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"Oh there it is hi lovely i really enjoy wax play but don't think its classed as bdsm (Kat) xx" good evening xx is it classified as a 'fetish' Kat? | |||
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"Oh there it is hi lovely i really enjoy wax play but don't think its classed as bdsm (Kat) xxgood evening xx is it classified as a 'fetish' Kat?" . I'm not sure to be honest I'm still new to all this xx | |||
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"Normal hello. hello lovely james, how are you this evening? x"I'm good, bit peckish. The Christmas holiday is almost over! Happy East 17! How the heck are you? x | |||
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I'm good, bit peckish. The Christmas holiday is almost over! Happy East 17! How the heck are you? x"eating cheesecake,,i'm good..alls well in my world xx | |||
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I'm good, bit peckish. The Christmas holiday is almost over! Happy East 17! How the heck are you? xeating cheesecake,,i'm good..alls well in my world xx"Excellent. x | |||
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I'm good, bit peckish. The Christmas holiday is almost over! Happy East 17! How the heck are you? xeating cheesecake,,i'm good..alls well in my world xx
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"Evening......again!!hello lovely xx" As I said before, I'm not a lover of pain, so not sure if BDSM is for me, but it is something I've thought about trying. I guess you need to find someone you can trust. | |||
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"Good evening Suzy et al. Xxhi LLL. lovely to see you, how was your day? x" A lovely day thanks. Finally hit the sales (not for long though) now relaxing, perving, munching and finishing off the wine. | |||
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"Oh there it is hi lovely i really enjoy wax play but don't think its classed as bdsm (Kat) xxgood evening xx is it classified as a 'fetish' Kat?. I'm not sure to be honest I'm still new to all this xx terminology is sooo tricky isnt it?.. ". Yeah think I need a book swingers guide to everything xx | |||
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"Hello special interest watersports also had wax dripped on my n8pples " is this fetish play as like a session on its own, or is it more part of a whole 'scen' if you will..including sexdual activity.. im really interested because i know alot of people play, with no sexual stuff at all x | |||
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"Good evening. This came around quick! Wasn't it just New Year's Eve?" hey mr alleycat..time flies and waits for no man x | |||
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"Hello special interest watersports also had wax dripped on my n8pples " . Wax play is fun (Kat) xx | |||
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"I did say I would love to find me a sadist you did..local you wanted didnt you? xx"Preferably xx | |||
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"Evening......again!!hello lovely xx As I said before, I'm not a lover of pain, so not sure if BDSM is for me, but it is something I've thought about trying. I guess you need to find someone you can trust." I have found in the many years I've been involved pain is enjoyed only by a relatively small amount of people.. | |||
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"Evening......again!!hello lovely xx As I said before, I'm not a lover of pain, so not sure if BDSM is for me, but it is something I've thought about trying. I guess you need to find someone you can trust." Trust is key to any of this | |||
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"Evening......again!!hello lovely xx As I said before, I'm not a lover of pain, so not sure if BDSM is for me, but it is something I've thought about trying. I guess you need to find someone you can trust." i spoke before of sensation play being a very wide spectrum where altered state, the body immersed in endorphins, take the recipient into a calm and dreamy state..i think a lot of people dont see the build up in play, they see a people in full on mode and assume thats how it started out.im not saying pain isnt desired by some, buit i would say 1 its not the only way to get into that 'sub space' and two everyone has their own bandwidth of tolerance for anything..and that includes everyone. everyone has limits to begin with. trusting another enough to stay within your defined boundaries is the thing definitely, people however change and evolve all the time, what once was eeeek becomes just nice and so soft limits can be explored with consent and trust x | |||
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"Good evening Suzy et al. Xxhi LLL. lovely to see you, how was your day? x A lovely day thanks. Finally hit the sales (not for long though) now relaxing, perving, munching and finishing off the wine. "hope you got something nice and glad you can put your feet up this evening x | |||
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"Oh there it is hi lovely i really enjoy wax play but don't think its classed as bdsm (Kat) xxgood evening xx is it classified as a 'fetish' Kat?. I'm not sure to be honest I'm still new to all this xx terminology is sooo tricky isnt it?.. . Yeah think I need a book swingers guide to everything xx"maybe after 6 months we will be able to compile one xx | |||
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"Cone past sleepy and love you loads x " ahhh bless you gorgeous,, close your sleepy eyes and rest and dream well..love you too xx  xx | |||
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"Oh there it is hi lovely i really enjoy wax play but don't think its classed as bdsm (Kat) xxgood evening xx is it classified as a 'fetish' Kat?. I'm not sure to be honest I'm still new to all this xx terminology is sooo tricky isnt it?.. . Yeah think I need a book swingers guide to everything xxmaybe after 6 months we will be able to compile one xx ". who know maybe we could xx | |||
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"hi Susy , i know many will think, this a silly question, but were does kinkish stop and bdsm start. I am not into pain or humiliation but find wrist restraints, blind folds, light spanking, playing with feathers quite exciting." i wrote about not knowing, about maybe how one identifies oneself, with personal association ..i dont know the definitive answer i only have where i feel i am, and what i call that. what would you call the activities you do? | |||
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"Evening......again!!hello lovely xx As I said before, I'm not a lover of pain, so not sure if BDSM is for me, but it is something I've thought about trying. I guess you need to find someone you can trust. Trust is key to any of this
Completely agree re: trust, but experience and skill/technique, its a grey area.....I did not mean grey as in........well you know what I mean" | |||
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"Evening......again!!hello lovely xx As I said before, I'm not a lover of pain, so not sure if BDSM is for me, but it is something I've thought about trying. I guess you need to find someone you can trust. I have found in the many years I've been involved pain is enjoyed only by a relatively small amount of people.."  | |||
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"hi Susy , i know many will think, this a silly question, but were does kinkish stop and bdsm start. I am not into pain or humiliation but find wrist restraints, blind folds, light spanking, playing with feathers quite exciting.i wrote about not knowing, about maybe how one identifies oneself, with personal association ..i dont know the definitive answer i only have where i feel i am, and what i call that. what would you call the activities you do?" i probably would call it light kink | |||
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"Fwiw, I'm always looking for women and men who are into the harder end of the spectrum of BDSM. Bisexual/gay a requirement - *unless* you're offering something exceptionally unusual or skillful with BDSM." is that for scening or for a more long term dynamic or do you just see how it goes? x (another good topic, how D/s dynamics evolve) x | |||
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"hi Susy , i know many will think, this a silly question, but were does kinkish stop and bdsm start. I am not into pain or humiliation but find wrist restraints, blind folds, light spanking, playing with feathers quite exciting.i wrote about not knowing, about maybe how one identifies oneself, with personal association ..i dont know the definitive answer i only have where i feel i am, and what i call that. what would you call the activities you do?" actually Susy your answer has made me thing is there a blog or files that help new people with the start of their journey? | |||
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"Hi Suzy, Firstly, great thread and also great idea on the BDSM forum. Thanks for driving this forward. Although we love swinging we've also developed a real enjoyment of BDSM along the way. I (Jam - male half) am perhaps unusual as although I identify as a dom I am not a sadist. I don't enjoy inflicting pain as such. However, PB enjoys receiving it and I love that I can provide these sensations as well as pleasure. I also enjoy the control aspect of being a dom (I am perhaps also a little OCD). However, in everyday life PB is not submissive to anyone (myself very much included) and so we've had to learn how to transition from one dynamic to another. Anyway, we'd never try to push our BDSM side on anyone but we would love to chat to people who would be interested in combining swinging and BDSM more. Happy new year all. - Jam" hi jam and thank you..i see Doms and Subs as just being unique people, who have managed to find a dynamic that works for them with compatible preferences with another x i am also not sub in the world, but it has unlocked a lot of latent femininity, which is what i wanted to feel in the first place.. in a power exchange handing over my masculine energy, structure, decisions, fretting, analysis. has allowed me to know what female power isolated is like so i could find or acknowledge that in myself. x i expect everyone is different though, this is just my journey x thank you for sharing xx | |||
