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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you have self-acceptance for who you are and how did you manage to get to this place.. I'm struggling too..

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I've never cared for anyone's acceptance.

But that's come from years of training myself not to give a shit what other misinformed people might think because I'm only responsible to myself and the people I love. I can't control other people, only myself.

Everyone else?

Fuck 'em.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"I've never cared for anyone's acceptance.

Everyone else?

Fuck 'em."

* form an orderly queue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly, yeah. I don't know how I got here, I've always been quite accepting of myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I do.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Learning to love yourself is the hardest thing you'll ever do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I love myself, that is why I go to the gym, to look good

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Yes I love myself, that is why I go to the gym, to look good

*whispers*

Old age!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Yup. Honesty mostly I think... with myself and with others. I don't pretend to be someone I'm not. I accept myself along with my strengths and weaknesses and I'm lucky to have people in my life who do the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting there OP

The older I get the more I learn to trust myself and being here has made a difference as well.

I'd like to get to the stage DJ is at though as the thought sits well with me. Focus on what you can influence and change and let others focus on themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I love myself, that is why I go to the gym, to look good

*whispers*

Old age!

"
Yes *flexes his musles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God no, I'm my own worst critic. But I'm slowly learning to be kinder to myself. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not completely, no. It's quite the ongoing project.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"I make do."

That's not the same thing as wanking, Lib

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far more comfortable with myself now than I was when Younger

Older and wiser maybe..

Feck them gyms as well.. Get outside!.. Cycle, run and swim.

(not allowed to misbehave at football anymore)

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By *cduck and Blue eyesCouple
over a year ago

nr chester

Age, for me anyhow, as I'm growing in age, I'm growing in confidence and self acceptance, I worry less about others opinions, if negativity is a way of life for some then so be it, but for me it's the positive route all the way from now on, and if I should happen to come across a pothole, then I just paint on a smile until I've passed it

Mrs blues eyes

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

Not sure if Love is the right word but I am What I am,

No am not Gloria Gaynor

I still don't like seeing pictures of myself and could of done more with my life , But I have morals and always try and do the right thing,

That will have to do for now,

Fuck this am having a beer to much deep thinking for a Saturday night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went polyamorous and did a degree as a mature student.

I've become confident and self-assured. It's lovely.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

In some ways i do in some ways i dont, if im having a bad day or just over tired i can feel bad about myself. I quite often feel guilty as i have got older about mistakes i made even though it wasnt always my fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you have self-acceptance for who you are and how did you manage to get to this place.. I'm struggling too..

Absolutely not. Self loathing is one of my defining characteristics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont know if id use the word love but im happy with me and as the saying goes....what other people think of me is none of my business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Low self esteem

Never feel I'm good enough

Body conscious

How the fuck I survive on here is beyond me!

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Do you have self-acceptance for who you are and how did you manage to get to this place.. I'm struggling too..

Oh yes. I've always known who I am. I've also always known I was a little different to the norm. As I've got older I've really begun to accept that and enjoy it. It's a wonderful feeling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never cared for anyone's acceptance.

Everyone else?

Fuck 'em.

* form an orderly queue

Strongly Agree

...

and bollox to you too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very low on confidence mainly after many years of verbal abuse and put downs etc but I'm slowly dragging myself out and have gained a little more confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's taken me years to accept and be at peace with myself.

You'll get there. Be kind and forgiving to yourself OP X

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Too fucking right I do.

If more people did, it would be a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I went polyamorous and did a degree as a mature student.

I've become confident and self-assured. It's lovely."

I finally did a degree as a mature student and yes, gained a lot more confidence and self-assuredness from it, but as I continued further into the whole rabbit warren of academia I realised just how little I knew, which started to chip away at it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do.. how can I expect someone else to love what I have if I don't?!

So what I'm not a gym bunnie.. I am a big woman with curves and wobbly bits and good bits and not so good bits.. but if people don't like it.. they can always look the other way.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Do you have self-acceptance for who you are and how did you manage to get to this place.. I'm struggling too..

Yes I do, over the years I've realised that as long as I can face myself and my loved ones nobody else's acceptance matters.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Is there a reason you struggle to accept yourself? Have you done something you regret or is it that you feel you're not worthy of acceptance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy and confident with myself. I am who I am, and people either like me or they don't. I won't change just to please others.

There are things physically about myself that I hate, but I can't change them so I don't worry about them.

You need to learn to love yourself from the inside then you'll shine on the outside too.

That's what I've achieved over the years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes mostly I do love myself although I still can get quite anxiety driven n then I get frustrated with myself.

I certainly love the woman I've become. Xxx

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By *aptivatingWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Most of us do our best to treat other people the way that we would like to be treated? When did you last do that for yourself? When did you last grant yourself the same kindness you would for a stranger you'd just met? When did you just laugh off a petty fault of yours and think "oh me, I'm such a ****" in the same way you might if it were someone you loved? Appreciate yourself, be kind to yourself, believe you are worth enough to treat yourself the way you would like to be treated. The things that you are struggling with, ask yourself how you'd feel if it were a friend, or family member, would you still love them? Would you still be there for them? Do you not deserve that too?

