FabSwingers.com forum: Dating site observation..

By *ifferent69 OP Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

Take it or leave it....

Often you hear people say " when I find someone special its the person I wish to be with not what they do or what they earn "

Yet register with most date sites , what occupation you do is key some even your income ???

Sense a bit of hipocracy there, would,nt it nice to find out once you,ve started chating or dating ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been on a dating site..

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I only ever dated people who earn less than me ... until Mr came along

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

most dating sites work of stereotypical psychology so there hit and miss ratio is statistically improved for revenue..

im odd, a misfit. trying to squish myself into their templates would seriously mislead the other 'users' but then dating sites aren't there for the users, they are there for profit and so for them, the templates work to their advantage..think about it x

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Zero interest in someone's income. Too independent to care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes income is relevant.

If you wanna meet someone to go on holidays with and weekends away etc.... no one on the dole is gunna fund that are they?

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By *uriousTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

You fall in love with the person, not their wallet, but it in reality a Director may have little in common with say a shelf stacker, and as my mate found out, the more well off soon get pissed off funding every single trip out! Even if they aren't being used, it can feel like it

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By *aptivatingWoman
over a year ago

Chester

The only relevance for me is if they earn way outside of my income and only like "the finer things". I've always been the highest earner in all but one relationship, and either way round hasn't bothered me as we've been within 10k or so of each other.

I think the only time it would is if they wanted to go for dinner at places that cost my social budget for the next month. I am definitely a pay my own way kind of girl, so that would be a bit of a deal breaker for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dating websites were not about when I was in a position to be dating, however if I was to be dating again I imagine having a similar income level and career aspirations would be more beneficial to finding common ground and interests to potentially start a relationship. I think I'd get fed up if my partner was often saying they didn't have money to do different things and likewise I'd feel uncomfortable if they earned considerably more than me and I couldn't pat my own way. It's slightly different in my marriage now as one of us doesn't work but we started off on equal footings.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

it deepends on the dating site and why you are there.

when I tried internet dating many moons ago in my first year -second year of uni.

you find people will or may say that but their actions don't reflect what they say. And I saw an reach article which started the above (just need to find where I found it).

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By *ifferent69 OP Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

"most dating sites work of stereotypical psychology so there hit and miss ratio is statistically improved for revenue..

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By *ifferent69 OP Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

Another thing to consider surely....

Is I,m not sure I,d be happy if my potential partner had chosen me for my occupation,because ( like many) my work persona is quit different from my private character.

Surely its the private person you,ll spend most time with in a relationship...?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Education and occupation are relevant questions on a dating site but income is private IMO. Mind you I'd love a rich boyfriend for a change, mine are always paupers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might not be about income but more about someone's work ethic ?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It's dating... you want as much compatibility as possible.

People asking for similar levels of compatibility 'just for sex' on here so why would you expect less when you're looking for a long term relationship?

I don't want someone who feels either intimidated by my job roles and salary or that they can treat me like a meal ticket.

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By *ifferent69 OP Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

All valid points..

Moving on, I wonder with internet so prevalent in peoples lives now ,that do stranger encounter at bars,clubs actually happen anymore.

Or is now pointless unless you,ve internet chating for short period..??

Then even if you have are you not setting yourself for disappointment cos you,ve built up a pre- conceived image prior to meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All valid points..

Moving on, I wonder with internet so prevalent in peoples lives now ,that do stranger encounter at bars,clubs actually happen anymore.

Or is now pointless unless you,ve internet chating for short period..??

Then even if you have are you not setting yourself for disappointment cos you,ve built up a pre- conceived image prior to meeting."

i think internet dating is hard, and can be a bit stupid.

now we tend to look for the whole package straight away, and hardly anyone is going to be that imo.

before internet dating i don't think people were settling because they had less choices but they would meet someone, be attracted and see potential for a relationship maybe, than date and stay together.

but if someone isn't everything you want straight away now then you can leave something good because you think there's a possibility of finding more than that out there.

sating yourself instantly isn't how humans are supposed to be i think?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Isn't single life attractive, when you come across this stuff, as a non-conformist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Zero interest in someone's income. Too independent to care. "

I don't need a man ... I want a man ... huge difference...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me to even consider letting someone in. They would have to be extraordinary ,giving up on my freedom to a certain extent, I love my single life the way it is. Being with someone means giving up some of your "habits" and compromising.

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