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"I'm so confused?! " seriously its not you..just go with what is 'now' xx | |||
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"Oh there it is hi lovely i really enjoy wax play but don't think its classed as bdsm (Kat) xxgood evening xx is it classified as a 'fetish' Kat?. I'm not sure to be honest I'm still new to all this xx terminology is sooo tricky isnt it?.. . Yeah think I need a book swingers guide to everything xxmaybe after 6 months we will be able to compile one xx . who know maybe we could xx"its a good thought..xx | |||
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"Fwiw, I'm always looking for women and men who are into the harder end of the spectrum of BDSM. Bisexual/gay a requirement - *unless* you're offering something exceptionally unusual or skillful with BDSM.is that for scening or for a more long term dynamic or do you just see how it goes? x (another good topic, how D/s dynamics evolve) x" Both/whatever. In generally very flexible. | |||
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"I'm so confused?! seriously its not you..just go with what is 'now' xx" I'm kinky, obvs. 16 years pro and lifestyle. It's ruddy good fun. | |||
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"Evening......again!!hello lovely xx As I said before, I'm not a lover of pain, so not sure if BDSM is for me, but it is something I've thought about trying. I guess you need to find someone you can trust.i spoke before of sensation play being a very wide spectrum where altered state, the body immersed in endorphins, take the recipient into a calm and dreamy state..i think a lot of people dont see the build up in play, they see a people in full on mode and assume thats how it started out.im not saying pain isnt desired by some, buit i would say 1 its not the only way to get into that 'sub space' and two everyone has their own bandwidth of tolerance for anything..and that includes everyone. everyone has limits to begin with. trusting another enough to stay within your defined boundaries is the thing definitely, people however change and evolve all the time, what once was eeeek becomes just nice and so soft limits can be explored with consent and trust x" A calm and dreamy state sounds good, I get very stressed, so maybe it'd help me relax. | |||
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"Oh there it is hi lovely i really enjoy wax play but don't think its classed as bdsm (Kat) xxgood evening xx is it classified as a 'fetish' Kat?. I'm not sure to be honest I'm still new to all this xx terminology is sooo tricky isnt it?.. . Yeah think I need a book swingers guide to everything xxmaybe after 6 months we will be able to compile one xx . who know maybe we could xxits a good thought..xx". we could call it the lives times and vocabulary of a swinger xx | |||
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"Evening......again!!hello lovely xx As I said before, I'm not a lover of pain, so not sure if BDSM is for me, but it is something I've thought about trying. I guess you need to find someone you can trust. Trust is key to any of this
Completely agree re: trust, but experience and skill/technique, its a grey area.....I did not mean grey as in........well you know what I mean"hi feliz good to see you..yes i feel access to good demos isnt included in this scene..shame maybe some socials based on kink for newbies could be arranged..not everyone wants to go to a fet club or a munch, because they just want a little bit of something..not feel they have to join the whole scene.. i think some instruction would give people confidence, doms and subs, lessen bad experiences through random experimenting...and help people have experiences in a non sexual non pressured environment. i think people say no to things they don't know or fear. thats alot of pressure if you've just met someone and they in turn are under a lot of pressure not to hurt or be accused of hurting someone x | |||
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I fantasise over me and a willing partner being wrapped in wool 'Clanger style,' we would have slide whistles to communicate seductively.....Maybe a third party as the Soup Dragon 'with whip' to chivvy things along.....
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What would be the best restraints/position to create a feeling of helplessness, yet also allow the flexibility to use slide whistles to communicate?
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PS You can be the Soup Dragon ( as long as you keep a straight face and remain in role!.....do not spoil it for us!) | |||
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"hi Susy , i know many will think, this a silly question, but were does kinkish stop and bdsm start. I am not into pain or humiliation but find wrist restraints, blind folds, light spanking, playing with feathers quite exciting.i wrote about not knowing, about maybe how one identifies oneself, with personal association ..i dont know the definitive answer i only have where i feel i am, and what i call that. what would you call the activities you do? actually Susy your answer has made me thing is there a blog or files that help new people with the start of their journey?" there are a few on the internet some good books about as free PDF;'s too.."screw the roses and bring me thorns" is one.. the topping book and the bottoming book are others..some blogs about.. when i started out i read everything and what i didnt want helped me eliminate and hone what i did..i use information that way..from both sides..for example the story of O...also available online and the books of Gor and even the fifty shades thing..while they may be fictional/ extreme or 'shit' they do help you define what is not right for you. a very good place to start is working out who you are right now..not in 3 months or a year but right here right now..thats a good solid foundation to start from..figuring that out, usually leads you naturally on to the next thing and the next, of what unfolds and interests you..imo its baby steps into self discovery x | |||
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"I'm so confused?! seriously its not you..just go with what is 'now' xx I'm kinky, obvs. 16 years pro and lifestyle. It's ruddy good fun. " im fascinated by that journey, i have no wish to pry, but if youd care to expand on that journey id love to hear x | |||
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"Evening......again!!hello lovely xx As I said before, I'm not a lover of pain, so not sure if BDSM is for me, but it is something I've thought about trying. I guess you need to find someone you can trust.i spoke before of sensation play being a very wide spectrum where altered state, the body immersed in endorphins, take the recipient into a calm and dreamy state..i think a lot of people dont see the build up in play, they see a people in full on mode and assume thats how it started out.im not saying pain isnt desired by some, buit i would say 1 its not the only way to get into that 'sub space' and two everyone has their own bandwidth of tolerance for anything..and that includes everyone. everyone has limits to begin with. trusting another enough to stay within your defined boundaries is the thing definitely, people however change and evolve all the time, what once was eeeek becomes just nice and so soft limits can be explored with consent and trust x A calm and dreamy state sounds good, I get very stressed, so maybe it'd help me relax." choosing the right tools for the person..for the desired effect ( whatever that is) is what its all about. x | |||
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" hi jam and thank you..i see Doms and Subs as just being unique people, who have managed to find a dynamic that works for them with compatible preferences with another x i am also not sub in the world, but it has unlocked a lot of latent femininity, which is what i wanted to feel in the first place.. in a power exchange handing over my masculine energy, structure, decisions, fretting, analysis. has allowed me to know what female power isolated is like so i could find or acknowledge that in myself. x i expect everyone is different though, this is just my journey x thank you for sharing xx" Hi back and thanks also for sharing. I would agree that Doms and Subs are all unique, and the experience is different for all. That's why having a space to discuss is such a good idea | |||
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"Oh there it is hi lovely i really enjoy wax play but don't think its classed as bdsm (Kat) xxgood evening xx is it classified as a 'fetish' Kat?. I'm not sure to be honest I'm still new to all this xx terminology is sooo tricky isnt it?.. . Yeah think I need a book swingers guide to everything xxmaybe after 6 months we will be able to compile one xx . who know maybe we could xxits a good thought..xx. we could call it the lives times and vocabulary of a swinger xx"haveto be a kinky swinger or is that the sequel? | |||
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"Hi Everyone. We are keen BDSMers with our favourites including any and every form of sexual use and abuse, humiliation, restraints and sensible levels of pain. We are always happy to chat and exchange views with like-minded people." hey slave V, good to see you.. thats very nice of you..thank you for joining in. could you share as a little insight for others the difference in your opinion between submissive and slave..im sure people would like to hear a version of that definition xx | |||
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"Good evening. This came around quick! Wasn't it just New Year's Eve?hey mr alleycat..time flies and waits for no man x" It's a bugger isn't it? I don't know my arse from my elbow at the moment! | |||
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"Dear Suzy... I have a fantasy and would appreciate your advice re appropriate restraints! I fantasise
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I fantasise over me and a willing partner being wrapped in wool 'Clanger style,' we would have slide whistles to communicate seductively.....Maybe a third party as the Soup Dragon 'with whip' to chivvy things along.....
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What would be the best restraints/position to create a feeling of helplessness, yet also allow the flexibility to use slide whistles to communicate?
