FabSwingers.com forum: Are you unselfish sexually?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some men would take a bj without giving anything in return (it seems a common request in messages). Some women would just lie there and let the guy do all the work.

I like to think I give as I receive, how about you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more of a taker than a giver, but the men I've met have tended to enjoy that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think it's a good mix! Sometimes I just want to lay and take what is given to me

and other times I'd do the same. And other times it's let's both do as much as possible! (Well this is when I have a man in my bed, it's quite rare but when it does happen, see above! Lol)

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Depends on the person, the mood and the situation.

Or maybe what's been agreed beforehand.

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

I always get more pleasure from pleasing others I'm an engineer so always make sure everything works like clockwork.

I should put that on my cv I'm an engineer of pleasure lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both like to give as we like to impress at first then later on make take but we will always give. It's only polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the person, the mood and the situation.

Or maybe what's been agreed beforehand.

I guess historically it's around 50/50 except a fairly long relationship with someone who didn't give oral.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

I'm very unselfish....I let everyone else have all the sex while I sit at home twiddling my thumbs and watching old footage of One Man and His Dog on YouTube.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very selfish here. Just do stuff to me until i cum, then wipe me down and put the telly on.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Give and receive in some sort of equal measure, not really into folk that have the mindset that sex is something thats just done to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the person and such.

But generally speaking, when I think about it, I tend to be a giver when it comes to oral but a taker when in comes to sex. I like doggy better than being on top, so I don't see that changing anytime soon.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It all depends. I can be very good at giving but equally good at knowing what I need and influencing to ensure I'm satisfied. A lot of the skill is about selecting wisely initially. We all make mistakes but can also have positive surprises too with partners

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

I'm a giver, perhaps my new year ressie should be to be selfish...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy giving over receiving. Love seeing the look of pleasure on a woman's face! My own pleasure can be taken care of later on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I'm very giving and adore pleasuring a guy.

I can be fecking greedy too though.

I'm half n half

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By *onygirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Huntingdon

I much prefer giving, never really enjoyed receiving oral anyway so happy if it's just me doing it

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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100% a taker

Tried to give and got pulled off and thrown over the bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer to give. At my happiest knowing that I am helping someone towards an orgasm however they want me to be involved

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Some men would take a bj without giving anything in return (it seems a common request in messages). Some women would just lie there and let the guy do all the work.

I like to think I give as I receive, how about you?"

I just like to lie there and think of Bonn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to be a giver. Ladies are capable of cumming more than once and it's important that my partner is satisfied. Taking time and enjoying teasing really turns me on. Even been known to say before we start that this session is just about her and her alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

69'r all day no1 misses out then an every ones happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is anyone really going to admit to being a selfish fucker?!

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By *exy penWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

I like to be taken but I also like to give oral and most things a guy wants so a bit of both and I always let a guy know wat i like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love giving Oral to a woman for a long time but also really enjoy just laying back and getting sucked off too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know what I am. I'll do my research and get back to this one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me personally I love to hear a woman moaning with pleasure as much as i enjoy receiving when we play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a giver, but I genuinely love giving head, so it doesn't feel too much like a chore. I'll always make them repay the favour, though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a giver

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep..i am a massive giver..i really get off on oral and rimming..drives me nuts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm more of a taker than a giver, but the men I've met have tended to enjoy that. "

I'm a giver

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I get as much pleasure out of knowing I'm pleasuring someone as I do out of being pleasured so yes I'm a giver I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep being a giver is popular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With all these givers out there it's a good job there are some takers or you'd all be left frustrated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep being a giver is popular

Us Brits are far too polite!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my heavens its much more fun to.share the pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very unselfish here.

I actually get a stronger cum from getting the lady off first. It turns me on so much knowing that I'm making her cum.

Only then will I allow myself to be emptied.

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By *heRealMccoyMan
over a year ago

london

I'm selfish with some,, especially the ones who like to ride and Twerk!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With all these givers out there it's a good job there are some takers or you'd all be left frustrated

It does seem from this thread that giving is rather more popular than one would think....however, I have to say that on the meets I've been on this tends to be the case. When I first started playing with women, they seemed far more willing to give than I had expected. And it takes a lot of effort to convince the guys we meet that I don't want them to go down on me. So, at least in my opinion, what is professed seems to meet with my actual experience. I find it interesting because it doesn't fit with my expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With all these givers out there it's a good job there are some takers or you'd all be left frustrated

I've certainly never experienced the guys who won't give oral or just want a blowjob

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By *ourHotSpotMan
over a year ago

Horny Hornchurch

Im more of a giver than a reciever. There's nothing more satisfying for me, knowing ive given the ultimate pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the man & how we both feel.

I look back on one meet where I was very much the taker, he kind of steered it that way & I lapped up the attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give a lot because I enjoy it and get off on her reactions.

So I'm the one being selfish, yes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With all these givers out there it's a good job there are some takers or you'd all be left frustrated

It's all bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am a giver

b it male or female am wiv I Jst love to please

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Psychologically, when I was in my early 20s I was terrified of confronting a man's body so I took more than I gave, then I was in a relationship with my first serious girlfriend when I was 20/22 and I got upset when I felt I didn't give her as much as she gave me, sexually.

