FabSwingers.com forum: If you're bi, be bi don't lie.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Only put my profile public again today and the messages have been coming. I can't comment on every single situation obviously as I've only experienced this 6 times so that's less than 1% of the site. I'm not branding all guys the same but, had some guys message me and when I've checked their profile and seen they're bi or bi curious I've said I'm not into bi guys, not my thing. These guys have then turned round and said along the lines that they aren't really bi or they've never done anything, it's like why lie? If that's your thing do it and own it. Anyone else come across the same, people that are willing to dump their values or beliefs just to get some minge?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. It's a common occurence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Anyone else come across the same, people that are willing to dump their values or beliefs just to get some minge?"

Are you new here?

Seriously this happens all the time - and not just from men, either!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get the opposite. We only meet bi folk. The number of "straight" profiles professing to be bi is astounding.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Sadly people lie about allsorts,age,sexual preferences ,marital status.Its easy to do online and if it gets people meets ,they will try it on.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We get the opposite. We only meet bi folk. The number of "straight" profiles professing to be bi is astounding."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Anyone else come across the same, people that are willing to dump their values or beliefs just to get some minge?

Are you new here?

Seriously this happens all the time - and not just from men, either!

I haven't had my filters off for a long time, also I haven't actually responded to people to tell them the reasons, at the moment I'm responding to every message so seeing how quickly people will dump their preferences is quite a new thing for me!

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"We get the opposite. We only meet bi folk. The number of "straight" profiles professing to be bi is astounding."

This for us too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Anyone else come across the same, people that are willing to dump their values or beliefs just to get some minge?

There is a name for people like that... it's an annagram of E M N. Casual sex, horny good looking woman, what's not to go for?

Anyhow Bi means both, so in this example no values or beliefs would be harmed in pursuit of minge.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Also should I put on my profile that I'm looking for marriage so guys know what I want before they message or will that just get me guys saying they'll marry me in exchange for sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also should I put on my profile that I'm looking for marriage so guys know what I want before they message or will that just get me guys saying they'll marry me in exchange for sex? "

Dont tell them, just arrange a social next to the registry office, and turn up in a wedding dress

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Also should I put on my profile that I'm looking for marriage so guys know what I want before they message or will that just get me guys saying they'll marry me in exchange for sex? "

Both..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also should I put on my profile that I'm looking for marriage so guys know what I want before they message or will that just get me guys saying they'll marry me in exchange for sex? "

I would imagine you may get some replies stating that the engagement ring is in the post if there's a chance of a 'blowie'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel profiles containing intentionally dishonest sexuality declarations are an insult to every site member

I've never head an excuse for it that remotely resembles a valid reason....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also should I put on my profile that I'm looking for marriage so guys know what I want before they message or will that just get me guys saying they'll marry me in exchange for sex? "
You really think this a suitable site to look for marriage? Men will tell you almost anything for sex. I think you are better off trying relationship sites, speed dating etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel profiles containing intentionally dishonest sexuality declarations are an insult to every site member

I've never head an excuse for it that remotely resembles a valid reason....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel profiles containing intentionally dishonest sexuality declarations are an insult to every site member

I've never head an excuse for it that remotely resembles a valid reason....

Totally agree, I also have no issues with bi males in a group situation, I just tell them I am not, never yet been a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I have a single male profile on here, I don't encounter the same issues per se given that I don't receive too many messages.

Mind, for some unknown reason I received quite a few messages from guys after first setting the profile up (and not activating filters) asking me to have a bit of fun, despite there being no hint or trace of me being anything other than straight on my profile. Some people just like to take a chance to see if it will work, I guess ...

I'm sure the needle in the fab haystack is out here somewhere for you my lovely x

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

"Only put my profile public again today and the messages have been coming. I can't comment on every single situation obviously as I've only experienced this 6 times so that's less than 1% of the site. I'm not branding all guys the same but, had some guys message me and when I've checked their profile and seen they're bi or bi curious I've said I'm not into bi guys, not my thing. These guys have then turned round and said along the lines that they aren't really bi or they've never done anything, it's like why lie? If that's your thing do it and own it. Anyone else come across the same, people that are willing to dump their values or beliefs just to get some minge?"

Get it all the time guys mashing me saying there no ,then I check there profile it says there straight ,if there ashamed to admit it I'm not interested

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

Get it all the time guys mashing me saying there no ,then I check there profile it says there straight ,if there ashamed to admit it I'm not interested

Grrrr spell check that's msging and bi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys for fuck sake, Always read the profile before messaging. Change your sexuality and preferences to suit.,( remembering that Tv's are men) Hide any veri's. Then fuck her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys for fuck sake, Always read the profile before messaging. Change your sexuality and preferences to suit.,( remembering that Tv's are men) Hide any veri's. Then fuck her.

