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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have you ever said something that was outrageous and unthinkable because you were over tired and stressed and therefore cost you a friendship? How did you feel afterwards?

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By * Kiwis and a BananaMan
over a year ago

Part of your 5 a day

Ahhh a lot of things have been said in the heat of the moment very terrible things I wish not to repeat...as a person I review what I have said and how that person may feel. I usually feel sympathetic towards the victim as they probably didn't deserve it. I would like to apologise if the person contacts me however usually I let it go as I deserve the treatment i will receive after

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

What have you done op?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would hope a true friend could see beyond the clumsiness of loosely spoken words

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Have you ever said something that was outrageous and unthinkable because you were over tired and stressed and therefore cost you a friendship? How did you feel afterwards?"

Yes, but it's not because I was tired or stressed.

I just do it as a matter of course, it seems.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Have you ever said something that was outrageous and unthinkable because you were over tired and stressed and therefore cost you a friendship? How did you feel afterwards?

Yes, but it's not because I was tired or stressed.

I just do it as a matter of course, it seems.

:/"

Which is why you will never never never never see me again! I was outraged.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for your inputs. I don't like to live with regrets but this time I have a regret that I wish I could have been more sensitive and sensible.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Open, if they were a true friend, they would realize you didn't mean it and would accept an apology. Good luck

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Thank you for your inputs. I don't like to live with regrets but this time I have a regret that I wish I could have been more sensitive and sensible. "
maybe your 'friend' neds a lesson in forgiving people and being more in tune with their friends needs. friendship is a two way street and if a pebble knocks it of course, one could wonder if they werent there purely for their own benefit x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thank you for your inputs. I don't like to live with regrets but this time I have a regret that I wish I could have been more sensitive and sensible. maybe your 'friend' neds a lesson in forgiving people and being more in tune with their friends needs. friendship is a two way street and if a pebble knocks it of course, one could wonder if they werent there purely for their own benefit x

Suzy you have hit the nail on the head as there's alot of truth in your remarks (even though I haven't divulged). Thanks for your insight!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I did say something to a friend, like you have said, I would question my own mind and why I said it. They probably deserve a better friend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I did say something to a friend, like you have said, I would question my own mind and why I said it. They probably deserve a better friend. "

Without divulging...what I suggested was lateral thinking so there was no malice, no bad feelings. So yes I have questioned and did question my own mind...obviously I wasn't thinking right as I was over tired, stressed and in need of tender loving care which I had not conveyed prior to our talking.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I only ever say something if I mean it which makes it difficult for me to distinguish between things that are said because someone is angry, tired or stressed and genuinely meant comments. This results in me being hurt and the person saying it being misunderstood.

Human interactions require understanding from both sides, maybe a calm talk with your friend will help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I only ever say something if I mean it which makes it difficult for me to distinguish between things that are said because someone is angry, tired or stressed and genuinely meant comments. This results in me being hurt and the person saying it being misunderstood.

Human interactions require understanding from both sides, maybe a calm talk with your friend will help."

I was very calm at the time. If only I could talk with him again. Messaging on whatsapp, emailing and text is a terrible way to communicate at the best of times as one does not hear tonation or see the persons face which all adds to proper comms.

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