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PS You can be the Soup Dragon ( as long as you keep a straight face and remain in role!.....do not spoil it for us!)"rope x | |||
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" hi jam and thank you..i see Doms and Subs as just being unique people, who have managed to find a dynamic that works for them with compatible preferences with another x i am also not sub in the world, but it has unlocked a lot of latent femininity, which is what i wanted to feel in the first place.. in a power exchange handing over my masculine energy, structure, decisions, fretting, analysis. has allowed me to know what female power isolated is like so i could find or acknowledge that in myself. x i expect everyone is different though, this is just my journey x thank you for sharing xx Hi back and thanks also for sharing. I would agree that Doms and Subs are all unique, and the experience is different for all. That's why having a space to discuss is such a good idea "i think so seems a lot of others do too x | |||
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"Good evening. This came around quick! Wasn't it just New Year's Eve?hey mr alleycat..time flies and waits for no man x It's a bugger isn't it? I don't know my arse from my elbow at the moment! " people are not that keen to get 'between' your elbows | |||
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"Dear Suzy... I have a fantasy and would appreciate your advice re appropriate restraints! I fantasise
I fantasise
I fantasise over me and a willing partner being wrapped in wool 'Clanger style,' we would have slide whistles to communicate seductively.....Maybe a third party as the Soup Dragon 'with whip' to chivvy things along.....
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What would be the best restraints/position to create a feeling of helplessness, yet also allow the flexibility to use slide whistles to communicate?
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PS You can be the Soup Dragon ( as long as you keep a straight face and remain in role!.....do not spoil it for us!)rope x"Thank you! I will send photos | |||
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"Oh there it is hi lovely i really enjoy wax play but don't think its classed as bdsm (Kat) xxgood evening xx is it classified as a 'fetish' Kat?. I'm not sure to be honest I'm still new to all this xx terminology is sooo tricky isnt it?.. . Yeah think I need a book swingers guide to everything xxmaybe after 6 months we will be able to compile one xx . who know maybe we could xxits a good thought..xx. we could call it the lives times and vocabulary of a swinger xxhaveto be a kinky swinger or is that the sequel? ". mmmmmm not sure if that should cum 1st or second xx | |||
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"I am also not sub in the world, but it has unlocked a lot of latent femininity, which is what i wanted to feel in the first place.. in a power exchange handing over my masculine energy, structure, decisions, fretting, analysis. has allowed me to know what female power isolated is like so i could find or acknowledge that in myself. x i expect everyone is different though, this is just my journey x thank you for sharing xx" I (PB) haven't ever thought about submissiveness with a masuline /femine side - an interesting way of looking at it though. I think that's one of the facinating things about d/s power exchange. It's unique to each dom/sub - subspace differnt for everyone too. Not heard it described the same way twice! But that's part of the intimacy with a dom thats so special - them getting your submission, what you need during a scene after care etc. It's a lovely thing | |||
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"Oh there it is hi lovely i really enjoy wax play but don't think its classed as bdsm (Kat) xxgood evening xx is it classified as a 'fetish' Kat?. I'm not sure to be honest I'm still new to all this xx terminology is sooo tricky isnt it?.. . Yeah think I need a book swingers guide to everything xxmaybe after 6 months we will be able to compile one xx . who know maybe we could xxits a good thought..xx. we could call it the lives times and vocabulary of a swinger xxhaveto be a kinky swinger or is that the sequel? . mmmmmm not sure if that should cum 1st or second xx"chuckles xx would a reprint mean it was a repeater? | |||
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"Dear Suzy... I have a fantasy and would appreciate your advice re appropriate restraints! I fantasise
I fantasise
I fantasise over me and a willing partner being wrapped in wool 'Clanger style,' we would have slide whistles to communicate seductively.....Maybe a third party as the Soup Dragon 'with whip' to chivvy things along.....
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What would be the best restraints/position to create a feeling of helplessness, yet also allow the flexibility to use slide whistles to communicate?
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PS You can be the Soup Dragon ( as long as you keep a straight face and remain in role!.....do not spoil it for us!)rope x
Thank you! I will send photos "im not a voyeur which is why i didnt offer to be the soup dragon x | |||
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"hi Susy , i know many will think, this a silly question, but were does kinkish stop and bdsm start. I am not into pain or humiliation but find wrist restraints, blind folds, light spanking, playing with feathers quite exciting.i wrote about not knowing, about maybe how one identifies oneself, with personal association ..i dont know the definitive answer i only have where i feel i am, and what i call that. what would you call the activities you do? actually Susy your answer has made me thing is there a blog or files that help new people with the start of their journey? there are a few on the internet some good books about as free PDF;'s too.."screw the roses and bring me thorns" is one.. the topping book and the bottoming book are others..some blogs about.. when i started out i read everything and what i didnt want helped me eliminate and hone what i did..i use information that way..from both sides..for example the story of O...also available online and the books of Gor and even the fifty shades thing..while they may be fictional/ extreme or 'shit' they do help you define what is not right for you. a very good place to start is working out who you are right now..not in 3 months or a year but right here right now..thats a good solid foundation to start from..figuring that out, usually leads you naturally on to the next thing and the next, of what unfolds and interests you..imo its baby steps into self discovery x" Thank you so much Suzy, that is a great help, i shall check those out x | |||
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"I am also not sub in the world, but it has unlocked a lot of latent femininity, which is what i wanted to feel in the first place.. in a power exchange handing over my masculine energy, structure, decisions, fretting, analysis. has allowed me to know what female power isolated is like so i could find or acknowledge that in myself. x i expect everyone is different though, this is just my journey x thank you for sharing xx I (PB) haven't ever thought about submissiveness with a masuline /femine side - an interesting way of looking at it though. I think that's one of the facinating things about d/s power exchange. It's unique to each dom/sub - subspace differnt for everyone too. Not heard it described the same way twice! But that's part of the intimacy with a dom thats so special - them getting your submission, what you need during a scene after care etc. It's a lovely thing "it is being able to trust someone aswell that deeply is also healing and freeing x | |||
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"hi Susy , i know many will think, this a silly question, but were does kinkish stop and bdsm start. I am not into pain or humiliation but find wrist restraints, blind folds, light spanking, playing with feathers quite exciting.i wrote about not knowing, about maybe how one identifies oneself, with personal association ..i dont know the definitive answer i only have where i feel i am, and what i call that. what would you call the activities you do? actually Susy your answer has made me thing is there a blog or files that help new people with the start of their journey? there are a few on the internet some good books about as free PDF;'s too.."screw the roses and bring me thorns" is one.. the topping book and the bottoming book are others..some blogs about.. when i started out i read everything and what i didnt want helped me eliminate and hone what i did..i use information that way..from both sides..for example the story of O...also available online and the books of Gor and even the fifty shades thing..while they may be fictional/ extreme or 'shit' they do help you define what is not right for you. a very good place to start is working out who you are right now..not in 3 months or a year but right here right now..thats a good solid foundation to start from..figuring that out, usually leads you naturally on to the next thing and the next, of what unfolds and interests you..imo its baby steps into self discovery x Thank you so much Suzy, that is a great help, i shall check those out x" hunt me out sweet if you need anything else and ill rack my brains, you are welcome, to what i've got xx | |||
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"Good evening Suzy. Good evening all. Some interesting comments on this here thread. Those that have met me will know I'm pretty vanilla unless I have 100% trust. Past experiences have proved that that is the key ingredient and so you have to peel my layers to get me to kneel before you or even tell you to get on your knees. But my god. When all the ingredients are there it is usually a bit bloody special. Hope the first day of 2017 has been very kind to you all. hey beautiful, im good thanks..how are you, did you enjoy your dancing the other night? x" I really did. 5am came around far too quickly. I really didn't want the music to stop. I'm doing ok. Last day of work tomorrow then a month off