I've many faults, but I'm also one of the kindest, most intelligent and loving people I know, I'm proud to be me, exactly as I am and yes I do love myself.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

As has been said, age has helped. I'm more comfortable being me now than in my 20-30s.

However, I disagree a little about ignoring everyone else's opinions.

Obviously ignore people that don't know you. But good friends are helpful in reminding you about your best aspects, and at times your worst!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you have self-acceptance for who you are and how did you manage to get to this place.. I'm struggling too..

Yes I do, over the years I've realised that as long as I can face myself and my loved ones nobody else's acceptance matters."

My mother will never accept me for who I am and yes it hurts. I'm not sure it hurts any less or any more but now I'm able to deal with it better and mostly ignore her. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I went polyamorous and did a degree as a mature student.

I've become confident and self-assured. It's lovely.

I have started to specialise in a field that very few people are doing, so every day that I sit down and write (I'm currently writing my MRes thesis) it brings me joy to know what I'm writing something genuinely different and exciting, and that might even end up on the syllabus of undergrad students. I was written off as stupid at school, so I just get so much happiness from doing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too fucking right I do.

If more people did, it would be a good thing."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

l live between a duality of narcissism and insecurity. l love myself but also hate myself at times.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Do you have self-acceptance for who you are and how did you manage to get to this place.. I'm struggling too..

Yes I do, over the years I've realised that as long as I can face myself and my loved ones nobody else's acceptance matters.

My mother will never accept me for who I am and yes it hurts. I'm not sure it hurts any less or any more but now I'm able to deal with it better and mostly ignore her. Xxx"

I think that shows you accept yourself

My mum doesn't accept certain aspects of how I am but I'm ok with that because I accept myself.

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

I've spent most of my life struggling with social interaction and feeling I don't fit in. It's hard to feel there's something 'wrong' with you when despite being very aware of not wanting to hurt/upset anyone, or seem rude, you often manage to do so nonetheless even though that's anathema to you ... it's even harder to hear yourself described as 'weird', stuck up or 'hard work' or to feel on the outside, looking in, so to speak.

However ... in the last few years, I've begun to feel much better about myself as I've come to understand through a variety of sources that having a brain like mine which maybe sometimes works differently to the 'norm' isn't the same as being willfully 'wrong', if that makes sense? I'm even starting to like my individuality ... I don't know if I'll ever *love* myself but I can honestly say hand on heart that I do my best to be a 'decent' person in all walks of life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you have self-acceptance for who you are and how did you manage to get to this place.. I'm struggling too..

Someone has to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've spent most of my life struggling with social interaction and feeling I don't fit in. It's hard to feel there's something 'wrong' with you when despite being very aware of not wanting to hurt/upset anyone, or seem rude, you often manage to do so nonetheless even though that's anathema to you ... it's even harder to hear yourself described as 'weird', stuck up or 'hard work' or to feel on the outside, looking in, so to speak.

I could have written this post! I was diagnosed with aspergers 2 years ago and suddenly it all made sense.

Nell

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By *eoffinthecityMan
over a year ago

Wigan

Do I love myself?

Regularly. Probably a little too often to be healthy...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I went polyamorous and did a degree as a mature student.

I've become confident and self-assured. It's lovely.

This is awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think self-acceptance is a delusion. Life has to many permutations, you're constantly challenged by external events that shape and alter your world _iew and make you question yourself. My _iew is just keep heading for the clearest horizon and never look back.

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By *obwithkiltMan
over a year ago

Belton

do i love myself?

there are occasions when I am happy in mind and body and do actually think yeah I'm ok..

then there are others when I struggle to believe that i can do the things i do and have done well for so long ....I begin to doubt my self worth...i'm no good, i'm a failure, why are they watching me, what am i doing wrong now,nothing is going right...I have had counselling sessions on and off since i was in my late teens..authority figures were put on a pedestal, in work i was first in last to leave and everything in between...this caused many a family argument.....when I was very ill from work placed bullying i completely detoxed, was pulled through the wringer and i came out the other side more assertive, more in control, calmer...all went to shit when i split up with ex-wife but I had friends who believed in me when I didn't....i revisited all the things i had used before and built upon them..i changed career to something i wanted to do not just fall in to like before, I volunteered for projects that i would not have dreamed of doing ...I started to believe in myself and like myself...yeah there are days when i think i'm a bit of a dick but i kick myself and step up....i have more confidence now..being on here has made that grow even more...still can't chat up ladies in the real world but hey-ho......yeah i kinda like me all the time and love me every now and then....

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I've never cared for anyone's acceptance.

Everyone else?

Fuck 'em.

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Yes please

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Not really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do mindfulness taught me how to accept myself with compassion

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