FabSwingers.com forum: Dating advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Had some good advice from you fabbers previously so will see what you think.

Met a fantastic lass and persistence has sort of paid off in that she's sent unsolicited naughty pics and in a phone chat revealed some pretty surprising things that wouldn't be out of place on a fet night at a club.

Now we've met but about a month ago ( in a very vanilla and professional way) and chatted on the phone -

I'm trying to get her to meet for a no pressure social but she can be quite elusive.

I'm wondering if she's just exercising a fantasy over text or if she's interested. She says she wants to meet up but it's the mixed signals that's confusing me.

I'm willing to be very patient but don't want to seem like giving her an ultimatum

Advice would be appreciated

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say you have met... do you meen met or made a phone call?

If you actually met for a social a month ago then nothing more, I would be inclined to let it drift away cos that's how it seems to be going anyway.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes we actually met in person and chatted on the phone the other day for over an hour at 3-4 AM - not planned and without being able to put it all down in writing mixed signals just leaves me confused

If I left her alone for a bit then she always responds first -

By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Have you considered just being upfront and honest with her?

I really like you, and would like us to go out on a date. Would that be ok?

Good luck, OP x

By *indandfireCouple
over a year ago

ashbourne

"Have you considered just being upfront and honest with her?

I really like you, and would like us to go out on a date. Would that be ok?

Good luck, OP x"

Precisely stop dithering and just think of somewhere that would be nice to go and ask her out directly. If she says yes then that's great. If she dithers and puts you off, you are wasting your time.