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"well get yourself out in a crowd for nye, many a relationship starts when that clock strikes 11:47pm Whatever you do, have a good one"Thankyou! I was going to go to a club at least,but 'monthly stuff' has got in the way of that. There are no crowd's around here where I am. | |||
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"Make yourself a New years resolution for yourself not to be in the same boat next year. Good luck, hope you find happiness. "I say that every year unfortunately,but thankyou  | |||
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"well get yourself out in a crowd for nye, many a relationship starts when that clock strikes 11:47pm Whatever you do, have a good one
Thankyou! I was going to go to a club at least,but 'monthly stuff' has got in the way of that. There are no crowd's around here where I am."Can't you still go, just for the social aspect? | |||
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"I'll be on my own too Hun. Keep smiling " I will thankyou,it's just smacked me in the face that I'm in the same position that I've been in for the last few year's | |||
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"well get yourself out in a crowd for nye, many a relationship starts when that clock strikes 11:47pm Whatever you do, have a good one
Thankyou! I was going to go to a club at least,but 'monthly stuff' has got in the way of that. There are no crowd's around here where I am.
Can't you still go, just for the social aspect?"I don't know really,the guy that I may have been going with would probably want to play rather than just socialise. I'm a bit rubbish at chit chat to be honest so wouldn't go by myself. | |||
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"But you're a couple....am I missing something?? Yes if you haven't read the profile "I had, but obviously it was only a man-look. Tbh I'd still say this thread would make more sense from your ACTUAL single profile. | |||
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"But you're a couple....am I missing something?? Yes if you haven't read the profile
I had, but obviously it was only a man-look. Tbh I'd still say this thread would make more sense from your ACTUAL single profile."It doesn't matter which profile I use,that's not the point of the post. | |||
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" It doesn't matter which profile I use,that's not the point of the post." Fair enough. Crack on. | |||
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" It doesn't matter which profile I use,that's not the point of the post. Fair enough. Crack on." | |||
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"when I'm spending New Year by myself! Now don't get me wrong I do have family I don't need to spend it alone,but having someone special in my life would be great "There's something wrong in life when society builds up one day a year to be so sacred that it makes people feel bad because they don't have someone to shag that day. | |||
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I'm sorry, OP. It seems that holidays can be hard for this reason. Just try not to think of it as a special night, maybe. In reality it isn't really any different from any other night. Make it special in your own way. | |||
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"You have the choice to say "fuck this, I'll choose my good nights when they happen." A calendar printed months in advance and bought by thousands of people doesn't know more about your future than you do." | |||
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"well get yourself out in a crowd for nye, many a relationship starts when that clock strikes 11:47pm Whatever you do, have a good one
Thankyou! I was going to go to a club at least,but 'monthly stuff' has got in the way of that. There are no crowd's around here where I am.
Can't you still go, just for the social aspect?
I don't know really,the guy that I may have been going with would probably want to play rather than just socialise. I'm a bit rubbish at chit chat to be honest so wouldn't go by myself."I understand. This particular holiday can hilight a solitary situation. I wouldn't dream of patronising you by suggesting you think of those worse off so the best I can say is its only one night/evening and will soon be over. | |||
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" I'm sorry, OP. It seems that holidays can be hard for this reason. Just try not to think of it as a special night, maybe. In reality it isn't really any different from any other night. Make it special in your own way. "I struggled massively with the festive period for years. There's someone I wish I had in my life, so it'll be hard again this year. However, I have found a lot of peace and calm from letting go of all the stress and expectations of this time. Now, I just ignore it as much as possible, float through it and go for walks in the beautiful Welsh countryside. I also focus on enjoying Jan and doing nice things. Speaking of Wales - Marc/Courtenay - I did notice you were here recently. I honestly wasn't hoping to meet you in any way (cross fingers/hope to die!), but I'm a frustrated tour guide and love messaging visitors with tips/ideas. It matters a lot to me that people have a nice time in this beautiful but rust rating part of the world. I'm a soppy emotional Celt | |||
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" I'm sorry, OP. It seems that holidays can be hard for this reason. Just try not to think of it as a special night, maybe. In reality it isn't really any different from any other night. Make it special in your own way.
I struggled massively with the festive period for years. There's someone I wish I had in my life, so it'll be hard again this year. However, I have found a lot of peace and calm from letting go of all the stress and expectations of this time.
Now, I just ignore it as much as possible, float through it and go for walks in the beautiful Welsh countryside. I also focus on enjoying Jan and doing nice things.
Speaking of Wales - Marc/Courtenay - I did notice you were here recently. I honestly wasn't hoping to meet you in any way (cross fingers/hope to die!), but I'm a frustrated tour guide and love messaging visitors with tips/ideas.
It matters a lot to me that people have a nice time in this beautiful but rust rating part of the world. I'm a soppy emotional Celt "*frustrating* | |||
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 A lot of my friends think I'm odd but that's okay with me.
