if you do not bother opening but have viewed the persons profile then the person is not to know Wether your Un interested and that you have viewed his profile and chosen not to open. so they are not to know Wether your Un interested or you have just missed the message and Wether to maybe send another one just incase.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm guilty of not even bothering to open some messages especially the one where people have messaged me before then send me messages what feels like every other day. To be honest I probably wouldn't open your message due to your user name alone. For me personally it's rather off putting from the off. I'm also guilty of sometimes ( not all) of jumping straight to profile and if it really doesn't spark any interest I also won't bother reading the message. Odds are utterly unfair I know but us woman can get bombarded with shed loads of messages daily .

that I understand and take the username thing on board. but would you not rather make it clear your not interested by either not replying or delting and save maybe further messages from that same person?

Dies the fact that you've not had a reply make it ckear?

try again that does not make sense"

Are you sure, I know there's a couple of typos but it's pretty obvious what I meant.

you suggested that people don't make it clear that they aren't interested. I replied

Does the fact that you've not received a reply make it clear?

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By *ysnomiaMan
over a year ago

Preston


"If we reply to messages we allow you to skip filters in future."

Now that I didnt know. Makes it a very fair point really.

Also sent mail to a friend on here and watched it go 'unread' for about a month. Figured out it was swallowed up in amongst all the "Hey Gawjuss, wanna fuk me!" messages. So I delelted them myself, and just asked her the next time I saw her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That was a healthy debate lol and I've took advise on board and will be making a change to my username.

But I will always stick by what I said. If you open a message and choose not to reply or delete that is fine and that way the person then know to not bother.

but if you do not bother opening but have viewed the persons profile then the person is not to know Wether your Un interested and that you have viewed his profile and chosen not to open. so they are not to know Wether your Un interested or you have just missed the message and Wether to maybe send another one just incase. "

i see what youre saying but to be blunt,so what? it doesn't matter...either way,no reply is no reply. end of.just move on..it will make this all a lot less angst-ridden for you...just send the message, then delete it from your sent box as a matter of course and you'll soon see you only need to be concerned with the ones that get a reply.

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By *ysnomiaMan
over a year ago

Preston


"if you do not bother opening but have viewed the persons profile then the person is not to know Wether your Un interested and that you have viewed his profile and chosen not to open. so they are not to know Wether your Un interested or you have just missed the message and Wether to maybe send another one just incase. "
You'd know about it if you were looked at and then blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine get opened but never replied.

It must be the 126 shoes pics I send with, those never get appreciated at it should.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem?

I suspect people who don't want to be punished might delete your message

iam not talking about deleted message because that would mean them being not interested which they are intitled not to be. iam talking about not even getting a chance due to it not being opened.

Unopened is the same as deleted. People aren't interested in reading it. It may be the volume they receive or as just about every reply on the thread has said your username could be a big factor in that decision

ok so in that case if it's not been read due to the volume they have been getting and have not managed to see the message or they have checked your profile before opening it how would you know the difference and know Wether to send another message at a later date incase they have not seen it.

Not read = Not interested

well not really mate not read can mean not seen due to the volume or not interested you can not always put it down to not interested where as a opened message without reply or been deleted you know you stand no chance.

It is not pantomime season anymore but if you failed to make an impression with your message, then yes it does mean not interested.

have you just read what you have just said.. how can a unopened message make an impression it has never been seen so no impression has been made from the message. now if you have something useful to say I will take it on board but your cheekyness and trying to agrivate me ain't wanted "

I was trying to help you, not aggravate you. Your perception was incorrect.

When I receive a message, without opening it, I can see the first few lines. I look at the profile before reading the message. If the profile is of no interest to me, then I delete the message.

I am sure that many other people operate in the same way.

You are welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm assuming women do what I do, delete the thing if it doesn't look like it's worth opening. You can see the title and the first bit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm guilty of not even bothering to open some messages especially the one where people have messaged me before then send me messages what feels like every other day. To be honest I probably wouldn't open your message due to your user name alone. For me personally it's rather off putting from the off. I'm also guilty of sometimes ( not all) of jumping straight to profile and if it really doesn't spark any interest I also won't bother reading the message. Odds are utterly unfair I know but us woman can get bombarded with shed loads of messages daily .

that I understand and take the username thing on board. but would you not rather make it clear your not interested by either not replying or delting and save maybe further messages from that same person?

Dies the fact that you've not had a reply make it ckear?

try again that does not make sense

Are you sure, I know there's a couple of typos but it's pretty obvious what I meant.

you suggested that people don't make it clear that they aren't interested. I replied

Does the fact that you've not received a reply make it clear? "

no it does not because the message could of gone unread due to it being missed because of the volume of messages.. THAT IS MY WHOLE POINT

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem?

I suspect people who don't want to be punished might delete your message

iam not talking about deleted message because that would mean them being not interested which they are intitled not to be. iam talking about not even getting a chance due to it not being opened.

Unopened is the same as deleted. People aren't interested in reading it. It may be the volume they receive or as just about every reply on the thread has said your username could be a big factor in that decision

ok so in that case if it's not been read due to the volume they have been getting and have not managed to see the message or they have checked your profile before opening it how would you know the difference and know Wether to send another message at a later date incase they have not seen it.