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"Good evening Suzy. Good evening all. Some interesting comments on this here thread. Those that have met me will know I'm pretty vanilla unless I have 100% trust. Past experiences have proved that that is the key ingredient and so you have to peel my layers to get me to kneel before you or even tell you to get on your knees. But my god. When all the ingredients are there it is usually a bit bloody special. Hope the first day of 2017 has been very kind to you all. hey beautiful, im good thanks..how are you, did you enjoy your dancing the other night? x I really did. 5am came around far too quickly. I really didn't want the music to stop. I'm doing ok. Last day of work tomorrow then a month off
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"Oh there it is hi lovely i really enjoy wax play but don't think its classed as bdsm (Kat) xxgood evening xx is it classified as a 'fetish' Kat?. I'm not sure to be honest I'm still new to all this xx terminology is sooo tricky isnt it?.. . Yeah think I need a book swingers guide to everything xxmaybe after 6 months we will be able to compile one xx . who know maybe we could xxits a good thought..xx. we could call it the lives times and vocabulary of a swinger xxhaveto be a kinky swinger or is that the sequel? . mmmmmm not sure if that should cum 1st or second xxchuckles xx would a reprint mean it was a repeater? . Well we all enjoy a good repeater xxsniggers ". Haha night night lovely I'm away to my bed need to fuck the hubby of mine night all sweet dreams xx | |||
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"Oh there it is hi lovely i really enjoy wax play but don't think its classed as bdsm (Kat) xxgood evening xx is it classified as a 'fetish' Kat?. I'm not sure to be honest I'm still new to all this xx terminology is sooo tricky isnt it?.. . Yeah think I need a book swingers guide to everything xxmaybe after 6 months we will be able to compile one xx . who know maybe we could xxits a good thought..xx. we could call it the lives times and vocabulary of a swinger xxhaveto be a kinky swinger or is that the sequel? . mmmmmm not sure if that should cum 1st or second xxchuckles xx would a reprint mean it was a repeater? . Well we all enjoy a good repeater xxsniggers . Haha night night lovely I'm away to my bed need to fuck the hubby of mine night all sweet dreams xx"have fun lovely..take care of yourselves and each other x | |||
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"Good evening Suzy. Good evening all. Some interesting comments on this here thread. Those that have met me will know I'm pretty vanilla unless I have 100% trust. Past experiences have proved that that is the key ingredient and so you have to peel my layers to get me to kneel before you or even tell you to get on your knees. But my god. When all the ingredients are there it is usually a bit bloody special. Hope the first day of 2017 has been very kind to you all. hey beautiful, im good thanks..how are you, did you enjoy your dancing the other night? x I really did. 5am came around far too quickly. I really didn't want the music to stop. I'm doing ok. Last day of work tomorrow then a month off
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"Good evening Suzy. Good evening all. Some interesting comments on this here thread. Those that have met me will know I'm pretty vanilla unless I have 100% trust. Past experiences have proved that that is the key ingredient and so you have to peel my layers to get me to kneel before you or even tell you to get on your knees. But my god. When all the ingredients are there it is usually a bit bloody special. Hope the first day of 2017 has been very kind to you all. hey beautiful, im good thanks..how are you, did you enjoy your dancing the other night? x I really did. 5am came around far too quickly. I really didn't want the music to stop. I'm doing ok. Last day of work tomorrow then a month off
yay good for you xx i still got us pencilled in for monday 9th if thats till ok..if it not, just let me know xxx
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"hi Susy , i know many will think, this a silly question, but were does kinkish stop and bdsm start. I am not into pain or humiliation but find wrist restraints, blind folds, light spanking, playing with feathers quite exciting.i wrote about not knowing, about maybe how one identifies oneself, with personal association ..i dont know the definitive answer i only have where i feel i am, and what i call that. what would you call the activities you do? actually Susy your answer has made me thing is there a blog or files that help new people with the start of their journey? there are a few on the internet some good books about as free PDF;'s too.."screw the roses and bring me thorns" is one.. the topping book and the bottoming book are others..some blogs about.. when i started out i read everything and what i didnt want helped me eliminate and hone what i did..i use information that way..from both sides..for example the story of O...also available online and the books of Gor and even the fifty shades thing..while they may be fictional/ extreme or 'shit' they do help you define what is not right for you. a very good place to start is working out who you are right now..not in 3 months or a year but right here right now..thats a good solid foundation to start from..figuring that out, usually leads you naturally on to the next thing and the next, of what unfolds and interests you..imo its baby steps into self discovery x Thank you so much Suzy, that is a great help, i shall check those out xhunt me out sweet if you need anything else and ill rack my brains, you are welcome, to what i've got xx" | |||
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"Oh there it is hi lovely i really enjoy wax play but don't think its classed as bdsm (Kat) xxgood evening xx is it classified as a 'fetish' Kat?. I'm not sure to be honest I'm still new to all this xx terminology is sooo tricky isnt it?.. . Yeah think I need a book swingers guide to everything xxmaybe after 6 months we will be able to compile one xx . who know maybe we could xxits a good thought..xx. we could call it the lives times and vocabulary of a swinger xxhaveto be a kinky swinger or is that the sequel? . mmmmmm not sure if that should cum 1st or second xxchuckles xx would a reprint mean it was a repeater? . Well we all enjoy a good repeater xxsniggers . Haha night night lovely I'm away to my bed need to fuck the hubby of mine night all sweet dreams xxhave fun lovely..take care of yourselves and each other x". Will do xx | |||
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"hi Susy , i know many will think, this a silly question, but were does kinkish stop and bdsm start. I am not into pain or humiliation but find wrist restraints, blind folds, light spanking, playing with feathers quite exciting.i wrote about not knowing, about maybe how one identifies oneself, with personal association ..i dont know the definitive answer i only have where i feel i am, and what i call that. what would you call the activities you do? actually Susy your answer has made me thing is there a blog or files that help new people with the start of their journey? there are a few on the internet some good books about as free PDF;'s too.."screw the roses and bring me thorns" is one.. the topping book and the bottoming book are others..some blogs about.. when i started out i read everything and what i didnt want helped me eliminate and hone what i did..i use information that way..from both sides..for example the story of O...also available online and the books of Gor and even the fifty shades thing..while they may be fictional/ extreme or 'shit' they do help you define what is not right for you. a very good place to start is working out who you are right now..not in 3 months or a year but right here right now..thats a good solid foundation to start from..figuring that out, usually leads you naturally on to the next thing and the next, of what unfolds and interests you..imo its baby steps into self discovery x Thank you so much Suzy, that is a great help, i shall check those out xhunt me out sweet if you need anything else and ill rack my brains, you are welcome, to what i've got xx" i know feel confident enough to have put on my profile that i am into light kink, when i trust someone | |||
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"I am also not sub in the world, but it has unlocked a lot of latent femininity, which is what i wanted to feel in the first place.. in a power exchange handing over my masculine energy, structure, decisions, fretting, analysis. has allowed me to know what female power isolated is like so i could find or acknowledge that in myself. x i expect everyone is different though, this is just my journey x thank you for sharing xx I (PB) haven't ever thought about submissiveness with a masuline /femine side - an interesting way of looking at it though. I think that's one of the facinating things about d/s power exchange. It's unique to each dom/sub - subspace differnt for everyone too. Not heard it described the same way twice! But that's part of the intimacy with a dom thats so special - them getting your submission, what you need during a scene after care etc. It's a lovely thing it is being able to trust someone aswell that deeply is also healing and freeing x"Exactly! | |||
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"so its new year and a new idea, a 'BDSM friendly' nocturnal thread. so alongside the normal lurking, perving and general shenanigans before bed. i would like to welcome those with kink/ BDSM related experience and questions, to come together and share. respect please. build bridges and find commonality not division. keep it friendly, safe, sane and consensual activities only no taboos to be discussed, according to fab rules tonight is just general interest, maybe we can do specific topics later on if it works out.. " hi suzy good post . I'm off to bed luckily I have a ritual which I learnt years ago that can put me to sleep no matter how restless my mind maybe , god I cant wait to get back to work on Tuesday I plan on completely throwing myself into my work as it will allow me to not think for a bit which will allow me to switch off . its not only a s who needs to be reset regularly a D who hasn't allowed himself to indulge his true inner being can find himself at a loss to xxx bed time for me have fun darling xxx | |||
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"What happened to the last one? I only mentioned pegging. pegging is allowed x if youve been a good boy xx
Do Random acts of kindness count? I helped an old lady at Tesco the other aday.