I have a variety of invitations to things but I'd rather hang out by myself. It's just another day to me, happily I get a day off work which is an added bonus and I won't be hungover. | |||
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"when I'm spending New Year by myself! Now don't get me wrong I do have family I don't need to spend it alone,but having someone special in my life would be great
There's something wrong in life when society builds up one day a year to be so sacred that it makes people feel bad because they don't have someone to shag that day."Someone to shag?! I'm a woman on a sex site I don't need to say more do I and that's coming from a woman?! I said someone 'special' | |||
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"well get yourself out in a crowd for nye, many a relationship starts when that clock strikes 11:47pm Whatever you do, have a good one
Thankyou! I was going to go to a club at least,but 'monthly stuff' has got in the way of that. There are no crowd's around here where I am.
Can't you still go, just for the social aspect?
I don't know really,the guy that I may have been going with would probably want to play rather than just socialise. I'm a bit rubbish at chit chat to be honest so wouldn't go by myself.
I understand. This particular holiday can hilight a solitary situation. I wouldn't dream of patronising you by suggesting you think of those worse off so the best I can say is its only one night/evening and will soon be over.
"Thankyou,I can alway's rely on you to talk sense. I know there are far worse off than myself,it's just the emptiness I've been feeling for a good number of year's surfacing for a while. | |||
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"But you're a couple....am I missing something?? Yes if you haven't read the profile "I don't get it either. The profile doesn't explain anyhing why you would not be together. | |||
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" I'm sorry, OP. It seems that holidays can be hard for this reason. Just try not to think of it as a special night, maybe. In reality it isn't really any different from any other night. Make it special in your own way. "I have a love/hate relationship with the whole of Christmas,my ex husband destroyed our young family a week before xmas a number of year's ago and even though I don't really consciously think about it it's there in my head. I would like to stop feeling the pretence of being happy infront of the kid's and actually be happy. | |||
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I don't get it either. The profile doesn't explain anyhing why you would not be together."Yes it does,we are not 'together' we are not a couple,we are not married. | |||
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"You aren't alone. For some strange reason I find New Year's Eve tougher than Valentine's Day. But I shall stick with my standard routine of some good tv and chocolate and having a good old perv on here! "I hope you have a lovely night. | |||
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" I'm sorry, OP. It seems that holidays can be hard for this reason. Just try not to think of it as a special night, maybe. In reality it isn't really any different from any other night. Make it special in your own way.
I have a love/hate relationship with the whole of Christmas,my ex husband destroyed our young family a week before xmas a number of year's ago and even though I don't really consciously think about it it's there in my head. I would like to stop feeling the pretence of being happy infront of the kid's and actually be happy."Only you can do that. Waiting for someone 'special' to make you happy isn't the way forward. I'm a firm believer in loving yourself and making your own happiness. Relying on someone else to make you happy is a sure fire way to hit disappointment. It's within your control to be happy and not pretend for the sake of the kids. You need to process the past and look at the future... your future. If you meet a special someone then that's a bonus but waiting on that happening means your life is passing you by in the meantime. I hope you work it out. | |||
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" I'm sorry, OP. It seems that holidays can be hard for this reason. Just try not to think of it as a special night, maybe. In reality it isn't really any different from any other night. Make it special in your own way.
I have a love/hate relationship with the whole of Christmas,my ex husband destroyed our young family a week before xmas a number of year's ago and even though I don't really consciously think about it it's there in my head. I would like to stop feeling the pretence of being happy infront of the kid's and actually be happy."Do you have anything to look forward to in January - a holiday, a day in a spa being pampered, a trip to see a good friend who lives away, starting a new interest etc? I found my Christmas/New Year phobia eased greatly when I gave myself things to look forward to. Doesn't have to be much, doesn't have to be expensive. Now, I kinda give the festive period a decent shot, but when everyone else is dreading January, I'm actually looking forward to it. I bumped into an old mate yesterday. We're meeting in early Jan - something as simple as that raised the spirits. I'd recommend Wales in January for windswept beauty and marvellous Fabbers
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" I'm sorry, OP. It seems that holidays can be hard for this reason. Just try not to think of it as a special night, maybe. In reality it isn't really any different from any other night. Make it special in your own way.
I have a love/hate relationship with the whole of Christmas,my ex husband destroyed our young family a week before xmas a number of year's ago and even though I don't really consciously think about it it's there in my head. I would like to stop feeling the pretence of being happy infront of the kid's and actually be happy.
Only you can do that. Waiting for someone 'special' to make you happy isn't the way forward. I'm a firm believer in loving yourself and making your own happiness. Relying on someone else to make you happy is a sure fire way to hit disappointment. It's within your control to be happy and not pretend for the sake of the kids. You need to process the past and look at the future... your future. If you meet a special someone then that's a bonus but waiting on that happening means your life is passing you by in the meantime. I hope you work it out. "I know what you're saying and you're right. I just crave and miss someone's soft touch,I miss holding hands making plans,loving someone feeling their closeness. I feel like an outsider in life looking in. I have a lot in my life to be grateful for I know that,there's just something missing. | |||
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" I'm sorry, OP. It seems that holidays can be hard for this reason. Just try not to think of it as a special night, maybe. In reality it isn't really any different from any other night. Make it special in your own way.