Not read = Not interested

well not really mate not read can mean not seen due to the volume or not interested you can not always put it down to not interested where as a opened message without reply or been deleted you know you stand no chance.

It is not pantomime season anymore but if you failed to make an impression with your message, then yes it does mean not interested.

have you just read what you have just said.. how can a unopened message make an impression it has never been seen so no impression has been made from the message. now if you have something useful to say I will take it on board but your cheekyness and trying to agrivate me ain't wanted

I was trying to help you, not aggravate you. Your perception was incorrect.

When I receive a message, without opening it, I can see the first few lines. I look at the profile before reading the message. If the profile is of no interest to me, then I delete the message.

I am sure that many other people operate in the same way.

You are welcome."

yes sorry lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm guilty of not even bothering to open some messages especially the one where people have messaged me before then send me messages what feels like every other day. To be honest I probably wouldn't open your message due to your user name alone. For me personally it's rather off putting from the off. I'm also guilty of sometimes ( not all) of jumping straight to profile and if it really doesn't spark any interest I also won't bother reading the message. Odds are utterly unfair I know but us woman can get bombarded with shed loads of messages daily .

that I understand and take the username thing on board. but would you not rather make it clear your not interested by either not replying or delting and save maybe further messages from that same person?

Dies the fact that you've not had a reply make it ckear?

try again that does not make sense

Are you sure, I know there's a couple of typos but it's pretty obvious what I meant.

you suggested that people don't make it clear that they aren't interested. I replied

Does the fact that you've not received a reply make it clear?

no it does not because the message could of gone unread due to it being missed because of the volume of messages.. THAT IS MY WHOLE POINT "

but it is still irrelevant...you have no reply. That is all that is relevant.If the message has been opened, the receiver may have accidentally deleted it without reading it...you would never know...there is nothing whatsoever you can do about it so there's no point even thinking about it. Send a message,empty sent box, sit back and see what happens...i really don't see the point of wondering what may or may not have happened to your message once its been sent.If its something you have no control over ,you'll drive yourself nuts second guessing the outcome of any message you send! makes no sense at all!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm guilty of not even bothering to open some messages especially the one where people have messaged me before then send me messages what feels like every other day. To be honest I probably wouldn't open your message due to your user name alone. For me personally it's rather off putting from the off. I'm also guilty of sometimes ( not all) of jumping straight to profile and if it really doesn't spark any interest I also won't bother reading the message. Odds are utterly unfair I know but us woman can get bombarded with shed loads of messages daily .

that I understand and take the username thing on board. but would you not rather make it clear your not interested by either not replying or delting and save maybe further messages from that same person?

Dies the fact that you've not had a reply make it ckear?

try again that does not make sense

Are you sure, I know there's a couple of typos but it's pretty obvious what I meant.

you suggested that people don't make it clear that they aren't interested. I replied

Does the fact that you've not received a reply make it clear?

no it does not because the message could of gone unread due to it being missed because of the volume of messages.. THAT IS MY WHOLE POINT

but it is still irrelevant...you have no reply. That is all that is relevant.If the message has been opened, the receiver may have accidentally deleted it without reading it...you would never know...there is nothing whatsoever you can do about it so there's no point even thinking about it. Send a message,empty sent box, sit back and see what happens...i really don't see the point of wondering what may or may not have happened to your message once its been sent.If its something you have no control over ,you'll drive yourself nuts second guessing the outcome of any message you send! makes no sense at all!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes we have unopened messages as one of us has read it but puts it back to unopened, as the other one is mid conversation. Otherwise we lose track of chats.

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By *nsert user name hereMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I understand what the OP is saying the biggest issue I have is even when talking to people who are friends can take ages for replies as the messages are lost in the volume of messages received. Why I don't understand why people who don't want message from me don't just block? Always different opinions and ways of manage our own inbox. I personally think the whole message system is inadequate should be able to filter friends/spam messages etc

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"If I'm honest your user name is off putting. Most women would see the name and maybe not even bother looking at your profile.

Or see the name and not open his mail, just to punish him. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm guilty of not even bothering to open some messages especially the one where people have messaged me before then send me messages what feels like every other day. To be honest I probably wouldn't open your message due to your user name alone. For me personally it's rather off putting from the off. I'm also guilty of sometimes ( not all) of jumping straight to profile and if it really doesn't spark any interest I also won't bother reading the message. Odds are utterly unfair I know but us woman can get bombarded with shed loads of messages daily .

that I understand and take the username thing on board. but would you not rather make it clear your not interested by either not replying or delting and save maybe further messages from that same person?