Infamy xxxwell thats nice. i dont peg people for just being how they should be in the world though thats more of hug thing x
It's nice to be nice
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"hi Susy , i know many will think, this a silly question, but were does kinkish stop and bdsm start. I am not into pain or humiliation but find wrist restraints, blind folds, light spanking, playing with feathers quite exciting.i wrote about not knowing, about maybe how one identifies oneself, with personal association ..i dont know the definitive answer i only have where i feel i am, and what i call that. what would you call the activities you do? actually Susy your answer has made me thing is there a blog or files that help new people with the start of their journey? there are a few on the internet some good books about as free PDF;'s too.."screw the roses and bring me thorns" is one.. the topping book and the bottoming book are others..some blogs about.. when i started out i read everything and what i didnt want helped me eliminate and hone what i did..i use information that way..from both sides..for example the story of O...also available online and the books of Gor and even the fifty shades thing..while they may be fictional/ extreme or 'shit' they do help you define what is not right for you. a very good place to start is working out who you are right now..not in 3 months or a year but right here right now..thats a good solid foundation to start from..figuring that out, usually leads you naturally on to the next thing and the next, of what unfolds and interests you..imo its baby steps into self discovery x Thank you so much Suzy, that is a great help, i shall check those out xhunt me out sweet if you need anything else and ill rack my brains, you are welcome, to what i've got xx i know feel confident enough to have put on my profile that i am into light kink, when i trust someone" thats amazing xxx no harm in specifying what that light kink means to you, or, what it doesnt ..but i expect that comes with the communication x and theres no worries if you don't know, cos you dont know what something is like, thats not for now, thats for later x | |||
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"I am also not sub in the world, but it has unlocked a lot of latent femininity, which is what i wanted to feel in the first place.. in a power exchange handing over my masculine energy, structure, decisions, fretting, analysis. has allowed me to know what female power isolated is like so i could find or acknowledge that in myself. x i expect everyone is different though, this is just my journey x thank you for sharing xx I (PB) haven't ever thought about submissiveness with a masuline /femine side - an interesting way of looking at it though. I think that's one of the facinating things about d/s power exchange. It's unique to each dom/sub - subspace differnt for everyone too. Not heard it described the same way twice! But that's part of the intimacy with a dom thats so special - them getting your submission, what you need during a scene after care etc. It's a lovely thing it is being able to trust someone aswell that deeply is also healing and freeing x
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"I'm so confused?! seriously its not you..just go with what is 'now' xx I'm kinky, obvs. 16 years pro and lifestyle. It's ruddy good fun. im fascinated by that journey, i have no wish to pry, but if youd care to expand on that journey id love to hear x" I'm an open lady (careful now..) so happy to reveal. I did a degree in photography and most of my work was sex related. Realising I needed some industry experience, worked as a brothel receptionist and assisted (behind camera) in porn but still felt something was missing. Was always interested in the imagery of Irving Klaw so went to a fetish club alone and instantly felt at home. I read a lot about BDSM, experimented, attended more clubs, learnt from pro Dommes and having a passion and natural flair for it, went pro. This was all before the internet kicked off so it was all through contact mags and ads in newsagent windows. I retired pro 7 years ago due to a performance based injury (a Dominatrix in flats isn't much of a look) and was a little burned out. But missed it terribly and fed up with selfish meets, returned in April last year. I still have playthings and play in clubs but in my private life, it's about me and my wants. If subs have a shopping list of kinks, I'll only session professionally. It's something that's part of me and found I just can't turn it off. I'm naturally dominant, touch of a sadist and get a buzz from the control, power and having someone submit to me. And when you play with someone where you're in synch, it's bloody marvelous | |||
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"Cheers for starting posts about bdsm Suzy. Lots of folk think they are into it but perhaps only into what they think it's all about. I love pain amd only submit when subjected to a good amount of pain. It's a struggle to find a master when you are as bratty as me "i feel theres many different ideas about BDSM which float around due to media, books, porn and rumour..the only way through is to discuss and supply experiences and information and answer questions and ask them.. i dont know how your 'brat' shows itself..and if thats the surface presentation hiding another persona or whether that's the goto response. i guess its about a master with patience to figure this out and for you to want it enough, to give him the time to figure it out...right? x | |||
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"so its new year and a new idea, a 'BDSM friendly' nocturnal thread. so alongside the normal lurking, perving and general shenanigans before bed. i would like to welcome those with kink/ BDSM related experience and questions, to come together and share. respect please. build bridges and find commonality not division. keep it friendly, safe, sane and consensual activities only no taboos to be discussed, according to fab rules tonight is just general interest, maybe we can do specific topics later on if it works out.. hi suzy good post . I'm off to bed luckily I have a ritual which I learnt years ago that can put me to sleep no matter how restless my mind maybe , god I cant wait to get back to work on Tuesday I plan on completely throwing myself into my work as it will allow me to not think for a bit which will allow me to switch off . its not only a s who needs to be reset regularly a D who hasn't allowed himself to indulge his true inner being can find himself at a loss to xxx bed time for me have fun darling xxx " hi lovely, good to see you if only for a fleeting moment..take good care of yourself and yes Dom's have needs too xx | |||
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"hi Susy , i know many will think, this a silly question, but were does kinkish stop and bdsm start. I am not into pain or humiliation but find wrist restraints, blind folds, light spanking, playing with feathers quite exciting.i wrote about not knowing, about maybe how one identifies oneself, with personal association ..i dont know the definitive answer i only have where i feel i am, and what i call that. what would you call the activities you do? actually Susy your answer has made me thing is there a blog or files that help new people with the start of their journey? there are a few on the internet some good books about as free PDF;'s too.."screw the roses and bring me thorns" is one.. the topping book and the bottoming book are others..some blogs about.. when i started out i read everything and what i didnt want helped me eliminate and hone what i did..i use information that way..from both sides..for example the story of O...also available online and the books of Gor and even the fifty shades thing..while they may be fictional/ extreme or 'shit' they do help you define what is not right for you. a very good place to start is working out who you are right now..not in 3 months or a year but right here right now..thats a good solid foundation to start from..figuring that out, usually leads you naturally on to the next thing and the next, of what unfolds and interests you..imo its baby steps into self discovery x Thank you so much Suzy, that is a great help, i shall check those out xhunt me out sweet if you need anything else and ill rack my brains, you are welcome, to what i've got xx i know feel confident enough to have put on my profile that i am into light kink, when i trust someone thats amazing xxx no harm in specifying what that light kink means to you, or, what it doesnt ..but i expect that comes with the communication x and theres no worries if you don't know, cos you dont know what something is like, thats not for now, thats for later x" yes the info on what that is comes with the communication and trust. I have to admit my regular playmate helps strech my boundaries and so far he is the playmate i trust to do that x | |||
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Infamy xxxwell thats nice. i dont peg people for just being how they should be in the world though thats more of hug thing x
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"I am also not sub in the world, but it has unlocked a lot of latent femininity, which is what i wanted to feel in the first place.. in a power exchange handing over my masculine energy, structure, decisions, fretting, analysis. has allowed me to know what female power isolated is like so i could find or acknowledge that in myself. x i expect everyone is different though, this is just my journey x thank you for sharing xx I (PB) haven't ever thought about submissiveness with a masuline /femine side - an interesting way of looking at it though. I think that's one of the facinating things about d/s power exchange. It's unique to each dom/sub - subspace differnt for everyone too. Not heard it described the same way twice! But that's part of the intimacy with a dom thats so special - them getting your submission, what you need during a scene after care etc. It's a lovely thing it is being able to trust someone aswell that deeply is also healing and freeing x
Exactly! and being trusted that much can also do much for someone x"And I (Jam) would definitely agree with that
