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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would you tell them if it was a bloke I'd keep quiet but if it was a woman think I'd have to try and drop little hints well as long as we were not related !!!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Nope, regardless of their gender I'd not mention it and show them the kind of respect for their privacy and discretion and I would hope they'd show me.

Best policy is block and forget you ever saw their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless approached by them simply respect their right to anonymity and discretion

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wouldn't be blatantly obvious just little hints lol but kind of horny to know lol I'd respect the privacy

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Even dropping little hints that may not (in your view) be "blatantly obvious" would not only be disrespectful, but could cause embarassment and annoyance. As I said blocking and forgetting you ever saw it would be the best policy.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I wouldn't be blatantly obvious just little hints lol but kind of horny to know lol I'd respect the privacy"

Little hints ?

Creepy for a female.

Sometimes blokes should think of the effect on another before they do something.

Horny for you maybe. Bit stalkerish for the 'victim'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess guys try all sorts of approaches but I'm not sure that sinister/creepy is the way to go.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'd say nothing. Respect their privacy.

Unless it's your sibling, in which case write them a verification and never look at their profile.

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By *outhernladMan
over a year ago

Hampshire

Wouldn't do anything. Respect their privacy, brought up with the right morals I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy messaged me, with a face pic attached, I know him, quite well in fact, we are in the same social circle, and I do find him very attractive but he is married. I have said nothing to him about it, and unlikely to, but I do keep dropping the word fab into conversations in the hope that it'll dawn on him.

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By *outhernladMan
over a year ago

Hampshire


"I wouldn't be blatantly obvious just little hints lol but kind of horny to know lol I'd respect the privacy

Little hints ?

Creepy for a female.

Sometimes blokes should think of the effect on another before they do something.

Horny for you maybe. Bit stalkerish for the 'victim'"

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've come across someone I know on here just the other day. Said nothing. Respect his privacy and discretion. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a couple that we recognised immediately, at the time we hadn't found the block button Lol, we just ignored them and then they started looking at us Every 10 mins or so I think the penny dropped who we were after we set a picture to public that was obviously me, they stopped looking after that.

Another time I was here idly perving... I mean minding my own business in the forum when I noticed we had a message, it was from a couple who we know really well in the vanilla world that had recognised us, we didn't mind either of the couples knowing we were on here but not everyone is as laid back as us so I guess it depends on the individuals involved as to whether it's appropriate to mention you know each other or not.

Ess

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

has been known and i have let then know by text.

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By *ackandsashaCouple
over a year ago

West Dublin


"Nope, regardless of their gender I'd not mention it and show them the kind of respect for their privacy and discretion and I would hope they'd show me.

Best policy is block and forget you ever saw their profile."

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Def block I was messaged by a guy at work he clearly didn't know it was me and I've blocked him too close to home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a loose relation on here. She doesn't know I'm on here and I'm not saying.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Would you tell them if it was a bloke I'd keep quiet but if it was a woman think I'd have to try and drop little hints well as long as we were not related !!!"

So you'd respect a man but act like a creep to a woman?

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

I saw a couple on here ages ago that used to be our neighbours and close friends. So I sent them a wotcha doing on here - message. We had a good giggle and met up with them for our first visit to VA.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I saw a couple on here ages ago that used to be our neighbours and close friends. So I sent them a wotcha doing on here - message. We had a good giggle and met up with them for our first visit to VA."

Very different approaching directly and revealing yourself, opposed to anonymously dropping little hints.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Would you tell them if it was a bloke I'd keep quiet but if it was a woman think I'd have to try and drop little hints well as long as we were not related !!!"

Don't drop little hints, women find it scary and intimidating. Every so often women post saying someone has been in contact saying they know them and giving random hints as to how. They're usually advised to block and keep any messages in case the police need to become involved.

This might seem a bit extreme when your intentions were honourable and you were just teasing but that isn't how many women see it.

In my opinion you're best bet is to declare yourself from the start or block.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Really ? Grumpy ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got messaged by a bloke who sits on the next bank of desks at work and I've known him years which was a shock and he is bloody fit always fancied him! So told him I knew him well... Asked him if he was sure he wanted to know who I was? He then guessed....

It all worked out well (not that well) and we still talk at work

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Really ? Grumpy ? "

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