Dont go giving the game away... increases competition

OP would be interesting to see if your faf messages dropped off if you did mention marriage for minge in your profile, I suspect not much...

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

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I don't

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Guys for fuck sake, Always read the profile before messaging. Change your sexuality and preferences to suit.,( remembering that Tv's are men) Hide any veri's. Then fuck her.

Dont go giving the game away... increases competition

OP would be interesting to see if your faf messages dropped off if you did mention marriage for minge in your profile, I suspect not much...

I have a 100% fail rate for messages I've sent in 2017. I'm only comfortable being the respondent now, I'd never send a FaF message!

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By *heBlueEyedBBWWoman
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Also should I put on my profile that I'm looking for marriage so guys know what I want before they message or will that just get me guys saying they'll marry me in exchange for sex? "

Try it and see

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I'm bi and proudly so, would never dream of changing that just to fit a profile, just as I would never message someone whose profile implicitly said they were not looking for bi guys.

Have had messages from "straight" guys that make it clear they're anything but straight and most of my "Looked At Me's" are from straight men.

Have no interest in taking things further though, if they're covering that up, what else are they hiding?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys for fuck sake, Always read the profile before messaging. Change your sexuality and preferences to suit.,( remembering that Tv's are men) Hide any veri's. Then fuck her.

Dont go giving the game away... increases competition

OP would be interesting to see if your faf messages dropped off if you did mention marriage for minge in your profile, I suspect not much...

I have a 100% fail rate for messages I've sent in 2017. I'm only comfortable being the respondent now, I'd never send a FaF message! "

I was thinking more of the faf messages you receive, I am sure with your pics you get a fair few.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't contemplate when your straight tell it, out of the gate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Works the other way too. Some ladies seem to feel it necessary to claim the are bi when they absolutely are not. Be proud of your sexuality and own it with honesty whatever flavour of fabber you are, there's room for all of us on this funny little planet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see what difference it makes if you hook up with a guy who is bi so it seems a mute point to me.

I am bi but if I decide to have sex with someone my orientation makes no difference to that specific interaction. If I met with a couple and I knew the woman involved is not bi then I would not do anything to compromise that.

I don't agree with people lying about it but when you are discriminated against for something irrelevant it probaby makes lying seem like a more attractive option.

I also don't think there is enough choice on here in terms of selecting your orientation and I can't be bothered to have to put a long explanation on my profile. I more usually describe myself as hetro-flexible. I am primarily attracted to men, and in general I prefer a man to a woman. However, I have had amazing sex with women. I have mainly had encounters with women as part of a couple. I am happy and confident in this side of my sexuality so I don't consider myself bicurious anymore. To me bicurious is for people who have only had limited experience or confidence and are not 100% sure if they are bisexual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bi and proud here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't see what difference it makes if you hook up with a guy who is bi so it seems a mute point to me.

I don't agree with people lying about it but when you are discriminated against for something irrelevant it probaby makes lying seem like a more attractive option.

To not sleep with someone because they're bi is not discrimination, if I didn't give someone a job because they were bi, that would be discrimination, but my fanny, my rules. I ain't sucking the dick of a guy who has had a better blow job from another guy. I want to be the best giver of pleasure he's ever had, I'd take the Pepsi challenge over any bird but I can't compete with men. Men have willys, men have prostates, men know how to do perfect wank strokes.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

" I want to be the best giver of pleasure he's ever had, I'd take the Pepsi challenge over any bird ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if u don't know either way will it effect you while having sex

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"I don't see what difference it makes if you hook up with a guy who is bi so it seems a mute point to me.

I don't agree with people lying about it but when you are discriminated against for something irrelevant it probaby makes lying seem like a more attractive option.

If you ask a bi man, though, they would tell you its about the individual experience, not if its a man or woman doing these things. Its not a competition between men and women ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If I was messaged by a guy describing himself as straight but he wanted sex with me as a bi man, I'd more than likely decline. It happens more often that you'd imagine. Gods know why. Plenty of fitter men on here than me. It's weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get that you have your own sexual preferences.

But what the fuck have somebody else's preferences got to do with you?

Not once have I ever thought to check with somebody as to whether they've ever had sex with certain other types of people. If we fancy each other, I don't care.

This is just another prejudice dressed up as a 'preference'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I get that you have your own sexual preferences.

But what the fuck have somebody else's preferences got to do with you?

Not once have I ever thought to check with somebody as to whether they've ever had sex with certain other types of people. If we fancy each other, I don't care.

This is just another prejudice dressed up as a 'preference'. "

There we are then.

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