FabSwingers.com forum: Crossing a line.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There's a thread on Mumsnet titled 'Swinging' (I came across it by accident - honest gov

) regarding a woman who has been tipped off that her husband has been cheating via a swinging website.

A couple of people from this site have stated they are on here and given credence to the fact that there are many married men (and women) playing away on here.

Fair enough, nothing so far has been said that's unreasonable or untrue. Some of the other posters have replied with shock/horror. Again not anything we haven't heard before.

However, a couple of the posters that are also members here have offered to 'do some digging' on this site to aid the OP.

Whatever your views on married men/women playing away I think that to try to expose someone on here as a member of this site is very wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Yep, agree. Mind one's own business, live and let live spring to mind....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because Mumsnet is the very bastion of fair and reasoned thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hmmm very interesting.. will follow this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree

Unfortunately there will always be those sad nosy fuckers who really need to get a life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if the same sort of thing would happen on pistonheads. Haha. Btw I think it's wrong too.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Discretion is the better part of valour.

I have met a few ladies off here who would sooner their husband/partner didn't know

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I agree

Unfortunately there will always be those sad nosy fuckers who really need to get a life."

Couldn't have put it better myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree that what happens on Fab, stays on Fab. I don't think anybody has the right to be anyone else's conscience for them. I know that there are a myriad of reasons why someone might look elsewhere for sex, and for me, so long as they are up -front about their relationship status, so I can make my own decision to play or not, then the rest is up to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some people must think themselves to be something really special to go searching and outing people this way - out of order - i mean you will ever really know for sure what peoples backgrounds are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reply on the mumsnet feed that you think they're out of order and so do some others on here ~ and then logoff as fast as you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do they get out of it some sort satisfaction in proving it poking their noses in, I wouldn't want to meet people like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it funny that there might be people who use both websites... I would have thought both sites attracted polar opposite types of people... my understanding is that the Mumsnet "mafia" are as narrow minded and judgmental as they come. So following on from that, they'd see no issue with infiltrating the fab ranks. Privacy, discretion, and the right to one's own life choices aren't in the Mumsnet t's & c's

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I saw a profile not long ago,it was set as a single woman and the text said "not meeting,just here to catch someone out".So I think it probably does happen,not sure why people on mums net would decide to expose people,but doesnt seem fair.

Miss

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

"I find it funny that there might be people who use both websites... I would have thought both sites attracted polar opposite types of people... my understanding is that the Mumsnet "mafia" are as narrow minded and judgmental as they come. So following on from that, they'd see no issue with infiltrating the fab ranks. Privacy, discretion, and the right to one's own life choices aren't in the Mumsnet t's & c's

Hey - I use both sites - Mumsnet has a huge variety of forums and contrary to popular belief it's *not* all about potty training, knitting and whingeing about your child not getting into your preferred school. Being open minded sexually and having an interest in the rest of the world isn't mutually exclusive you know

Admittedly, Mumsnet has been referred to as a 'nest of vipers' and, like any forum, there are undoubtedly horribly judgemental and bullying types on there, but largely speaking, the bigoted and ridiculous stuff usually gets shouted down. It can actually be an extremely supportive place, in all sorts of ways ...

... but like any large forum there are also a huge number of attention seeking fantasists. Time and again, compassionate users have given their time (sometimes their money) to the most genuine sounding of trolls .... and if for no other reason, I think it'd be very unwise to offer to go digging here on the basis of a thread from someone you know nothing about (no verifications on Mumsnet!) and who may have their own reasons for concocting such a tale.

If it's true, why get involved in someone else's drama ? Having read that thread the woman concerned has already seen enough to be 99% certain she's been lied to and cheated on ... what she does next with that info is up to her - getting more info from a member here won't alter what she already knows.

And, regardless of the opinions we each have about cheating, and our own personal situations, surely we all want to feel secure here and hope that other members won't abuse any info they can see about us ? (regardless of how we may or may not feel 'morally superior' to other Fabsters). It kind of goes against the grain to cast judgement on someone else IMO and supply potentially damaging info about them to a non-Fab third party - even if done with the best of intentions - because you just don't know what kind of damage doing that could cause

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mumsnet? Not a milf dating site then, pity.

Trust forms a large part in the interaction between members on sites such as this. The risk of exposure will only make said members more wary and less trusting of each other. No good can come of this despite what mumsnet might think.

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By *annylickerMan
over a year ago

Chester-le-Street

I'm married and on here without other half knowledge of it.

There are reasons behind why I'm on here, but most of the time I get polite no or blocked.

Think it's ridiculous that someone has posted something on mumsnet about this, nearly as bad as posting on faceache

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Hate cheaters...man or woman....but guess when your on any site your privacy is gone to some extent and these things will happen and no doubt some will be ousted as they deserve to be in my eyes as rhey just take away the option from the other half of the relationship to make a choice openly and honestly as to if they still want to be with that person that cheats on them....cheating takes that oportunity away from them..but I would never oust anybody.

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By *heBlackPantherCouple
over a year ago

Guilford

"There's a thread on Mumsnet titled 'Swinging' (I came across it by accident - honest gov

) regarding a woman who has been tipped off that her husband has been cheating via a swinging website.

A couple of people from this site have stated they are on here and given credence to the fact that there are many married men (and women) playing away on here.

Fair enough, nothing so far has been said that's unreasonable or untrue. Some of the other posters have replied with shock/horror. Again not anything we haven't heard before.

However, a couple of the posters that are also members here have offered to 'do some digging' on this site to aid the OP.

Whatever your views on married men/women playing away I think that to try to expose someone on here as a member of this site is very wrong."

Indeed. Discretion must go without saying. Fab is not for policing people's lives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hate cheaters...man or woman....but guess when your on any site your privacy is gone to some extent and these things will happen and no doubt some will be ousted as they deserve to be in my eyes as rhey just take away the option from the other half of the relationship to make a choice openly and honestly as to if they still want to be with that person that cheats on them....cheating takes that oportunity away from them..but I would never oust anybody."

Hate is such a powerful word. The circumstances for each person will vary and as Jesus said let he who is without sin cast the first stone, at that point a big boulder dropped out of the sky and wiped out Mary magdelen to which Jesus turned his eyes towards the heavens and exclaimed sometime just sometimes dad you piss me right off?

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