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"I'm so confused?! seriously its not you..just go with what is 'now' xx I'm kinky, obvs. 16 years pro and lifestyle. It's ruddy good fun. im fascinated by that journey, i have no wish to pry, but if youd care to expand on that journey id love to hear x I'm an open lady (careful now..) so happy to reveal. I did a degree in photography and most of my work was sex related. Realising I needed some industry experience, worked as a brothel receptionist and assisted (behind camera) in porn but still felt something was missing. Was always interested in the imagery of Irving Klaw so went to a fetish club alone and instantly felt at home. I read a lot about BDSM, experimented, attended more clubs, learnt from pro Dommes and having a passion and natural flair for it, went pro. This was all before the internet kicked off so it was all through contact mags and ads in newsagent windows. I retired pro 7 years ago due to a performance based injury (a Dominatrix in flats isn't much of a look) and was a little burned out. But missed it terribly and fed up with selfish meets, returned in April last year. I still have playthings and play in clubs but in my private life, it's about me and my wants. If subs have a shopping list of kinks, I'll only session professionally. It's something that's part of me and found I just can't turn it off. I'm naturally dominant, touch of a sadist and get a buzz from the control, power and having someone submit to me. And when you play with someone where you're in synch, it's bloody marvelous "that's an amazing journey x thank you for sharing how one thing led to another..the self evolving with one opportunity and then the next...so glad you found what it was you loved doing and are still doing it..i could talk to you for hours about it, i find you inspiring..xx | |||
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"I'm so confused?! seriously its not you..just go with what is 'now' xx I'm kinky, obvs. 16 years pro and lifestyle. It's ruddy good fun. im fascinated by that journey, i have no wish to pry, but if youd care to expand on that journey id love to hear x I'm an open lady (careful now..) so happy to reveal. I did a degree in photography and most of my work was sex related. Realising I needed some industry experience, worked as a brothel receptionist and assisted (behind camera) in porn but still felt something was missing. Was always interested in the imagery of Irving Klaw so went to a fetish club alone and instantly felt at home. I read a lot about BDSM, experimented, attended more clubs, learnt from pro Dommes and having a passion and natural flair for it, went pro. This was all before the internet kicked off so it was all through contact mags and ads in newsagent windows. I retired pro 7 years ago due to a performance based injury (a Dominatrix in flats isn't much of a look) and was a little burned out. But missed it terribly and fed up with selfish meets, returned in April last year. I still have playthings and play in clubs but in my private life, it's about me and my wants. If subs have a shopping list of kinks, I'll only session professionally. It's something that's part of me and found I just can't turn it off. I'm naturally dominant, touch of a sadist and get a buzz from the control, power and having someone submit to me. And when you play with someone where you're in synch, it's bloody marvelous that's an amazing journey x thank you for sharing how one thing led to another..the self evolving with one opportunity and then the next...so glad you found what it was you loved doing and are still doing it..i could talk to you for hours about it, i find you inspiring..xx"Aah shucks | |||
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lovely to see you. how are you, u ok..i saw your thread was it earlier today, wondered if you were alright x
Thanks for asking Suzy. Probably not but tomorrow's another day xx"you are not far from my thoughts..i would hate to see you leave purely selfish reasons xbut i also know you must do whats right for you ..so much love x | |||
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"hi Susy , i know many will think, this a silly question, but were does kinkish stop and bdsm start. I am not into pain or humiliation but find wrist restraints, blind folds, light spanking, playing with feathers quite exciting.i wrote about not knowing, about maybe how one identifies oneself, with personal association ..i dont know the definitive answer i only have where i feel i am, and what i call that. what would you call the activities you do? actually Susy your answer has made me thing is there a blog or files that help new people with the start of their journey? there are a few on the internet some good books about as free PDF;'s too.."screw the roses and bring me thorns" is one.. the topping book and the bottoming book are others..some blogs about.. when i started out i read everything and what i didnt want helped me eliminate and hone what i did..i use information that way..from both sides..for example the story of O...also available online and the books of Gor and even the fifty shades thing..while they may be fictional/ extreme or 'shit' they do help you define what is not right for you. a very good place to start is working out who you are right now..not in 3 months or a year but right here right now..thats a good solid foundation to start from..figuring that out, usually leads you naturally on to the next thing and the next, of what unfolds and interests you..imo its baby steps into self discovery x Thank you so much Suzy, that is a great help, i shall check those out xhunt me out sweet if you need anything else and ill rack my brains, you are welcome, to what i've got xx i know feel confident enough to have put on my profile that i am into light kink, when i trust someone thats amazing xxx no harm in specifying what that light kink means to you, or, what it doesnt ..but i expect that comes with the communication x and theres no worries if you don't know, cos you dont know what something is like, thats not for now, thats for later x yes the info on what that is comes with the communication and trust. I have to admit my regular playmate helps strech my boundaries and so far he is the playmate i trust to do that x" thats awesome, im really glad you have that healthy learning for both of you..its a journey xx | |||
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"What happened to the last one? I only mentioned pegging. pegging is allowed x if youve been a good boy xx
Do Random acts of kindness count? I helped an old lady at Tesco the other aday.
Infamy xxxwell thats nice. i dont peg people for just being how they should be in the world though thats more of hug thing x
It's nice to be nice
its my reflection i have to live with every day,. no one else has to x
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"I am also not sub in the world, but it has unlocked a lot of latent femininity, which is what i wanted to feel in the first place.. in a power exchange handing over my masculine energy, structure, decisions, fretting, analysis. has allowed me to know what female power isolated is like so i could find or acknowledge that in myself. x i expect everyone is different though, this is just my journey x thank you for sharing xx I (PB) haven't ever thought about submissiveness with a masuline /femine side - an interesting way of looking at it though. I think that's one of the facinating things about d/s power exchange. It's unique to each dom/sub - subspace differnt for everyone too. Not heard it described the same way twice! But that's part of the intimacy with a dom thats so special - them getting your submission, what you need during a scene after care etc. It's a lovely thing it is being able to trust someone aswell that deeply is also healing and freeing x
Exactly! and being trusted that much can also do much for someone x
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"I'm so confused?! seriously its not you..just go with what is 'now' xx I'm kinky, obvs. 16 years pro and lifestyle. It's ruddy good fun. im fascinated by that journey, i have no wish to pry, but if youd care to expand on that journey id love to hear x I'm an open lady (careful now..) so happy to reveal. I did a degree in photography and most of my work was sex related. Realising I needed some industry experience, worked as a brothel receptionist and assisted (behind camera) in porn but still felt something was missing. Was always interested in the imagery of Irving Klaw so went to a fetish club alone and instantly felt at home. I read a lot about BDSM, experimented, attended more clubs, learnt from pro Dommes and having a passion and natural flair for it, went pro. This was all before the internet kicked off so it was all through contact mags and ads in newsagent windows. I retired pro 7 years ago due to a performance based injury (a Dominatrix in flats isn't much of a look) and was a little burned out. But missed it terribly and fed up with selfish meets, returned in April last year. I still have playthings and play in clubs but in my private life, it's about me and my wants. If subs have a shopping list of kinks, I'll only session professionally. It's something that's part of me and found I just can't turn it off. I'm naturally dominant, touch of a sadist and get a buzz from the control, power and having someone submit to me. And when you play with someone where you're in synch, it's bloody marvelous that's an amazing journey x thank you for sharing how one thing led to another..the self evolving with one opportunity and then the next...so glad you found what it was you loved doing and are still doing it..i could talk to you for hours about it, i find you inspiring..xx
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"Cheers for starting posts about bdsm Suzy. Lots of folk think they are into it but perhaps only into what they think it's all about. I love pain amd only submit when subjected to a good amount of pain. It's a struggle to find a master when you are as bratty as me i feel theres many different ideas about BDSM which float around due to media, books, porn and rumour..the only way through is to discuss and supply experiences and information and answer questions and ask them..
i dont know how your 'brat' shows itself..and if thats the surface presentation hiding another persona or whether that's the goto response. i guess its about a master with patience to figure this out and for you to want it enough, to give him the time to figure it out...right? x"Yes that's kind of it. Many people want a sub that just falls at their feet and does as they are told without question. That's not really the side I'm into which gets me more sticky than you'd imagine. I'm happy to hand myself over if I feel a strong enough connection with someone and they are experienced as a master. I need pushing almost to tears before I truly give in which is a tricky place to be. It's the appeasement that makes it all so worth while. I'm happy in play where hardly if any sex takes place at all. Just enjoying the game is amazing. | |||
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Depends on the type of porn "
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"Cheers for starting posts about bdsm Suzy. Lots of folk think they are into it but perhaps only into what they think it's all about. I love pain amd only submit when subjected to a good amount of pain. It's a struggle to find a master when you are as bratty as me i feel theres many different ideas about BDSM which float around due to media, books, porn and rumour..the only way through is to discuss and supply experiences and information and answer questions and ask them..
