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By *r.nice94 OP   Man
over a year ago

ferryhill

Why do you have to have 100s of veris to get a meet is it something in my profile I just don't no! I have pics on request and want to meet a regular. Thanks for anyone who gives advice on this matter happy fabbing x

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Hi op,i would say the lack of pics on your profile could hold you back.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Management of expectations is probably where you're going wrong.

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By *r.nice94 OP   Man
over a year ago

ferryhill


"Hi op,i would say the lack of pics on your profile could hold you back.

Miss"
thanks for the reply I have pics on request and send them as I message somebody confused.com X

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By *r.nice94 OP   Man
over a year ago

ferryhill


"Management of expectations is probably where you're going wrong."
I appreciate everyone's opinion but in this case I think your wrong and I don't mean that rudely because I respect anyone who tries to help! I cannot get a meet with anyone and have been on this site a while now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your text would put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op you asked for advice and don't seem to really be listening.

If you think there's nothing wrong with your profile then maybe it's the messages you send.

Why don't you give us an indication as to what you would send in a first message and describe the type of pics you attach.

(Note... 100s of veris don't get u meets.. but one might help)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, if it's not the expectations then it's got to be in your approach or your profile. These are things you can change and control. Look at those instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi op,i would say the lack of pics on your profile could hold you back.

Miss thanks for the reply I have pics on request and send them as I message somebody confused.com X"

And how many people request pictures? You don't need to show a face one but having some on show probably will help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah profile text and no pictures, would put us off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being to nice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your whole profile is so negative. So it's all off putting.

At least have 2 pictures for people to view, and open up with bits about your site and not that you don't want to fuck the whole site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you aren't getting the results you require perhaps you should change your approach?

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By *r.nice94 OP   Man
over a year ago

ferryhill

Thanks for the advice guys I no I might sound ungreatful for the responses but I really do appreciate each one! I will put some pics available on my profile for people to view! I don't have a certain message that I would send to each women. What aspects in my profile do you think I could improve on x

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton


"Hi op,i would say the lack of pics on your profile could hold you back.

Miss thanks for the reply I have pics on request and send them as I message somebody confused.com X"

I'm not gonna look on your profile and ask for a photo on the off chance that you might be fit, so don't have time for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice is simple.....

A person should reflect on the one common denominator in each of their repeated failures....

The answer is usually found closer to home rather than being due to extenuating circumstances.....

Failing that, shave your legs and buy a frock...

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

You've not asked for profile advice OP, so I can't offer any, but take a look at it from a female perspective and ask yourself would you be interested?

Does it have some well taken public pictures that show your body off (they don't have to be face pics and nor should they be a bunch of cock pics)?

Does your profile blurb sell you well, clearly laying out what you can offer and what you hope to get out of the site? Does it differentiate you from others or is it just the same tired cliches that every other profile uses?

Once you've done that amend your profile as necessary, and then remember just because this is a swinging site, it doesn't mean it's guaranteeing anything, and it takes time and patience, and you need to stand out from the crowd.

As a 51 year old has been, who doesn't have a ripped Adonis like body, I do ok, so if I can, anyone can!!

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Management of expectations is probably where you're going wrong."
nice way of putting it thing there's a lot of that going on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did this, i came here and asked for advice. I took all advice as a positive and changed my profile to reflect this. If you are going to counter advice with a negative then it wasnt worth asking. Change things about your profile appropriately, lets face it you have nothing to lose

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Hi op,i would say the lack of pics on your profile could hold you back.

Miss thanks for the reply I have pics on request and send them as I message somebody confused.com X

I'm not gonna look on your profile and ask for a photo on the off chance that you might be fit, so don't have time for that."

This entirely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the advice guys I no I might sound ungreatful for the responses but I really do appreciate each one! I will put some pics available on my profile for people to view! I don't have a certain message that I would send to each women. What aspects in my profile do you think I could improve on x"

No public photos, stark profile. I wouldn't know whether we would have anything in common and I wouldn't bother trying to find out when there are more informative and attractive ones to explore.

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By *r.nice94 OP   Man
over a year ago

ferryhill

Thanks everyone again I have taken your advice and started making changes to my profile and will be adding more pics for public viewing at some point today sorry if I upset anyone for not agreeing with them but most of you are right in what you are saying and my profile is to dull and that I don't have enough pics x

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By *ysnomiaMan
over a year ago

Preston

Some people dont value cam verifications very highly either. Are there any socials around your area you could get to, or go to a club to meet others?

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Advice from another male

Change your preference age, would you really shag a 90 year old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also you have to face the fact that on here there are plenty of guys for ladies to choose from.

You may make your profile the best it can be and send the best messages you can possibly write, but there are still going to be plenty of good looking, ripped and charming guys competing with you for attention and the majority of the time you will lose out. I know from experience!

Following the advice you've been given here will just give you the best chance of occasionally being the lucky one who catches the eye, but don't expect miracles!

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