Luckily I've worked a lot on that, and I'm more interactive now but I'm also comfortable with laying back and concentrating on my own pleasure and exploration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mutual pleasure here

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

His pleasure is my pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quiet controlling sexually and the best way to be in control is by being the one to give out orgasms.

I always get better oral after iv giving a woman a good knee shaker with just my mouth.

U have to give quality to receive quality that's my take on it

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By *ire_thornMan
over a year ago

no comment

"Some men would take a bj without giving anything in return (it seems a common request in messages). Some women would just lie there and let the guy do all the work.

I like to think I give as I receive, how about you?"

Orally, I'd rather give

And top, bottom or from behind it don't matter as long as all parties involved are having a good time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I give a lot because I enjoy it and get off on her reactions.

So I'm the one being selfish, yes?"

No, not if you read my original post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I(mr)enjoy just pleasuring ladies without expecting anything back if I do then that's just an added bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive had meets where ive insisted i dont wanna be touched and id just give a tit wank/bj/hand job then leave

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I like being restrained on occasion so sometimes I have no choice but to be selfish. I try and make up for it though when I can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to be equal. I give just as much as I take.usually more orally

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I don't care about my sexual pleasure, it's always about partner's pleasure. I am so very selfless in my sexual pleasuring... so selfless.

And very picky.

Am I top swinger yet

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

50 50 makes for good sex. Yeh I agree most men are selfish that's why I limit my meets to make sure we're fully compatible. Met some right mares off here though so selfish it's ridick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever takes our fancy, at the time. I do get bored with men when they don't get involved though. It gets boring when they lay still and don't do much. I end up doing the same or go to sleep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't care about my sexual pleasure, it's always about partner's pleasure. I am so very selfless in my sexual pleasuring... so selfless.

And very picky.

Am I top swinger yet"

No you're not, you fibber

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"I'm a giver, but I genuinely love giving head, so it doesn't feel too much like a chore. I'll always make them repay the favour, though... "

You could of course just have someone else doing that at the same time.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I don't care about my sexual pleasure, it's always about partner's pleasure. I am so very selfless in my sexual pleasuring... so selfless.

And very picky.

Am I top swinger yet

No you're not, you fibber

ffs......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me sex is a two way thing, it's all about giving and receiving. If you both put effort in then you both reap the rewards.

Do some women really just lie back?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some men would take a bj without giving anything in return (it seems a common request in messages). Some women would just lie there and let the guy do all the work.

I like to think I give as I receive, how about you?"

Im not a selfish lover but I can honestly say I have met alot of selfish men. They love the blow jobs, you riding them, you doing all sorts of things to them and they cum and think nothing of pleasuring the women to orgasm. I dont mind if its a quickie, it cant be helped sometimes.

I have to say it happens mostly with younger guys ive met. I think because im older and experienced, they think im only there to give them a good time. Im afraid far too often I have given in and just pleasured them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is anyone really going to admit to being a selfish fucker?! "

I am completely this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me sex is a two way thing, it's all about giving and receiving. If you both put effort in then you both reap the rewards"

This pretty much reflects my attitude, I'm definitely a giving lover though so have had a few women lie back and take advantage! The best meets without doubt have a good balance of mutual satisfaction though.

I do think age and maturity come into it though, I've found some younger women are surprised when you want to give them something in return!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is anyone really going to admit to being a selfish fucker?! "

I am pretty selfish but I specifically aim to meet men who are into that.

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By *obwithkiltMan
over a year ago

Belton

I would say on the whole I'm a giver.. Occasionally a taker... Think I need to do a research study before giving a final conclusion....anyone like to help... Purely for academic studies, honestly

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I think I've got bipolar bedroom syndrome.

I'm all kinds of lover depending on who I'm with. Different people offer different styles, preferences, they do their thang their way. I choose who I share my time with depending on the experience I want at the time.

How awesome though when someone you click with wants to try new things so you get all the different lovers rolled into one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love giving,like receiving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always used to be a giver, but now I would say it's 50/50. My bf loves giving me pleasure it turns him on so very much so even though I'm getting pleased he is getting pleased by watching my reaction x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me sex is a two way thing, it's all about giving and receiving. If you both put effort in then you both reap the rewards.

Do some women really just lie back?!"

Yes they do...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ive had meets where ive insisted i dont wanna be touched and id just give a tit wank/bj/hand job then leave "

Let's swap details

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me sex is a two way thing, it's all about giving and receiving. If you both put effort in then you both reap the rewards.

Do some women really just lie back?!

Yes they do..."

Have we met?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep one of my very few good traits. Years of practice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me sex is a two way thing, it's all about giving and receiving. If you both put effort in then you both reap the rewards.

Do some women really just lie back?!

Yes they do...

Have we met?

Not yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep one of my very few good traits. Years of practice

That said I'd love the opportunity to be more selfish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't understand guys who take but don't give oral. Easily one of the hottest thing is to make a woman orgasm using your mouth. Would like to think that I'm selfless. Doesn't feel right if the lady doesn't have fun too!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I give as good as I get. I don't think I've met anyone that's selfish in bed yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't care about my sexual pleasure, it's always about partner's pleasure. I am so very selfless in my sexual pleasuring... so selfless.

And very picky.

Am I top swinger yet"

You didn't mention that it's not about looks, its about personality..

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I like a combination of both

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

Definetly a taker - nothing better than receiving oral when the sports on

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