I have a love/hate relationship with the whole of Christmas,my ex husband destroyed our young family a week before xmas a number of year's ago and even though I don't really consciously think about it it's there in my head. I would like to stop feeling the pretence of being happy infront of the kid's and actually be happy.
Do you have anything to look forward to in January - a holiday, a day in a spa being pampered, a trip to see a good friend who lives away, starting a new interest etc?
I found my Christmas/New Year phobia eased greatly when I gave myself things to look forward to. Doesn't have to be much, doesn't have to be expensive.
Now, I kinda give the festive period a decent shot, but when everyone else is dreading January, I'm actually looking forward to it.
I bumped into an old mate yesterday. We're meeting in early Jan - something as simple as that raised the spirits.
I'd recommend Wales in January for windswept beauty and marvellous Fabbers
*not being entirely serious there*"I've nothing planned at the moment with my finances,maybe I should see if I can afford to take the kid's away for one weekend that's an idea. Wales sound's lovely,where would you advise? | |||
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Self pity isn't attractive is it,it's just hit me for some reason "You're never anything *but* attractive. Xx | |||
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"But you're a couple....am I missing something?? Yes if you haven't read the profile
I don't get it either. The profile doesn't explain anyhing why you would not be together.
Yes it does,we are not 'together' we are not a couple,we are not married. "Yep, pretty crystal clear for anyone who can read beyond the first few lines  | |||
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"But you're a couple....am I missing something?? Yes if you haven't read the profile
I don't get it either. The profile doesn't explain anyhing why you would not be together.
Yes it does,we are not 'together' we are not a couple,we are not married.
Yep, pretty crystal clear for anyone who can read beyond the first few lines "Ok, thanks, for clarifying before. No need to reiterate from your singles profile too. | |||
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"But you're a couple....am I missing something?? Yes if you haven't read the profile
I don't get it either. The profile doesn't explain anyhing why you would not be together.
Yes it does,we are not 'together' we are not a couple,we are not married.
Yep, pretty crystal clear for anyone who can read beyond the first few lines "and this is the gentleman in question | |||
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" I'm sorry, OP. It seems that holidays can be hard for this reason. Just try not to think of it as a special night, maybe. In reality it isn't really any different from any other night. Make it special in your own way.
I struggled massively with the festive period for years. There's someone I wish I had in my life, so it'll be hard again this year. However, I have found a lot of peace and calm from letting go of all the stress and expectations of this time.
Now, I just ignore it as much as possible, float through it and go for walks in the beautiful Welsh countryside. I also focus on enjoying Jan and doing nice things.
Speaking of Wales - Marc/Courtenay - I did notice you were here recently. I honestly wasn't hoping to meet you in any way (cross fingers/hope to die!), but I'm a frustrated tour guide and love messaging visitors with tips/ideas.
It matters a lot to me that people have a nice time in this beautiful but rust rating part of the world. I'm a soppy emotional Celt "We had a lovely time in Wales. Next time we go I'll make sure to message and ask for touristy advice....I tend to bother lots of people with those sorts of questions - I'll give them a break for a while and ask some new people. | |||
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"But you're a couple....am I missing something?? Yes if you haven't read the profile
I don't get it either. The profile doesn't explain anyhing why you would not be together.
Yes it does,we are not 'together' we are not a couple,we are not married.
Yep, pretty crystal clear for anyone who can read beyond the first few lines
and this is the gentleman in question "Indeed. Two separate people | |||
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" I'm sorry, OP. It seems that holidays can be hard for this reason. Just try not to think of it as a special night, maybe. In reality it isn't really any different from any other night. Make it special in your own way.
I have a love/hate relationship with the whole of Christmas,my ex husband destroyed our young family a week before xmas a number of year's ago and even though I don't really consciously think about it it's there in my head. I would like to stop feeling the pretence of being happy infront of the kid's and actually be happy.
Do you have anything to look forward to in January - a holiday, a day in a spa being pampered, a trip to see a good friend who lives away, starting a new interest etc?
I found my Christmas/New Year phobia eased greatly when I gave myself things to look forward to. Doesn't have to be much, doesn't have to be expensive.
Now, I kinda give the festive period a decent shot, but when everyone else is dreading January, I'm actually looking forward to it.
I bumped into an old mate yesterday. We're meeting in early Jan - something as simple as that raised the spirits.
I'd recommend Wales in January for windswept beauty and marvellous Fabbers
*not being entirely serious there*
I've nothing planned at the moment with my finances,maybe I should see if I can afford to take the kid's away for one weekend that's an idea. Wales sound's lovely,where would you advise?"Sounds an idea - a change of scenery is important sometimes. I find I think much clearer in unfamiliar surroundings, where I can't get sucked into day-to-day tasks etc. Wales will be bracing in January, but much of it is lovely at any times (bring waterproofs). I mentioned in a previous post I was gagging to do my tour guide bit recently with other Fabbers - I'll put together a proper message (I'm not after anything here, honest!). I'd prefer to PM it if possible, because in saying a lot about the area it'll say a lot about me. If that's OK, is it better it goes to your single account? If PM is not a good idea, no worries - I'll write something here. Working hard to make January nice/fun/relaxing is great, honest! | |||
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"well get yourself out in a crowd for nye, many a relationship starts when that clock strikes 11:47pm Whatever you do, have a good one
Thankyou! I was going to go to a club at least,but 'monthly stuff' has got in the way of that. There are no crowd's around here where I am.
