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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, I hope you are well. To try and stand out from the rest whilst maintaining respect and courtesy is a challenge. I mean how does the perfect hello even start? And it's the standard use of manners that then make your approach fade in to the background along with the "Hi, how are you?"s and the I hope you are Wells... yet as a single guy, we are to initiate conversation and then captivate the attention all while somehow maintaining respect and doing or saying something that stands out above all of the other thoughtless attempts that are even sometimes multiplied and duplicated with a long list of receivers who read and ignore.

So how does a guy like me, just like any other genuine guy, make enough of an impact with a hello how are you? When all he really wants to do is get to know you?

Let me know... x

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Hi

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"So how does a guy like me, just like any other genuine guy, make enough of an impact with a hello how are you? When all he really wants to do is get to know you?

Let me know... x"

Move north

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't give out that sort of info for free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

timing counts as well.

you might be attractive to the person you message but they might not be that interested in starting up a new conversation at that exact time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put a jumper and hat on yer cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's timing too. More often though it depends what mood i am in, and that is obviously out of the other person's control.

Just be you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make her laugh harder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all down to luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, if the profile is good and it interests me then a "hi, how are you?" Etc is actually ok. Because a well written profile will usually have an interesting person the other end who can actually hold a conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's timing too. More often though it depends what mood i am in, and that is obviously out of the other person's control.

Just be you."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi "

Smooth

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

I like an interesting subject line

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London


"For me, if the profile is good and it interests me then a "hi, how are you?" Etc is actually ok. Because a well written profile will usually have an interesting person the other end who can actually hold a conversation.

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This. And if someone can make a non sleazy reference to my profile and make me laugh, my knickers are, as good as off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me, if the profile is good and it interests me then a "hi, how are you?" Etc is actually ok. Because a well written profile will usually have an interesting person the other end who can actually hold a conversation.

This. And if someone can make a non sleazy reference to my profile and make me laugh, my knickers are, as good as off "

Thought it was just me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it's timing too. More often though it depends what mood i am in, and that is obviously out of the other person's control.

Just be you."

So what would you say is the right time?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like an interesting subject line "

Any examples?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me, if the profile is good and it interests me then a "hi, how are you?" Etc is actually ok. Because a well written profile will usually have an interesting person the other end who can actually hold a conversation.

This. And if someone can make a non sleazy reference to my profile and make me laugh, my knickers are, as good as off "

Hahahaha a swift bit of cheeky and relative humour and the world is your oyster. To be fair, if I lay down comedy gold and get ignored then it's probably best that person doesn't come back. You have to have a laugh!!!

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Being able to spell correctly is a good start ...

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

A message that isn't sleazy, doesn't need to be long but is personal and obviously so. Witty is a winner. My now FB sent me an initial message, which I read and made a mental note of because he sounded promising but didn't reply immediately. When he sent a second a week or so later I had a meet window on the horizon so I replied and we took it from there. So timing may also be key. And a promising message may be noted even if there isn't an immediate follow up.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I rarely send messages for the reason s you mention.. if a ladies profile ticks all of my boxes I'll message her I try and make it personal and hopefully interesting and unique.

I have a profile that I get compliments on it interests folk enough to message me...I suggest the same to all .

I use many other tools to get myself noticed , socials, forums, post a new picture periodically..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree that it's about timing.

We all have lives either side of the messages.

I sent out a message last week that I though was witty and charming and would have me naked in his bed in no time.

Epic Fail

So to make myself feel better (I'm telling myself) that maybe it wasn't the right time ..

And not that I'm really not that witty and charming or just ugly

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

Read her profile, look at her pics and find something humorous about her that you can start off with which will likely make her laugh, or at least smile.

When I say humorous, I don't mean ripping the piss out of her, I mean like a jeer, but in a cheeky and friendly manner, not insulting.

It shows you have looked at her profile, you have a sense of humour, and it shows that you are at least interested in her personality and that her response, if she wants to respond, is going to be a factor in your decision making, ie. can she take a joke and return in kind. It shows that you value yourself enough to not have to go straight in with cheesy compliments, or the dreaded 'begging' messages in the hope that she will respond to you. Give her a reason to respond. Make her want to show you that she is a fun person.

Since I began using this method I have around a 3 in 4 response rate. A lot of the time nothing comes from it but I at least get the response and I give myself half a chance. Most of the time it's clear there's no spark between us and it fades out and I have to admit, I'm just as picky as some of the ladies on here in terms of personality. Yes, we're here for sex at the end of the day but I won't travel or go out of my way just for a ride. But if I know I'll have a bit of craic and an actual real encounter with the lady, I would be far more inclined to travel far and wide

Hope this helps.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Hi, I hope you are well. To try and stand out from the rest whilst maintaining respect and courtesy is a challenge. I mean how does the perfect hello even start? And it's the standard use of manners that then make your approach fade in to the background along with the "Hi, how are you?"s and the I hope you are Wells... yet as a single guy, we are to initiate conversation and then captivate the attention all while somehow maintaining respect and doing or saying something that stands out above all of the other thoughtless attempts that are even sometimes multiplied and duplicated with a long list of receivers who read and ignore.

So how does a guy like me, just like any other genuine guy, make enough of an impact with a hello how are you? When all he really wants to do is get to know you?

Let me know... x"
go out and meet people at socials or at a club. getting known face to face. the most successful people on here dont rely on messaging x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's timing too. More often though it depends what mood i am in, and that is obviously out of the other person's control.

Just be you.

So what would you say is the right time?"

be different for different people.

i'm a sex addict so some people have got lucky off one message that wasn't even that good, they were just really local and could get to me asap.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"I agree that it's about timing.

We all have lives either side of the messages.

I sent out a message last week that I though was witty and charming and would have me naked in his bed in no time.

Epic Fail

So to make myself feel better (I'm telling myself) that maybe it wasn't the right time ..

And not that I'm really not that witty and charming or just ugly "

When this happens to me I console myself with the thought "I was out of their league"..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree that it's about timing.

We all have lives either side of the messages.

I sent out a message last week that I though was witty and charming and would have me naked in his bed in no time.

Epic Fail

Don't question yourself on anybody's behalf ever x

So to make myself feel better (I'm telling myself) that maybe it wasn't the right time ..

And not that I'm really not that witty and charming or just ugly "

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Op - you stand out by bring you. That is better than bs and bigging yourself up - though promote yourself well, however you're able. Good photos that show others how you look fairly comprehensively. Get out and socialise.

But know that realistically for many single men it takes a lot of determination and tenacity here. Make friends, so that you're not isolated - mail me should you need ideas.

Many of us prefer real people who aren't trying to be somebody else. Good luck

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