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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any non drinkers here with some advice to give? I want to quit in the new year and just see how I get on with making better life decisions for myself in general. Any tips or advice muchly appreciated, gracias.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Depends how much you drink, do you drink everyday? Try and give your body at least two days off the booze a week and try and be more creative with non alcoholic drinks..mock cocktails type thing

Good luck I too am going to reduce my alcohol intake in 2017

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I'm not a non drinker but I am a very occasional social drinker and rarely to excess drinker. I just got bored of it and would rather sit on one or two drinks all night, get a mild buzz and enjoy my evening instead of drinking a few and become loud and brash (since if I annoy myself in that state God knows how much that must piss other people off). Plus, calories. Loads of them in booze. I'd rather eat an occasional treat than drink one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'm an ex alcoholic.

depends why you want to give up i think? i had got pregnant so obviously you can't drink then. then i ended up a single parent and 100% responsible (plus on benefits so skint), all these ensured i gave up drinking successfully.

it felt weird going from drinking all the time to nothing though, and this felt strange for about a year afterwards.

i'd say see what tempts you to drink and stay away from that.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I stopped drinking a couple of years ago and feel the better of it.

good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i'm an ex alcoholic.

depends why you want to give up i think? i had got pregnant so obviously you can't drink then. then i ended up a single parent and 100% responsible (plus on benefits so skint), all these ensured i gave up drinking successfully.

it felt weird going from drinking all the time to nothing though, and this felt strange for about a year afterwards.

i'd say see what tempts you to drink and stay away from that. "

My social life and friendships is very much fuelled by alcohol, and there's nothing wrong with that. We work hard and play hard, that's the way it's always been. But I'm just looking to cut the drinking out of it now and focus on other things that will help me grow instead. I hope I don't lose friends over it (and when I say friends I mean like the connections you make with friends when your out socialising and stuff)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I stopped drinking a couple of years ago and feel the better of it.

good luck "

Can I ask why you stopped drinking and do you feel better for it? Did any of your relationships or friendships suffer?

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

I drink but in moderation as I dislike being d*unk and not in control and I didn't want to depend on alcohol to have a good time.

All alcohol does is give you a bit more confidence, once you realise this and develop a bit of self belief and social confidence you'll realise you don't need alcohol to fuel interaction

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not a non drinker but I am a very occasional social drinker and rarely to excess drinker. I just got bored of it and would rather sit on one or two drinks all night, get a mild buzz and enjoy my evening instead of drinking a few and become loud and brash (since if I annoy myself in that state God knows how much that must piss other people off). Plus, calories. Loads of them in booze. I'd rather eat an occasional treat than drink one."

I wish I could only have one or two and then call it a night! I'm not an alcoholic but I am a binger. Don't drink often but when I do I tend to go all out. So my way of thinking is that if I just cut it out altogether then I'll stop getting urges to go mad? Hopefully.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I stopped drinking a couple of years ago and feel the better of it.

good luck

Can I ask why you stopped drinking and do you feel better for it? Did any of your relationships or friendships suffer? "

I didn't like the downer effect it could have on me and I really noticed that the hangover effect was lasting days.

and I went from a funny d*unk, to an argumentative d*unk and that I did not like in me.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I'm not a non drinker but I am a very occasional social drinker and rarely to excess drinker. I just got bored of it and would rather sit on one or two drinks all night, get a mild buzz and enjoy my evening instead of drinking a few and become loud and brash (since if I annoy myself in that state God knows how much that must piss other people off). Plus, calories. Loads of them in booze. I'd rather eat an occasional treat than drink one.

I wish I could only have one or two and then call it a night! I'm not an alcoholic but I am a binger. Don't drink often but when I do I tend to go all out. So my way of thinking is that if I just cut it out altogether then I'll stop getting urges to go mad? Hopefully. "

Binge drinking is the worse....try and alternate weekends have one weekend of not drinking etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been a big drinker, love nights out without needing the alcohol to be able to let go.. i just enjoy who i am as a person.

I dont personally understand the struggles that comes with 'i wanna go tea total' as i have never been one to consume it. Hope you do well though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i'm an ex alcoholic.

depends why you want to give up i think? i had got pregnant so obviously you can't drink then. then i ended up a single parent and 100% responsible (plus on benefits so skint), all these ensured i gave up drinking successfully.

it felt weird going from drinking all the time to nothing though, and this felt strange for about a year afterwards.

i'd say see what tempts you to drink and stay away from that.

My social life and friendships is very much fuelled by alcohol, and there's nothing wrong with that. We work hard and play hard, that's the way it's always been. But I'm just looking to cut the drinking out of it now and focus on other things that will help me grow instead. I hope I don't lose friends over it (and when I say friends I mean like the connections you make with friends when your out socialising and stuff)"

you might do, but they were never that good of friends in the first place i'd reckon. or you might even be a good influence on some and they stop drinking as well?

i do remember my 'best friend' at the time saying how boring i was when i stopped drinking. i was pregnant though and couldn't drink even if i wanted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest looking up dry January OP, I do this every year but then I try and carry it on for as long as I can...

all the money I save from not drinking in January is donated to charity..

all the money saved after that goes into my holiday pot

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"i'm an ex alcoholic.

depends why you want to give up i think? i had got pregnant so obviously you can't drink then. then i ended up a single parent and 100% responsible (plus on benefits so skint), all these ensured i gave up drinking successfully.

it felt weird going from drinking all the time to nothing though, and this felt strange for about a year afterwards.

i'd say see what tempts you to drink and stay away from that.

My social life and friendships is very much fuelled by alcohol, and there's nothing wrong with that. We work hard and play hard, that's the way it's always been. But I'm just looking to cut the drinking out of it now and focus on other things that will help me grow instead. I hope I don't lose friends over it (and when I say friends I mean like the connections you make with friends when your out socialising and stuff)"
time to stop living life for them and start loving yourself a bit more.if they truly love/ like you they will support you or even join you every now and then. i rarely drink. when i go out no one blinks when i want a soft drink x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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all the money I save from not drinking in January is donated to charity"

I'm going to have to remove you from the grumpy fecker award aren't I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You won't "lose friends" over cutting out alcohol, they weren't friends in the first place.

If your social life revolves around alcohol, then it's probably going to be a major change for you,unless you like hanging out with d*unks while sober..

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

If your drinking consists of going out partying with mates you could try offering to be the designated driver and that way you can't drink and you all save the cost of a taxi home.

I'm a very occasional social drinker, maybe 2-3 times a year. I've been a non drinker for so long nobody bats an eyelid anymore, they're more surprised when i do have a drink these days.

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