Can't you still go, just for the social aspect?
I don't know really,the guy that I may have been going with would probably want to play rather than just socialise. I'm a bit rubbish at chit chat to be honest so wouldn't go by myself.
I understand. This particular holiday can hilight a solitary situation. I wouldn't dream of patronising you by suggesting you think of those worse off so the best I can say is its only one night/evening and will soon be over.
Thankyou,I can alway's rely on you to talk sense. I know there are far worse off than myself,it's just the emptiness I've been feeling for a good number of year's surfacing for a while. "It's true that there's always someone worse off but it doesn't help when you're feeling rubbish. I'm glad you think I talk sense...you're the only one who does | |||
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"well get yourself out in a crowd for nye, many a relationship starts when that clock strikes 11:47pm Whatever you do, have a good one
Thankyou! I was going to go to a club at least,but 'monthly stuff' has got in the way of that. There are no crowd's around here where I am.
Can't you still go, just for the social aspect?
I don't know really,the guy that I may have been going with would probably want to play rather than just socialise. I'm a bit rubbish at chit chat to be honest so wouldn't go by myself.
I understand. This particular holiday can hilight a solitary situation. I wouldn't dream of patronising you by suggesting you think of those worse off so the best I can say is its only one night/evening and will soon be over.
Thankyou,I can alway's rely on you to talk sense. I know there are far worse off than myself,it's just the emptiness I've been feeling for a good number of year's surfacing for a while.
It's true that there's always someone worse off but it doesn't help when you're feeling rubbish.
I'm glad you think I talk sense...you're the only one who does "You do talk sense,you know you have those people in your life that you actually really really listen to and you don't want to disappoint them I would imagine you're that kind of person | |||
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and this is the gentleman in question
So, who is posting now? The male half or the female half?
Is the male posting on the single m profile and the female posting from the couples profile ?". Perhaps I should make it more clear in future. | |||
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" Yep, pretty crystal clear for anyone who can read beyond the first few lines
and this is the gentleman in question
So, who is posting now? The male half or the female half?
Is the male posting on the single m profile and the female posting from the couples profile ?
. Perhaps I should make it more clear in future."Yes, so which is it? | |||
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" Yep, pretty crystal clear for anyone who can read beyond the first few lines
and this is the gentleman in question
So, who is posting now? The male half or the female half?
Is the male posting on the single m profile and the female posting from the couples profile ?"It was always that way - it was obvious to everyone, except you and me - imbecile high five? | |||
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"when I'm spending New Year by myself! Now don't get me wrong I do have family I don't need to spend it alone,but having someone special in my life would be great
There's something wrong in life when society builds up one day a year to be so sacred that it makes people feel bad because they don't have someone to shag that day."...or when other people offer you sympathy on those days when actually, you are blissfully happy. It's my birthday tomorrow and I've spent many of them alone or working and it's not a big deal at all. My 50th was epic though, I still laugh and smile thinking about it. | |||
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" Yep, pretty crystal clear for anyone who can read beyond the first few lines
and this is the gentleman in question
So, who is posting now? The male half or the female half?
Is the male posting on the single m profile and the female posting from the couples profile ?
. Perhaps I should make it more clear in future.
Yes, so which is it?"Me  | |||
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" I'm sorry, OP. It seems that holidays can be hard for this reason. Just try not to think of it as a special night, maybe. In reality it isn't really any different from any other night. Make it special in your own way.
I have a love/hate relationship with the whole of Christmas,my ex husband destroyed our young family a week before xmas a number of year's ago and even though I don't really consciously think about it it's there in my head. I would like to stop feeling the pretence of being happy infront of the kid's and actually be happy.
Do you have anything to look forward to in January - a holiday, a day in a spa being pampered, a trip to see a good friend who lives away, starting a new interest etc?
I found my Christmas/New Year phobia eased greatly when I gave myself things to look forward to. Doesn't have to be much, doesn't have to be expensive.
Now, I kinda give the festive period a decent shot, but when everyone else is dreading January, I'm actually looking forward to it.
I bumped into an old mate yesterday. We're meeting in early Jan - something as simple as that raised the spirits.
I'd recommend Wales in January for windswept beauty and marvellous Fabbers
*not being entirely serious there*
I've nothing planned at the moment with my finances,maybe I should see if I can afford to take the kid's away for one weekend that's an idea. Wales sound's lovely,where would you advise?
Sounds an idea - a change of scenery is important sometimes. I find I think much clearer in unfamiliar surroundings, where I can't get sucked into day-to-day tasks etc.