i dont know how your 'brat' shows itself..and if thats the surface presentation hiding another persona or whether that's the goto response. i guess its about a master with patience to figure this out and for you to want it enough, to give him the time to figure it out...right? x
Yes that's kind of it. Many people want a sub that just falls at their feet and does as they are told without question. That's not really the side I'm into which gets me more sticky than you'd imagine. I'm happy to hand myself over if I feel a strong enough connection with someone and they are experienced as a master. I need pushing almost to tears before I truly give in which is a tricky place to be. It's the appeasement that makes it all so worth while. I'm happy in play where hardly if any sex takes place at all. Just enjoying the game is amazing. "i think you hit the nail on the head when you said what you value most is that 'genuine strong connection' and that its held firm consistently, whilst you thrash and struggle. yeah an experienced master who is unfazed and unconcerned..thankyou for sharing, do you find its a strong psychological element that fixes that bond for you, or something else..im interested, if you dont mind answering x | |||
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Hi Suzy, If there is one thing I like it is watching and listening to people have sex, But most people like that anyway "i find it boring actually and porn noise i just want to get some gaffa tape..its ok, i know im the odd one out.. | |||
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lovely to see you. how are you, u ok..i saw your thread was it earlier today, wondered if you were alright x
Thanks for asking Suzy. Probably not but tomorrow's another day xxyou are not far from my thoughts..i would hate to see you leave purely selfish reasons xbut i also know you must do whats right for you ..so much love x"Thank you I appreciate it so much xxx | |||
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"Cheers for starting posts about bdsm Suzy. Lots of folk think they are into it but perhaps only into what they think it's all about. I love pain amd only submit when subjected to a good amount of pain. It's a struggle to find a master when you are as bratty as me i feel theres many different ideas about BDSM which float around due to media, books, porn and rumour..the only way through is to discuss and supply experiences and information and answer questions and ask them..
i dont know how your 'brat' shows itself..and if thats the surface presentation hiding another persona or whether that's the goto response. i guess its about a master with patience to figure this out and for you to want it enough, to give him the time to figure it out...right? x
Yes that's kind of it. Many people want a sub that just falls at their feet and does as they are told without question. That's not really the side I'm into which gets me more sticky than you'd imagine. I'm happy to hand myself over if I feel a strong enough connection with someone and they are experienced as a master. I need pushing almost to tears before I truly give in which is a tricky place to be. It's the appeasement that makes it all so worth while. I'm happy in play where hardly if any sex takes place at all. Just enjoying the game is amazing. i think you hit the nail on the head when you said what you value most is that 'genuine strong connection' and that its held firm consistently, whilst you thrash and struggle. yeah an experienced master who is unfazed and unconcerned..thankyou for sharing, do you find its a strong psychological element that fixes that bond for you, or something else..im interested, if you dont mind answering x"It's absolutely the psychological bond. If I'm after just sex I'll pretty much base it on looks but if it's for bdsm play it's different. Obviously I can't find them really unattractive but it's not the looks that win me over. The ones I've met and had an amazing time with have been happy to message for a while and have me ask them loads of questions. Patience is an amazing thing. I can't imagine someone really pushy being the sort of person that would spend ages carefully tying you up with ropes. This is just me though and loads of people feel completely differently about it x | |||
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"Haha it's here! I posted to the thread but got an error message then couldn't find it so thought it'd been deleted. Hello fellow kinksters
you are here now xxx
lovely to see you. how are you, u ok..i saw your thread was it earlier today, wondered if you were alright x
Thanks for asking Suzy. Probably not but tomorrow's another day xxyou are not far from my thoughts..i would hate to see you leave purely selfish reasons xbut i also know you must do whats right for you ..so much love x
Thank you I appreciate it so much xxx"xx | |||
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"Cheers for starting posts about bdsm Suzy. Lots of folk think they are into it but perhaps only into what they think it's all about. I love pain amd only submit when subjected to a good amount of pain. It's a struggle to find a master when you are as bratty as me i feel theres many different ideas about BDSM which float around due to media, books, porn and rumour..the only way through is to discuss and supply experiences and information and answer questions and ask them..
i dont know how your 'brat' shows itself..and if thats the surface presentation hiding another persona or whether that's the goto response. i guess its about a master with patience to figure this out and for you to want it enough, to give him the time to figure it out...right? x
Yes that's kind of it. Many people want a sub that just falls at their feet and does as they are told without question. That's not really the side I'm into which gets me more sticky than you'd imagine. I'm happy to hand myself over if I feel a strong enough connection with someone and they are experienced as a master. I need pushing almost to tears before I truly give in which is a tricky place to be. It's the appeasement that makes it all so worth while. I'm happy in play where hardly if any sex takes place at all. Just enjoying the game is amazing. i think you hit the nail on the head when you said what you value most is that 'genuine strong connection' and that its held firm consistently, whilst you thrash and struggle. yeah an experienced master who is unfazed and unconcerned..thankyou for sharing, do you find its a strong psychological element that fixes that bond for you, or something else..im interested, if you dont mind answering x
It's absolutely the psychological bond. If I'm after just sex I'll pretty much base it on looks but if it's for bdsm play it's different. Obviously I can't find them really unattractive but it's not the looks that win me over. The ones I've met and had an amazing time with have been happy to message for a while and have me ask them loads of questions. Patience is an amazing thing. I can't imagine someone really pushy being the sort of person that would spend ages carefully tying you up with ropes.
This is just me though and loads of people feel completely differently about it x"feeling safe enough to let go is indeed different for everyone, but i dont think you are at all unusual x that patience shows they value you and care..right? who wouldnt want those things xx | |||
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"so its new year and a new idea, a 'BDSM friendly' nocturnal thread. so alongside the normal lurking, perving and general shenanigans before bed. i would like to welcome those with kink/ BDSM related experience and questions, to come together and share. Greetings and salutations Suzy respect please. build bridges and find commonality not division. keep it friendly, safe, sane and consensual activities only no taboos to be discussed, according to fab rules tonight is just general interest, maybe we can do specific topics later on if it works out.. " | |||
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"Cheers for starting posts about bdsm Suzy. Lots of folk think they are into it but perhaps only into what they think it's all about. I love pain amd only submit when subjected to a good amount of pain. It's a struggle to find a master when you are as bratty as me i feel theres many different ideas about BDSM which float around due to media, books, porn and rumour..the only way through is to discuss and supply experiences and information and answer questions and ask them..
i dont know how your 'brat' shows itself..and if thats the surface presentation hiding another persona or whether that's the goto response. i guess its about a master with patience to figure this out and for you to want it enough, to give him the time to figure it out...right? x
Yes that's kind of it. Many people want a sub that just falls at their feet and does as they are told without question. That's not really the side I'm into which gets me more sticky than you'd imagine. I'm happy to hand myself over if I feel a strong enough connection with someone and they are experienced as a master. I need pushing almost to tears before I truly give in which is a tricky place to be. It's the appeasement that makes it all so worth while. I'm happy in play where hardly if any sex takes place at all. Just enjoying the game is amazing. i think you hit the nail on the head when you said what you value most is that 'genuine strong connection' and that its held firm consistently, whilst you thrash and struggle. yeah an experienced master who is unfazed and unconcerned..thankyou for sharing, do you find its a strong psychological element that fixes that bond for you, or something else..im interested, if you dont mind answering x
It's absolutely the psychological bond. If I'm after just sex I'll pretty much base it on looks but if it's for bdsm play it's different. Obviously I can't find them really unattractive but it's not the looks that win me over. The ones I've met and had an amazing time with have been happy to message for a while and have me ask them loads of questions. Patience is an amazing thing. I can't imagine someone really pushy being the sort of person that would spend ages carefully tying you up with ropes.
