FabSwingers.com forum: Is there something wrong with me?!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I appreciate starting this topic will inevitably lead to some mocking banter but here goes.

I met a woman on POF (sorry!) last week and we've literally hit it off. I was quite surprised that we did, after 13yrs in a largely dull marriage I didn't expect an internet site to reap and reward.

Anyhow, is there something wrong with me, because despite the fact I'm now in a (very early) relationship with this woman, I still seek thrills but this site for example?!

Thoughts please...

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

you met her a week ago ?

I think you should decide to either commit to her or agree with her that you can still chase thrills.....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Nothing wrong as long as you're honest. Monogamy isn't for you, that's all. If it's something your new lady wants and assumes you want too you'll find things difficult.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"I appreciate starting this topic will inevitably lead to some mocking banter but here goes.

I met a woman on POF (sorry!) last week and we've literally hit it off. I was quite surprised that we did, after 13yrs in a largely dull marriage I didn't expect an internet site to reap and reward.

Anyhow, is there something wrong with me, because despite the fact I'm now in a (very early) relationship with this woman, I still seek thrills but this site for example?!

Thoughts please..."

Yu are hedging your bets and keeping your options open. You dont want to commit to her entirely yet, and you shouldn't. You have only known her a week ... give it time.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

and after 13 years of a DULL marriage that you were 50% responsible for..... why commit so soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a talk with her, she may be on fab too, who knows

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By * Kiwis and a BananaMan
over a year ago

Part of your 5 a day

Your lost in the sauce bro

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

You've got to have a long hard think about what you want from this early stage relationship

Cheating on her from day 1 isn't going to bode well

Have your thrills with her and forget fab for awhile unless you're both ok with open relationships

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

has she got a tight fanny?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Let her know your feelings first & foremost. Don't lead her down the garden path and end up destroying any trust that she may have placed in you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking for other women to meet when you are so early into a new relationship, is a little unusual OP. What is it that you want? That's what you need to ask yourself. If you are not interested in being monogamous, perhaps it's best to tell this new woman? Best to do it before she gets too attached... Just my opinion of course

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I appreciate starting this topic will inevitably lead to some mocking banter but here goes.

I met a woman on POF (sorry!) last week and we've literally hit it off. I was quite surprised that we did, after 13yrs in a largely dull marriage I didn't expect an internet site to reap and reward.

Anyhow, is there something wrong with me, because despite the fact I'm now in a (very early) relationship with this woman, I still seek thrills but this site for example?!

Thoughts please..."

See how it goes and at some point soon have a conversation about whether or not you both want to 'see other people' for a while until you are sure, or what her expectations are if not that.

Only recommendation I ever have for relationships is to be honest and open, discuss everything, find common ground, make an agreement, and then bloody stick to it lol!!

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By *ire_thornMan
over a year ago

no comment

Not sure that there is anything wrong, it is my opinion based on nature.. humans are sexual beings... and it is also my opinion as a male... some men still have some underlying primal instinct/nature to mate... it's hard wired into our brains as males to seek out women to mate with... (sic) also it could be what some would call "the thrill of the hunt" or the chase... idk but it could also be you seek the thrills because as you put it you were in a dull relationship for 13 years, and you want to see what is out there that you didn't have...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You seem like many other human beings, to me. Not everyone wants to commit to one person. Some have poly relationships, some marry and cheat, some have sex with people who they aren't in a relationship, with the partner's blessing and some, like me, stay single and fuck who they want.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

the joys of vanilla dating..

i wouldnt be so direct. i would open conversations as to what a relationship means to her, without disclosure of what you do, so you get a fair idea of what shes looking for..then you will know what choices if any you have to make..

make it general, suss out the situation..casually..this is info gathering time...good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking for other women to meet when you are so early into a new relationship, is a little unusual OP. What is it that you want? That's what you need to ask yourself. If you are not interested in being monogamous, perhaps it's best to tell this new woman? Best to do it before she gets too attached... Just my opinion of course

i agree with this opinion also.

i don't think you're relationship material maybe? nothing wrong with that but it's not fair on someone who wants a relationship.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"You seem like many other human beings, to me. Not everyone wants to commit to one person. Some have poly relationships, some marry and cheat, some have sex with people who they aren't in a relationship, with the partner's blessing and some, like me, stay single and fuck who they want. "

Well fuck you then....er sorry, I'd like to fuck you

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

After 13 years in a relationship I wouldn't be jumping into another one after only knowing someone for a week. Just go with the flow

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"and after 13 years of a DULL marriage that you were 50% responsible for..... why commit so soon"

I really, really hate when people are disrespectful to their spouses!

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

If you like her maybe stop on here for a bit and see what happens first. Woyld say you got to find out what you both want - if it is monogamy for her then a choice has to be made. You never know though - she may want to join you on here!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies. It seems there's something wrong with me then lol

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I appreciate starting this topic will inevitably lead to some mocking banter but here goes.

I met a woman on POF (sorry!) last week and we've literally hit it off. I was quite surprised that we did, after 13yrs in a largely dull marriage I didn't expect an internet site to reap and reward.

Anyhow, is there something wrong with me, because despite the fact I'm now in a (very early) relationship with this woman, I still seek thrills but this site for example?!

Thoughts please..."

I wouldn't worry about it until you get some interest on here.... which may take a while if other single guys are to be believed..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do quick to settle down OP?

Why not cruise for a bit and enjoy your freedom to find out what it is you really want.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Thanks for the replies. It seems there's something wrong with me then lol "
i wouldnt date vanilla, its not for me, maybe its not whats 'wrong ' with you, but what you actually want/ need/ desire..there is not any standard anymore. you need to figure it out yourself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After only a week have you even had a conversation about being exclusive yet? If not then I'm not sure this even needs to be on your radar yet OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After only a week have you even had a conversation about being exclusive yet? If not then I'm not sure this even needs to be on your radar yet OP"

I recently got a message off an ex from years ago. We dated for a while and now 7 ish years later i find out shes on fab, had a full wardrode of toys and dom stuff and is bi wtf. Moral is if you dont ask you never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After only a week have you even had a conversation about being exclusive yet? If not then I'm not sure this even needs to be on your radar yet OP

Doesn't mean she was like that 7 years ago though. I wasn't

The point I'm making though is OP shouldn't really beat himself up about still getting thrills on here just yet, after only a week and maybe a handful of dates. I think it's maybe a little early to expect exclusivity unless it's something they've already discussed.

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