Wales will be bracing in January, but much of it is lovely at any times (bring waterproofs).
I mentioned in a previous post I was gagging to do my tour guide bit recently with other Fabbers - I'll put together a proper message (I'm not after anything here, honest!).
I'd prefer to PM it if possible, because in saying a lot about the area it'll say a lot about me. If that's OK, is it better it goes to your single account? If PM is not a good idea, no worries - I'll write something here.
Working hard to make January nice/fun/relaxing is great, honest!
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" Yep, pretty crystal clear for anyone who can read beyond the first few lines
and this is the gentleman in question
So, who is posting now? The male half or the female half?
Is the male posting on the single m profile and the female posting from the couples profile ?
. Perhaps I should make it more clear in future.
Yes, so which is it?
Me "The man only posting from both? | |||
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" I'm sorry, OP. It seems that holidays can be hard for this reason. Just try not to think of it as a special night, maybe. In reality it isn't really any different from any other night. Make it special in your own way.
I struggled massively with the festive period for years. There's someone I wish I had in my life, so it'll be hard again this year. However, I have found a lot of peace and calm from letting go of all the stress and expectations of this time.
Now, I just ignore it as much as possible, float through it and go for walks in the beautiful Welsh countryside. I also focus on enjoying Jan and doing nice things.
Speaking of Wales - Marc/Courtenay - I did notice you were here recently. I honestly wasn't hoping to meet you in any way (cross fingers/hope to die!), but I'm a frustrated tour guide and love messaging visitors with tips/ideas.
It matters a lot to me that people have a nice time in this beautiful but rust rating part of the world. I'm a soppy emotional Celt "I was in Cardiff recently too lovely part of the world xxx | |||
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" Do you have anything to look forward to in January - a holiday, a day in a spa being pampered, a trip to see a good friend who lives away, starting a new interest etc? I found my Christmas/New Year phobia eased greatly when I gave myself things to look forward to. Doesn't have to be much, doesn't have to be expensive. Now, I kinda give the festive period a decent shot, but when everyone else is dreading January, I'm actually looking forward to it. I bumped into an old mate yesterday. We're meeting in early Jan - something as simple as that raised the spirits. I'd recommend Wales in January for windswept beauty and marvellous Fabbers
*not being entirely serious there*"That's a really good idea. I hate New Year for different reasons...might spend it planning something instead of dwelling on stuff I haven't yet managed to change. Thanks | |||
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Self pity isn't attractive is it,it's just hit me for some reason "All holiday events can be a bitch, but the Xmas to NYE is a long eventfull roller coaster of emotions, the turning of a year makes you look at past and future and brings into sharp focus anything that was not 100%. So I forgive you the self pity, I suffer quite badly on NYE too, even though I will be with my wife and friends and sometimes even my children, just after midnight I need to be alone, talk to the sky and wonder if my first wife can hear me, telling her about what I and the children are up to, which is hard as she died when they were very young, my oldest grandchild is older than my daughter was when she lost her mum. but it's easier than it once was, life is generally good. and next week I know I will realise that. Don't stay in alone, get down the local pub, crowds can be lonely but the night will pass a damned sight quicker in company, and the telly is always crap on NYE... | |||
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" Yep, pretty crystal clear for anyone who can read beyond the first few lines
and this is the gentleman in question
So, who is posting now? The male half or the female half?
Is the male posting on the single m profile and the female posting from the couples profile ?
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Yes, so which is it?
Me
The man only posting from both?"If that's what you want to believe then yes. | |||
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Self pity isn't attractive is it,it's just hit me for some reason
All holiday events can be a bitch, but the Xmas to NYE is a long eventfull roller coaster of emotions, the turning of a year makes you look at past and future and brings into sharp focus anything that was not 100%. So I forgive you the self pity, I suffer quite badly on NYE too, even though I will be with my wife and friends and sometimes even my children, just after midnight I need to be alone, talk to the sky and wonder if my first wife can hear me, telling her about what I and the children are up to, which is hard as she died when they were very young, my oldest grandchild is older than my daughter was when she lost her mum. but it's easier than it once was, life is generally good. and next week I know I will realise that.
Don't stay in alone, get down the local pub, crowds can be lonely but the night will pass a damned sight quicker in company, and the telly is always crap on NYE...
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" Yep, pretty crystal clear for anyone who can read beyond the first few lines
and this is the gentleman in question
So, who is posting now? The male half or the female half?
Is the male posting on the single m profile and the female posting from the couples profile ?
. Perhaps I should make it more clear in future.
Yes, so which is it?
Me
The man only posting from both?