Dies the fact that you've not had a reply make it ckear?

try again that does not make sense

Are you sure, I know there's a couple of typos but it's pretty obvious what I meant.

you suggested that people don't make it clear that they aren't interested. I replied

Does the fact that you've not received a reply make it clear?

no it does not because the message could of gone unread due to it being missed because of the volume of messages.. THAT IS MY WHOLE POINT "

Then message again n if still no reply n unopened/deleted take the hint. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm guilty of not even bothering to open some messages especially the one where people have messaged me before then send me messages what feels like every other day. To be honest I probably wouldn't open your message due to your user name alone. For me personally it's rather off putting from the off. I'm also guilty of sometimes ( not all) of jumping straight to profile and if it really doesn't spark any interest I also won't bother reading the message. Odds are utterly unfair I know but us woman can get bombarded with shed loads of messages daily .

that I understand and take the username thing on board. but would you not rather make it clear your not interested by either not replying or delting and save maybe further messages from that same person?

Dies the fact that you've not had a reply make it ckear?

try again that does not make sense

Are you sure, I know there's a couple of typos but it's pretty obvious what I meant.

you suggested that people don't make it clear that they aren't interested. I replied

Does the fact that you've not received a reply make it clear?

no it does not because the message could of gone unread due to it being missed because of the volume of messages.. THAT IS MY WHOLE POINT

Then message again n if still no reply n unopened/deleted take the hint. xxx"

But then you can see status cropping up saying, take the hint from the first message!!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Same here, currently have 21 unopened/ unread message going back 6days...

I understand it must be a pain for the girls getting bombarded with messages but isn't it easier to have a clear out each time you log on? If they were opened or even deleted I'd be happy because at least it would confirm I don't stand a chance, I'm currently assuming all 21 messages could have a happy ending and the suspense is killing me

lol exactly that.i sometimes feel some woman allow for the build up of messages to help there eago. does not take long to keep on top of the messages and open them reply or delete "

I had a single female profile and did try replying to all messages as fast as I was replying new ones were coming in making it hard to keep up. Also, another problem is some guys will not take no for an answer and just keep pestering, or worse, become abusive, we now check profiles before replying to messages to see if they are for us. I'm glad I no longer have it to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's quite easy OP, send your mesages then watch your inbox. If you don't get a message back, then they are not interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's quite easy OP, send your mesages then watch your inbox. If you don't get a message back, then they are not interested. "

your a bit late mate debate is over and you clearly didn't read through it otherwise you would not of said what you just did. Thank you and goodbye

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Why even look at your sent box? Being able to look doesn't change whether you get a reply. "

Deleting the sent box seems to be the simplest solution. then if a reply does come its a nice surprise.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"It's quite easy OP, send your mesages then watch your inbox. If you don't get a message back, then they are not interested.

your a bit late mate debate is over and you clearly didn't read through it otherwise you would not of said what you just did. Thank you and goodbye"

Shame debate is over

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"one reason may be that most women check out a profile before opening a message..if the profile doesn't appeal or the sender clearly hasnt read their profile,then there's litle point opening the message im afraid"

In some cases, this will be true. But, I imagine the vast majority just get 'buried/lost' because they get so many. So they never get to see them, let alone read them.

How many times have you read on status updates that they've done a mass delete or they've deleted all their messages by mistake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus!! Just run your profile how you see fit. Does it really matter what anyone else does on here?

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Oooh here's something that's a new subject and makes a refreshing change.... Oh wait ...

Q.. Op, how do you know they didn't open them read then Mark as unread.

Q.. op. If this is causing you angst why send messages ...why not let the ladies come to you..

I'm off to find a new and refreshing subject ...have fun.

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By *ihimbiherCouple
over a year ago

lightwater

We LOVE deleting messages without reading them.....really gets to the piont we feel.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"It's quite easy OP, send your mesages then watch your inbox. If you don't get a message back, then they are not interested.

your a bit late mate debate is over and you clearly didn't read through it otherwise you would not of said what you just did. Thank you and goodbye"

****** thread closed by original poster, replies not to their liking.******

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's quite easy OP, send your mesages then watch your inbox. If you don't get a message back, then they are not interested.

your a bit late mate debate is over and you clearly didn't read through it otherwise you would not of said what you just did. Thank you and goodbye"

Phew that's good, was the outcome positive? or do I have to read it all myself to find out?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


" no need to start geting cheeky mate "

If you thought I was, then you've misread what I wrote...

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"your a bit late mate debate is over and you clearly didn't read through it otherwise you would not of said what you just did. Thank you and goodbye"

I apologise to all for posting after this - I confess that I didn't scroll all the way down before my previous response.

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By *heBlueEyedBBWWoman
over a year ago

Berkshire


"one reason may be that most women check out a profile before opening a message..if the profile doesn't appeal or the sender clearly hasnt read their profile,then there's litle point opening the message im afraid"

This plus if you're bad at inbox management they disappear of the page. So you can't see them unless you get round to deleting the newest ones or easily lost if you have a convo going back and forward.

Timing and luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had the exact same problem also not had a lot of meets. Could any of u lovely ladies out there shed some light as us men no it all matters about what u girls think x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem? "

People do check the profile first before opening the message. If they like the profile, there's a higher chance that the message will be opened. Just something to think about

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"iam getting a bit tired of making a effort to send messages and them not even getting opened due to there being so many men on here. Who else is having this problem?

People do check the profile first before opening the message. If they like the profile, there's a higher chance that the message will be opened. Just something to think about "

something to think about yes

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