This is just me though and loads of people feel completely differently about it xfeeling safe enough to let go is indeed different for everyone, but i dont think you are at all unusual x that patience shows they value you and care..right? who wouldnt want those things xx"Weird you put it like that as that's exactly what I want from a boyfriend but can't find it. One way or another it's going to be an interesting year with all the stuff I keep figuring out xx | |||
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"hmmmmm evening suzy - this fascinates me and not sure to what level i would if ever go to - but there is one fella only i trust to do 'stuff' to me - and one lady i trust to venture into this world with - both know who they are - i could never go to a club and just take part - i have to feel that the person involved with me knows me - " that you know where you are with those people and that you are solid in yourself with them is the platform which to etch out and structure by communication and agreement so it builds little by little. it doesnt matter how high it might go, its right here, right now in a trusted exchange, a 'moment'that something is found and then added to brick by brick always built by the growing knowing of each other..thats my take on how to grow a dynamic though, im sure some people are completely different in there perception of it x | |||
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"so its new year and a new idea, a 'BDSM friendly' nocturnal thread. so alongside the normal lurking, perving and general shenanigans before bed. i would like to welcome those with kink/ BDSM related experience and questions, to come together and share. Greetings and salutations Suzy respect please. build bridges and find commonality not division. keep it friendly, safe, sane and consensual activities only no taboos to be discussed, according to fab rules tonight is just general interest, maybe we can do specific topics later on if it works out.. " hi david, how are you this evening ? xx happy new year x | |||
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"Cheers for starting posts about bdsm Suzy. Lots of folk think they are into it but perhaps only into what they think it's all about. I love pain amd only submit when subjected to a good amount of pain. It's a struggle to find a master when you are as bratty as me i feel theres many different ideas about BDSM which float around due to media, books, porn and rumour..the only way through is to discuss and supply experiences and information and answer questions and ask them..
i dont know how your 'brat' shows itself..and if thats the surface presentation hiding another persona or whether that's the goto response. i guess its about a master with patience to figure this out and for you to want it enough, to give him the time to figure it out...right? x
Yes that's kind of it. Many people want a sub that just falls at their feet and does as they are told without question. That's not really the side I'm into which gets me more sticky than you'd imagine. I'm happy to hand myself over if I feel a strong enough connection with someone and they are experienced as a master. I need pushing almost to tears before I truly give in which is a tricky place to be. It's the appeasement that makes it all so worth while. I'm happy in play where hardly if any sex takes place at all. Just enjoying the game is amazing. i think you hit the nail on the head when you said what you value most is that 'genuine strong connection' and that its held firm consistently, whilst you thrash and struggle. yeah an experienced master who is unfazed and unconcerned..thankyou for sharing, do you find its a strong psychological element that fixes that bond for you, or something else..im interested, if you dont mind answering x
It's absolutely the psychological bond. If I'm after just sex I'll pretty much base it on looks but if it's for bdsm play it's different. Obviously I can't find them really unattractive but it's not the looks that win me over. The ones I've met and had an amazing time with have been happy to message for a while and have me ask them loads of questions. Patience is an amazing thing. I can't imagine someone really pushy being the sort of person that would spend ages carefully tying you up with ropes.
This is just me though and loads of people feel completely differently about it xfeeling safe enough to let go is indeed different for everyone, but i dont think you are at all unusual x that patience shows they value you and care..right? who wouldnt want those things xx
Weird you put it like that as that's exactly what I want from a boyfriend but can't find it. One way or another it's going to be an interesting year with all the stuff I keep figuring out xx"more you know, the more you will get guided to look in the right places..follow the trail sweet, keep walking, keep growing and youll find him..through finding yourself xx | |||
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"hmmmmm evening suzy - this fascinates me and not sure to what level i would if ever go to - but there is one fella only i trust to do 'stuff' to me - and one lady i trust to venture into this world with - both know who they are - i could never go to a club and just take part - i have to feel that the person involved with me knows me - that you know where you are with those people and that you are solid in yourself with them is the platform which to etch out and structure by communication and agreement so it builds little by little. it doesnt matter how high it might go, its right here, right now in a trusted exchange, a 'moment'that something is found and then added to brick by brick always built by the growing knowing of each other..thats my take on how to grow a dynamic though, im sure some people are completely different in there perception of it x" well good foundations are in place - basic getting along tick - met and connected tick - to be repeated - tick soon - open to whatever happens - happy enough to be in the company of that person xx | |||
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"hmmmmm evening suzy - this fascinates me and not sure to what level i would if ever go to - but there is one fella only i trust to do 'stuff' to me - and one lady i trust to venture into this world with - both know who they are - i could never go to a club and just take part - i have to feel that the person involved with me knows me - that you know where you are with those people and that you are solid in yourself with them is the platform which to etch out and structure by communication and agreement so it builds little by little. it doesnt matter how high it might go, its right here, right now in a trusted exchange, a 'moment'that something is found and then added to brick by brick always built by the growing knowing of each other..thats my take on how to grow a dynamic though, im sure some people are completely different in there perception of it x well good foundations are in place - basic getting along tick - met and connected tick - to be repeated - tick soon - open to whatever happens - happy enough to be in the company of that person xx" im sure they think they are very lucky, to be in that position with you ....you are a treasure xx | |||
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"hmmmmm evening suzy - this fascinates me and not sure to what level i would if ever go to - but there is one fella only i trust to do 'stuff' to me - and one lady i trust to venture into this world with - both know who they are - i could never go to a club and just take part - i have to feel that the person involved with me knows me - that you know where you are with those people and that you are solid in yourself with them is the platform which to etch out and structure by communication and agreement so it builds little by little. it doesnt matter how high it might go, its right here, right now in a trusted exchange, a 'moment'that something is found and then added to brick by brick always built by the growing knowing of each other..thats my take on how to grow a dynamic though, im sure some people are completely different in there perception of it x well good foundations are in place - basic getting along tick - met and connected tick - to be repeated - tick soon - open to whatever happens - happy enough to be in the company of that person xxim sure they think they are very lucky, to be in that position with you ....you are a treasure xx" not about being lucky i dont think - sometimes you come across a person and its just different from the off - you are a bit special | |||
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"hmmmmm evening suzy - this fascinates me and not sure to what level i would if ever go to - but there is one fella only i trust to do 'stuff' to me - and one lady i trust to venture into this world with - both know who they are - i could never go to a club and just take part - i have to feel that the person involved with me knows me - that you know where you are with those people and that you are solid in yourself with them is the platform which to etch out and structure by communication and agreement so it builds little by little. it doesnt matter how high it might go, its right here, right now in a trusted exchange, a 'moment'that something is found and then added to brick by brick always built by the growing knowing of each other..thats my take on how to grow a dynamic though, im sure some people are completely different in there perception of it x well good foundations are in place - basic getting along tick - met and connected tick - to be repeated - tick soon - open to whatever happens - happy enough to be in the company of that person xxim sure they think they are very lucky, to be in that position with you ....you are a treasure xx not about being lucky i dont think - sometimes you come across a person and its just different from the off - you are a bit special " thank you. i am touched and deeply moved by that. and i am lucky and blessed to know you. so much love xx | |||
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"hmmmmm evening suzy - this fascinates me and not sure to what level i would if ever go to - but there is one fella only i trust to do 'stuff' to me - and one lady i trust to venture into this world with - both know who they are - i could never go to a club and just take part - i have to feel that the person involved with me knows me - that you know where you are with those people and that you are solid in yourself with them is the platform which to etch out and structure by communication and agreement so it builds little by little. it doesnt matter how high it might go, its right here, right now in a trusted exchange, a 'moment'that something is found and then added to brick by brick always built by the growing knowing of each other..thats my take on how to grow a dynamic though, im sure some people are completely different in there perception of it x well good foundations are in place - basic getting along tick - met and connected tick - to be repeated - tick soon - open to whatever happens - happy enough to be in the company of that person xxim sure they think they are very lucky, to be in that position with you ....you are a treasure xx not about being lucky i dont think - sometimes you come across a person and its just different from the off - you are a bit special thank you. i am touched and deeply moved by that. and i am lucky and blessed to know you. so much love xx" xxx | |||
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"Hi Everyone. We are keen BDSMers with our favourites including any and every form of sexual use and abuse, humiliation, restraints and sensible levels of pain. We are always happy to chat and exchange views with like-minded people. hey slave V, good to see you.. thats very nice of you..thank you for joining in. could you share as a little insight for others the difference in your opinion between submissive and slave..im sure people would like to hear a version of that definition xx" A submissive submits on their terms and decides on their limits themselves. To progress to a slave you need to have total trust in your owner. You have to be devoted to them and have to be certain that they are devoted to you. Only then can you hand over total control and become a slave. | |||
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"Deja vu... "All over again xxx | |||
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