If that's what you want to believe then yes."I don't 'want' to believe anything. But it's difficult having a conversation with a 'couple' and not knowing which one or both is speaking. Why is it so bad to say who it is? | |||
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"My first thought reading the post was must be a friends with benefits couple and I read the profile to confirm my instinct on the matter, not that it's relevant to the issue she's raised The holidays often make people feel lonely, sometimes if single, even when they're surrounded by loved ones. If being alone is something you don't want anymore have you maybe considered taking a break from swinging and foucussung on putting yourself out there (not calling you a slag couldn't think of a better way to say it sorry) in different ways? Go out with vanilla friends more or if you want a swingersvrelationship go to social events to make better connections in person Thankyou for not questioning the in's and out's of this profile. I hadn't met anyone from here over the last six months apart from the last couple of weeks from my single account and that was with people I already know as I just wasn't feeling it. I am on a couple of dating sites,but I'm not really having much look on them. It's either people who have messaged lot's of time's before or I don't find an attraction to them. Me being proactive hasn't been particularly successful either "Personally, I wouldn't call sitting at home on dating sites being all that proactive. Not sure what sites your using but most have mixer nights and social events, I've recently met someone and it was by going to such an event, that was what I'd deemed taking a proactive approach and it worked. Of course were all different, I have quite a lot confidence in myself so the thought of going to mixers/socials alone didn't intimidate me, I realise that not everyone as the confidence to do that, and if that's the case could your friend sharing this profile with you (or another single friend) not go with you? 
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" Yep, pretty crystal clear for anyone who can read beyond the first few lines
and this is the gentleman in question
So, who is posting now? The male half or the female half?
Is the male posting on the single m profile and the female posting from the couples profile ?
. Perhaps I should make it more clear in future.
Yes, so which is it?
Me
The man only posting from both?
If that's what you want to believe then yes.
I don't 'want' to believe anything. But it's difficult having a conversation with a 'couple' and not knowing which one or both is speaking. Why is it so bad to say who it is?"It's the woman,was that really not clear from the conversations? | |||
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"My first thought reading the post was must be a friends with benefits couple and I read the profile to confirm my instinct on the matter, not that it's relevant to the issue she's raised The holidays often make people feel lonely, sometimes if single, even when they're surrounded by loved ones. If being alone is something you don't want anymore have you maybe considered taking a break from swinging and foucussung on putting yourself out there (not calling you a slag couldn't think of a better way to say it sorry) in different ways? Go out with vanilla friends more or if you want a swingersvrelationship go to social events to make better connections in person Thankyou for not questioning the in's and out's of this profile. I hadn't met anyone from here over the last six months apart from the last couple of weeks from my single account and that was with people I already know as I just wasn't feeling it. I am on a couple of dating sites,but I'm not really having much look on them. It's either people who have messaged lot's of time's before or I don't find an attraction to them. Me being proactive hasn't been particularly successful either
Personally, I wouldn't call sitting at home on dating sites being all that proactive. Not sure what sites your using but most have mixer nights and social events, I've recently met someone and it was by going to such an event, that was what I'd deemed taking a proactive approach and it worked.
Of course were all different, I have quite a lot confidence in myself so the thought of going to mixers/socials alone didn't intimidate me, I realise that not everyone as the confidence to do that, and if that's the case could your friend sharing this profile with you (or another single friend) not go with you?
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" Do you have anything to look forward to in January - a holiday, a day in a spa being pampered, a trip to see a good friend who lives away, starting a new interest etc? I found my Christmas/New Year phobia eased greatly when I gave myself things to look forward to. Doesn't have to be much, doesn't have to be expensive. Now, I kinda give the festive period a decent shot, but when everyone else is dreading January, I'm actually looking forward to it. I bumped into an old mate yesterday. We're meeting in early Jan - something as simple as that raised the spirits. I'd recommend Wales in January for windswept beauty and marvellous Fabbers
*not being entirely serious there*
That's a really good idea. I hate New Year for different reasons...might spend it planning something instead of dwelling on stuff I haven't yet managed to change. Thanks "Glad my ramblings were of use! Honestly, January can be fun. I've got the biggest dose of unrequited love going and I'm too ol for that shite. Looking after yourself and planning fun is essential for well-being and to get through tough times and what's perceived as a tough month. Come to Wales too - bring a carload of Fabbers and Kagoules and it'll be ace (the accent ain't that different too). I'll supply pop, crisps, cakes and rambling bullshit. | |||
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" Yep, pretty crystal clear for anyone who can read beyond the first few lines
and this is the gentleman in question
So, who is posting now? The male half or the female half?
Is the male posting on the single m profile and the female posting from the couples profile ?
. Perhaps I should make it more clear in future.
Yes, so which is it?
Me
The man only posting from both?
If that's what you want to believe then yes.
I don't 'want' to believe anything. But it's difficult having a conversation with a 'couple' and not knowing which one or both is speaking. Why is it so bad to say who it is?
It's the woman,was that really not clear from the conversations? "I thought it was clear from the general tone of the OP, as I find men and women communicate differently, then of course the male half posted singularly, bit of a give away, unless he was playing it for shits and giggles which rightly or wrongly I doubted | |||
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" Yep, pretty crystal clear for anyone who can read beyond the first few lines
and this is the gentleman in question
So, who is posting now? The male half or the female half?
Is the male posting on the single m profile and the female posting from the couples profile ?
. Perhaps I should make it more clear in future.
Yes, so which is it?
