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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I understand it's different for everyone and you have to learn what works for you but no matter how many times or how brutally honest I am with a guy about what works and what doesn't, I am still unable to cum.

I'm jealous of women who are able to squirt or even just cum every time.

Instead of going through the site and continuing with shite meets, I come to you women for advice. If possible, can you list a man from this site that has given you mind blowing sex, truly something else.

Everyone exaggerates on the verifications so I can't believe those anymore.

If not a name, then a trick that works?

Thankyou

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Not sure about the not being able to cum part, but I thought 'squirting' is a euphemism for peeing?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Not sure about the not being able to cum part, but I thought 'squirting' is a euphemism for peeing?"

It doesn't really appeal to me.

But.

Have you ever had an orgasm, and if so how?

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

know you are in control of your own arousal and orgasm. its as much a head space as any form of stimulation x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"know you are in control of your own arousal and orgasm. its as much a head space as any form of stimulation x"

No matter how much I try and get into it and try force it or just let my body take over, I still can't manage to finish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure about the not being able to cum part, but I thought 'squirting' is a euphemism for peeing?"

I will leave you to the fallout on that one, this time...

OP, your quest is futile, I am the world's second most skilled lover, but only when I am with the world's most skilled lover, when we are both in the right mood.

You need the partner that works with you, in the right environment, and the right moment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not sure about the not being able to cum part, but I thought 'squirting' is a euphemism for peeing?

I will leave you to the fallout on that one, this time...

OP, your quest is futile, I am the world's second most skilled lover, but only when I am with the world's most skilled lover, when we are both in the right mood.

You need the partner that works with you, in the right environment, and the right moment."

If people can get off from quickies then I shouldn't need a whole arrangement just to cum

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"know you are in control of your own arousal and orgasm. its as much a head space as any form of stimulation x

No matter how much I try and get into it and try force it or just let my body take over, I still can't manage to finish"
do you hold your breath? sounds silly but a lot of people hold their breath and it stops them from finishing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop focusing on the orgasm and enjoy the physical sensations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never squirted OP but I enjoy sex as much as the next woman and I don't always cum either! I can make myself cum in no time but alot of men seem to struggle with this as they think you're a robot and can just cum caus they've played with or licked your clit. Takes abit more than that for me.

As for the squirting issue of is it cum or is it piss? That's been discussed many times on here so I really don't know but I think I'm more swayed to think it's piss from what's been said. If that's true then I'm glad I don't squirt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only a very good tongue or my bullet can make me cum and it can take a while. I've never been able to cum during actual sex no matter how good it's been. Squirting - I used to think was fake or peeing!! Until I let my husband do what he wanted with his fingers inside of me

I can't even do that one to myself and he's the only one who's ever managed to get me to do it. But... Cuming, I highly recommend the bullet! It's only me that can do it too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are 3 or 4 things that can cause an orgasm and 3 or 4 thousand things that can stop it. (numbers are made up) it is largely to do with your head space, As Joe said can you cum? if so, doing what? tell some one what to do during is a sure fire block, perhaps telling someone what to do 3 weeks before you meet may work so long as you are not focused on it at the time, may work...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't hold my breath no, I've heard that too as I used to.

I don't focus on it, it just never happens. It takes a long time to make myself cum anyway (at least 30 minutes I think), but even if we're having good sex for a long time, nothing

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By *ere2pleasureUMan
over a year ago

Kington

Hi OP. Great sex that leads to orgasm isn't just about the sex, it's about the mind being in a place where you feel comfortable with the person you're with. Wanted and desired by them and that the partner wants to pleasure you, not just fulfil their want.

I often find I can't climax, but that the intimacy with someone else is the purpose of the meet, a climax being a bonus.

I wish you well and hope that you find the person with whom you can enjoy such intimacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"know you are in control of your own arousal and orgasm. its as much a head space as any form of stimulation x

No matter how much I try and get into it and try force it or just let my body take over, I still can't manage to finish do you hold your breath? sounds silly but a lot of people hold their breath and it stops them from finishing x"

Could be that or you are not letting go, I use to date a girl who tried to delay her orgasm so when she came she would come really hard, so much so that when she came she would have multiple ones but sometimes due to her holding back she ended up with a migraines and we would have to stop and go again after a few hours. I might be wrong but maybe you just need to relax trust in your body and just let go

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Alot of people are mentioning intimacy being key, Im not talking about just people from here. Past relationships too, where I have been with them a couple years. I've been totally comfortable and intimacy was never an issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi OP. Great sex that leads to orgasm isn't just about the sex, it's about the mind being in a place where you feel comfortable with the person you're with. Wanted and desired by them and that the partner wants to pleasure you, not just fulfil their want.

I often find I can't climax, but that the intimacy with someone else is the purpose of the meet, a climax being a bonus.

I wish you well and hope that you find the person with whom you can enjoy such intimacy."

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Stop focusing on the orgasm and enjoy the physical sensations. "

^This, I have had several long term relationships, and it has taken sometimes weeks for either of us to reach a proper orgasm, but it has been worth the wait

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"I don't hold my breath no, I've heard that too as I used to.

I don't focus on it, it just never happens. It takes a long time to make myself cum anyway (at least 30 minutes I think), but even if we're having good sex for a long time, nothing "
id read up and practice tantric breathing by yourself..energy including sexual energy can get blocked and stopped.. practice can identify and clear those channels plus its an added skill with a partner, where tantric state which is not about orgasm , which might actually take the focus off of them as the 'goal' xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"know you are in control of your own arousal and orgasm. its as much a head space as any form of stimulation x"

I've had mind blowing sex and it starts in the mind every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried to be one on one with a lady and see if she can help you achieve that orgasm? Some times being with the right women is so intense it will blow your mind which in turn leads to the most amazing orgasm. I can't speak for the guys though.

Try changeing positions throughout and find that one that's right for you.

Maybe restriction like being on bed restraints? I'm not talking bdsm just being restricted and blindfolded, this can help heighten other senses whilst playing?

Really hope you find the one who helps you achieve.

Mrs s x

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Wank more, know thy self...basically.

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