Me
The man only posting from both?
If that's what you want to believe then yes.
I don't 'want' to believe anything. But it's difficult having a conversation with a 'couple' and not knowing which one or both is speaking. Why is it so bad to say who it is?
It's the woman,was that really not clear from the conversations?
I thought it was clear from the general tone of the OP, as I find men and women communicate differently, then of course the male half posted singularly, bit of a give away, unless he was playing it for shits and giggles which rightly or wrongly I doubted "No he's not that kind of person! D | |||
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" Yep, pretty crystal clear for anyone who can read beyond the first few lines
and this is the gentleman in question
So, who is posting now? The male half or the female half?
Is the male posting on the single m profile and the female posting from the couples profile ?
. Perhaps I should make it more clear in future.
Yes, so which is it?
Me
The man only posting from both?
If that's what you want to believe then yes.
I don't 'want' to believe anything. But it's difficult having a conversation with a 'couple' and not knowing which one or both is speaking. Why is it so bad to say who it is?
It's the woman,was that really not clear from the conversations?
I thought it was clear from the general tone of the OP, as I find men and women communicate differently, then of course the male half posted singularly, bit of a give away, unless he was playing it for shits and giggles which rightly or wrongly I doubted
No he's not that kind of person! D"He did come across that way to me on this thread | |||
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"My first thought reading the post was must be a friends with benefits couple and I read the profile to confirm my instinct on the matter, not that it's relevant to the issue she's raised The holidays often make people feel lonely, sometimes if single, even when they're surrounded by loved ones. If being alone is something you don't want anymore have you maybe considered taking a break from swinging and foucussung on putting yourself out there (not calling you a slag couldn't think of a better way to say it sorry) in different ways? Go out with vanilla friends more or if you want a swingersvrelationship go to social events to make better connections in person Thankyou for not questioning the in's and out's of this profile. I hadn't met anyone from here over the last six months apart from the last couple of weeks from my single account and that was with people I already know as I just wasn't feeling it. I am on a couple of dating sites,but I'm not really having much look on them. It's either people who have messaged lot's of time's before or I don't find an attraction to them. Me being proactive hasn't been particularly successful either
Personally, I wouldn't call sitting at home on dating sites being all that proactive. Not sure what sites your using but most have mixer nights and social events, I've recently met someone and it was by going to such an event, that was what I'd deemed taking a proactive approach and it worked.
Of course were all different, I have quite a lot confidence in myself so the thought of going to mixers/socials alone didn't intimidate me, I realise that not everyone as the confidence to do that, and if that's the case could your friend sharing this profile with you (or another single friend) not go with you?
Whoops accidentally emoji at the end sorry "That's a relief I thought you were getting at me . I'm not an overly confidence person to be honest when it comes to walking into a room full of people,I'm crap at small talk,which is stupid at my age I know. I'm on pof and have never seen any social nights in my area,fuck I sound incredibly pathetic I'm depressing myself now nevermind anyone else  . It's time to log off and get outside isn't it! | |||
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" Yep, pretty crystal clear for anyone who can read beyond the first few lines
and this is the gentleman in question
So, who is posting now? The male half or the female half?
Is the male posting on the single m profile and the female posting from the couples profile ?
. Perhaps I should make it more clear in future.
Yes, so which is it?
Me
The man only posting from both?
If that's what you want to believe then yes.
I don't 'want' to believe anything. But it's difficult having a conversation with a 'couple' and not knowing which one or both is speaking. Why is it so bad to say who it is?
It's the woman,was that really not clear from the conversations?
I thought it was clear from the general tone of the OP, as I find men and women communicate differently, then of course the male half posted singularly, bit of a give away, unless he was playing it for shits and giggles which rightly or wrongly I doubted
No he's not that kind of person! D
He did come across that way to me on this thread "He's not,he was probably just sticking up for me. D | |||
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"Take this the right way but there's not something wrong with life it's what you and only you make of it. I had two friends get divorced this year, ones spent 7 months moping around the house telling everyone who will listed how badly treated he's been etc and the others made an effort and refuses to let 'life' beat him and he's making the most of the change in circumstances. Make an effort and reap the rewards, life's dam short X " You're right! I'm just having a blip. | |||
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" Yep, pretty crystal clear for anyone who can read beyond the first few lines
and this is the gentleman in question
So, who is posting now? The male half or the female half?
Is the male posting on the single m profile and the female posting from the couples profile ?
. Perhaps I should make it more clear in future.
Yes, so which is it?
Me
The man only posting from both?
If that's what you want to believe then yes.
I don't 'want' to believe anything. But it's difficult having a conversation with a 'couple' and not knowing which one or both is speaking. Why is it so bad to say who it is?
It's the woman,was that really not clear from the conversations?
I thought it was clear from the general tone of the OP, as I find men and women communicate differently, then of course the male half posted singularly, bit of a give away, unless he was playing it for shits and giggles which rightly or wrongly I doubted
No he's not that kind of person! D
He did come across that way to me on this thread
He's not,he was probably just sticking up for me. D"I was agreeing with you and meant he did come across as the type of person not to be playing it for shits and giggles Hun | |||
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" Yep, pretty crystal clear for anyone who can read beyond the first few lines
and this is the gentleman in question
So, who is posting now? The male half or the female half?
Is the male posting on the single m profile and the female posting from the couples profile ?
. Perhaps I should make it more clear in future.
Yes, so which is it?
Me
The man only posting from both?
If that's what you want to believe then yes.
I don't 'want' to believe anything. But it's difficult having a conversation with a 'couple' and not knowing which one or both is speaking. Why is it so bad to say who it is?
It's the woman,was that really not clear from the conversations?
I thought it was clear from the general tone of the OP, as I find men and women communicate differently, then of course the male half posted singularly, bit of a give away, unless he was playing it for shits and giggles which rightly or wrongly I doubted
No he's not that kind of person! D
He did come across that way to me on this thread
He's not,he was probably just sticking up for me. D
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"when I'm spending New Year by myself! Now don't get me wrong I do have family I don't need to spend it alone,but having someone special in my life would be great
I've just worked out that I've seen in the last 16 new years on my own. I can't say it's really bothered me in the past but this year I've started to feel a bit fed-up about it. I totally understand where you're coming from OP."Thankyou Howard,it's not great is it. | |||
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"Party at mine? You'll be sorry you said that when you have people queuing at your door "Not a single response other than this one so I'm not as popular as I thought! | |||
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"Party at mine? what time? " I'm free all day, arrive early if you wanna help tidy up first
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Free marigolds all round "Does your bedroom need tidying up first? | |||
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"Party at mine? what time? I'm free all day, arrive early if you wanna help tidy up first
Free marigolds all round Does your bedroom need tidying up first? "Kitchen first....bedroom is the last on the list | |||
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"Yeap last 12 years on my own for NYE, this year it hit me spending Xmas on my own, now I've got to face NYE - Maybe next year will be different......Well I can hope lol x" I'll keep my fingers crossed for you,we'll catch up this time next year and see if either of us is a bit more settled | |||
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Free marigolds all round Does your bedroom need tidying up first?
Kitchen first....bedroom is the last on the list". Will you be wearing just your apron on in the kitchen & scrubbing the floor on your hands and knees? | |||
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"Party at mine? what time? I'm free all day, arrive early if you wanna help tidy up first
Free marigolds all round Does your bedroom need tidying up first?
Kitchen first....bedroom is the last on the list. Will you be wearing just your apron on in the kitchen & scrubbing the floor on your hands and knees?"I won't be doing it.... why else would I be asking others to come early?! I despise housework! Though I love it when it's finished. | |||
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"when I'm spending New Year by myself! Now don't get me wrong I do have family I don't need to spend it alone,but having someone special in my life would be great "But this is a couples profile.....? | |||
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"when I'm spending New Year by myself! Now don't get me wrong I do have family I don't need to spend it alone,but having someone special in my life would be great
But this is a couples profile.....?"We've been through that further up ^^,haven't the will to do it again I'm afraid. | |||
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"I spent NYE when it hit the year 2000 on my own. I'd bought tickets to a pub do, and my best mate cancelled cos of work last minute. I went anyway and wished I hadn't. It was so awkward as everyone knew everyone else and I'm not the most outgoing person. They had a magician who tried to take the piss out of me until he realised I was on my own and then felt sorry for me. Yeah, so don't do that. Buy yourself expensive consumable crap. Eat/drink/bathe in the lot. Expensive home spa treatments? Awesome film? Enjoy. Go to bed. Enjoy the minimal hangover the next morning. There really should be singles parties on NYE and Christmas Day for people who are on their own. There seems to be such a lot of you. You should all get together. " That sound's blinking awful ,I'd rather spend it alone I think. | |||
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"Yeap last 12 years on my own for NYE, this year it hit me spending Xmas on my own, now I've got to face NYE - Maybe next year will be different......Well I can hope lol x I'll keep my fingers crossed for you,we'll catch up this time next year and see if either of us is a bit more settled "Your on! | |||
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" I'm sorry, OP. It seems that holidays can be hard for this reason. Just try not to think of it as a special night, maybe. In reality it isn't really any different from any other night. Make it special in your own way.
I struggled massively with the festive period for years. There's someone I wish I had in my life, so it'll be hard again this year. However, I have found a lot of peace and calm from letting go of all the stress and expectations of this time.
Now, I just ignore it as much as possible, float through it and go for walks in the beautiful Welsh countryside. I also focus on enjoying Jan and doing nice things.
Speaking of Wales - Marc/Courtenay - I did notice you were here recently. I honestly wasn't hoping to meet you in any way (cross fingers/hope to die!), but I'm a frustrated tour guide and love messaging visitors with tips/ideas.
It matters a lot to me that people have a nice time in this beautiful but rust rating part of the world. I'm a soppy emotional Celt
I was in Cardiff recently too lovely part of the world xxx"I could show you some areas that'd have you re-think that pretty sharpish. It's pretty cool though | |||
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